They say…”opposites attract” but we never talk about how…”opposites SUBTRACT”…some people just don’t fit in your life and world!

When i met my husband, i was not physically attracted to him. It was something about him that was off, and i couldn't put my finger on it. I ignored all the signs of a narcissist. Ladies trust your instincts/ discernment. Being married to the wrong person is a nightmare.

I'm tired of family assuming something is wrong bc I'm not married and never been married at 45. I didn't settle for a reason. I was told to try marriage out one time. I'm thinking, that's the problem we're having in the world today. You shouldn't get married for fun and giggles....

I just turned 35 today. No kids , No husband, a registered nurse, dropped 100lbs this year , and still finding myself. This message resonates in so many ways. Thank you for this birthday gift. I wrote down notes as reminders to not settle just because I am now 35 and single.😇 Bless you pastor!!!

This message is needed for this day and age. I am 66, no kids, no husband. I am retired (working part-time) and preparing to return to school this month for my Master's Degree in Developmental Psychology. This message has blessed me!

I can surely attest to this. I’m 32 and feel like I wasted 2.5 years of my life trying to change someone and hanging on to their words and not ACTIONS. Ladies, make decisions based on a man’s actions and how they make you feel. Behaviors and their energy does not lie.

I almost married wrong just to say I’m married and have a dual income and I also felt like an old maid at 32 because I wasn’t married . I’m so glad the Lord spoke through my sister who spoke sense into me.I’m single now and trusting God to steer me to the man he truly has For me.

I'm 59 and I haven't been with any one in years , but I don't fret over it , all things in God's time

When Pastor says Bae!! He not playing with us 😂😂😂❤❤❤❤

Oops, I settled the first time because of age. Don’t get me wrong I did love him, but he wasn’t the one! 36 years old isn’t old. 😂😂. Ladies, I’m 43 years old and divorced now. The next time I get married my husband will be filled with the Holy Spirit and a man that has a prayer life.Who’s with me Sisters?!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽

Many yrs ago I allowed some very UNGODLY ppl to talk me out of a great relationship & go back to a devil who treated me horribly. I thank GOD everyday I woke up & I realized he wasn't right for me. Now I'm glad I have a good man. We have to know what we want & what we don't want.

Only God can change a man!!!! Been there and almost lost myself! Pray for a partner!!!

Fantastic video. I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times I cant stop thinking about her, I am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but I just cant, I love her so much, I don't know why I am bring this here for, I cant stop thinking about her..

Anybody else automatically like the video before watching bc you know it’s gonna be top tier?!?!

I was married for 20 years. Divorced now for about three years. I am 46 and will not settle. I settle for the man I was married to because I felt I wasn’t good enough for the man I really wanted. Now I know I am worthy enough to wait for the man I really want and deserve

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

I’m just a baby learning how to communicate at 37 😅😅😅

Good evening Bishop Blakes, thank you for this teaching! I’m 42, been divorced for a little over a year now, and I am never going to settle again for a relationship🙏🏾.

🙏🏾🦋 amen. I'm 36, Recently Divorced from an Abusive, sadistic, narcissist. Literally almost lost my life. Never again will i ignore the red flags. Ptsd depression anxiety I'm doing better than i was a year ago. I'm still working on me. I started listening to Pastor Blakes when i was separated from my now ex husband, over a year ago. I'm thankful i found your channel. These messages hit in different ways any stage in your life and help you also understand the "why". Your ministry is needed for women that are "broken" from these relationships and don't know where to begin to get on the path of healing. There are platforms that don't have the woman's core, soul in mind, they are advising based on what a man wants and not what God wants. We cannot settle at any cost.

IM NOT EVER SETTLING 🙌🏾. IM 37 WITH NO BAGGAGE I WILL CONTINUE TO BE SINGLE BEFORE I SETTLE. I HAVE BEEN HAPPILY CELIBATE FOR 5 YEARS THANK GOD 😊 🙌🏾🙏.

Lack of self awareness on relationship boundaries, standards, not knowing who I was and naivety was my portion. Not ANYMORE!

