Ode to the 1st Born
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4 ай бұрынThere's a reason you 1st borns are the way you are...
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Hi! I'm Taylor Calmus, a rural South Dakota born and Colorado-based actor/comedian. I started Dude Dad© two weeks before my son Theo was born as a way to stay creative while learning to be a father. My wife Heidi and I now have 4 kids and over 500+ videos. We also have a TV show on the Magnolia Network called Super Dad. My purpose for the channel is to entertain, enlighten and inspire.
Ode to the First Born
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@KairaisnotaLiopleurodon 4 ай бұрын
Bro, wasn't expecting to cry right now. What a beautiful message to leave for your child. You also opened my mind to what my parents went through raising me. Just... beautiful.
@DudeDad 4 ай бұрын
Yeah, it's been something on my heart for a while now
@feliciar2773 4 ай бұрын
I know I was like expecting something like a lot of people do about you know your oldest child your middle child your youngest child type of stereotypes. And I really don't like those they can be funny but this was gosh I'm starting to cry again😢😅❤
@danmeiss 4 ай бұрын
I'm not crying, your crying 🙃
@katherinenovak6137 4 ай бұрын
Dude, that hit me harder than I expected. I’m not even a parent. Just the oldest kid and now I understand my parents more.
@Beanisbosssty 4 ай бұрын
@@DudeDad God loves you and Jesus died on the cross for you and you @KairaisnotaLiopleurodon and you
@ryherm 4 ай бұрын
Didn’t know dude dad was gonna make me cry. Spot on Taylor!
@PaulsWanderings 4 ай бұрын
He's made me cry a few times.
@JustMyOpinion_1 4 ай бұрын
Thanks, Taylor. As the oldest of four, this hit home for me. I got all the privileges (always riding shotgun in the front seat), but I also shouldered the responsibility of helping my single mom raise my other three siblings. What an honor ❤
@Mrs.NRalphs 4 ай бұрын
Helping your single mom raise your siblings is extremely hard when you’re 13 and you have to grow up fast cuz you have to take care of your mom too because she’s so depressed she won’t eat. Forget having time to do your own homework. It’s strange none of my teachers even had a parent teacher conference with how much I struggled in school.
@JustMyOpinion_1 4 ай бұрын
@@Mrs.NRalphs I was young, too. But my mom courageously left my alcoholic father, worked two jobs and went to school to support us and give us a better life. I feel blessed. Others had it much tougher 😔
@Mrs.NRalphs 4 ай бұрын
@@JustMyOpinion_1 It took me calling the cops on my dad also an alcoholic for her to finally leave him. I think she finally realized it was doing us more harm than good. She was trying to stick it out until my youngest sister was 18 I’m glad she didn’t. Although she did work to support us she the divorce and being a single mom stress caused her to fall into depression. She lost so much weight from not eating. I had to make her eat a little before leaving the table like I was the parent. Plus make sure my sister did their homework and do chores and cook dinner.
@PatricesProjects 4 ай бұрын
I have 7 grown children across a span of 21 years. No truer words were ever spoken. I have apologized to my two oldest kids because I was learning how to parent on them.
@angelarivard8326 4 ай бұрын
I’m working Taylor!! I needed a laugh and instead got a heartwarming love letter! I didn’t want to cry but well, it’s happening now! I hope nobody notices!!
@DudeDad 4 ай бұрын
you coworkers will just think you're really passionate about your work :)
@angelarivard8326 4 ай бұрын
@@DudeDad I do appreciate it!!
@iwanttobelieve5970 4 ай бұрын
Why you have me crying when I only have one child who has her own one child. 😭😭😭😭
@DixieNormous9 4 ай бұрын
I’m not crying your crying !😢
@paisleyhunter 4 ай бұрын
Being a grandparent is the best, isn't it?
@paisleyhunter 4 ай бұрын
I was very badly abused as a child. My oldest daughter and I truly learned how to love together. It was the most beautiful experience. She's 35 now and we talk daily. ❤❤
@MomtoaFullHouse 4 ай бұрын
My oldest is 26. I have said for ages how much I learned from him and how he made me a better parent for his younger siblings.
