Hi sir good day ..I'm just asking if Is it still hocd if you feel something in your groinal or the anal part twitching and moving when I see men..my brain always tells me I got anal sex with a men..I'm a straight guy I've never had sex with same sex..And I feel so anxious when I see men( I developed androphobia) imagining having sex with them and it feels so real :( I always doubting my memories If I did it or not..is it also part of ocd?..hope you see this sir sorry for my English sir thanks you so much

@@Dbiss If they are actually gay why are they doing on an SO OCD forum?

Could the fear also be about being bi, it was only about being gay at the beggining but then a thought about being bi pop into my head and the simtomps are basically the same, but they feel more real cause I'm actually into girl and that's half being bi, but then I had this anxiety moments with dudes and I feel like I'm actually into them

Please help me 😭😭😭

hello, i hope u r doing good n get thru this. i wanted to ask u a question, during this phase, have u tried to mastrbate to gay pon? if yes, how was the experience in general and compared to straught porn?

Thanks bro Really having a bad time

Thanks, needed this! Been struggling with these thoughts since last Saturday night even though I know I'm interested and attracted to girls from the bottom of my heart.

Chad

@@armanbaig5981 honeslty it’s like some demons in your head

Cian Jones yes lol I blame 2020

We'll all get over that shit, man. Stay strong!

bro... i have not related to a comment more than i ever have in my entire life than i just did right now. it’s been affecting me since march. never once had any sort of homosexual thought or feeling, but once quarantine hit... BANG! i have this. i know deep down i’m straight, always have been, but this keeps bugging me, and i have this thing in my head that tries to lie to me and tell me otherwise.

@@enderbed7594 same bro Ive always liked girls and this came out of no where like wtf

This thoughts came to me in these quarentine days

True

This. Jesus Christ! the quarantine was going so well until 4 months ago and BAM! Thoughts started pouring into my head. I’m just glad I have a decent mental fortitude. I’m sure it will get better eventually.

LMFAOO facts😂

FACTS

The High Ground I’ve been at war with it since 2017

Bro my birthday was 2 months ago and it was the worst birthday of my life. I all day thinked about this stupid thaught and for my birthday wish, i only asked god to help me get away to this. The tomorrows day i saw these hocd videos and treatments and it really helped me but the fear once got gone and it came back and it has happended so many times. Dont listen to your mind listen to your heart i know that im straight and always have been and i pray every day to god to be straight all my life. Hope you have a grear birthday even if its hard to pass this stupid thought that has ruined our lives but trust me we all that are watching these videos we are all straight. With the help of god we will pass this amin inshallah

@@DG-mw8bj thanx for ur words man, am glad am not alone in this batle. We all need proper therapy for this. Hope u can find ur way back to be urself.

@@onedavid4430 thanks bro i wanna get rid of these questions that pops in my head even though i know they are not real but it feels that are real. Ive always been atrackted to girls and my hocd came in a stupid way. I was watching a music video and someone got a good wearing style drip and in a stupidly way a question came in my head "am i gay or what"? The gay stuff has not any sense if someone has a good wearing style i dont know why that question popped in my head it had never happened to me before. Than i got in really deep gay thoughts which i couldnt stop than and i saw a video that said you just should ignore the thoughts do not analyse them and you should not act for them. Its ok if you cry or you get emotionally because we are all straight and we dont know these things to happen. I still now have some thoughts but i just ignore or avoid them. How did your experiencr start bro but if you dont wanna go back in how it started is ok

@@DG-mw8bj hey is there any way we can talk? Going through this too for 3 months now it sucks but surely I’ll get my mind back inshAllah

@@DG-mw8bj hey is there any way we can talk coz my case is just like u ..wanna get over it

Yeah bro and Today some random person at school called me a faggot and I hate when someone calls me that because it makes me worried what if I am gay and I been straight and never liked guys but I hate when people think I’m gay or call me gay or a faggot it makes me worried and scared

I feel u bro 😪 and when I'm not worrying and I'm actually relaxed for a while my brain says that I'm accepting it and starts worrying again.

Do you guys experience other symptoms of ocd? Do you experience all symptoms of HOCD??

@@Taxicab123 I've experienced about 3 other forms of OCD. I feel a lot better now bro.

@@_tellavision I am not expereincing other form of ocd,what does it mean?

I did the sem thing 😀

@@heromanageryt7321 how long till it went away?

@@infopvh it hasn't went away yet. My condition went worse , so talked with my brother and he said that stop being a homophobe. And if ur hormonaly not attracted then ur not gay As simple as that. But first stable ur mind. U control ur own thoughts. So when u get these thoughts , take 4 deep breaths in and out and say "relllllaaaaaxxxx, relllllaaaaaxxxx , justttttt relllllaaaaaxxxx" . Slowly you will grow habit of not bothering at all. Don't let the thought engulf you. Talk with someone 🙏

@@infopvh also with experience like @ljhan , slowly steadily I believe we will stop getting bothered bcuz at a point this will just bore you

@@heromanageryt7321 i solved mine to 90% in 1 or 2 days Just always think of other things Directly and dont think about the thought itself then it should leave in a few days and only some thought for 1 second pop up a few times a day but you will be instantly bored of them or laugh about them like i do, be Patient

how

What did you do? Any tips would help

@@peggysyri3193 i just ignored the thoughts and i know that sounds a lot easier than it actually is but every time i'd get an hocd thought i would try my best to not react to it or overthink it and instead i would distract myself doing something else like music or a show or school, it took a long time but now i'm completely recovered i even have my attraction to guys back

Please give us advices

Please give us advices...I am extremely fearful of being gay and get sensations down there and have to check that i'm not aroused every time im around a male colleague, friend etc. ANd I've been a straight man all my life, slept with over 50 women in my lifetime and had many relationships but had two repeated incidents of ED and thats what drove me to thinking i could've possibly been gay.

