Yep, grew up on this. I've delayed so much gratification, I no longer know how to get it haha.

That's how this world, Heaven and Hell works.

probably smartest man on the planet?

Wise guy, he was.

Who is brilliant 👏

This is when other parents in the store need to provide support.

Good to hear man!

And I’ll bet when you look back, that journey was kind of fun in itself. Am I right? 🤔

@@ilostmymind69 it was miserable at first. I won’t sugarcoat it. It was hard. I’d have to verbally speak to myself to get out of the car and walk into the gym. It was a struggle. But success is addictive and once I started seeing results, the pain caused by the doing of the work was much much easier to ignore. Now I’m excited to go into the gym. I have friends in there and I’m constantly pushing myself to see if I got stronger. Extrapolate this example to the rest of life and it’s the same pattern. So if anyone is reading this, then don’t get it in your head that it doesn’t suck at first. It definitely does. But it’s worth it

This made me 🤗. Well done you! 🥂🎉🙌

Very good job getting your life together. Too many people spend their entire lives entitled and wonder why when things often turn out poorly for them.

Then they raid ur cupboards for better candy cuz the marshmallows werent good enough for them. They want better -- & they want YOURS.

Damn this made me laugh, too real

u forgot inflation as well

@@kathyfahey5469 Whose candy? OUR candy!

@Fed Rai Well as they did it in south America I would assume some of them were portugese descendants

...all part of the plan.

I think you mean government assistance and aid. and How that disincentive hard work by just getting a handout?

@Fed Rai No, WE haven't.

@Fed Rai The leftist/global agenda.

@Fed Rai Politicians entroduced that. They deceived the public about the downsides of that and sold everyone on free shit and "public" good.

It buys votes, hence why the majority of morons vote Democrat. You get free stuff and can blame others for everything wrong with your life.

Yep, make those promises to protect and serve the law abiding, then stand down while the lawless run amok.

HOW DARE YOU

Because they will get kicked out of office if they don't listen to their constituents

Looks like I might need to budget, Better borrow from the next generation for a bigger television and better retirement.

Parents acting like children back in the day would have been seen as truly disturbing. These days adults act like children all the time though, if anything the crazier the person the more businesses and weak people bend over backwards for them.

That worked well for Marie Antoinette

Cool I already fucked up high school, watching this now is just a spit in my face now

@@Ender7166 Don't worry, this whole thing isn't going to apply to all cases. I did really well in high school, but I'm fucking up in college.

Okay imma go back to making a video thanks guys!

@@Ender7166 I was a D-C student high school and in College was usually on the Deans list.

i agree

@@jackiesharlow5654 social media provides nothing but instant gratification. It’s the whole point. Posting this and that looking for likes to make you feel better about yourself. Most people only post the good in their life presenting a view of perfection. Leading to people going in debt to keep up with their friends.

@@jackiesharlow5654 just watch Cuties! lmao seriously though, if you can filter out everyone freaking out over it it actually paints a very accurate picture of the price of social media. especially on those never exposed to it before.

almost all social medias suck. KZfaq discriminates against firefox, facebook & twitter are cancerous, instagram/snapchat are wastes of space and anyone using tiktok for entertainment is a waste of air. Twitch has moderation problems but it doesn't discriminate against users, so i'm fine with it.. Discord has had discrimination problems but they've loosened up on the 2 people i've seen been banned for shit reasons. 1 being ramsis, who was banned for no given reason, and 2 being quackity banned for joke videos. i am 99% sure both are unbanned now. TL;DR fuck tiktok.

Social Media, Gacha Games, "everyone gets a trophy", all of it is spoiling the next generation. Heck, that last one spoiled mine.

That's because the parents themselves can't wait either.

So many broken homes anymore and parents just not being parents.

Every parent wants their kids to have a better life than they did, its understandable and noble, but sometimes they overdo it

@@joseaca1010 It’s a critical point that you’ve made. Spoiling your kids to compensate for your having had less does them a disservice. Being deprived can itself lead to discipline. I’m not speaking about poverty.

@@joseaca1010 The reality of our situation is much much more devastating than an overwhelming majority of us can possibly comprehend. Our kids have no future and therefore America has no future because their parents are oblivious of the reality of our situation. Look no farther than the choices and decisions apparent makes on the first few days of their very own child's life. For decades now parents have been so thoroughly indoctrinated. We spend nine months leading up to our child's birth trying to come up with a name for the child and find clothes and decorating nurseries etc. Yet never once do we take even just a couple seconds to research the ingredients of the vaccines in order to make an informed decision about whether to allow them to be injected into our own babies. Or whether said vaccine is even necessary. Hell, we're so naive and indoctrinated that we never even question whether or not to have our newborn baby boys to be taken away to another room, strapped down to a board so they cannot move/fight, fondled until their penis is erect (raped, molested) and then mutilated against their will or consent for not fucking reason whatsoever. As if losing 60,000 nerve endings from the most important part of their penis is okay and medically necessary.

