I was an active army spouse and thats exactly what happened. Atleast thats one of the things that could happen.

Sometimes so called friends don't always have their friends best interests. They get off with trying to destroy families but if the friend is easily influence then he should not be married.

My ex husbands buddies would always tell him to divorce me til he actually did 👍

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You don't just marry a man you marry his friends. Approval of the pack means more to men than anything and they will make any sacrifice to maintain it.

BIG MISTAKE. He’s going to regret this. And she’s going to flourish and I hope not look back.

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@@jennifercate8996 Divorcing at 19? Nope, he will not regret it. He made her a favor though. They are just too young for marriage.

Amen! & congratulations!!!😇

Well I m 60 and it sucks more and more!

You married a child and expected him to act like a man? Young people need freedom and experiences. He did you a favor babes, hope you got to enjoy your 20s

@@patriciavandevelde5469dang, I'm sorry. :(

Or he wanted full ownership of her life while he was out being a player. Because the moment she moved on he would claim adultery on her end. My father attempted that shit with my mother. He refused to sign the papers for years out of controll tactics.

@@prussianbluephantom3968 I heard people in the military chest on their spouses with each other but I’m not trying to judge him

Yup exactly

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@@chaeun-woon8405 They do. It’s not uncommon for military to have a military bae in addition to a spouse and kids. Not everyone operates this way, but like I said it happens, and is common in this particular field.

Omg I’m sorry. That’s so sad

I'm sure it was all his fault

Young? Not even at 35 these days

Omg Sarah! I love your channel!! Thank you, you’re so right ✨

That is a good point. I met my ex husband when I was 19 years old, got married when I was 26 and he dumped me in 2018, just for my 49 birthday. Whe have two kids who are now 23 and 14 years old and we all three got hurt so much, I am still not over it. He is now 58 years old and has a baby with a woman he met at work, 14 years younger than HIM.

Not waiting until after you had children was a blessing. My kids were 8, 9, and 11 - all girls - when my husband of 14 1/2 years decided that the women he was picking up on-line were better than me and our family. My kids are now 29, 31, and 32 and these years have been tough as a single parent. (My girls are fabulous!) Sadly for my girls, when I got divorced, his family divorced the kids too. That was shocking! I had not seen that happening. He chose to pretty much chop the girls out of his life. Enough of my story! Even though you don't have any big negatives to regret about your relationship, that in itself leaves you with such a strange feeling. And he's out of the service now so that comradery he was missing with his military pals is no longer even an issue. It seems as though he was just too immature to be married to anyone. I do believe you have an amazing future ahead. You are obviously very busy living your life. You have a good head on your shoulders and a great work ethic. Congratulations on finalizing your divorce - especially as he made you run a marathon to do it. Do go for those funds he still owes you. Yup. I'm a bit vindictive. He wasted your time and you paid a lot in attorneys fees. Best of luck!

@@alicecain4851 oh that's awful that he disowned his children but can't believe his whole family did too 😮

A trick: watch movies on Flixzone. Me and my gf have been using it for watching lots of of movies these days.

My husband was emotionally done too. I’ve never seen anything like it. It blew my mind. We got no closure. I’m still confused. To this day.

Ugh I’m sorry you have to experience that😒 so many crappy men out there

I am so sorry you have no closure. That’s not fair. I pray you get closure sometime soon so you can move on.

Something I learned from therapy years ago that may be able to help you move on and get closure is to write an “open letter” to him, where you write out all your feelings. And it’s up to you if you want to send it, through Facebook, email, etc., or just keep/trash it. I remembered this tip for years and I ended up doing it through my recent break-up, and it helped me sooo much. I hope you get closure

We need to stop settling for these broken men ...the red flags been there but we choose to ignore them ... I promise things will get better but you gotta heal from this . Don’t worry about them . Guaranteed you it won’t last anyways ...men like this continue the cycle until no one wants them anymore trust

That’s called he didn’t want to pay that $500 to file I hope you got that money back for the second time you filled

That's what I was thinking. What a fucking scumbag

He wanted to keep getting that extra money from the military.

Divorces cost money AND hed get a pay cut from the military once he was single again. Its all about money, thats why these military people get married asap

This

Young boys haha. A 21 year old “man” has the maturity of a 16 year old boy.

You get way more pay in the army when u are married.

Good advice about keeping records, you need those things when you try to retire.

That's what I dont get!! Like you wanted this, finalize it....

He probably wanted the extra military pay guys, my husband gets alot more money being married to me now. This is so sad 😭

@@Jewls1000 then he shouldn't have initiated divorce.....

He wanted to break up but realized he'd get a big pay cut for being single. Happens with every military relationship.

@@madi5286 its still on him. Not her problem.

I met my now fiancé when I was 28 and he was 32, he was already in the Air Force reserves. I definitely don’t think we would have worked out if we met when we were younger. I think maturity definitely helps.

@@catieq5270 The kind of people that are attracted to the military are the kind of folks who like to sow their wild oats so to speak. Which is completely fine in and of itself. But then the government gives them all sorts of incentives to get married. So they end up trying to force relationships that never should have happened. Seen it many times.

