Our TRAUMATIC week with Mikko

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The Gentle Life

The Gentle Life

9 ай бұрын

This last week has been nothing short of exhausting. Mikko has been in fear of something, and we have been straining ourselves trying to figure out what it is. Everyday has presented new and reoccurring challenges that are making us question if we're doing something wrong...
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@lashawnstossel3393
@lashawnstossel3393 8 ай бұрын
I have a crazy idea, hear me out y’all.. The only reason I suggest this is because something similar happened with my son. Although he could tell me that the tree branch hit the window. He would not go anywhere near it for a week. So my husband and I decided to hit the window and say NO!!! Saying it loudly. We would do this every hour. Then we would say NO! Leave JT alone!!! Finally he came to watch us and at first looked at us like we were crazy. Finally he came over and did the same thing. He eventually started laughing. Although he was still a little scared, that initial terror started to cease. I know it sounds crazy but maybe it will help some? At the very least laugh a little at her crazy parents?? You are both amazing and you have so many prayer and thoughts with you everyday!
@Narrow-Pather
@Narrow-Pather 8 ай бұрын
I don't think you're "crazy".... Evil is on the rise and many are going to experience things they can't explain.
@ericapaul7989
@ericapaul7989 8 ай бұрын
I don’t think that’s crazy at all! I know similar things have worked for my cousin (high functioning autistic) and my daughter (non verbal & low functioning). The challenge is knowing they will understand the cause and effect of it. When they are non verbal it’s so hard to really “get” what they know/understand.❤
@sherri1304
@sherri1304 8 ай бұрын
You’re not crazy and what you demonstrated was very very healthy and helpful for him. I absolutely love trees but when a storm is coming with high winds that can be a very scary sight bc it’s unpredictable. And I was scared of everything as child and it’s very paralyzing and even as an adult to be in fear 😞
@NtricateMynd579
@NtricateMynd579 8 ай бұрын
Its not crazy at all. Sometimes with that age we have to humor them even if it makes no sense. That helps them feel safe and not alone. Maybe her imagination is scaring her because she cant process whatever is scaring her. Poor baby. Being scared is the absolute worst. I have no idea how people do it for fun. Children go through these stages. This too shall pass mom and dad. Praying for yall. Lil Miko is a blessing and you guys will get through it together. God bless!! ❤
@jigglypuff_foryoutube1700
@jigglypuff_foryoutube1700 7 ай бұрын
@@Narrow-PatherI love the username!
@reginadeadrick2902
@reginadeadrick2902 8 ай бұрын
Please note that she goes to her place of known safety, the secure place of rest in your bedroom, and with the only two people on the entire earth that her mind tells her she can rely on to understand what she cannot express. She likely is experiencing some level of frustration that she isn't able to express or articulate the fearful "things", so she avoids the space where she recalls first experiencing the fear. I have no idea what will help, but stand in faith that God will guide and direct you both as you seek the answers that your sweet angel child needs and deserves. You are doing a stellar job; stay the course.❤
@BrittsGeodeK9s
@BrittsGeodeK9s 8 ай бұрын
I noticed Mikko got closer to the window before running off, something that always spooked me as a small kid was not realizing that at certain times of day the light from inside the house and outside would cause my reflection to show up in the window. I wonder if that's what she's having happen to her? I could be wrong but at least it's something to look into. You and her dad are doing amazing with her. I'm sorry that this has become something new and frightening for Mikko
@tbryant9765
@tbryant9765 8 ай бұрын
Naw sis it’s demons trying to sap her innocence. Hopefully her parents listen to me
@jo-annajordan2346
@jo-annajordan2346 8 ай бұрын
Maybe it's the Holloween decorations like the skeleton people may hang up on their window , by her not know it's fake. You guys are so patient and doing such a great job with her god bless you all 🙏
@kimberlylacy5814
@kimberlylacy5814 8 ай бұрын
U know it's Halloween season and just maybe she's spooked by the decorations on other houses she was fine being in different places of house all this time &:never had a problem maybe she's afraid of whatever she saw will be in in her room if she's by herself & feels more comfortable with mom & dad when she's sleeping
@soniarena5250
@soniarena5250 8 ай бұрын
@@tbryant9765so what do you suggest they do?
@andreamurray3876
@andreamurray3876 8 ай бұрын
​@tbryant9765 go away!!!
@aprill7592
@aprill7592 8 ай бұрын
My heart goes out to you guys for the week y'all are having. Just an observation.... I noticed she's staring out the window in the living room and then runs off. I'm just wondering since this is Halloween season, do your neighbors have Halloween decorations out in their yards, especially those decorations that are extremely tall and over-sized? If so, perhaps maybe this is what's causing Mikko's reaction and resistance to various areas of the home, especially the living room. Seeing that can be intimidating, scary, and traumatic. If there aren't any decorations out there, then hopefully you guys will be able to pinpoint what is happening so that her level of comfort can be restored. Hang in there. 💖
@tracytolbert2500
@tracytolbert2500 8 ай бұрын
This was my thought as well. My 3yr old grandson will point out Halloween decorations but the oversized ones he cries, shuts his eyes, and runs away from.
@val3078
@val3078 8 ай бұрын
Pray over your home
@uniquely__awkwardsimply__b2701
@uniquely__awkwardsimply__b2701 8 ай бұрын
I’ve never seen someone share such raw emotions and honestly from parents who just genuinely don’t know what to do on KZfaq. You guys have gained a lot of respect from me for the pure honesty of this video! I feel for you guys! I have no children so I can’t imagine how sad it must make you guys not being able to communicate enough to help her through whatever it is she’s going through! I will keep you guys in my thoughts!
@gianim8313
@gianim8313 8 ай бұрын
Praying for Mikko and your family asking God to give her peace and your family peace in Jesus name Amen.
