One thing you must understand about men if you want to be less hurt

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Konscious Kirk Hazell

Ай бұрын

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@triplegrace155 Ай бұрын

"It is my responsibility to know if a man wants me". Hell, yes.

@JohannaGOETZ770 Ай бұрын

"If I need to check you I need to check myself out."

@yournamemustbejealousy2062 Ай бұрын

"It is your job to figure out if you are unwanted." 💯❗❗

@magicalindigoadult3838 Ай бұрын

Yes it will save time you know how many women waster 30 years not knowing till they found out and wasted time waiting to see so it is your job to know so you don’t waste time

@MizzNee796 Ай бұрын

when I realized that I kept picking unavailable men because *I* am unavailable....🤯

@jenniferhaynes8625 Ай бұрын

This one,trauma responses.

@Dekets890 Ай бұрын

Don’t ever stop making these videos your saving livessss

@tonjagee11 Ай бұрын

He saved mines for sure 👍

@beatricebrownsnipes1337 Ай бұрын

Absolutely

@lindahemmings6746 Ай бұрын

Yes! I totally agree!! This message really resonated with me!

@Crgb777 Ай бұрын

Kirk, there is so much freedom in this message! Thank you! I have decided to release my anxiety, and instead wait for and welcome the man who is naturally inclined to show up for me the way that I need! I haven't met that man yet, but I know what it looks like! Pro-tip ladies: Focus on what they DO, and not what they SAY. They can "Good morning beautiful" you all they want, but if they dont show up for you none of that nonsense matters. Meanwhile a man last year drove 4 hours across 3 states just to take me on a date. The morning of our meetup, he didnt send me not one Good Morning text - none at all! I was unsure if he was even still coming to meet me, so when I called him that morning - he was already in the car and had been driving 2 hours already, half way here to my city 😭 He was a lovely man, and we dated for a couple months after realizing our lifestyles weren't a good fit. But know that men that love you DO - they don't do a whole lot of sweet talking.

@timekabolden5309 Ай бұрын

😮😮😮😮😮😢

@user-dl5qs1xi4d Ай бұрын

I agree. I go for unavailable men it seems (not married but emotionally unavailable) because I enjoy the passion of love but not the responsibility.

@saraht8474 Ай бұрын

And what are those responsabilities for you?

@timekabolden5309 Ай бұрын

😮

@donnajeffreys8252 Ай бұрын

Stop making excuses for a man who is mistreating you, disrespectful, ghosting you or just not treating you like you know you want to be treated. Let that joker go and pickup your self respect, find your peace 💙 what you except only gets WORSE AND WORSE PERIOD.

@duffykarlston873 Ай бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏 Very well said. For Lord's sake, how can women still stay in situationships and marriages being constantly cheated and disrespected and humiliated??

@user-hm5dm2gx3k Ай бұрын

😂 I'm checking their tail out of my life. They know what they want just seeing what you are giving away with no obligation. 😅😊

@angeg100 Ай бұрын

There are men who are in their 60s who seemingly were broken by other women and sometimes by their own behaviour. These men seems afraid now to be in a proper relationship with a good woman.

@teenyafrombim8642 Ай бұрын

Dealing with that now. I thought due to his age it would be different

@kantik2118 Ай бұрын

Ladies, stop it: men will invent thousands excuses to misbehave and mistreat women. They do not care. They just want a nurse and a purse acting like trash. Know your worth and don't waste it on trash

@ka8155 Ай бұрын

SAME HERE@@teenyafrombim8642

@rondamccain8062 Ай бұрын

I totally agree you get all the excuses! And always hollering about Peace. But they don't have no peace inside them. Cause if they did wouldn't be any need to say it your have it! Scared of commitment & married. Chasing ass of any age & in their late 60's needing to sit all the way down! Plus trauma from childhood. Total mess don't know what they want at all!

@rondamccain8062 Ай бұрын

@@teenyafrombim8642Lady my grandma had a saying: Some never change or grow up!

@rikkiwinfrey1229 Ай бұрын

No such thing as being less hurt… if he hurt U , your hurt.

@preciousstone2782 Ай бұрын

Not checking his drawers tho.... I'm at work crying with laughter...

@sharonayewale4634 Ай бұрын

😂😂😂 These are hard sayings, Kirk..., but true! We put so much responsibility on the other person all the time in relationships... "It is your responsibility to keep your peace not theirs to bring you peace!" Tough but true.

@sashaenglish2755 Ай бұрын

Communication is your energy.. that is one of the best ways to describe someone's intentions towards you... ❤

@jencaragia Ай бұрын

Kirk i can't get enough of your videos! You have helped me so much! Your logic and kindness just makes so much sense to me. You teach accountability, self awareness and self respect! Thank you and peace to you and your family 😊

@user-ef8vp8lw1e Ай бұрын

Naw I DO NOT put up wit what ya said! They ARE grown people so they should act accordingly I'm tired of some of them that are that way I'ma gonna attract one of the good ones thank you very much!!

