Peggy Paine good deal

good for you:)!!!

Peggy paine, you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

4 years later I'm still coming back to this great video as my siblings are still being abusive. My sister has become very volatile calling me evil and a provateur. My brother does covert verbal abuse. But denies it. Emails are mind destroying. I am detaching again but I'm told it's all because of my anger. As I'm not angry I see the process. I'm being mentally abused so have to step away. Guess I did enter into more abuse. This destroyed my brain nearly. I have to stop entering in. My brother is nice but scapegoats and mentally abuses me when I won't do what he wants or be the scapegoat. I am definitely Teddy, the bad one, not. Reviewing these old videos rather than be mind blown. I get very confused and logical but I can't reach my bro and sis. They're very strange to me always defining me as not whom I am. I'm living in a great supportive home now and my kids are nearby and care about me as whom I am. My siblings are text book verbal abusers of this kind. My mom did verbal and mental abuse. For some reason I'm logical and truthful and don't do verbal abuse. It's not in my make up.

Bingo!

So very true.... left me feeling like anything I would like done was a total inconvenience and burden to him. As long as anything was his idea that was fime, no consideration of what I would like, but race to do, possibly the same thing I wanted for anyone else!

My story all symptoms and it is a living hell

I was in one for 11 years...had to get out...he already have another girl..I hope one day u find the strength to leave. They make u feel like ur nothing and everything that happens is ur fault. I've been depressed for a long time..now am starting my healing process.good luck hon.

You can get out. Leave as soon as u get the chance because things can become worse for your safety and your mind. I was in a abusive relationship for 5 years. one day i just got so fed up and so ashamed of myself that i never went back took my things and left. Of course he tried to get me back but all the abuse made me fall out of love. I hope you realize that there is someone out there who will treat you like everything u ever wanted. I promise. Hope you make the right choice even tho it may be though be strong for YOU.

Things have improved greatly, I feel very lucky

Good for you..am so happy now I wish I had walked away years ago. Time make things much better.

+Sweetpea Chickpea I'm out now. I got out at the end of December 2015.

Often times a woman doesn’t know they are with an abuser until after marriage so one cannot put themselves often in an abusive situation

Good for you

Hi, I am writing a book about verbal abuse. I'll like to ask you to write a page on how you managed to live with harmful words and if you have found HOPE in your life. Thank you!

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Wow good for you!!!

@@bluecentre2290 I’m just now seeing this! I wouldn’t mind writing a page on this subject and the things I’ve changed that forced him to change. Be well.

I am empathetic to your situation. Prepare. Make active plans to secure your financial support. Go get skill sets (tools) that can make certain you support your dear precious self. It takes longing (which you have) , but ACTION is the other 50% of that equation. Just do it no matter what. Make that part happen. Freedom is just around the corner. I wish you the very best! Bear hug, sweetheart. Love thy SELF. :) hang in there.

+allen Rud How is that relevant to the comment?!?

So update, my father actually disowned me, told me I'm not his daughter anymore. It's a very long story, but I've tried to connect in a friendly way with him and every time I thought we were getting back on terms he would be verbally abusive. I'm not the only one suffering, my mother suffers too and so do my 7 siblings. I'm not a spoiled brat that thinks she deserves to be noticed and handed everything to, Iam very independent, I always paid for my way, I actually sustained my family because I come from a very poor family. I'm almost 25 with a dream to succeed in life but because of CONSTANT verbal abusive I keep having to pick myself off the floor over and over again. I'm moving out soon with my sister and I will finally be free, like a bird finally getting out of a dark cage.

+Allan Rud and yelling about how tough you are on KZfaq is going to prove your point? I think not! Verbal abuse is real and from the looks of it, you're a miserable person! My dad isn't a father at all, he never said I love you, never says how are you, nothing, I never talk to him anymore, NOT A SINGLE ONE WORD, you don't know because you can't live in everyone's shoes!!

+Allan Rud words are powerful, they get to your head! Don't you get that? I'm going to deal with that, I don't have too!

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+its rick man Any character trait can be changed but studies show male or female that if you do not deal with childhood baggage by your mid twenties and develop personal objectivity you are likely to carry on those negative traits. Past the age of the 35 years of age it becomes increasingly more difficult as the behaviours become more ingrained. The person has to be willing and seek professional help. Though I don't advocate the abused hanging around and being involved in that change in fact it would hamper the change IF sincerely undertaken. Hanging around means the abused will end up developing negative traits. I am glad I am free of my abusive wife, she was both physically and emotionally abusive.

Patrick McKenna sorry to hear that about your wife.