@mrs.b0742 4 ай бұрын
Oh man. This made me so emotional. My first turns 15 today. Everything you say here is so true. It’s a new frontier having a growing teen son. 😭
@sandypotts5184 4 ай бұрын
My husband and I have 3 boys, and my oldest just turned 8 yesterday and this hit home, and I didn't think I was going to cry, but this was something I needed to hear today so thank you Taylor 😊
@DudeDad 4 ай бұрын
Glad this resonated...Thanks for watching :)
@wendycalkins4831 4 ай бұрын
For Pete sake!!! I'm watching this just before leaving for my oldests senior pictures😢 This is definitely a huge year! ❤
@amberyoung4425 4 ай бұрын
Made my eyes water- I was blessed with 4 kids and this is so true!!
@DudeDad 4 ай бұрын
Team Four Kids!
@wendywheelock943 4 ай бұрын
I just sent this to my 27 y.o. son...who helped me raise his brother, his other brother, his other other brother, his littlest brother, and finally his surprise twin baby sisters who just turned 18. We drove home from the hospital with the flashers on with him, but literally stopped for burgers on the way home with his sisters. He was there for me always...he can change diapers and put a puzzle together while rocking a bouncy like nobody's business. Thanks for sharing...a lot of smiles and memories revisited.
@gregkrueger331 4 ай бұрын
Wayamint, i was supposed to get the NEW stuff?!?! 😂
@MommaSkelly 4 ай бұрын
I was thinking same thing! I got my cousins hand-me-downs lol
@DudeDad 4 ай бұрын
haha, he's the "oldest cousin" so he doesn't have that opportunity
@sarahlongstaff5101 4 ай бұрын
I got my older cousins' hand-me-downs....
@nolanclark2253 4 ай бұрын
Man, That hit hard. I just took my 1st born who is 7 out for his first Yes Day and I realized I need to do it more often. Sometimes, I’m a grumpy old dad because I’m just trying to figure it all out too and I need to let my guard down. Thanks for posting, Taylor.
@candacehunter1252 4 ай бұрын
This is so true!!! I was just thinking all this with our oldest, and how each stage is new for the both of us. ❤ Thanks for making this video.
@DudeDad 4 ай бұрын
Glad it resonated with others!
@kellykist6107 4 ай бұрын
Dude dad!!! I found you when I was recovering from surgery and the first post I saw was the one where you just talk to us about what becoming a dad was like. You cried, I cried, I forwarded it to my wife, she cried. I love and appreciate your crazy antics, but your philosophical take on your experience as a dad really floats my boat. As an Early Childhood educator since the early 80’s, I’ve watched Fathering become “ a thing”. We educators always knew fathers ( and their partners and kids) were really missing out! Now? 100% of the children I care for have involved, present fathers and mothers! ( or two fathers or two mothers) what a wonderful world! And, I think YOU helped make it fun and cool and EXPECTED. I’m so grateful for your work. We are so lucky you and your wife do what you do. 💜
@bisket2003 4 ай бұрын
First borns are the best. IT starts it ALL! Why you making me cry here man. YEASUS, cutting a huge bag of onions here.
@sharingchabadinspiration 4 ай бұрын
As the first and last child - an only child, i can really appreciate expressing 2 sides to EVERY story! Yours and ours! Now THATS REAL parents! You might have not had the knowledge for a first born but you definitely had the spirit of being a parent - a rare meaningful parent for life that so many kids would have loved even your "mistakes ". Keep being you!
@DudeDad 4 ай бұрын
I appreciate the message!
@Ms.Stephanie.C 4 ай бұрын
I lost my first child to a very rare/fast growing brain cancer when she was 6. Enjoy your firstborns, and all the others that come after. We never know how long we have with them. 💗
@tracycoles704 4 ай бұрын
Its So true that parents grow with the first born child. ❤️
@DudeDad 4 ай бұрын
Yup, just trying to figure it all out!
@kaitlynlewis6958 4 ай бұрын
This made me tear up! All of it is so true!
