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“INFJs fake listen all the time” Me: Geez Frank don’t tell everyone my secrets

My INFP mind: 1. Listen to conversation. 2. Looked through their soul. 3. Disliked what I saw. 4. Daydreamed I was somewhere else until they stopped talking.

Poor Editor Kevin, he’s stuck in editing purgatory.

As an INFP, I feel really bad when I get distracted and didn't hear what someone was saying to me. When I zone out or get distracted I always say "I'm sorry, I did not hear what you said" or something like that. When I don't want to be around someone I will fake listening, so I guess this is very accurate for me lol

Wow, the INFJ one was so on point. The amount of overthinking I do to avoid “promising” the other person some type of a future together is INSANE - whether it’s a friend, acquaintance or someone whom I feel is interested in me romantically. While talking to this other person, I’ll be thinking so many different things to say instead of what would sound like promising something. Or mid-sentence I’ll remember that “uh oh, if I go on to give them this information next, they’ll ask me if we should do that thing together so I’d rather not say that and say this other thing instead” - and while thinking these things outwardly I’ll be like “uhhh, uhmmm, hmmm”. I’m glad this is an INFJ thing and not an indication that I’m just weird or too overthinking (although this IS overthinking).

As an INFJ i noticed if i don't like someone i never talk about myself or share things about my life so the person doesn't really get to know me and i also don't ask about their life. I can be able to talk about random topics that everyone has to deal with (for example a schoolsystem or a government issue or how something works) but it will never be a personal experience that I am sharing. I become the thing we hate ourselves the most: "a shallow person"

0:34 ESTJ 1:08 ISTJ 1:48 ESTP 2:57 ISTP 3:47 ESFP 4:27 ISFP 5:20 ESFJ 6:08 ISFJ 6:48 ENTJ 7:28 ENFJ 8:21 ENTP 9:19 ENFP 10:07 INTP 11:04 INTJ 12:10 INFP 13:05 INFJ

As an INTJ, if we don’t like you; ignoring you is accurate. It might seem harsh or rude, but at the end of the day it saves us both time because we’re making it clear where we stand in our relationship. no fake niceness, polite conversations, or mixed signals, if I don’t like you, you’ll know

As an INFP, I confirm the statement. One guy liked me, but I started not listening to what he was saying and pretending I was. I ignored him and he disappeared. BUT! With my friend, I've read all the signs since I first saw her. So, I tried to send every signal I could to try to say that I wasn't interested, let alone that I knew the truth. In this case, I paid attention to almost everything to see if I could understand and then fit some hidden message into our conversations. In the end, she confessed, and I confessed that I knew from the beginning, and now our relationship is weaker.

Over time, I’ve realized a few of my ISTP habits: -I do tell people I have other things to do, but it really means I have other things I’d *rather* do. -I often end up focusing on my work harder if I reject someone over it. -If you bother me to a certain point, I will outright tell you that I don’t wanna hang out or that I don’t think we’ll ever be super close. -There aren’t many people I call friends. Most people actually know very little about me. It’s more surprising if I do wanna hang out than if I don’t.

As an ISFP, I can confirm this. Not only in relationships but just social situations, if I don't like this person there's no use interacting unless really needed, like if they're dying... I have to help. Otherwise, yep... Your invisibility cloak is on to me.

As an INFJ, your “choice of words”explanation was perfectly explained! Even in other circumstances when I’m trying to explain a problem I have to someone without giving them any obvious context, I end up not really explaining anything at all, yet I’m so scared they know exactly what I’m talking about, simultaneously I’m hoping they understand, but not, but am

As an INTP, this is honestly completely true. When I had a crush on one of my friends, I’d always respond within a few hours, which is really quick for me. I don’t like them anymore cause and now when we text I’ll sometimes forget to physically respond for two or three days. Keep up the great work FJ!

As INTJ I'm going to make the excuse of being too busy. I'm not going to go out of my way to be around a person I'm not interested in, and then just sit and look at my phone, that'd be a waste of my time for no reason. Also definitely avoid talking about anything in a way that seems inclusive of the person I'm not interested in.

