Should My Fiancée and I Split Our Wedding Cost?
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2 жыл бұрынShould My Fiancée and I Split Our Wedding Cost?
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@TheRamseyShow 2 жыл бұрын
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@dannyk1980 2 жыл бұрын
Being single is underrated
@destiny3007 2 жыл бұрын
When will ppl understand that it’s not necessary a “right or wrong” way of doing things. It’s about what you two as a couple want to do.
@r4ym1n13 2 жыл бұрын
We had a small wedding at a beautiful state park. I paid $ 3200 for my suit rental, ring and dinner for all. My wife spent around $ 2600 for her dress, hair/makeup, officiant, photographer and my ring. She was more than willing to help pay for our wedding. That is the kind of woman I want by my side, we are a team in everything. Now off we go to south Florida for a fun and relaxing honeymoon.
@tech-xr2jr 2 жыл бұрын
That's a steal. I know many photographers who charge more than $2600 just for photos.
@r4ym1n13 2 жыл бұрын
@@tech-xr2jr Thank you. We chose a low key photographer but he has 20+ years of experience
@alex-025x 2 жыл бұрын
Happy holidays!
@r4ym1n13 2 жыл бұрын
@@alex-025x 🥳👍
@elainenilsson5472 2 жыл бұрын
Bingo...mine wasn't even that much.
@s5101984 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah me and my wife definitely split the cost. It cost $500 aud to get married at a office. Sign! Done!👍
@roolyfe 2 жыл бұрын
Justice of the peace 👨⚖️
@cutenobi 2 жыл бұрын
I probably would be concerned that he’s asking the question seeming like he’s not wanting to help toward marriage. My husband and I did a potluck, small church wedding. So I made sure we didn’t spend much at all. It’s about the marriage not the wedding.
@johniii8147 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. So many people miss this. At their income levels they have much better uses for the income then the wedding. But i have another concern here, he's showing rather controlling behavior here that it's even a question.
@a33m3a 2 жыл бұрын
I think he's cautious about not combining finances before marriage, and he wasn't sure if having this single financial goal together is ok or is it considered "playing house" before marriage
@matthewgardner2144 2 жыл бұрын
@@a33m3a What will Jesus think if they have a joint bank account?? Are they doing the dirty/dirty?? No, hon, you're just saving for a frugal little wedding. Chill out.
@a33m3a 2 жыл бұрын
@@matthewgardner2144 yo chill. I don't believe in Jesus and I'm not religious. I'm just trying to understand where the calling is coming from.
@brad9092 2 жыл бұрын
My grandparents married as teens at the JPs office. They went home and went to work. It lasted over 60 years. People nowadays go in debt to get married then get divorced. I swear people are steee U pid nowadays!!!
@leadershiphelpdesk510 2 жыл бұрын
The more expensive the wedding, the faster the divorce. $500 wedding, done, not impressing others, just getting married. Use the other money to reduce life stress.
@Naturefan354 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Mine cost 3k in total and we had a great wedding! The wedding, the reception and honeymoon where included in that total.
@Bee-sp7mb 2 жыл бұрын
Courthouse marriage. Backyard reception 😁
@Arizona_lilly 2 жыл бұрын
Lol
@tiffanyyllera5977 2 жыл бұрын
Yes! My significant other and I spent a whopping $600 on ours! We wanted to put most of our money towards a house down payment.
@fauxbro1983 2 жыл бұрын
Lol well once you are married what's yours is hers. And what's hers is hers.
@MyAirMyles 2 жыл бұрын
Nah joint budget and everything goes in from both needs to be agreed up front or no wedding.
@Lynell540 2 жыл бұрын
Fact
@cesaravegah3787 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, one ex-girlfriend told me just that, more than once, so, bullet dogded.
@closingdealz 2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like an nightmare
@clarifyingquestions 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed. But go 50/50 so no one is holding the bag if the wedding doesn't go through and 50/50 so there willl be an agreed cost beforehand.
@toddryan0108 2 жыл бұрын
This is a legitimate question nowadays, things are expensive. You don’t want to start a marriage in debt.
@benjones621 2 жыл бұрын
My fiance and I are splitting the costs of our ceremony. We set a strict budget and split things to pay for while making decisions together. We didn't want our families being responsible for us since they aren't really able to.
@freespirit6209 2 жыл бұрын
Good for you, and good luck!
@60Airflyte 2 жыл бұрын
There’s definitely something the caller isn’t saying. He didn’t give Dave the whole story.
