Hey Craig! One quick question! Does no contact work even after I said I would contact him when I am in better place after I got rejected reconciliation with him?

It sucks when you gotta bounce your kid from home to home during the holidays especially when it’s the first ones this way. At least I had my family.

In general, my holidays were nice, but I still am suffering a bit after my breakup, even though it's been over a year. But yesterday I finished the workbooks 1-5 and started on 6, I go running 3 times a week, eat better and in general, I'm in an excellent position. But I still do miss her. Btw, no reach out from her since September, where she never responded after I answered to her initial reach out... I guess I'm better off WITHOUT someone like that in my life. Still my brain and heart disagree. Thank you for your amazing work and support, I was so happy to see you posted a new video today! 😃

Coach Craig Kenneth Ex did not reach out on the holidays, neither on my birthday. It did not matter so much to me. I am concentrate on me. Love you and Margret. ❤️

I think i need your help dude. And i think yOU have the knowledge to figure things out. My ex and I broke up 2 years ago i feel the pain ofcourse (she left me for someone else and i think because i have low salary and the guy has lot of money ) for how many months im focusing more on my personal growth like going to kickboxing classes, working my ass off. After that i already moved on. Now she is pregnant i feel the pain again. What should i do? 😢

same with the person dumped. if dumpers can move on same those dumped. there are so many fishes in the ocean. life is so simple. why make it complicated by breaking it apart and wait for the dumped to move towards the dumpers in the first place. When I was dumped, the no contact rule was effective in moving on and not on winning the dumper. dumpers remember this. If a man or woman is with high value and with a sense of dignity. Once they realized that they can live without the dumper, then they will start welcoming other better opportunities in life.

So true

This is very true, and thanks for the accurate and sincere input. I've decided to cut her off and not come back, after taking time to think about it. The feeling of doubt would instead be feeling mourning of loss, thankfully.

Unfortunately that's exactly what happened to me and my ex-gf

And a little PS for the dumpers: If you really mean business and realized how bad you screwed up…for Pete’s sake lead with humility and A SINCERE apology.

Jason that’s what i did. back to the gym, lost 25 lbs and i can’t wait to walk past him whenever i get the chance and flaunt!!! it’s been 6 weeks for me and you can do it!,

Same here, if someone needs friend to talk to, follow me on insta risticcvladan💪🏻

@@vladanristic4595 or snapchat?

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Have you had any progress these past 3 months?

After he ended things I told him that if he truly cared about me he’d never contact me again so I can move on this time. Will no contact still work in this case?

@@becoming_kara Wow I told my ex the same thing. Only i just said that I didn’t believe in comunication after break up. I’m in week 6 of nc. Some one out there, any suggestions?

@@fernmiranda914 I suggest you stay in nc. If someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them! Actions speak volumes. I’m missing the best of what we shared, yet, with each passing day, seeing more clearly that he did me a huge favor. We both grew & learned from each other. Some people stay for a season, others a lifetime. It’s normal life journey. I’ve heard it said, “ the right one stays “. 🤷‍♀️

@@becoming_kara update

Me too. One full year. He reached out last time. Doesn't matter anymore. I'm just fine. He's moved on and so have I. I love my new self. No anxiety...no worrying about being alone. I like the single life now. It's quite fun at times. No rules. Cheers to you🎉

Did they reach out

Nope. Blocked me on all social media and total radio silence. A friend said she has tons of pics up now with her new boyfriend.

Fred Howland wow. How long has she been in the new relationship in ? And how long did it take her to move on from you ?

rateorhate11 she started seeing the guy she’s now been with for over a year ONE WEEK after we broke up. I don’t get it at all.

That’s the hardest pill to swallow, imagine believing someone loved you more than anything but didn’t even love you enough to try

@@jasonkwilliamson unreal brother. It hurts when they become cold strangers. Then the next one, they have sex with, eventually, sometimes even after the first time, they feel emotion and doubt. They feel it , they feel you. You're not there to protect them, this is for more 5+ years but it happens. I even felt regret once after sex with someone else

Best mindset ever! cheers to you and keep it up ;)

In the same boat a carbon copy of your situation. This all sucks but I don't miss the alcoholic and BPD drama.

True , i feel the exact same ❤

I would also like to add that I did reach out to an ex-boyfriend after several months of no contact in the past, but also to a few close friends I had pushed away. Avoidants do reach out to people they deeply care about. I did the whole indirect - direct approach thing myself 😂 We're not hopeless 😉

It'd nice to hear that there is hope for avoidants. Well done on working on your issues.

This gives me hope for my ex...my baby's father. He's my first everything. I love him so much and our little family. I'm praying so hard.

@M K Focus on yourself! No matter what happens with your baby's father in the future, the time you invest in yourself will never be lost!