I have also noticed as an ENTP that despite being quite talkative about this and that topic, we do not really talk much about our inner life and childhood, and we do not often ask others about these things. However, when we care about someone we will make an effort to have in-depth conversations about these details that usually escape our eyeline. So if an ENTP inquires if you are an only child or about your high school relationship, they are really into you.

I'm infp, sometimes I forget to listen to people I like too, and then ask them to repeat what they said because I was distracted. but when I don't like someone I try to avoid them. If they're working with me I'll try to do something that allows me to not be near them or make the least amount of conversation possible if I have to speak to them. Cut ties if I can, ignore them every way possible, like no eye contact at all and body not facing them, neutral expressions to no expressions etc .

As an ENFP I can say that I like everyone, even the people I don't like. Somehow I can find something I like in almost everyone, even people who are horrifically abusive (sadly I have known several). I think this does make it hard for people to know if we're not into them. But if people have been direct with me I am fine being direct with them, "hey I am just not feeling it, this isn't working out". And for abusive people, I just ghost them

INFJ said: "I'm busy, CAN WE MEET LATER?" "I have to go, WE'LL TALK LATER" She's into me! 😂

I'm an INTP who responds to everyone eventually. But I guess I tend to avoid someone I don't like... Because I don't know what to say and it can be really akward and no thank you

As an ENFJ, literally nothing hurts more than when I feel like my friends don’t care about me. I remember all sorts of things about them, like how my INFP friend doesn’t like eating mushrooms or sauce on their fries but they love gummies but when picking a place to eat nobody remembers that I’ve been vegan for years and pick someplace where I can’t eat anything. I remember my ENFP friend’s medical history because they’ll talk about it (and then they’ll be shocked when I know everything about their medical history) but they don’t remember my dream college (I’ve talked about wanting to go there the whole time I’ve known them, went on a trip there, posted a bunch of stuff about it on social media, and I wear the school’s merch all the time). Tbh honest the most painful thing for me to say is “I told you about it, don’t you remember?" Also I always know when my friends aren’t listening to me. I always know when they’re just nodding along and pretending to pay attention but they aren’t. Those things my friends do aren’t bad though. They’re normal human things. I think I just go insanely above and beyond for them and inevitably get super hurt when I feel like it isn’t reciprocated or that I’m not appreciated.

Okay the INFJ one really was too accurate. I get so uncomfy watching my words in situations like that. I’ve thought exactly what you’re saying “I can’t say this (that way) because X might start getting ideas that I do not want them to get”.

Editor Kevin is the hardest working man in youtube biz! The second camera, the background music, the hilarious cutaways -- I like FJ's Sunday videos better without all that, but if all that's going on, EK better have gotten a big pay raise!

ENTP, for me also applies to non-romantic situations, if I don't like someone it'll be the same lack of wanting to talk for 70 hours about everything and a quick "oh nice you said something, i have to go shuck some corn now"

I assumed ENFP would be, if you think they are flirting with you? They just consider you a friend 😂🤣 But after context of the video, it’s pretty accurate. The constant thoughts of not wanting to hurt their feelings, and also not wanting to lead them on, really leads to various feelings expressed to the person that we’re not into. Except for the people we hate, because if you did something BAD ENOUGH for an ENFP to hate you? You are not worth the energy energy of our thoughts lol.

My ISTJ parent: never speaks to me about emotional personal things. Me: "Oh."

As an ENTJ I totally agree! I don't care if I look weird for asking 100 questions in 1 minute. I do like knowing what people think and themselves :))

As an INTP, I think Frank's description of INTPs is pretty much what I do with people of dating apps that attempt to talk to me when I'm not interested, for people I dislike IRL my approach is closer to what the ENTP does, my interactions will be polite, brief, and straight to the point, if they're by text and purely social I might consider not replying at all depending on the message I received (if someone sends me a meme I probably won't reply at all, if it's something like "Hello! how are you doing?" I might just reply to say that I'm ok, but won't carry the conversation or make any questions).