@sherylfowler3408 2 жыл бұрын
Ya, fiancé wasn’t a “she”
@BW_Reformation 2 жыл бұрын
It sounds like he's not really into her or doesn't want to get married and he's creating problems out of thin air.
@AtomicQuotient 2 жыл бұрын
More likely her parents or her expects him to pay and he is trying to settle who should pay. Society is old fashioned when it comes to men and basically think men should pay. Those days are dated and that thinking is old and dated just like family law. 50/50 makes sense and Dave answered it perfectly. I am glad he didn't suggest he should.
@AtomicQuotient 2 жыл бұрын
@@BW_Reformation Could be :)
@choccymilk8845 2 жыл бұрын
The reason he was asking is because he was wondering if he should be paying for the entire wedding because he's a man. He didn't say it but you can tell that's what he's getting at without needing to say it directly.
@cdeuell86 9 ай бұрын
We did this exact suggestion - opened a joint account for wedding money and pulled from that to pay for stuff. I crested a spread sheet of exactly how much everything cost. Then, after the wedding, that became our joint account.
@johnSmith-uz8nl 2 жыл бұрын
I asked my wife, what do you want for your birthday... she said, I want a divorce. I told her I was not planning to spend that much.
@Tea-pe1yq 2 жыл бұрын
💀😂😂😂
@kitrivers979 2 жыл бұрын
Have an Asian style wedding, the guests pays for the wedding lol
@ElizabethMagicalGarden 2 жыл бұрын
This Man is my Financial Godfather Period❤️🙌🏽
@erbjp 2 жыл бұрын
Amen!!!
@lynnebucher6537 2 жыл бұрын
Definitely go for a budget wedding. That is just one day. Marriage is supposed to be for the lifetime. The most fun weddings/receptions I've been to were backyard affairs or DIY in a church rec room.
@yourgooglemeister6745 2 жыл бұрын
Calls in one year later. Dave I'm getting divorced. can I sue my wife for the money I paid for our wedding?
@jameslightner8832 2 жыл бұрын
This was really confusing for me too. I really don’t think there was any hidden meaning in his question. The team is always very adamant to NEVER combine accounts if you aren’t married. But that begs the question… how do you pay for the wedding? Someone picks up the dress and the other picks up the food? This is the first time I heard Dave say it is ok to combine and mutually fund an account, counter to what him and the team usually say. That seems to make a lot of sense to me, and forces you to budget!
@Jane5720 2 жыл бұрын
I agree they’re definitely seems to be more under this question because when you get married even if you were occurred that why you got married it was now both of your debt.
@flamingmonferno 2 жыл бұрын
I spent about 600 on my new fiancées rings total and all I ever do I work and save. But in moral of the lesson is stay out of debt and set a budget for the wedding. The more money that you have the better you can live later on down the road. We have set a goal of between 1-2k max for a wedding ceremony and all the works. It’s not all about the ceremony.
@tighttony386 2 жыл бұрын
The day me and my wife got married we combined our finances. It’s the best financial thing we could ever do. More money in savings. No debt. No stressing about bills. We rent our house so no mortgage payments. No car loans. Our marriage has always been great. And not solely because of combining our finances but it never segueing about money is one less thing we could get upset about
@toemas8 2 жыл бұрын
The best thing is to plan at least 12months in advance and pay for things as you go. We also cut out things like a large guest list and bridal party.
@BagsNBaguettes_327 2 жыл бұрын
So many trolls in this chat…. 🙄🙄
@andresvalencia1174 2 жыл бұрын
Should we split cost? YES
@ThreePuttBogeys88 2 жыл бұрын
But what’s your household income??
@birdman7941 2 жыл бұрын
Because it might not make sense to spilt the cost if one person makes 40k and the other one makes 150k it’s basic math……
@AtomicQuotient 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah should be 50/50. I am not paying for my daughter(s) weddings, I expect they will fund it. Either the spouse pays or they save up and budget together.
@alaric3056 2 жыл бұрын
I misread your comment and thought you expected your daughter to have multiple weddings lol
@AtomicQuotient 2 жыл бұрын
@@alaric3056 lol that too :)
@saggyjose8572 11 ай бұрын
why?
@jairoherrera4040 2 жыл бұрын
These callers haven't watch enough of dave vids to know the answer. Who cares about the wedding. Just sign the papers and save the money
@shanep2760 2 жыл бұрын
Got married in Vegas and won enough at the casino to cover the whole wedding.
