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The biggest red flag in a man is if he cannot empathise with you on the simplest valid points. Run sis.

He doesn’t like confrontation, doesn’t know How to have a genuine conversation, and very dismissive. I feel sad for Erica, he literally lured her like a predator, swept her off her feet, made a song about her and once he had her locked in with marriage and a kid, his skin started to shed.

Healthy relationships are not overly emotional or dramatic, real love feels like peace and comfort it feels familiar it’s not supposed to give you “butterflies”

“They don’t deserve you, but they’ll act like you don’t deserve them.”

Narcissist only start pretending to care when they start losing you

The timeline is so comical! Narcissists are SO predictable. HE lovebombed her and locked her down with a baby/marriage, the only time he showed “emotion” (the theatrical crying) was when he was trying to look good in front of a crowd at his marriage, and the minute he knew he had her, he starts neglecting/gaslighting her and deflecting all his negativity.

"Y'all know how much I love myself, so how can I not want to be with me, in a female version" ..... #1 RED FLAG🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

I now realize that it is very important not to be chosen but to choose your partner and your worth as a woman is not intertwined with being a wife. Ladies donot let age and loneliness let you give a narcissist and manipulator a place in your life. You are dropping gems Bree. 💯

My heart breaks every time we women go through this foolishness with narcissists. Like dang can y’all demons leave ppl alone.

The idealization is real. It’s like a kid who gets his dream toy and it breaks in 3 days. When they see you have a weakness, or mistreat you and one day you finally have had enough, it’s like “why is it doing this??? I want my money back” This happened to me and it was bizarre how after I started standing up for myself, the person treated me like there was something wrong with me. Like I was malfunctioning and needed to be fixed.

First off, your face card never declines. I believe Safaree intentionally sabotage his own marriage. He really believe life is like a music video.

He was so blatantly disrespectful and nasty to her, I’m shocked she stayed as long as she did. I can’t believe he laughed at his baby girl on the floor crying, didn’t even pick her up and Erica is sitting there big & pregnant. He definitely won’t be seeing the gates of heaven

Breeny, just as there are text books in Universary that are mandatory reading, THIS VIDEO should be mandatory viewing for every straight woman in the world! You nailed it.

I got out of a relationship with a guy like this a year and a half ago. This guy was my first real boyfriend, so I felt like I was on cloud 9 during the early stages of the relationship. Once my defenses came down, he switched like a light! The resemblance of Safaree’s narcissism and emotionally abusive behavior is so uncanny 😖 even the red flags such as the self-centered compliments, lack of empathy, and the idolization. Even with the red flags, I felt like he would be my one and only and it took me a while to leave him 😢 I have come to terms with the fact that none of it was my fault and have worked hard to unlearn codependency. I’m in a much better place than I was, but your video can help so many people 🙏🏾🤎

11:15 Now I completely get it! I understand how she could fall for him! "She was so low and vulnerable." Her dad died and she wasn't on alert, she felt like he was her savior because she just wanted to be happy again.

First of all, Can we just take a second to appreciate how stunning breeny looks in this video my God you're so beautiful! Secondly I hope every woman in the world gets to see this video and when you're done come back and watch it again and again it'll save you from alot. I've personally have learnt alot from it. Thank you breeny you're like a big sister to so many of us❤️

The level of toxicity is sickening. For a man to sit in the presence of a breaking woman and feel nothing is the saddest thing ever. Especially when he is the root cause of her pain. Yet, I bet he would empathise with a man or woman with missing limbs begging for food. That woman went through so much especially with the son. I understand falling out of love, but I refuse to understand a man despicable behaviour towards a woman who bore his children. I guess they both are in a broken state. We need to normalise therapy and healing. Too many broken people, breaking people.

His reaction to Erica being pregnant made me feel sooo bad for her. Wouldn’t wish that on nobody, it’s so peak

"don't be so stuck on being chosen that you don't choose" SNAPS for Breeny!