As an INTJ, I enjoy reading on my phone while being around people I like. This way, conversations feel less forced and you can look up details of things you are talking about. When I really don't like someone I will avoid talking to them and if possible avoid meeting them at all.

honestly, for me as an ENFP, it depends on how i feel about the person. if i’m not concerned about how the person feels, i’ll just tell them straight up “i don’t like u.” but if i care about them and don’t wanna hurt them, i’ll try and point out some good characteristics of other people and make them catch feelings for them instead of me (which has only worked two times, but it still worked) then, if they don’t get the message, i tend to just distance myself slowly cause i cant bring myself to tell them. i don’t know if anyone else can relate, but that’s how i send signals.

Can confirm the ISFP brutally giving you the cold shoulder, pretending you don’t exist is a real thing. If I’m not into someone I would avoid that person at all cost and only talk to them when necessary. Cause I’ve had people mistake my friendly, loving, caring demeanor for something more and I don’t want people to feel like I’m leading them on when I’m not. So if I become very distant and act like you don’t exist I want you to know where I stand with you.

As an ISTP, I look back and can pick out a few times i had a “lot of other things to do “ it is one of my go to things. Glad I know where it comes from.

As an INTP, I guess I should interpret this as "We have a lot of things to waste our time on, but you are not one of them." If an INTP doesn't like you, they sorta sound like NPCs with the most dull and boring responses known to man. 😂

As an ENFJ, it’s so true that I always double the energy of those around me, as long as I like them. If a friend will be really loud I’ll mirror that. Around people I don’t like I hide from them emotionally. I act introverted or just really calm when that’s not who I am at all 😂

As an INTP, we can’t fake emotions. If we don’t like you, we don’t like you. If we like you, we like you. Sometimes we care about being rude other times we don’t. It depends on the person. We hate people who are pushy and clingy. We hate people who are presumptuous and overconfident. We like people who are chill, silently confident and can be responsible for their own actions.

The ENFP was so true when it comes to the overall. But at moments when I notice that person had made me upset and I get an impulsive feeling to be the opposite way, my feelings will always default back into the original settings and easily cover up someone's bad behavior. Which like can be good as long as they aren't toxic.

Crush: why'd you never respond? Me: respond to what? C: my text! M: what text?

As an INFP, I honestly try my best to listen to everyone that has something to say to me (because I don't really have friends). But a lot of the times if it seems like I'm not listening, it might actually be that I literally can't hear you but don't wanna go through the awkwardness of asking "What?" After your every sentence lol

as an ISFP, I can confirm that if I dislike someone, I pretty much don't acknowledge their existence. On the plus side, everyone I do like knows I actually like them

For me as an INFP, it usually takes me a while to process how I actually, truly feel about someone. Sometimes in the moment I'm still unsure of my feelings, but will still be polite and try to listen if someone talking to me in person (even if it is half-heartedly). After I have some alone time to process, if I know I really dont like them, I'll tell them straight up, "hey, I dont think this is going to work" (over text, if possible). I'll even give specifics if they ask, even though often times its uncomfortable. I personally hate leading people on, and I know not everyone understand the subtle hints I may give out, so sometimes I'll be direct if my messages aren't clear.

As an INTP, living in fear of people talking to me is my natural state. If I respond at all, that's an extremely warm reaction.

The ISFP one was so true, I was just talking about it with someone before I watched your video! I absolutely cannot fake my feelings towards someone so if I don't like them I will try very hard to avoid them so they don't realize it. Usually they realize it lol

ENFP’s We will take a moment to deeply process our situation, your situation & what that means for our relation then once the mind is made up… we will honestly tell your directly. I know that we are brainstormer’s & hardly finish things but when it comes to people we will do it like a sharp shoot!

The way he's spilling all my disclosed secrets that even I wasn't aware of

It's really interesting to learn how different types of personalities saying that "No" in a subtle way! Saving yourself a lot of time & energy! Best!!! 💗

I'm an ISTP and if I'm in the same social space with someone that likes me, but I don't like them in that way, I do the ISFP thing and just avoid eye contact and communication at all costs. (I'm not good at faking it, either.)

As an ENFP I can say that this is so true. It takes me a little while to make up my mind about someone and once it is made up I rarely change it. I have changed it when under duress and after going through a paradigm shift, but as a general rule I like to meet the real you before I make up my mind (so I don't have to change it later🙃).