My therapist asked me and I explained to her what I felt, then I got diagnosed with this. Lol. But yeah don’t worry it’s not just you. It’s sucks and it’s scary but I have it too and it’s been on and off for years. I hope you are doing better now since this was written a month ago, I recommend a therapist if you haven’t tried one yet, they do really help.

oh my gosh i was JUST saying this!!! you're not alone girly i feel the EXACT same

110% relate to this comment. I'm straight, you're too.

Yeah!

This happend to me cuz some bulky told lie to everyone I was a gay kid ,now everywhere I go people think it's true cuz he said it ,and I get bullied for no reason whatsoever

🤦‍♀️I hate when people say that. And it’s usually people who are already like that who are just trying to sway you.

Dude, why are you not lying

@@meganp9107 Alot of gay people at my school tried to text me and tell me that I'm just in denial and should just "cross the rainbow already", and it made me murderous and enraged at not only them, but the gay community as a whole.

@@vontreoneal310 yeah I don’t blame you and I completely understand. I’m not “homophobic”, nor do I hate gay people as individuals (although I hate the sin), but I get so irritated when they say that because in our hearts we know we’re not like that. But OCD lies, so if you consider it for even a second, you go in full on panic mode because you’re not completely assured about how you truly feel or what you truly believe (because of the OCD), so your mind is pretty much at war with your heart (or the truth), and I know how difficult that is. I am and always will be here for you and if you ever want to talk about anything, I mean literally anything, you can talk to me if you’d be comfortable with that (on here or in private). I have lots of wisdom from going through so much and having so many thoughts, so I’d never judge or make you feel guilty or abnormal because you, and your thoughts, are not :) (I’m sorry if you got this more than once because for some reason my phone kept deleting the comments when I refreshed the page.)

@@meganp9107 I have a question because I feel like I need someone's opinion on this. Since Thursday last week I started having these feelings of fear that I may be gay even though I am straight and have always been. Thankfully I seem to be having it pretty mild compared to most people in this comment section since I don't get any sexual thoughts when I see men and I can hang out with my male friends like I always do. My attraction to girls is the same as ever but the only thing I have is this strange feeling of the possibility that I may be gay and it scares me but the only thing that feeling is doing is making my heart beat fast in a very aggressive manner idk if its anxiety or not. Can you please tell me your opinion on this? Is it HOCD and if it is how bad is it

@Dagoberto Trevino i have been having these types of thoughts during the lockdown. I'm really scared and eagerly don't want to turn gay. it will completely contradicts to the way i am. it all started with a fight with my friends.... i knoecthese kinds of things don't happen overnight. plz suggest me ways to overcome this. i tried mentioned in the video butcthey made it severe. ur help will be appreciated

@Dagoberto Trevino did you have heart palpitations when these intrusive thoughts hit you...?

Aye bro. Drop your snap so we can talk cuz I wanna talk to someone who struggled with this

@Dagoberto Trevino I’m even more scared that I’m gay because when I used to think about something gay my heart would drop now it doesn’t I know I’m straight just not that much freaking out over the fact that my mind says gay stuff does that make me gay

Tamela Robinson aye bro what’s your snap we can talk ab it

it keeps repeating in my head, I thought I was the only one

Yeah it sucks. I’m scared I know I’m straight but I feel the need to “confess my feeliings” to a girl who I don’t have feelings for. It’s sucks I freaking hate it.

Holley Gilbreath I feel you so much, like this only happened to me the other day, my brain hit a trigger with it, like hours before it happened I didn’t think anything about it, like whenever I saw a guy I would never think anything of it but now I keep questioning myself too and testing myself and The paranoia just tells me every time “you’re gay you find that man attractive” and I literally freak out so much every time

Holley Gilbreath, God bless you. I will pray for you.

Jax 2TheMax, don’t be afraid. Hocd is trying to get you to think it’s not ocd, but it is. You got this, stay strong!!!

I'm so sorry for your struggles:( Did SO-OCD affect your attractions?

How did u get through it

@@vaifram8843 yeah health anxiety has been the main theme for me my entire life. Wouldn't wish it on anyone.

@@444.sanuji_n I kind of grew out of it, I guess. Eventually stopped caring. And medication.

Right?? Yeah I struggled a ton with this in like 2012-2013 and the resources for help were so sparse, I’m so glad that videos like this exist now. Honestly sometimes I thought I had this EXTREMELY rare condition because it differs from germ and health OCD, but now I’m realizing that all subtypes of OCD have a ton in common and it’s just as legit as the others. Channels like this are a godsend!