"Isn't this the same exact thing about adults and saving for their future/retirement ? It doesn't matter if it is a 3 or 4 year old or a 30 or 40 year old." The video explains, in several sections, that what you learn as a child of 3 or 4 becomes ingrained and stays with you through out your life. The 30 or 40 year old adults that cannot save for their future are the same people that figuratively ate the marshmallow as a 3 or 4 year old and therefore never learned how to delay gratification and wait. I suggest that you re-watch the video and this time pay attention.

Almost all lottery winners, especially ones from poorer backgrounds, have no money in a few short years.

@@jcopp2031 Actually, u might wanna fine tune ur attention skills. The poster was pointing out 2 examples that were not covered. SAT scores, usually taken at age 16, 17 or 18, were really the only concrete item mentioned. Yes, u can extrapolate into adulthood, which is what the poster did, adding his examples. Moreover, the lottery winner didnt get a choice of having to feel the effects of saving for a big item while denying other needs/wants. His was a windfall -- yet he pi$$es it away in short order. Again, another variable not mentioned. What few realize is how these quaint, old school ideas hold up over time. Had this very thing disputed in November by a middling pop sugar psych millenial, & I nailed her to the wall on it.

Crazy high.

@@caedenw "i feel like you just reworded his comment" That's what happens when you "feel" instead of think. Reading comprehension is obviously not your strong suit. I suggest you re-read Sondan's comment, slowly this time, paying particular attention to the part I quoted. You should then be able to determine that Sondan did not, in fact, get the point of the video.

Society has geared people away from delayed gratification. Take 0 percent interest rates. Why save?

More like having panic attacks.

@Alex Fiet streaming, selfie, and tiki tok generation is just easier to say

@@TheNebraska402 We’re trending back to the right that’s probably just because conservatives have more kids

you watch chinese cartoons

Dude parents need to learn to be parents. Are you a parent, Professor Kroog? It’s not sad if they need to learn it, it’s sad if they refuse to learn it

Cries in asian

@@codysimpsonfreak11 5yr old child: throws tantrum. asian father: "Y u no doctor yet?"

@@gayrunnycumstain Fr , What happened at my house but I grew up to be a corporate lawyer and not a doctor 😂 Ig asian parents are good

@@codysimpsonfreak11 I think a lot of Asian parents take a bit too far But good work ethic and leaning to do things you don't like (school and exta classes for example) are very important skills. If you have high expectations and you push your kids to reach those goals they will succeed.

This can be applied most of the time but asking for help is really nice when you’re starting to learn math, I needed a ton of help and practicing long division back in what, 2nd grade? 10 years ago?

My parents wouldn't bail us out when we said "I don't know", but they took it to an absurd degree because sometimes we just legitimately didn't know the answer, and they would demand that we give them an answer even if we had absolutely no idea. It wasn't helpful in the slightest, it just made us miserable when we'd sit there for like 10 minutes going back and forth.

I think I get the essence of what you’re saying and it’s very true. Children need to learn to seek answers themselves, and not to be content with whatever answers are supplied to them most readily. It leads to ad populum fallacy and availability bias. Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.

For schoolwork and other things they should know I agree, but in general kids asking questions is great and parents should answer to the best of their ability. Shutting down kids thirst of knwoledge has to be one of the worst things you can do to a kid.

If the kid doesn't know then that's on the parents. Part of their job is to educate.

Bruh this is old I heard of this years ago

@@spedmonie416 No one in the video claimed this was a new experiment. In fact, Mr. Stossel specifically said the experiment, or versions of it, had been going on for over 40 years. In addition, bpdubb said nothing in his comment about the experiment, but only proffered his opinion about Mr. Stossel's journalism. I suspect you're just a bitter person who likes to throw cold water on everyone else's joy.

J Copp no? But to call someone a god of journalism just because they recycled something from a few years ago is kinda silly but I get I just think people exaggerate too much like really my guy a god of all things for a 5 minute video oooooookay I don’t even see how this is news worthy giving the covid time we live in shouldn’t be confirm where it came from why isn’t China letting people actually go there and investigate the WHO can’t be trusted after publishing Chinese propaganda on how they handled it when a doctor had discovered it months before it was an international issue but the intellectual j copp says I’m bitter while I’m just chillin ok

@@spedmonie416 So what? This is something that has to be said over and over for the good of the new parents and new kids. He wasn't talking about the material itself though when he said that John is God of journalism, but about the way he presents himself and doesn't include his bias into interviews as we see it happen in mainstream media. He asks the questions that should be asked and somehow a lot of others pretend the questions are racist, sexist you name it.