@mikeshaw4610 2 жыл бұрын
Since accounts together before marriage are not good, I agree with that. Instead of opening an account how about just fund a cash account and budget based on the account.
@choccymilk8845 2 жыл бұрын
The reason he was asking is because he was wondering if he should be paying for the entire wedding because he's a man. He didn't say it but you can tell that's what he's getting at without needing to say it directly.
@laurao8099 4 ай бұрын
Yeah I kind of thought it was either that or him and his fiance are in a disagreement about who should be paying for most of it
@SoManyRandomRamblings 2 жыл бұрын
Why all the marriage hate in these comments?????
@geang.carneiro3982 2 жыл бұрын
i like do divide the wedding PROPORTIONALLY. the with bigger income pays more
@ranran2218 2 жыл бұрын
My wife and I split the cost but we got married in our backyard. We decorated it all and got it well set up. We got food and seating set. We paid for photography and just had a small intimate gathering. We share our finances and we did this together as a team. Wouldn't have it any other way.
@intn14 2 жыл бұрын
Sell the car, take horse and carriage to the wedding.
@woolengrappler 2 жыл бұрын
Create a budget for the wedding and open an account and transfer whatever you decide into that account for the wedding
@La_sagne 2 жыл бұрын
just having read the title i wonder what difference does it make if youre married afterwards?
@johnSmith-uz8nl 2 жыл бұрын
Our budget was $30k and we spent about $35k, we got $20k from the parents ($10k each). The rings were a separate expense.
@clement2780 7 ай бұрын
same goes for planning vacation, education renovations ;
@elainenilsson5472 2 жыл бұрын
How about keeping the cost down to where it doesn't matter who pays for it?
@clement2780 7 ай бұрын
always split cost whether half half or based on your relative income
@clement2780 7 ай бұрын
what do you want and see what a realistic cost price is , then subtract items which our out if league
@michaelwoods4495 2 жыл бұрын
I didn't add this before, but if money is a concern, try elopement!
@Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries 2 жыл бұрын
Split it 50-50. Go down to courthouse and voila you're done! 😊
@Weakeyedominant 2 жыл бұрын
We split everything apart from the dress because her family wanted to pay it and probably not tell me how much it cost after seeing how stressed I got over the cost of invites 😂
@kyqorioskygo8999 2 жыл бұрын
I’d advice to hold a small wedding. Perhaps something between $15-20k would be max. Use more of your money for a new life together.
@KB-sg7tv 2 жыл бұрын
Yes why would you not split it?
@lyndalamb3221 Ай бұрын
With equal incomes, this is a strange question.
@Heather-ko2lv 2 жыл бұрын
EveryDollar budgeting wedding. Makes sense to me.
@matthewgardner2144 2 жыл бұрын
I guess they don't understand how the fungibility of money works? Is the marriage just kind of a short-term deal?
@laurao8099 4 ай бұрын
It really sounds like he's calling to settle an argument that him and his fiance are having
@OTOWN2STOCKTOWN 2 жыл бұрын
Deloney says awkwardly if the wedding goes off..then it doesn't matter what happens the next day Why this question really? Why in the world would there be anything else underneath this all?
@rldays9179 2 жыл бұрын
Yes you should split the cost unless you are going ull old school and she stays home but then if you are getting married you should have a joint account anyway.
@mrcrowleyoz Жыл бұрын
Can’t you just marry the old way,,,no piece of paper, no fancy party, no ring. Just ask her to be your wife
@TheMechanicj 2 жыл бұрын
I would go get married at the court house pre ceremony then just split the costs of the ceremony
@ystebadvonschlegel3295 2 жыл бұрын
If you want to go OLD old school, Dave, (i.e. New Testament times) the Groom's family paid for the wedding....
@terpenator93 2 жыл бұрын
I made much more money so I payed for majority of the wedding. Money isn’t that important.
@annat6249 2 жыл бұрын
If they are doing the Dav way, money will be together after they get married anyways. I do not see the concern here unless he think big chance marriage ceremony might not be complete. I understand splitting the money if they have a prenup and/or separate account type of marriage. There are no certainty in life, there will always risk. Don’t be selfish in love or else you will lose great love.
@JMKrech Жыл бұрын
👏🏻🔥
@PeterMan55 2 жыл бұрын
LOL this isn't an issue with Middle Easterns. Men pays for the wedding
@arfriedman4577 6 ай бұрын
Sorry. I believe in your account, his account and joint account.