@Narrow-Pather
@Narrow-Pather 8 ай бұрын
I join you in your prayer in the name of Jesus Christ/Yeshua.... Amen. 🍃⚖🙏🏾⚖🍃 JAH bless 🕊💜🕊
@kerryclark4516
@kerryclark4516 8 ай бұрын
We pray for healing and deliverance from unclean spirits from fear, as well as healing of autism in Jesus, name, nothing is impossible
@arianajo40
@arianajo40 8 ай бұрын
Your doctors should have recommended mikko for speech therapy and ABA therapy longggg time ago beautiful!! Even occupational therapy! my son hasn’t been diagnosed with autism yet (he is being tested in March) he just shows a lot of signs but the doctors recommended therapy from the very beginning! Mikko definitely should get extra help from others it really is beneficial and it shouldn’t be all on the parents! My son has had many improvements since starting speech and occupational therapy. Both of you are doing great!! Don’t beat yourselves up. Wishing your family well❤️
@zoeslovely7096
@zoeslovely7096 8 ай бұрын
Agreed! Someone is failing this poor family. I cannot even imagine how they thought they could have another set of twin babies too!
@marvelous9090
@marvelous9090 8 ай бұрын
Some families try things on their own before therapy and that’s ok. They learned from the experience and will now give therapy a try.
@latroyaltaylor8985
@latroyaltaylor8985 8 ай бұрын
I don't think it's a matter of it not being recommended. Maybe her parents just feel as if they can attempt to provide in house ABA and speech therapy. I would've tried this with my daughter but her father passed when she was only 4 weeks old. So I'm a single mom working full time with no help. So my only option was to get outside help. I can honestly say I have seen improvements. My daughter currently gets occupational and speech therapy. And scheduled to start ABA within the next month..
@BlastFromThePastTheGoodOldDays
@BlastFromThePastTheGoodOldDays 8 ай бұрын
Go careful with ABA. As someone with Autism I can say I and a lot of other people with Autism do not like or support ABA. ABA forces the autistic person to exhibit neurotypical behaviours and fit in with the neurotypical world, many who have undergone ABA don't feel like it has helped them. It just forces them to mask. Some ABA practices are essentially dog training used on humans. Many autistic people with autism feel it is torture and traumatic. Especially when ABA corrective behaviours is applied to stimming- vocalizing, flapping other things people find 'annoying' ABA trains that out of Autistic people without supplying another outlet. It is more for the comfort of everyone else than helping the person with Autism. Forcing us into your world rather than you learning to come into ours. You can be forced to learn a behaviour doesn't mean you understand WHY you have to. People who support ABA are usually the ones who are acting on an autistic person's behalf and find them easier to deal with because they act more 'normal'
@almondkissed3794
@almondkissed3794 8 ай бұрын
Yup . My son will be 3 three next month and was diagnosed. He’s high functioning and able to say things but not complete sentences yet and he started occupational therapy at 1
@yoDezi
@yoDezi 8 ай бұрын
Sensory issues can be hard to figure out because it’s the child experiencing it and not the parent. But try to observe all her senses to find out what’s triggering her. Maybe the natural lighting is too bright. I know I typically can’t process bright lights and it is very overstimulating. Try closing the curtains or giving her shades to wear in the house. Also sometimes the environment is a big helping factor in how we regulate our bodies. I used to sleep on the floor sometimes, or in the closet when I was young because I needed to feel more grounded in my body and the bed just wasn’t it. If Mikko doesn’t like sleeping in her bed or in her room then try to find other places in the house she can rest. It may seem wierd and unconventional to make sleep places other than her bedroom but it might help. I used to build forts in the living room or sleep in the hall way.. bathtub.. anywhere but my bed. Idk how to explain it but it just helped me regulate my body better. And it didn’t feel like regular sleep time (which I never wanted to go to sleep) but it felt more like an adventure to sleep in a new place. Of course I returned back to my room after a few days and got settled in my normal sleep routine again but sometimes breaking up that routine helps. It is just a phase tho. I hope you guys get through it. I’m so happy to here you are considering ABA!! Please remember it’s not only helpful for controlling maladaptive behaviors but it’s about learning new skills and having an advocate to help navigate a world with autism. You got this!
@janesmith4h
@janesmith4h 8 ай бұрын
My Husband and I are drawing so much strength from you all. THIS is currently our life too, as our Grandson is also non-verbal...and fighting us like Tyson on EVERYTHING! Sending so much love your way, because I GET IT! ❤
@tbryant9765
@tbryant9765 8 ай бұрын
How old is he
@janesmith4h
@janesmith4h 8 ай бұрын
@tbryant9765 He's 2. Most would say he's too young to KNOW if he has ASD. There were other factors though. Watching their videos of "Young Mikko" taught me soooooooo much. Sorry, a novel. Details are important though. .
@DeshawnPayne
@DeshawnPayne 8 ай бұрын
I have a grandson that is nonverbal he doesn't like certain food so that's scary because he doesn't eat much likes the lights on before he goes to sleep
@Kandymac
@Kandymac 8 ай бұрын
Going through this with my 3 1/2 year old non verbal, and I’m at my wits end…. Woke up at 4 am didn’t go back down til 10 PM and had meltdowns all day long…. Every day for over a week now …
@janesmith4h
@janesmith4h 8 ай бұрын
@Kandymac Sending you virtual hugs, because I know, first hand the frustration you're feeling. You could be the most even-keeled Christian, and STILL... Breathe, Mama! ❤️
@kimwalker6047
@kimwalker6047 8 ай бұрын
Praying for Mikko and family’s healing and peace in Jesus name Ame🫶🏽🕊️.
@jasintamoore3372
@jasintamoore3372 8 ай бұрын
Amen
@SharonByrd-zt7sd
@SharonByrd-zt7sd 8 ай бұрын
AMEN!
@shemekaphelps2602
@shemekaphelps2602 8 ай бұрын
It’s October and a lot of people decorate and do elaborate things for Halloween is there anything new that she can see from the window that may be frightening to her? I hope it’s a phase as well, she is such a sweet girl and y’all deserve a mental and emotional break that proper rest can give …prayers
@Kulfikulfikulfikulfikulfi
@Kulfikulfikulfikulfikulfi 7 ай бұрын
The vale is thin during halloween i wouldnt be suprised if she can see the creepers.