@@spedmonie416 It's not just this "5 minute video" that made John earn my and many other's respect. He has a lot of videos that helped with that. He covers corona virus as well mr edgelord sped monie.

AT ANY AGE! It’s forever useful. Sacrificing the present for the future. Jordan Peterson explains this like no other.

He is awesome

mood

He's a national treasure!

YES

Everyone does, there’s nothing to not like

They're trained to view the government as a parent.

Our problem is when we think this is a new phenomena that's not true

🤚

Children

Only toasted on a campfire

I like em every now and then, even if they are excessively suggary

Get out off this planet

my mom is far from lazy but on the contrary she did EVERYTHING for me so when I moved out I had no idea how to actually care for myself or my surroundings

because ❌ until ✅

My parents never heard of delayed gratification and the way they raise me was D tier. They told me the biggest load of shit go to school, get an education, go to college and get a job. My mother tried her best while my father failed completely

@@tatsuostatic8567 I mean, it's probably what they were told too

@@the_hanged_clown Kinda...my mother believe that school will give her the education she needs to survive but that system didn't work. My father dropped out and joined the army a long time ago, fast forward he went back to school, graduated and from there...he had nothing to live for

Poetic justice that COVID is forcing them to babysit their own kids instead of leaving it to the taxpayer to do in the guise of education.

@@jimkirby9959 yeah, and the suicide rates are up, kids are falling behind in schools, kids are dropping out at higher rates and they're getting into more trouble. Amazing what happens when parents have the majority of the responsibility of their children lol

Flabbergasting that ppl who dont "have time" for a goldfish manage to whelp out kids. And ppl who can't buy their own food, h/c, education, clothing, shelter, utilities etc are crapping out kids like a Fertile Myrtle bunny. As the song says, "been around the world & found that only stupid ppl are breeding".

@@kathyfahey5469 what's even more ironic is that people aren't getting married but still having kids so the women can claim she's a single mother and collect welfare while the father works and pays the bills. what an amazing system the government has created

@jtg42n42q iuq3irqn awe, did I strike a nerve? Poor snowflake, would you like a tissue you can blubber in?

Exactly. Technology is destroying everyone's attention span. Last study I read said the average person's attention span was 7 seconds! Same as a goldfish. Smh

Only for new age video games. Even only as far back as 2005 games were sent out with easy being more difficult than normal or hard of today's games. You actually had to try before to have gratification in video games. Now it's just a monotonous grind for 99% of games. Might as well watch a movie with no pacing or writing.

Not even just kids. It has taken a toll on even adult minds, make no mistake. The best thing you can probably do to counter this, while still enjoying yourself, is probably reading a book. Exercises the mind, imagination, and delays the gratification by forcing you to use your mind in order to even receive gratification.

@Con Cahill I feel that video games now are either too easy or hyper-competitive to the point you can't even play for fun... In order to even be decent you basically HAVE to read patch notes, watch tutorials, and all that bullshit for a fucking video game.

Parents also need to teach their kids to defend themselves.

5:11 There you go;)

I didn't like marshmallows as a kid! Sure, you can always question it but if you think about it, this is all really just common sense.

Bob Davenport Exactly. So if you didn't like Marshmellows, you wouldn't be tempted to even want one? Thanks for proving my point.

It sounds like your sister is destroying your brother's life and future prospects. If she cares about him at all she'll stop.

@@howlingdin9332 he listens to keep over her so I'll be straight, she should be moving out anytime soon anyway

Me*

Obviously this comment will be long forgotten by then, but I'll make a prediction: he becomes a grown-up shithead and she doesn't know what she did wrong.

This

So you waited 26 years to be a lousy parent and brag about it?

Stocks/ cryptocurrency/ real estate are other alternatives to make your money grow!

@@cristiantapia631 we don't know for certain if those have intrinsic value. Gold is the play if we're talking intrinsic value, but it's not wrong to think cryptocurrency is the play...it could very well be.

Bitcoin

Stocks are higher exclusively because of the Fed. We can't continue to have cheap money.

That was actually a big fear for me. How do i know now this isn't my big chance?!? Even if i do miss a few chances the fist time around, maybe the experience will also help me learn when to take and not to take if i don't give in to the utter regret right away...

@@cwjakesteel That is a very important lesson extract! Most die regretting the chances/opportunities/risks/feelings they did not act on.

@@xeropunt5749 i think the important thing is that we're honest with ourselves when we do miss an opportunity or take a bad one, and really take the time (which can feel like even more delay) to learn from our failures rather than regret or ignore it. Jordan Peterson said, "people take on ideologies when they don't want to look at the world in detail." I'd like to think that includes living in the fear of regret for both waiting too long and choosing too early. Pain doesn't have to rob us from our future.

