If you still believe in “soulmate” you’re definitely an effeminate soy boy. God help you at 38 you’re still in blue pill hell it seems.

Good luck

I have the same😓😭

I was born in the early 80's and have been single all my life! Good luck - hope you find the right person soon.

@@djcrownvic7017 me too

congrats

That’s awesome!! You’ll actually be better off single and I say the less people in your life, you won’t have any of other peoples Bull Shit. I love be by myself, I constantly educate myself. I just met this guy though, thought I could get into a relationship but now I’m having second thoughts because I just don’t have time for him. Why waste all my valuable time just to get hurt in a couple of months. I just don’t know what I should do. He’s absolutely gorgeous too, and I did have that certain “Look” when our eyes connected last week. However, today I found myself wanting to run. I don’t want to lead him on either as it’s not fair to him.

Hi Supa, how are you ?

@@Home19888 I'm a male and asexual

It gets really awkward while at neighbor's cookouts (if you're invited) and being surrounded by couples. Or at family functions being the third wheel.

@@randomrebuilds I am 21 and never had a girlfriend and I feel very envious when I see couples. I feel so sad these days and really want a girlfriend.

@@manosijthehero3686 I had 5 girlfriends in my life, and believe me, you probably won.

@@manosijthehero3686 MGTOW 😎

@@manosijthehero3686 I'm ini my early 40's and have been single all my life. It's pretty lonely, but I think it was was worst being single during my 20's.

Do you have a lot friends to talk to? How do you spend most of your time? Is it hobby or something else that make your forget about loneliness?

@@cleanfactory5561 Don't have many friends but I have never experienced loneliness as I am not a people person anyway. I have better things to do than socialise, my friend.

What kind of company? What age did you start it at?

Did you have a girlfriend before? I am 21 now in last year of college so I am over 4 decadea younger than you and I never had a girlfriend so I can understand how you feel. I had been using tinder, bumble and hinge for almost a month but not even a single match. I have 4 crushes on real life. 3 are from my college and are 18-20 year olds and another is 23 or 24 from another institute. I am too shy but finally managed to get the name of 2 of my crushes and follow them on Instagram and finally messaged one of them and was really happy when finally one of the crush who is 19 and in 2nd year replied to me. I didn't say her yet that I have crush on her but I am in last year of college and will be graduating by August end or Sept first week so would I have any chance with her and should I try to date her? I am confused and I am kinda scared to say her about my crush on her.

35 still searching for this concept called love never found someone worthy

Seek God. He will never leave you nor forsake you. That you will never be alone at 40 onwards

@@derrick9504 he did my entire life. I always wonder if God is this cruel to someone who is living just how cruel would he be in the afterlife? Sounds like it's going to be harsh to have to watch entirety as everyone else has someone. I'm also reminded of Job's story about how God had an argument with the devil about who is the better believer. I always wonder what Job might have thought when he arrived before god only to learn he's the buttend of a joke? That must have been harsh to know your life was so meaningless.

@@Dan-di9jd i love the story of Job. Despite of the circumstances he went through from his wife, family possessions and to his friends, he remained faithful to God and in the end God blessed Job more and more. I see nothing bad what God did to Job for He is a Holy God and remember He is GOD and we are His creation which is very good creation of His. Think of Jesus the Son of God , how He was crucified just to save you if you believe. Who are we to deserve such love from God that in the form of Jesus died for you. We are important to God regardless if we are single. Use whatever your status to glorify the Lord. That is how we are made. As Matthew 6:33 says But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Jeremiah 29:11 KJV For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

I hear you brother.

You are not alone. People say trust in God yet I lost hope in him. It seems he forgot for people like us.

One day, you will have your light bulb moment. 41 single, no kids. I serve humanity by working at the airport. I meet people from all over the world. It's draining and hectic but I am good. You are more useful than you think 😊😊😊

@@jowaness 🙏🙏😊😊 god bless you

I'm sorry that your family is holding you to their own expectations regarding being married. If you think about it, it makes no sense that others would judge you on your life journey because of their own expectations. It's easy just to say, "it's your life, don't listen to them", but I know how hard that is in some family circumstances. If it helps, you have a supporter in me that focuses on gratitude...what you do have and what you do to make the world a better place...versus what you don't have. Remember, it's all about perspective and I'm positive you have a lot to offer. Sometimes life follows an unexpected path and it's just a matter of accepting that and then taking small steps to create/attract the things into your life that you want...like a healthy, fulfilling relationship. I'm glad that the show is helping...giving you hope...because, at the end of the day, you have to have hope in order to generate the energy to create the things in life that you want. If you want to take it a step further and chat with me, you can reach me at tony@javabud.com. I wish you all the best!