@c.sexton4819
@c.sexton4819 8 ай бұрын
My nephew went through the same thing. He would always see something in the ceiling and just start screaming at the top of his lungs. After a week or so he eventually stopped and returned to his normal routine, but my sister and her husband were never able to figure it out. Sending nothing but blessings and positivity your way. Hang in there.
@tbryant9765
@tbryant9765 8 ай бұрын
Was demons
@udhyam1601
@udhyam1601 8 ай бұрын
My verbal nephew,wen he was abt 10years used to cry in horror,wen he slept in a particular room. When the place was changed he started sleeping without any trouble.May the Almighty Allah grant ease and peace, AAMEEN
@Kulfikulfikulfikulfikulfi
@Kulfikulfikulfikulfikulfi 7 ай бұрын
My exes kid had the same thing but she could talk and would say it was a ghost. The house was strangely haunted and she would see this entity often. Pretty common for kids.
@TheLullabybunny
@TheLullabybunny 8 ай бұрын
You two are amazing parents. And the very best ones she could have , so beautiful to see the strength of love and dedication you have , even when it’s seems hopeless and super difficult . It’s emotional to see you never give up and I’m sure a lot of us wish we had parents like you growing up I hope the comments give you both some love from a far ❤
@carmengreenwood566
@carmengreenwood566 8 ай бұрын
Let us all pray for Mikko, her Mom and Dad. Father God please bring peace to Mikko and wrap your loving arms around this family. Sending angel wing hugs.
@EJJEFF-nx3hv
@EJJEFF-nx3hv 8 ай бұрын
Raising a nonverbal child is frustrating I have done it myself and I thought I would lose my mind at times What doesn't kill you does make you stronger Regardless of what frightened her which you may never figure out My suggestion would be not to force her to go into those places until she is ready for it herself You are jeopardizing her trust in you as parents if you bypass her nonverbal communication as she is expressing some type of fear whether rational or not So as a person who has experienced this with my Son as well as others children Lean on the side of trust and give Mikko the respect of understanding her fear You will see how important this trust bond is later throughout Mikko s life No doubt you sacrifice all of yourself as a parent Speech and cognitive therapy is a must and works wonders If she is creative, perhaps ask her to color or paint what she is feeling Even sculpture with playdough She may think in a more artistic way I do see something in her that gives me a lot of hope for her future And as a parent never give up on your child!!!! I will continue to pray for you all!! The journey is not easy especially when these children are young but from my experience it does get better The begin years especially with very little outside support are the hardest God Bless Protect and Keep You Strong 🙏❤
@leliapurky9462
@leliapurky9462 8 ай бұрын
STOP WITH THE ABLEISM!!
@christinacairo1032
@christinacairo1032 8 ай бұрын
Aww you guys are doing an amazing job loving and helping Mikko through !!! I’ve been working as a TA in a self contained classroom teaching children with autism for about 16 years… now that Mikko is classified is it possible for Mikko to get an AAC device so she can better communicate while still learning to use her words?…. You can alter the AAC device to have real life pictures as well as symbols with words so maybe Mikko can express her feelings and associate them with whatever is bothering her…. I’ve seen it help so man children express themselves and gain language! Praying for you guys!!! You’re doing an outstanding job!!
@christinacairo1032
@christinacairo1032 8 ай бұрын
You can also use prompts and picture cards that show emotions(scared, mad, frustrated, happy, excited, tired, hungry etc.) you can prompt her by saying “I feel…” and have her choose a card…. Another prompt that helps is “Show me what you want… or What do you need” many times children will take my hand and literally show me what they want or need…. I know you’ve probably tried it all bc you guys are amazing but maybe just maybe that could help! Sending love and prayers!❤❤❤
@tammycrisel8692
@tammycrisel8692 8 ай бұрын
It sounds like anxiety and sleep deprivation. I'm raising my autistic grandson Ryder and i eventually had to put him on medication. I was so against it until i had to try something to save his sanity! The medicine is called clonidine and he takes 0.2mg twice day and it truly has made all the difference. Good luck God bless ❤
@The69167
@The69167 8 ай бұрын
I have that problem. Seriously!! The anxiety is no joke. I deal with it everyday!! You can't trust anyone nowadays!! It's like I'm not comfortable where I'm staying
@peacebalance8067
@peacebalance8067 8 ай бұрын
Yeah.
@cierracook6610
@cierracook6610 8 ай бұрын
My son is autistic and 9 years old and non verbal as well he takes the same medicine but only at night time to help him sleep.
@lunamaharuni
@lunamaharuni 8 ай бұрын
I hear you! My granddaughter is going on 6 and over the last year got kicked out of 5 daycares and one elementary school. My husband and I decided it was high time to step in and help my daughter, who is a single mom working a full time job and living independently. 4 months ago we got her in to see a children's psychiatrist and she was diagnosed with ADHD and on the autism spectrum. She is now on 0.1 clonodine patch and going to a behavioral therapy full day school program. Mom drops her off at our house in the morning, we take her to school and pick her up and she stays at our place until Mom picks her up after work. She has been excelling and doing amazing. I've raised three girls and never in my life saw a child like my granddaughter. Swearing, kicking, hitting, spitting, flipping people off.. My daughter is also taking family therapy and personal therapy weekly... Big changes and so much more peace in the last few months .
@LifeLoveBliss
@LifeLoveBliss 8 ай бұрын
Sounds like the kiddo is lucky and has good support system. ❤
@savedonlybygrace4705
@savedonlybygrace4705 8 ай бұрын
Something for sure is going on, all I know to do is to pray. Father I pray for Mikko that you give her peace and help her to show her parents what's going on. I rebuke and bind any attacks from the devil in the name of Jesus. Lord give her sweet sleep according to your word and strengthen her parents through this process, restore them and give them rest as well in the name of Jesus amen.
@keyahninaylor4974
@keyahninaylor4974 8 ай бұрын
Amen 🙏
@Barbara-qi3ir
@Barbara-qi3ir 8 ай бұрын
My grandson is 3yrs old and nonverbal. He also had days and nights the same as Mikko, I found that soft, easy listening music, mainly piano, helped tremendously. It would calm him enough that he would fall asleep. He still has episodes but not as frequent. Just know you and your husband aren't alone
@remeldafields8099
@remeldafields8099 8 ай бұрын
I'm agreeing with the Spirits...