I am about to be 50 and fabulous! I refuse to settle. I am single by choice and rocking with my Creator ❤

Dear RC Blakes, thank you so much for this preaching! If you don't mind, I'd like to add three more reasons, and I would LOVE to hear you talking about them one day. 1) Brainwashing little girls that negative attention = affection. I'm from Poland. Here we have a saying : "Kto się czubi, ten się lubi", which a variant of English: "The quarrels of lovers are the renewal of love." Here in Polish it has a bit different meaning: "If a boy starts a fight with you or is nasty to you, it means he likes you". This saying is usually used in a context of children or tweens/teens, when a girl is treated by a male peer in a rude way, is pranked by him, gets sarcastic, provocative comments from him, is name called or ridiculed etc. It normalizes abuse, but also it creates an impression in girls, that bad boys are rude, because just try to get nice girl's attention. If he "targets" you, then it means he fights you cute / pretty. 2) TOXIC, DISRESPECTFUL FATHERS. Well, I love my Dad, but he is a toxic man. He has always been disrespectful to my Mom. He never truly loved her. His father was a misogynist, who hated women and simply saw them only as s*x objects. He is a couch potato, lazy, with zero effort, extremely grandiose and opinionated. First to criticize everyone, last to do things. Yes, he is a narcissist. And when I fell in "love", I feel in love with narcissistic psychopath. The relation trap finally ended, but I got terribly emotionally wounded, with CPTSD. I never had any healthy male role model. I am learning from you what is "normal". I am 42, childless and single. I pray for a chance to get a godly husband and be a Mom. God can do it! But my heart aches terribly, because my Dad wasn't raised to love, protect or respect women. that's why I never loved, respect and protected myself from bad people. 3) Not knowing any decent, normal, godly men. Women raised in toxic families rarely have "access" to healthy people. Our parents have toxic relatives and toxic friends. Sometimes we live in places, when there are simply no available single men. I don't have a single neighbour my age. I don't have a single friend. I have no one to introduce me to a good single guy. And... I don't know what to do. Except from praying. I hope the Lord has the answer I don't have and will become my "Matchmaker". I tried to befriend people, but they are usually not interested in creating friendly bonds. They are preoccupied with their lives, or actually, don't need friends. I had wonderful late neighbours - two elderly couples. They were like my real family. Now neighbours don't even know each other, not to mention visiting each other. I don't know when to meet a man. God help me! Thanks for amazing teaching pastor! May God bless you abundantly, may He bless lovely Lisa and your whole family!

This man isn't lying at all. I was desperate to have a family I settle and now I have to seek therapy

No settling for any dude. Fixing faulty people aren't my thing. Best to stay single and at peace and wait for the right person.

Not the nasty men…😂 Pastor Blakes never disappoints…😂

A lot of times, their “end goal” isn’t a “good goal” at all.

I'm still young though, but all this have happened to me, i always end up choosing the wrong guy, I've stopped dating since last year, because i need things to change, and I'm healing, I'm now focusing more on myself and learning to pursue my goals rather than attaching myself to a man that's not my kind. Thank you pastor for this message🎉

Jesus! Jesus! If I had been aware of this information during my marriage!!! I was listening to women of the old 1950-60 mentality. "As long as he ain't hitting you, stay. "" BUT GOD!! I've been delivered for 11 years now. And doing what's needed to heal from that trauma. Thank God for you Pastor Blakes.

-PROVERBS 24:1-2 KJV, Be not thou envious against evil men, neither desire to be with them. For their heart studieth destruction, and their lips talk of mischief. -PROVERBS 24:1-2 AMPLIFIED Do not be envious of evil men, Nor desire to be with them; For their minds plot violence, And their lips talk of trouble [for the innocent].

Because it is tons of wrong men out there.

Yep. You're attracted to your "type" and 9/10 he's not the right man. There's the man you want and the man that is gonna give you the life you want. Pick one.

I settled for 20 years in a toxic mess. 1 year divorced and learning to love myself again. Never settling again.

