Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! even if she said she THOUGHT about sleeping with another guy she would be gone! disloyalty is the worst

I tried to stay with a cheater for the sake of my daughter, but couldn't. Once trust is broken, a marriage can't continue. She is right about women. We can forgive, but the love light dies.

Don't Cheat, if you are not Happy,just Leave..

It's not even about forgiveness. You can forgive but it's finished so you leave.

Also a woman who cheats will lose respect for a man that forgives even if she begs for forgiveness

From my own experience I would say to absolutely forgive them. After the initial shock I I realized I didn’t know her as well as I thought I did. The mistake I made was not forgiving her on a daily basis. Also, in this type of case it’s important to move on immediately. Get money in order, work in order, friends identified, and move on. Don’t react, don’t act out, don’t yell and scream or make threats, just leave her and move on.I’m not saying ignore the fact you’re hurt I’m saying don’t act on it. I got a good job, dependable vehicles, place to live and even told her I hoped it worked out for them. They fell apart, she asked to come back and I said nope. Forgiveness doesn’t mean I go back to the same situation it means I give up revenge, keep myself together and move on. Easier said than done.

My girls were 1 and 4 years old when my wife was love bombed by her narcissist co worker. He dumped her after 1 month because he got what he wanted and because i knew his identity. Now I had a homeless wife and mother. I knew she could potentially pick a new man that could have access to my girls. Her weak mind was just bowled over by a narcissist so i didn't want any strange men of her choice to be near my daughters. Yes i stayed with her and it's been 35 years of marriage. Still hurts today 25 years later.

2:55 “You owe yourself the right to feel loved in the correct way” 🙏

With or without children, release yourself by forgiving them & leave the relationship. One life & time does not wait for nobody. Blessings & light on your journey 💯💋❤️

My husband had been cheating from the beginning, but I didn't find out until after we had kids. I chose to forgive him and stay. He continued to cheat but got better at hiding it. He took my forgiveness as a license to do as he pleased. My needs went unmet more and more, my workload increased in the household as he refused to get a vasectomy and I was unable to take birth control. He knew I was "trapped" and cheated time and time again, especially while I was pregnant and battling serious health issues that worsened over time from lack of proper care and lifestyle. Women who cheat MAY learn their lesson and stop after one failed affair, but in my experience, men who cheat have zero regard for how their actions affect others and it's healthier to leave the situation.

Forgive a cheater? No. The end.

Someone cheats, you leave them. There is more trust. Cheating requires lying and manipulation.....why would you want to stay with someone who does that? Also, don't forgive the cheater, but you MUST forgive yourself.

I'd forgive... and leave.

i wish everyone out there the strength to move on if you have been cheated on. its not worth the trouble. and its not the end of the world. move on.

You can forgive but you can leave. So it's better to just leave but keep things amicable.

You should eventually learn to forgive as not doing so will just consume you overtime. But definitely walk away especially if you are a man.

Yeah i can attest this is a severe temptation i avoided thankfully

It was super hard but it made my marriage much better... He finally woke up.... There is a difference between a bad person and a good person that does one thing bad... The two shouldn't be treated the same.. If a good woman commits to you and chooses you and only you but you reward her devotion with years of sexless marriage, Not hearing what she is telling you and basically forcing her to be in celibacy but at the same time expecting long-term devotion from her is hypocritically ludicrous and emotionally abusive... Sometimes (both) people need a reality check to see if they can build a different and a better relationship

Women also hate themselves for not leaving. By staying, you're telling yourself you're not worthy of loyalty, regardless of your gender. When you stay, you will feel betrayed by TWO people - your partner and yourself. You will shrink and become a sad loser, acting out in what could otherwise be minor or ambiguous situations. She can be very insightful on many topics, but her opinion on cheating is too generalised, short-sighted and harmful.

You can absolutely forgive them. But you don’t have to be with them. Because we all know, that once the trust has been broken things will never be the same.

