Why did the narcissist cross the road? Because they thought it was a boundary

Leaving is the biggest narcissistic injury you can inflict and exposure and confronting them with their bulllshit

Just saying "no"...gets me silent treatment for days. He can say "no" case closed. Absolutely unbalanced. 😣

When they are face with any guilt or shame be prepared to feel the consequences of making them feel any accountability.

You have a gift with articulating narcissistic abuse. I always feel at peace immediately after listening to your videos. Thank you for the dedication you put into your channel.

They’ll also give you the Silent Treatment

Omg!! The way they scream!! Yes...ridiculous. like spoilt kids having crazy temper tantrums

Fortunately I'm older and battle scarred... I don't really care if somebody gets all pushed out of shape because I said "no". Unless they got a weapon... I ain't scared of somebody throwing a fit. Even though I was a people pleaser.

i turned down the advances of a narc. i got an immediate narcissistic death stare as a result. it made my blood curdle. he said to me "remember, you rejected me." just as if he was the villain in a horror flick.

100% accurate. I was yelled at for voicing concern, setting boundaries, sticking to my boundaries & calling out the lies that they were telling me. The rage, gossip & cruelty comes out of nowhere. When I was accused of doing something I didn’t do instead of engaging with them & their flying monkeys I just stopped talking to them after I told them I was staying out of whatever mess was going on. While I do still care for the individual I also realize nothing about the situation I was in was remotely normal. It was the last straw with me. I had to walk away.

Had to walk away from two jobs because of toxic coworkers that made the workplace feel unsafe. What they both had in common was the narcissistic rage when being held accountable for their actions... When the mask slips, it gets ugly fast.

Saying No is how I end up causing it😆yes settings boundaries they go nuts room full of bats crazy

Yes, pointing out double standards, that changes people’s perception of them.

Anger my foot. RAGE. Pure, molten RAGE. You'll know then you're dealing with a crazy person.

Narc sister had graduated. I bought her a present I knew she wanted, and also arranged a small surprise get-together with a handful of friends I knew she liked, to celebrate her success. She went ballistic, then sat throughout the evening silently fuming. I was baffled, but realised later that she was planning a one-on-one with me for one of her usual sessions of using me as an emotional punch-bag. The presence of others spoiled her plans.

Oh it is so scary and always was told it was my fault. Usually it was from getting caught in a lie or similar.

When I met the most covert narcissist in my life, after about 4 weeks of dating, I had already felt/seen some red flags but chose to ignore them. There was just something about his text messages, the intensity of the connection, and some of his comments that made me question if this was okay or if this person was not right for me, or if there was something wrong with him. Then, one evening I invited him over for dinner after about 6 weeks of dating. We were just talking on the couch, and I mentioned something that happened in my day (I don't remember the specifics, but it was really nothing notable), and I noticed him staring at me. All of the sudden, he went into a rage of anger, which scared the living daylight out of me! I had no idea what sparked the anger and I was trying to calm him down, and finally asked him to leave. I was so scared, I had a hard time sleeping and was wondering what I said or did to cause this anger /tirade. Anyway about a week later, I agreed to meet him in a public place, and I asked him what was wrong that night? He very quietly said that "he just wanted to be the sexiest man alive to me that night and that I was talking about other things". Wow, I was perplexed; I had seen anger before but nothing like this and I thought that he was very handsome and all of that, but I was just having casual conversation to start before dinner and this created a narcissistic injury? It was one of the scariest situations I had ever been in; I was alone with him.. I didn't know him that well yet. This went on another couple months after I forgave him, but the cognitive dissonance and strange behavior just finally made me tell him I didn't;t want to date anymore; I lost my peace of mind. It was really strange because I did miss him even after this and another outburst of anger. Very strange.

I once called my Narcissistic ex a "Ding dong" cause she was saying some really stupid things. She got so mad that I called her a "Ding Dong", she gave me the silent treatment for like 2 days lmaooo. I was actually kind of ok with that cause I was at peace for a couple days lol.

Biggest narc injury - I left. I am still scared some days.

