OP is EXTREMELY fortunate that Lisa prevented her from going on the trip. If OP had gone, Lisa would have framed her for the theft of the medication. And the parents would have believed her.

I will never understand parents who shrug off borderline psychotic behavior of their kids as them just being "young and naive." At that age, that behavior is exactly what the parents should be correcting. This is a classic case of bad parenting. I would go as far as straight-up calling them bad parents.

Imagine being such a terrible person to live with that someone would consider spending a week in San Francisco a holiday by comparison.

I’m SORRY?! She was accused of assault, and NOT ATTEMPTED MURDER for stealing her father’s heart medication?!

Miracle babies or not, you do NOT play favoritism to any child. You will end up with an adult thats either dangerous, a criminal, or an entitled child.

Since the story seems unfinished, i'm going to say it now: the parents are going to come home to a complete trash house. Either the outside is destroyed and vandalized by the sister, or, more likely since there was no mention in the posts, they didn't change their locks or had a spare key and sister got inside to destroy everything there.

"don't want to press charges" why not? consequences matter... and behind bars there might be more opportunities for her to get professional help

Maybe I'm cynical but I think things in OP's family are going to slip back to the status quo eventually. The parent don't seem like they are willing to commit to any permanent solution. Lisa is going to realize she let her mask slip a bit too much and reel it back a bit. The parent are going to go for this because they ultimately love her more than Op and will willingly believe whatever half-assed excuse Lisa produces. Lisa is going to continue to manipulate the parents into pushing the OP out of the family and they are going to let her.

Yeah, no, the moment she charged at you with a knife, that psycho is too far gone. Disown her, get a restraining order, and move on.

So, the parents want forgiveness now that the golden child has turned on them? Yeah, OP is a better person than I am. Also, getting help for the monster the parents created? Nah; screw her. Let the parents fix the mess they made!

Kids have been DISOWNED for less, and they still want to help Lisa? After that knife incident? F that, she deserves to be alone and miserable. The parents better do everything in their power to make it up to OP if they want her forgiveness so badly

OP in this story is a better person than I would have been. This level of favoritism is just disgusting, and for me the family vacation would have been the final straw. Sure, I would have made sure everyone got home, and I would have absolutely made sure Lisa was gone, but forgiveness would most likely be out of the question. My response to them wantimg reconciliation would have been this: "I appreciate that you're both now see what Lisa's true colors are, but things between us have gotten so bad that just don't think we can repair this relationship. Your favoritism towards her has done damage that cannot be undone. I'm sorry that this will hurt you, but I can no longer trust you. I helped you because I knew she would do far worse than we've seen thus far, but after this is solved, I'm cutting ties. I cannot have a relationship with people who cared little for me and igmored my pleas for help most of my life." Then, I'd wish them good luck and move on from there. I hope OP gets the happy ending she deserves after such a long time of isolation.

It took all of that for them to realize what their daughter was? They wanted to be blind! There’s no way that this is the first time Lisa’s done something terrible!

But...honestly. Op's parents created this monster. Karma can be a B.

I do hope OP points out that the parents were so afraid of Lisa falsely accusing them of doing exactly what they did to OP The victim maybe different but the parents are still guilty all the same

OP is being naive. She thinks that her parents want to reconcile with her out of remorse and guilt. Well, I think they do feel truly sorry, but mostly for themselves. The only reason why they want to use OP to play happy family is to ease their own consciousness. They did not give a single fuck about OP for all those years. Even when they started their family vacation, they were perfectly happy and fine with OPs ticket being "accidentally" cancelled, and maybe all of them were actually glad about that. Now their beloved little daughter turns out to be an absolute pos, and so they seek immediate remidy by using OP as a replacement. I do not think for a single second that someone would suddenly start caring about a child when for so many years they were perfectly fine with completely ignoring it in favor of another child. No, I am certain that they only pretend to care about her for selfish reasons. Absolutely disgusting trash, they do not deserve a second chance. They must live with the consequences of their actions and be forced to face them head on without any aid whatsoever. Honestly, even just the fact that OP helped them to get out of their vacation was probably too much. I would have told them "all those years you did not treat me like I was a part of your family. Only now, that you need something from me, you suddenly want to act like family. You chose her over me, so it is entirely up to you to figure out how to deal with her. I don't think we should talk again. Goodbye." and hung up. That's the only way they'll ever truly regret what they did. Whatever she does, OP should not have settled for being a "backup plan" or "convenient second choice" for her parents. She did not have a place in their lives when it mattered, so why should they now have a place in her life?