I would LOVE to hear the entire Appleby's girl story. Did Coach Craig do a video about her? I hear all the references to her, but can't find the story!

@@MoniDmajor Me too! Ok, Coach Craig. By popular demand, we want to hear the Appleby's story!! I'm sure you and Margaret would be able to tell this in your usual funny way! Please???

Applebees story for the win!!!

Elizabeth F. Yeah I still have not heard the full story...

@@xpaperxcutx4588 Wonder if we ever will???

Hi did u get your ex back ?

Same ❤

Erika K hey I’ve been in no contact with my ex for around over a week and a couple days ago she reached out to say happy birthday, do you think it would be appropriate if I told her to have a great day before school tomorrow she starts her second semester of college and I don’t want her to think I forgot about her or moved on, should I give her a text saying hey hope you have a good week at school or should I stay in no contact, but I don’t plan on having a conversation with her just telling her to have a good day at school

@@rayzamora6593 no contar means no contact. let her come too you

Trik Loz actually what they say is during no contact DONT REACH OUT. If they reach out to yuh keep it neutral and brief.

@@rayzamora6593 she reached out. So make contact silly!

@@InsaneDude6161995 thats exactly what she did. She reached out to him.

be careful..ones who have not changed end up being apologetic and will burn you in a shorter time than they did the first time around (they have too many triggers and issues not related to you). Remember, you come first in your life. Do what is best for you and don't sacrifice your happiness for crumbs of what you deserve.

You grew and he stayed the same.

I’ve been there and though they are complimentary and apologetic at first they have not changed, for the better anyway. Think about all the change You went through just to get him to have lunch. Do you think he went through changes to try to get your attention?

@@maddipage1347 Yeah I think so. Since I really stayed away from him as far as possible and I did not bother him in any way. I feel bad for what happened to him but that doesn't mean I want him back as well. I may not know what I want now, but I do know what I don't want. It's like he wants me to fix him again, and when he's okay already, he will leave again.

Glitch Burn i would def not take him back then. It’s not your job to fix him. Move on. You deserve better!

I hope you're right it's been almost six months he has kept her pictures on Instagram reads my stories but I have only done one month no contact before I was begging and pleading for almost 5 months so I hope you're right on that and hopefully eventually he'll come back home how long did it take for you to get your person back you wanted

1 year is very long, worth it?

I've been waiting for two years. No contact from him. It is painful

Has she reached out, or you since,

I hope she leaves you alone! Time waster.

Nothing just happens bro 💯❤️💯

Whats that?

An avoidant from two years ago reached out right before Christmas. I responded "who is this?". I will never, ever contact him again. I have a more recent avoidant who I also will never give another opportunity to. They are so damaged, and I will not ever put myself in that position again. I love myself way too much to subject myself to their nonsense again.

I commend you. My last two exes were fearful avoidants. It was a complete mindfuck. I am completely shut down to them though, never again.

@@KLEFF718 You're kind of rude.

@@beatitcreep. sorry, wasn't trying to be. Just being honest about my experience. If anything, they were very rude to me.

@@KLEFF718 I don't doubt it, but it doesn't mean they meant to be...

Definitely

Time to learn that people dont change.

@@dafearfactor639 specially if they're 40+

@@ricgonmar exactly. No contact always makes your ex come back, but not flings or dates (from my experience). Even an ex bf from 5+ years ago reached out to me. They aaaaalways come back.

@@ricgonmar I think you're Portuguese or Brazilian so: meu Deus! Haven't you learnt anything from coach Craig? No contact doesn't make any sense if you do it for a week and then ask her out again,. She has to miss you and feel like you've moved on, right now she feels that she is in control . Let her contact you, let her come to you about your son/her daughter. Do NOT ask her out again! You see, when you do No Contact, the other person starts to worry because you are mysterious, and they don't know what you're up to. She will think 'oh no, Ricardo found another girl!'. She will start missing the time you had together and will indirect direct contact you. You need patience my friend

epicbehavior I’m really glad to hear this. My bf has gone on a break with me (to figure out what he wants) I’ve just learnt about attachment styles and he’s very avoidant bc he has mental health issues and just needs to be alone to figure stuff out and doesn’t know if he can be in a relationship. I’m praying we get back together and he still sends me memes and stuff, which I’m taking as a good sign. How long did it take for it to work for you? We’ve been on break for about 5 days now

Zed Jay 6 weeks

My boyfriend has this avoidant attachment he has never been married and women in and out living with him. He just lets go like it doesn't bother him. so I been a bit worried he will not contact me. It's been 10 days I'm a bit sad that he wont contact me.

Amber Tokach I’m avoidant and I wouldn’t contact you ( not meaning you specifically just in general )

@@jh5588 Can you please explain why (not)? I´ve dated an avoidant who said that he does not miss his exes and never have. Is that it? Would you not contact an ex even if you missed her? Tell us more:)

Had an ex do that. She wanted to return some junk mail to me, but by then I was over her and told her to trash it.