@catherineblinsky674 4 ай бұрын
So perfectly said. Thank you, from 58 year old, oldest child and now grandmother. ❤
@mc5366 4 ай бұрын
Wow! that hit home 100%! Thank you for such a beautiful ode to first borns!! I'm not crying, your crying 😭❤
@jwo412 4 ай бұрын
Awesome take! Great point and so true My mom, dad, only sister, brother in law, wife and first child are all firstborns...I'm surrounded 🤣
@katw22 4 ай бұрын
Beautiful message!! As a first born, I’m a little jelly of your first born 😂 When my twin bros were born, most of my parents friends meeting me for the first time would say “I didn’t know you existed”. Let me just say, what a wonderful thing to tell a child, for sure will not cause any issues 😂😂😂
@Thenextchapterofthisjourney 4 ай бұрын
I’m not crying, my eyes are sweating. So well said Taylor
@melatwrites 4 ай бұрын
My oldest is twenty now. He has three younger siblings still at home. This is true in every way. Beautifully expressed. Thank you.
@TashoPR 4 ай бұрын
Shout out to all the first borns (including myself) ❤ this is so true
@kathleentayl 4 ай бұрын
I LOVED IT!! So totally true, my firstborn is one of my greatest friends. Now that they are adults with there own kids and I’m (older🤣) , it’s their turn now….
@jeepgirljody 4 ай бұрын
lol... wait what... I'm the oldest - I didn't get squat! Siblings are the best though!
@patriciadurham643 4 ай бұрын
How precious!!!! Love it!!!
@DudeDad 4 ай бұрын
Thank you! 😊
@patriciadurham643 4 ай бұрын
@@DudeDad you are so welcome! You have such a beautiful family!!
@SPDSTA05 4 ай бұрын
Dang Taylor, you didn't have to make me start crying at work!
@DenisJava 4 ай бұрын
It’s been 34 years since our first was born. We raised her and her 3 siblings. This is so true, raising your first is a crash course of OTJ training. Mistakes were made, but she’s done a fantastic job of being an adult. As have 75% of our kids. That last one is still struggling, hopefully he’ll get his act together soon. Thanks for this heartfelt message. The tears are real.
@BoldFollower 4 ай бұрын
I clicked knowing I’m gonna laugh then cry. You did not disappoint
@hashbestus8502 4 ай бұрын
Jeeeeeeeeezus, that gave my eyes the allergies ❤❤❤ You’re a really wonderful Dad💕
@npwhiteless1 4 ай бұрын
You're comedy is on another level, but these are by far my favorite @DudeDad videos!
@firstgendairy1137 4 ай бұрын
This is the kind of thing which I felt but could never put to words… wish I could’ve heard this from my dad or that I’ve made him proud as his son.
@robylove9190 4 ай бұрын
This was really beautiful, Taylor! I'm wiping tears right now 😭
@giovanniblood7370 4 ай бұрын
I'm not crying your crying. This is well said and on point
@MelissaB3 4 ай бұрын
Sending our firstborn off to college, out of state, this summer. Very meaningful and sweet video, thank you! ❤
@amiedevoll7754 4 ай бұрын
I'm not crying, you are!!!❤😊
@davidreed833 4 ай бұрын
You come to this channel for the laughs and get kicked in the feels!! I'm a fan of this video for sure.
@tamirabold3644 4 ай бұрын
Amazingly done! Such a sweet perspective.
@sherryr1222 4 ай бұрын
Love a return to this type of video…and rings with truth in every parent’s heart
@FatemaRasul 4 ай бұрын
Didn't expect to cry! What a beautiful heartwarming message!
@dawnsutherland3461 4 ай бұрын
My first born is a dad of three girls. Loved your video. Brought tears to my eyes. Love you all
@jodienewell1705 4 ай бұрын
Crying as I watch this. Such open hearted honesty. Bless you, Heidi and your family. Well said!!!
@laurennoire8759 4 ай бұрын
Wow, this brought tears to my eyes. I wish that my parents had told me this, so thank-you for putting it so thoughtfully in words.
@Atkinson43 4 ай бұрын
God bless you and your wonderful family. I wish you nothing but the best.
@spencerfoster 4 ай бұрын
I just had our Second join us a few weeks ago and everything you said has hit home big time. Thank you for sharing! I really wanted to share this on Facebook but Facebook has blocked me from sharing your video!
@alexandraalexander9790 4 ай бұрын
Thank you Taylor ❤ this is so incredibly true and here’s to our first kids that literally changed our lives for the absolute better!
