Re-Parenting - Part 90 - Suicide and Complex Trauma
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@TrueSelf1111 5 ай бұрын
This is me. Months & months. Tried 12 step. Quit. Therapy & EMDR helped so much. So much loss. Kicked out of relationship & home. Friends are all conditional. Thank you for this.
@GodIsLove1John416 5 ай бұрын
This channel deserves more subscribers just as much as more people need this life saving/changing information. Thank you Tim & staff who make this channel possible, God Bless. I would love to see the Bible teachings come back at the end!
@Thepisceangem 5 ай бұрын
I second the reincorporation of bible teachings at the end !
@beloveddaughter6714 4 ай бұрын
It is fast becoming popular. Subscription has almost doubled in the last 2 months since I discovered this channel. I am excited about starting the LIFT program soon. Let us continue to like, share & subscribe. Let the healing continue 😊
@beloveddaughter6714 4 ай бұрын
Father God, we thank you for Tim. He helped me put together the pieces of my life. I survived a long term narcissist relationship but struggling to recover because I wasn't aware of childhood trauma. I am thankful for Tim's videos. 😊
@Oaktreealley 4 ай бұрын
I love the Bible lessons. Its always so helpful to see that even though these ancient people also struggled there was/is always hope. It keeps me going.
@dgvfsa66 5 ай бұрын
Your staff was right. This video is much needed. I'm sure you saved many lives tonight ❤
@mbw6785 5 ай бұрын
That hopelessness thing shook me. I’m never gonna do it, but I felt that whole explanation
@latasha9898 5 ай бұрын
Thank you Tim, that was very helpful. I appreciate your insight. It's like you know me without knowing me. I must be a text book case. losing hope is a slippery slope.
@susie5254 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for giving a voice to those of us who cannot get serious help because we don't actually jump but are "only" in enough pain to dream about jumping. I don't believe there is help for those who fall into the category of suicidal ideation. The pain is excruciating but responsibility is, apparently, even stronger that the pain. No help is the consequence of being responsible.
@reallythere 5 ай бұрын
Often I've noticed that anyone will say they are willing to listen to people in crisis. Of course it feels heroic to save someone from the brink....but rarely will anyone be willing listen when it's not yet an emergency. It's not fun or heroic to hear out a boorish childhood trauma story that may need more than one sitting and to build ties with a pertain that is estranged from their family. It's not as rewarding to be neighborly or a remote friend. Of course therapists are out there but they can't replace someone making you feel included
@smoozerish 5 ай бұрын
you are doing a vital public service
@jeankipper6954 5 ай бұрын
I'm unlikely to commit suicide. But the thought of being dead is not a threat. It' is a promise. This will end. A gift. And yes I've been in therapy and have long been doing all I know to do. Still, when the time comes, it will be a relief.
@chilloften 5 ай бұрын
Great information, given with such compassion. Tim Fletcher is like father on earth.
@angelanbauer3392 25 күн бұрын
From hope to hopelessness in a moment - I've said this to therapists over the yrs & they've not believed me. Thank you
@sherrytaylor3738 5 ай бұрын
Thank you Pastor Tim. Your team was right. This topic is timely for me. Your talks have helped me immensely.
@panther36 4 ай бұрын
Please keep doing these videos- they are the best trauma information ones I have ever encountered. Thank you
@mknels1299 5 ай бұрын
37 years sober, alanon 42, no family, just aa and church
@kirkreed2705 5 ай бұрын
I would really like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video and covering this very touching topic. I have had a very close friend of mine whom who had committed suicide and have had a lot's of questions and wondering concerns of what everyone else has asked and that's WHY . And this video has somewhat answered those questions. So I ask you to keep up the good work you do and please keep sharing these videos that you are making.
