Been going through this since my sister passed in 2018. Everything is always about my mom. I get she lost her child but dang that was my sister

When my brother died in an accident, one of the few ppl that ever cared enough to ask me how I was doing for me and not anyone else was some random stranger outside the hospital that didn’t know me or my situation. She sat with me for probably 20 minutes on the ground outside the hospital 5 years ago today in 35° weather while I cried. I don’t even know her name, but I’ll never forget her kindness and her ability to hold space for a stranger’s grief.

My only older brother passed a couple of months ago on May 04, 2023. His name is Jaime Felipe Amaya. Today is his birthday and I miss him so much. I feel alone in my grief. The “friends” that I thought would be there for me are nowhere to be found. I’ve been handling his personal affairs and haven’t had much time to grieve. Between work, and researching what to do next has been very tough. I’m doing the best that I can but feel like I’m on autopilot. My heart goes out to anyone watching this video and reading the comments because there is a reason why you felt the need to search for a video like this. Maybe you feel alone and put aside like I do. We will get through this. I don’t know how, but we will. One hour, minute at a time.

I lost my older brother. I found him hanging outside of our house an hour after new year. I had called him many times but he never picked up so I assumed he just didn't wanna talk, he sometimes does that. When I went outside, I saw him standing strangely. I yelled his name out a few times but I didn't receive an answer. At that moment, I was probably the most scared I had ever been. I ran inside and told my mom to call my brother inside. And that's when things went downhill. My brother had committed suicide right before the new year... I am only 17, I suddenly have so many responsibilities on my hands and I have to stay strong for my parents. Being someone with severe depression and trauma, this all feels like a dream... He left me with another trauma. I miss him and I loved him. Rest in peace, brother...

I lost my older brother, Matt on February 4 2023 to opioids. My only sibling. I thought he’d be here until the end 💔

When I was 6 years old I lost my 5 year old brother. 1978 I don't think people back then recognized this kind of trauma. I have struggled with this all my life. I'm 51 years old now.

My older brother passed away 10 days ago. I loved him dearly. I don’t know where to even begin. 🕊

Yes siblings loss is under recognized and it does change ones view of life, it erases the possibility of a future, it is horrible, my sister passed away a year ago, I am still grieving her loss

I wish this kind of content had been available years ago when my sister died. It was an eviscerating experience and I had no support because it was simply not acknowledged as significant by anyone. My sister was my best friend all of my life. She died young and i cared for her as she died. The planet cracked that day. I'll miss her for the rest of my life. It's simply a huge wound I've just had to grow to accept. But I'll never get over it.

I lost my beautiful sister Joni yesterday,my heart is broken,she was not only a sister she was my very first best friend.i will miss her gentle heart,she did not judge she only loved.May you rest in heavenly peace sweetJoni,until we meet again i love you,Jeanie🕊🤍🤍

I lost my brother 💔 he was my best friend and my soul mate. I feel guilty because I was calling him for days and texting him and he wasn't getting back to me. Every day that went by I got more and more worried. I finally broke down crying in my house for an hour before I left my house before I got into my car to drive over to his apartment. When I took the key to open his apartment door, I felt such a bad gut feeling. It felt like someone was in his apartment. I walked into his bathroom and he was face down. I turned him over and said Kevin. I took his arm and said please Kevin. I cry every day. I can't believe I found my brother Kevin dead on his bathroom floor. This was January 3, 2022. The police are still trying to find out who killed my brother. My heart is forever broken 💔 I will never be the same again. My brother was always there for me. I love him so much. He will always remain in my heart forever. I love you Kevin so much.

My sister passed a week ago. This is all new to me and has sucked the life out of me. But with God’s grace and mercy,I will get through this.

I lost my big sister 6 months ago at the age of 38. She was more of a parent and friend when we were growing up with my bro. Her life was inspirational and I looked up to her as a role model. My sister became the sole breadwinner when my parents retired. She was supposed to visit over the Christmas holidays, sadly she didn't even make it to Christmas. My parents are devastated and it breaks my heart to see them hurting. It hurts me everyday, whenever I think of the lost times and the future without her. I joined a grief support group, and it helps me somehow. I love and miss you Phostine.❤

To everyone in these comments grieving and not knowing where to begin or how to feel. I just want to tell you that it will get easier to manage the pain. My lil brother passed away four years ago at age 21 due to an overdose. Aside from my brother. He was my bestfriend. I didn’t know what to do for many months straight my mind was scattered full of emotion but with the power of god and the will to continue to live for him. It gets easier. His name is Daniel Joshua Castro. Forever. Young 💚

Lost my sister about a week ago she was 24 about 3 years younger than me. And the amount of time I didn't spend hanging out with her even though I lived in the same building is really breaking My heart. I know I don't really like hanging out with very many of my friends and family so I hope that she knew it wasn't just her. And it's not like I knew she was going to die because she died suddenly. I just hope one day I get to see her again and we can hang out like we did when we were little kids