Never forgive! Never!

Yes you can forgive the person but stay in a relationship with them ? No. The relationship is done but instead of harboring those negative feelings - forgive to let go

Great guidance on the effects of cheating.

Forgive but not forget.

I don't have the power to forgive nobody.Just a human been.

Forgive and leave immediately. It's over. No more contact ever. Find someone else.

CHEATING is a CHOICE.it doesn't happen by CHANCE.

No !!! HELL NO !!!, Get the hell away from them,block their number and never have any contact with them ever again,EVER !!!

Guys, if you are ever cheated on by your wife you can stick around for the kids and if the sec is great why not however, at some point you have to leave when the children turn 14. Or you risk dying within, self degradations and mental health. That is worse. Marriage is a risk, not everyone will turn up as a winner. When it didn’t work out hey give yourself a pad on the back and tell yourself you were courages and it was a good run.

Forgive by letting go. Respect is lost when they cheat it wont be Regained. You taking thek back is telling them it was okay. And theyll do it again. If you cheat because they did they wont be forgiving or okay with it.

Never ever forgive a woman

She is chatting bs.The only thing you gain by staying with a cheater is losing your peace of mind and a high possibility of a nasty STD.

100% agreed. I have children with her. Unfortunately kids are part of family now. I'm learning how to forgive and move on. Honestly it's not easy. And I won't forgive but for children sake I think I can move on.. eventually wait till children get older and I'll move on on personal level.

Suspicion of cheating, even when it's not real or substantiated, can be just as damaging to a relationship. So if one partner has constant suspicions, it will corrode your relationship regardless if there is actual cheating. Personally, I find this kind of jealousy hard to understand, because I don't see the point in chasing someone who's attention is elsewhere. And jealousy itself can drive a partner away; I've watched it happen in many couples.

Nope. It would always be on your mind anyway if you forgave or not. For me that’s it, it’s over, it’s done. 👍

Absolutely not!!

They come back when you don't want them anymore. Find yourself and detach from the need for them. Meditate, a lot. When you love yourself, put yourself first, that's what attracts people to you. It's a pull energy, you go inward to yourself. It's the reverse of the push, the outward energy which pushes them away. When you're in pushing energy, people can only pull away. When you're in pulling energy, people can only push toward you. This is how the universe works, it's the laws of physics, metaphysics, and spiritual. Meditation is the answer to everything IMO, it works. You go inward to your soul. You connect with who you truly are, and your intuition, and your spiritual team which is always available to you with love and help, and the divine. Meditate lots. ❤❤

A woman can forgive. A man can't.

Absolutely not!

Nobody ever changed just by listening but through immense hurt and trauma...so just someone saying them what's good they ain't gonna give a shit...better to dumb these craps to their situation as you do deserve too what you are giving

I say forgive them, leave them then forget they ever happened. I only say forgive for your own peace of mind and clarity because you don’t want negative thoughts about it lingering in your mind. Eventually the victim will heal and that just shows how strong of an individual you are, but the cheater is always going to hold that title. Even if you tell the cheater that you forgive them, then walk away, it is going to destroy them. Their plan of getting at you by sabotaging the relationship didn’t work; their ego has crumbled. At least that’s what I think…. I’m just a firm believer in NOT taking the path of least resistance because of course we would love to tell the individual off, but then you are giving them the power. Fuck that, take the power back for what they did and just be “unbothered”.

If you want forgiveness for your imperfections then give as much forgiveness you need for yourself. I'm not excusing bad behavior just don't be a hypocrite about it. Forgiveness goes both ways.

Not if they doing it.

Nope. Forgiveness is a trap. Nope nope nope, bye, im out

I would forgive, but... it's over. I wouldn't touch her again. But I wouldn't leave the children. A small difference - Sigma's lifestyle ;)

Yeah should forgive them but never forget.

