NO BUY WEEK #18: Shopping, Money and Me, a life overview

NO BUY WEEK #18: Shopping, Money and Me, a life overview - why am I like this?

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Күн бұрын

I realize that this is kind of a selfish video to make, but at the moment this channel is mostly about helping me figure out my motivations, triggers, reasons, etc. for shopping and find ways to reset my habits towards consumerism. Perhaps doing a similar reflection can be helpful for any of you dealing with issues of ingrained habit change.
Once I've learned more from my experiences this year I may be able to offer more useful and generally applicable videos, but time will tell!
0:00 hello, cheesy musical intro again
1:30 South Dakota Era
8:27 New Zealand Era
13:19 brief discussion of teaching income vs other hourly jobs
14:34 Pennsylvania Era
18:42 Texas Era
19:47 brief Miami Interlude
20:23 back to the Texas Era
21:04 shopping habits analysis of those times...
26:15 did YOUR shopping get worse in 2020?
26:34 Nebraska Era
29:13 the things I want out of life now
30:12 I didn't notice until I stopped partaking
30:30 and this is how I want to shop going forward
31:53 my to-do list - learn Korean, get strong, be present

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@marleneschick4768 11 күн бұрын

I absolutely know that my shopping addiction stems from my childhood. I did not have a lot of clothes as a child. My mom sewed a lot of my clothes and I wore hand-me downs. Then, after learning how to sew at age 12, I sewed most of my clothes until I was a young adult. There was a comment made that I overheard when I was 12...about me wearing the same dress (it was the first dress I made myself and it was my favorite)..MEAN girl comment. I'm 60 years old and I've never forgotten it.

@Alexas.nobuyyear 10 күн бұрын

Yes those moments do stick!! And only now, as an adult, can I tell myself that actually, wearing the same favorite dress is a sign of real personal style - that's a "signature" look right there, something to wear with pride.

@jessrosejim5440 2 ай бұрын

I love your channel! Keep pushing. I think I will forever be on this journey of working towards consuming less. I do not have children, nor do I want them, but I care deeply about the future of all children and the world I am leaving behind for them. I wish you continuous success on your personal journey :)

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

Yes it seems to be a constant process especially since it feels like there is a constant onslaught of marketing and social influence to fight off...that's one of the reasons I made this channel in the first place, to try and dilute power of "influencing" on these platforms! Thank you!

@bthomson Ай бұрын

It is pretty cool how open you are with your audience! You make us feel very included and special. We want to support you and make up for some of the hardship and stress. We are very glad that things are finally becoming more comfortable. You seem to us to deserve a good life!

@Alexas.nobuyyear Ай бұрын

Aw thank you! And I feel like life is indeed pretty good, wouldn't change anything in the past either as it's got me to today 😄 All the best to you too!

@christinaorciari343 13 күн бұрын

I have just found your channel and I’m enjoying your content. I am doing a no buy July and otherwise just trying to take a break from buying anything I want just as soon as I want. I want to enjoy what i have. Your content and other channels like yours will be so helpful in changing some of my behavior!

@Alexas.nobuyyear 12 күн бұрын

Thank you! Let's do this thing together 🤝

@OriginsofSpirits 27 күн бұрын

I loved the intro! Again, again!

@Alexas.nobuyyear 26 күн бұрын

Aw thanks so much! I'm going to try and do some more playing online for a kind of "summer project" so I'll try and bring more snippets of that to this channel 😊

@xiovandijk933 10 күн бұрын

Wow, thank you for that private little gift concert :D You play lovely

@Alexas.nobuyyear 9 күн бұрын

Aw thank you! 🎶

@LeighannRiceDietitian 5 күн бұрын

Incredible video! I relate to your story so much. And I have a half-Korean daughter, so I’m afraid she’ll go through some of the same things you did as a child. Your video had such a happy ending :) thanks so for sharing your story and for all of these videos! You’re a gem. 💎

@Alexas.nobuyyear 4 күн бұрын

Aw well I do notice there are more and more mixed race people in general these days so I hope she finds others to relate to sooner than I did! Thank you so much for this kind comment 😊

@torvous 9 күн бұрын

I recently discovered you and have been having a bit of a binge. I love how open and relatable you are. I'm curious how your husband manages personal finances and shopping. If there's a way you could share your similarities and differences with him and how you manage it together, while still respecting his privacy, I'd be interested in that content. Thank you for all that you share!

@Alexas.nobuyyear 9 күн бұрын

Thank you! So to answer part of your question, our finances are totally combined and generally we talk about each purchase we make before spending the $. It was actually just me who would occasionally make a sneaky purchase here and there, that he'd find out about later, hence me going on the "no buy year". He doesn't tend to shop much except for directly necessary things for activities he's doing (running/cycling stuff, lawn gear). It might be something I talk about in more detail later since it might be an interesting comparison when I've thought about it a bit more, but at least for now my focus is pretty exclusively on myself and how to navigate the urge to buy things now that I'm finally saying "no" this year 😅

@adiladilshat8923 2 ай бұрын

I might need to confess I’m addicted to your content, hahah so inspiring and super interesting!

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

Aw thank you so much!!