As an INTP, the "pinging back" thing is true. I have a whole process of talking to people who I like hanging out with over the Internet. The way I do it is I send a meme, wait for the reaction to the meme, and then BAM! Instant follow up with another meme. After about 3 to 5 memes I can relate a personal anecdote or ask a question. Works every goddamn time

As an ISFJ, I totally agree with FJ's point. I'll re-prioritize. If I'm not into someone, I'll just look for something else to do or someone else to talk to before responding to them, simply because they're not that important to me..so yeah, pretty accurate!

0:39 *ESTJ* 1:08 *ISTJ* 1:47 *ESTP* 2:57 *ISTP* 3:45 *ESFP* 4:27 *ISFP* -i love u 5:20 *ESFJ* 6:08 *ISFJ* 6:47 *ENTJ* 7:28 *ENFJ* -my bestei 8:21 *ENTP* 9:19 *ENFP* 10:07 *INTP* 11:02 *INTJ* 12:08 *INFP* -hey! That me 13:05 *INFJ* ✨ ~if you see this my Sir frank James. I would like to Thank You for making all this content because it makes me know who Iam and discover other personality types which has made me understand people too, Iam really grateful for all of these videos you make! I love youuuuu ✨✨✨

As an INFP can confirm, in general if I'm not into someone or they're not a close friend it's kind of a chore to hang out with them not because I hate them it's just tiring but I don't want to seem rude but at the same time I feel like me listening and being nice is the only reason people end up liking me, because I'll always ask due to being genuinely confused because I look like a opossum and the same answer I'll get is because I'm nice and I helped them through a hard time or something and I do hope to be nice and help people but I'm nice to everyone and I don't want someone to like me just because of that because there's more to me than that and it just doesn't feel real to me, they like me because I helped them but happens when that passes It's just sort of frustrating I guess any advice for that James?

I'm an ENFP and it does take me ages to decide on something, but when it's set it's set. I also find sometimes I seem like I'm more flirty with ppl I'm not into than with the very very select few I end up interested in

8:20 ENTP Approved. Also Correct That We Are Much Like The ENFJ. Great Job! 😎😎

FRAAAAAANK! I need your help! (If you made a video on it I missed it). Could you do a video on the best way to apologize to the 16 personality types? We all have disagreements, what’s the best way to resolve them for each type? 🥺

infp here.....yup, there will be very limited interaction and mostly about getting just the facts as quickly as possible, then getting outta there. or if the person has ya a bit cornered, it’ll be a lot of “hm. yup.” and prob some fake multitasking.

You really did great with this one. I immediately recognized the ISFP's looking through me and the ESFJ's absence of laughter. Me as an ENFP (who also felt well portrayed in this video) moved to a flat with three ESFJ girl roommates once. They were always laughing about everything for no reason and as soon as I entered the room the laughter just stopped. Eventually they came around, but man that was cruel for some time! :D I felt like I was Darth Vader.

As an ENTP, I confirm the corresponding part to be 100% true

MAN was this was painfully accurate 😅 As an ENFP who's generally totally convicted (or crazy unsure) of her feelings, I've found that with people I know aren't right for me, I'll go back and forth to the extreme, feeling that they're either amazing/one-of-a-kind/inCREDIBLE ☺or internally complain about most everything they do and decide I need to find a way to back away. But by the time I come to that decision, they've texted me saying ANYTHING and I, swept off my feet by the grand romantic gesture that is "heyy wyd," figure I'll save that for tomorrow... 🙈

Editor Kevin is doing very good work. Thanks Kevin for making fun edits possible ♡

"--FJ's will laugh even when something isn't funny" ...I unintentionally and immediately laughed at that (probably because it was relatable) -an INFJ Also my INFP brother has adhd, so not listening isn't necessarily a sign of lack of interest

Spot on for infj! There have been times where I would say something but then also realize it can also have this other meaning and come across as something I wasn't implying.. leading the guy on by accident and making me break into a little sweat of the sudden realization, then I'll try to further explain myself in what I actually meant with what I said.. just to be sure 😳

As an ISTP, it's quite accurate. I never thought about it like this, but i do always have a lot of things going on at the same time, try to do them all, but don't have strict plans :)). If i want to hang out with someone, i'm 85% sure i can make it happen and then figure out later when to do everything else. Why do i torture myself like this? How am i organised, disorganised, anxious and spontaneous all at the same time?

