Buy the grace of God i am not an addict but I grew up with complex trauma. I'm 50 yrs old and have had anxiety and depression all my life. I've read a lot and watched many videos on this subject in the last year. Nothing and nobody made me feel understood until God sent me to your channel. I appreciate so much how simply and accurately you describe something so layered and complex. I've never known what was wrong with me or how to begin to heal until you explained how it happens and the changes that it causes in the brain. I thank you from the bottom of my heart, I don't think of myself as a freak anymore. I look forward to more of your videos.

What do I do when I get addicted to these videos?

You are a gift from God!

The thing that you least feel like doing is the thing you most need to do!

This man is truly amazing! He is beyond knowledgeable w/powerful perception, intellect, and insight. He’s a beautiful gift from God who has changed my life.

High quality practical teachings and deep understanding of complex trauma. Thank you so much!!!!

Love this series so much.❤ I finally feel like I have the tools to heal properly. I’ve been thrashing about because I can’t afford therapy…reading books, etc…trying my best to figure it out. This has been such a blessing as it’s covered a lot of my needs and concerns. I’m a believer that hasn’t received full healing in the church. These teachings are the missing link!❤

Validate your own feelings...what a concept. People in church think you should be walking around bursting with joy and optimism all the damn time!! Take the damn mask off for God sake!! Be freaking REAL!!!

SELF-CONTROL awareness. HUSH:SLOW DOWN. BREATHE DEEP & SLOW. FLIP SWITCH REASON PEACEABLE View . NEW CHOICE I M HEALING. I M FEELING OK. FEELING in SELF-CONTROL. I M Deserving & WORTHY of kindness & LOVE. REPEAT TIL I FEEL BETTER. PRACTICE.. IT WORKS!

I just want to thankyou from the bottom of my heart your videos are genuinely saving my life right now,I’ve never been religious but the way you talk about the bible is helping me to understand so just thankyou Tim xxx

Gratitude is CONTENTMENT. FEELING OK. RESPONDING Proper.

-absolutely BRILLIANT!! 🙌

I love your videos. I've been binge watching them. Though I don't struggle with alcohol/substances , I feel I must have Complex Trauma. Depression and Anxiety have been debilitating for me since 2011, but began when I was 8/9 years old (I'm 37 now). I've gone through a lot of therapy, medications, and even electroshock treatments. I've been unable to get out of this vicious cycle or even find a desire to live. I'm struggling to find motivation and get stuck in obsessive compulsive thoughts and behaviors (which you've discussed). I have a love-hate relationship with it because it feels great in the moment and when I see the end result, but it's SO overwhelming and exhausting. It drives me crazy, but I don't know how to escape it. In any case, I wish I had therapy with you. I think you could help me work through the things I get so hung up on. I'm hearing what you're saying, but I need to talk through it because my mind fights and challenges every good change I try to make. I consider myself Humanist and am not religious, but your videos don't drive me crazy like other spiritual channels would. I feel you speak objectively and don't have an agenda to push your point of view, but rather simply to help. Thanks so much for your videos. I appreciate them. You're amazing!

Anger is the one emotion I don’t really have and never had growing up or now in my late 30s. I always put it down to my Aspergers.

Love this man🤣 what he just described is d.b.t those classes have been a true gift from God

Thank you ❤ so much❤ Blessings from Germany

This is so true every word i feel this inside emotionally smashed lost and alone after life long effects of child abuse

When things get really bad I turn to God and praise Him because He is there at my worst and still loves me. God is my rock..and His love has pulled me through many times

Canadians are so nice and never fight. You guys are messed up too ? 😅 your so funny too. I miss John Candy 😢

Thank you!!! So what I needed right now!

That is why I refuse to go to church. Too many helpful people tearing you down. Who needs that?

What do u do If your suicidal your hole life with deep pain deep. Hurt anger resentment from crippling life lomg effects of abuse

Anger when being verifiably attacked imho is a protective mechanism. Try to escape if possible. I immediately shut down and look at the floor to stop expressing anger.

Thank you for everything

Reasonable view is mental health. Balanced.

Thank you

Powerful

You talk about de-escalate when triggered (19:15). What's the difference between de-escalating and stuffing it down?

Managing my emotions fine, being responsible of course , BUT sometimes things are not out fault, they are OTHERS Issues!

1. Snoring: Go sleep in another bedroom. 2. Bed-wetting: Don't know. 3. Toothpaste: Get your own toothpaste. After all, you have your own toothbrush, don't you?

What is there REWARDs FEELING FOR DOING things we don t want to do? What kind of Rewarding feelings result?

I was programmed not to display anger....

Regulate ONE'S COMPOSURE THINKING.. ?

When I am triggered by disrespect or what not, I either shut down completely and freeze. I have no angry or any emotion. Other times I go to 0 to 100 in a nano second. I don’t know how I will respond sometimes because I have two extreme responses. Anyone else have this?

Some verses that help me: “It may be that you hate something and it is good for you and it may be that you love something and it is bad for you” (Quran 2:216) “…Allah intends ease for you, not hardship…” (Quran 2:185) “Allah does not intend to make difficulty for you…” (Quran 5:6) Also, when we have difficulty, God sends us something to ease it. Maybe it is a friend or a gift or a friendly smile. “So, surely with hardship comes ease. Surely with ˹that˺ hardship comes ˹more˺ ease. So once you have fulfilled ˹your duty˺, strive ˹in devotion˺, turning to your Lord ˹alone˺ with hope.” (Quran 94:5-8) Also, the evil of this world does not come from God. God clarifies this in saying: “Whatever good you may receive is certainly from God and whatever you suffer is from yourselves (humans)….” (Quran 4:79)

But if you accept everything you become powerless

I am also Low Thyroid. Could that have anything to do with my EQ? Maybe not..

When I... Probably because of all the.... So... Me.... Myself and I were always..., therefore we ... That is me, myself and I....never were let.... And no one ever..... It was always..... How did they.... to me... I'm so..... And I'm.....so..... It just never.......😢. .. and ....well .... What what why why ....I I🧐🦧🐛👁️ Yea ...it was always, always, always 🕳️💨💫

Get your own toothpaste tube . . .

👌 👏 @TimFletcher this amazing info