@lisabrewer3472 4 ай бұрын
Totes crying. Gotta send this to my parents. ❤❤❤❤ Thank you for so eloquently and sincerely sharing!! 💖 Happy Birthday to your 1st born!! 🎉🎉
@berlyn1187 4 ай бұрын
Oh god my tiny little heart! That was so sweet.
@janellknudson4573 4 ай бұрын
So sweet! I love when you make videos like this. Our first gets the most, but also has the most responsibility, expectations, and (like you said) mistakes from us. She handles it with such grace and joy. Definitely type A! ❤️
@Sarah-mi2rv 4 ай бұрын
The love that you and Heidi have for your family is palpable and beautiful.
@aniacool314 4 ай бұрын
What a beautiful message! I am a firstborn, and this really hits home. My husband and daughter are also firstborns. ❤
@gwynwellliver4489 4 ай бұрын
Right on! So grateful to have friends who had kids first, so we could learn from them and do what worked for our kids. ❤
@jasminemartinezmorel8331 4 ай бұрын
I have been having such a rough week as a mom of a toddler and 7 mo old. This video gave me so much encouragement. Thank you
@shan4606 4 ай бұрын
That was not what I was expecting from you. 😢. It was so sincere and absolutely heartfelt. So true. Ya all are amazing parents. ❤
@samdahlandsonsforge 4 ай бұрын
This was such a beautiful message. Such a blessing.
@burnyizland 4 ай бұрын
Dang it Taylor! There's no other person who makes me cry more than you! What a sweet message for Daddy's right hand man.
@lisamandel8816 4 ай бұрын
Wow, this is a perspective I needed TODAY. As my oldest and I have been having a hard time, that quote was perfect and something I will definitely be sharing with her. Thank you.
@scottandtaranafziger7287 4 ай бұрын
As a first born, this hit. As a parent, spot on! I have told my oldest many times how much I have learned from her! Love your videos!
@marie-leonieweidner 4 ай бұрын
Ugh ...this was so emotional and well said❤ i feel this for my first born too
@MandsU28 3 ай бұрын
Sharp left turn to exactly what I needed to hear as a mom 😭 their firsts are our firsts too. They get us at our best and our worst. But we’re always right there beside them. Thank you for this perspective ❤️
@rdgreeley 4 ай бұрын
What a wonderful father, your earnest love for your kids makes me feel hope.
@sagesullivan1589 4 ай бұрын
Watching this today, on my oldest's 16th birthday, it was impossible not to cry. So very relatable. Thank you for putting it all into words.
@AubriannaGonzales-uz8el 4 ай бұрын
Heidi and Taylor, thank you for all of your videos. We feel like we connect with you guys, as we have 4 kids as well, ages 8-1. With each new child, we were laughing and crying along with your pregnancy/parenting videos. Thanks for keeping it real and keeping us sane 🥰
@everydayshuffle2526 4 ай бұрын
As a dad - and a second on the way - this video got me! Appreciate the time you took to make such a special positive video with a great message!
@regina2152 4 ай бұрын
Omg having tears in my eyes. Love how you Guys remind me of me and my husband and our 3 little Kids. Love your Videos. Saying Hello from Germany.
@ImagineGriffins 4 ай бұрын
My first was born 5 weeks ago and I am in tears watching this. How can you be so funny and light hearted but also so sincere and real? You're an inspiration.
@Mrs.Boudreaux 4 ай бұрын
Absolutely beautiful and well said…my son turns 1 in a couple of days and I’m due for our baby girl in May. This past year has been so many trials and errors, but it’s also been the absolute best year of my life raising my own child. It is beautiful seeing them grow. It goes by sooo fast.. Made me tear up to be honest😢 so many things I’ve learned and also growing up along the way. I will cherish these moments for rest of my life. Nothing compares to our son and he has brought us so much joy. ❤️ Makes me want to grab him out of his crib right now and give him a good long hug🥰
@kristinagarrett1827 3 ай бұрын
As someone who just lost my Dad, this video is a beautiful tribute Theo will love forever. It has me in years. It's so compelling how deeply you Love Heidi and your children. ❤️ God bless you
@Piggles1 4 ай бұрын
I love you and your wife. Your love and dedication to family is beautiful.