ESFJ here. People usually think we are interested when we aren’t because of our love of people. So, yes, when we want to shut down someone we aren’t interested in, we will try not to be our normal level of friendly. We try to not give any feedback and get cold (which is really hard for us).

thank you for describing enfp so on point! ppl often stereotype us as playful but we actually quite serious when we found the right one and not easily moving on ❤️

I'm an isfp and you are correct. I am morally opposed to fakeness of any sort. So as soon as you give me a real reason not to like you, and its rare that I judge a person on that level, I turn up the extroverted sensing to the point that you just become another object in the room, no different from a lamp or a table.

oh man the ISFP one is so true. I'll be super friendly to som1 but once I know that they're into me and I'm not I'll just pretend like they don't exist. not being rude I just super careful not to give them fake hope or smthn which is in my opinion is way more painful for both of us. it's just I can't keep talking to u while knowing what's going on and I'll just hurt u someday.

As someone with ISFP as the significant other, I confirmed that theory. My wife always says that she only replies to my silly daily texts and not to even her own bff only daily basis. I feel so special.

INFP here, and this is true...to an extent. Personally, if I am not into you I will avoid you. I will still be polite towards you but I will give one word answers or act like I didn't hear you/see you. This is my subtle way of telling you to back of/not interested. If you continue to push, don't catch the hint or behave in a disrespectful manner then all bets are off. You will get ghosted or i will directly tell you to back off. In either case, you no longer exist. You will never see or hear from me again. If we have to interact because of work (for example)then I will be cold, direct and only engage with you when its absolutely necessary. It's not to be intentionally rude but I don't want to give false hope or any idea that there might be a chance.

INFJ here- I find it difficult to show when I'm not interested. I'm always hoping the indications you mentioned will be perceived. But unfortunately they're often not. It's not the best way to handle it for either party. I had to work on being more direct in a way that's both gentle & respectful, but still gets the point across clearly. Definitely a work in progress...

Haha, FJ you are so right 😂 I'm an Enfj and I do exactly that, when it comes to people I don't want to be around. I still try to be friendly, but I don't talk much to them or answer texts with very few words. And I hope that the other person will get it 😅

Loved it in a way cause dude u won't expect how many people don't like and they are all covered with signs 🧡

Really good content! I think this also applies to friendship. As istj I do only talk about feelings to my close friends.

As an INTP I can confirm that this anecdote is true. For example: there's this one person who texts me constantly even though I almost NEVER respond. It's just like, get the message already.... . . . . ....god, mom!!!

am an autistic infp, i use these videos to help me step out of my shell more. 💖

As an ENFP I want to thank you FJ for making me realise that that’s an actual formula for me to understand if I have true feelings or not. Cause for past 2 years I only “ liked” anyone for two weeks max, and those two weeks resembled of my feeling being on and off like: OH WOW LOVE OF MY LIFE then being like meh I actually don’t care and don’t want to see this person ever again. At the end I always realised that I actually didn’t like them at all from the start. Oofff now I can end my suffering of understanding what’s up with me haha

The fourth wall break to Editor Kevin. Hi Kevin!! Thank you for the awesome editing ☺️👋🏻

I’m an ISTJ, and I absolutely keep things work oriented when I don’t like someone. It’s not even just from a romantic standpoint; it goes for friendship too. If I don’t want to be friends, I’ll keep things very surface level and focused on accomplishing the task at hand.

Most of the time I relate most to INFJ but in this one I can see myself doing different ones with different people. I guess that tracks with the INFJ though because it's basically not giving the type of feedback that the other is looking for. I think that trauma causes INFJs to be great mimics without realizing that they're doing it. We're constantly trying to get people to like us and if we don't want someone to like us we're probably picking up some very unsettling vibes.

