Questioning your Sexuality?

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9 ай бұрын

We all know the ‘Q’ in LGBTQ+ stands for ‘Queer’… riiight? 🌈
SURPRISE! Not necessarily. ‘Q’ can also be used to stand for Questioning!
‘Questioning’ is a term that can be used to describe someone who is not sure about their sexual orientation, sexual identity or gender.
We’ve all experienced some kind of identity uncertainly at some point in our lives - partly due to societal norms creating a ‘standard’- but according to research 57% of people first questioned their sexuality and gender between the ages of 11 and 15.
Remember there is no one answer to who you are as a human being and it’s totally valid to feel unsure, whether that’s short term or just a part of you 🥰
You don’t owe anyone an explanation or a label ❤️
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@jennifers5560 9 ай бұрын

Love the freedom and space that the “label” of ‘questioning’ gives people.

@emmahepburn2969 8 ай бұрын

Do you

@alexbruckshaw1448 5 ай бұрын

@emmahepburn2969 since they said it, they probably do

@jennifers5560 5 ай бұрын

@@alexbruckshaw1448 exactly!

@clamh84 9 ай бұрын

I love that you referred to those aged between 11-15 as people. Sometimes, when talking about younger people, using the word child can make adults forget that children are also people.

@ellieisanerd 9 ай бұрын

It wasn't until I hit my 30s that I started questioning things. And part of it had to do with taking charge of my health and experiencing significant weightloss. It made me realize that maybe the reasons why I didn't date had less to do with being self-conscious, and more to do with being on the demi-sexual to asexual scale.

@LilFeralGangrel 9 ай бұрын

i realized recently why it took me so long to pursue romantic relationships was because i didn't feel comfortable with my assigned gender.

@katehuber4974 6 ай бұрын

Looking back it’s kind of funny I didn’t realize I was bisexual until I was twenty. Like I could recognize the crush I’d have towards a guy, but the way my heart skipped when I spotted the sporty girl with short pink hair- completely unrelated.

@icedevil3795 4 ай бұрын

I thought I was bi too, I thought that not having an attraction to anyone was just 'no one around me was attractive' thing. I didn't figure it out until I started watching LGBTQ+ videos, I saw Todd on Bojack Horseman and thought thats kinda cool, theres a name for it, when he came out as Ace and decided to research. This is why ace needs more representation

@lenaeospeixinhos 9 ай бұрын

Oh I had questions between 11 and 15, but the Internet wasn't a thing yet, so all the answers I got were wrong and bigoted. Now I'm in my 40s and I feel free to question and explore because thankfully I'm better informed and my country is fairly accepting of the LGBTQIA+ community.

@jennifers5560 9 ай бұрын

❤

@FaiaHalo 9 ай бұрын

❤

@cambrierogers9449 9 ай бұрын

my friend is questioning right now and as the staple queer in the group i feel it is my duty to send this to her

@RyannJoyRule 9 ай бұрын

Love it

@onyxblades 9 ай бұрын

I didn’t know ace was a thing until I was in my late 20s. Everyone thought I was just being a prude. And the thing is I could see people of different genders and think ‘oh pretty/handsome’ but wouldn’t feel what everyone told me attraction felt like. And the worse part is, is that when I tell people (family and the like), their response is ‘you haven’t found the right person’ well if that’s the case, move me down the spectrum to the demi flag, cause I was only a little off in figuring out my identity

@LaDaDaDeDaDaDa.. 9 ай бұрын

Asexual - lacking sexual attraction Aromantic - lacking romantic attraction I think you mean aromantic or possibly aroace.

@onyxblades 9 ай бұрын

@@LaDaDaDeDaDaDa.. yes, I’m aroace but somehow people take more offense at me not wanting sex as opposed to not wanting a relationship.

@LaDaDaDeDaDaDa.. 9 ай бұрын

@@onyxblades sexual attraction doesn't mean you dont want sex, that's an entirely different sexuality on the spectrum, it means that you lack sexual attraction and sexual closeness to others - if that makes any sense at all.

@pf6137 6 ай бұрын

@@onyxbladesfellow Aroace! Hello!

@finchhawthorne1302 9 ай бұрын

Questioning is also used to explicitly include people who aren’t interested in sharing or don’t want to use a label. Even if questioning doesn’t specifically describe their situation.

@jessicaoutofthecloset 9 ай бұрын

Love that it can be used in this way too! 🥰

@RyannJoyRule 9 ай бұрын

This is really lovely. It’s so easy to want to understand yourself perfectly all at once but questioning gives the space for curiosity, self love, and joy in the process.