Thanks so much for your kind words! 💜

@@ocdandanxiety just help me. Can’t be like this anymore. Last week I spent 6 hours one day and 8 hours the next trying to just figure it out. It gave me the worst headache and made myself physically sick

Aye bro. Drop your snap so we can talk cuz I wanna talk to someone who struggled with this

@@Paragon.whyttt drop your snap and I’ll add

@@Paragon.whyttt3 years ago lol, u still wanna talk bc i’m struggling a lot recently.

Thank you so much! 😃

Hey bro, how are you doing?

Do you really believe your born straight?

You’re not alone. I just spent the last week doing 8 hours of research on Reddit. Take his course. I’m going to

How did you find your therapist ? And was it just a normal ocd therapist

@@montysmith1597 I worked with a therapist and she didn’t help. I still haven’t found a good therapist but this KZfaqr is suggesting good ones. I’m on rexulti medication and that’s helped a lot. I feel like the voice isn’t there anymore

Aye I need help

What do you tell your doctors or therapist

Made a group on ig for all we are struggling HMU if u wanna be added @deathbyrow

Same. we will make it through it!

Aye bro. Drop your snap so we can talk cuz I wanna talk to someone who struggled with this

@@Paragon.whyttt how are you???

So when I found about Chris being gay and stuff this gay thing came in my mind then it grew grew grew and it took over mind making me think stuff that’s gay becuase iam literally really attracted to females and I know that because I find then beautiful and cute..

Yoo broo you gonna grt thought thigh my boi

Fr tho cuz then they get the wrong idea

Sorry but when you had hocd did you get really anxious when you say a girls picture ,not that you found them attractive, you just get so anxious, sigh ,i need help

Yeah same i liked girls all my life i even have a huge crush on a girl,But then these false thoughts came by and it made me scared that i am gay but when i found out about HOCD this made me calm.

I had the exact experience as you do. One time it kinda held me "hostage" for using my friends and used past memories and alter my perspective of being "lesbian" and it got so bad that it triggered me into a depressive episode and made me vomit a few times

@@yeetushiatus1908 omg I puked yesterday and always have an aurge to vomit

@@AKHIL024 you too I’ve woke up many times throwing up and shaking

You've got this girl. We are here for you, we understand the panic and the anxiety. This is obviously terrible, but we will get through this together and live our lives again!!

I know what you mean its terrible everytime I'm with some of my best buds i always think "should i come out?" And i know I'm straight but my mind just thinks it for some reason

It's the start of it, it's normal I used to do the same, just don't do it and don't do orientation test to be relieved it will get worst. But I assure you it can improved, I am the proof of that. Gays are afraid of coming out they are not afraid of being gay, lesbian like seeing beautiful girls, us we are afraid it's not the same

I think I watched the same video as you?Do you have snapchat maybe I am reallt looking to relate to someone

@@soleneguyot7041 i dont like how people say that youre supposed to be uncertain even after treatment... like i know im stright but my hocd bugs me like what if youre bisexual and after recovery i want to be able to say with certainty that im straight and not get triggered or doubt... Also what do you mean in the last sentence?

Did you cure it

What kind of treatment did you do?

@@fareehamustapha9556 ERP and learning how to meditate

How did that go? I’m considering it

@@ocdmindful618 what is erp dawg I need help man I always liked the girls my head got me f up 💯

@@dacariwhitehead7971 feel you

Dude i never have this but im going through antidepressant withdrawal and benzo withdrawal and now im having this

Hey bro can you give me any advice how to beat this?

Same.

The thing is you do care just like all of us that’s the only reasons you have the thoughts

Dagoberto Trevino I mean that I’m having the thoughts about being gay it’s just I’m not feeling the anxiety as I used to

I feel bro.

@@WillWinterss I'm way better now lol it goes away I get it sometimes but it isn't scary as it was and it normally comes like once a week

This means that you're slowly getting over your fear. If you feel disturbed by the visions then you're straight

How did u get rid of the thoughts or feelings

@@chetansonare6346 You can ask me anything anytime you want. I had OCD as I might’ve said since I was a kid but then it was more of rituals and having their check the door 100 times literally, I had a certain number I had to touch the wall or do something else that same number of times because if I didn’t something bad would happen so I thought. I mean it took years out of my life and the funny thing it’s kind of easy to hide in school light sometimes going to the bathroom. Turning on and off the light with all that kind. Do you know nothings going to happen but it’s not what if, and you have to do it until it just feels right to you. So I will be honest when I probably got about to being 18 that’s with a turned into the exact OCD that you’re talking about with the intrusive thoughts. What if I’m in church and I yell out the F Word. What if I just went and pushed somebody into traffic. What if nobody likes me what if everybody thinks I’m rude and I would be in such anxiety I would do anything for a leaf I would call my grandmother and say, am I mean do you think I mean and she would be like no what are you talking about and I have to just keep calling people until I felt OK about it. I know I looked like an idiot but I just had to get that relief.