Ugh. The tantrums! I would describe talking to her like “walking through a mine field”. One wrong step and she explodes and there’s no way to know what a wrong step might be!

"What in the world just happened here?" That's how you feel when witnessing a narcissistic injury. 6 things you need to know about narcissistic injury: 1.What is narcissistic injury and what does it looks like? NARCISSISTIC INJURY = is a very disproportionate reaction (anger) to a trigger that you may not even have known it was a trigger. (E.g. asking "why did you do that?"). It is surprising, confusing, because you were not looking for a fight. Likely you would never witness anything like this with someone else. 2. What goes on beneath the surface of all that anger? (Crucial! When you're in it, being screamed at it is very confusion. Also you are getting angry and triggered) It is confusing because it has little to do with you. They have been triggered and are projecting their anger on you. They are projecting a false person and that injury pokes holes into that false persona, they realise that that grandiose self may not be real, and underneath it they see a lot of hurt, pain, and shame. In that moment they can see they are not perfect. The anger is just a defence mechanism, their last ditch effort to not see and face who they really are. To not see the true colors, that they don't want to see. Instead, they use you to make themselves feel better. (They always use other persons to feel better). The rage is in direct proportion to the pain they feel. 3. Three common causes of narcissistic injury: - a real or perceived CRITICISM (depending on their experience, and current state of mind) You can cause an injury by asking them to pass the salt. - strictly reinforce BOUNDARIES: you are just protecting yourself, but they feel like you are violating them (they need to cross that boundary in order to feel real) - any attempt to hold them ACCOUNTABLE for their actions (e.g. trying to prove they have cheated, were lying or stealing) 4. Why you should not intentionally cause narcissistic injury and what should you do instead? You should not hurt people, even if they deserve it. Don't enforce karma. It may also be unsafe. Instead: try to get safely away from that person. 5. How to protect yourself from narcissistic injuries: (Especially for those, who can not get away) - understand narcissistic injury for what it is; don't get into it. - don't engage in it, it is not your crazyness. No good is going to come up. 6. What can we take away from this experience to make us grow? - the danger of anger: anger is important, but not a place to stay for long. It can be very damaging. - whenever we are feeling anger, how can we work at other feelings, so we don't need to be so angry (be aware of your own anger, and what is going on)

Hi everyone! I’ve been thinking of summarising my story to you all, and I think I’ve finally found the right video to write it upon. I was in a relationship with a male partner for over three years which resulted in both physical and psychological abuse. Long story short, I unknowingly caused him a narcissist injury while we were talking about his friends. Because I wasn’t aware of all this pathological patterns, what was supposed to be a normal conversation ended up in him trying to strangle me on our sofa. I felt so scared, but more importantly, I was shocked by this other personality of his that I hadn’t met before. He looked like a total different person to me. Being encouraged by my friends and family, I reported him to the police and they arrested him for a period of two days. After that, I pushed him to leave the house which he did unwillingly. I still remember the expression of his face on the day he left. I could see how much he hated me for these two major narcissist injuries he was experiencing. It’s not something I feel proud of; however, what I’m really trying to say is that even the steps we take to protect ourselves can also be perceived as threats by them. Be careful! Once you manage to get out of that miserable hole the put you in, either because you break up with them out they discard you, do never come back. I’m still in the process of healing from such a horrible experience, and I’ve only been able to work on myself thanks to all these videos. The more information you get, the less confused you feel. What I’ve just told you happened three months ago. Even though I might still feel like I miss him somehow, I am damn sure I don’t want him any more in my life. Stay safe!

Mine went into a rage for anything, very minor things and became like a monster possessed, shouting screaming and swearing, for an hour or more at a time, absolutley crazy, next morning all forgotten. Very strange.

Watching your videos helped me a ton with my career. I work closely with a guy who isnt 100% a bad person, but I just cant stand them when they spend their time insulting me instead of doing work. I watched this video. I know you said not to cause a narcissistic injury, but he went too far yesterday. I told him to stop being so self centered and help me out for two FREAKING minutes. I was obviously agitated. He.. went off the HANDLE. Rage. Unbridled rage as he threw his phone at me, i ducked, and he broke a $1200 computer. He was fired. I still have my position. I consider that a win. Hope I never see that person again.

