Signs of Struggle Love 1. Ignoring father/mother wound 2. Clashing Core Values 3. Lack of Respect 4. Unreasonable Jealousy 5. Emotionally Triggering 6. Intellectually Frustrated

Loneliness causes people to lower their standards. But, in the end, being alone is much better than being in a struggle love relationship.

This man literally just left my house 2 hours ago and based off of conversation alone, as I closed my door I said “I’m not signing up for this struggle love” no sir 🙅🏾‍♀️

If you ignore the fact that you need to get out of one of these situations you can end up in really bad health as your nervous system can’t handle it

Lost 8 years of my life in a struggle relationship 😪 💔 praying for restoration.

"To have a person physically present and emotionally disconnected is NOT an antidote for loneliness." -Pastor RC Blakes Jr

At this point I'm just focusing on self and The Most High God everything else can wait.

I'm emotionally drained been in this situation situationships for years. I'm ashamed to tell yall how long I've been living like this. I'm claiming my brighter days this will come to pass I know. Thank You Family.

In addition to this list, struggle love also represents, no car, no extra money, positioned to borrow or beg. And a down low (hidden) hater who admires your accomplishments as long as it all serves him, but otherwise he’s insecure because he’s reminded of that he didn’t achieve or does not have.

You can never get to old to learn something. I'm and old timer.

Amen 😄! It is a lie from the pit of hell that any relationship that leads to marriage is supposed to be a struggle to be worth it. We have been fed by songs and movies that promote this horrible way of thinking and it has to stop.

This is such a safe space to share something, i had a cush on a man and he was giving me the signs of interest , i have never gone to the fitness center on a monday but that day i decided to go and that man had a fiance all this time...when he saw me i could see the shock on his face and i was just floored , how can man do that when he has a beautifull girlfriend , i had a great workout walked out and said nope that is not a safe man. I have healed and know my worth now i can just move on and l have no respect for men like that as mean as that sounds. because of this man who has helped so many women he made me realize how valuable we truly are. The wandering eye of a man does not make me feel secure and i am so incredible happy it happened. We do go to the same gym and i can just see he is still watching me. I just wanted to share because the old me would've accepted that behaviour. The way i have grown so prouf of me!! ❤

Pastor Blakes, I'm actually embarrassed to say this,I was involved with this manhandled he used me until he didn't have any need for me any longer,my dad had told me ahead of time that he didn't like him,but I didn't listen to my father,how I wished that I had because I put his personal needs ahead of myown.(financially and sexually),It took me a long time to walk away now that I have ,I have decided to work on me and wait on the Lord to send that person to me,if the Lord feels that's what he wants for me...I'm not going to lie ànd say that I don't get lonely, one thing for sure I will never allow another man to use me for his own needs..Thank you very much for this Powerful sermon 🙏🙏

This is off topic but I wanted to share this- it's true about kings answering questions. I met a man, we're still getting to know each other but I remembered 2 lectures from Bishop R.C. 1. I ask this man a million questions. He always answers them w/o attitude. I even asked why he Never asks me anything. He said b/c you're already answering them everytime we speak. 2. Not to outpace a man. My instincts wanted to be the first to call, make plans etc. Then I remembered to dial it all the way back. It works well & he was pleasantly surprised that I truly have my own thing going on. I have been really trying to put these talks into action...

Growth is a big red flag..I'm older, but I still want to learn and grow❤

I'm presently waiting on God to bring my God sent compatible companion in my life. I'm learning so much from RC Blakes teaching. In my single season I've been working on me, studying how to be the good thing and a virtuous woman according to the word of God. I'm finally knowing my God given assignment living in my purpose as a minister of Christ to encourage, equip and empower single sisters to learn to love their first love which is God, to learn how to love themselves and then they will know how to recognize true love from a godly man when he shows up in their lives. My story of overcoming and still overcoming as a single lady need to be shared with other single sisters to let them know they can overcome too! Single sisters must be their best in Christ first. I want to be whole in Christ healed and Queen conscience before my king arrives! Rev. Rc Blakes lessons are helping me!

He’s right- I was broken when I left after 23yrs of marriage. Constant struggle,:it was

Pastor you are always in the knick of time with these sermons.

Come On Ladies! Let's QUIT SETTLING FOR LESS! (If He Doesn't Love You As CHRIST Love The Church ... I Wonder Would It Be Considered REAL LOVE At All) ? 🤔

I just ended a struggle relationship who I already knew wasn’t good. It was an unhealthy attachment that I thought I wanted this person, but my growth has made me to see pretty early on that this isn’t gonna work for me.