That sly smirk at the airport would've earned her a massive slap. And a "since you clearly don't care about me, don't expect me to ever care for you in the future." And then make it a point to block them there right in front of them. OP truly is a saint for being able to go through all that mess with them, while still holding onto that past resentment.

I really hate the "They're young. They'll outgrow this" mentality when kids act out or treat their siblings horribly like this. Op's parents really suck. Still, if op's sister hadn't done what she done she totally would have framed op for the missing heart medication. Op's parents being the bad parents they are would have believed it too. This vacation would have been the final straw for me and I'd tell mom to freaking do her job for once and stand up to the brat she and her husband created. Op's sister needs more than just eviction. She needs one of those psychiatric hospitals.

Respect to OP because I would've lost my mind if I was in their situation. OP deserves a year long vacation tbh.

I was born 1 year after a miscarriage and my dad was never present in my life bc he was afraid I'd die and he distanced himself. Interesting how different people's reaction to trauma is

I like these type of stories as opposed to the cheating ones. Its much more psychological and it relies on other ignorance as opposed to narrator ignorance and trust

OP is a much better person than be. I would have hung up the moment my parents called my crying after finding out. If they contacted me again all i would tell them is "I told you so".

op is way to nice, i would've laughed and told them, "you made this bed, now sleep in it." and just hung up on them and cut contact. no apologies can fix all the bs op had to go through all because they were blinded by golden child glasses

The parents are the villains of this story. Lisa being mean to her older sister was a manifestation of the parents' view that Lisa was a miracle - which made OP seem like a mistake, that view didn’t come from nowhere. And all babies are miracle babies

"When favortism enters the family, love and trust go out of window" -Unknow

Don't be too hasty to forgive those who only seek forgivness after they themselves were hurt. usually that remorse comes from a selfish place salvaging what they can and doing damage controll for their own lives. Forgive those who seek forgiveness when they see the damage they caused to you as that comes from true remorse and concern for you.

The whole time OP was talking about Lisa smashing furniture and bringing a knife to a fight, I was thinking: “Cameras! Cameras! GET CAMERAS!”

So their plan is to have a heart to heart with a manipulator ( and possibly sociopath ) to make her see the error of her way ? This won't end well

When it comes to family drama, the "Parents play favoritism with their kids" subgenre is my favorite.

How oblivious do you have to as a parent to not notice manipulation from a child? My kids might be able to get away with one or two things, but catch them when they pressed their luck. I always corrected my kids and listened to the if they said their siblings where doing something shady to them. These seem like lazy parents that lived in a dream world where siblings were always nice to each other. Growing up with siblings I knew to stay on my toes with my kids. OP parents are POS that ruined the lives of their children.

Well, if it isn’t the consequences of their actions. No sympathy for the parents. 😂

Wait so, when she’s sick it’s “we have a responsibility we need to check up on her and take care of her” but when the older one asks for help it’s “can’t you just get along with her” yeah nah from that point on you ain’t my parents

They failed Lisa by favoring her. They couldn't have been more deliberate in raising a narcissist.

I can't help but notice that parents constantly ask OP for help with their younger daughter... what a mess. They are adults, who spoiled their younger kid rotten, they should take responsibility and sort this out themselves.

Actually even if she's an adult she can get forcefully checked through Baker's Act (if they're from Florida), there's probably acts like this in other states, hopefully one in the state they reside in.