I lost my brother in 1991. I was 19, he was 16. It was sudden and totally unexpected. I saw him 90 minutes before he died. That was the last time I hugged him and heard his voice. He had asked to borrow my truck for prom 😂😂. Of course, I told him yes. I digress, I’m writing this for me to be honest. I’ve never dealt with it appropriately. Not through addiction or gambling or anything terrible, but I’ve lived with such an empty void for 33 years. It has become who I am. As our parents have aged and had health issues, I have felt so alone and afraid. When mom and dad pass, it will be just me. Yes, I have a loving wife and three kids, but I feel alone/empty. Of my own volition and by recognizing this, I have started with a counselor for the first time in 53 years. I’ve never wanted to deal with it. Yes, I cry when I’m alone sometimes, think about what could have been or tell myself an idealized version of what I think life would be like should he still be here. I weep over every little slight, fight, or when I didn’t want little bro tagging along. Makes me feel all the more terrible because I’d give just about anything to have him here now. I am angry with him because I’m not sure if it was an intentional act or just a terrible accident although it really doesn’t matter as the end result is either way, he’s not here. He left me…. Or that’s the way I feel. If I could have one hour with him I’d hit him right square in the mouth then spend the rest of that time hugging him and telling him how MUCH I love him and how I have missed him. He’s never met my wife or kids, he’s a picture to them. He hasn’t been there to help me deal with Dad and his health issues (Dad has been devastated ever since although you can’t tell as an outsider). He wasn’t here to at least hold my hand and Mom’s hand as she battled and beat cancer. Then, I feel guilty about wanting him back or wanting to change the past because I wouldn’t have met my wife or have the kids I have now. I have been so angry with God for allowing this. I turned my back on God completely until about 5 years ago. God and I reconciled about 5 years ago and He has sent me on this journey to this point ever since. One of the things I’m committed to doing is sharing with others to attempt to help by sharing. I get joy through helping others. If there is someone reading this in a similar situation or to whom this has happened to recently I want to tell you that you are NOT alone. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, only a healthy and unhealthy way. I encourage you and pray you will waste no time in seeking advice and guidance on a healthy way to grieve. God bless and all my love!

My brother unexpectedly passed away at 24 in January. He was my only brother. I hope I can be enough for our parents. It’s so painful.

My family just buried my older brother the other day. I've been trying to process losing him for a little over a week. I'm now the oldest of my siblings and cousins, and he left behind two beautiful, wonderful kids who will only know him as photographs and stories. He was supposed to be there for me when our parents passed,. Instead, I was there for our parents when he passed. Thank you for this video, which plainly stated a lot of things I've been thinking and feeling, but it's nice to hear from the outside. To everyone who has commented or found this video for reason I did, I wish you nothing but the best. Know that your pain is real, it is shared, and you are loved.

God bless you for this. “Take care of your mom” or “how’s your mom? Or everyone else” … that hits home.

my only and older brother Eggy passed away at 36 3 weeks ago, and he was my mom soulmate, her safety net and harbor. While i'm grieving myself i also grief for my mom for having to get through all this, if i could take his place instead to lessen her pain i'd do it gladly.. i'd never be capable enough to fill his shoes. The thought of growing old without him is unbearable.

I recently lost my younger brother at age 49. He was the most amazing man, brother, husband and son I’ve ever known. So kind to everyone n full of life. Died suddenly. I’m having a hard time with accepting this as realty. My mind can’t wrap around it. We were extremely close. We had big plans together for our future! My heart is forever broken.

My brother Joakim took his own life 3 months ago, I talk to him every day, like he is still here, and he is then, it helps a little in this enourmous grief.

I lost my brother in 1981. I so wished I have gotten help for my grief instead the road I went down not having children or letting anyone get close to me. I seem to miss him more the older I get and find myself wondering what he would be up to and how my life may have been different. I'm almost 60 years old and I miss you Russell.

Thank you for this video. My older brother was a pedestrian hit by a car and killed last weekend at age 50. We were estranged for several years. Family trauma and some mental health so my mom and I knew we had to separate. Regardless, I loved him so much. I knew he was in pain and trying to heal his wounds from the trauma years. He found his healing through music and the people in Ashland, OR. He became an icon there a one man didgeredoo playing band. The people of Ashland have done so much to honor him including a candlelight vigil last night. Your video helped me so much by not looking back at decisions to take space in our relationship. At the time, it was necessary. Thank you for that important reminder. My two other siblings and mom say it feels surreal and they are not experiencing heavy emotions as I am. Thank you for the reminder we all grieve differently. I have reached out to many friends he had in Ashland via social media and connecting with them has been a great source of healing...knowing how well loved he was..really fils my heart...still, this is complicated grief. His name is Mark Langille or as the people of Ashland and Joshua Tree know him, Marcus Fire.

Thank you so much for this, Jo. My brother's name was Daren. He was our light and the glue that held our family together. He died, unexpectedly one month ago. He was the youngest, the only boy and he loved us, his sisters, so much. Our family feels different...smaller...something's missing....broken. I only hope that he is in a better place now, at peace. Thank you for thinking of him in your meditations.

I lost my sister a year ago . She battled with cancer for 7 years . Her 21 year old daughter died a year prior to her death . I cannot get over the loss of her . I cry all the time . My other sister is having a hard time too . Knowing that I can’t see or hear her voice again is hard . Her name is Paula Needler Karpinski . I thought I heard her call my name when I was in my car in the driveway. It was so clear and it was as if she was sitting right next to me . My faith makes me believe I will see her again it’s just hard living in this world without her 😢

Sibling Loss is widely under recognized yet it changes one's view of life... This video is dedicated to Worldwide Bereaved Siblings Month. 👫👬👭 Please leave a comment to teach us all what has helped you in the loss of your sister or brother. 💞 If you want to learn about joining my private online membership called The Grievolution Collective you can find information here. www.jomcrogers.com/grievolution-collective.html

Thank you Jo. My 70 year old fraternal twin, Cherie, died unexpectedly. We always talked about what it would be like when we got to 90:) Today is the 6 month anniversary and I am just sad. I think the loss of the shared history, the unique sense of family humor is the most painful part, as well as being the last survivor of my nuclear family.