My soul says YES to your edification! Thank you and Lady Blakes for allowing God to use you for our healing. 🙏🏽

Pastor Blake’s, I was watching the “WTF Did I Marry” Series and I couldn’t help but think about this platform. The amount of wisdom that’s been coming from this place for free year after year has savers so many women from struggle. When I watched I specifically remembered the talk about moving too fast with men and rolling around in the bed before the woman knows who they are. Idk why but that entire story made me grateful for this learning seriously

I can attest that you go no where when you sign up for struggle love.

You just described my life. I am lonely but my husband is in the house with me. I am wrestling with the idea of divorce now.

I hit thumbs up before I even started listening!

That was me in a manipulating and narcissistic situation ship.

Friendly Reminder: Don’t forget to LIKE, SHARE, SUBSCRIBE ♥️👍🏽

I didn’t when I was young now I’m older and I see how cruel people are especially in our community

When you see that red flag for the first time, run that's it for me, i call that strike 1 that's it for me no strike 2 or 3 don't play with them demons 😂 I Love being Single😊

This was excellent teaching Bishop! I have not been in a relationship in over 20 years. I’m whole, happy, self sufficient and working on me, as I embrace my singleness, as well as spending quality time with God. I have been advising and counseling my nieces on this same teaching and praying that they not only listen, but realize they never have to settle for less than God’s very best for them. On a side note, Bishop you had me cracking up at you looking out for the lizards. 😂God’s blessings to you and Lady Lisa!!❤️🙏🏽

I need therapy, I have so much damage...

I was 42 and totally, completely ignorant of the flags. Unfortunately but now I know better. Thank God I'm still standing and will do better now.

Thank you for the book: Father Daughter Talk. I just read it although I am free and out of the pasture. My life would have been very different had I been blessed with such guidance. But I will say that God was with me and I am in a good place as a senior citizen.

I really like your teaching s. I am 73 and I see the mistakes I made. I was married to an obusive man twice. So now I am alone and enjoying my freedom.

Nowadays, men are looking for a come up versus working together 😢. The roles are starting to reverse. I'm not saying all men, but it's definitely slim pickens😅

I dealt with a Struggle Relationship for years I’m ashamed to say and I literally Struggled with myself to let go . I did ! And it was the best life decision I ever made that Truly Benefited Me , mentally, spiritually , emotionally and physically. ❤

THIS WAS ABSOLUTELY FULFILLING 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

3.Lack of Respect!!!

Bless you Bishop for your teachings...I had to divorce my ex husband due to his jealousy and controlling behaviour...It was hard and I wish I had find your teachings before I married him....

Definitely looking forward to this. Wish I knew this before I said I do. Actually I did but I was so broken that I said I do anyway. Only to end up in divorce 20 years later.

Glory to God this Lesson/Message is very Rich

Pastor Blakes, u hit it on the spot withme,yes I didn't want to be alone,so I allow a man of my past to fill my loneliness, even when I knew this man wasn't the right man for me..I just thank the Lord,that I was able to slowly get away from him..

Almost 800 of us in here where are the likes❤🧐

A lot of people grow up seeing adults suffering through marriages and relationships laughing it off but being miserable... indoctrinated curses

No struggling and fighting for anything because if they want to keep you they will.

Lol Bishop. Looking forward to this. I made this "costly" mistake too many times in the past. No more potential. Do you have a vision or not? And more importantly does it correlate with mine?

Pastor keeping a watchful eye on that iguana (all while dropping gems) tickles me! Lol! Thanks for all you and Lisa do for us. We appreciate you! God Bless You! 🥰🙏🏽💯🌊🤣🦎🏖

I think my father not ever being in my life is a huge part of why I can't let go of my long term struggle love relationship. Not having the love & safety of a male figure in my life has left me unable to break free from my up & down relationship. It's even harder bc he's financially well off so I feel safe financially but in turmoil emotionally.

Pastor RC Blakes, can't wait to be educated and inspired!

Man. I wish I had known better, sooner. I grew up embracing struggle love relationships. Most of it was due to watching my mom constantly struggle with my dad. I could have avoided all of my struggles in my 20s. But I have my 30s.

God is an on time God! Every single time I need a good word, our dear brother comes through! Alhamdulilah! ❤🤲🏽💫☝🏽

I AM DEFINITELY SAVING THIS TEACHING TO MY LIBRARY FOR SURE💯💯💯💯💯🖐🏾🖐🏾✋🏿

Hello family pray everyone is Blessed , safe and in good spirits.

I feel so sorry for Leah in the Bible it so sad and it’s is prevalent today

We are signing up because we've allowed it.We are holding on. I'm going to be traveling. Thanks for reminding me to look into places Pastor Blake's.❤❤❤

Thank you once again for a wonderful topic. I had said a prayer on this matter awhile back. God always delivers on time. Sometimes you know the answer but still need reassurance as you go through the healing process. We need to hear this type of Godly wisdom. Please continue because you are saving lives ❤

This channel is my comfort channel🤗 You never miss with these videos thank you pastor RC Blakes 🙏🏻

😄🤭 Ohhhh chile, i already know this gone be 🔥FIYAH😂😂😂 🫡 Salute Bishop Blakes!