“It's easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled.” -Mark Twain

OP is a fucking saint for not telling her parents "I told you so" when they came crying to her because the monster left the closet.

Wont lie, In the medication situation I would have been very tempted to just say to my parents "She would never do something like that, cant you guys just get along?"

Sometimes, parents and siblings are just the things you don't need in your life. They just mess you up.

Op actually dodged a huge bullet here, if she tried to book another ticket, im pretty positive the sister would've pinned it all on her

Once again golden child makes everyone pay for their parents lack of understanding and critical thinking to observe her and understand her actions.

As an adult Lisa can't be forced to undergo a mental health assessment, but surely after pulling a knife on her parents, combined with her previous behaviour, she could have been put on an emergency mental health hold.

I actually cried so much because I just feel bad. Here a quote, “Every child needs a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.”

The parents are borderline malicious towards OP to almost instantly want/try to welcome Lisa back and help her, after everything she's done to OP. This shows that she is still their golden child, that they will still bend over backwards for her and sacrifice OP to do it. Sometimes when you are faced with evil (regardless of any mental illnesses) you just have to cut all ties even if it's a daughter, son, sibling or parent. If they are so damn eager to forgive the sister for what she did to them - including hiding the father's medications that literally kept him alive - that's on them, but they are incredibly disrespectful and toxic for almost instantly working on forgiving Lisa for what she did to OP for two decades. The "bUt fAmiLy" argument is absurd in cases like this. Some shared DNA means absolutely nothing; your true family consists of the people who treat you with respect, kindness and has your back, but also holds you accountable when needed, regardless of if you share blood or not.

Just because you have one misscrage doesn’t mean the the kid that comes after is a miracle child

If i had hid my father's pills, he wouldve beat the shit out of me right there lol

NO FORGIVENESS. let the face their failure of being a parent

It seems weird and a bit unbelievable that Lisa would suddenly show them her true colors in such extreme and obvious ways after hiding it all these years

Why the parents still think Lisa gonna forgive them? She already went at them with a knife. This is a murder case waiting to happen

So glad the parents realized the monster they created by playing favorites. I keep seeing this dynamic over and over again. Playing favorites RUIN FAMILIES! 🤦🏿‍♀️

She'll "change" for 5 minutes and all will be forgiven. Then it will be "shes sorry OP, can't we all be a family again?" 🥺

Despite everything, I still think it's mega gross that two parents considered their SECOND (technically third) child to be their "miracle child"; they already HAD an alive, healthy baby to take care of. But they pushed to have a second, miscarried, and then pushed to have a third to fix their feelings. Then you completely ignore the first? I would consider that such a huge, constant slap in the face as the first child.

Support them?? I would let them deal with it themselves. It's their little monster!

OP's parents truly do not deserve her forgiveness nor her sympathy. If I were her, I would have disowned them, abandoned them to deal with the monster they created, and went on with my life as if they never existed.

This family is way dumber than I expected. After she kept getting arrested, why bother bailing her out to evict her? Let her sit in jail and then evict her once she's released. Not only that, you can put someone into a force psychotic hold if its deemed that the person is threat to themselves or others especially with the amount of arrests she had plus the knife incident. I feel like this entire family thinks stuff just blows over if they just close their eyes and ignore everything which is what they've been doing for the sister's entire life.

As someone who had an older sister who abused me my whole life, this isn’t surprising to hear.

raise a kid to be a monster you'll end up with a monster, this is why parents should take parenting classes

I think what really got me was the older daughter's ticket was cancelled and they essentially whined like kids themselves going "but we really want to go." Excuse me, did the father not say he wanted a vacation with the family? Daughters tickets gets cancelled and you look at it like a mild inconvenience. Hello, if it was me I would be like "I will change the tickets and we will go tomorrow. I want ALL my family with us." But no "wah, but I wanna go on vacation."