I actually caused a narcissistic injury by asking my ex narc to take more photos of my grandson in our photography studio. He was livid because he felt I didn’t like the ones he’d already taken.

Oh..very sudden and violent. So many Things that broke in my home. I realized with time that he was aiming for those irreplaceble things I had, like souvenirs of my homeland left to me by my grandparents when they've died. Very rat like actions.

I love your tone, you have complete understanding-and it shows!! Thank you!!!

My malignant npd alcoholic ex husband would overreact and throw his tantrums whenever anything inconvenienced him or he was “forced “to do anything for anyone else including his own children that didn’t benefit himself. If I dared to call him out on his abusive diabolical , pathological behavior he would ramp up the level of his tantrum to full blown physical and verbal abuse and end it with he’s always the victim and it’s always my fault for his abuse or another designated scapegoat, usually one of my children .

I caused such a Narcissistic injury that she literally disappeared from the mutual social scene that she frequents and almost all her friends have basically blocked her and deleted her from their lives. We are Salsa dancers. She was more popular than I am. But she has such a track record of drama in that social scene and I was the final straw, especially since I started my own channel. Like always, Christina, awesome video!

This helped me make sense of a recent confusing experience with a person who I now believe to be a covert narc. The disproportionate anger to something so innocent and the resulting silent treatment to “punish” me. It was initially so hurtful and I questioned myself on every single move I’d made and everything I’d said, searching for where I went wrong. It all makes sense now.

In some fights with my narc ex he literally would admit he was a narcissist. He never used the term, but he would describe all the traits. Self-loathing, needed women as supply for money and ego boosting, started talking about past traumas and how it keeps him hardened and angry. I thought I was seeing a breakthrough. But it never lasted more than an hour. And he was unwilling to get treatment because he felt therapist didn’t really care and were just there to judge. That’s when I knew there was never going to be a change with him and I had to leave to save myself.

When I went radio silent and blocked my Ex without giving him any inclination I was going to do it, I knew it would cause him an injury but did it more for me than to hurt him. He was the biggest mind gamer I'd ever know and had brought me to the brink of insanity and suicide, then one day after he hung up on me I just did it. Now I'm feeling the feelings of withdrawal and all the other emotions that come with splitting up and rather than avoid them I feel them, relax and deal with them and let them go in their own time. I believe this sensation in itself makes me stronger. 🍒

I only wish i had found your videos while still in the relationship. I probably could have handled so many terrible times better. However, the knowledge you offer helps understand the Narc better. I am just glad its over and even though I have a lot of healing to do, I know beyond a doubt throwing him out was the best decision I have made.

It's a scary experience and I truly became fearful after witnessing this first hand.

Narcissists have little baby feelings they never develop emotionally past the age of five or six it is very easy to trigger them all you have to do is disagree with them or not fall into the reality that they are projecting their default setting is shame they have a deep-seated shame and insecurity deep down inside they are extremely fragile and it's very easy to set them off towards the end of my 5-year relationship with my malignant narcissistic wife I literally did not care if I set her off I was towards the end of my 5-year relationship with my malignant narcissistic wife I literally did not care if I set her off towards the end I made boundaries and standards for myself and I no longer went along with her plans and her schemes that I knew were going to hurt me literally every single time she went insane because I wouldn't go along with it and I did not care

Hi, Christina. An important thing I learned: Listen to and observe your narcissist. He/she will say and do things to hurt you because THOSE ARE THE THINGS THAT WILL HURT THEM. So, you can learn their weaknesses by listening and observing.

That narcissistic rage is just unbelievable. Im dealing with it as i speak. I totally believe these people are soulless and have no ability to care about anything but themselves. I wish she would just leave me alone. I need peace so bad. I can’t believe it took me 32 years to figure out what was happening. If not for your video id still be dealing with it. Thank you for the videos you make. You and others like you have literally saved my life. You do the work of good and I personally thank you. I wish i could send you some cash. But money isn’t my thing and i have very little. But the good creator will bless you im sure. Thank you so much.