@jessicaoutofthecloset 9 ай бұрын

Exactly, curiosity is a good thing! 🤍

@MarianahsTrenchGal1 9 ай бұрын

That's what it stood for in my high school (this was in 2011-2015). There were signs all over the place about it being an LGBTQ+ safe space, and some of them had little informational bits at the bottom including what each letter stands for- but I was also on tumblr a lot during that time and I kept hearing ppl refer to the Q as Queer and I was like "well now idk what to think" 🤣

@MarianahsTrenchGal1 9 ай бұрын

Also my dad was with me in the main office the one day to discuss something with the principal and while we were waiting he saw the one sign and was like "wouldn't bi be kinda the same as questioning? Bc you're gonna end up marrying one or the other" and I told him about how being bi is more about the fact that you're able to experience attraction to both and he was like "ohhh ok. Maybe I'm bi"😂

@jennifers5560 9 ай бұрын

@@MarianahsTrenchGal1wow! Good for your Dad to be so open with you!

@juniperjonestown 9 ай бұрын

I tried to explain to a boy who wanted to date me in 8th grade that I didn’t want to because I was questioning my identity (Id just gotten my hands on an lgbtq resource book after having been an “overzealous ally” as a child) About a week later people I did not know were coming up to me asking if I was gay 🙃 I mean they ultimately weren’t exactly wrong but I would’ve liked to been able to figure that out on my own without being ostracized 😅😅 Thank you for all the content you post education and awareness are so vital for understanding and acceptance 💖💖

@RM-hi4vv 4 ай бұрын

It took me to my 40s before I realized I’m more than just a really passionate ally 🤣

@Ziffelzoovop 5 ай бұрын

Just got through three years of questioning if I was trans or not. Turns out no but it was a big question that I really had to examine

@seela1924 5 ай бұрын

at the end you still ended up knowing more about yourself which is a good thing

@freakygardener8033 9 ай бұрын

What frustrates me is, people think my choice of clothing, automatically means I "must be gay"! Just because I like the comfort of wearing skirts, doesn't make me gay!

@xXIsopodAngel69805Xx 9 ай бұрын

Yeah, it can be frustrating how much this idea has persevered, but it seems like at least now more people are advocating for wearing what’s comfortable regardless I know there are straight guys out there who are comfortable with themselves and enjoy feminine clothing. But I do want to say, theres a lot more than just gay

@cory_and_co 9 ай бұрын

the fact I started questioning at 11 and jow at 15 I'm 98% sure I'm done questioning-

@judebrown4103 9 ай бұрын

Keep that 2% in your pocket, as a very old person I can promise you that questions can hit at any age. I "came out" at 25 traumatic as it was in those days, by the time I hit 60 I realised I had issues with my assigned gender. It's never too late to ask Questions of yourself so keep watching Jessica, (who has helped me enormously) and keep an open mind. Live well, be kind, love yourself.🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

@m.k.9572 9 ай бұрын

For me Queer always kind of meant Questioning... I know for certain that I'm a sapphic woman, but I'm not sure whether or not I liked men, so I always just labeled myself as queer bc I wasn't sure if I was gay or bi

@AldinRamic 5 ай бұрын

I heard some people called themselves queer because It's easier for others to understand. And is easy to explain to strangers.

@toastyideas2316 4 ай бұрын

Honestly like when you described questioning with the example i screamed on top of my lungs “THATS SO ME”

@tejaswoman 9 ай бұрын

Q for questioning also applies when we're talking about some of the efforts to reduce bullying, harassment, or discrimination. We all know there definitely are people who don't settle for harassing only the people who've made up their minds about their orientation or identity. They'll harass them just for not being sure.

@BebbaDubbs 9 ай бұрын

I started questioning and moved to Queer ❤

@jessicaoutofthecloset 9 ай бұрын

❤️🌈

@partlycloudyoptimist809 9 ай бұрын

I’m A old 1980s born Bi. I am told by my younger coworkers that I don’t exist. That I’m Omni. Which I just don’t connect with. Looked it up. Didn’t make sense to me. I’m BI. I was born BI. I figured out It was called Bi at 25. Told other people at 32, and I’m way to old to change titles now. Just let me be BI in peace. I can’t figure out some of the new stuff with google and a flow chart.