@user-em3np4vr8c 2 ай бұрын
Thankyou Tim, for all your great advice regarding trauma, been listening this afternoon, and appreciate your advice, which is prolific, been very helpful!🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤life is very challenging when you have trauma and chemical addiction and all that goes with!!🎉🎉🎉🎉
@c.edwards5421 5 ай бұрын
You did an awesome job
@Metaphysics-for-life 4 ай бұрын
If ever there was an episode that needed God in it, this is the one... but I didn't here you talk about Him? Maybe I missed it? I love how you include readings from the Bible in other videos I have watched
@missmandy2912 4 ай бұрын
My mother passed away last year due to all the reasons in the video. Thanks Tim and team, this just make me realise again there was not much more i could do, the damage was already done. You can get caught in the trap of ' could i have done anything more'. I took my mother in my home in the last weeks and spoke openly about her thoughts. Unfortunately she saw no other way out of the pain by the time she was 60. Lots of gratitude for sharing this video to help other,
@125ccbiker9 5 ай бұрын
Tim Fletcher has hit 500 vids
@christiea772 2 ай бұрын
The most shocking part is that people think that suicide is the problem but in reality it seems the solution to “end all problems “. Therefore just because the ideation is gone doesn’t mean someone is better. Aldo suicide is not hitting rock bottom. When I was at the bottom I didn’t have the physical nor mental strength to plan for it. It was only months later when my physical and mental health “stabilized” that I tried.
@CassandraDarling 3 ай бұрын
This video is a great resource for non-suicidal people to help suicidal people. Not so helpful for people who are currently, personally suicidal and looking for resources on how to help themselves.
@animalliberationCLBB 3 ай бұрын
Thanks so deeply for this Video!!❤ Blessings from Germany
@natalyorlova5690 3 ай бұрын
Thank you very much for this briliant wirk..so helpfull ❤
@survivingandthriving-vx8ys 3 ай бұрын
Please Mr. Fletscher, make a video about disability and quiting work because of c ptsd. So many issues and problems come up because of not able to work.
@mariettamullin322 5 ай бұрын
Very interesting. The 12 year mark, especially. WTH? Twelve is pretty young to have issues like this. I mean that. That was news. I missed the whole 12 needs thing. I’ll be ggling. I tried 12 steps. I needed more. Still do. This ‘peekaboo SI sucks. Damn! The shame of shames.
@Sarahwithanh444 5 ай бұрын
My serious suicidal ideation started around age 11 and has been a lifelong struggle..
@RationalNon-conformist 5 ай бұрын
@@Sarahwithanh444mine began around 9… It went away even if the abuse continued, I found ways to cope as I got older. Eating well (for me, that’s carnivorous way of life due to autoimmune issues) and going no contact with narcissists has really changed my life for the better. I wish you healing, truly.
@lukedegraaf1186 5 ай бұрын
Mine started around 8 or 9 as well. I just moved and relapsed. Memories and ideation and rationalisation. Won't stop.
@lukedegraaf1186 5 ай бұрын
Early teens I started self harming to control the pain. Something else snapped in me. When I was little I was sad and wanted to die, then I choked it all down with anger and hurting myself.
@user-mv4zc7yp3l 4 ай бұрын
Thankyou
@thegoldengirl7129 3 ай бұрын
I’ve attempted and my mom completed suicide when I was 14, which is part of my trauma
@aurelienyonrac 2 ай бұрын
So true. I can definitely recognize myself in the cortex suicide group. I say : ok i lost hope. But just don't grap hopelessness. I remind myself that I don't know. And be present. Looke at beauty as i fall apart. Then... oh i feel much better😅
@ts3858 2 ай бұрын
Im done at 63 yrs old. Miserable life....😓
@nidaladil4150 5 ай бұрын
Thank you
@MrDman70 2 ай бұрын
It's sad but let's be clear. Nobody cares about your suicidal thoughts until the funeral. Only then people hug each other asking why. People are full of shit in general. Thank you Tim.
@yourpt7161 2 ай бұрын
can the limbic go calm after the cortex approves of and arrange for carrying out the plan?