My younger Sister Debbie passed unexpectedly January 8, 2024. Having lost both parents within 6 months of each other and now my first baby doll…I’m the eldest sibling. This hits so differently. It was a gut punch I’ll never forget. I love that girl. We only had her celebration of life service February 3, 2024, so at this writing it’s still so so fresh. Her favorite color was orange so I use the orange heart 🧡 in her memory.

My sister, Crystal, 9 1/2 years younger, passed last year a month after she turned 33 from a brain aneurysm caused by Lupus. I was blessed to have her as my sister in the mess of a dysfunctional family dynamic we have. We were soul sisters from the beginning and each others biggest supporters. I miss her more than words can express and feel lost in my grief as I alone now have to navigate between both of our difficult parents. Being in a support group with others who shared the same loss was most helpful. She was and is my ray of light in what feels like a dark empty place now.

I just lost my brother 3 weeks ago in a tragic car accident…he knew me better than I even knew myself . 💔

My sister, Kim, passed on February 15 after a 3 1/2 year battle with cancer. She was 43. Her daughter just celebrated her 10th birthday party this weekend. Some days are harder than others, and this is one of them. I give thanks that my sister is now free of cancer and no longer in pain. And I know Kim was grinning like a fool, watching my niece singing karaoke to Taylor Swift with her girlfriends yesterday. But that doesn’t change the fact that cancer is a rat bastard, and I miss my sister.

Thank you for addressing when siblings don’t get along. It doesn’t mean you don’t grieve. My sibling who just died earlier this evening and I were “estranged”. It was sad, but necessary. Anyway, thanks for having that part in there. ❤️

I lost my brother a month ago from pancreatic cancer and it feels unreal. It feels wrong that I’m here and he’s not. I wouldn’t have been the person I am without him and I’m afraid of the person I will become without him. I love you so much bro and I’m going to do everything I can to make you proud. ❤

This was spot on. My 30 year old son Tommy took his own life in July. I only have 2 boys and now my 22 year old son is going through what you talked about. Thank you for sharing this about siblings. I’m dealing with it as a parent and trying to console my son as well. It’s just a living nightmare every day. I’ve decided.. it’s a “life sentence “😢

My younger sister was my best friend and support after my daughter died. She died 13 months after my daughter. The world has gone dark and silent without them both.

My older sister passed away at 20 years old 5 years ago in a tragic car accident. She was my best friend. I was a teenager when she passed, and I felt (and still feel) immense pressure dealing with the grief that you so articulated so well on top of trying to figure out the world.

I lost my younger brother in March 2020. He died of a heart attack . He left behind 2 beautiful kids and a wonderful wife. We have been devastated. He was the light of the party. But life had more in storage for us. My oldest brother died in April 2021 and another one died in December 2021. The last one died 3 days ago . He was 62. Also from a heart attack. To this point I don't even want to tell anybody I know. It sounds like a very unique story. I feel numb. I don't know what to think. I don't want to cry, I don't want to pray. I feel so sad, with no energy to keep living a normal life. I imagine this is normal considering the circumstances.

My brother, Eric, died unexpectedly at 44 in February. I'm the oldest and we had two younger sisters. He had a wife and two children. We are a very close family. The confusion of roles has been pronounced as you said. We always joked that he was the voice of reason and our rock, after growing up with a bunch of emotional chicks. I struggled with addiction a few years ago and caused my family a lot of heartache and while I am grateful to be sober and capable of my big sister role once again, I have had some passing thoughts that it should have been me. I don't dwell there, it just helps to admit I've had them. Thank you for this video. You have very beautiful energy. Namaste.

Thank you for your spot-on analysis. I lost two brothers, many years apart. Of course, each loss was different but the first was far more difficult because it happened in childhood. I was seven and my 8 year old brother died unexpectedly from a burst appendix. As you describe, it's a double loss because your parents are no longer the same people, and while they go through the various and horrific stages of grief, you are left to sort it out on your own. Birth order is never discussed. I had been the middle child and was suddenly thrust into the older child's role, while having to fill the void left by my older brother. I had a real case of survivor's guilt. I got through it somehow, but spent many years in anger and depression. It affected all of my relationships, since I would never let people get close enough to hurt me again. Finally, I got some very helpful therapy and was able to marry and raise children of my own. At 52, my younger bother died.

My oldest brother, Ed Jr., unexpectedly died on September 9, 2023 at the age of 86. I'm 81 and the only one left of my immediate family.

i lost my sister unexpectedly at the end of 2023. she was only 38. she had been sick for a week before being admitted into the hospital and 3 days before she got sent to the er, she had texted me out of nowhere to check up on me. it was like she just knew she didn't have much time left. it doesn't take the pain away after losing her, but i treasure that text from her now. it was one last time she was able to show she cared for me.

My brother of 5 years older than me just passed from depression 💔. Ive never felt this pain before- this emptiness. I feel when he did what he did he took my soul with his. I see no future for me. The future i had anticipated doesnt seem so clear as it was when he was still here with me. 10 days after his birthday he did it😞- i feel so broken , so lonely- helpless. Like ive been thrown in the deep end of a pull with a bag over my head.

I'm glad I found your page. It's been very helpful. I'm the oldest of 3 sisters. We were very close, especially as adults. They were my best friends. We did everything together. I lost my youngest sister 8 years ago from complications after a surgery. She fought to stay with us and her son. But, ultimately passed away after 4 months. I lost my other sister 4 years ago. She passed away suddenly from a pulmonary embolism. I visited her that day. She made dinner for us. We discussed plans for Thanksgiving. She wasn't feeling well, so I asked if I should stay until she felt better. She said no, I'm tired, I'm going to try to get some sleep. I said ok, told her I loved her, then left. A little over an hour later I received a call from my nephew telling me the paramedics were there and that she was gone. I miss them terribly, even after all this time. Losing them, I had no one to talk with over shared childhood memories, as my parents had passed also. All our plans for the future were lost along with them. Not a day goes by without thinking of them.