@Titihookedthatup
@Titihookedthatup 8 ай бұрын
My daughter had a issue like this. We discovered it was light from outside reflecting in the house and it was scary for her.
@yoDezi
@yoDezi 8 ай бұрын
I was also thinking maybe there is some light sensitivity. The l icing room seems like it has a lot of natural lighting. While the other parts of the house not so much. Try giving her some sunglasses to wear in the house, or close up with window curtains.. we have so many sensory issues that we are processing daily.. and natural light is not something that we can control. So the only way she can control it is to avoid it.
@meghanc8940
@meghanc8940 8 ай бұрын
My son has autism and he absolutely love’s Mickey Mouse but I noticed that he started screaming and acting scared during the same part of a particular episode and it was when there was bright sun shining at that point.
@rosegoald
@rosegoald 8 ай бұрын
we had this same issue with my 3 year old but she's non verbal so it took us a while to figure it out
@KeyKeyJournals
@KeyKeyJournals 8 ай бұрын
I wondered if the picture in her room is scary to her at night, I had one in my room at 4-5 and would cry until my mother put it out of sight. My mind would make up creepy figures and still happens till this day I’m 35 and sleep with a light on.
@crystalsaiz5248
@crystalsaiz5248 7 ай бұрын
​@@KeyKeyJournals I'm grown and have a blanket of an Aztec warrior on my bedroom wall and i still get scared at night. It reminds me of the ice king in GOT. 🤦🏻‍♀️
@user-hy6ri7xo9d
@user-hy6ri7xo9d 8 ай бұрын
Praying for Mikko and your family Asking God to comfort Mikko and to give her peace and you all peace in Jesus name Amen
@helloworld5256
@helloworld5256 8 ай бұрын
Could she have seen Halloween decorations the neighbors put up outside? Also some content on KZfaq kids aren't "kid friendly" she could have seen something disturbing on her tablet. The last thing I could think of is maybe seeing her reflection in the window could have startled her.
@kcp8083
@kcp8083 8 ай бұрын
Aww so sorry sweet girl is having to go through this. Prayers to you all ❤
@supermommyfromtn8823
@supermommyfromtn8823 8 ай бұрын
Mama I'm right there with ya 😔 My little Maya has been just short of exhausting. She's 3 and just been diagnosed. Her recent thing is she's terrified of the headboard like she sees someone I don't. Her father died when she was 9wks old so I'm really trying but yes I get it and them being non-verbal makes it so rough. I'm sending you mama hugs. Our girls will get through this and we will too. Has any other moms seen this? Where they act like they see something that's not there? I'm wondering if it's possible autistic children are more sensitive to the spirit. I know it sounds crazy but I don't know what else it could be.
@mariascott1411
@mariascott1411 8 ай бұрын
Its called shadow spirits..they visit children to capture their lives. Im praying for my grand daughter...she says that the shadow comes to her room and she is scared to go to the bathroom alone...i prayed with her...she is better now but i will not stop praying those evil away....
@libranpoet
@libranpoet 8 ай бұрын
Absolutely possible. I'm a highly sensitive, empathic adult who worked with autistic kids for years, and they are so in tune with reverberent energies. She could well sense your husband around her, and because she was so young when he passed on, that his presence, though beautiful and protective, might be confusing to her.
@mariascott1411
@mariascott1411 8 ай бұрын
@@libranpoet wow..what a thing...to believe...
@mel999.
@mel999. 7 ай бұрын
Get her blessed and delivered.
@libranpoet
@libranpoet 7 ай бұрын
The paranormal sensitivity definitely crossed my mind too!
@pammygirl6194
@pammygirl6194 8 ай бұрын
You both are amazing parents. Mikko is such a blessed child to have parent like the both of you. You just keep doing what you are doing and my God give you the strength you need in these hard times.🙏🏽❤️🩷
@tekoyabarnes7029
@tekoyabarnes7029 8 ай бұрын
You two are doing an amazing job! I know it’s a lot, but you all are killing it. Where so many would have been lost hop, you all are still game planning. I hope this passes soon and Nikki is able to find a pic or some way to show you all what’s bothering her. I also pray you all get some rest soon. I wish I could come do something to relieve some stress. Hugs from Maryland ♥️🙏🏽
@graceandpeace1225
@graceandpeace1225 8 ай бұрын
I'm praying for you. Stay hopeful.
@marilynnjones951
@marilynnjones951 8 ай бұрын
Yes, getting additional trained resource professionals (speech) to help you all with her continuing progress is awesome. The love, patience, caring and time are the things that make this hard and sometimes challenging, and remember, this, too, shall pass. Praying for Miko and the entire family...keep on winning in love!
@ck4599
@ck4599 8 ай бұрын
First thought that came into my mind was to go through the house and pray the angels watch over everyone in the house❤❤❤
@Virtuouswoman73
@Virtuouswoman73 8 ай бұрын
Yes agree
@ginagibson407
@ginagibson407 8 ай бұрын
I pretty much commented saying the same suggestion for them to PRAY over their home and in EVERY room
@Narrow-Pather
@Narrow-Pather 8 ай бұрын
That was mine too.... Children see things that adults either don't see, or ignore. The spiritual realm is real, and it's not all of YAH/GOD... JAH bless 🕊💜🕊
@shenequademeritte7654
@shenequademeritte7654 8 ай бұрын
Yes pray over her and sing praise song through the house or play it on the radio or device. Praying for yall. Yall are doing an awesome job!❤
@ericaaubie860
@ericaaubie860 2 ай бұрын
@ck That is a great idea.
@janicesaunders4769
@janicesaunders4769 8 ай бұрын
I don't have advice or a shared struggle. All I can say is that I see you and your love for Mikko is so incredible. I want to say something to encourage you to take care of yourselves too, BUT I know that you are trying to do that too. So nothing but the biggest love to you both. I see you.
