"If you never say NO to what you don't want - you will never have the energy to say YES to what you DO want..." very good

"Worry is the interest you pay in advance for a debt you may never owe."

My name is Stephanie and I was also the bully at my school. I am so sorry to anyone who felt my wrath. I was isolated within my own family due to my mother's rejection of who I was. My sadness & loneliness manifested into anger & ruthlessness. I hope that anyone I hurt has healed and went on to meet life with nothing but acceptance and success.

This talk really pushed me forward to try and break away from a toxic friend that's been causing me worry for years. So thank you, because I really needed this inspiration.

Advice from a man turning 102 years old: "What is the secret to a long life such as yours?" " 2 things:" "1. Love what you do." "2. Don't worry. It never healed anyone and it will make your body sick."

TED Talks are totally giving me the education I didn't have as a child ! I'm so glad I can speak and understand English as a Frenchy ahah !

Dont be afraid to speak your truth -what you tolerate you worry about

im worrying because im watching this instead of doing a research paper...

I love her charisma and edge and the ability to present herself so interestingly charming than most ted talkers. Taking notes 📝

40% never happens 30% already happened 12% health worries 10% petty things 8% actual true worries

The way she delivers her message is incredible with her level of energy and enthusiasm....I loved it.

Isabelle....your speaking style and humour make it seem that you were meant to "live" on such a stage! Well done.

Watching inspirational tedtalks make me happy and bring me back to what I really feel is important when I feel lost

They say third times a charm, I have pass my step 1 finally🎉🎉 for all my repeat test takers don't give up and don't be discouraged.

I really enjoyed this TED talk - I thought it was smart, funny, insightful and honest. The part that stuck with me the most was: "If you can't say no to what you DON'T want, you'll never have the time or the energy for what you DO want." Awesome! Great talk :)

Where is the "I love it" button?!

Not avoiding, is exhausting as well! I was bullied ....from my first school, my family (no family protected me)...to school (no teacher defended me), work (no manager supported me). My patients loved me, my family members loved me...but I never had any defense. Up tp two years ago, bullied by the healthcare system that left me to die. I survived, and then still got no help. I never EVER enabled a bully. Don't think I am boasting and all proud, because while I can thank God for the strength and fortitude, I wasn't unscathed - a lot of abuse FOR not going along with the bullies. Excellent though, agree about the "smart" deVICEs which I believe was one of THE worst inventions. SocialistDistancing 101. Very,very good. Thank you :)

If you have no goals and/or aspirations than you worry. A daily/weekly checklist with the things you both want & want to accomplish. Don't live worrying about what others have planned for you(i.e...ur boss, family, etc.) Worry about accomplishing your goals.

this woman is sunshine!!

Your talk saved my relationship. I can't thank you enough.

Wow. That is quite an interesting insight. "What we tolerate we worry about". Means we aren't taking action. I suddenly see worry as a friend, just getting my attention to do something about what I'm tolerating. Like a light on the car dashboard indicating I need to make an adjustment. Cool. That is quite a paradigm shift.

This reminds me of a book of "Boundary" in which it teaches us say "no". Thanks Isabelle.

This has changed my life ....My God, i over worried about almost everything, thank you so much. I was almost surrounded with negative energy all day long and it was draining me but didn't know how to go about it. you've saved a whole life here

I've experienced that, when a week feels like a month of suffering. Everything was toxic with the person I'm with before, I am just glad that I had the courage and strength to get out of that relationship.

This ted talk, is confirmation for me to do, what I've been wanting to know for so long. I had to be the bigger person and tonight i sent the message. I embraced the hero in me today. No more worrying 🤓

What a FANTASTIC message that every single person needs to hear. Tolerate = worry; such a simple formula that when embraced, can make the difference between success and failure. Great delivery, very funny but not in a way that dilutes the important message. Congratulations on your successful TEDx Stanley Park talk Isabelle! You truly are "Built to Rock"!

I have a ritual of talking to God every day through out the day. I cast all my worry on God who cares about my life. He gives me wisdom to handle things and sometimes directs me to listen to Ted Talks. I listened to Harriet today and she talked about apology ...it was really englightening...so is yours ! thank you !

Great speech and energy, Isabelle! I loved every minute of your wisdom, character, and humor.

This brought tears to my eyes. Beautifully said. So empowering. I WILL OWN THE HERO IN ME! And I will not tolerate anything or anyone that dose not serve me greatness because greatness is what I deserve! Thank you Isabelle Mercier for this!