@lindacarlton3154 5 ай бұрын
9:22 Yes, a very tough topic. I love what you share, your discernment and wisdom. Im working through my complex trauma as my only child committed suicide. I know i passed mine on to him. My son was almost 22. I firmly believe that his marijuana use also played a huge roll as it has been found that THC interferes with the development of the pre-frontal cortex. I can say firmly he was not depressed and did not give any indication he felt suicidal. I will say he had had a bad day that day and his estranged girlfriend texted him he was a loser and he should kill himself. I own my part and make amends by staying sober and living my program. I went back to school and have received my chemical dependency license. Thank you for all of your great vieeos! And thank you for making this video on a very difficult topic. God bless you.❤️🙏
@mknels1299 5 ай бұрын
Not your fault,devil looms large on the earth .ok
@lukedegraaf1186 5 ай бұрын
I seem to feel bad about being happy, like ill be punished and it will be taken away.
@Blessupph777 5 ай бұрын
I dont understand whats happening in me
@leanne123 3 ай бұрын
Phone crisis line and talk about it. Maybe they can tell you what's going on with you. Or tell your doctor. Don't be shy. That is what they are there for. 🙋🏼♀️💖
@kimgreerpuchek1140 5 ай бұрын
COMMIT? My mother took her own life by suicide. I’ve been left with the thought of if she had been committed to killing herself?
@lukedegraaf1186 5 ай бұрын
The wording comes from when it was a crime. Punishment would be to stop your family inheriting anything.
@leanne123 3 ай бұрын
@@lukedegraaf1186 Wow ! I had no idea it was an actual punishable crime to kill yourself. I guess my assumption was because the perpetrator is no longer alive. To punish the family is a very interesting deterrent as well as punishment for the crime.
@user-em3np4vr8c 2 ай бұрын
Its very hard to kill yourself, the last time I took a bowl, cocktail of pills and I was OK after, that time I was extremely sick and suffering severely, well that was kind of a miracle, maybe the bowl was not full enough! Don't do it , it's a very bad deal, but I understand totally!❤❤❤
@femininejewel Ай бұрын
You always say: ' talk to somebody' but what if in your life all your family is dead and you have no access to intimacy because every one you meet is a stranger. Its true I live in the Philippines and have no one of my own race around. I 'escaped' Western Europe because of the high level of narcissism there. In 40 years no single sane friend or warmth. Dont have cash for online therapy and do not have access to the USA where there is more consciousness and help. I am totally isolated and no chance of finding anyone to attach too, or even talk too in a day. Its unbearable brain famine and then WITH complex trauma to digest. Completely isolated in a strange low-concious culture, with people looking at you like an ATM, being scammeded multiple times by 'friends' because I was looking for closeness. Being the ATM -stranger in a low-minded very dissociated strange culture with no escape. Like an isolation death sentence NOW WHAT???
@merrill5780 5 ай бұрын
Is anyone awake to the world here?
@allencollins6031 5 ай бұрын
Yes.
@merrill5780 5 ай бұрын
@@allencollins6031 even here I think. Knew first minute of '20,(and before).Trying to take the good because real sincere good are so few. Discernment on full. Pretty overwhelming.
@allencollins6031 5 ай бұрын
@@merrill5780 sure is.
@teddyboef2821 4 ай бұрын
❤
@teddyboef2821 4 ай бұрын
It retriggered the cptsd with a vengeance
@abigaildensmore8162 5 ай бұрын
My husband took his life two months ago 😢
@Sadbuttrue-ThatSwedishGirl 4 ай бұрын
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@michaelgarrow3239 4 ай бұрын
I pray for you.
@Star-dj1kw 5 ай бұрын
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@claudiamanta1943 5 ай бұрын
31:56 Mate, you spoke well. However, to reduce the CPTSD only to childhood trauma is not just lazy, it’s downright stupid. People suffer CPTSD for many other reasons because society is as it is. People who fought in wars, for example- why nobody talks about emotional injury? And where the hell have you been since 2020? Friends and families turned against one another, increase in prices, joblessness, dissolution of every ounce of human decency, dissolution of trust in medical professionals, Police, law, scientists…you fucking name it. For 4 years now. So. In conclusion, give me a fucking break.
@sarahw7616 4 ай бұрын
He's not reducing it to only childhood trauma but it is the core issue. Once the childhood trauma is addressed, one gains the tools/skills to handle trauma in adulthood that you have mentioned. So, as is everything, it's on a spectrum.
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