@tanziewood137 Ай бұрын

More clarity to women in terms of “being unavailable too

@MaryMiles_ Ай бұрын

I don't know if this was a question but, if it was, here is your answer: if you go for people who are emotionally unavailable, and this includes even friendships and family relationships (these are often where this dynamic starts), you are emotionally unavailable yourself to be tolerating their abandoning behaviour. Because, if you are emotionally available to yourself, you make prudent decisions which protect your emotions, from people who seek to use you. It is when we are emotionally irresponsible ourselves that we are not our own emotional protectors and, when we are not our own emotional protectors, we entertain predators and parasites because they fill a hole in us that we are called to mature to fill. Sometimes, if we are raised by an emotionally unavailable parent, and this includes the parent who was too involved without enough boundaries to allow you to grow as an individual, we normalise this emotional unavailability in relationships because normalising it is what we had to do to feel safe when we were young. Now, as adults, we are called to see when this coping strategy is 'outdated' and, consequently, we acknowledge our physical/mental/emotional vulnerability. It is now our responsibility to share our vulnerability with ONLY those who, little by little, have proven they deserve, can be trusted with it. If not that, no deal. That is what it means to be emotionally available to yourself; to be your gatekeeper. Too many people fail to exercise this responsibility and blame the other person for doing them dirty. It is our responsibility to take our time to get to know someone's character/pattern and see if they deserve to be in our emotional world.

@MZIAMTHATIAM Ай бұрын

“Pants up to his nipples!” I’m not with you today! I GOT THE MESSAGE THOUGH! THIS MINISTRY WORKS LADIES AND GENTLEMEN! Save Yourselves!

@konsciousKirk Ай бұрын

lol❤️

@nesleecharles9059 Ай бұрын

Make it plain, Kirk! Make it plain!

@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Ай бұрын

I feel the only reason why we have these videos in the first place is because women are more desparate for relationships than men are. They have that repuation because of the big ole' BIO CLOCK! ... As well as a relationship and family life was sold to us when we were kids, but what were men playing with? Boys? Exactly. ...Plus, the added challenge is that we are often TOO NICE and TOO GIVING mostly because yeah, the relationship thing and we generally want to think about what's good with a person (at least I did), these were some of the mortal mistakes I made with men, hence I am here! ...Made men's approval something I really cherished! ...That oh so hard to get title of a being somebody's WIFE and the title of mother! .... But then, maybe the mother part, maybe (especially if it's not too late) I can do myself? I really don't know, but that last break up (where my ex left me), oh man did that hurt my self-esteem for some time!

@c.edwards5421 Ай бұрын

💯💯🎯🎯🎯 you are absolutely right about the swag

@Ruthforme Ай бұрын

Thank you Kirk, thank you.😊

@goodgirlee01 Ай бұрын

Hey Kirk, off the subject what is your dental routine toothpastes and mouthwashes cause your teeth are on point. Much love from WA State. Just learned about you last week🇺🇸🙏💞

@AmericanDreamer Ай бұрын

and diet too !!

@user-ss2vn1xr9s Ай бұрын

💪🏾👑Thanks to you and your videos helped me a lot to get out of a relationship that, no matter how physically handsome on the inside, is rotten, a person who lies is capable of anything and I decided that I cannot let go of the red flags that collide in my mind because They are true and I don't have to accept a life that I don't want to live, anxious and with doubts, if I feel like that that won't work and thanks to your videos because they also gave me more drive and to accept that he doesn't love me and I deserve to be treated like a Queen is not like trash and I can't settle for anything less. Thank you for being a boost for me and for many women.

@lisashannon238 Ай бұрын

Thank you well explained

@timothysturgess5985 Ай бұрын

Women have a “beauty and the beast” fantasy. Practically all women have this unconscious desire to find the man that has the wild, dangerous, and adventurous personality, who has the capability of being considerate, generous, and competent. In other words they want to be the woman that pulls a man out of his player lifestyle. Of course this happens when a man is ready and wants to have a change of life style, as much as it is he will change for the women that he wants. A man will still play with the women of his dreams if he’s not ready to change his lifestyle, just the same as he will play with a woman he doesn’t want when he has had a change of lifestyle. It’s all about timing. Let go of the story line that society has taught women, and men let go of the fantasy that comes from pornography. There’s no such thing as the perfect partner, rather it’s finding the person that has flaws that you can look past or live with in harmony with your flaws.

@myprincess0875 Ай бұрын

Absolutely this 👆🏽

@myprincess0875 Ай бұрын

Absolutely this 👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽

@timekabolden5309 Ай бұрын

😮 💯🤦🏾‍♀️😆😩😩😩😩😩

@dollyscott-payne7488 Ай бұрын

*Dang, now I'm going to have that song in my head all day:* 🎶 🎵 *Beauty and the Beast* 🎶 🎵 😆😆😆

@11Bryght999 Ай бұрын

Negative, I have never wanted to get in a relationship and have to put in work to change him. If I know hes a player I'm not wasting my time or my energy.