Love it !! Thank you for this ! Another good one is “ people only come to you because they know you will say YES every time even if you don’t want to . So your yes doesn’t really mean squat to them, but if you learn to say NO, when you do say YES finally they will feel special because they know you want to help them this time which means way more to them 💙

I had difficulty saying to no to my family, and they weren't a big fan of me saying no. They don't want any trouble from their kids, but they also don't want to be accountable for fishy requests that got me in to trouble. So, 20+ years later, I had it. And I took control, and established boundaries.

She is so charismatic. I am absolutely in love with this woman. Thank you so much for sharing, this is what I am really needed today.

What an amazing woman and an such an inspirational talk.

Loved this Isabelle! Wrote down some good notes. :) My favorite points were ritualize and schedule a date with worry - realizing it's 92% unnecessary anyway. You have such a loveable personality too. Thank you for sharing :)

2021! She was so engaging and so inspiring! Just in time with what im experiencing!WorryHolic! Love her hair and looks!Thank you Isabelle and Ted Talk!You Rock!

Tx Isabelle, this is one hell of a powerful talk.

I don't know how i land here, but thank youtube for provide me this brilliant talk. I've seen many talks latlely and this one is in my top 3. That was all that I needed to hear. Thanks a lot Isabelle Mercier-Turcotte .

What a privilege to be there live to witness this talk!!

Very compelling video about worry. I like "what you tolerate, you worry about." Kill worry with decisive action.

man, this is what I needed as a teenager... but growing up in the 90's we did not have youtube or TED Talks... todays youth is SO lucky

Great talk and I particularly appreciated the way in which you admitted to still worrying yourself. In Buddhism there is this idea that "what you turn your mind to you become"and I very much paralyse myself with worry much of my life. Learning to live in the moment and put worries aside for later is a very good thing.

nothing in the world is worth of your peace of mind

I was bullied as a child...thanks for sharing.

Beaming from ear to ear.....thank you Isabelle...it's for you:) Love it.x

J'ai été surpris d'entendre quelque chose d'aussi familier dans un ted talk! Content d'y voire un québécoise!

A wise man once told me "If you wake up tomorrow morning, and you think 'Gee, I'm glad I worried about that!' then it was worth the worry... if you worry about something, think "will I be happy to have worried about this tomorrow morning," dismiss that thought and do something that makes you or others happy instead.

I love LOVE the line what you tolerate you worry about.

Never thought I'd be writing one of *those* comments but... man, If only I had heard this when I was a kid.

Thanks for this talk, Isabelle. I am a therapist and I can definitely use some of these ideas with my clients. Great stuff!! :-)

Worry comes from the ego. Unconditional love comes from the soul. And when you get in touch with your soul, you will learn your self worth,your value as a divine being, and you find you have no need for worry. This is a great talk, thanks for sharing!

I would say one of the best Tedtalk I have ever watched. First time I listened to it was a couple of years ago. It changed my tolerance to bs and I value myself a lot more.

This is so deep. "What you tolerate, you worry about." Wow!!!

"But all my energy is spent on avoiding one person,... Stephanie.. The.. Bully "....am dead 😂😂😂😂....her story is scary but she's hilarious

This is awesome and very well told! Love your style and you do look free from worries! My father was a worrying person until the day he died. He worried about his children, family, loved ones, even the politics and the country, so we, as the children, have to make him not worry. I quit that cycle because it was manipulative and I don’t want to hide things just to make him not worry. I was hated big time by the family when I told the my truth. Felt guilty a bit but I felt free and liberated to be me and live my life. It is my life, his happiness is his responsibility, not mine.

Fantastic! Merci Isabelle! My mother made me embrace my hero within when I was around 12 yrs old, and I am also forever grateful. Love your energy, your passion and your humor!

I LOVE her hair, her outfit, her showcasing that tattoo AND what she’s saying. She’s being herself and I love it. Also love the shoes. 😊

So true! After I going though separation from my ex, my "appointment's with worry" was my therapy I had for a year. Talking about everything that I was upset about and going through used to make me feel worse. I felt relieved when it ended. Going to the gym during that year was very therapeutic and empowering. Also, saying "no" to toxic people. 💪 Amazing TED talk, thank you!🙌❤☺

"what you tolerate you worry about.... when you say yes and you really want to say no. what you tolerate will always sooner or later, drive you to worry"

Today I spoke my truth and got rid of such a weight !!! THANK YOU. I'm glad I stumbled upon this eye opening message a few days ago. I've been very stressed about a project I was asked to volunteer for. At first I was in but once I started to get more information about it and start to work with the team I had this guy feeling inside of me telling me I wasn't feeling it and that I didn't want to do it. But I didn't listen to myself and tried as hard as I could to force myself into it but deep down, I knew I was forcing myself (and not in a good way). It was litteraly consuming me with worry. So today I decided I was going to be brave and SPEAK MY TRUTH, be HONEST. And guess what ??? The person I spoke with was really understanding and kind and thanked me for my honesty. I am so happy that I took the decision to be honest. Now I feel so relieved and I feel stronger.