My sister died 30 years ago this year. I was 17, she was 20 and in the USMC. Still feels like yesterday. Lost my brother to suicide in 2016. Never grieved as a family for either loss. I was in a bad place mentally for a long time but managed to somehow pull my head outta my ass. No joke, it’s truly one day at a time. Forgiving myself has always been impossible.

I lost my brother 34 days ago. His name was John. Please keep us I'm your prayers. I'm heartbroken 💔 thank you

Rian N Caire, 02-28-2022. I miss that young man every damn day! I thank you for this video, it’s some validation to us siblings who have a hard time and don’t know how to tell our parents we are forgotten, and who have a hard time like myself asking for help and validation! Thank you! ❤️🙏🏻

It has been 6 years since my sister died. I haven't searched "sgrief sibling died" until now. I miss my sister more than any other. I hope I just have a chance to relax now that I am here. I hope to find something I can relate to. I am positive that I am not the only person who is looking this up, feeling lonely. You are never alone, other person! 😌

My sweetheart younger brother Jonathan passed away 6 weeks ago. He was and is so pure & loving, gentle, selfless, without ego, quietly always taking care of others around him in the family, neighborhood, and work before taking care of himself. He had stopped responding to our Mom's calls and texts when our family dog who he loved and raised was about to cross the rainbow bridge. I thought it was strange he wasn't calling us back to fly here to visit her. In truth they passed away at the same time. But we didn't know until his building and police called us. He was only 41, and so much good life left to live and with us. I'm devastated he died alone. Your video spoke to my grief, angst, and guilt. We are a close loving family but I was waiting for a reconciliation that was supposed to happen when he visited us for our family pup and we were 1 month from visiting him. Our family friends and faith are getting us through. I had to search for sibling support because it's true I felt our sibling grief was forgotten. I want to say to you my sweet, dearest brother Jonathan, I and We Love You So Much ❤️ I wanted to die but I will live to care for what you leave behind and for our senior parents and our youngest brother. We will see you again soon and be reunited 💕❤️ 🐕‍🦺🐶❤️💕💗🌹

I lost my brother a couple of days ago to hard-attack. He was my everything, he was a bestfriend and soulmate in so many ways. Always has my back and always stood up for me. The worst comments are when they only ask for everyone else than yourself of how one is doing after the death. Or when they tell me that «its gods plan» and so

I lost my sister, Nazlican, in the earthquake happened in Turkey. She was my everything also everyone's. Everybody loved her, she lived like an angel. Now she is just gone and I don't know what to do with all this pain. Everyone is having so much pain and they expected me to be strong for my parents but I don't even have any motivation to live. I always imagined what will I do if something happened to my dad or mom but I never ever thought this about my sister. She was only 26 she had so much to offer, super successful, kindest person and I still can't understand why this terrible thing happened to her. She was married for only 5.5 month and she just came to her home 2 weeks ago. She died with her husband hugging. He was also so kind and just like a brother to me. I don't know how to move on. I never ever had any plans without her. Everything you said in the video was true. I had to go to abroad for my education and my parents are begging me to not to go because they are afraid something will happen to me too. They say you are the only one left for us. I feel an amazing guilt for wanting to go and live my grief in the most proper way I can. Because when I'm with my parents I can't even cry because I don't wanna make them sad. I don't know what to do. If you are seeing this and a believer in any religion please pray for my beautiful sister. It will be a gift for her from someone she doesn't know and it will make her happy. Thank you.

Thank you for going over the siblings issues. They had so much competition with me. Ended them all in rivaling me when our mother died. It was sick & still is since 2011. They were unable to acknowledge parental abuse of other siblings & grandchildren. Turned it into a war because the father/ mother put too much abuse into family. Parents were never accountable & turned the siblings against each other to hide their abuse. Parents played favorites with siblings that protected their lies & abuse/gaslighting others siblings. They never cared about the family. Only cared about abusive mentally ill parents. Lost my 5 siblings to feeling like they died after my mother / father died. They treated me like crap & rejected me each in their own way, kept me out and punished me, competed with me, lied constantly,were jealous of me, tried to provoke me, told me my parents didn’t love me etc etc… just unsupportive of my life & my children in every way, insulted my son & Godmother unjustly accused him, they all smear campaigned me, bullied me, told me I was never their for them when I was and did care for & loved them, they accused me of stealing from my mother after she died some crystal she gave me years ago,I supported them and their families, they were cold & sarcastic & cruel, & I visited them, they prevented me from having anything from my mothers house, they told me I had mortality issues when mom died because I was a little sad. they were so entitled & gave me garbage, they betrayed me, they were fake people to me, ganged up on me, abused me after funeral calling me names??? invited me for thanksgiving then had me sit away from the family with strangers, they insulted my cooking, they never asked-manipulated my father into buying them a house with the inheritance just before he died, they avoided contacting me, then they told me I did that to them. They are drunk & disorderly and abuse each other as well. Because I went no contact. I know it’s none of my business what others think of me. And anything others say about me does not reflect any truth about me but is actually a projection of who they are. Because I refused to tolerate their immature disrespect. I can go on & on.

Everything you said was everything I needed to hear. I can't thank you enough for your compassionate exploration of what you rightly call an overlooked grief.