In reality, studies have shown that the single biggest predictor of whether a child lives in poverty or not is: .....drumroll......a Mom AND a DAD in his/her life! Single Baby Mamas, despite being en vogue among the low class, almost certainly guarantee their child that life. But yes, I agree with u that ur early foundation is important.

@@kathyfahey5469 It kind of goes both ways though, as being poor means that parents won’t be able to spend as much time with their kids.

Me too! I was wondering if I'm seeing things...

Think about how many parents put games in front of their kids to shut them up. Games are like automatic reward machines

No, there are plenty of parents who know better. They give in because they want their kids to have an "easy" life. It doesn't do the kids any favors.

I really think time is a huge factor. If you've got all day to work with your kid, you can handle any tantrums and emotional swings with patience. If you're in a rush to get to work, you'll give them the candy as the easiest path to getting it sorted out quickly before you lose your own temper.

@@MrHarumakiSensei Modern living, two-income families, too many toys, etc. Dave Matthews wrote a song called “Too Much”. We didn’t heed his warning.

It's not ONLY about intelligence. There's plenty of intelligent narcissists who are and have been conditioned to become spoiled to always have their ways.

@@kensurrency2564 If you think Dave Matthew's wrote that song for any reason OTHER than money,.. you're an idiot.

Your parents definitely could have made your life easier if they had taught you better (no parent is perfect) but if you’re an adult with no sense of delayed gratification you have no one to blame but yourself. It won’t be easy, but it is possible to learn delayed gratification later in life. I recommend listening to some of Jordan Peterson’s speeches. He’s a psychologist who talks a lot about how you can fix your own life.

@@nanowasabi4421 This is hard to explain but I've been doing errands nonstop and have no direction in life...I'm just existing

Boomers then: Go to college or else you'll be flipping burgers for the rest of your life. Exact same Boomers now: Why did you go to college? You should have went to trade school.

That's a stereotype. Not all "boomers" say those things or parent that way.

As a boomer, let me say this. Your generation is known for excessive stereotyping too.

@@tracybarhite1764 It's not when every baby boomer family member, authority figure, and school faculty member told me and my peers this on almost daily basis. I even heard this crap in movies from the early 90s. It was pure unadulterated propaganda.

@@LordFalconsword I worked in a gun store for many years during tge Obama years. The worst offenders of that are Baby Boomers. This is the same age group that was convinced that Obama was a muslim and that he wasn't born in the US. "I'm gunna buy a gun to piss off Obama and own the libs"

isn't that because you don't want others to think you are an alcoholic, even if you are one? then again when you are home alone... .

@@neovenom9833 Haha, what IS the definition of an alcoholic? I like to have a few beers after work. I think they taste good. (In moderation)

delayed gratification to addiction

Maybe some repairations as well soon the way the agenda is being driven. They will always find a way to hand people their demise on a platter of bs and lies.

Have been to 2 large retirement seminars, conference rooms packed with ppl looking to educate themselves abt retirement. How many blacks? 1 couple. Guess u need not worry when the Govt cares for u, cradle to grave.

"STIMULUS BAD" So the people and familes that lost their jobs due to COVID aren't allowed to get financial help? They should just become homeless?

@@Alan_One1 Firstly, the gov shouldn't have ever shut things down. Stimulus wouldn't even be necessary. Secondly, it's not my job to pay for other people. There are charities, networks of food banks and homeless shelters. If the government left money in our pockets, we would give an abundance of resources to such charities instead of having to rely on bureaucratic waste to inefficiently redistribute our own wealth.

Some of those were the variables he alluded to that were studied over the 40+ years.

Two different tests, two different sets of criteria, two different sets of data that would be analyzed; so no, the arrow of causality isn't backwards on this.

IQ has been extensively studied for over 100 years. The results indicate that people with higher intelligence practice more delayed gratification, hence their more success in life. Mr Diben is correct according to the research.

References and links please.

@@fukuokainternationaldemocr1974 The main replication was: Revisiting the Marshmallow Test: A Conceptual Replication Investigating Links Between Early Delay of Gratification and Later Outcomes. Tyler W. Watts, Greg J. Duncan, Haonan Quan But IIRC there were more attempts during the “replication crisis”. They should be easy to find through the Center for Open Science.

not just the teaching, also the model

Wait for what? What are their grades right now?

@@barfo281 they're teens, it's like judging a quiche that's still baking. ie it's not clearly consistent.

@@jaewok5G Then this study is useless.

@@barfo281 it is unfinished.

Its a skill that be can be acquired and trained. Even the dumbest man can delay gratification.