@LeahTackles 2 ай бұрын

I have binged all of your content! I love hearing you play, also ❤ I really enjoy hearing your story. Thank you for sharing. I appreciate you.

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

You are so kind to say so, thank you so much. I appreciate you too!!! 💖

@MerlynBarkhuizen 2 ай бұрын

What an interesting story - a life well lived thus far❣️

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

Thank you! I feel very lucky :)

@3ll3mel 2 күн бұрын

Alexa, have you read “Crying in H-Mart” by Michelle Zauner? Your childhood feelings reminded me so much of what the author (she’s also half South Korean by mother) went through. And it’s a great book anyway.

@Alexas.nobuyyear Күн бұрын

It is on my library waitlist and I think I'm almost at the front of the queue, so I WILL get to read it hopefully this summer! That's so cool to hear that it's probably going to be extremely relatable, I'm excited

@karenbell6800 12 сағат бұрын

I completely understand from a back brace/scoliosis point of view. I have severe Scoliosis and I still have trauma from that back brace! ❤️

@fenflies 2 ай бұрын

Love your channel. I like to play these and other similar creators’ videos in the background. You sharing your story in detail for this one was super refreshing i love how your goals at the end perfectly align with the story of your journey, they are such healthy special intentions that are custom to you.

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

Me too, I also like listening to content in the background and try to find people who align with my current goals and values! Now just to see if I can actually act on my goals - some of these have been subconscious goals for a long time I think, that I haven't made any moves on thus far but I'm hopeful that actually talking it out like this will help!

@cindyklempner7203 2 ай бұрын

I am similarly embarrassed about my overconsumption, which has been especially excessive since Covid. Although I have been working diligently to reduce my belongings and future consumption to a significant degree, I am not always successful.

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

One step at a time! Thanks for sharing in this with me.

@SkylightSwift 2 ай бұрын

I feel the same as you Cindy and found my consumption increased during Covid and since, probably because it became much easier buying on-line and became more the norm. Adjusting my buying habits is a work in progress and I know the triggers are email notifications and scrolling online so try to minimise that.

@t.anderson6069 21 сағат бұрын

Thank you for such an insightful video 😊. I am a Korean-American adoptee who lived in South Dakota as a baby (parents originally from there). Also lived in Texas in grade school and Pennsylvania while writing my dissertation. No doubt my problematic relationship with shopping has similar roots to yours. I’ve been trying forever to get things under control, but still struggle. Your videos are very helpful and inspirational!

@Alexas.nobuyyear 12 сағат бұрын

Wow no way, we lived in so many of the same places!!! Happy to meet you here online 😁

@t.anderson6069 2 сағат бұрын

I know! I was so surprised! Can you believe how popular Korean culture is now? I had no interest in Korea for most of my life, but discovered BTS during the pandemic from watching so many Asian food videos. Then I "met" some wonderful American fans (women in their 70s and 80s!) of BTS on KZfaq, who got me hooked on K-dramas. I never thought that I would become such a fan. If you've never watched K-dramas before, you might find Crash Landing on You or Extraordinary Attorney Wood fun. Also, you might find Korean sunscreens appealing. They have more advanced filters than U.S. sunscreens (Dr. Dray is an excellent source). Plus, they are significantly less expensive.

@bri4550 2 ай бұрын

So glad I stumbled across your video! I am sooooo over social media and overconsumption it kind of makes me queasy when I see these girls with like 200 bottles of product in their bathroom. I have a blush from 2020 that I still haven’t hit pan on 🤣 like why do I need 7 blushes??

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

YES yes yes, welcome! I'm so happy I didn't fall in THAT deep, I don't have a massive makeup collection or anything like that, but even with the collections of clothing and makeup that I DO have, I want to pare down and most importantly stop the inflow of new things this year so that I can start combating the influence of social media on our collective consumerism habits! No one needs that much, not even "influencers" who make it their "jobs".

@naiaaiello 2 ай бұрын

FUCKING HELL you're so talented!!!!!!

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

omg you're too kind, thank you :)

@gma2039 2 ай бұрын

I connected with parts of your story (worked all through school) and found the insight to shop for non-necessities twice a year helpful. Thanks for sharing.

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

Working through school can be tough! But it definitely gives the real-world perspective that some people who have more support don't get until later. We'll see if I can change my habits to shop for non-necessities twice a year - I'll keep posted!

@angelanguyen451 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your life over view! It was nice to hear, I relate to you in many similar ways.

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing in this with me and I am also happy to find people to relate to here!

@imaclassact Ай бұрын

Hi from Houston! 👋You've lived such an interesting life! Also, I'm totally aligned with you in terms of what I want out of life right now. Shopping is ultimately not fulfilling and the dopamine rush we get from it is not sustainable.

@Alexas.nobuyyear Ай бұрын

Woo Houston! And very happy to have your solidarity on this journey too 😊

@kylreckamp 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for making these videos I relate to a lot of what you said in this video. We both had babies in 2020 too! I’m looking forward to hearing more updates. I’m currently trying the same thing and it’s hard! Not feeling alone in this helps a bit though.

@Alexas.nobuyyear 2 ай бұрын

2020 was a good year for babies! At least I feel like it was, with the extra time mandated at home. Here's to undertaking this pursuit together!