Thank you for putting chapters 😩

Thank`s for another great video, Frank. Something is missing regarding ENTPs. We tend to ask very superficial questions about the other persons life, if we are not into them. Like "what is your favourite colour" kind of questions. Just to be polite. And than we turn around and try to escape the situation like you mentioned. Not the best way to deal with it...

I usually remember what people say to me for a very long time so as an INFP, this feels accurate. But at the same time I tend to zone out a lot but I can't really help it

I am an INTJ who's in the loop. I once had a fun ESFP friend whom we hanged out a lot, but something happened between us that eventually led him to stop reaching out to me as usual. Now, this clears a lot of stuff up, and it just made me Fi sad.

As an INTP I can say this is so accurate! Like, I finally could make 2 friends in Your my Type, and I was so happy! I spent hours talking with them, it was so nice... I've been ignoring them for half a year now tho

As someone who goes from INFJ to ENFJ in phases of life, I often run into issues of people thinking I'm into them, OR I'm actually into them and they either don't feel the same way...that's probably just life though. On the inverse, I often have to be direct in telling someone I'm not into them like that, which is always awkward. I become the villain, suddenly. Like I'm "stuck up" which just isn't the case. For those of us who are open to relationships, we're all looking for our best matches. No one has to "settle" with someone they really don't want to, anymore. For the lonely hearts out there, I'm the same as you. I look, but not too hard, for partners. The prospect of giving my limited time to another scares me all over again. Anyway...best of luck to all of you seeking love out there! I genuinely hope it goes well. 😊👍 If you get rejected, smile because now you have a whole new option, right? STAY STRONG. 💪 Become the incredible person you envision.

Frank ma'boy, you are, very good at this. I mean when I see your videos it's like looking in the mirror for every second of my life at certain moments! Sometimes you make me realize things about myself that I already knew yet never cared about so much because I'm too interested in people than myself, as an Enfj. It's totally true that I don't match the energy of whoever I don't like and even when I try to hide it so bad it's more obvious than the disinterested look on my face, my body language is too obvious! And I do that because I want to cut my relationship with that someone immediately to avoid conflicts, which is my talent, avoiding conflicts. Same goes with isfp's, because I have an isfp friend and when she hates someone she literally pretends they're ghosts and LITERALLY sees through them which I see is a very brutal thing to do. She matches me well but these guys can get very scary and harsh sometimes man! Thank you for the video Frank! I really love your channel, it helps me improve myself as well as exploring it in the best possible, funny way🖤

As an INTP, that is something i can mostly agree with that. Most of the time when I get a message i reply immediately, but after hearing the notif sound and seeing its someone i dislike i will ignore the msg for 3 weeks, then reply saying “sorry just got the msg” and act like nothing happened… 👀 But if i ignore you for 3 weeks, you really should get the feeling that i dislike you tbh

Let’s be honest, we’re all here to see if it accurately represents our personality

Editor Kevin.. haha... nice new camera! That was a hilarious way to introduce it. Love it! So he's the one who edits! Very cool. I was wondering, because it seemed like a lot of work for one man! :o Interesting about avoiding talking about the future with the other person. I haven't really noticed if I do that or not.

This is creepily accurate. I am an INFJ and that was spot on. I've often talked about how words leave an impact, so I am very careful with what I say because I know how it could be taken. And I've definitely done that, avoided using future tense or saying "us" or "we" in certain cases just to make sure I'm not leading them on.

Omg. ENTJ is so accurate. Before I heard that I supposed that the answer will be: "oh, they will ignore you". However. Not asking questions (even stupid sometimes) is even MORE accurate. Like. I always ask questions to have a nice and pleasant conversation with person (sometimes for hours). Question are the good way to have some kind of leadership in the dialogue so you can always rule it. But when I don't want to talk with someone, I usually do not ask questions. In these situations straight answers and no questions are my everything.

I’m ENFP who takes a WHILE to know if I am interested romantically, must be friends first or building a friendship with the flirting or dating part. Otherwise no. If someone protests being “friendzoned,” extra no with a side of no. (I’m an ENFP with past trauma so that adds to it).