@texan903 2 жыл бұрын
According to tradition it is the bride's family who pays for the wedding. The groom's family covers the rehearsal reception. If it is too much money, go to the justice of the peace and hold a family and friends luncheon afterwards. Since Dave is breaking with tradition in his response here, I hope this guy has a prenup.
@kateg9437 2 жыл бұрын
Expecting family to pay for the wedding just feels so entitled to me.
@sunnydays4966 2 жыл бұрын
I thought maybe woman said welding not wedding and OMG I was in for a shock. I should up in welder gloves she married me any way and were divorce a years latter.
@moicus29 2 жыл бұрын
Well, I think Dave's advice is given assuming you picked someone that wants family, and to do things the right way, with somewhat of a good track record. If you're hitching up to a party girl, you already messed up.
@lotuswolf1518 2 жыл бұрын
Idk why people who can't afford big wesdings have big weddings
@drunclecookie216 2 жыл бұрын
my parents paid for my wife and I to get married (bribed is probably more accurate) they spent a whopping $1,500 for us to get married on a cruise ship in Florida LOL
@thisjustin6150 2 жыл бұрын
You come across as ungrateful.
@drunclecookie216 2 жыл бұрын
@@thisjustin6150 well, my wife and I hadn't planned on getting married. My parents just wanted to do it so they could show off to their friends. We were going on a cruise anyway with a big group of people and they wanted us to get married so we'd be first on the ship and everyone would buy our drinks. None of my wife's family was able to be there due to it being a destination wedding because they are all dirt poor. In hindsight it was something we never should have agreed to.
@user-wx1ji5ot5u 2 жыл бұрын
You got bribed with 1500 bucks to get married without your wife’s family in attendance?
@DemetriPanici 2 жыл бұрын
I personally think that you should
@zachg3069 2 жыл бұрын
Just me or is this the stupidest question ever?
@TheMechanicj 2 жыл бұрын
Why are you splitting the cost just pay for the cost cause ur married you pay it together
@stellarocquie7957 2 жыл бұрын
Hahaha, just GET YOUR OWN APARTMENT.
@jcrowley1985 2 жыл бұрын
Let's see, a $50 courthouse fee, $25 each seems fair. If you're talking about a fancy party , that's a luxury so only if either of you have money to burn
@clement2780 7 ай бұрын
when your kids are old enough make them earn money
@djm1613 2 жыл бұрын
Dint spend money on a wedding spend on the honeymoon
@lionheart93 2 жыл бұрын
Ask family members to help and support the remaining
@John3_16_ 2 жыл бұрын
Let’s be real. These were two dudes getting “married” and it couldn’t have been more obvious.
@sherylfowler3408 2 жыл бұрын
100%. He was very careful not to gender the “fiancé”
@John3_16_ 2 жыл бұрын
@@sherylfowler3408 exactly.
@johniii8147 2 жыл бұрын
And there would be nothing wrong with that if true.
@John3_16_ 2 жыл бұрын
@@johniii8147 actually, there is and your virtue signaling feelings don’t matter when it comes down to it.
@sarada141 2 жыл бұрын
What’s the average cost of a wedding? I know it depends but just looking for a broad general figure.
@johniii8147 2 жыл бұрын
There is really no "average cost". It can be done for as little at $200 or a $1 million. It depends on your means and how important one day is in your life vs setting yourself up for a great lasting marriage.
@SoManyRandomRamblings 2 жыл бұрын
@@johniii8147 so true.
@longislandfishing6150 2 жыл бұрын
@@johniii8147 in the state of NY it’s $60k or more
@johniii8147 2 жыл бұрын
@@longislandfishing6150 It doesn't have to be. That's just what people choose to spend. I married my husband in NYC and we spent oh probably about 6K. Neither of us had a desire for a huge fancy wedding. We had the important people there we wanted and had better uses for the money to continue to build our future.
@longislandfishing6150 2 жыл бұрын
@@johniii8147 I agree but unfortunately that’s not the average
@ap3055 2 жыл бұрын
i bet if it was the guy making the 200k and she made the 30k, he wouldn’t say well mathematically it makes sense but there’s no moral obligation. he would be on the man’s head. so much of a double standard comes from Dave.
@lady56725 2 жыл бұрын
If a man asks me to split our wedding cost, I will cancel the wedding and run🏃♀️. No love from him.
@MyAirMyles 2 жыл бұрын
Of course, you should be paying for all of it, none by him.