@EmeraldCovenant444
@EmeraldCovenant444 7 ай бұрын
She needs one of those cozy beds, made for autistic children.. They're very sensitive to growth vibration, and all vibrations.. they see and sense stuff, we can't.. mommy and daddy will always be the comfort zone. Sending You love, light, and many prayers for perseverance. As You journey through this. You will get through. Choose joy. And tickle time! 🫶🙏💫
@kateg6029
@kateg6029 7 ай бұрын
I used to get my kids talking books, they loved listening to stories and the calm voice. I also let my kids cuddle into my dressing gown when I worked nights, my son used to tell me that my dressing gown was like mum hugs. We also had a bed in the spare room, the first one in there got a full nights sleep and the other one would have the kids in bed with them. Just remember that Mikko probably feels the safest in your bed, maybe you can set a fold up bed in your room or in Mikko’s room next to her bed. I also believed that talking gently about all the things she likes can help disrupt the nightmares or night terrors, and help settle them down. Be gentle on yourself, no matter how frustrated it may be, give her lots of hugs, keep trying things until you find something that works. It is the autism that causes problems and not Mikko. You and hubby are doing a wonderful job, even on your bad days. Watching from Australia 🇦🇺 xx
@thenurse8063
@thenurse8063 8 ай бұрын
You two are amazing parents. I know this has to be difficult in ways we can’t even begin to understand. Let me say thank you for the patience and love that you have for your beautiful baby girl.
@Flowershark
@Flowershark 8 ай бұрын
I really pray this is just a phase that she will recover from. Stay strong, you're amazing parents and I can see all the love you have for your children. Speech therapy did wonders for my friend's son who is autistic. It really helped him find his voice. Sending love and prayers your way!!
@ericapaul7989
@ericapaul7989 8 ай бұрын
From one non verbal kids mom to another, you all are doing a great job and the love you feel for her really shines thru (as it always does with you all). It’s so obvious that you are concerned for her and not yourselves. I see you. I see that you are worried FOR her and just want to help. And I know how hard it is. My daughter is 10. COMPLETELY non-verbal and lately she has these fits where she BEATS in herself so hard she leaves huge bruises!! It’s so traumatic to watch her go thru this but they happen so spontaneously that I’m baffled. It makes me cry so hard when she’s in one of these fits cuz I just want to help and make her feel ok again. I totally feel for you both so much on this one. I hope you feel the love I’m sending ur way because my heart feels this for you. ❤
@p.z-r
@p.z-r 8 ай бұрын
My youngest son is now 25 years old and has ADD and Asperger's syndrome. He has been speaking since he was 5 years old thanks to a very good facility that enabled him and us to get the best out of ourselves. I still remember very well our desperation when he repeatedly had a meltdown and we were so tired that this shrill screaming pushed us to our limits. However, I got a very brilliant tip from a mother. She advised me not to pay attention to his reactions but to do something “mysterious” on the floor. So I started mixing and stirring the dough for muffins while sitting on the floor. I spoke quietly to myself and repeated spells from children's books. I spoke just loud enough for my son to have to listen carefully and understand me. I admit that I behaved like a witch from a fairy tale. It took a long time at the beginning for my son to become curious. In the meltdown it switched off completely and made an incredibly shrill screech, similar to a circular saw. After a few hours he showed very surprising behavior. He was suddenly next to me and pointed to the groceries, he probably wanted me to tell him what I was doing. That's exactly what I didn't do. I just continued until the muffins were in the oven. He stood in front of it the whole time and watched as the dough expanded and finally changed color. I took a muffin, put it on a plate, waved my magic wand (a Chinese chopstick) and then told him that this muffin will protect him if he eats it. His look said something like “now she’s lost her mind.” But it worked. Every time a little faster. I “conjured up” dough, ice cream, smoothies; everything that came to mind. It still works even today. As soon as my son feels that it's too much for him, he goes into the kitchen, collects some food and makes something out of it; always on the floor and always with mysterious marbles. The trick is not to react to this excited behavior so that it doesn't escalate. Maybe Mikka would be worth a try. I wish you strength, faith and very good nerves.
@L_lovelace
@L_lovelace 8 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤
@m.coleman
@m.coleman 8 ай бұрын
🙏🏽 Prayers to all of you. Wishing you all the best and looking forward to hearing and seeing more about Mikko's growth and experience with speech therapy and other EI services! ❤
@malachiharris1
@malachiharris1 8 ай бұрын
I am praying everything gets better for Mikko and the whole family ❤️🙏
@reedo9002
@reedo9002 8 ай бұрын
What if....you moved some things around and started doing most things TOGETHER in the rooms she's apprehensive about? Like a performative measure to get her to fear it less. Furthermore, if her brother and sister were to hold her hand and invite her to play, could that help? Maybe it's the fact that she wants control. She enjoys the comforts of mom and dad's room and doesn't want it to stop. But also, mom and dad carrying her to those rooms may make her fearful. I hope it gets better. Genuinely, I do. ❤ Prayers for Mikko🙏
@esthero6818
@esthero6818 8 ай бұрын
Vous faites au mieux depuis sa naissance. Vous êtes admirables. L'heure est peut-etre venue de vous faire aider. Toute votre force, votre énergie sont mobilisées pour le mieux etre de Mikko. C'est normal ! Vos deux autres enfants ne doivent pas se sentir délaissés.
@aliciajohnson8367
@aliciajohnson8367 8 ай бұрын
You guys are doing great in staying patient and gentle throughout this all. This probably goes without saying but trying out the aba therapy and speech therapy shouldn't feel like an "i told you so" moment/vibe from others around you (viewers, doctors, etc) and I hope you guys don't take it as meaning that everything you've done thus far has been wrong or harmful. I think its great that you are trying things in accordance to what mikko needs rather than what everyone else tells you is "the right way'". I'll be keeping mikko and your family in my thoughts and heart. And another thing that goes without saying is that you can by all means feel free to take a break from the channel for a while to figure things out. It may not be the main cause for all these changes but i have noticed that mikko is quite aware of the camera and maybe in that process shes also gaining self awareness and 'conciousness' so to speak which comes with a lot of new and sometimes difficult feelings so it may help to take a break for a while. Just a thought,, I just remember being 3 and 4 years old and hating hearing people talking about me/referring to me and sometimes people even looking at me was frustrating and i was undiagnosed autistic and now at 21 years old i still find that it takes a lot of social energy to even be perceived, let alone talked to, filmed, etc. She's probably going through that transitional stage of toddler to child which can be a lot for the child and the parents.