Thank you so much Dr.Dufrensne..

May Allah ☝️ bless you I'm reaching 38 in 3 months single happy alhamdulillah ☝️

@@samiuddinomer8154 Get a wife soon in order to be happy. A woman will give you kids and happiness.

Focus on imprpve your self, search on yt "Iman gadhzi" and "ryan holiday", also when you are alone you have so much freedom and peace, you want to go for a walk at 3am u can do it u want to put a video on max volume u can, seek Jeasus christ

Same boat minus the social problems. WIth me its mostly depression and anxiety. Also what I look for is so specific that its too hard to find I think. Best thing is repetition and becoming comfortable with rejection. Dont look at rejection as a negative thing but as gaining the knowledge that you need to try something or talk to somebody else.

@@Canadian_Eh_I Rejection is absolutely a negative thing. There's no way around that IMO.

@@kevin15776 you should find someone atleast get a child

@@restyrnabulya1527 why?

@@kevin15776 to give you company and you're child will always carry your blood line

Yes such a nice video. Sorry you are getting a divorce. Let's get to know each other if possible.

You sholud hope not to care about your society's opinions if you are happy .😉

Hy, i thing you should give it a chance, i am in search of a real nice man

Are you also fat, ugly, broke, emotional and boring? Get into self improvement, search on KZfaq "Iman gadzhi" and "ryan holiday" and fix your self dont live in the illusion that those basic stuff are enough cause there are men that have those plus much much more

Everyone will die and I’ll be handling it alone thanks so much

That's what i was thinking...r u still alone?

So do I... Being a woman makes it worse in some ways

That is high praise, my friend! Lou Reed is one of my favorites! Thanks for sharing and congrats on living in that state of bliss.

I am cursed also, no one like me

Women suck at dating, Sorry but not sorry. Especially on dating apps

@@Duckonthepond Alimony

It's easy to get hung up on generalization but truth is once you find your person, chances are it won't matter much what goes on elsewhere. I recommend trying not to generalize and instead focus on just that you're in a state of single and perhaps that might change but it doesn't have to.

Hi

I like your username

I'll help you out. Where is she?

“Just used me for sex”?? Bruh…that’s something women say

@@MarylandGuy-ey3st But how do you describe a situation where a girl out of town uses you for sexual fun, and then flakes on you when the summer is over and she has to go over to her place? Her place isn't that far and we could continue that.

@@colivri336 I think other bros are helping out. Don't worry.

The only thing I can do is try my best and meet many people. But sometimes it is so painful.. God..

How old are you man? I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend so imagine how I feel. Got rejected by 3 girls so far recently and 2 were from my college and another was by a 19 year old girl who matched with me on a dating app and she literally insulted me. I tried following some girls on Instagram who were shown as suggested profiles and I knew those girls in my high school days. One of the girl even followed me back and she is also 21 now so the same age as me. I knew her too in high school and we were in the same grade but weren't classmates. I didn't message her yet because I just don't know what to write to her because we never really interacted in high school as we weren't classmates.

@@manosijroy8282 I am almost 40 now... It is just so extremely difficult and complicated to get a girlfriend.. And to maintain a relationship......... Impossible! I also want to be myself and not change my whole life up to just fit the picture, I just want to make videogames and have lots of free-time. I don't want a 9 till 5 job and become a regular boring guy...

@@UltimoGames Thats scary that you are 40 and in the same boat as me. BTW did you read my comment fully?

@@manosijroy8282 Yeah you tried some but they didn't respond well..

Still sucks

It's the age old question: Would you rather love then lost or never loved at all? Honestly, I think, depending on the person, it could go either way. I do find it interesting that you framed your situation to where it didn't work for you (and you left him behind), which shows a healthy level of clarity and self-prioritization. It also brings up a HUGE point not many take into consideration...Love is a foundation in a relationship, but it alone cannot sustain one due to other life circumstances. This should give you a little solice in the fact that you made the right choice for yourself instead of staying in something that wouldn't have worked and not being fulfilled. Given your level of awareness and understanding, I would think a truly functional relationship with a lot of love is definitely in your near future.