I caused a major narcissistic injury by accident before I knew what flavor of crazy I was dealing with. I was being accused of having an affair (projection). During her tirade, exasperated, I told her that she was "Batsh#t Crazy". She then threw an unopened soda can at my head like she was in the major leages. But scarier than the act of violence, was the crazed look on her face as she wound up the pitch. I believe she needed to temporarily remove her mask for better throwing accuracy. I can only imagine the response I'd get now if I revealed to her just how well I see through her false self. But that's gonna stay my secret.

When I caused a narcissistic injury which I didn’t know I was doing My ex covert narc would give me the silent treatment which was confusing to me as I didn’t know what I had done or why I was treated the way I was He was never angry but I lived in a state of confusion

BTW: Common Ego: Your hair-color is very pretty and flattering for you! I've learned that I am not responsible for others feelings! I've learned to ignore the toxic immature behavior. I only acknowledge people who are actually interested in resolving problems in genuine relationships. If you are trapped in a toxic relation-shit, run and never look back. The narcissist is NOT interested in you as a person, you are only considered their slave/servant/tool/resource. Do NOT project your good nature onto them, because they are maladaptive and incorrigible. Learn to be boring to them and observe and not absorb their negativity.

I fell in love with a fictional character and it took a while to see through it. I worked out of town a lot and I felt "a disturbance in the force" I came home found mens clothes at my house. Lies. I was the perfect supply. While I worked my ass off she had axes god knows who. Long story short I got married and these things happened and I filed for divorce. She said she diddnt sleep with none of them. Whatever. I dont care. If a man works his ass off 7 days a week to make a better life for us both and all that going on behind my back while my job is very dangerous. I had that crap on my mind all year. Enough. I loved that fake bitch but I love and respect myself more. No contact heal dont take that crap to your next relationship. Believe heal realize who you are. Your values and you dont want to think all women are like that. I pray for her. I feel sorry for her. I hope she can get help before she does the wrong one that way and she gets hurt or killed by some psycho. Lord help her

This, trying to avoid the Narcissistic Rage Monster... Is like 'walking on eggshells' ...because there is not a way to know exactly how they will get 'set off' ...it's like walking on a field of hidden land mines. This is why if you can't break all contact with a narcissist in your life, you have to develop the strength to create & hold a boundary with them... or they will just rage & rage & rage at you til they take your life away.

Thank you for explaining so well. I’ve gone through a horrendous time with my partner, he states that he is spiritually enlightened n awakened and because he was living his true self without filters, his actions were natural and my faults were the catalyst of his abuse towards me. It was to push me to reach enlightenment and make me better. He would use my greatest weaknesses and trauma against me such as my experiences of child sexual abuse, blame me for causing my ex husband to treat me badly n exploiting me. I have difficulty in expressing myself cause of previous trauma so he would call me a liar if I was unable to speak about something. His anger was uncontrollable and became violent. This was all under the guise of him being a higher spiritual being n helping me to release my demons as such n I’ve been told it’s my loss that I couldn’t be helped. It’s left me thoroughly confused and mentally exhausted.

Been hit in the face twice in two different situations when I was defending myself and trying to walk away. My sister is a covert narcissist and has made my life miserable

Bless you and thank you ! I admit even though this was a confusing crazy experience for me growing up... put through the narcissistic obstacle course from hero to victim in a blink of an eye! Consistently shoving their agenda down my throat The skills I gained truly helps in my personal and professional life... I trust my intuition... the trauma is real.

Thank you for your tips. I’ve had that feeling of “what the heck just happened” so many times. Now I’ll be better prepared to deal with it.

Pass the salt. Omgosh. You nailed it.

I cannot believe how much you know about my relationship.... (s) 🙄 The stories I could tell. 🤨 I’m so glad there’s a name for what I’ve lived with, so shocked but so relieved. Thank you so much! 🙏🏼 also thank you for the added wisdom with #4, 5, and 6. This was extremely helpful.