Jesus Marmolejo any update?

Symphony Taylor going strong, started dating someone new so I have let go off my idea of wanting my x back.

Nice

Any update??

@@DiegooFXX Talked to my x but I am now dating someone new.

Update

@@jesuslievanos7430 meet someone new and have been in a relationship for almost a full year! It gets easier and it is no longer heavy on my mind.

Personally I question why someone can't heal themselves with a person. Sorry you are going through this.

I question it too....but maybe every situation is different..my ex said the same.. couple days later she was dating someone else 😖

@@tr9809 it's an excuse the majority of the time.

@@tr9809 me too, she told me she fell in love too fast as a couple of months before we started talking she had a 4 year relationship end. she told me she has severe depression and anxiety. im just confused as why she's gone because everything was so right. she would tell me if something was up. i think she wants to work on herself before being in a proper relationship.. i just dont know but we're in no contact and she has a jumper of mine that she wants still and i have 2 letters and a poetry book she had given me

@@222vessel So you were the rebound here

@D V I am no expert, but I would stick to what Coach Craig encourages us to do; stay in No Contact and hopefully she will come around eventually. In the meantime, work on yourself (many benefits to be gained). Also - and very importantly - allow yourself to grieve your loss. Don’t try to cover your grief with a rebound relationship or “hook ups”. Grief takes time to process and the deeper your love for the person, the longer your heart will need to grieve. Don’t try to push it, let your heart heal at it’s own pace. Work on becoming a better you and healing your heart. Hopefully, some day, she will sense what she gave up in you and will finally reach out to you. P.S. my ex never reached out to me...not once. Not everyone gets a second chance, but if you do get that chance, be ready and show her a better you the next time.

@D V Oh, no - on the contrary, she dumped me, DV. Broke my heart into a million pieces. I didn’t see it coming - though I should have. In looking back, I can recall numerous things she did or said which showed that she was questioning “us” and my love for her. But I felt confident (arrogant, maybe) that she felt the same way that I did; I thought I had finally found the woman I would be with for the rest of my days. Consequently, I took my eye off the prize and took her love and her presence in my life for granted. I am older than most here and have been through a marriage and several long-term relationships, but never before had I felt the sense of comfort and “permanence” that I felt with this woman. I didn’t recognize that she has an Anxious Attachment Style (Coach Margaret showed me that), and I overlooked her pleas for reassurance. She obviously wrestled with the decision for some time, but I was clueless. As Coaches Craig and Margaret teach us, by the time they have made the decision, it is too late to talk them out of it. But I tried! For the first two months after the break, I reached out to her 4 or 5 times via text and even sent her the dreaded “hand-written letter” (Ugh!!). I had not heard of Coach Craig or “No Contact” yet. At about the two-month mark she replied to one of my texts by telling me she “had met someone” and that I needed to move forward. I was shattered! Clearly she was rebounding to mask her pain. In the midst of my devastation, I found Coach Craig and learned about No Contact, and did not reach out to her again. I had a session with Coach Margaret 2 months later (~ 4 1/2 months after breakup). As I mentioned in my very first comment above (10 months ago, now), Coach Margaret enlightened me that I have an Avoidant attachment style and my lady-love has an Anxious attachment style. Previously, I would have thought the opposite, but Margaret revealed it to me and I now see the patterns (in both of us). Coach Margaret felt that as deeply as my ex had loved me, that she would reach out at some point. But now 1 1/2 years later, she has never reached out - not one time. Since learning about “No Contact” two months after the breakup, I have reached out twice - once by text, 7 months after the breakup, to wish her “Happy New Year”, and once by email, 6 months later (13 months after breakup). LinkedIn notified me that she had a new job, so I reached out via LinkedIn Mail to congratulate her. She replied each time with what could be termed a “cordial” and “polite” response of “Thank you, I hope you are doing well”. Nothing more, no questions about me, and no hint of any interest in any follow-up messages. I would love to hear from her, but at this point, the odds are certainly very low that she will reach out now. 18 months later, I go on occasional dates with other women. But I am not yet ready for another relationship. I still think of her and I still love her. My heart has not finished it’s grieving process over this one. Typically at the end of past relationships, I’m usually ready again after a few months. But as Coach Craig says “Every relationship is different, and every breakup is different.” This one was indeed special and my heart knows it. Some day, I’ll be ready to open up to another special woman again...but not quite yet.

My ex girlfriend is avoidant she split 4 times with me over our 2 year relationship I think I smothered her and she ran and came back,4 weeks later each time....but this time it's been 9 months and I'm not sure she cares anymore

@Blythe Girl wow. This was a long time ago. Yeah she did but we broke up again. Same issues

@Blythe Girl me scorpio her libra

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Fight for what you want and make it come through..love is an intense emotion which anybody can rekindle..you can't fold your hand start believing them to come back like that....you have to fight for it.