It’s been three months since I lost my big brother to cancer. He was only 26, and he was my favorite person on the planet. He was one of the strongest people Ive ever known, overcoming mental illness and addiction. It only took four months to completely destroy all our lives. He leaves behind three kids under 4 years old, and it’s not fucking fair. My nieces and nephew deserve the amazing person that created them and loved them more than anything. I want to be here to tell them everything that he was but it hurts so bad rn

Just lost my brother suddenly. Autopsy needs to be performed. He is only 47. The pain is so unbearable.

We went through 2.5 (or so) years of court proceedings after my brother was killed. He was trying to be a Good Samaritan, and was ran over 3 times in the process; thus losing his beautiful life….. we were raised to be good people and to help others. I idolized my brothers (both of them). I try to do my best to make my brother proud and maintain a close relationship with my family, but it cannot be denied that family dynamics change after a traumatic and tragic loss…. My family means everything to me and it’s hard not to be terrified of what’s going to happen next. Not being afraid to answer the phone when certain people call…… My brother, Rob was a good man. A wonderful brother and friend. And I miss him every single moment…

My brother just past away 3 days ago. His name is Miguel Angel Medina. He was living in the street for a while. He didn’t have a good relationship with our father, wasn’t allowed to in his property and he died outside the gate on the sidewalk right in front of his house. I was supposed go by my my dad that day, but I didn’t. And I feel like if I would’ve gone I probably would have found him alive or could’ve helped him. This pain is the worst I’ve ever felt. I will never be the same after this. 💔

Lost my sister Dionne 49 to Covid the day after Thanksgiving. My pain and grief is unrelenting. She was my big sister of 6yrs. I see her reflection as I look at my self in the mirror. Finding it hard to look at my mom or talk to her children. It's just an awful place. She had so much faith in God to heal...we all held this faith. She told me to just stay prayerful when we spoke last. I was the last to talk to her. My last words: I love you Dionne.

You articulated a great deal of how I am feeling. You mentioned a double loss, and that is exactly how I am feeling. I lost my brother, but also my best friend 4 months ago. Nobody could make me laugh the way he did. I am feeling so lonely, despite the friends and family I have around me. My brother´s name was Dan. He was 42 years old, and died from complications of alcohol abuse.

Lost my brother 2 and a half years ago, the process is nothing like you can explain, not even going to try, I've not been the same person since, feels like my whole life is slowly falling apart even though I take positive steps forward.

I lost my beloved sister age 53 due to Covid complication in May 2021 . We were very very close from childhood. We used to Talk everyday . She was very spiritual . She was younger to me . Was our family support . I was Totally devasted . Was missing her very dearly , was crying all the time . She has 2 boys , I could not see my sister broken family . I was in too much pain. And then I lost my elder brother age 57 in Jan 2022 due to post Covid complication. I was very close to my brother too . I used to talk with my brother lot but since I was grieving I was not talking to him how I used to talk before . I didnot realize that my brother is also grieving . I feel very guilty for not understanding him. I could have. Help him somehow and he would be alive. I miss both of them so much. Not a single day pass without thinking of them and crying. They both were so dear to me. I feel so hopeless. Feel very lonely. Keep praying for their soul and ask god to give me strength.

I lost my eldest sister 2 weeks ago, she was 70, we are all over 50 & our parents are long gone...It is so hard to cope with this big loss, as we all knew her from our birth, we grew up together & shared many good memories together ...She was our rock of stability our family matriarch...We are all in shock & grief from this...Thank you for this sibling video.

Just lost my sister last week. We didn't really have a close relationship as she was with someone she shouldn't have been with. And we as a family blame him for her death caused by alcohol. The last year due to an issue our relationship was very strained. But I never stopped caring about her. And the thing that is getting to me the most is in the hospital she was mumbling a lot but she clearly said my name at least 3 times. 😥 I was shocked as her son and our mam were there but she was asking for me. I just put my hand on her and said I'm here ❤

I’m grateful for your message on sibling grief. My brothers name was Bill. He died four years ago of cancer at the age of 57. He is missed, but remembered fondly. 🦋

My older brother passed away on Easter; April 9th 2023. He was 32 years old, he was a control technician at a chocolate factory. I was 24 at the time of his death, now I’m 25. He was my only sibling. Seeing my mom cry for him is so painful because there’s nothing I can to fix it. Last time I spoke with him we got into a huge fight and I feel guilty for saying mean things. I hope he forgives me. I love you Marcos (Marc) 😢

My brother Geoffrey Alexander Arwood, 1970-2024, it’s been 4 weeks and I am still in disbelief.

Lost my brother Michael when I was 19 and he 21 in 1978. Lost my youngest brother, Matt at 23 and I was 35 in 1995, lost my last sibling and brother Mark who was like a best friend and son in 2000. Now I am the only survivor of my family of origin since losing my father in 2015. Lost my only son, Michael at 29 one month after my father in 2015. It’s very difficult to put all of this in perspective. You are the first person I have ever known to address sibling loss. It has been over 40 years since I lost my older brother Michael. I was telling someone about how he died and my parents reaction…and just started crying like it had just happened again. I have been resilient but after losing my son and father so close together and at the same time leaving my job and several other stressful events at the same time with the history of sibling loss, it seems I was free falling for years and it has taken me so long to come back. I still struggle with the aftermath of it all. Thank you so much for what you do. I am learning so much from your videos and it all rings true what you are saying has very much been my experience. 🙏 Namaste

Thank you. I needed this so much

You hit every nail on the head. I feel like I have lived 2 lives...and the one I previously lived ended the day my kid brother died. He was 36. Honestly, it took my joy, my security, and my only ally for when we lose our parents. I avoid my family now bc its so sad to be missing such a crucial piece. Forever changed and am afraid I have already lived my best life. 😢 Im starting to forget his voice.

