A guy asked me what I like to watch on KZfaq . I mentioned you Tony . He told me you don’t know what you are talking about and stopped talking to me . I glad you saved me from that one

“Don’t be afraid to get the male opinion...One thing a man is always going to do, a man is going to tell you the truth about what he sees in another man.” TG

Intuition is everything. I went out with a man a couple of years ago. He excused himself to use the bathroom. I had my back turned to the hallway. I turned around when I heard him coming and I kid you not, I saw nothing but evil and everything in me said run. I told him goodnight and blocked him immediately. Listen to your body ladies. Stay well and be blessed 💕

Tony is right. There is always warning before destruction

It's better to be lonely than to be dead. 🙃 My sentiments exactly. Don't play with him. Recognize it as early as possible. 👀 Bad credit or funeral👏👏👏👏

Intuition will never fail you. God gave us that for protection. I love love when Tony imitate females just hilarious😂😂😂😂

If you are lonely get a dog! They make the best companions for real. My dog comforts me just by cuddling with her. Better to have a loyal pet than a disrespectful man who dogs you out!

Amen I was choked, punch had food thrown at me and so much other stuff and had people telling me to stay and "pray for him to change" LEAVE LADIES LEAVE no matter what just leave!

Grown boys act first & think later

After watching this it’s best to stay single lol 😂

This video is going to save someone’s life.

Man listen someone screaming at me a little too hard and I'm out. ✌🏾 I've been through this before first it starts with the screaming and disrespect next thing you know you'll be getting hit upside your head. I almost died. Run at the first sign. Choose self respect over a relationship.

Intuition is real.

My ex came off as a high value man. Educated, handsome, well dressed, responsible, decorous and upheld by his family, friends and community. Months in during discussions if I'd question his credibility he'd get infuriated. He began with poking in between the collar bone. Then looking down at me literally during arguments. This stopped eventually. My dumbass stayed for I loved him and thought I was at fault thinking i "provoked him". In our last argument he threatened my life, my home and job. Asking me how I'd like to die in a calm tone. He went as far to threaten my son's life. I just stayed quiet with God's strength and he left my home calmly. You never know with people. The one's that appear to be too good to be true is because they are.

Ladies, heed what Tony is saying about the "law" because it's 100% true. The law does not care about women. I had to go to court because my ex kept stalking and harassing me, so I filed a restraining order and the judge asked me in court "ma'am are you doing this out of bitterness?" When I tell you, it took everything I had inside of me to hold my composure. I wanted to scream. This man had harassed me at my job, harassed my family members, harassed my close friend, and threatened to harm me and yet the question was: Oh, are you bitter? That was a lesson I will never forget. If you are in a toxic relationship, leave while you still can.

Please listen to Tony before its too late. If you are in an abusive relationship never let them know when you are leaving because thats the most dangerous time. Leave when they are at work, have a secret getaway bag packed with your essentials, and never look back. I been through this and it was no joke. I changed jobs, changed where I lived, even changed the car I drove so that I could be safe. I have never been more at peace and you can too, God Bless🙏

It's better to be lonely than to be dead. Amen!! 👏🙏❤

That's true it's better be lonely than have someone who doesn't respect you.

I just dated a guy a few months ago who "felt" like a ticking bomb. AND this man ALWAYS carried a gun. I didn't know what was going on with him but my intuition told me to RUN!! This man came up with an excuse to attempt to move in but it didn't work. I listened to the Holy Spirit and my intuition and broke it off!! So glad I did.

Part of the issue is that women think they need to FIX..so they stay trying to fix! The benefit of the doubt you give him is not the same benefit of the doubt he will give you!

Recognize crazy early-TG

It’s not like Tony hasn’t told us before - “Recognize Crazy Early”-TG. Thank you for all that you do. Some of us would be clueless without you 🙏.

I had people tell me, I was too cautious about letting people into my life. With so much dysfunction & mistreatment going on, I'm going to continue to be extra leary of who I choose to deal with.🧐

I wish I would have seen a video like this 20 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of pain.

I pray that whoever needed to hear this gets out safely! You hearing Tony's message is not a coincidence. God's warning you.🙏🏾

This is a sign from God to me. It’s a long story but thank you Mr.Gaskins!

"It's better to be lonely than to be dead." Yes, thank you Tony.

Due to my resentment towards bullying, an aggressive man would not last with me. An aggressive or domestically violent dude brings out the beast that lies dormant in me as a self-defense mechanism and it gets so ugly that once an aggressive dude filed a restraining order against ME after a he threat against ME and found he couldn't bully me. Now, I don't know if that was to have the reverse effect in case he wanted to retaliate against how I responded to his threat, but either way, I get far away from them with or without the law involved. I always treat people with respect, but, for some reason aggressive dudes bring out the worst in me and that's not a good match!! Good talk, Tony!