@@chetansonare6346 I worried what if I was a lesbian. There’s just so many more I could just keep on telling you and you’d be surprised if you got some books about it so many people that have the intrusive thoughts OCD will have the exact same scenario as things you said you’re worried about. A very popular one is if you’re in church what if you do something really bad. Another one my brother has it really bad one time he thought he ran over somebody and killed them it turned out it was just a bump in the road but he was late to work because he kept driving to go work and he was saying oh my god what if I did hit somebody, now deep in our minds as you know he knows he didn’t but nobody can tell you that it’s crazy, so he went back and checked it was fine then he did it another time. So he was late to work and what do you say to your boss I thought I ran somebody over. I mean sometimes it when I can tell her crazy stories and laugh now but the funny thing is that exact story I’ve found in two OCD books or somebody thought they ran over somebody. It’s just again everybody tells me stop overthinking that’s what I’m told so much. If I think I hurt somebody’s feelings forget about it I’m a wreck! One thing that always helped me and it doesn’t make sense end it was like something my doctor had told me, I think it was my first visit to her when I was 23 and I said to her but if I’m a psychopath or what if I’m crazy and she said Lisa people that are crazy don’t know they’re crazy. So try to remember that if that’s one of your fears sometimes. And also know that most of our OCD worries the intrusive that worries I really just our worst fears that we know would be so wrong and not normal to do. Anything that would be to the extreme of being abnormal we fear oh my god what if that’s us or what if that happens to me. Like I said I know the answer a lot I know like what time I said oh my god what if I grow up and I’m gonna be a child molester. Now I know I’m not but then as you said you overthink and you’re mind just goes. I’m sorry if this is too long. To this day every time my head hit stop pillow to go to sleep at night my mind just starts going I have to take a sleeping pill to help me sleep. And yes the over thinking I’m sure people have said to you why do you care what they think or why are you worrying about that so much because. Yes they are right we are over thinking some silly stuff but they don’t get that we cannot help it! Sometimes my overthinking it’s about real stuff that has happened. Like when I found Out my son was doing pot oh my God I knew nothing about it I never really did pot. I was a disaster I’m thinking oh my god is he going to do this drug necks or that drug next. And why is he doing it is it because of me what did I do wrong oh my God maybe I cry too much in front of the kids and I just beat myself up. Now like I said all mothers worry about their kids and all people worry about things that you should maybe wonder orally about but people like you and I take it to a whole Nother level and instead of worrying about it for 15 minutes or an hour we could worry about it for months just until the next thing pops up to worry about. But I will tell you medicine always helped me a lot ! I was first put on Prozac and it literally pretty much put the OCD in remission for like 10 years but then my body got used to that so I had to try another one then so on and so on. I will let you know yes you can get married and have kids. I’m 50 years old and I have two kids my son is 24 and my daughter is 23. I have heard of people that say they never could get married because they would not expect somebody to put up with them. So I guess that would ask depend on how severe your OCD is. Even so when I say it goes until like a remission still have it I still overthink but not as much and I’m able to let go of things much easier and quicker but if something triggers it then it’s a disaster. I may be all over the place and again I just I’m writing a lot because I want to tell you a lot. I’m not sure if you do go to a psychiatrist if you don’t I would highly recommend one I would also tell you do not be scared of medicine And a lot of them you can get side effects from but usually within a month the side effects go away. A lot of people don’t believe that and they refused to take medicine. I was doing very well for a while and just recently I had a Bad time with the OCD and the sad thing is of my friends and my family try to help me etc. but they could only take so much. And I was starting to worry I was gonna make my family or my own kids not want to be around me because I was just asking than the same questions over and over. And I can see how that could be annoying and there’s really nothing anybody can tell you until you yourself are able to get that feeling of letting it go or feeling that it’s OK or it’s just right now. So what I tried to start doing is trying my hardest not to ask any family members and friends questions anymore like my latest thing was are you scared to let your kids drive with me do you think I’m gonna get in an accident. And some before like where the hell did you get this from and why are you asking that and as you know you can’t believe it explain to them why you’re having this fear for you’re over thinking something stupid. Like maybe my sister said one day oh wow you drive fast sometimes. Most people would laugh it off. But not someone with OCD. I automatically got the pit in my stomach how did anxiety attack of course and then just kept asking everybody I know do you think I drive really bad Ect. So anyway I’m trying to save questions that I know are going to annoy somebody and just save them all from my doctor when I see her. I mean she’s at least she’s getting paid to get annoyed LOL. But I also tried this I tried because it is usually especially bad at night to write down my worry or what I was overthinking and I said in my head OK I’m not throwing it away I’m not dismissing it it’s still there but I’m gonna worry about it we’ll discuss it with my doctor tomorrow or the next day. And you know what was happening I would wake up the next morning and look at what I wrote and I was like oh my God why was I even thinking about that. It was so weird it actually helped and I wasn’t even worrying about it. People say you could also write down what your fear is or what you’re only thinking, write it down on a piece of paper crumble it up and just throw it in your closet or throw it in a basket and save yourself OK i’m not letting it go I’m just gonna worry about it tomorrow and you’ll be surprised you’re going to look at those papers and say oh my God! Unfortunately even somebody that Has OCD cannot take away your anxiety that you’re having with whatever you’re having at that time. I can tell you don’t be so rude all you’re worrying for no reason. But the best anybody can do for you was just be there to listen. And it does help when you talk to other people that suffer from OCD. But when that anxiety it hits I mean I can’t eat the butterflies in my stomach are horrible I almost Felt like I couldn’t function at some times in my life. And again the only relief is when you finally get it on your own or if you say by Rory was oh my God Is my boyfriend going to leave me? And just as dad OCD overthinking worry it’s it’s like a Lightning bolt body in two seconds of complete anxiety but then I know if I go and I see my boyfriend and I say oh my God do you still like me do you still wanna go out with me and she says of course I do I love you more than anything, within seconds it’s the best really sure the world things I need to goes away. But sometimes it’s not as simple as that and a lot of people don’t understand the crazy fears that we have. I always said I want to do speeches on this because I believe a lot of kids probably killed them selves not knowing what the hell they have or what to do. I’ll say another thing unfortunately SSRI drugs which are the usual medicines that help OCD can affect especially a man’s sexual activity and a lot of them stopped taking the medicine because of that. I have a shirt I should show you the picture of it. Shows with an arrow is a complete cycle of the OCD I think it’s a Sutton like worry then anxiety then relief or something like that. But I am a a extreme believer in medicine for OCD! Yes I did just learn that some of those little things can help like I just told you. And I also find that when things are going good in my life and I’m happy that OCD is lessened. Please don’t be afraid to go to the psychiatrist believe me there’s nothing that you can tell her if that’s gonna make her think you’re crazy or anything like that. And sometimes an SSRI like say Prozac will bother your sex life but another SSRI like Paxil or Zoloft well it’s trial and error with the medicine. But you got a stick it out at least a month. I would love to help as many people as I can if you have any more questions just ask sorry I went on and on there’s so much more I can say. The tough thing is people don’t understand it because you can’t put a Band-Aid on your brain they can see the cut as if they can see a cut on your knee and no that’s why you’re upset and then they can fix it or they can see if you have cancer and you don’t feel good but we look fine so people just don’t understand how terrible the disease is. OK good luck keep me posted oh and most of all and I mean really most of all avoid your triggers