Thank you Jo for your wisdom, community support, and loving self care advise on forgiveness.

My sweet sweet innocent big brother, who would always remind me that he is my big brother. Billy. William Matthew Tartanella. ❤ Please pray for him. He would have been 42 on April 5th.

I lost my only sibling..my big brother in 1990 it was a tragic sudden death...he was my soulmate...true love from the heart...it still hurts everyday...i lost my hero...i cant let him go...and i have been persecuted for my grief...they treated it as a mental illness and drugged me up and now i have scary voices that i cant get rid off without meds...i need my brother to protect me...and hes not here😢

Thank you for sharing and giving words to feelings.

I lost my brother Tony a week ago. He passed away from COVID-19. He had trouble breathing he thought he was going home the same day and he did not want to go on a ventilator but sure enough the nurse had him on it. His breathing got better but then his kidneys were failing. Then my sister in-law got the call that his heart stopped and they weren’t unable to revive him and he passed away. My family and I are devastated he was like a leader to the family and life of the party and he leaves behind his wife, 2 sons & 4 yo daughter. We are shocked thought he would be in our lives forever. We are doing our best to grieve and yes there are so many times we wish we can go back in time like we could of done something and he wouldn’t of died but you can’t bring him back. My sister told me, we have to look at the happy times. How he was with our family instead of looking at the negative. I know that’s what my brother would of wanted. Seeing family together. 🙏

Thank you this has been extremely helpful. My younger brother Marc passed away unexpectedly, your video really spoke to me I shared it with my sister who also found it very helpful. We we have an appointment with a grievance counselor coming up this week which I hope will be very helpful. I plan to listen to all of your videos. Thank you for sharing.❤

My sister Jan died on Monday 2 days ago. Parents always teach you to look after your little sister, when they die there is a sense of guilt that you didn't stop them dying. It's ridiculous but it's a deep seated feeling.

I lost my older brother almost a week ago to an unexpected allergic reaction... he was only 29. He had his entire life ahead of him. He was the most amazing, passionate, fiery, funniest, kind, and caring person I ever got to experience. I already miss you so much Ryan. He left behind his girlfriend and their newborn baby who was only 7 weeks old. His son will never get to personally know the truly amazing man he was, but he will know him through all of our stories and memories. My younger sister and I feel somewhat overlooked and forgotten since his passing... everyone says my mom, dad, his girlfriend, and their baby are affected the most- but that's simply not true. We lost our older brother. Our protector. Our best friend. It's just not fair. No one truly understands the pain of what it's like to lose a sibling until it happens to them... I just wish I had more time with him and made more time to see him and text him. What's helping me through this is my spirituality and I know he's still with me- I feel his energy and spirit and protection with me. I was just talking to him 15 minutes ago and then this video pops up in my recommended with 3333 views... thank you for this video Ryan. I love you always.

due to traffikers aka cult my whole usa family is replaced by cult s lot and now they trying to kill me, i feel heavy loss,,,,, ❤ thanks for being here

Thank you for sharing. My sister lost her life at the age of 20 in Lake Michigan. It’s been so hard on all of us. I appreciate this video so much.

thank you for highliting the many aspects of this loss. so different from any other form of bereavement... my younger brother just passed unexpectedly, so a lot of what you point out I haven't yet had time to learn. It was only a few weeks ago. Yes, I am also noticing a drastic change in my perception of time, both expanding and contracting. Your point about siblings having a shared unresolved future struck me. I am the oldest of six, so my own mortality and a sense of needing to stick around are clashing inside of me. I also had a near-death experience at 21, which most definitely gives my grief an undeniable twist. Your message touched my heart, thank you.

I lost my brother 3 weeks ago😭. I love him so much. He passed away unexpectedly. His name is Christian Cedric. I’m missing him everyday.

I lost my brother in childhood, though he was 12 years older than me and a (very) young adult when he died. I'm close to 40 now, and this video still brought me to tears at multiple points. This is the most well-rounded video about sibling grief I've ever watched, thank you for acknowledging so many ways this grief impacts us throughout our lives.

Thank you for all of the insight. I recently lost my adult little brother. Even though he was 62 it's still too soon to go. I'm finding it difficult but I am able to move forward with the support of family and friends

Thanks for the encouragement. Nice well rounded sharing. I lost my sister Carol;,1 week ago. I feel it's compounded because she was the eldest & the leader of our pack of 4 kids & it was a sudden illness & she was gone in 3 months. I especially liked your closing remarks to reconcile your grief while finding your own new identity. Blessings to you in the name of the Lord!

Lost my sister She was 27 I miss her so much She was like a mother to me It is very hard to my parents We lost her In 2019 going to 2020 It is very hard for my mother because my mother was very close cause that was her very 1st daughter and it will always be hard...💔 We still celebrate her birthday Every year We have pictures of her everywhere We talk about her and that's how we live She is not gone she is still here she is visiting us In spirit She is still around... We love her so much 💗 ❤️ 💓 It's very hard for the whole entire family

I just lost my sister 3 days ago 😢my heart is full of loss.. sometimes the stupidest song makes me cry sometimes i don’t cry for hours then it comes 🖤🖤😭 i live far away from home but we talked every single day.. i feel regret that i didn’t go home while i had her in my life she supposed to come to see me next year 😢. She was only 19 years old.. it was a car accident it wasn’t her fault i just don’t know how not to blame god to take her away. She was so young and hard working everyone loved her❤ and now it’s just empty.. my husband is my rock he support me thru this 😢 idk what i would do without him.. i am talking with my mom and brother daily but i still find myself crying and texting her multiple times a day, i know she is not going to answer but it helps..🖤🖤🖤