This video was on point !! I’ve been narc free for two years now and boy what a crazy ride that was…Narcissistic men are the worst, ladies protect yourselves no man is worth losing yourself for. Once I realized he was a narcissist I ghosted my ex, stopped responding to his texts, sent his stuff through the mail and never looked back😅 best decision of my life!!

Erica Mena got her Karma for being a mean spirited person for years but what I will say is Safaree definitely is a narcissistic person and he has no empathy for Erica’s feelings to the point where he doesn’t even care for his kids. She’s goofy for having children with a man who blatantly stated he doesn’t want children TWICE and shouldn’t be surprised that he’s a deadbeat.

Narcissists are “energy vampires” that thrive and strive to rob and drain your energy to fill the voids in their lives simply put. Well done in your delivery.

I remember liking a guy for like 6 years without ever talking to him! I was just crushing on him hard. We finally started talking and I don’t think we even lasted a year. (He was never officially my boyf, it was more of a long distance situationship). My imaginary him was so much better & the real him could not live up to it. What a disappointment 😂😂 ..idk why we do this to ourselves. Some people are better in the abstract LITERALLY!!

Also. Can I just say. That I LOVE this play-by-play format?! So many people try to explain and use examples of this kind of thing. But actually watching it unfold and having you call it out for what it is is so fricken powerful. I wish more people explained toxic relationships this way. The tone of voice, micro expressions etc etc makes what you say make sense!

I was with a covert narcissist for 5 months. Its taken more than 2 years to get over it with strict NC and a lot of work. But I still carry the scar of the situation, and I think one of the biggest things hurting the healing process is you do feel like you got scammed. So even if you heal from the trauma bond, you still carry the weight of being scammed.

I’m glad that you mentioned apology gifts. Lots of these women get flooded with apology gifts & them shove them in our faces as if they’re gifts out of admiration or appreciation. That’s why I don’t idolize any celebrity couple, people only post what they want you to see.

Erica is NOT a narcissist, she is a complex and damaged person. Narcissism is a REAL CONDITION.

I think a class in narcissistic abuse should be mandatory in elementary schools. Also, a class in ACE Adverse Childhood Experiences should be mandatory for everyone considering becoming a parent. The traumas experienced the first 7yrs. determines the child’s self esteem.

This breakdown is so good, so many gems to keep in mind! Its also so heartbreaking to watch this woman go from being in love to being completely shattered.

This video was so full of amazing gems I needed to her when it comes to how important it is to love yourself and not settle. Some men really don’t deserve women.

The callousness of leaving the baby shower is beyond me!💥 This play by play really put everything in perspective. Erica saying that she felt “scammed” is really the long and short of it. It breaks my heart because she put so much HOPE in their union. Whether conscious of it or not-he set out to break her!

When I had my son I was really emotional, scared and depressed because my baby daddy wasn't supportive. Every time I tried to express my feelings to him, I couldn't stop myself from crying but that irritated him. He would degrade me saying I was very weak. If you could see the disgust on his face🙄it made me hate myself and actually believe I was a weak woman. I was scared of being a single mom so had to put up an act of a happy woman. I lost mind, self esteem, weight and self worth. Can't believe I left him and rebuilt myself. Now he tries to be friends with me, but I don't let him near me. I allow him be a father to our son, but that's how much he'll get close to me. I can't believe I let that man do me that. But hey we learn from our life experiences☺️

I was in a narc marriage for 11yrs we married young in it was pure hell I missed all the signs put I’m proud I divorced a year ago ❤

Honestly, this is so scary to me. I have been in multiple relationships with a narcissist and every time I think I know how to recognise them they show up in a different form. He looks like the stereotypical "nonchalant" funny guy that is so chill and laidback when in reality he is not a good person. It's so hard for a woman to have her emotions validated when you date a narcissist because they are so good at hiding it that you's always the crazy one. It's even harder to protect yourself from narcissists because some of them are patient and will make themselves into becoming your ideal just so they can manipulate you. Like one of my ex fully told me the only reason he pursued me was that he wanted to prove to himself that he could bag a girl like me. I was just there for his ego. anyways stay safe out there ladies

The last clip of them was absolutely disgusting. He is a CLEAR narcissist. He's never hidden it. Thanks for this video. The scary thing is that they can change up on you after marriage.