If it were true love, it woiuldn't be over

I never really dated myself but found someone in my late 30s. I think its best to put yourself out there. I believe there is a soulmate for everyone out there but you just need to give it time for them to find you and you finding them. Sometimes its sooner but others a little later. Whatever it is just don't feel down about it. I mean the good news is you made it this far by yourself and you didn't need a partner to get here. So you're in much better shape than your married counterparts in that regard. They probably couldn't do what you did. And whenever you do meet your partner, you'll be so thankful that it doesn't matter what your ages are. Good luck to you!

@@Dan-di9jd thank you. That’s a great perspective 🌞

I agree with you that one's focus should always be to find your path and live your best version of life. However, finding a healthy, fulfilling relationship based on friendship and support can take your life to another level. The key is to not let a relationship push you off your path. In my case, I had a relationship during the middle part of trying to finish my PhD, and it was not great...it took my focus away from completing my goal because, instead of supporting, it turns out she felt like she had to compete with it and, well, it didn't last very long after that admission. Finding a good teammate is the KEY!

Yeah... Most girls are super boring and superficial and know nothing esp not about cool nerdness and tech geekiness. I can do without girlies.

You're looking at the wrong pool then. There are women interested in creative partners.

Same here I am 41 never been in a relationship. I don't know how did this happened, time go fast

I'm trying to do that now but it's really hard

Hello hope you don't mind sending me your email so we can know each other better as friend's I need relactionship that will lead to marriage

Lol same

Hello

I am sure you at least had a gf before unlike me who never even been on a date. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss. I got rejected by 4 girls recently and recently I asked out my childhood friend too who is 21 turning 22 soon and she actually replied yeah ok but she isn't that active on Instagram so she gives replies after weeks or even a month. We decided tho we will meet some weekend but still idk when exactly due to her being so inactive on insta. I got crush on 3 more girls for the past 5 days in a class where I started going for exam preparation for getting into MBA as I am graduating college very soon but I just have a massive crush on one of them who is also 22 or maybe 23. She initiated convo with me saying hi and telling her name and asking mine last week Thursday(our first class there) and we did shake hand and it was the first time I shake hand with a girl. I really can't stop thinking about this girl as she is very pretty and she is very sweet as she tries to initiate convo with me asking whether I had lunch and yesterday she also asked how far my home is from the classes but I just answer what she asks and I am too shy to initiate a convo further with her but I really wanna get to know her and idk whether it would be fine to message her on Whatsapp by seeing her number from our class whatsapp group. I also have been chatting with another girl who is 19 year old on Instagram for over a month. We both used to be in the same school but didn't know each other in school and now we are in different colleges but her college is very near to my home. We share about everything and send each other virtual hugs too. I wanna ask her out too but I am scared due to my previous rejections and she still seems to see me as a friend. Now I am confused too as I like this 19 year old girl, my childhood friend and also this new 22/23 year old on whom I newly got crush.

Nice of you to think of everyone else, but you really shouldn't worry. That won't be your problem. Personally, if I die alone and undiscovered for too long, the worst thing in my mind is the loss of viable donor tissues. But it really shouldn't bother me, it won't be my problem. 😂

Sorry man...I could have sworn I put it up. I haven't listened to the show in a while but I think you are referring to this one kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ot9jhLt3zdm6qJ8.html

@@TheConfidenceDoc holy sh... that was an insanely quick response! Thanks! :)

@@DukeJohnny Ha! You just caught me right as I was logging in to KZfaq

Keep dreaming old lady

Well, you sure sound like a nice guy & not judgement at all.

@@surfdreamer918 well maybe it is time I start being judgmental and giving them a taste of their own medicine. And you know what, I’ve tried being nice and everything and that’s gotten me nowhere.

If you're "being nice" because you want a reward for it, you're not actually being nice. If she's a stupid woman then it doesn't really makes sense getting offended at her not being attracted to you.

@@suzymoon2067 thank you for such a nice comment. I am tired of being single and a lone, but I am also tired of being judged and rejected just because I don’t meet up to some high standard or just for liking things that are not mainstream. I am tired of the rejection and the rude comments.