@@chetansonare6346 Np. All that stuff you mentioned I went through all that worrying too. I was in such a depression one time I didn’t want to get out of my bed for over two months I didn’t want to wake up because every day was a new battle. Every day it’s a new fight. And then I worry about my father and my mother. The biggest thing I guess that really can still get me bad sometimes is worrying about what other people think of me there could be 50 people that say wow you do an awesome job perfect and if one person doesn’t say it I will just focus on that I wonder why that person didn’t say that why doesn’t a person like me. At 48 I was funny getting better at that and able to say will screw them if they don’t like me. Don’t give up ever. I forgot why you said you only took the medicine for a month but if you felt it make you like a zombie or some thing else will try another than another than another. But try that thing like I said try to write it down some people even say the picture of themselves in their head putting The thought or worry on a plate and they’re not throwing the plate away or nothing they’re just gonna push it to the side and worry about that plate tomorrow. Just so you know the SSRI stopped working on me and thank God I’m on gabapentin now and thank God it’s been helping a lot. But yes sometimes I would feel like I’m dreaming I remember being in the mall one time and I felt like everything was having them around me and I kind of wasn’t there but I realize now I was just having a major anxiety attack! Just promise me one thing don’t go listening to what everybody else says because everybody thinks they know everything specially about medicine. Everybody’s different everybody’s body is different everybody’s body reacts different. If you’re open to try medicine I’m telling you sometimes you have to take five different ones till one works! Again good luck and it’s a very rough age it was my roughest age to 22 as a matter fact I kind a really really almost gave up at that time and that’s when I was sent to a doctor and she I say save my life! Good luck

I would also like to add that yes it goes through different themes that was a very very good way of wording it! And just when you finally get past one your faced with another. Mental disease has a long way to go. It’s good you’re talking about it it’s a shame people can’t see it and think oh it’s just in your head or I’ll stop worrying about that my dad I wish it was that easy. If I could be honest OCD probably took up almost half my life maybe if you had enough of hours Iof over thinkingI don’t know. Maybe not that much but don’t give up. And if people don’t want to understand it Screw them. A lot more people have it then you know of so you are not alone! Thank you again for your kind words

@@Chippy88 hi Lisa, hope you're well! How long did you deal with SOOCD, how old were you? Was your attraction affected?

First of all,I wanna say that HOCD is a real thing there is plenty of different OCD’S don’t let anyone tell you other wise .second of all have faith and belief and trust in Jesus and trust the process.third you will get through this Key word YOU WILL!! And btw im not like this guy and the video who had a degree and and license im just a guy who experience HOCD and got over it

Helpful tips for recovering from this? Thank you.

@@jaygoat7424 yea u gave no tips

@@jaygoat7424 so gay ppl are just having hcod? like everyone is born straight but these thoughts came and ppl got confused with which is their thought and which is ocd and they become gay. is that how it works?

5 months you have it easy man

How can I do that? I’m literally going insane

Same,,, For me it's the idea of getting stressed by just looking at any guys,,, I just started using CBT and now ERP

@@hanashisalam1104 thank you!!