Please keep doing these reaction videos Breeny! analyzing these red flags are gonna save A LOT of women.

Girrrrrllll you are doing the Lord's work right now! Wish I saw this video before I dated my ex boyfriend who was a narcissist.

Hi Breeny Im a 22 year old who got used and abused by a narcissist who is also the father of my child. I just wanted to thank you for making this video because I know it will help me tremendously once I decide to get into the dating scene again. But everything you mentioned here is creepingly spot on. You are the big sis I never had and I will without a doubt purchase your book❤

The fact that she had to throw that party to put him in a good mood to tell him the news of baby number two tells me she knew he wouldn't be on board... Women who date narcissist know deep inside that their partners are narc

I remember back when she was pregnant with the first baby and he kept dressing her up and styling her like she was his doll. Then threw her a birthday party but HIS pictures were EVERYWHERE at her party! I knew he was a narcissist right there.

I don’t feel bad for Erica or Safaree. He knew how she was and vice versa. This Erica’s karma on top of her not healing from past relationships. Safaree been a narcissistic mess. A huge walking red flag 🚩 He told her how he felt and she didn’t listen. My opinion, she fell in love with his peen. They did all this for television and then ish got real.

Breeney your hair is giving.And your chocolate skin is popping.

I wish everyone gets the love they deserve. Run away from red flags and never choose someone who doesn't value your feelings!!! We must learn to love ourselves more everyone!!!

This is exactly what my mother had to deal with my father back when I was little. He was never supportive of my mother and the part where you said narcs are not loyal I totally get that. I had to see the video to clearly understand what type of a man he really was not the imaginary father I pictured in mind, later I got affected by men who showed similar traits to my father's character it took me a long time to not feel hatred and have low self-acceptance towards myself but thank god that I am in a position where I am more aware, conscious and learn from my past trauma and mistakes. Now I am able to have strong boundaries and also be able to question and try to find out people's real motives in general. IT WAS A LONG TIME COMING BUT I STILL RISE

This video was epic! I feel like I just watched an award winning documentary on Narcisstic Abuse...

You have saved me Till 2 days ago i was dating this man, he got the full potential all women are dreaming about I watched this and I totally understood the lesson He is a narcissist and I didn’t know i saw so many red flags but didn’t know how to connect them but now i do Thank you Breeny I love this video

i've had to watch this in parts because i just left a relationship just like this and some scenes were incredibly triggering. i hope erica finds herself in therapy; it requires so much to rebuild one's self after situations like this. thank you for this breakdown and the wisdom breeny, you are truly the bigger sister i never had.

Erica lost her biggest protector.... Every man after that had to fill this image.... When they wouldn't, she started doing everything she thought she could to make them love her like her father... She was everything they needed... She compared the exchange of love between her and her father.... Problem is she forgot her needs and they treated her per the example she set with loving herself..... Her love is unmatched, I pray for this woman to heal..... A part of me is Erica and so is all of you ...

I just love your content!! Been learning a lot about myself. I myself was in a narcissistic marriage, I left him last year, and will be filing for divorce. I did everything to make him happy but like you said it wont last long. I however avoided getting pregnant (tracking cycle) because I refused to bring an innocent child into a toxic marriage. Thing is 3 days after I left he asked me if my period came when I told him no, he said he was praying to get me pregnant so I would stay in his life. He was extremely controlling.