My narc ex once got riled up because I "told" rather than asked him to stop jiggling his leg. This video is incredible and validating. I only wish I could have seen it decades ago.

Hi, I rarely post comments but feel the need to 1) thank you for a very well done video on narc injury and 2) validate the comments you made re: 6 things for all survivors to know about narc injury. I was in a 6.5 year "relationship" with a malignant narc and witnessed several major extremely bizarre rage episodes which I now know were due to narc injuries. The onset of the rage was incredible. "Pass the salt" as you mentioned is literally the truth regarding setting one of these individuals off. I remember a peaceful morning when she was getting ready for work, I made her tea and a snack for her ride into work as I did every morning and with zero provocation she started screaming "fu*k you fu*k you fu*k you"" maybe 200 times at the top of her lungs maybe a foot from my face. When I asked why she was screaming "fu*k you" at me her reply was simply "Oh, you just don't get it do you" several times then turned to her side as if speaking to someone else "he just doesn't get it does he". She left for work and I called her and when she answered the phone (driving) she resumed screaming "fu*k you fu*k you fu*k you" as fast as she say the words till I hung up. I never did find out what the issue was, I am confident there was none other than her own serious mental disorder. The resolution was we never were able to discuss it, it happened several times again until I finally reached the tipping point and broke it off with her. The take away is you're absolutely correct re the scary part and the "wtf did I do wrong to cause this" feeling it provokes in the victim. Thanks again and keep up the good work. I'm sure we all have horrific stories but wanted to let you know a small piece of mine. In actuality I've been through 3 relationships with female narcs (yup) and finally found a therapist who made me realize I was raised by one and the template I was repeating was due to my childhood that created codependency. Yes, you are correct again concerning that major trauma as a child can replicate itself it adult relationships. Free at last, free at last......Ed p.s. I did manage to avoid the spit!

I love your channel. You say alot of things only someone in a relationship with a narcissist would know and understand. I love that because I see most people saying the same old things but no real detail. I like to relate to the stuff not just in a medical book but the stuff that happens day to day living with them. You give all the little details. I also appreciate you adding spirituality into it ALOT. Thank you for making these videos. I love em!

When their more frequent mistakes are played off as small potatoes and your lesser mistake is made to be seen as a life changing and permanent regrettable mistake... this can cause havoc on someones sanity if he or she does not know they are dealing with a text book narcissist... but now that I finally understand what im dealing with it makes everyday easier and more bearable.

I've been married to my narcissistic husband for 32 years. It was only about 4 years ago that I finally learned that my husband was a narcissist. One of the most painful aspects of this discovery, was the realisation that he was never going to change. It literally broke my heart, because I suppose that what had kept me going, was the belief that one day, he's be different. But I can't leave. We've built up so much together (we have a small farm and I'm not prepared to lose everything and all my hard word, to get away from him). And there are times when our partnership is honestly very pleasant (although maybe it's been so long, I've forgotten what a normal relationship would be like). When life ticks along smoothly, I can almost forget that he is a narcissist. I miss the fact that he never laughs. I now read and listen to lots and lots of stuff about narcissism and how to deal with it. This video on narcissistic injury was so informative and so totally accurate. My husband can turn from nice to unbelievably nasty in seconds on a frequent basis. He belittles and denigrates things I do. He reacts to real or perceived criticisms with lots of name calling and foul language against me, and I live with the punishments and silent treatment. I'm too old to leave now, but sometimes I wish I had left a long time ago.

On point 5, 'Do not engage'. I tried this but it just made (her) rage even worse, having festered in her for two weeks or so. Then, the pathological lying, accusations, gaslighting and so on just ERUPTED.

Another wonderfully healing video, thank you so much for healing the people around you. A sad note, beware, in my past, something triggered a bigger narcissist in my life in the past, and they instantly began hitting me. And I was the bad guy, because I was protecting my face and my body, which made them angrier and hit harder and much more of it. Now I understand, I violated the narcissist, because I was protecting myself from further physical injury, I was required by the narcissist to sustain. I was an awful person in their eyes, because I was protecting someone else innocent. I hope this true story helps someone out there.