@Ourse82Grizzli 4 ай бұрын
I wish I had a dad like you. Keep being awesome!
@allene2307 4 ай бұрын
I'm not a parent and I'm not the oldest child, but I am crying while watching this. You're a great human being!
@samuelrew4520 4 ай бұрын
This gave me a tear. I feel the same way about my firstborn. Well said, Taylor.
@Robert-pk8iz 4 ай бұрын
You sob I wasn’t ready for that 🤣. Keep it up man ! Amazing
@MC-iz5ln 4 ай бұрын
loves you guys, thank you for always sharing❤
@shannonimlay1068 4 ай бұрын
This is so beautiful and so true. If only our firstborn's realized how much they changed us...how deeply we fell head over heels in love with them, how they taught us to love unconditionally...it's been the most beautiful journey of my life!!!!❤
@XJ_Crochet 4 ай бұрын
Sitting here crying and sent this to my 15 year old son. Thank you for so eloquently expressing parenting and the journey we go on with these amazing humans we are honored to be with.
@thekellyoshow 4 ай бұрын
Sobbing. This is beautiful.
@jessicawatt8643 4 ай бұрын
Geeez, way to crack my heart wide open ❤️ 🥲 almost 6 years with my first born. You are my shooting star, Apollo! Way to take on being the first born!
@bobmetzger6215 4 ай бұрын
Dad of two boys in tears right now. This is gold. Thank you.
@addynursetobe2024 4 ай бұрын
Thanks for making this!
@BakerOverland 2 ай бұрын
Just got home from my first born's graduation. Watched this and broke down. Needed words for this. Thank you.
@RedKittieKat 4 ай бұрын
I'm a first born about to turn 60 🥰 This was sweet, funny and pretty accurate. Love this 🥰
@jayaom4946 4 ай бұрын
Yep, that sounds right for our first who's 18 now. We give everything to him but we also make adjustments for the other kids to raise them in a better way... This video was so touching. I always wanted to have a dad who felt this way about me.
@wandaauman7593 4 ай бұрын
So sweet and he will never forget the love of his parents. They are lucky children. So many children don't have this and it's so sad. God bless you all. They grow up way too fast.
@wishingonthemoon1 4 ай бұрын
Your kids are so lucky. What a beautiful message, you are giving them fantastic childhoods. As the oldest girl in the family, I didn’t have a childhood. I was just another parent to my many siblings. Expected to take care of them, regardless of what I wanted or needed. Don’t make your older kids little parents. I had a serious discussion with a friend of mine who wants four or five kids and has two already. She asked me how it was growing up in a big family. And I said horrible, I was the oldest. I didn’t have a childhood. And she said she’s heard this perspective more than once, and has since decided to wait for her two to grow up more before she starts on the next two or three.
@laurenaf8367 4 ай бұрын
I don't even have kids and you got me crying over here. So good, Dad.❤
@mommabear3132 4 ай бұрын
Fudge,,I really needed to hear this right now. ❤ thank you dude dad. 😢❤🥹
@classicrockonly 4 ай бұрын
Heck yeah man. Good video. Both my wife and I are firstborns, and I am watching this while holding my firstborn who is a few months old. It’s a great unknown but so good
@briancampbell124 4 ай бұрын
Beautifully spoken.
@MomDawg 4 ай бұрын
So absolutely true as my oldest son is now 19. And my youngest is 7. We have 6 children. There is such a learning process with parenting! It never quits. I learn something new every day. 💚
@thewifey6564 4 ай бұрын
Oh my goodness.. wasn't expecting to cry 😭.. it's so true.. I feel this so much with our first born.
@sarahphillips2510 4 ай бұрын
Ummm how I’m I crying?! So true!!! Beautiful video.
@patchesdriftwood34 4 ай бұрын
Cheers dude dad! Our son turned 2 on 3/10 and our baby daughter was just born on 3/11. Our son is having to adjust to major changes but he is also excited to be a big brother. ❤️
@laurenb9479 4 ай бұрын
So beautiful and spot on. My husband and I are both the oldest and our oldest kid also has special needs, so yeah...lots of firsts!
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