Now I see why nick hated him so much 😭 even during the relationship

Erica definitely ignored the red flags and shouldn’t have had another baby when she realized he was never there for the baby they already had but my heart still breaks for her imagine being pregnant about to get divorced and being in complete anguish telling someone how destroyed you feel and have them completely ignore you and dismiss your emotions like it’s nothing 😖 I been there and it sucks luckily got out before it was too late but I feel for her because it looked like she really genuinely loved him and he just used her to fulfill the fantasy in his head and bow out I hope she can find healing and realize that even tho no one is perfect she is not the problem she was completely manipulated

I used to be co dependent so I definitely can relate to the mistake of rushing into relationships. I was in 2 long term, back to back toxic relationships. Now that I've taken the time to heal the past couple years, I'm so much more aware of people in general. I've noticed I can pick up on red flags easier now which in the past I ignored or rationalized past the red flags.

How is this man deserving of all this after he treated her that way. This is mad. Very sad to see a beautiful woman like that go this length for that. Loving yourself is so important and knowing your worth

As someone who just left an emotionally abusive relationship with an alcoholic narcissist, my heart goes out to her. It really makes you lose yourself. I thank God marriage and children were not involved.

My heart truly goes out to Erica Mena 😥 she didn't deserve that. She can and she will come back stronger and go on to be more successful ✨️ 💪🏾 Saphari will get his because God don't sleep. You broke this down as well as articulated this so well Breeny! 🙌🏽

Still surprised they even got together in the first place. From Bow Wow to Safaree. From Nicki Minaj to Erica Mena. Seems like this relationship is like so many that get into rebound relationships and stuck in it even if they get married and divorce. Once they have children there are different levels of toxic behaviour that unfortunately happens and it is the children that negatively impacted

This is a phenomenal breakdown and also very triggering for me. I had no idea how much my son's father is like Safari. It's sad and scary but I thank God I've moved on from that. God bless Erica and those kids.

Narcissist Promise Dreams and Delivers Nightmares!!

This video definitely triggered me. My ex husband was a covert narc, and all of the things Erica went through I went through and then some. I was a shell of myself and my pregnancy was a mixture of excitement and sadness. I felt like a single mother and roommate. The divorce was the best thing and it took all four years post divorce to recover my sense of self and self worth/love. I’m extra careful who I choose this time.

A lot of women in this situation don’t answer back or argue because they don’t wanna upset these men and make excuses for him just to say they have a happy family know a women whose man cheated through all her pregnancies but married her after the 3rd and she think last she won and she had a 4th child

Girl this video hit me hard, it reminded me how I felt with my ex and I never realized how toxic the relationship was until after we broke up. He used to invalidate my feelings saying I was exaggerating, I was always the problem, I was constantly doubting myself and thinking that maybe I was the crazy one, and I was stuck in the cycle of ups and downs, where the ups were wonderful but the downs were devastating. He was not like Safaree though, I can't even imagine how tired Erica must have felt..

Unfortunately we live in a world that enables, normalises and entertains bad behaviours... hence why narcissists get away with so much of the crap they say and do. And in the end the victim of emotional and mental abuse is often painted as the bad guy. People need to start listening to their intuition from the get go, if something doesn't sit well address it and correct it, if it doesn't get corrected then we must gather the courage to Leave in Peace!

Even "normal people" who don't "have much to lose" should consider a prenup because it is an agreement that in case things go south, you are still able to keep your share of what you need in order to feel financially protected. A lot of women get prenups (involving alimony/spousal support) bc they were housewives in the marriage and nowhere to go in the absence of a prenuptial agreement.

Very sad. Honestly it’s the level of immaturity from him that I can’t take. There’s soooo many “men” I’ve met like this. Forever stuck in boyhood. Narcs like Safaree will take and take and take and take from you until you are a shell of your former self.

Thanks so much for the video Breeny. My dad is a narcissist, a lot is commonly being said about the couple dynamic but having a narcissist father is also a whole other level of trauma.

I can’t wait for the Ray J Princess Love breakdown! All of this is helping us learn. Thanks Breeny. Good idea! I didn’t know that Érica went through this. When the baby fell it was so loud and omg. That was not easy to watch. I have to Google her divorce settlement. I always knew her as a firecracker but she was very rational and calm dealing with him. I really feel bad that she had 2 kids with him and I hope he pays enough for her to have a nanny. I raised 2 children on my own and it was not easy at all. Praying for us women.