Pls do a video on what's the Karma of those men who hurt nice women who loved them but those men played them

I got tears in my eyes🤧🤧I just had this convo with my therapist today ain't didn't understand why! Only for you my spiritual father to speak on it!!!!!

Bishop you speaking truth, my former situation down to a “T”. Getting out isn’t as easy as some people think. However, at 1st chance, if God blesses you out, don’t ever look back. 32 yrs with the wrong person & he wasn’t even my husband. Hearing the truth don’t make me mad, it’s CONFIRMATION that He can do just what He said He would do.

This is a good word. It's true that if you pick before you know what you need, you may choose the wrong man (with the wrong qualities or character traits). Now, at 40+, attractive is kindness, honesty, empathy, listening, leadership, self-awareness, good business or social etiquette, etc!! Not abs or what car he drives.. I think recognizing your true needs (love, kindness, empathy..); And if you are agreeable, there is a need for boundaries - to say No at times. If you can not set some boundaries early in the relationship, you will often struggle or resent that you tolerated too much. ❤

Lord, Pastor Blakes have me rolling!😂 He’s funny without trying. Lord, sometimes we have to laugh to keep from crying.🙏🏾 Keep speaking the truth, it helps keep me grounded! Thanks, Pastor Blakes!!!🙂

I wish I had heard this message 20 years ago. But at least I'm hearing it now. Also, always trust your gut, ladies. If a guy feels off, trust that feeling.

They end up with the wrong one but I'm staying solo waiting to see what's out there

I fall in the category of women that are told they are running out if time, they are left over. Sometimes i feel like settling... because of the society. The pressure is too much. Am 41 no kids, have my life together only thing missing is a man that i can do life with. Pray for me.

This has happened to me. I was not healed and I thought a relationship was going to make everything better. I settled for a relationship for 13 years. No ring 💍 no marriage but we brought a house together.

This message was so timely and the sound quality was excellent (congratulations on the new equipment 🎉). The example you made about Leah seeking Jacob’s approval really struck home. Often times, in wrong relationships, women are just little girls seeking the approval they never received from their earthly father. But if we are obedient to God, through Christ Jesus, we have all the approval we will ever need. Thank you Pastor Blakes and Lady Lisa for all that you do.

I felt that. I was pressured by my family and friends. When are you get married etc your getting... when are you going to have kids at 40 ? Met my narc husband and got married... now i filed for divorce. I wish i hadn't fall for that crap of your getting old... i regret it... Now i have to deal with the consequences of choices. Healing etc...

“He’s a good man, Savannah. A GOOD man. He’s just in a bad situation right now and he’s trying to get out of it!” 😂😂 - Waiting To Exhale

Pastor women who get mad at what you are saying are not able to deal with the truth about themselves I'm sure you know that already. Pastor keep on telling the truth no matter who can't handle the truth

Good evening Bishop Blakes watching from Massachusetts. I love your teachings my Spiritual Dad❤. I really needed to keep adjusting my queenly crown Amen!!!!! Not settling period💯💯💯💯🖐🏾🖐🏾🖐🏾!! I will rather wait until God sends me my husband. I am complete as a single with God💯💯💯💯🙋🏿‍♀️

Oh my goodness! Spot on wisdom! Wish i would have known these truths sooner ! Had to learn the hard way through a lot of deception and pain.. a lot of years wasted on men that were wrong for me. It’s better to learn late than never. Happy to put Jesus Ist after all these years. My life is in recovery and healing and i am happy and blessed.

Oweee I escaped a relationship that almost sent me down the road of depression.. the disrespect was a NO NO AND I HAD TO GO GO!! Tuh!

Life can be great with just you and God yes. When a woman thinks that she can change a man, the only one that changes is her yes . When you choose before you know what you need, it's a disaster yes When you allow other people to set up your relationship yes, 😀 This is great, thank you Bishop.

Why he said “praise the Lord” like that!! His wife’s Jamaican accent is rubbing off. 😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️

Bishop you read my life from number 1 to the end

After 35, some settle and give up.