Fabulous video Frank, well done. I love your easy presentation style, you paint the pictures in our minds very well. Anyone who really knows what they are talking about does not need any visual aids, their choice of words and their phrasing of them is the art. Words that create images in peoples minds, clear images at that. Shining the light into foggy areas which niggle us all it seems. I watched this video with a particular interest. I have actually, finally, managed to get a human person of female gender, to agree to meeting for a chat with a view to exchanging views and thoughts. I know this person loosely myself but do also know that she is greatly admired and appreciated by another female who I clash with but none the less, have an admiration and affection for her. I am almost freaking out wondering how she is going to react to me and how I am going to find her. I am going to go through with this rendez-vous because I FEEL I owe it to myself to give her a try and she is willing to give me a try but as the day draws closer!!!!!!!!!! The rejection that you have explained is so correct, so correct. Hence my sense of trepidation in this case. I FEEL that this is another attempt at broaching human communication, why do so few people do reciprocal sincerity? I just cannot see why we INFJs are so unlikeable and others purposely try to cut us out and cut us off in mid-speech. We are the most worthy of listening to after all. Wish me luck!!

Wow that's so accurate, the explaining of the difference btw how we interacte when we like or don't, you're educating me about me Enfj

INFP here, if I don’t like you, Ima be trying so hard to show you I don’t like you but be respectful at the same time. Like as FJ said, I will pretend I’m listening but really I’m just daydreaming or I’m overthinking you liking me and me not liking you back.

FRANK: HOPEFULLY YOU'LL SEE THIS - Can you tell me which one of your videos tells the story of how you just were super withdrawn ALL throughout college and into graduate school until a fellow older adult male student called you out on it and said, hey, do you just not care or something? And it helped you see what was wrong with how you were behaving and you made an effort after that to be sociable and it made a huge difference for you. I have young introvert people in my life starting college and I want them to see that video so they don't waste their young years when it could be so much better. I've looked through all your video thumbnails and can't find it and don't remember what title it would've been under. Yours isn't the only advice and resources I'm pointing them to but that's a really good story I want them to hear. Thanks for your great channel! It's taught me a LOT! 🤗👍❤️💕😻😺

Holy molly, that's so spot on. I'm an INFJ and whenever I know someone is into but does not tell I will be very careful of my choice of words. I won't say something too direct or harsh but somehow never mention something possible for us. Never projecting you in any project or idea...

Wow, once again, you have nailed me and my whole family (INFP, ESFJ, INFJ and ENFJ)

”Infj’s do the fake listening all the time” … you didn’t have to expose me like that🥲 but true☺️😅

I'm an INFP, and I can't relate to the listening thing. So much is going on up in my head that even if I actually care about the person talking AND the conversation, if it goes on long enough OR something reminds me of another thing that starts a train of thoughts in my head, I'll just zone out and be like "Wait what- say that again?" when I hear something that's so bizarre it snaps me out of my train of thought

I've seen just these sorts of behaviors that you're talking about. Very relatable video. I do tend to find something else to focus on if I'm around someone who seems to think we should have a connection, but I really don't want to talk to them. I don't always have my phone handy, especially if I'm in my place, or at someone else's place where I feel comfortable enough to put my belongings down somewhere (like at a relative's place or something). Other times, I'll have it on me, but I carry my phone in a holster on my belt since I know better than to just stick it in my pants pocket - I could go into a whole rant about the risks inherent in doing that, but I won't here. It's rather awkward to pull my phone out of my holster while someone is trying to converse with me, especially if it isn't ringing. If I do that, I Really don't want to talk to you. :) Even if I don't have a phone, or Nintendo DS, or book etc. handy to hide behind, I can still tune you out and find something else to focus on like the music that's playing in a restaurant, studying the table centerpiece or decor around the room, analyzing the flavor profile and cooking techniques of the food I'm eating, or even just going inward and daydreaming about anything else other than what's happening in the room. I've had friends or family observe when that happens and tell me later that they could really tell that I was done with interacting with someone when my eyes just glazed over, and I looked like I was gazing through them. When my wife sees me doing that, she'll often rescue me by deciding that it's time to go, even if the social situation we're at isn't over yet. Or, she'll find someone at the event that she knows I do like and somehow get me out of the conversation I'm trying to avoid and into one with this friend we both like.