When you said COLORIST! I WAS LIKE OUCH; because it is true; a lot of Latin women (who have Erica’s color) do not understand the colorist ideology within the Afro community and confuse idealization with love.

When two wounded people get in a relationship , they bring out the worst in each other , which is the opposite of what a healthy relationship should do. I don’t think he’s a narcissist, he clearly has some issues that are still unresolved from his past. He looks miserable and is making Erica miserable too.

Brahahah 😂 you said Nicki minaj’s backup dancer 🥹 the shade

She stay begging for his love. If you see that man does not express love you have to dump him. And be single and open to meet a really loving man.

An apology without changed behaviour is manipulation...thats a powerful truth

No seriously. Can't lie I've been through something similar. They say and do everything you like in the beginning and have you feeling like you can finally breathe. Then as the relationship progresses things start to change and you start seeing the exact opposite of everything they showed you. It's so sad because the more you see the more detrimental it is to the relationship. And slowly but surely you become fed up and that person goes from the one to the lesson in due time.

I definitely believe most people you grow to love. When the Lust and infatuation periods begin to fade, love can be discovered. Thanks for the video.

Omg the BEST video of their relationship being dissected 🙌🏾 You explained nothing but the truth & exactly what NEEDS to be said/ pointed out. Keep the videos coming! I LOVE these type of conversations, they’re needed!

Girl the accent the hair the makeup ….I’m on the floor. You literally look like a real life Barbie doll, so gorgeous! And emotionally aware 🥹

The wedding scene where Erica was reading her vows to him really rubbed me off the wrong way. Safaree was so blank which proves he’s a soulless human. Not once during their relationship did it pull on his heartstrings to stop mistreating her. There was a disconnect from the beginning.

This reminds me of why my marriage ended after only four months lol. Thank goodness we didn’t have kids in the mix. I actually don’t want kids anymore, even if I get married again (to a great guy) because I don’t want to take the risk that the guy will change. I don’t want me or my kids to deal with that bs. Id rather not risk it at all.

OMG! You really hit this on the nail. Thank you for shedding light on this serious matter for people espically women who are unaware of these types of men. At this point they have their own community.

I’m so glad you touched on the Colourism part! I remember Safaree saying he was obsessed with her hair

You were on point with everything!! As you were talking, I kept having flashbacks of my own situation so would pause the video. This whole Erica & Safari thing is triggering. Especially after I saw how skinny Erica got because I lost so much weight from my own narcissistic relationship. It looked so unhealthy. I loved when you said “Narcs don’t deserve you but will act like you don’t deserve them” that is so true! Before this video I thought the ex was a covert narc but after watching this, he act so much like Safari, he was definitely an overt narc. The women in his family were more covert narcs & toxic codependents. In the end I felt tag teamed by all of them because narcs stick together like a clan. I have done the inner work to heal from any codependency issues, people pleasing ways, and have gotten rid of the savior complex. I stuck by that man all because I felt sorry for him and wanted to try to save or heal him. I learned the importance of placing boundaries. I never put up with bs before my narc ex but it’s like you’re under a spell once involved with them. I feel for Erica and any women who’s dealt with this. For awhile I was mad at myself, mad at the world, mad at God but God didn’t do this and I can’t blame myself for not knowing better but I can take accountability for my part such as overstaying in an unhealthy situation with a person who genuinely treated me like sh*t. I had no business being with him and deep in my intuition I knew that because I kept turning him down but he was so persistent just as Safari was with Erica. Then he pulled the bait and switch once he had me. I didn’t know who he turned into. Their masks eventually slips. Narcs will leave you completely destroyed if you let it get there so save yourself! Break the trauma bond. Theres no limit to how low they will go. I just want to hug Erica. God grant her Your peace 🙏🏽

Please do not apologize for dissecting anyone. The very comment you omit is the very comment that a young lady needs to hear to get her breakthrough. You are doing God's work in your own way, and I respect your pure attention and personal delivery. Thank you so much for all you do🥰

This was really sick and sad to watch😢 I pray everyday for discernment in choosing the right person

Thank you BreenyLee for passing the knowledge and wanting better for All of us!