I also developed this in childhood too! I hope you're well. Did you lose/not develop attraction to the opposite sex due to SOOCD?

Mario Garcia bruh for real Iam (15) and this shit has happend to me for almost 2 weeks now.ik Iam straight but weird images and the exact question “are you gay”always pop up even when I wake up it’s one of the first things that pop up in my head and it’s stressing tf out of me and I want it to stop and I don’t wanna tell anybody cause ima be judged or looked at differently from my family

Changio yeah bro! I feel you man! I wake up thinking about that shit as soon as my eyes open, matter of fact I feel like it wakes me up sometimes. These are all thoughts though trust, as human beings we identify what we like or are attracted to from a young age, (we don’t choose our identity) it just comes naturally. We’re straight, I believe gay people only fear having to come out the closet in our case we fear more than that we fear what if’s....Give it time little homie don’t be scared just let it pass. Face those thoughts, it’s all mind games. Play them. If they bring you down fuck it it’s all good to cry after being mentally and emotionally drained. what’s been helping me is this “THOUGHTS NOT FEELINGS”

Changio feel free to contact people on websites, I just did some survey and waiting for results a little while ago made me feel a lil better, they have online calls and stuff too where you can speak with professionals about any type of OCD. Shits real out here.

Mario Garcia Thx man I really hope this stuff goes away ima keep that in Ming Thoughts not feelings

Mario Garcia what website can I talk to people Ik I have it from a test I did but I want to talk to somone they online with out having to pay or nun

Did you overcome it completely?

Same i hate it

@@_amir_ the only worst part is that I’m starting high school soon and I still don’t know how to handle it that much but we all can do it.

@@julianadelgado2263 wassup that crazy like the lock down made this shit happen I always love girls like why did these weird thoughts come man

How are u now r u ok how much time did it take to recover???

@@vivansharmam4028 I am fine now. I can control these thought. I dont stress over it anymore. I am straight and I know that. So no such thoughts can disrupt my thinking.

@@ReallyKilRoy how much time did it take to get bit matter 1 month for me now and it's only getting worse

@@vivansharmam4028 i was in class 11th in lock down when i started having these thoughts. It started to get better when my school finally reopened. I found new girls i was attracted to. Slowly this thoughts started to disappear. I very rarely have these thoughts now. I suggest you to engage yourself into something that you like. I love drawing and digital (graphics) designing. So I started to work on commissions and stuff. But yeah, something that you feel will distract you from these thoughts, do that. I hope the best for you my G.

Same like someone today at school a random person called me a faggot and I think he was trying to act tuff and cool but I hate when they say stuff like that to me and i think to myself what if I am gay and im worried I don’t want to be gay

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Finding the therapist can be helpful. I would search on iocdf.org

OCD and Anxiety thanks but does this mean i’m bisexual? or do i have hocd because i really hope it’s just hocd.

@@ericabergan9158 usually people who are gay know they are gay, and have been gay since they were much younger. so idk if that helps.

@@qayimrahimi4530 it does thanks

Train Wreck no worries Ik how it feels, it’s living hell, Im a straight male, but i have had and sometimes still have the weirdest thoughts. U just gotta learn to live with it for a bit.

Dude trust me things will get better also try to stay away from porn and they media because they are overrun by gay people

@@briangarcia4665 bro I'm really scared , iv had HOCD for 2 years now but they got really worse this lockdown , for the past two months and been having anxiety and depression cause of these thoughts and feelings , Iv been straight my whole life I don't why this is happening to me , its as if my sexuality is changing ....cause these days iv been feeling sexually attracted to men and it's making me really depressed , having suicidal thoughts....iv been scared to sleep cause I'm afraid of have dreams about it, bro please help me

life long learner just stay away from social media it’s over run by gay people try to go on long walks and talk about it to a family member or friend also try drawing or working out it helps too

Aye bro. Drop your snap so we can talk cuz I wanna talk to someone who struggled with this

@@Paragon.whyttt alright bet

that’s a backdoor spike! ur getting anxious because ur brain is telling u ur not rly anxious about if

lily s omg this is happening to me rn, how am I going to get out of this

Muda keep going w agreeing with the thoughts and erp, backdoor spikes show growth!

That’s a sign that you are not gay then, the difference is is that you’re scared of it because it’s not what you want therefore you are not homosexual but if you were you would just accept it without giving a single fuck, so I promise you you aren’t gay :)

Haz & Ali ok so the thoughts aren’t giving me nearly as much anxiety anymore and Im scared of that because I don’t know if that’s me accepting I’m gay or something. I still have a loss of attraction which adds onto that fear

everything will be fine, remember this

Ugh don’t be friends with her. I have the same thing cause my friend said I dressed gay. Please please please know ur not alone

@erza rexhallari yeah i guess she was going by a stereotype 😔 thanks

Ignore her

It's a bleh feeling for sure. I'm now just going through something really similar. I know I'm straight, I always have been. But intrusive thoughts take over, and they can be difficult to ignore. I am just now working it out, but taking the time to be mindful of who you are and what you like.