“ The man in him don’t bring the woman out of you” whew a word! Had to replay that twice. Now I have to transfer it to my “Tony quotes” memo pad in my phone 😂 extra I know but gotta reflect on this wisdom

“Gone bout your business” is a movement/message. my mom use to say this when I was doing something stupid and it always meant, “you doing some stupid now, but here’s your warning to get back on track before destruction (or whooping lol)

Tony you said a mouthful. I have seen this first hand. These type of men are not to be played with. Please ladies don't stay in these types of relationships. You deserve so much better treatment. Whatever you got to do to leave do it quickly and go.

Tony kept it so 💯 when he said a man will not be afraid to tell you what he see, my brother in law kept everything 💯 everytime I asked him anything about a man! he even told me walk away! Thank God! That’s real Tony is right! Whew wee Tony speaking on it! TG been on a roll! Recognize the signs! Yes these men out here not playing wit us!

This is a powerful message ladies.... and it’s very true the longer you stay the worst it gets.... I left my estranged husband about three times before I finally got away although he never hit me he did choke me unconscious that was the first year of marriage he has pushed me he has dragged me down the steps he has threw a broom pass my head and told me he had me trained....and I finally left after nine horrible years.... ladies get out now!👍🏽😊

When he said you got to sleep like dis! -_ 0

Such a true message. I’ve been through it. He is telling the truth. Ladies please pay attention to the signs! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

16:59 broke my whole being. To hear that made me just sad sad. I remember when I was 19 my co-manager was in an abusive relationship. She would come to work bruised. She called in a lot. The head manager was so insensitive. I didn't really understand the situation and couldn't process it. But listening to Tony brought that memory back. Her BF was kind when he dropped by the store. 😔

A person with emotional intelligence is able to effectively communicate when upset. Silent treatments, lashing out, yelling, cursing, speaking and acting in such a way that is combative, are just some of the many clues that a person is unstable and dangerous. As Tony said a long time ago about giving people chances....when they mess up, 1st offsense is a mistake, 2nd time is a habit, third time is disrespect. We must think about consequences before they happen in order to avoid them.

I’ve come to realize that I like a man who can be open with his feelings and his thoughts. I feel super impressed and attracted to someone who can express themself in a nice direct and patient manner. The older I get the more I want companionship over anything.

I met him in January he put hands on me in May!!! I was done with him!! He is right about leave the 1st time. He called my phone 📱 30x I new I had to walk away.

WHAT is there to "dislike" about this video?!? 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ I just don't know... 🤔 Maybe somebody was "triggered". I'm befuddled and bewildered! Lol

Mine was the “Super Fake” type an Online date yall and a gun owner he kept it in his pocket! I am still shell shocked after a YEAR I caught him rummaging for his gun in the middle of the night. He was definitely plotting because my gut told me. I finally had paid for him to leave almost a month later. Background check people please. Turned out he was a squatter and had court cases of not leaving peoples homes. 😳 What had happened is I invited him over for Thanksgiving and he wouldn't leave...said he was in luv etc lawdy😥

The lord made me click on this video before I even read the title. I know this for me✨💕

I am a former counselor to battered women, I agree 100% with EVERYTHING Tony said. Ladies pay attention and Save your own life!!

This man is giving so much knowledge! Listen! Stop having selective hearing! You know what happens when you don’t hear, you feel!

Women choose you're LIFE over LOVE🙏🙏

Nothing but the truth... It is so much mess out here..

Tony, this is the truth. Intuition truly is real and it protected me recently. Everything in my body and heart said to go!! I had just met this man too! Tried to love bomb to conceal the crazy 😳Blessings to you and your messages 🙏🏼

I have alot of respect for u Tony cause I know females come to u with life threatening circumstances and that has to be hard on u cause with the heart u have I know some nights u probably go to sleep worrying if they're gonna be alive the next day and if u said all the right things to get them to leave the situation etc...U are truly heaven sent and a BLESSING TO MANY WOMEN out there that need these words of wisdom you so elequantly speak in order for them to heal, grow and leave abusive relationships! I appreciate you Tony! Keep up the good work!!

Enough of “For my man” and “Fatal Attraction” will keep a woman single for a Long time.

So true. I was starting to get involved with a man and another man, whom I respected, told me not to get involved with that guy. Did I listen? No. I got used. It took me a while to wake up. But, I finally did.