The saddest thing is... Nowadays “better“ is being single and only dating when You feel like occasionally going on an adventure 🤩

Among all the red flags... When she had to take the guitar off the child... then pick the child up and he just watched her do everything and just laughed... Was just a clear visual of his character.

He tweeted the world that he regrets marrying her and she throws him a party for himself?!? Whaaat

Safari was jealous of Erica from the beginning. As he says he saw parts of himself in her, it’s like for that reasons he despised her and wanted to prove he was better. It’s an ego boost for him to see her hurt because he sees her as a strong woman.

You literally just dissected my parents whole 25 year long marriage in 1 hour, down to my mom being pushed to file for divorce. My dad must be Safaree's mentor or something because there's just no way. It's scary seeing someone else deal with an overt narcissist because my mom and I always thought we were crazy and the love bombing made it difficult to tell anyone about the abuse... I truly pray someone is watching this and taking all the hints seriously. Love & Light

Breeny…. I was speechless after watching this. Re watched it three times…. You truly have a gift. This highlighted my entire relationship in a nutshell. Talking about someone being a narcissist and actually seen in action, really seeing through another’s experience, actually saves you. The insight and clarity is invaluable. I cannot thank you enough 😥 one of the most helpful videos I’ve honestly seen. UGH. Makes me not feel alone. And not BLAME myself. That man is a NUT. People like this suck the life out of you.

This is the one of the best videos I have seen on you tube . Thank you for highlighting this subject. This hits me hard personally because my ex was exactly the same as Safaree & the best thing I ever did in my life is leave that toxic situation. I thank God that me & my children are free from this.

Love how you broke down the difference between “in love” and infatuation. The American language makes people use the word “love”incorrectly I noticed

Men like safaree will fake build you up just to tear you down and make you forget who you are … to get complete emotional control and that’s when they got you… all the love that we need or searching for is within … no one can love you more than you and treat you well more than yourself… a partner is to add (learn this on my journey of life)

Narcissists love bomb!!! That's how they get you!!!!!!

WE NEED MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS. how can he be so bad human in front of cameras like.. If he is a $hit character in front of them imagine how worst he is behind them

I’ve been through a few of these codependent moments, mainly when I’m making a financial change like moving, adding another job, or dating someone that lacks their own car/place… I’ve learned to keep boundaries, but another thing I’ve learned is that once a narcissist see’s they can’t verbally insult you due to you being self aware, they’ll literally make shit up. For example the last guy told me I needed to get in the gym, little did he know I was in the gym heavy, and that didn’t stop with him… I’m not overweight actually closer to the under for my height so at the time I had abs. Yet he had bigger boobs than me. Always tried to degrade me on the levels he couldn’t meet, another time he said my teeth were black, yet I’ve always had perfect teeth that I’ve prided myself with (one cavity, no gaps in a family of braces 😁 type of Pride) Yet his were very crooked and he needed an emergency root canal due to him not cleaning properly and getting an infection in multiple places. The way I dressed, he tried to shame me for waiting to spend $200 on work pants, yet only owned 3 pair of pants before his random shopping spree. 😅🥴

I’m glad you broke this down !!! Ladies need to be more aware of men like this

Girl this is a great video breaking down a man filled with indifference and apthay towards his woman. The disregarding, dismissive and manipulative behaviours in this man is truly unsettling! Could you do a video on your weight loss journey? You look amazing!! 😘

Great job Breeny! So happy to see somebody raising awareness on Narcissistic abuse, as someone who was born into a family of narcissists Thankyou!!❤❤❤

I love how you articulate yourself and simplify things to a general understanding. Great job!! And you look stunning btw 🤍