@Cabin_6_of_CHB 9 ай бұрын

Lol, as a fellow bi, I am proud you didn't smack them upside the head

@P0EALLEN 4 ай бұрын

I started as L then ended at G and T. Self-discovery is one hell of a process!

@FanStoryVideoStudios 4 ай бұрын

Took me until college to realize I like women too, and wasn’t until VERY recently (late 20s) that I realized I may be nonbinary!

@kelofficialreal 4 ай бұрын

I've known I was trans for a long while, but even now, I question a lot of other parts of my sexuality. I'm still discovering new things about myself every day!

@isabellabrignola1462 4 ай бұрын

This is /such/ an important space. As someone who doesn't experience sexual attraction quickly and started questioning my sexuality around 18, it's such an important thing to be able to feel a part of the community without needing to pick a label. A) Gender and sexuality shift and change over time so it's natural to change and B) it offers people the stepping stone for those who aren't just "I've always known" or "Yeah I kissed X and then I knew" since those stories are nice but not helpful if you're unsure.

@RM-hi4vv 4 ай бұрын

I managed to realize in my 40s. I was in 2 consecutive long-term heterosexual relationships starting in college. When that 2nd one ended (surprisingly and by the other party), I was left with unexpected time on my hands to think (add 2020 was right around the corner to this, and a LOT of thinking happened). I was unpacking some internalized misogyny and getting closer to an AFAB friend, and realized 1) I’m demi, and 2) I’m bi.

@aSwiftieTV 8 ай бұрын

Yep. Can’t decide if i’m aro/ace or lesbian/ace

@charliebrown1184 9 ай бұрын

'Vans and a rainbow flag' is a whole mood. 😂

@Catpotatoechips 6 ай бұрын

My bracelets being super loud because I'm pointing at myself when you said questioning

@eyenpersu5248 4 ай бұрын

I only discovered at age 30 that i'm probably demi - ace and have been thinking a lot about where exactly I am on that spectrum. My previous boyfriend used to say that doing the s stuff was what was required of me. I only realized just how damaging this was over a year after I left the relationship. I just hardly ever felt up to doing anything like that so I just went along with despite not really wanting to.

@arunimaverma8130 4 ай бұрын

i questioned for all of 2 weeks because the moment i found out what bisexuality was i was like ohhh that explains it (i was 12)

@SarkyGacha 4 ай бұрын

I actually use queer half of the time for this exact reason. I am firm on my sexual orientation but romance and gender wise i am not so sure. Agender and demiromantic is as close as i got so far but honestly i am not ready to explore or use either labels. And i know i am in the lgbt even if i turn out to be cis due to the previously mentioned sexual orientation so i feel strange using the term questioning. It's easier to say i am queer and leave it at that.

@angelsnaiilz 9 ай бұрын

yes i was questioning around 14!!

@Cabin_6_of_CHB 9 ай бұрын

I was questioning by 9 lol. I got it wrong tho

@scrap_painter 4 ай бұрын

i found out about lgbtq in 2019 and to this day i'm still figuring out what i am

@tyas5503 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this!

@thatmessy132 4 ай бұрын

I spent my early teens questioning my transness (I'm gender-fluid and non-binary) because I didn't have enough information- that was my q Era. I was given more information because in my country Full Sex Ed is part of the curriculum, and I learned something new.

@lyssaj940 4 ай бұрын

Realized i wasn't straight at 9. It took 6 years for me to get to the point of accepting myself for being more than just an "Ally" lol im still confused about my gender though might be Genderfluid or Bigender. But growing up in the south doesn't do much with helping my mental health ✨

@xanoriana 4 ай бұрын

thought she was gonna be like Q = Qrious

@eepee_eepee 4 ай бұрын

thanks for the insight I had no idea

@meepmonstare 4 ай бұрын

One of my friends is questioning his gender and sexuality and he was like "I'm jealous that you have it figured out" and I was like "I have been having a gender crisis for 3 and a half years"

@zemoxian 5 ай бұрын

I’m questioning in my 50s. Learning about gender identities and expression and after some reflection, I no longer feel “straight” is entirely accurate. I don’t care about gender assigned at birth and I’m a bit more flexible on gender identity than I previously thought. So that leaves my orientation primarily focused around gender expression.

@holl377 4 ай бұрын

💚

@esberri 4 ай бұрын

I’m a teen currently questioning my sexuality. All my life I’ve been attracted to men and have had crushes on them. Recently when two of my friends came out at lesbians and that they were dating, I realised that maybe I should think about my sexuality. Even before them coming out I was questioning my sexuality, but I never really committed to it. Now I identify as bisexual/bicurious! ❤

@Lilscattz1 4 ай бұрын

Cool!