If I was OP, I would have ignored the calls until the big reveal one and then said "She's your miracle baby. Deal with it as a family of three!" Then again, if they had, we wouldn't have gotten the updates...

This is a common situation with many parents who have lost a child. They are still traumatized over losing a child, so they end up spoiling the next child rotten and treating them extra special as a way to cope with their grief. This level of pampering and coddling can result in developmental issues in the child. She basically became a sociopath with attachment issues.

Reminds me of my brother, he was mentally unwell, parents didn't believe it, well he went nuts. Now an adult he acts like a child he slept while hugging my dad in my parents bed. I know people say I'm harsh, but I've told my parents again & again when we were young my brother wasn't acting normal, he was abusive towards me, & he tried drowning our cousin once. He wasn't acting in anyway normal. He's not. He needs therapy, he was send into psychiatric ward around a month but now lives with my parents. Why can't parents listen to us? Is sending your child for psychiatric evaluation SO hard?? Is it a crime??

They created the monster, armed and armoured it. I would not help them do battle with it if i was the one screaming for help in the past and they turned their heads so they would not have to watch me be maimed.

Lisa the type of female that's going to end up on a 60 minutes episode about widows with five husband's all "mysteriously" gone lmao

I bet if the parents died, they’ll will all the inheritance to Lisa.

The parents are more to blame than Lisa. Children aren't born spoiled, the parents spoil them. This woman was never told "no" her entire life, so of course she's incapable of understanding that the world doesn't revolve around her. Personally, I think Lisa is beyond redemption at this point. And OP is a better person than me; I don't know if I would've been able to forgive the parents that easily.

If i were OP I would have told my parents to go to he double hockey sticks when they asked me for help!

No sympathy for the parents. Going through a miscarriage means every baby is a miracle baby. No justification for the horrible way they raised that monster.

Wow OP has some issues with wanting to fix the family. Like honestly the dad didnt even attempt to try and fix the ticket misshap, theyve brought this on themselves

So the parents are finally the victims and OP just comes running to their aid?!?!? She should have let them deal with the problem they made.

TL;DR: Parents takes garbage in an international vacation. Hilarity ensures.

This sounds like classic Borderline Personality Disorder. While the rage and manipulation could be easily chalked up to psychopath or narcissism, what really drives it away from those is how clingy she is to the parents. In BPD there's a term "favorite person", and I'm pretty sure that's what Lisa's relationship is with the parents.

Those parents are definitely getting bitten in the ass for all the enabling and neglect on Lisa. Just because she took things out on OP, doesn't mean they won't be next.

I'm sorry, but I really think OP is kind of a doormat. She's let her family walk all over her for years without any repercussions.

Parents will say they don’t have a favourite but they’ll treat their favourite with gifts and money and let them off the hook whilst the non favourite gets dumped with all the responsibilities. Kids aren’t stupid, I saw how my younger brother was favourited because of his heart operation he had and how I was made to feel bad for pushing him back when he annoyed the heck out of me and came into my room pushing things off my shelves

I wonder if there are any stories of a *Golden/Miracle* child who are aware of the parents favouritism towards them and don't let it go to their heads and try to help the ignored sibling?

I'm having a hard time believing that this story is real. It sounds like they don't like her actions but also want to continue handling her with kid gloves even though it sound like she is willing to unalived her dad because she hates her sister. Now they want to support her while she goes though her consequences wtf?

Lisa another example of a favored child turning psycho because the parents refused to see what was truly going on. funny enough OP dodged a nuke by not going on the trip as there's 0 doubt in my mind that she would have set up OP as the med thief then she made the most fatal mistake when you're like that letting the mask slip once it came off the parents realized the truth. let's just hope the bridge between OP and her parents can be mended. side note I hope the Parents changed locks and put up video cameras or moved from that house before going on their trip because that Lisa will try something given an opportunity like this.

The older sister is almost a saint, I wouldn't even want to see my parents painted in gold if they had treated me like they treated her. Even after everything, it seems like her parents regret the consequences of their actions, and not the actions themselves.