"If you talk to this man like he is cinderella.. Gone about yo business." This had me gone. LOL

Tony is right! There were warnings signs but I brushed it away. Swearing on text because I didn’t answer his calls. Grab and squeeze the back of my neck kind of hard when I was talking to a guy I knew and my ex felt I disrespected him. Later on call me names and back hand me and punch my stomach. Choke me on the bed and I thought I was going to die cause I couldn’t breath . I’m glad I had the strength to leave.

So many women have been killed by the hands of a man ..😰

I wish and pray that more men would get counseling and listen to self help videos. We as women are always the ones trying to better ourselves...I love Tony G and his advice...it hit hard sometimes but it helps me..I just want our men to want to do and be better 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Thank you Coach Tony. Praying for all the women and men out there in toxic situations 🙏 Heavenly Father please show them the way to freedom and give them the strengthen and peace to make the right decision.

Tony Gaskins you’re a legend man. You’re helping so many people beyond what you realize break generational curses. I’m grateful to witness what God is doing through you.

So grateful God kept me....so much truth ladies, praying these Words pierce your soul and you get out safety. Please listen and don't play with your life. God loves you enough to speak so clearly to you. He will provide and make your way . He did it for me ....Trust Him to do it for you. 🕊

Definitely true wisdom. I know about the hairs on the back of my neck rising up. The guy's very first blow up was punching holes in my wall and backing me into a corner trying to choke me. That's all it took. I knew if I stayed in that situation I would be dead or he would be. I just could not take a beating when I had only been good to him. I simply said "No" to his latest business scheme. I told him to show me he could be a provider without my money, car or credit. He blew all the way up. God knows I don't ever want to take anyone's life nor die before my time. But for God, one of us would not be here today. It doesn't matter the age either. I am over 45 years old. I halfway thought he was my last chance. I settled for way less than I deserved. Fear of loneliness can make you do that. He was an angry, dysfunctional, weak and insecure male inside but on the surface super over the top nice, romantic and calm for almost a year. Red flag...almost to good to be true type. He was one of the types Tony spoke on. Listen to Tony both young and mature ladies and recognize when it's time to go...then no matter what, you GOTTA GO!!!

“Fragile masculinity.” Excellent terminology, Mr. Gaskins. Just excellent.

I feel like this whole video was an expanded version of our phone call. Lol. I fluctuate between lonely and empowered. My brain feels free. I can't wait until the lonely turns into happy to be alone.

I'm new to your channel I subscribe immediately. I wish I would have ran across your page a LONG time ago.. Now I think I'm addicted to hearing the knowledge and wisdom about men coming from another man.

I remember when my relationships with an abusive grown boy was in the kinda last phase, after 5 years, I always felt death when I was next to him. I dont understand how to explain it more clear, but I felt like I’m dead already when he was around. It was very strange and I never felt this way before or after that period and next to that grownboy. So, the longer it lasted, the worse it became just like Tony described, and then that feeling of death. That feeling was pushing me away from him. Then just occasionally found a video of Tony... God sent. Healing now. God bless you, Tony.

Only by the Grace of God , he has kept me. Has provided a way of escape. Thank God i left and moved to another state in Feb 2020.

A lot, if not most, of us need to watch this ten times over. Powerful message TG, thank you 🙏🏾

Definitely my big brother. Wish I found you sooner, glad I have you now 🙏🏾

I was just telling myself “Tony need to drop a new video” then boom!😂 God bless you❤️

You the only man I watch these videos onnnnn.. cause all these ego driven men videos mannnnnn🙏🏾💜🌞appreciating authenticy!!!

Love this message Tony. Never be afraid to leave and start again. Starting over is often much better.

Great on time message once again, with This month of October being the month of Domestic Violence awareness💯

Going to codependents anonymous and doing good! Ladies, don't be afraid to get help you need! Tony, thank you, once I started listening to you, I knew my thinking is going to change! God bless you and all your family! 🙏🙏🙏

“Play Uno because the next card will be reverse” 🎯

Thanks for teaching us how to deal with some of these guys

Thank you for your consistent words of wisdom ✊🏽🙌🏾‼️ God Bless You Tony 🙏🏾

I had to become a member and get my badge cause babyyyyyy this man right here, is the truth!

Thank you Tony for being honest as possible with as women. Been a year since I left my ex-husband with my son and haven’t looked back. I had my family and the cops as my support who kept telling me to leave because they can see through him. I remember one cop drove me back to our house as a standby to help me move some of my stuff just and just in case he causes another issue. Sometimes God sends people to intervene but it’s up to us if we choose to listen. Experiences in life are supposed to make us grow and not turn us into dummies. One hit causes one wonder and one chain reaction.