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+allen Rud You'd think this particular thread...where obviously people need not be verbally abusive there lurks anyone who's language is verbally abusive. Have a tender night.

+allen Rud I could not find a way to reply to what you said on another video so I would like to say I think you might be a good soldier and not at all what I am referring to in my other comment. Your clarity astonished me.

ME TOO. IM SO DEPRESSED OVER HIS WORDS. I THINK MINE IS ACTUALLY EVIL -- FEARS ARE HES PURPOSELY TRYING TO GIVE ME COVID BECAUSE I CAN DIE OF COVID.

@@jackiegutmann mine too

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My mother is the same way too. I've learned to numb my feelings from her attacks. I just nod and never respond. She is also very controlling and has to always be right. I am naturally very sensitive and I had to learn to shut down whenever the insults come. My mother has truly made me feel worthless. I've lost all hope, value and self identity.

@@cmanarra : 💝I'm here if you ladies need to talk

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cmanarra Hang in there! Well get out soon if your mind is being blown like that. See a school counselor or go to a women's crisis center or alanon program. I've had mental and verbal abuse for years in various people. The worst now are my siblings after other marriages with that. It's around a lot. I numb out or get talked into that it's all me. I recover but now must stay away from them. My mother was the worst. We do survive but sometimes I wonder how. I now live in a wonderful supportive environment. Find a way through mental mind blowing.

Kimweston1,You are beautiful 🌷🌹,You don’t need a narcissist in your life!

I did the same thing I was holding so much in that I just let him go. He was to busy complaining about his past relationships. Which showed me he wasn't going to let it go. So I let him go.

Good for you ♡

Magnolia Beans Two and a half years of gaslighting, narcissistic discard, ignoring, sarcasm... I dropped him like a sack of potato and it was deserved.

Good for you!!!

I know how you feel :/

Glenn Ho same my mom cuses me out every day

Hi, I am writing a book about verbal abuse. I'll like to ask you to write a page on how you managed to live with harmful words and if you have found HOPE in your life. Thank you!

So is my mom

Yes I'm completing my clarity with siblings and a mother who were all worse than 2 husbands who do it. Finally I think I see and have a great supportive family I live with. I'm just thankful I don't abuse.

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Yeah, makes perfect sense to naturally go to the safer person willing to relate with you. With around 1:20 persons being either psychotic or narcissistic, it will come up time-and-time again in all our lives, so "running" from, or perhaps "fair roads, fair weather" type conversation is as deep as it may ever go for the sake of your self-protection.

Hi, I am writing a book about verbal abuse. I'll like to ask you to write a page on how you managed to live with harmful words and if you have found HOPE in your life. Thank you!

My grandmother was verbally abusive as well. I know my father had a terrible childhood with her . I can't imagine what he went through. She definitely is a narcissist and snaps on everyone for no reason . My dad became physically violent towards my mom . I tried to get her to leave but she had low self- esteem. Sometimes you just have to cut abusers out of your life. That's what I learned from therapy.

toplatinogirl,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!

Actually I've brought this to my brother and sister who do this. I really think they got their minds programmed and destroyed. They are in the spell and won't come out even if they read this book. I've read that abusers and alcoholics rarely changed. Who knows why some of us stay out of the spell and don't cross over. I guess it's extremely strong minds.

Terah May Dont let this happen anymore, get away from abusive toxic people, dont be friends of them, you deserve to have respectful friends, you should go with a psychologist so you can heal.

Terah Gray,you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

Margaret Paine,You don’t need a narcissist in your life!

Absolutely it counts for males. Anyone really! Verbal abuse can happen with anyone it's gender neutral! I'm so sorry you are going through this, I know what it's like to try to numb yourself in order to not feel the abuse it's hard.

Andrew - I hope you're out of that relationship and doing well. Yes, this is reality for many men, especially married men from what I understand. Sending a prayer up for you!

Get out !!

Don't we wish! My brother and sister have spent the last 17 years maligning me and I spent 22 years with a mentally abusive mom and another 14 with a covertly abusive husband. Wish I could incarcerate them all. Now I just have to take care of myself. They do manipulate.

gwen joplin Go to therapy with a psychologist. So you can heal.

I went to women's crisis center support groups and alanon. Found this way better than therapy where there is often no knowledge on abuse counseling which is different from regular personal counseling. Evans books were a breakthrough to what happens in emotional and mental abuse. I found a supportive family to live with just by accident. Keep up the hope.

Doreen,You got a lovely smile 😊

@@jackpetersen7545 your funny!

grand m'boi Jesus will save you