I finally confronted my narc relative who'd been staying free in my home for several months about all the lying and broken promises he'd made me about helping me with some light household repairs in lieu of rent. He flew into a rage and said I was emotionally abusive to bring that up??? And moved out the same day. I figured that was his plan all along as he'd gone from love bombing and and over engagement with me to being very disdainful and not even answering my texts etc. He'd act like he couldn't hear me. My confronting him with the truth made him realize game over so he left immediately. I think his excessive anger was so he wouldn't have to feel gratitude to me for all I'd done for him. He had continually VOLUNTEERED to do certain repairs that needed done around the house. Then he'd not do anything and never mention it again.

The toxic person in my life had a thing for violating my boundaries - this was before I even knew about setting boundaries to keep myself safe. I tell them the things I didn't want them to do and they went ballistic.

Had this every 4-6 weeks over one year of relationship. This hurts so much. I do not get how someone could do this over 20 years or sth

What I love about your/my approach is that we remain honest to ourselves.

I really appreciate your delivery Christina and your material is always well thought out and articulated. You gave me a much needed laugh with the story of the narcissist an inch from your face screaming at you and drenching you in saliva (for asking him to sit at the dinner table). Thank God for the absurd! You've got a wonderful comedic sense

Wow. This was just great and very helpful. Thank you. I go away, ride my bike and do exercise in the park with tunes playing. It makes me feel peaceful again.

Hi. What I found most disturbing was the gas-lighting and subsequent Stockholm syndrome. I could see the underlying pain but that made me try even harder. Also, the confusion got so deep that to this day I still doubt if it wasn't me being the narcissist. The danger is real too; I have a badly moving thumb and a slight limp by a broken ankle and severed tendon. Yet all from blocking the incoming assault. This only made me more eager to prove that even that didn't discourage me. Much later now I see and understand that none of what I did mattered nor make a difference that could have made it worthwhile. Thank you for your video's, I watched them just to reassure myself that it actually happened and exists and I'm not totally bonkers. Your voice is very pleasant and, if I may, your eyes are the most clear and shiny that I've seen in a long time. They are like marbles or pearls. In short, thank you.

Thank you so much for your videos ♡ i badly needed these this time.. ive just been discarded.. and now imhealing my self

Could you do a video about narcissistic mothers?

What do you do when you’re surrounded by narcissism but have nowhere to go? 😞

This is a masterclass on narcissistic injury.

The nightly screaming was emotionally exhausting and had to listen to this for many hours while ramming a pillow over my head then after it stopped, going for a long drive to recover while narc slept. The next morning they woke up bright eyed and bushy tailed while was exhausted and confused. It was like married to dr Jekyll and Mrs Hyde. It took me over 25 years to leave her and she didn't stop. Calling me at work 5 to 10 times a day. They are insane because they never admit they hurt you.

I was not aware about NPD until recently. And i remember that every time my narc husband and I had an argument, I would get so frustrated (now I know due to his gas lighting) and told him that he is behaving like a small child. And he would go absolutely livid! If only I knew that I was telling the truth!

I told my narcissistic ex gf that I had issues with her behaviour especially gaslighting, blame shifting and flirting with other men publically online. She blamed me for all her actions. I simply agreed with her and said that we should split up. She got really mad. I told her "yeah you're right, since I am the problem, I think it's best for you to go meet someone that you're more compatible with and same for me. I wish you well". She replied "I never had romantic feelings for you anyway I was just leading you on". I said no problem, thanks for being honest, again I wish you well" and cut contact. I just embraced the discard and the devaluation, brushed it off, pretended I was affected and moved on. Personally I think that's the best way to deal with vindictive narcissistic behaviours. Let them discard you for their ego's sake and go enjoy your peace. Everybody wins

My covert narcissist ex partner used passive agressive behaviour at the end of our relationship. She told that she wasn't a friendly and nice person in the past (as a teenager and during her time she was married with an other ex). She didn't want to be like that anymore. So she performed as the calm, perfect, in control mother / daughter / partner / colleague. I really would have met the other half before I met her, then I could have checked it if it was true. After the relationship was ended I didn't believe how she was in the past as she told me. She was and still is a sad, emotionless, empty, very angry and frustrated person.