@LyraLove-lz3is
@LyraLove-lz3is 8 ай бұрын
Bless you guys! It seems that something really spooked Mikko. And it's easy to explain to a child that they don't have anything to worry about and explain that they don't have to be scared. With a autistic child that's very hard. My girl saw something on KZfaq when she was around 3 in a music clip that spooked her so badly. That by now nearly age 8 I still can't play music on KZfaq without headphones. They experience things differently and it can be very traumatizing to them. my best advice is to give it some time. If she feels safe in the bedroom just let her for a few days until she feels more secure to go back to the other rooms. I really feel for you guys but you guys are amazing! Hang in there ❤
@erinm1373
@erinm1373 8 ай бұрын
speech therapy is a great idea. i would recommend looking into what other autistic people have to say about ABA before you make any decisions. it’s a very controversial therapy that has been known to harm some people more than it helps. obviously not the case for everyone but i would definitely take that into consideration and know both sides of it before making any choices (which i’m sure you will because you’re great parents anyway :) )
@Godschild733
@Godschild733 8 ай бұрын
Do you know what aba therapy is? If the behavioral therapist know's what there doing they will come up with a plan just for that individual to help with coping skills,communication skill,independence skills and much more.
@erinm1373
@erinm1373 8 ай бұрын
@@Godschild733 unfortunately sometimes it works the opposite way. some of the criticisms for it are that therapists see things like being non verbal as a choice or something that’s simply hard to do rather than a complete inability. it also has been said to condition autistic people to mask their symptoms and basically force them into the “normal” look for society. in other words, it’s not about making the problem go away or actually helping alleviate the symptoms, it’s about making the child display symptoms in a more socially acceptable way, almost as if to help the family and the way others perceive them more than the autistic person themself. it’s also not child led like a lot of therapies and the things to be focused on are decided by the parents, and when it comes to a kid who can’t express how they feel as well as other kids, the things that are focused on in the therapy could be wrong and do more harm than good. that isn’t always actively a bad thing but it can end up being a waste of time and money.
@foxes468
@foxes468 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your most inner parts of your lives with us..Never in my 55 yrs have I ever experienced autism. I pray that your family finds the solution so that you all may have peace again.😔🙏
@nicoleford7127
@nicoleford7127 8 ай бұрын
I agree with you and your husband on starting her in speech as well as ABA therapy. It really will help her and both of you . Early intervention is the best way to help her and they can give you the tools that you need to assist her with her daily living needs.
@add7543
@add7543 8 ай бұрын
Sending you lots of hugs and peace for this chapter. My son is 7 now and we have intentionally decided to give tight hugs through all the various stages. We also started ABA and Speech Therapy at that age. Rooting for you my dear Gentle Life family. You help me in so many ways so I hope that the ancestors are helping to get the love and peace to you. 🤗🤗🤗.
@brinacoffman4584
@brinacoffman4584 8 ай бұрын
Yal are both doing an amazing job! Big inspiration to alot of us parents out there, thank you for sharing your world with us ❤
@tanyamiller606
@tanyamiller606 8 ай бұрын
Praying for you, Mikko and family 🙏🏽❤️
@luisamartinez6708
@luisamartinez6708 8 ай бұрын
I think you guys are such amazing parents, the way you stay calm and loving through it all... that's really hard, especially when you're sleep deprived. I also have to agree with you, ABA and speech therapy will help you guys so much. My son had very little speech before he got started with these therapies, within 6 months the difference was day and night!!! He was communicating so much better which helped with meltdowns. We also have learned so much from the therapist, how to better understand the purpose of the behaviors so we can better address them. I know ABA has a bad reputation, but the field has changed so much. It can be life saving when you get the right team! Also, you can always stop if it's not for you/your child... that's always an option. Definitely worth trying.
@D.Milton-Husaw6819
@D.Milton-Husaw6819 8 ай бұрын
My heart goes out to you guys..I can only imagine the toll that it takes on you guys as her parents but there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking outside help for your own sanity as well..Well wishes to your family
@goodwolf866
@goodwolf866 7 ай бұрын
You are very eloquent in how well you explain your family's challenges and you are very good at working towards healthy solutions for Mikko. Speech and OT could be very helpful as well. ABA can be tricky. A lot of autistic adults are speaking out about being traumatized by ABA practices. But honestly I think no matter what therapy you get, it is wise to make sure the therapists are ND affirming and on the same page as you. That said, that strikes me as part of your personality - you put Mikko and your whole family first. You two are doing an incredible job to help little Mikko and love her so much! Thank you for sharing this journey.
@ellenekman8557
@ellenekman8557 8 ай бұрын
You are amazing and patient parents. My heart goes out to you and to Mikko. Your in my prayers. God Bless.
@irenerojo2555
@irenerojo2555 8 ай бұрын
Hi precious! I follow you on Facebook. I started following you almost from the beginning. My grandson is Mikko’s age, and also has nonverbal autism. A lot of the ways Mikko is my grandson is as well. A lot of the stuff that you do with Mikko helps me out so much to do with my grandson. She just turned three and my grandson will turn three in February. So something happened when I tried taking him to the zoo. He wanted to run around and not stay put in the stroller so he had a fit and it was really hard to put him in because he wouldn’t listen to stay close by us it took me and my daughter to put him in and strap him up. That’s when I realized I might have to start thinking about ABA. That was not something that I wanted to do because he was so young. I’ve also realize that my grandson goes through phases, so I’m hoping that she is going through one of those phases as well . He did start in ABA a couple weeks ago and it was so hard on him because he would cry to not stay, and I would cry not to leave him. And this, too shall pass.
