I totally agree with you! Talking heavy shit on a first date...not cool. 😂

Classism exists but dont even get near the american racism, both come together. But served in different proportions depending on skin color.

Yes! Here I am married 15 years later 🤪 I think it depends on the person. Sometimes it’s can be overwhelming. Yet, maybe feeling a person out and maybe let it become a natural conversation. In my case I guess it was different? Being a single mom not messing around and laying out the cards. But if it were different circumstances I wouldn’t bring any of that up. This can also, form your opinion on this person before truly getting to know them before all the other things that matter to them ?! I don’t know…good conversation with audience 💗

When somebody brings up politics on a first date, they usually have an agenda and if I can't change the subject, the date is over.

It’s a tough year to avoid sensitive issues.

is this the surprise ?!

Classicism... reminds me a lot of Turks. Lol I agree, though. This is a great topic. I have talked about politics to a couple of Arabs in the past, both of them were Iraqi. One of them was Christian, so he had very biased views about Turks. You can probably imagine how much my blood boiled when he mentioned that rakı was invented by Greeks. The second one had two problems with him. The first issue was his internalised homophobia. He said that he could never "break his parents' hearts", and he would totally marry a woman if he could. (I never understood how that was possible for a bottom... ) The second issue was that he seemed very puzzled by my background, and that makes me highly uncomfortable when people see me that way. I know you've mentioned that you have similar experiences with being French and Turkish. I'm half Lebanese (so I spoke a little bit of French and Arabic while growing up before I stopped seeing my father in 2004), and I'm also part English because AnneAnne was half on her mom's side. And, my goodness, I was like a specimen to him. He wanted to know my shoe size, he said that I have a big nose (I never understood people's fascination with noses), and I think he also wondered a few other things that I can't remember. He also had his political views on our food. I was telling him about çoban salatası, for example, and he said that that's "just normal salad". So, those were probably the strangest and most political experiences I ever had on Grindr, but I, thankfully, never met them. The LGBTQIA++ world is very upside-down right now, unfortunately, so I understand how many people are feeling nowadays. The recent situation in Hungary is angering people, myself included. KZfaq proudly shows all those homophobic videos, but it deleted my comment when I said that their flag should be burnt. Meaning, it's a very difficult time right now to be queer, and especially for those of us who stand with Black Lives Matter. However, I do agree that, on a first date, things should be sweet and simple. This subject is too heavy for any date, rather. Stay well, canım! Hopefully the next date will be better. Öpüyorum!

Oh, I've been in a situation like this. It was a great date, in my opinion (the one that I had where political topics were brought up). I think I like being entertained by ideas moreso, though. This also seems to impact the kind of people that I wind up dating. The ones I've enjoyed seeing seemed to have more of a philosophical perspective on things. Though, perhaps I should also consider that there are different ways to date. Then again, I have friends who hate having these discussions altogether. I think as a general rule it's generally easier to speak about light topics, but it definitely doesn't ruin the date if both people are very "intense" individuals who like to talk about "heavy" things. So yeah, it just seems like you guys weren't necessarily approaching the first date in a similar way. Despite this, it seems like you had initial chemistry, so perhaps this is worth giving a second go. : )

At every first date, I don't care about the topics that much. I do prefer to have an 'all-cards-on-the-table' approach, though there is never an obligation to share everything; I just prefer it. The experience you had, did not happen to me. Perhaps because I have always noticed that my dates like to stay neutral in order not to offend me. I don't like it when they do that. I do like a juicy discussion, because then I get to know more about their personality and ideals; things which are hard to notice on a superficial front.

wasn’t a date but I chilled with this guy first time I met him just to get to know him better since we only talked on grindr and snap to that point...anyway he picked me up and he’s driving and he just starts venting about his parents and then goes on a political rant 😨 I didnt even disagree with what he was saying but it was saturday night and I just was lookin to have a chill night and smoke a lil, not engage in practically a therapy session with someone I barely know!

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I don't recall having been in such a situation, but I think it's a loud warning bell. Many/most of us today have strong political views--sadly--since what "middle" exists gets little coverage. But to bring up a topic like that with someone you just met is concerning. If he was trying to discern your concern about an issue very important to him, he should have waited and gotten to know you a bit better. Seems like a draw play to me. I'd be wary of him...if you see him again.

Damn you are so cute!! 🤩

Sob stories on a first date is a red flag. Dating is supposed to be fun not depressing lol.

I was going to ask you to start recording your dates so we can offer detailed feedback... but that wouldn't be appropriate... would it...? Of course not...? I mean ...! Have you watched Ripley yet?

Good evening Keven Could you please activate the translations. Thank you very much

I don't understand how people get these once and a life time opportunities to date somewhat kind and good looking and they just totally squander and fuck it up without hesitation. Why?!

Politics on a first date is just asking for trouble.Yikes!

Is there going to be a second date?

Imagine being on a date and seeing a guy who looks like you walking toward you!😛😛😛😛