@rhodanthenya8694 Ай бұрын

Perfectly said!!👌🏾👏🏾

@dannaholiday5108 Ай бұрын

It’s that simple.😮

@jasmineausl73 Ай бұрын

Great analogy! You're so right!

@lindahemmings6746 Ай бұрын

This by far is the best knowledge I’ve heard EVER! This video resonated with me! Please don’t stop making these down to earth, straight up in my face, unsugared coated videos! I needed to hear this!

@mercymachete332 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this clarity❤❤❤

@carolaila 22 күн бұрын

Thank you for this message Kirk, its right on point ❤

@rachelross5829 Ай бұрын

Thank you! I needed to hear this again. I cant accept this ine dosnt want me cause i meet so many who are not ashamed to show they do. The energy does confirm it. Thanks again. 😢 Yeah....the words maybe ....never...... says it all. I appreciate your videos

@valenciachambers1982 Ай бұрын

Hey Mr. Kirk thank you for telling the truth . Keep bringing the knowledge to those who are listening u are funny but u telling it like it is I appreciate you sir. I want be making the same mistakes again... Keep it coming be blessed

@user-fh8gk7xl7d Ай бұрын

This was the confirmation I needed thankyou for making this video! ♥

@TP-kj5rm Ай бұрын

True, thank you

@ingridwiggins9575 Ай бұрын

Lol cause ur ass ain’t going nowhere lol 😂 ain’t that the truth ha ha! U r on point. 🤗🤗🤗

@sunnydestinyb6125 Ай бұрын

Bammm!!! There you go, real truth spoken here.

@chrissycakes8927 Ай бұрын

Well spoken❤

@violetbetancourt930 Ай бұрын

So true

@user-ie3xu9vc5w Ай бұрын

So. True

@TP-kj5rm Ай бұрын

Good explanation ❤

@georginaasantewaa1175 Ай бұрын

Thank you kirk

@belinda129 Ай бұрын

I love your content you speak the truth always.

@konsciousKirk Ай бұрын

Thank you 🥰

@demetriahewlett6508 Ай бұрын

It’s not my place to figure out what a man wants

@coachtee7 Ай бұрын

😂 Lol. Pants up to his nipples. 😂 Okay, my brother. This one gets a gold star 🌟. I like all your videos. But this one is it!!! 😊

@jencaragia Ай бұрын

Thanks

@user-ch3qk9qf5n Ай бұрын

I agree 💯 ❤

@bobbysgirl8365 Ай бұрын

You give sound advice

@artbysid Ай бұрын

Wise words. Do you have videos where you do a live interview with any of your clients? I'm just curious for those women who went from this type of behaviour to secure, what signs did that man show you he was up for the job so to speak. Especially for the shy guys who may move slower but with purpose. Thanks

@mycrazylifeofficialsllc Ай бұрын

I'm learning

@tiff7138 Ай бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯

@user-xi2hq1re4y Ай бұрын

OUCH! OUCH! OUCH! 😢😢😢

@touchedbyanangelsalon1960 Ай бұрын

10:15 Sage Wisdom 🌠

@francesh1903 Ай бұрын

Gotta let go 😢

@cherihopkins9278 Ай бұрын

👏💯

@BlessMeWithWisdom Ай бұрын

❤

@user-ip9rw8qz8j Ай бұрын

Hey love❤

@JustMe-og2cb Ай бұрын

👍🏽👍🏽

@dangelascott3963 Ай бұрын

I only listened to bits and pieces so I may have missed some important messages... it sounds to me like you're saying that around the time when a man decides he wants a trustworthy partner, kids, good mother for those kids, someone he can grow with and devote himself to... (age 40) is about the time when equally mature women have what are considered high risk pregnancies.

@dangelascott3963 Ай бұрын

@@suziesmith8288 The upside there is that the guys probably have more life experience and stability for their new families by those ages. Here in the US, there are probably as many successful "May-Dec" relationships as unsuccessful ones. Here's to everyone knowing themselves, their partner and what they want.

@montecito12 Ай бұрын

Wow! We checking all that? I wish I would. If I have to check, I'm out!

@tamekshenderson2877 Ай бұрын

Kirk, I have enjoyed some of the things you've spoken on. This one I did not get jìggy with. You kept repeating yourself. GIVE WOMEN CREDIT! WE KNOW WHEN TO LEAVE TRASH IN THE DUMPSTER!!!! MOVE ON TO MORE TOPICS THAT WILL ACTUALLY MAKE MOST OF US MATURE AND HEALED GROWN WOMEN, LISTEN TO WHAT YOU ARE COMMENTING ON. PLEASE?!! BECAUSE AT THIS POINT, I'M BORED.

@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Ай бұрын

Underwear? Lol.