@Faith37471
@Faith37471 8 ай бұрын
Hang in there mom and dad you are doing a great job. ❤❤
@peacebalance8067
@peacebalance8067 8 ай бұрын
My heart and my prayers go out to all of you. You look tired, frustrated, trying to keep it together all while not knowing what to do except doing the best you can right now. I know that feeling of going through not knowing what to expect from day to day. All I have is prayer. All I have is God. I will pray for all of you. Please pray for me. We are doing a great job. This too shall pass. Much love and peace ❤❤❤
@tf2432277
@tf2432277 8 ай бұрын
Yess ma’am I love the new routine and speech therapy is great idea please quit delaying ,, beautiful family ❤
@KiyaSweetie
@KiyaSweetie 8 ай бұрын
I've been dealing with something similar with my daughter who is 2. I feel your pain and I pray it doesn't last long.
@RichnReneeJ
@RichnReneeJ 8 ай бұрын
Has she used her tablet again? This happened with my son last week and he's refusing to use his tablet. KZfaq kids has the Halloween button now so I'm wondering if my son clicked that and something scary popped up. I monitor what he watches but it only takes 2 seconds. Any neighbors have Halloween decorations up?
@RichnReneeJ
@RichnReneeJ 8 ай бұрын
Also, mom and dads room is the comfort room. So that's probably why she's avoiding all other rooms. Praying you both can figure this out 🙏🏽 I know how frustrating this can be.
@EmpressChan77
@EmpressChan77 8 ай бұрын
My son saw some Halloween stuff on super simple songs and it freaked him out!!
@kimbrent1971
@kimbrent1971 8 ай бұрын
My heart breaks for you Precious and Chris. You are outstanding parents. Sending all my love and support to you. This is such a challenging situation.❤❤❤
@moniquesmith5323
@moniquesmith5323 8 ай бұрын
I have an autistic child not sever but I'm crying watching this Mikko you got this baby girl
@bsquad1309
@bsquad1309 7 ай бұрын
Same here! I have an autistic kiddo, and my heart is breaking watching Mikko 💔
@alicia4002
@alicia4002 8 ай бұрын
I pray for your family's strength during this difficult time🙏🏾❣️
@Lysaidaromero
@Lysaidaromero 8 ай бұрын
I’m praying for you guys. I know it’s not easy my nine years old hate the dark and screams for me. He’s autistic so it’s hard to understand how to comfort and help him overcome his fear of the dark and I’ve tried everything. So I understand what you guys are going through. Mikko is so cute and it saddens me to see her so scare. I hope everything works out. 🙏🏼
@dawnreneemaness5602
@dawnreneemaness5602 8 ай бұрын
I’ve been watching you and your little girl for a while now and at first I was very skeptical that you were just too easy on her but after having watched you for these many months you’re amazing you are an amazing woman and I’m very impressed by what you’re doing and I look forward to seeing more videos and I just wanna do encourage you that I was completely on the other side of this until I started watching you on a regular basis and excellent work. Great job you’re an amazing woman. Thank you for sharing.
@pamelaferebee3648
@pamelaferebee3648 8 ай бұрын
You'll are in my prayers. I've worked with children like Mikko. They had to put them on low dose meds. Blessings 🙏🏾
@emme2937
@emme2937 8 ай бұрын
Make an appointment with her pediatrician. She needs a referral to a child psychologist. This is too much to try and handle on your own sweet family.❤
@celestesimmons3088
@celestesimmons3088 8 ай бұрын
Praying for wholeness and healing for your family. I love you guys like you are my family and will keep praying for all of you but especially for Miko! She has stolen my heart. You two are the best parents and I pray things change for the better. God bless❤🙏🙏
@ninageorge1289
@ninageorge1289 3 ай бұрын
Poor baby. I hope she finds relief soon.❤
@traceyfalls9839
@traceyfalls9839 8 ай бұрын
Praying for your family🙏🏾❤
@estrellitadelmar2547
@estrellitadelmar2547 8 ай бұрын
My daughter is autistic (level 3) and turning 4 in November. She had similar issues because she wasn't sleeping enough at night. Does Mikko sleep the night through? I know doctors aren't cheap, but maybe a trip to the neurologist would be a good idea. My daughter is currently seeing a neurologist, who had told my spouse and I (in our case) that our daughter was acting out so much because she wasn't sleeping enough. I hope you all find the answers you need and are looking for. This is really rough to see and reminds me of how my daughter was before getting on some medication to help her sleep at night. Edit: Obligatory, I'm not a doctor!
@priscillashepherd3850
@priscillashepherd3850 8 ай бұрын
Awww y'all are so patient with her I'm praying for you all the time ❤️ beautiful family ❤️❤️
@remeldafields8099
@remeldafields8099 8 ай бұрын
❤❤❤ This Family, you will get through this❤
@audreyphillips1795
@audreyphillips1795 2 ай бұрын
Praying for your family. You are so close to my heart ❤❤
@VeggieTrapQueen
@VeggieTrapQueen 8 ай бұрын
As parents, you guys have done, excellent job in proactivity in documenting, and helping her development throughout her journey. With professional help to guide you through the challenge I believe you both and Mikko will get through it!
@maisiewirth5594
@maisiewirth5594 8 ай бұрын
You are so strong mama idk how u do it. After awhile I would be wanting to cry.
@Rachel-ni2do
@Rachel-ni2do 8 ай бұрын
Stay strong! Sending hugs.
@Amarilys7777
@Amarilys7777 8 ай бұрын
It can be anything, even a Halloween decoration or someone wearing a mask. My prayers and patience for you and the family ❤
@shereemorrishorton5168
@shereemorrishorton5168 8 ай бұрын
Praying that the Angels ware watching over her. My daughter used to "see" things that scared her. I acknowledged her fears and told the things to "go away and leave her alone." She slept with me until she was no longer afraid. She stayed by my side until she was again comfortable to do so. Don't ignore her fears. They are very real to her. FYI, we tried ABA and speech therapy. Honestly, they were not helpful at all. Miko will respond to you as she sees fit
@gesielovenaya1908
@gesielovenaya1908 8 ай бұрын
Prayers work my friend please pray for her. I am a mother with testimonies if you ask. Again prayers works God can change impossible to possibly unclear to clear… love you princess Miko May the spirit of the Lord set your soul body and mind free from all things that keep you unfree. Love you princess Miko 💕💕💕💕💕
@keyahninaylor4974
@keyahninaylor4974 8 ай бұрын
Amen 🙏
@joycepetty2264
@joycepetty2264 8 ай бұрын
Poor girl.... I'm with you.... My granddaughter experiences the same things. I look forward to your videos for guidance.