@leahmcdermott4189 2 жыл бұрын
What?! Are you joking? What’s wrong with splitting the wedding cost? It’s completely fair and has nothing to do with how much he loves you. It sounds like perhaps you care more about money than love 🥴.
@sherylfowler3408 2 жыл бұрын
I hope your future man sees this and runs
@QuyenNguyen-xs7oc 2 жыл бұрын
Wow! You would cancel the wedding and run? 😬 perhaps that would be a blessing to that man.
@kind2423 2 жыл бұрын
@@leahmcdermott4189 new generation of women who think they don’t have to contribute financially
@Thebootyrater 2 жыл бұрын
I bet the fiancé is one of those “the man pays for everything” types and he is calling in cus he wants to see if Dave agrees or not
@60Airflyte 2 жыл бұрын
I’m not getting that read at all.
@gcromer903 2 жыл бұрын
That's what it sounded like to me. (I'm a woman.)
@itachilimao 2 жыл бұрын
I think he's thinking that he should pay from him own head.
@choccymilk8845 2 жыл бұрын
The reason he was asking is because he was wondering if he should be paying for the entire wedding because he's a man. He didn't say it but you can tell that's what he's getting at without needing to say it directly.
@djpuplex 2 жыл бұрын
The man always pays whether he knows it or not. That what's that day is all about. Her securing resources. Human evolution.
@johniii8147 2 жыл бұрын
Oh grow up. Many women end up supporting their deadbeat husbands, or just end up having the more successful career. This is not the 1950's anymore.
@GodnMe 2 жыл бұрын
Emily Posts book of etiquette says brides family pays for wedding and reception. Grooms parents pay for rehearsal dinner and part of alcohol for the wedding. This is the correct etiquette that was written many years ago.
@genxx2724 2 жыл бұрын
Back then, the parents were unloading the young lady, transferring her from their expense sheet to the new husband’s. Nowadays, they likely took on a lot of college expense and she works full-time and is likely to continue to do so. She’s not a financially-helpless responsibility for anyone.
@NeeNee_B. 2 жыл бұрын
@@genxx2724 right. Back in the day, the wife's family paid for it bc the husband was expected to then take care of her (and the subsequent kids) from that point on. But this aint that no more 😂
@genxx2724 2 жыл бұрын
@@NeeNee_B. I think I’d prefer the old way. Women are trying to do double duty now, and it doesn’t work.
@sandrasimplytoday7772 2 жыл бұрын
Etiquette is great but a majority of families can’t afford to split cost the old way. If two working adults can pay for the wedding then why not have them pay.
@kateg9437 2 жыл бұрын
Seems very entitled to expect family to pay for the wedding
@theforeignerinamerica1817 2 жыл бұрын
Wedding should be paid by the bride’s father. That’s the traditional way.
@jaysmith6013 2 жыл бұрын
Lol okay boomer
@linhaton4957 2 жыл бұрын
Parents should pay only if they can afford it and want to. Otherwise it's up to the bride and groom.
@sherylfowler3408 2 жыл бұрын
What makes you think the fiancé was a bride?
@kind2423 2 жыл бұрын
You know what the average US household income is? I disagree
@theforeignerinamerica1817 2 жыл бұрын
@@kind2423 small and inexpensive wedding… 10 people not a big thing
@Arizona_lilly 2 жыл бұрын
LOL split 🤣 well when u marry
@medi4027 2 жыл бұрын
Set a budget for the wedding and another one for the divorce, just in case.
@Arizona_lilly 2 жыл бұрын
Yep old fashion bride parents pays
@johniii8147 2 жыл бұрын
The world has moved on
@johnmirbach2338 2 жыл бұрын
😎👌👍🖖✌😁
@charleshunt3806 2 жыл бұрын
I mean this guy that’s calling in is really asking the wrong question. He should really be asking himself why he’s dumb enough to get married in the first place. It is no secret that today because of the Internet ignorance is a choice and if you’re a guy and you’re ignorant to all of the risks associated with getting married and the fact that you gain absolutely nothing from getting married and you choose to do it anyway that is your fault and will become your problem he wouldn’t have to worry about splitting the wedding costs which of course is money down the toilet if he wasn’t getting married in the first place. There is absolutely no reason for a guy to get married to a woman today you can do everything you can do when you’re married without being married have kids live together by a house together put each other on health insurance etc. and then when you half to MoveOn which happens at least 50% of the time the costs associated with the split will be much less so if you want to get married at your own peril if you’re a guy go right ahead. It absolutely blows my mind how many guys still even today are willing to walk into the slaughterhouse which is the institution of marriage today.