Rosa I love you and wherever you are I hope you can see or hear this RIP little sister …I’m sorry this happened and I love you through and through till the end of time ❤️

I lost my brother, Juan on 3/24/23. He was 42. There were 4 of us. He was the youngest and only boy. We miss him so much. He had Leukemia and fought hard for 10 months. He didn’t suffer the entire 10 months, the last month was horrible though. He had a bone marrow transplant in December, and I was his donor. I feel like I wasn’t enough to make him well. It torments me. I question whether he would have had a longer survival if he didn’t have the transplant. He got sick due to other complications but because his immune system was very low due to the transplant, he just wasn’t able to bounce back. He tried but just couldn’t. The grief is unbearable at times. A piece of me died with him. Our family will just never be the same.

My little brother Niels passed away on the same day as he was born, when I was just two years old. In fact, my earliest memory was attending his funeral and standing in between my mum and dad looking over his grave. I am currently 28 and have just begun to understand what this loss meant to me and how it has affected me. There is tremendous guilt, because I lived, so why didn't he? Unfortunately that question will never be answered. But I am determined to start dealing with this grief and start letting go of this immense pressure that I have put on myself all my life. To be the perfect daughter for my parents, to be the perfect older sister for my other siblings. It's finally time now to take care of me.

I lost my little sister Paula a few weeks ago. Thank you for making this video it's been helpful ❤

Growing up with a single mom who worked her hardest to provide for us while at the same time struggling to keep it together herself , was hard enough. There were 5 of us , I had 2 older brothers , 1 older sister ( then me ) and a little sister . Me and my older brothers had a significant age gap of 8 years and or more so we werent particularly close I still looked up to them tho , but just didn't really feel much of a bond unfortunately but more on that later . My sister's and I grew up together with in the same time so to speak especially me and my little sister , she was always by my side annoying sometimes but always expected to be right there. I remember while growing up we'd always be watching our older siblings , learning and taking notes , we idealized my older sister , she was our second mom , but unfortunately my mom and my older sister would constantly fight and she ended up moving out of the house at an early age , so in the end growing up, it was just me my mom ( many boyfriends ) and my little sister . We shared secrets and stories like 2 best friends , she was the first person I came out to and immediately loved and accepted me , she even told me if I ever wanted to have a child of my own she would even be my surrogate ❤ just 3 years between us , she uniquely watched out for me , and shielded me from life's struggles and loneliness. I always expected to be by my side no matter what. I was 24 and she just turned 21 , when a day came that completely changed my life in ways that even today 13 years later I still find hard to believe or accept . I was hanging out with my older sister at her house with my nieces and nephews having a blast , we had seen my little sister the previous night when she came over to do laundry and was gushing about her new BF and how she was so happy and believed that he was the one which was very significant for her . But I digress, fast-forward the next night we get a nock at the door and it's her room mate, " Tyler's been in a car accident ". My older sister bolted out of the door as I stayed behind with my nieces and nephews , all the while thinking she was just in a finder binder. Not knowing the gravity of the situation yet. A couple hours go by and my older sister calls me and tells me , she's sending her husband to come and pic us up and to please no matter what do not freak out and remain calm . I was like ok? Already starting to be in denial. When I got there I saw my sister was on a hospital bed , she was moving in all sorts of movements unconscious but still moving . I immediately went cold because I knew that was a sign of a traumatic brain injury. They then got her into the intensive care unit, she was in a coma I remember seeing my whole family in utter shock and sadness . I however wasn't I just felt numb . I thought she would eventually wake up and I would get a chance to yell at her and ask why did u mess up ur nice car for and we'd argue etc . I could of never been more wrong. 2 hours turns in 24 hours , my sister is connected to a lot of different machines but not life support yet, I was able to bring a lot of her friends in her room so they could tell her they loved her etc , I even saw a little tear fall out of her closed eye, so I knew she was still conscious enough to know that they were . That same night something happens and my little sister brain begins to swell , the doctor calls us all into one one room and briefs us on what's happening. They would need to perform a pretty new embrasive surgery to stop the swelling or risk her being a complete vegetable her whole life . Everyone was for the surgery I however had a bad feeling and didn't want it to happen selfishly thinking that if she did turn out to be in a vegetable state that I'd take care of her because at least she would still be alive 😢 in the end tho I was overruled and they performed the surgery. A few hours later the doctor came into the room and the look on his face said it all in my peripheral vision became mute. I remember watching my mom, my dad My brother's and my older sister collapsing to the floor and sobbing. I immediately went numb and slowly walked out to the room and remember everything in my site slowly turning upside down in ways that I can't even begin to explain. I walked slowly to the chapel alone . And stood in front of Jesus picture and fainted . That was night my life as I knew it and was so use to ended and nothing would ever be the same again . My little sister had died and was and organ donor so she had to be put on life support, I remember watching her body become more limp and lifeless every hour. I had lost something that was more important to me then life itself and when they turned off the machines I couldn't even be there because if I was there and actually saw her take her last breath, I'd probably take mine aswell 100% which my siblings don't understand still why I wasn't there but that's truly why I couldn't be . Through out the next few years I immediately developed PTSD and had to go on many medications to control my heart rate, my anxiety, and depression . I was literally scared of the most ridiculous things and would drink early in the morning throughout the day so I was not to be able to feel this pain and emptyness. I say that my little sister was my drug and not having her in my life anymore my body was experiencing dangerous and scary withdrawals. This lasted for about 7 long years , but eventually I slowly started to come out of it . Once I realized that I needed to live my live for her now , instead of dwelling about not having her anymore , slowly but Shirley memories of her that would always make me sad began to change into good memories and make me smile . I'm a firm believer in time heels and we all grieve differently. Unfortunately tho me and my other siblings have grown apart so to speak because I think my little sister was the back bone to our family and when you don't have a back bone you fall apart , and also Everytime we r around each other, we get the overwhelming since of sadness because she not there and we are reminded of a place we don't want to be . I'm ok with how all of us are today because no one gave us an instruction manual on how to deal with this we just have to focus on our paths in life and making her proud because she's always with us every time we look in the mirror, there she is starring right back , every day even today its a struggle but life is about learning and lessons, and growing from our struggles. I have to tell myself that because if I didn't , the pain of losing her still to this day would kill me. Thank you for listening and God bless ! Love u lil sis!! Rip Tyler laree Schillng