This is the REALEST message on this topic EVER... be blessed for putting out this life-saving truth!

Yes, My ex would always cater to his male friends and once they left the house he would talk bad about them and also become angry with me for no reason. I was like why invite these guys over if you can't stand them? He would say I use them for connections. SMH

Thank you Tony, sometimes we don't have the male perspective from lack of men in our lives. Thank you for giving us that

I appreciate you so much! Your advice means EVERYTHING to me. Us women need to be aware of this message. This topic needs to be talked about so much more. This is why I’m okay with being single and allowing God to bring the right man into my life. Thank you Tony!

TG is ON POINT with this one!! Trust your gut instinct ladies. It will never let you down. The problem is lots of women ignore it thinking it will all be fine until it isn't. Intuition is your guidance system so never ignore it 💛 A fan listening from England, UK. TG bless you and your wonderful family. Amazing advice and insight!!

Tony is the brother i always wanted. Cos my brother don't even care. Thank you Tony. God give you more wisdom&knowledge!

This bro has truly helped me along with God n my kids walk out this situation. I petition for divorce soon nov 12 pls keep us in prayer! I followed these videos they have and are still the only thing keeping me grounded. I laugh n cry so much Bro my kids and I thank you.

You are so right Tony! When we see the signs we have to listen..Thanks for you advice..People are crazy!

This is very powerful and I pray all women watch this

Don’t be afraid to get the male opinion...One thing a man is always going to do, a man is going to tell you the truth about what he sees in another man.” When seeking a male opinion, we still must be careful as women. We have to make sure the person we are confiding in isn't trying to sleep with us himself or telling us what we want to hear for his own benefit. A man maybe telling you truths about another man but is it genuine? Is there a motive behind his actions? One thing about a woman, we see the signs - we just ignore those red flags. It's always better to seek counseling from someone who doesn't know you or your partner. Some of the same men who are trying to counsel women are the main ones they need to pay attention to. I have found by research that many of them have histories of domestic violence against women themselves. People are capable of anything, it doesn't matter who they are, who they say they are or who you think they are, HUMAN BEINGS ARE CAPABLE OF ANYTHING.

Reporting for class!

This is very accurate! The grown boy I was with did all these things, and his MOM! His own mom told me that it’ll fade away, it was a phase and he won’t do anything and if he did he would have already! Wild to ever think about now

If anyone has a family member or knows women who are deaf or hard of hearing, please get this message to them via an interpreter. As a former volunteer with a justice agency advocating for domestic / sexual violence whose clients were members of the Deaf Culture, the stories of lives lost is heart wrenching. Thank you Tony for this message. It needs to be repeated in the hearing and Deaf communities.

Never let a man move in with you even if he becomes homeless. Once in your home almost impossible to get rid of him. Never let him know where you live or go to his place especially early on. Meet his family and friends before you visit his home or be alone with him. This way you know he is not married if you meet his family and friends. Take it slow.

My friend has it ten times worse than me, but she appears blind to it all. Wake up women! Do not tolerate aggression.

That’s right, the body never lies. If you have anxiety around that person, RUN!!!

This is so accurate... As women we need to stop thinking that these men won't seriously harm. One time is enough...keep it moving

Lol 😂!!!!! 14:42-15:03 that was so cringe worthy but it was funny as all get out!!!!! Thank you Tony for being a big brother in Christ and being authentic. Preciate it!!!!! Alllllllrigh 😀🤣

Tony is the brother I wish I would of had to give me the truth and to have reduced my heartache. I adopt Tony as my bro now, way later in life!😁Thank You, Tony for opening my eyes 👍🙏👀

Ladies please listen if you know that you know you felt something in your stomach, your spirit, don't worry about the details, God will give you the rest later. Just leave 💜💜💜

Thank you, Tony for whatever time you can give, I'm sure we all appreciate it 🙏🏾.

Thank you Tony. My ex was so distant i felt like this or any outburst could’ve happened at any moment. He never yelled but realistically, one can keep their mask on for a year. GREAT video and reminder to keep doin the dash in the opposite direction 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️

Thank you Tony Gaskins just Thank you!

My ex would get frustrated about small things and it wouldn't take much for him to change the tone in his voice to an aggressive manner. I tried to ignore it but I started thinking about his reaction before I spoke...To be honest I moved so quickly because in my mind I was ready for marriage and children and I was thought he was a descent guy. I ignored the red flags, I have learnt my lesson- take your time and don't play with your life or heart its way too precious! Thank you Tony for sharing the male perspective, stay blessed brother, sending warm wishes to you and your family.

“He would send you to meet the lord “ I really laughed but its not funny 😭