Love your delivery , your candor, and especially your info. Thank you so much

The very first time i received a narcassist injury i was stunned. It was just a couple of months into the relationship. I was at his place and we had just gone to bed after having a meal out (by the sea). We had eaten grilled sardines and he had obviously not washed his hands properly. He reached out to me to 'cuddle up' and i could smell his fingers...i just said 'your hands still smell of fish' and whooomph off he went.. .the duvet was ripped back and he stomped off to the bathroom shouting 'ive washed them three times'.... obviously he hadn't....i layed there staring at the ceiling thinking, i hate this guy, where the hell did that come from. It was such a shock, i really wasn't sure what to do next. He came back to bed and there was silence and a 2 foot gap....i waited a minute and said in a very calm and positive tone 'dont you EVER speak to me like that again. He didn't respond, needless to say no sex that night :) and absolutely nothing mentioned or any apology the next morning. Knowing what i know now, i should have walked away then. A lesson learned!!!!

I fell in love with a narcissist. I’m glad our relationship didn’t last that long, but I actually really truly feel so sorry for people like this. The disconnect in their brain that causes them to not see who they really are, or have any empathy for hurting you is so sad to me. The trauma they must have endured to become this way, I’m sure was horrific. Heartbreaking in my opinion. But nonetheless, I know I need to remove myself from the relationship. It hurts so badly, as this just happened. 😞 my question is, is there any hope for these people? What would cause them to actually change? Anything?

Your videos are helping me to better understand the narcissist and the negative behaviors that I have encountered throughout my business career. Thank you! This is going to help me to heal.

Thanks for the sharing. I have panic attacks when I'm in a relationship with a narcissist.. And even after break up, my panic attack will happen when I'm stressed at work, or something bad happens on me or my family. I can't breath, feeling like dying soon.. And this is the same feeling when I argue with him.. Everytime I have those feeling, it make me remember how he hurt me. Now I'm in the healing process, Please give me some advice to make me better. :) thanks so much

I caused a narcissistic injury one time. It was a spring day, about 24 degrees, light breeze, sunny. I said it's a nice day. He took issue with my opinion and started an argument while we were out for a nice walk/coffee. What if he didn't think it was a nice day? How dare I impose my opinions on him!!!

"I dont understand what is happening" I must have said that a hundred times and the worst part is that instead of explanations I would only have the same things yelled at but louder accompanied with "You never understand anything because you are (insert insult here)". I'm a grown up man and I must have spent 2-3 hours a week of the past 3 years curled up in fetal position in a closet or in the bathtub crying and begging "Please Stop!"

I had the same experience just asking a person at work a question for a customer. He screamed and yelled at me loudly. I had to walk away. Later with two other people he came up to me and apologized, introduced himself. From that point on love bombing ensued and triangulation ... left the job and even men were fleeing the job. Dont engage at all. It was a horrific experience.

So true. The accountability part. Omgosh. Dead on.

Common Ego Another great and factual video. Again I thank you for always sharing your stories, knowledge and beneficial advices.

“You can cause a narcissistic injury by asking them to pass the salt” lmao that’s one of the best lines I’ve ever heard

I was married to a narcissist for 15 years ! It was awful ! I was constantly in a fight with her ! Mostly over nothing. ! I was hurt , manipulated, isolated and degraded by her ! Been away from her for 17 years now and me and my children, who are grown now, still suffer from the abuse from her !