@RodrickHeffley47 4 ай бұрын

I’m a trans guy and I don’t really have a label for my sexuality I used to call myself lesbian but I don’t feel like that’s right and I have been attracted to males more then females but I still find some females attractive

@itzkoi7372 4 ай бұрын

One thing I've come to learn is that the more i learn about the lgbtq community the more i learn of myself. I started questioning recently to what gender I'm attracted to because i recently thought I had a crush on a close friend who is the same gender as me when I was identifying as straight. I had been questioning so much on *how* I was attracted to people that I forgot to think about *who* I was attracted to lol

@TimothyMorigeau 4 ай бұрын

I just got educated!

@Rebellescum 4 ай бұрын

im nearly 40 and im still not sure what label i have lol

@bonkers5451 4 ай бұрын

Well you have the rest of your life to figure it out!

@natakumakuraka 4 ай бұрын

aren't we all questioning ourselves all the time tho ? How can we be sure of anything really

@kentbuta9599 4 ай бұрын

Peonies how pretty

@gacha_xxtuber2218 4 ай бұрын

*gasps dramatically* that’s me! :0

@AxolotlsAtWork 9 ай бұрын

Can you please do one about neptunic? Not a lot of people know about that one and i feel so left out since im netunic

@dismal_mystery 9 ай бұрын

Hey! Quick question but what exactly is neptunic? I’ve come across the term a few times recently, and whilst I have done some research on its meaning etc., it would be great to hear it from someone who is neptunic themselves. From your fellow queer

@TheCannyMagpie 9 ай бұрын

@@dismal_mysteryNeptunic refers to an individual who is attracted to both nonbinary and female gender. It can also be described as the attraction to all people except men and man-aligned and/or masculine-aligned nonbinary people.

@dismal_mystery 9 ай бұрын

@@TheCannyMagpie oh that’s really cool! Thanks for replying

@xkero 6 ай бұрын

i have a neptunic friend and im uranic! :3

@queerulantin6431 8 ай бұрын

❤

@lisastenzel5713 6 ай бұрын

Ah! Learned something new. Thank you.. didn't know the Q has so many meanings

@SuperGoofy2Nite 4 ай бұрын

I say Q is Queer like Querie however you spell it :) Querie like question

@libbykenilworth4253 9 ай бұрын

57% does make those questioning the majority in that age range (11-15 I think it was?) so that’s interesting

@SylverScourge 9 ай бұрын

I never realized people thought q was for queer, I always thought it was for questioning.

@batlover2003 9 ай бұрын

It is used for both 👍

@robinboyle5667 6 ай бұрын

Yep. I knew I was not like all my little friends at age 11. I heard and saw enough to let me know I was attracted to other little girls, and boys were a goddam pain in the ass. Looking back I see no reason to change my mind. Preteen boys are insufferable. But I weathered that storm and went deep into the closet until I was 17 or so. Now, at 78, I'm open about myself to close friends if I think they should know personal things about myself. But, that part of my life is long gone. I'm attracted to no one. I live with my cats. I've got friends with whom I play canasta. Luckily I'm an artist so I delve into that world and leave this one. It's all good!!! Cheers. 🎉😂

@jeremydavis3919 5 ай бұрын

❤😊

@grandkaiser1 5 ай бұрын

Ohhhhhhh questioning...i like that....options open

@poseidons_child. 5 ай бұрын

I’m questioning. I’m not sure if I like men women or if I’m aroace.

@nancyandrews8891 5 ай бұрын

Love Your Dress❗️

@erikdahl6861 4 ай бұрын

It could also stand for "Quasit" because of their actions to help queer wizards and sorcerers during the Weave Recession act of 1101.

@ledrothacurtain9738 5 ай бұрын

A so thats why I'm seriously confused

@user-hm3jo5bo6f 3 ай бұрын

Who else instantly thought wow she’s straight out of the 50’s lol nn hate I love the 50’s

@Pineapple_Cheasecake 9 ай бұрын

I’m questioning because I don’t know if I’m Lesbian or Bi

@Roses4eternity 4 ай бұрын

I don’t know how to tell my mom and dad that I’ve been using they them pronouns, i came here for advice. What should I do????

@HotDogTimeMachine385 9 ай бұрын

Why are so many people question their identity, but nobody talks about answering their identity :3

@Cabin_6_of_CHB 9 ай бұрын

I think it's bc questioning is a lot harder then answering lol. I thought I was Ace but I'm bisexual.