"Over and over and over and over and over and over and over..." 💯😂😂😂

Amazing talk! I believe the susceptibility to these relationships starts in childhood. I’ve never been able to spot red flags or set boundaries. No more! Thank you for this wisdom.

💃🏾The intro song really needs to have a praise dance choreographed to go along with it. 😂Every time I hear it I want to break out in a dance. 🤣It needs to be some simple steps similar to the Cupid Shuffle.🥰

Disfunction & struggle love will never be my norm in Jesus name,Amen

All of this is hitting right at home

Amazing!❤❤❤This felt like my dad was having a really nurturing, but REAL conversation with me🥺Thank you🙏🏽

Much needed ‼️ I’m working on myself really hard because I just turned 30 and this new decade is so personal for me.

Watching from Chesapeake, VA

Can we get some marriage content from Ms Lisa and yourself ? I am with an amazing man and would love more videos for this stage in my life.

Being with someone whose kids are not yours. STRUGGLE LOVE. I've seen it with my step-sister dealing with my mom, and I've also dealt with it with my mom's husband toward me. Don't even entertain the thought. This would fall under #4 Unreasonable Jealousy!

Amen! I've learned so much over the years from Pastor Blakes. Most importantly I've learned to love and see myself the way God/Jesus loves and sees me. Before my mother passed away in 2021 she told me to work on my self-esteem. ❤

Wow, there’s no words to say thank you to church you pastor

Thats when i came to conclusion that would be a situationship not a relationship

Amen thank you Father God for your Steward and Your Word Tonight

I can’t wait!

Another One!!!! 👏🏽🙌🏽 Words can’t express enough gratitude for these amazing messages!!!💯 💯 💥 💥

Good morning Bishop Blakes looking forward to watching and listening to more of your Seeds of Wisdom from you. Notebook and writing materials in hand👀👂🏾📚📓📕✏🖋😃God bless you& have a blessed day😇

"Over and over and over and over..." lol you always make me laugh but it makes sense.🤣

Good morning from Johannesburg South Africa 🤗

I really appreciate your Word rooted lessons..Bishop Blakes..you speak the truth and how we as women should embrace our worth and to honor our position as God sees us..❤❤ I know my worth and I know who I am and Who's I am!!❤

Wonderful for both of you!! I haven’t heard such a heartwarming story in a very long time. I am looking forward to meeting a man of this caliber too. Stay concerned about each other and show real respect and love for life!!❤❤❤

So excited for this like a kid at Christmas! Praising the Lord Jesus for you, Pastor Blakes! ❤️✝️🕊❤️

I felt every one of these points. Guilty of overlooking the signs but so glad to be free from them.

Blessed night everyone ❤🙏 Greenville SC

Somebody needs to hear this!!

Omg! You just described my whole life with my recent ex husband. Thank you so much Dr. Blake ! God bless you ❤

This looks like a good one

Welcome back, we've truly missed you'll so very much.

Life is too short dont have time for the struggle love mess

I only just found out that Mrs Lisa is from Jamaica😊 as someone with Jamaican parents, that fact brought a smile to my face. This video was also incredibly helpful Bishop, thank you. I’m saying no to struggle love!🙏🏾

Thank you for this message. I feel I am at a turning point of changing my mindset and what I am attracted to . This is the perfect video to give a guide how to do that.

It’s not about having past trauma , it’s about being equally yoked with a person who is equally willing to overcome and face them.

I just heard right words at the right time. Thank you so much for your work RC. ☘️

This little beat will have an accompanying dance routine by the time it’s over… LOL! 😂🔥👌🏽

Pastor could you please make a video on recovering from a damaged reputation?

Hugging you with with my heart strings Sis Cynthia..god will see you through.

Thank you for being on time with this message truly ❤️ Thank you again, Pastor RC Blake's 🙏🏽 taking away from your vacation to bring such a valuable message. Enjoy your vacation with your beautiful wife first lady Lisa and may God continue to bless you both ❤❤❤

Bishop and Queen Lisa, enjoy your trip!

WONDERFUL MESSAGE PASTOR I GIVE THIS MESSAGE ❤❤❤❤❤❤ Many Blessings

Thank you Rev. Rc Blakes for your wisdom and time. Thank you for your heart to help encourage single sisters. Enjoy your vacation with your beautiful Queen wife Ms. Lisa! ❤❤❤

Thank you for this wonderful message.

Thank you! Great message.