Isabelle's passion and amazing energy is contagious and addictive - simply amazing

Wow empowering changed my prospective. Im one of those who always finds herself saying yes and constantly worrying the outcome or why i have to always. Working out of those habits that do contribute towards worrying. Amazing talk!! 👏

Love this talk in every way possible. Thank you.

I was feeling really low. Your talk helped me through. Thanks a ton :)

Absolutely loved this video! Thanks for the inspiration. I've had quite a bit of worry and I think it's time to make an end to all these unnecessary worries

Congratulations!! One Million plus!!!

This was a very enlightening video. Often times I worry abt what my family thinks and so called friends. Especially in situations that causes anger and frustration. This was very helpful.

One of my favorite episodes of all times. I re-watch it from time to time as it is a fantastic reminder 😊

Absolutely brilliant how she connect with the audience.

I'm always seen as someone who observe zero tolerance, which my family and friends find it quite annoying. Sometimes, I feel I'm being mean to others because of this, so it's nice to know from this talk, that all this while I was doing justice to myself for a worry free life (:

I worry about everything. Your talk is really good, it opened my mind

Stumbled across this....an absolute game changer! Thanks Isabelle for your words of wisdom. Merci!

This TED talk gave me chills! Such an amazing, charismatic, and inspiring speaker! I think the best TED talk I’ve ever seen. Thank you for somehow with your words making me cringe at how weak I have been being and how strong I will become.

I love the message! Thank you for sharing it with use. :)

I so needed this right now. Thank you ❤

its so original and applicable.. love it.. so make sense

Very inspirational

Loved your presentation!!!😃 Some of my friends tell me all the time that I worry too much. I’m definitely going to take what you suggested to heart, and start working on changing that negative aspect about myself. ❤️🌺

So well spoken! Kudos!

What a charismatic woman!

I REALLY enjoyed this Ted talk It is her rich personality, funny présentation, great insight that makes all the difference. The ending was great, the karma part. My morning ritual is watching One or two Ted talks on my way to work, wouldn't change it for the whole world. Thank a lot ! A Ted talk to watch again and again

This woman is an exceptional speaker. Many of the Ted speakers are good but not great

Thank you Isabelle! You inspired me on this video, keep it up!

I just found this. It's my birthday 05/21/22 and this was exactly what I needed to hear. LOVED IT!!!

H=Hush the noise and chatter so you can reconnect with what you truly want E=Evaluate what and who you are tolerating in your life R=Ritualize the habits that have the habits to be your best self…daily rituals ie “me time” O= Own what you stand for

Oh how I needed this talk right now ..Very insightful and a down to earth charismatic lady delivering it .Thank you

I love talks like this one, where the speaker is sharing the wisdom that they learned from life. Be true to yourself, and don’t tolerate anything less than that from yourself.

i love the way she present her speech !

"Do not be afraid to speak your truth" That's exactly what I did 7 weeks ago before I handed in my notice of resignation after 11&1/2 years as a financial controller of a private co., instead of slaving long hours for another 6 months to implement a new system with no guarantee of a promised pay rise. Bloody Amazing feeling to take back one's power when your boss denies your request for a review & attempts to discredit you 'as a person' to justify his decision instead of judging my "impeccable work" performance. Yes you read that right "impeccable..." - and those were his words.

Looooveed itt!! Thank you, what an amazing energy and human being ☺️❤️

The most inspirational talk I've ever heard. Bless you wherever you are.

I could listen and watch you talk all day

You have a wonderful presence and I love how you told this story of yours. I'm sure you'll become many people's hero's ✌️❤️

Isabelle you are a beautiful and amazing force! Your presentation is brilliant! Your talk will help millions the world over! #RepurposeWorry #HERO

This is very inspiring and amazing talk I have hears. I loved it. I will put into practice what I have learned today. Thank you.

What an energy Isabel has!! 😍 Impossible to worry after SUCH speech!!

Thoroughly enjoyed your worry speech! Great job! Thank you!

A power-packed presentation - tons of take-aways. Thank you, Isabelle!

Thank you, great advice. This is an awesome talk 💖💕

AMAZING! Many Blessings Isabelle (and mother) and Thank you TEDx❤️❤️❤️

Yes!!! Thank you for this! Awesome talk, thank you Isabelle!