I watched the Narc freak out , I caused a narc injury by accident but that is how I figured this whole thing out

That’s me. I’m the narc with the insane self awareness. Im a musician but I am moving from shallow music to making more authentic vulnerable music. My friends pointed out that it’s the feeling of being exposed that made me uncomfortable & they were right. Just a tiny window of a song into my life and boom 💥 I feel they can see all my shadows, past mistakes, & shame. Even if they can’t, you feel like they can. It really does feel like the person behind the mask is undesirable and unworthy and because of that you will be rejected & you feel you will psychologically die. It really does hurt, 😔 that’s why we don’t ever take the mask off. I’m working on it though... the truth shall set me free! lol Choosing to shed light on myself everyday ☺️🙏🏽✨ lets be kind, we never know what people are going through

Growing up my older sister would get in my face for asking how her day was. It was scary, I just wanted to be polite and talk to my sister. This didn't happen everyday, but it definitely happened often enough to feel like all you had to say was "hello".

when a narc is screaming in your face. sit back say nothing and when they are done say "can you please repeat that. I was not paying attention. then laugh at them. make fun of them.

Such clarity and insight. I feel blessed by your videos xx

Being with them for 10 years I’ve seen it all. I don’t take shit from anyone because I already took it from someone I thought was the love of my life

Spot on! I've experienced it and all I could think is WTF was that?! I had wondered if these people were narcissists and this behavior proved it beyond a shadow of a doubt. I got as far away as I could as quickly as possible and have gone no contact with one and just generally avoid the other one.

Would having him served for a divorce be a narcissistic injury ( when he’s always threatened to do so, I just went ahead and did it for him because after he admitted he has cheated I knew I would never take him back ever)

I've experienced a narcissistic rage very recently not a pleasant experience at all. The whole episode really made me lose any respect I had for him my perception of him has changed forever.

I still live with my mom. Through the years whenever I asked her not to bring & drink alcohol on my birthdays, it had always ended up with her screaming things like "you're ungrateful & you don't even help me, when I die you won't even visit my grave", etc. She never apologized for the things she's said. It's not like she's awful when she's drunk, I'm just very uncomfortable when she gets relaxed and loose, but in her screaming matches she never adresses it, it's always the same angry speech. I've been researching narcissism (if watching vids counts as research), and it kinda fits for her. Thank you for this video - if she is a narcissist, then what I've described might be her narcissistic injury, and I'm happy to have a word and an explanation for this phenomena.

This is super helpful, thank you. Definitely at play with my N but also very helpful to recognize my own survival patterns. Thankfully, my eyes are open. I'm owning my unhealthy actions and moving towards healthy. It's changing the entire dynamic of the relationship. It's not always easy because there are still tender places, but there is also healing and freedom. Thank you.n

Kristina (sp?), I cant thank you enough! Youve led me to the answers I prayed for.

Thank you so much. This really helps me move on. 💔

While at a restaurant, my granddaughter asked "Nana, should we give thanks before we eat?" I said, " of course we can, sweetie, only animals don't give thanks before they eat". My narc daughter had a meltdown and made it seem like I was associating the comment or outlook with (people) who don't pray before eating...😳

Narcissist injury = Narcissist rage. I remember canceling lunch with my narcissistic friend and it was “the end all be all”. She flipped out on me. It was pure rage. Yes, I was confused but I realized that nothing other people do is because of You, it’s because of themselves.

Wow! This just brought back a repressed memory. I got castigated for ASKING FOR SALT!!! ... And her trick worked. I felt like I was walking on eggshells. I would still use the salt but the air in the room would get really dark and heavy. She felt like I was attacking her cooking skills, and in turn her!

Once we went to a popular restaurant at a busy time and there's no chance to have dinner there because too much people. He was there standing and I called him to live and go another one. That's when he suddenly changed, and it's the first time I saw what is a NARCISSIST injury. But at that time I didn't know what is a NARCISSIST, I just felt so confused and gave him a apologize to release him.

He used to go through my phone ALL THE TIME, I expressed my dissatisfaction with this behavior and put a passcode on my phone. He immediately started accusing me of “hiding things” and says, I don’t have a passcode on my phone, you can go through it, blah blah blah. It increasingly got more harsh and he started lashing out. Craziness.