@KurtisB 2 жыл бұрын
Jeez, which girl shattered your heart into a million pieces? 🤣
@eflvin 2 жыл бұрын
Well, I am sure GLAD my parents got married. They were a great team and had each other's back! It's called COMMITMENT. And it's definitely not for the faint of heart
@charleshunt3806 2 жыл бұрын
@@eflvin well today and curls don’t know what the word commitment means. Are they also like to eat jackfruit set for the cash prizes to or if they get shiny object syndrome
@charleshunt3806 2 жыл бұрын
@@KurtisB no girl did I just know that getting legally married is statistically a terrible idea I’m not saying you can’t have a relationship I’m just saying the relationship should be between you and the girl not you the girl in the state. The statistics for success rates of being happily married or abysmal they are reckoned to winning the lottery I don’t play the lottery either and I’m talking about the statistics to get married and stay happily married till one of you dies the chances that are astronomically low as such there is no reason to risk all the costs associated with being married and getting divorced not to mention if you have to end the relationship for any reason you want that to be as simple of a process as possible there’s a myriad of reasons why you might have to end the relationship you want it to be clean quick and simple and inexpensive to exit the set no reason to complicate things. And on the off chance it works out like I said you can still do everything with the girl that you could when you’re married except file taxes together which is not necessary.
@kateg9437 2 жыл бұрын
Are you sure your name isnt Michael?
@ShayKMBR 2 жыл бұрын
It is traditional that the father of the bride pays for the wedding, with the exception of the rings. I'm in my late 20's and hope to get married at some point and have reminded my father infrequently about saving for this expense. If there isn't a father, grandfather, or stepfather, the mother of the bride pays.
@r4ym1n13 2 жыл бұрын
Shame on you to force this expense on your father or anyone else. The Groom/Bride pay for their wedding period
@ShayKMBR 2 жыл бұрын
@@r4ym1n13 My family and I are traditional. My father and I have discussed this, it's not forced, especially if the father wants the best for his daughter. In addition, in our culture the husband to be, once married, takes on the full responsibility of his wife, which is why the tradition of the bride being "given away" by her father, is a thing. A father gives his daughter, and all that comes along with her, to another man, essentially saying "I have fulfilled my obligations". Once wed, if they divorce, then the man will likely pay the expenses from then forward in alimony, etc. So it is actually a gift to the new couple when the family of the bride pays for the wedding, because there is always a chance the husband may pay for divorce. Why put the guy through possible financial strain twice? Especially when the parents are aware that that is their duty and gift to their daughter, since it is more often considered "her day".
@Aces135 2 жыл бұрын
@@ShayKMBR because now women are equally contributing financially.
@jenniferannfox2316 2 жыл бұрын
@@ShayKMBR I'm glad to read someone still has traditional values as I read through all the comments here. I agree with you.
@ShayKMBR 2 жыл бұрын
@@Aces135 I couldn't agree more! But I am a traditional woman in the modern age. Why can't it be all of the above? I currently take care of my hardworking man. Even though he can't contribute "equally " I still love him. Doesn't mean I'm still not going to request my father of something he would enjoy doing anyway 😇
@Wablestomp2 2 жыл бұрын
First
@MamaBasics101 2 жыл бұрын
Do not get married!!!!! This is crazy 🤯
@Arizona_lilly 2 жыл бұрын
Her father should.... if ur America... IM Asian my father will make U pay for it all... and a dowry LOL im 35
@johniii8147 2 жыл бұрын
No one said it was a "her". And you give up your own power making someone else pay. Time to get in the current day world.
@user-jy7yw5kw3w 2 жыл бұрын
I say let the girl pay for the wedding. They are the ones who really wanna get married and make a big show of it most the time right? Get the ring tho.
@ThreePuttBogeys88 2 жыл бұрын
😂
@chocovanille5809 2 жыл бұрын
Well the fiance is a guy. So fail fail fail
@anthonywebster8638 2 жыл бұрын
First of all, don't get married. Second of all, your future wife's father should be paying for it. As a man, you don't get anything by getting married except a liability.
@Dwights_trash_can 2 жыл бұрын
The father paying is ridiculous it's 2021 the father may not have the money
@jonathanarras1281 2 жыл бұрын
Lol sounds like someone’s been divorced
@BagsNBaguettes_327 2 жыл бұрын
You’re a lovely person.
@glitterstarbeau 2 жыл бұрын
Depends on who is richer. I get husbands alimony all the time
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