How is it going

Ya bro Covid fuked us bad. It even made me a phone addict , lazy ass , unproductive, dull , low grades and fatass. Let's make this year better 🙂

same. but its just a thought you're not your brain it doesn't define you the brain can be your worst enemy or your best friend you just have to take control of it and be the boss

Same, you ever stare at someone your gender and u feel weird and your brain says "YOURE GAY" that just messed up i dont know anymore man

@@alliwantisyounknow158 ME but you know deep down inside that your straight but this happens

@@whambam849 Ikr it's so messed up

Same shit happened to me So first,i'm a female artist and my friend said all these girl artists gay af (i'm speaking without any homophobia,dont get me wrong) So i started to worry what if i'm too I'm straight,I'm into men,and I had 4 boyfriends before Yet everytime I looked at my friends I thought I will turn into gay. I got panicked several times,that what if I will become bi or a lesbian from looking at other women or when I hugged my mother my brain almost made me coming out(???) I also got other ocd symptoms such as these long routines and very bad intrusive thought about like everything (for example when i sat in a car i suddenly got the thought of jumping out) I also had horrible days when I just kept telling myself in the mirror "I'm not into women" and "I like men" then my brain said these thoughts are fake then i said "i'm into women" and it felt total wrong and I knew its not true Then I found out about OCD and HOCD,and when the things went absolute hell (panic attacks daily,anxiety,and not being able to get up) I wrote a story on instagram about my mental state and I met a fellow friend with Ocd and she said she had very similar symptoms Now i'm scrolling this section and I see many people with same symptoms,and I know what's going on after all the sufferings I'm sorry for writing all this out,but now i finally got a glimpse of hope Stay strong all of u

Only those who have suffered from this can understand how really scary it is. I am also suffering from this and live in shame but deep inside i know this aint real me and i will surely overcome it one day. And i know you will too. 👍

same, ive been dealing with this for like 4 months and its the worst thing that happened to me.. i also have a guy crush and then this thought just suddenly comes up "are you really attracted to him?" and yeah it just sucks..

This used to happen to me as well, my brain would always tell me, “you’ll change your mind in the future” it’s been over 6 years, and I realized that it was just another intrusive thought and it wasn’t real!! I am so much happier and I’ve grown so much

Bro same

@@rellaingonetell1380 we in.the same boat it sucks idk what to do its unlivable

@@JJontiming bruh have you recovered

Have you recovered

Same here and there sucks a lot

Dude I think I’m going through it now too

That’s NOT true!! If it makes you feel sick or terrible don’t believe the thought! Of course there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, but that’s not you. You know yourself better than the intrusive thoughts do. You will break out of the cycle :)

Your mind will always get something for you to worry about. It can be anything and it'll fuck up your memories or feelings or anything you always certain about to get you in fear state. Maybe you should try to accept things that happen to you. As long as you can accept anything that happen to you, then no fear can harm you. What if you're really gay ? Fine, as long as it doesn't scare you anymore. I know it doesn't easy as it sound. I still have those thoughts even i've said to everyone i'll never be gay but then i said to myself that no one can scare me even myself.

@@zella1509 hey Ty for this comment it’s rlly helped my fear, I convince myself I am and it makes me feel like I wanna cry i rlly don’t wanna be and ofc I’m not homophobic I just don’t wanna be, when I say to myself I’m straight or when others say I am it makes me question myself and I think “am I in denial” which makes me feel like I am even more! please help 😭

Same

Haha! This gave me a good laugh! 🤪

@@ocdandanxiety I have a question if you actualy see this. I check facial and body features often and genualy prefer females in both cases and find nothing atractive on males but the visions just keep popping up. That's CDO right?

SnikerPiker yes

Me to🥺 are you feeling better? I’ve been dealing with this for 2 months.

@@hattiemcleanx hey how are you doing?

@@hattiemcleanxhow are you now? i’ve been going through gay intrusive thoughts for 3 weeks

Your intrusive thoughts want you to believe the worst thing possible. Having anxiety is NOT your “true desire” this is a very common thought in HOCD. if you’re repulsed by the idea, don’t even give energy into believing it

Hey I like you girl

My insta snr_kageyama

me too, i lost my complete attraction for men due to these thoughts, they're making me convinced im a lesbian even thought ive never thought of myself as one before.

literally yep this

Oh my god, I'm going through almost the exact same thing as you. How are you now? When I am at peace, I would panic because it feels like I am starting to accept that I am bi when I know I'm not, and I also don't want to like girls. I also question my sexuality before but it was mostly because lgbtq+ and coming out videos keep popping up and was everywhere for me. It's so scary, sometimes I just wanna die instead of going through this.