Never you give up on the person you really love, instead fight, strive for their return

You need to watch Coach Corey Wayne's channel, and read his book "How to be a 3% man"; it'll change your life and you outlook on many things.

Take some red pills. They will help you avoid getting hurt in the future.

That’s my exact situation. What happened jazz? Is there an update x

I got her back it wa tough but it worked

@@edhead54 did she came to you?

Good for you man

Any update?

Any update?

kawtar amy did ur ex ever reach out?

@@Wifeyytalks no he didn't but I really forgot even how he look like hah

Tuan Fleming ask them if they love themself & can say so. It’s a good test.

Cy Colburn hmm. I don’t know if that would work. I’m a Fearful Avoidant attachment style (disorganized) ie walking around with damage from childhood, but I do love myself and am generally very confident and sociable though I do feel unnecessarily anxious about things like deadlines. But I adore my figure, I love my humour and I think I’ve a face of standardized attractiveness that makes navigating the world easier than it might have been. I don’t think my issues would be spotted with a simple question like that.

Same thing. Time to move on once you realize they just want your energy and essence. But not you.

Update?

@@a.m830 we no longer communicate. Him leaving was the best thing he ever did for me. I realize now he chose to leave rather than do the work and that’s ok. I can now find someone who is capable of giving in relationships at a capacity that is equal or better to mine.

Update?

Why would you break up with someone to "get a reaction"? That is horribly cruel and uncaring for the person you claim to love. Why would someone do this? Does the other person really mean so little to you?

Too nice bro too fkn nice

Work on yourself bro stop worrying about her! Once you have the mindset of transforming to a better man you'll have other women attractive to you and eventually she'll reach out but by then your feelings will be completely gone

​@@EJayyDreadHead I can't imagine my feelings being completely gone. She was the first GF I lived with, my second long-term relationship, had so much going for her and should have been my wife and mother to my children. But I wasn't 'ready' and now I feel very stupid. It's hard not to worry about her. My next steps are to get back in the gym and redecorate my place. I have sorted my head and life goals out, so these two things are next on my list to boost my self-esteem. It's so shit to have to go through this to be a better man, but I was never going to be when with my ex. I needed this period of introspection. Thank you for your reply, btw : )

@@MikeJackson690 you're going through separation anxiety and depression* it may take you months to fully heal* but nothing lasts forever so eventually you'll move on with your life yes continue to be in the gym and build your money up have a abundance mindset just focus on you. results come fast be confident bro we all go through hell by a individual* keep your head up you'll be ok 💪🏾

My ex did the indirect direct approach too. It just made him look pathetic to me, and it reconfirmed that I made the right choice by cutting him off ✂️

any update?

Update??

Wonder, what she has attained in life after losing Craig!

That’s nice to hear. My partner broke it off with me 5 weeks ago and It feels as though she couldn’t care less. I’m sure that’s not true but as the dumpee it just feels like that. Hearing from a dumper that they do still care is comforting so thanks 🙏

@@vintagebabyseventythree6244 she doesn't wanna admit it because she needs time to recover. After I break up with someone, I'm the same. I'm exhausted and need a break to process feelings. However, after I do - I get curious about my ex and think about getting back with them.

This is my situation

Roberto Schneider I can relate to the depth of that pain, to my understanding it has to stem with our attachment type/childhood trauma. Personally I am taking a spiritual path to try to heal my soul. I am 2.5 months post break up. My fiancé broke it off via text (wedding was booked for this past NYE) and he blocked me. I attempted to contact him 2 weeks after break up via email and he was so mean. I wasn’t radio silent. I closed all my social media accounts, stopped talking to his daughters and friends....ghost. It’s been incredibly hard,, not a day has gone by I haven’t cried. It’s cut deeper than anything I’ve ever experienced. I went and had a Reiki session, having another one this Friday. As well I booked an apt to have past life regression session with a hypnotherapist in hopes to release trauma. I am slowly trying to practice meditation, I am hooked on Amazon prime audible books, I am not listening to “He’s Scared, She’s Scared”. I am having huge ah ha moments that I hope will help me heal. I wish you well ❤️

Tina Horn so sorry, it’s sad to read what you have had to endure, it must have been even harder for you since it was supposed to end in marriage in your case. Time cures all but it’s very hard. I need therapy because otherwise these patterns will return in every relationship. I like that you have turned to audible books and hypnosis. I will consider those as ways to snap out of the current condition which at times is a nightmare

Roberto Schneider it’s better, I found out last week he married another woman on 12/26, 2 months after breaking it off with me and days before our wedding date for NYE...he posted pictures on FB and our pictures still up, like who does that ??