@LifeLoveBliss
@LifeLoveBliss 8 ай бұрын
Please please please don't force her out of her comfort zone. Even if that means it's your room/bed. You'll probably regret it. After a traumatic event, we need lots of space and time to process. Show her it's ok if she doesn't want to go in the living room right now, but make it a SAFE zone. Change the decor when she's awake. Maybe have her help with something to change the scenery. Lots of hugs and pressure therapy when she's near the LR. PRAISE her afterwards. TALK to her about FEAR. TEACH her that word and give her a strategy. She already uses "come get mommy or daddy when I'm scared" so she's very intuitive. Coming from someone on the spectrum who needed this advice. I know this hard. From the parenting perspective (my toddler is nonverbal) as well as from the perspective of someone who is on the spectrum. You guys know she's clinging to safety because something is wrong. When you're hypersensitive to stimulation it can literally be ANYTHING. Something she saw, heard, smelled, etc. Tune into her. She's communicating a LOT, but it's just in code. You can do it. You guys know her best. You're amazing for showing your daughter compassion during these turbulent times. She'll get through it. 🤗 🧩
@juliazentner681
@juliazentner681 8 ай бұрын
Best parents.. no best people ever. Thank you..
@aGrapeInUtero
@aGrapeInUtero 8 ай бұрын
You guys are doing such a good job. Hang in there. This will pass.
@lsantiful1
@lsantiful1 8 ай бұрын
My heart breaks for you ❤praying for strength for you and your husband, you are doing Amazing!! Mikko ❤❤❤God Bless
@theresahargrave8959
@theresahargrave8959 8 ай бұрын
God bless you and give you all the strength you need
@michellemaxwell4383
@michellemaxwell4383 8 ай бұрын
Understand what you are going through and praying for you and your family in this time.
@michellejessup6618
@michellejessup6618 8 ай бұрын
As a day care teacher I used White paper Plates Used the whole plate and drew Happy. Sad, angry, scared faces. It helped toddler to identify their emotions. As they could point to the face and tell me how they're feeling. In the video, she's looking out the window before she runs away. I would consider covering the window with aluminum. So she can't see out, maybe it's Halloween Decorations. A dog, a cat, anything could scare her. But it seems related to the window. Prayers Being autistic myself. I know how difficult it is for the parents as it was hard for my parents too🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤
@orawright6305
@orawright6305 8 ай бұрын
Parents, I can only imagine what you are feeling. Address the most urgent need - getting rest. Let her fall asleep in your room/bed. Then you relocate to sleep. When she wakes up, she will realize that she slept without you. If you do not have a therapist for her, it's time to get one. But you both need to be rested so you can handle the frustrating episodes. If you have a pastor, have prayer for your house. Godspeed to you all. ❤
@nyesha6806
@nyesha6806 8 ай бұрын
Hi, everyone My son is now experiencing having triggers way out of the blue ; he used to deregulate now its harder and harder to get him to calm down and get back to the routine. Sometimes he starts feeling sick or has a tummy ache and does not know how to describe how he feels so he deregulates. He wouldn't go into his room for a whole year so I had to redecorate his room Dark curtains and LED strip lighting, lavender scents and most importantly indoor therapy swing and melatonin gummies and/or prescription for his deregulation. He was receiving ABA therapy but that did not help him at times I felt like I had to save him. So 😞. Every day is a different day. I try to pull out the positive emotions with him. I hope mikko starts to feel better. Peace and love Nicki and elijah
@jennifermallard465
@jennifermallard465 8 ай бұрын
Your family is in my prayers🙏🏾🙏🏾
@pretoriaafro5074
@pretoriaafro5074 7 ай бұрын
WOW, all these suggestions are so great, i truly hope Mikko will change so that she isn't afraid.
@ebonyrochon09
@ebonyrochon09 8 ай бұрын
Praying for you guys maybe it’s something outside that’s scaring her and she doesn’t know what it is ❤keep the faith and pray 🙏🏽
@feliciamiller6832
@feliciamiller6832 8 ай бұрын
Aaah baby girl 🩷🩷🩷😥😥. We experienced the same with my grandson when he was younger, maybe 3. A healthy kid, no health challenges. He'd only stay with me and in my room. When he did go to different areas of the house, one of us had to be with him. He'd reference "monster" Very heartbreaking.... come to find out, it was the Halloween decor at his school....it was a relief to have figured it out. The school was awesome about removing the scary/horror decor
@naturalsistar282
@naturalsistar282 8 ай бұрын
I am sending prayer of strength for you and your husband. I bind the spirit of fear Miko is experiencing. Ase 🙏🏾
@justaylex
@justaylex 8 ай бұрын
This is exactly what's happening with my son!! He doesn't eat much food anymore, wakes up in the night randomly (never used to). And I've been having to be next to him for him to sleep since he was 1 and he's now 3. I think maybe she has seen something outside, but it could also be something else. It's hard but honestly knowing I'm not alone in this struggle is really boosting
@j.moonial2909
@j.moonial2909 8 ай бұрын
My heart goes out to you. I'm a new mother as well to a 1 year old daughter. I never knew how hard motherhood was... wish you all well
@tmotz
@tmotz 7 ай бұрын
A mobile occupational therapist that specializes in helping non verbal kids in their own homes, would be amazing. I dont know if its a service available to you, but i do hope you all get some relief soon, You two parents are amazing and as a mum i salute your patience and perseverance and advocacy you exemplify.
@shellyfish9046
@shellyfish9046 6 ай бұрын
Congrats. Monster in the making.
@YG-ke9ld
@YG-ke9ld 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. ❤
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