girl i am going through the EXACT SAME THING. i’ve dealt with hocd in the past, around quarantine last year. it started because a lot of my friends started coming out as bi and we’re pressuring me because i was probably the only straight person there. i got over it, but after school started again the anxiety and stress i had last year returned as well. what happened about two weeks ago, was i was walking home with a friend on my bus who i usually walk home with and there was another person with us. i got off the bus last and they were waiting for me and she called me attractive and my friend said she was gay. at first i was flattered but then when i got home i thought why did i like that compliment? does that make me gay? i kept stressing about it for the whole day. then today i was sitting with a friend in class (she is straight) and we were just talking like normal. we always talked about school work and boys and pretty casual things. she leaned on my shoulder and i got nervous but not because i felt attracted to her in any way, it was because im usually not used to touch so i was like oh ok. this is going to sound stupid but then she looked at me and said im going to steal you from your shawty (she’s talking about a boy i have a crush on) and i jokingly said nooooooo, but then she said “oh come on you know you want to i can see you blushing” and all the anxiety came back. i didn’t know i was blushing and it wasn’t because i liked her, like i said i just don’t get physical touch that often. after she said that all the stress and anxiety came rushing back in and all i want is for the thoughts to go away. i am also a 15 year old female and the exact same things happening to you happen to me. whenever i see a pretty girl on tiktok or any platform i think omg she’s so pretty i wish i looked like her or something, but i feel like in the back of my head there’s a voice telling me i like her or that i’m attracted to her. also the same thing you feel in your private area is normal as well. it’s called groinal response, and it’s not you being horny. it is because all the anxiety causes a lot of blood flow in that area (especially if it’s hocd) and it can make you think you are horny.

Same here sister and I know i like women but men I really don't think i do! I too 100% sure I'm straight and I have never been attracted to a men before! I've never had a girl friend in my past but yeah that's my story! Sorry for copying your words it's more relateable to me #Wearestraight

@@bunnylo4f222 sorry I’m seeing your comment so late but your comment makes me SO HAPPY! Your comment made me feel so much less alone… thank you so much for replying and reading my story! Thank you so so so much!! You made my night😊

@@exolsadie3746 hi how are you?

thank you so much for sharing this. you’re going through the same thing i am. i’m here for you.

That's awesome you're starting therapy. It's great to maintain progress! I've never heard of this program but I'll check it out!

Hope he gets better.

I relate although I’m gay thinking “what if I was straight”. I’ve only had major crushes on boys since I was a kid but I didn’t know what that was cause I was like 8 but when I would listen to love songs a boy would always be there with me. Until COVID 19 hit, it’s a nightmare to not do anything at all but be caught up in your thoughts and doubts. I’m also VERY close friends with a girl and a lot of people believe that we are dating, so my brain tells me, “what if you did? What if you liked her? What if you kissed her in the car that one day? What if she’s your soulmate.” As a result, I kinda dread when she texts me or I interact with you. In addition, I began avoiding heterosexual AND homosexual images of casual relationships because 1. Im scared that the heterosexual visual might cause me to think “I want that....” and for homosexual visual to be “Why don’t I like it?? WHY DONT I REACT TO IT DIFFERENTLY? IM GAY I SHOULD LIKE THIS... THIS MEANS IM NOT GAY THEN.” As I type this, I know what im saying but my brain keeps doubting the sincerity of my words. As I was watching this video, not surprisingly my brain kept telling “what if what he is saying is NOT true.” Even tho I tell myself it’s true I need help but my brain says otherwise. It’s a nightmare.

@@Andres.bh04 did it get better?????

Thiisss! my brain also makes me feel like I don't like boys anymore, or trying to convince me I will be uncomfortable in a relationship whit a boy, and I know that's not true, but I feel my brain it's like possessed

Haha! Thanks so much!✌️

OCD and Anxiety what would say ideal recovery would be from this subset of OCD? As in at what point could you say you’re fully recovered?

Exact same thing happened to me; you are not alone.

hi how are you now because i am a boy with similar thoughts

We all should have a what's app group

@@vsg9944yeah 100%, i’ve been having gay intrusive thoughts for 3 weeks now

How did you recover

@@pskuchiha3665 I distracted myself from that thought, then I started to take care of my apperarce, and make myself look feminine again, since at that time I was getting stressed in 8th grade, and stress made me forget about my femininity. Then I used logic and evidence to determine if I am really gay or not. Then I suddenly became attracted to a guy I saw. I used my imagination to get rid of those stupid thoughts, about me being like that. I imagined myself in the beautiful mountains and fields sitting there with the dress of my dreams and looking at the nature. After couple of months it just passed and everything came back to normal.

Happy for yuh :)

Thanks for sharing your experiences my friend! I hope you can find some relief through your struggles. 😃

water boy my mother says the same thing and i know, but its seems really convincing which makes me doubt and stress about it

@@vaultboy368 easy boy here's the solution watch gay scene from movies don't avoid it and thought say you are say yes i am it will take only four weeks and you done it will go away.

Are you better now? I need help

mel sadly no ): i wish i was

How is it going?

Thanks for the insight brother, im similar to you and had the same experiences. Im still having the thoughts on and off but after reading your comment im feeling alot better as our stories are very similar i get the exact same thoughts so it helps to know im not the only one

Do you still have it?

As a man our ego doesn’t like to be called gay or even have suspicion of it so your ego will fight to attach to the ego to prove and re gain assurance that your straight but the ego will never be satisfied that’s why u will keep attaching u just have to understand to let go of the fear of being anything you don’t desire to be and life will be much easier trust me ☀️

You broo you gonna get thought this g , just know patience is key 🔑

@@theyruth3276 thanks bro, acceptance and only acceptance of the thoughts we are suffering from as a part of ourselves is going to make everything brighter than yesterday👌

@@davidkrasovskis6458 hello ?