What they ate talking about is staying in the marriage not forgiveness. If you are withholding love or are still angry (with you or your spouse) then forgiveness hasn't taken place. It is pointless to stay in a marriage if you choose not to forgive. You can try to earn back trust after forgiveness has taken place. You should explore why your partner cheated though so it doesn't happen again.

You know what cheaters really hate the most is getting cheated on themselves, and thats what happened. Well, it wasn't really cheating cause the trust was gone, and they became single at the moment.

It's not even about forgiving u just move on simple enit u don't want nothing to do with that person period

Been through this myself...stayed with her after she cheated with a work colleague...we had bought a house 6months earlier so big commitment so thought should work it out...took me 6 months to even go near her again physically but I never wanted kids or marriage, not even a pet with her...I didn't get angry, I didn't get abusive I genuinely tried to move on...then a few years later she floated possible breakup...my reply was give me 24hrs to think....24hrs later I told her to get out the house she's done...7years wasted..

😂once a cheater, You know the rest.

I have tried to forgive. But she hasnt acknowledged her affair and wants it swept under the rug. I can feel myself hating myself for not leaving her. I dont think it will work.

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Forgiveness is a sin so that’s between the sinner and God.

Never ever

No.

Yeah I'm same situation. My wife cheating on me with her sister. We have 2 children. . I can't won't forgive. Once a cheater always cheater. I don't trust her anymore. However the is reason trying to make relationship work.

Come man, what are you asking here? The answer is no.

A cheater will cheat again or he/she will died trying 😅😊

Forgive and forget? Fuck that. I remember everything.

My concern with this kind of advice or shared opinion is God is not brought into this conversation. Cheating is a very complex event and has deep spiritual identity issues attached to it!

Always forgive but never forget ;)

For me wrong that means wrong No excuse.

Women can forgive men for cheating and they can recover their relationship but men should never forgive women because the woman will never respect the man who doesn’t have the respect to leave her

Hell NO

In summary..never

In my personal experience and it happened to me a cheating woman and there was another man behind me, what type am I and this woman is my wife. My final decision was to divorce her with 1 talaq and No claim. Only I can demand from her. Just sharing my experience and now relax I get my claim every month.

Internet mum strikes again. Yes mum, Ive done my homework and got no suspension. I did get suspended from social though but thats alright right?

Forgive the person, but DO NOT take the person back!!! >>> That's not unforgiveness, that's:- 1. Freeing the cheating person to go where their heart is. 2. Creating the opportunity for a clean foundation, for your relationship - with a foundation of distrust, you have #nothing. 3. Understanding that forgiveness DOES NOT MEAN take them back. 4. Loving and respecting yourself enough, to free yourself from a shitty relationship, so you can have the wholesome love you deserve >>> many people don't respect themselves, or see themselves as deserving of quality loving relationships - you see that in the way they treat themselves and the things they tolerate 💡 It's a subtle Psyche-ological thing, deep within 💡

Some women are responsible for their husband 's cheating so they should forgive.not all cases are the same

dont stop posting. put men matters first

You’re an idiot. If you cheat you are done. Good bye

Oh please, lady, you really think it's because those men aren't "strong enough to leave?" You're literally talking about relationships where these men HAVE KIDS!!! YOU don't even matter anymore at that point, god damn. If a man decides to walk away from his children, are you going to call him "strong?" Pft And by the way, if a guy has "forgiven" you but he keeps bringing things back up, keeps questioning you about things from the past, and just in general seems to still have problems, then that means he hasn't really forgiven you. Figure that shit out, it's not like it takes a lot of time or work, you can knock it out in a day or two easy. He needs to ask you every question he has and you need to answer every question with 100% honesty. Then once he has all the information, he can decide whether or not to forgive you, or to carry on with trying to forgive you. If he's losing his shit every now and then, it's because he has unanswered questions, and my inner misogynist says that's because some certain woman has been a little too dishonest or not forthcoming enough. The truth will set you free