Trying to figure out how some of these people don’t kick some ass in these situations.

Me throughout all this: OH MY GOD CALL THE DAMN COPS

That younger sister is a monster, selfish with no ability to look past her jealousy. I’m gonna assume that being unable to go to college has made her upset over her own inability.

You know, I think in most western countries you can legally incapacitate someone and force him to be treated.

OP here is a complete SAINT. She was, in the end, willing to forgive her parents' behavior.

Her patience is CRAZY

Lisa's behavior honestly reminds me that of a psychotic (no duh i know) bratty (again duh) yandere she wants all of the love and attention from their parents but the moment they did something she didn't like she wasn't a bit hesitant to harm or at the very least threaten them just because they wanted to have OP join the trip at first I'm honestly afraid that in lisa's sick mind her taking her father's heart medicines and putting his health in serious risk was her version of a "punishment" for even giving OP a chance to get a glimpse of attention after years of being a self made "miracle child" after years of manipulation into her parents good graces

Playing Favorites destroyed the relationship I had with my dad. He was always picking my little brother over me. Me and my dad have a better relationship now since I’m an adult but I’ll never forget how I was treated.

Lisa clearly got it from her parents, with them trying to goad OP into telling them to go and enjoy themselves

I think Lisa needs to see a psychiatrist because she might have severe schizophrenia and I am surprised that OP's parents are doctors.

You know these parents are really shouldn't have reproduced. I mean they put Lisa in the world and then never actually going to cure her issues. They're too kind because they spent all the time viewing her as the golden child that if they get rid of that memory they realize they fucked up his parents

for blindness to a persons actions, you need to not have any information other than your own experience. one you have that, its not blindness, its willful ignorance. mental health started this, conditioning made it far worse

You do not owe your parents for having a child and doing the legal bare minimum to raise and care for the child. That is the law. They had to house, feed, clothe, care for, and teach you. That is not kindness or something that should be paid back. I can't stand when people have parents that treat that like it's some huge accomplishment that deserves an award of some kind.

Similar reasons why I will never speak to my "brother" again

Glad to know I'm not the only one who had parents that chose a Golden Child

It almost like the parents can only love one child at any time .

I also don't feel bad for the parents, they created this monster.

Such a kind and sweet doormat, I mean daughter, to help out the people who disregarded her. Couldn't had been me. They would've had to deal with the monster they made.

Op parents need disown Lisa even if she have a mental disorder she still have resentments toward op.

I can't believe OP's parents are doctors. First of all, they should know better than anyone the psychological damage favoritism can have on a child's mental well being. Second, she hid her father's medication, she trashed their home, bitch came at them with a knife and they still were hemming and hawing about 'willful mischief,' or saying it has to be voluntary to get an evaluation cause she's 18..she threatened their lives numerous times and been arrested twice ffs, they have cause. Get her committed or get a restraining order. Wtf is wrong with these people? I pity anybody that has them as their doctor, I can't imagine anything would get done with them. also, it has been clearly shown that the girl is unhinged yet she's staying at her friend's house. I hope OP or the parents let the parents of the friend know what has been happening or that would be really messed up

I find this story hard to believe. As in, OOP’s sister has serious mental health issues, most likely NPD, BPD or something similar, yet their parents never realized the extent of Lisa’s impairment? And when they did, they never addressed it because they didn’t know what to do? And they’re supposedly “well-respected doctors”? I call BS because primary care physicians can diagnose these conditions and know the steps to take to have a patient involuntarily committed. OOP even claimed that a person can’t be forced to be mentally evaluated, but that’s incorrect, especially if the person in question has been arrested for committing a crime or is behaving in a manner than may be harmful to themselves or others. The police in most jurisdictions of developed countries have the authority to forcibly detain a person who’s demonstrating criminal behavior and behaving erratically, and transport them to a mental health unit for evaluation.

These stories are so relaxing to listen to while sleeping ty for making them everyday bless you