@@suzymoon2067 also I am sure you’ll find someone. 👍🏽🇨🇦

I appreciate the very nice comments. Unfortunately, I agree with you... lots of bad info out there. I think the coaches or influencers that create the most shock or cater the most to the lowest common denominator (alpha, power, bad boys, etc.) are the one's that get the most views which work the algorithms best to get even more exposure. There's no denying that the world of alpha and image and materialism and ego-driven nonsense exists and attracts people. But it's the person who can ground themselves in who they are, create a life around them based on gratitude, appreciation and helping others...those are the people who are the most fulfilled and, if single, attract others to their presence.

Looking for a partner for 50 years

Damn

You're right 👉

They can create something out of nothing! That's talent!

At this age is a good problem to have

@@hoodfellah Yeah life is a string of problems, it is a matter of choosing the problems that will make your life complete! :) 'I can't liiiivee, with or without youuuu'

I would rather have a 100 dimes then one sow

@@Timbermannetje That's a good song

What exactly are you saying.

Truth

It's hard to "man up" when women have ridiculous standards. Can't make them happy so why try?

I agree with this somewhat because I’m nearing 40 and a single man. Despite seeing and meeting other single women within my age range they are not interested in me despite me having a good job and otherwise good with everything else. This tells me that either women must be waiting for the right person or they are capable of being on their own and not interested in pairing. Either way I’m screwed at 40 and I feel most men have a better chance in their 20s.

@@Dan-di9jd screwed? Ok, that is a destructive outlook. If you have decent income like you stated, you’re healthy, and have potential to increase your income and assets, then 40 is still in the game. This applies anywhere, and especially in Asia, Middle East, Europe or Latin America.

Hey man dont let that get in the way of pursuing your happiness. Everybody has somethign about themselves that they consider a dealbreaker, believe me. There are women out there that dont care as much about height as you probably think.

How tall are you?

Are you still interested?

My experience has been there are a lot of women who are looking for a man that knows how to be a good father and a good teammate in a mixed parent household. I took almost seven years off after my marriage to figure out what I really wanted and at the same time raise my daughter...practically on my own. So, I think if you wanted to get back out there...if you're ready to...then you'll be a good catch, especially for women with kids themselves.

You could always be friends

Yes, women have too much power and influence these days. feminism is destroying relationships and family life. Girls should be in the kitchen at home, and men doing the work. I'm conservative and that's how I see things.

Notice how the comments is 99% men. LOL Men will always be in lower demand unless your top 5%er

@@Canadian_Eh_I Good that I'm gay

Hahaha not really... Sometimes it's the life revolving around

Exactly . Sorry you missed your chance and welcome to lonely for life

Change your perspevtive and it will change your life. You are special like others. Love yourself, give love and you will find love.

Damn man really at 46? I am a guy who turned 23 last month(on 22nd December) and never had a girlfriend before. I went on my first ever date 4 months ago at the age of 22. She was 19(turned 20 few days ago) and we went to the mall, ate in Mcdonalds there and got my first hug from a girl but still yet to get my first kiss and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she was cute. But 2 weeks after the date she became toxic and mean to me and blocked me on all social media. She basically used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her so she can post them on social media. I also have massive crush on this another girl for the past 6 months where I go for some classes to prepare for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college about 6 months ago and going to study MBA next. She also turned 23 just a few days ago. She has even called me cute several times and I pulled her cheeks too but I am shy near women in person so she is the one who initiates conversation with me. Few months ago I gave her a chocolate too but I often see her with her male friends so I get worried whether I have chance with her or not. 3 months ago, I went out with this another girl in the same class who is also 23 but so far we are just friends. We just roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant and I pulled her cheeks a bit too when we took selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. It was a fun day and we might go out again probably next month. I also have been following some girls on Instagram who are in the 21-25 age range from the same institute but different classrooms and messaged few of them and had been chatting with 2 or 3 of them who are also about 22 and 23 year olds. Since July 2023, I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who is 19(turning 20 in April). We were in the same school but didn't know each other in school days so we only have been knowing each other for 6 months. We also send each other virtual hugs and she is very sweet and we have many things in common like we are both foodies, like similar types of movies and many more and we plan to meet up to eat somewhere very soon too but in the end I am still single.

How you doin?​@missnati1995

​@manosijroy8😂282

Hey Tony change your mind set,start by loving yourself, there are nice people out there, give it a shot and see what the universe has to offer 🙏❤️