Thank you 🤍

My only sister, Helen died in February 2 years ago of cancer . She was only 1 year older than l . Up until 2 years ago ...l had an ally in the world ...our parents had already passed away . All we had was eachother left of our family of origin..When she died , l felt alone in the world ...We both had spouses and children .. Her spouse has been rather disrespectful to me in many ways .. her children have been distant ...perhaps all in their own greif. I dont know . I am just heartbroken. Thanks for listening.

Lost both my older siblings most recently my older brother last September so suddenly. Repairing our relationship was a big thing that was happening and find myself hating all the petite fights we had. My acceptance that ill never be 100% ever again has helped. Embracing the reality of this has opened up a defined insurance that that my brother troy and my sister Kayla... May not be here anymore, but i can sure as hell make them proud by living my life in their absence. ❤

I lost my brother 10 months ago and this was the first New Year without him. I am rather unsupported from family (i.e. lowest on the pecking order). The best thing I have done with my therapist is the compassionate other exercise... Created my own imaginary perfectly compassionate person and used that imaginary person to comfort myself.

Yes, i just buried my older brother today in NY. I was virtual, while his girlfriend came on ZOOM to show me the whole funeral taking place. We were not very close due to many kinds of awful behaviors and abuse that went on between us since our childhood. So I kept away from him, then his girlfriend called me an hour before he passed away. We both immediately took care of all the details to have him buried properly. It has been very painful for me all of these years. I am mourning along with his girlfriend and hopefully we will remain friends.

Thank you for this. My little brother passed 6 months ago from a rare heart defect we didn’t know he had at the age of 31. He was my best friend.

I lost my sis n my best friend 2-3-2024 😢😢😢 I can't take the pain in my heart any longer 💔 😪 it's just not fair

I lost my brother due to car accident on the 7th of June 2024 😢😢 he was a last born of 5, he was only 24 eish I can't fathom the pain. I miss my best friend who was sp funny, loving and supportive. RIP Sanele waMama ❤

Мите, здрасти. Имам толкова много неща, които искам да ти кажа. Пораснах, вече съм много по-уверена в себе си и съм си собствен човек, който харесвам много. Захванах се да правя толкова много неща след като си отиде; да спортувам и да ям правилните неща за да отслабна и да си харесвам нещата, в мен които преди мразех - краката ми, да изкарам много добър резултат на матурите и след това в училище с оценките и като цяло да стигна до момента в който ще съм доволна. Но това не стана. Наскоро бях в обстоятелствата където осъзнах че съм направила всичко, което съм искала, но тогава се чувствах най-зле от всички други пъти в които не съм била постигнала нещо. Защото как беше възможно да съм постигнала всичко което искам и пак да не се чувствам както когато ти беше тук. Това променяше всичко. Защо ми е да правя каквото и да е ако няма с какво да запълня празнината от това, че те няма? Сякаш всичко това беше просто начин да се разсейвам и да не мисля и осъзнавам, че никога повече няма да те гушна, след като се прибера от някъде, казвайки ти че си ми липсвал. И никога повече няма да седим заедно пред компютъра докато ти играеш страшна игра, а аз те гледам и се чувствам много готина, понеже седя до късно заедно с теб, и ти ме караш да ти нося бира без пяна от време на време и аз, въпреки че е досадно, да го правя с огромно желание сякаш правя мое любимо нещо. Не знам сега какво да правя. Дните отново започват да се чувстват като рутина, нямам нещо към което да се стремя наистина, има малки неща, но не е същото. Знам, че си поставям много високи очаквания за това какво ще правя и как постоянно трябва да правя неща за да поддържам баланса, и с тялото ми и със социалния живот и с ученето но някак си не искам. С нищо не ми помагат тези неща, не ми пречат също, но просто ми е безсмислено сега. Вкъщи вече не е уютно като преди. В моята стая е същото обаче. Много я обичам нея. Вече даже повече от твоята. И това е защото те няма там, и вече няма кое да изтъква най-хубавите неща от нея и да я прави толкова уютна и приятна каквато беше. Нещата се променят, това е ясно, но защо не можеше завдно да се променяме. Да ме гледаш как израствам и да ме сръчкваш и тормозиш за някои от глупавите проблеми, които имам в тази възраст, да си причината да не ми пука какво ще направя навън, защото знам че винаги като се прибера, ти ще си там. Много ти благодаря, че те имаше. Ти беше моят идол и завинаги ше си останеш. Това е моята мечта - да се чувствам по онзи уютен начин, както когато беше още тук. Най-хубавото време. Наистина ми липсваш. И ще ми липсваш завинаги. Моля те прати ми някакъв знак, какво да правя сега, след като съм разбрала че няма кое да запълни празнината? За какво да живея? Обичам те, Беборая