@user-np7qz1kc5n 6 ай бұрын

🌈🌈🌈

@goatplaysguitar 5 ай бұрын

Me, an AFAB, who is attracted to women, questioning my gender identity, and between the ages of 11 and 15: 👁️👄👁️

@bonkers5451 4 ай бұрын

I immediately thought of ACAB and thought you were saying All Fish Are Bastards and idk why

@annadoingrandomthings9066 3 ай бұрын

I have a quick question, does anyone know what it’s called if I (a girl) like both girls and people who are non bianary?

@ayathedoggo 9 ай бұрын

A) was there a body in that shot of the Pride flag? B) "AFAB attracted to women but what is gender? 🙃" My ass is represented ❤

@xaviergallegos614 4 ай бұрын

im gay and im just gonna keep it LGBT because idek care bout what the Q stands for I aint even part of the community

@user-np7qz1kc5n 6 ай бұрын

Gay Gay❤❤

@kailer9839 4 ай бұрын

Im the C. Confused.

@billybear1581 9 ай бұрын

wait what's the difference between sexual orientation and identity??

@batlover2003 9 ай бұрын

Identity usually refers to gender identity, which is about your own self image and self actualization and doesn’t involve attraction to other people.

@FeelinBlue44 9 ай бұрын

…don’t just say “have fun” that leads down a dangerous path. Sexuality isn’t something to “have fun” with.

@Thatpersonwhodoesstuff 5 ай бұрын

Why not? For some it can be scary sure but if your just having a little adventure looking in on yourself and figuring out your indentity, it could be enjoyable. She also presented some with new information allowing those newly informed to have fun with education.

@FeelinBlue44 5 ай бұрын

That is a fair point! I was mainly speaking off of personal experience lol-I apologize!@@Thatpersonwhodoesstuff

@3bah4y 6 ай бұрын

No, it’s for Queer. There might be another Q after the +, but this Q is for Queer.

@3bah4y 6 ай бұрын

@@viper4405 no but okay

@lovesmattie_ 4 ай бұрын

the letters can have multiple meanings, just like how A can be Aromantic or Asexual

@kristennations8516 9 ай бұрын

Nah it's for queer. You can't just change the letters as you please. It is not for" questioning " 🙄

@batlover2003 9 ай бұрын

The Q has meant both Queer and Questioning for decades actually.

@ariaplayz8075 4 ай бұрын

It means both similar to how the “a” means both aromantic and asexual

@DebbieOldSchool-1442 9 ай бұрын

And you let them be and grow up to adulthood because their brains aren’t fully developed until around 22. No influencing children.

@batlover2003 9 ай бұрын

Some people realize they are LGBTQ much earlier than age 22 though… no shame in that

@Cabin_6_of_CHB 9 ай бұрын

@@batlover2003I realized when I was 9 lol. I mean I still got it wrong but, my heart was in the right place.

@ariaplayz8075 4 ай бұрын

You can let them grow but they are children and are naturally curious, there’s nothing wrong with them trying to learn about themselves

@PKOB2 9 ай бұрын

does the T stand for Twat?

@GhostGecko30 9 ай бұрын

No, it's transgender

@tinyspyro8163 9 ай бұрын

@@GhostGecko30he knows...

@universal_stupidity 9 ай бұрын

no it stands for twink 💚 (I'm a trans twink and this is a joke)

@maryn8222 9 ай бұрын

Honey, you can identify however you want.

@GhostGecko30 9 ай бұрын

@@tinyspyro8163 yes, ik he knows. I was just trying to be blunt

@pandadumplingsgirl 6 ай бұрын

They've added sexual attraction to minors now

@stalkkaajatyyppi 6 ай бұрын

Who has? Priests? I’ve never met a queer person who thinks pedophilia is okay.

@RichConnerGMN 5 ай бұрын

who the hell are "they"

@owensthebomb9273 5 ай бұрын

You didn’t have your first crush until you were 18 years old?

@owensthebomb9273 5 ай бұрын

You do realize that you literally develop sexual attraction in puberty right? Something that happens to minors…

@ariaplayz8075 4 ай бұрын

@@owensthebomb9273⁠⁠⁠I think they where referring to “maps” (minor attracted people / pedophiles) not minors who are attracted to people Idk who the “they” they were referring to was though because I don’t think anyone in the lgbtq+ community claims anyone who identifies as a “MAP”