Ok I see 15min in imma have to break out my notebook and pen on this one because the way Bishop is teaching tonight is giving me clarity about a person I’ve been praying about. Thank You Lord for caring about me to guide me into the right path.

"Calgon take me away"😂. "Flesh shaking on your bones"😂😂😂😂😂. Man thats too real. Thanks for keeping it real with us.🙏

A lot of us just had bad examples and have had to figure it out.

Thank you, Bishop Blake. I lost my dear, sweet, loving soul mate/ husband 14 years ago. Im blessed to be on the other side of my grief. I'm now 58yrs old and have dated a couple.of guys in the last 9yrs and I thank God and the Holy Spirit for emding those relationships. Im at me best self, life gets greater later, and im A-ok remaiming a widow until God say otherwise

Healing, humor and the Holy Spirit. I love Pastor Blakes' messages. A true father expressing the love of God to his daughters.

I not only like this video, I love this video! RC Blake, I thank you for your service. Peace be with you and your family.

Thanks for sharing this was a very good lesson much needed we have to know your worth

The intro song NEVER gets old ‼️‼️ Thank you so much Mr.Blake’s for being the father figure I never had❤

44:37 - his disapproval of you is the web he keeps you caught up in . 👏 so wisely explained, thank you❤

Vaseline will fix that dusty 😂

Dr. Blake, I listen to you often. Keep preaching because you are telling the truth. I chose the wrong man when I was to young to know what I needed. I have been divorced for 44 years I did not settle for less. I talk to God every day and say your will not mine.

THIS WAS POWERFUL AND EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED CONFIRMATION ON🙏🏾‼️ BISHOP, YOUR WISDOM IS PHENOMENAL 🙏🏾‼️

This teaching has so much VALUE 👑

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💯 aaaalll of this

Thank you for the teaching Bishop 🙌🏾

This message was a blessing. ❤

Thank you so much for this message ❤

Bless you Bishop. This was a relevant message!

This was great.

Thank you so very much for this message!

Powerful!thank you Bishop I receive this ❤

Another right on time lesson. AMEN!

Thank you pastor..God bless you and family.❤❤❤

This is so good ! And funny too ! 😂😂😂

Everything you said is on point😊

Definitely resonate with me on sooo many levels…. Thanks 🙏🏽

Hard facts 💯

What a Great insight on human nature

Bishop this is so true!!! I met my husband when I was 13, not in a romantic way. I moved away and we reconnected when I was 25. In that time I dated "my type," & ended up leaving those 2 relationships. My husband was not physically "my type," although he is tall and handsome. He is definitely the man I NEEDED! None of my types were even half the man he is. We have been married for almost 17 years. Sidenote: When you say praise the Lord like that it takes me out EVERY time!! 😂 Got me saying it when I really want to say something else!! 😂

LOVE THE WISDOM 😊

You're sharp, Pastor !! Thank you for your seeds!!

Powerful!! And a big Amen to that prayer🙏

I LOVE WHEN PASTOR SAYA, BAE, BAE ,BAE 😂😂😂. THAT MEANS, LISTEN 🎶, LISTEN, LISTEN NOW 🎶 CHILD ❤❤❤

Thank you for this timely Word! ❤️🙏🏻✝️

Awesome awesome insight!! Great word!

Absolute truth. Well said. I really needed this talk. Thank you Pastor Blake's.

This was fire!!! Absolutely golden!!! Thank you Bishop! God bless you!

I’m glad I’m on the right track! This discussion right here confirmed it! 😊

😂😂😂 powerful revelation message amen

I needed to hear this. Thank you Pastor.

Thank you Bishop for your precious words of wisdom. ❤you’re helping me in so many ways.

Truly a passion for you!!! Your messages have helped me in soooooooo many ways! Thank you Pastor 😊

I'm listening to you Pastor!! And I thank you!!

very informative, wish i heard this when i was a little younger...

Faith move mountains 🏔️ 🤍🕯️love and light to you all

Even if we don't shoot our shot. We are still open to rejection when they don't call us after sex or they just go cold in the middle of a relationship

Thank you so much for being real. It is greatly appreciated. 🙏🏾