@@Laura-tv2dx I totally understand that and have seen people in the military solely get married for my money. By the time we get married next year, we will have been together for 4.5 years. Some people aren’t motivated by money but love instead.

I met my now husband I was 18 he was 22, he’s in the army, we’ve been together going on 13 yrs. they aren’t all bad. We grew together

I met a 39 year old vet and he was still a mess.

Yes, ma'am! Yes ma'am! My husband's first marriage didn't last 2 weeks and then all his friends started getting married so he felt left out so we married and he was in for 6 years.

Sad. A Present from God that was disgraced by little boys wanting to play men. Marriage is a big deal. If they want to go out and sow your wild oats that’s up to them but do not marry until you’re ready. Why is that so hard for ppl ?? Especially men. It’s not that hard. Don’t marry someone when you’re not ready. Geez

How are you doing now?

I pray that you’re doing better now , pls let us know how you’re doing 🙏🏻❤️

Hope all is well with you 🫶🏽

How are you now?

Don’t say for sure if you don’t know for sure. You forget men can’t get laid that easily always. Especially by strippers without costing. He’s around men the rest of the time. I highly doubt he got laid.

Absolutely. He better have been giving her the extra Money. I would handle this. I would make sure I got what I DESERVED. what an asshat. I can’t. I’m just a little more than half way thru so I haven’t even heard the part about signing the papers

EXACTLY. Essentially confirmed by him avoiding payment (16:18)

That is some great advice. Too many people rush into dating and carry all the pain and anger with them.

Repent , Jesus Christ is coming back Repent. .

Ugh I’m sorry!!! Best of luck

Doesn't sound too great, hun. You deserve BETTER!

Seriously? married at 19?

@@raquelortega2383 It happens all the time in the military

@@raquelortega2383 I got married at 18. I’ve been married for almost 4 years. And it was the best thing for me. Just because someone is young, doesn’t mean they don’t know what they’re doing.

Exactly there is a difference between age and maturity life teaches you maturity not your age. Theres still 60 year old women that dont act grown people

@@peacerocks77 Good! I wish you nothing but the best. Unfortunately,...48 percent of those who marry the age of 18 are likely to divorce within 10 years.

My thoughts exactly. He had someone else as his distraction and that's why he was emotionally unavailable OR there wasn't anyone special or specific and he was just being a player. Like he said, "I can't cuz I'm married" he wanted to be unattached like his buddies 😒. Hes an idiot

You assume he cheated. You are disgusting 🤮

@@The-realnews why is that disgusting? I thought many thing and definitely one of them was that he cheated. If she was 19 then that means he was 21 and was with her since he was 19. He was a 21 year old guy, away from his wife, never experienced much dating at age I bet, and he might have wanted to have his youth and have fun. I think that is a pretty good assumption. Do I think it's wrong if he did..no!! She even said they didn't have a toxic relationship and maybe he realized he didn't want to be married and continue to hurt her. This is why I think people should wait a little longer to get married. Like she said it was a shit show trying to get divorced and I'm sure she spent alot of money for lawyer fees and everything else. I think they were both young kids and being away from each other was hard on both of them and yes I feel so horrible for her that this happened but I don't think it's disgusting to think that he might have cheated or atleast wanted too

@@lauralentini7296 cheats is overrated nobody want to be stuck with one pussy . Man have options can exercise it anytime

Agree. He took his phone with him when he showered. Red flag, he guilty about something

Aw I’m sorry!!!

The Human brain isn't fully developed until the age of 25. I agree with your comment completely.

Wewe student wa Zulu

@@mweusimrembo890 hehehe hizo ni principles zinajulikana, Zulu amehappen kuhave platform yenye ni poa kwa watu hawajuwi.

Agree as long as "develop yourself" doesn't mean sleep around as much as you can, which it most often then not mean.

Agree! I could never imagine being married at 19. That's too much responsibility to take up.

I don't know as you accept me

Yeah that sounds so toxic. If he’s the right man- it would so not matter if he was drunk or around other women or in a bar- he’d remain loyal no matter where he is. Going to bars with friends is a way of socializing.

Bars are not just for socializing.. it’s a bunch of drunk people making bad decisions and hitting on each other. Also you make bad decisions when drunk. They can go anywhere to hangout with friends that respects your relationship.

@PeriodicalAdventures I don’t agree at all. The bars in buffalo don’t even have a place to sit. Theres better environments to be in to hangout with friends and make better decisions.

@PeriodicalAdventures and btw I grew up in a small country town.. don’t assume things. I know how “country” men are. Don’t judge other women because they don’t support bar scenes. I don’t want my man in those environments. To each their own.

i’m sorry that your man is so weak he can’t drink, go to bars, or happen to be alone with a woman or else he might cheat. 😭 my boyfriend could do all of that and not even be slightly tempted. why be with a man who is basically on the verge of cheating as soon as he gets alcohol in him or has the opportunity?

I was thinking I wouldn’t have driven three hours to pick him up. You tell me you want a fucking divorce three months into our marriage, while you’re out of the country, ON FACETIME. Excuse my language, but FUCK YOU. Go kick rocks. Get someone else to pick you up three hours drom home or get an Uber. The nerve. Your idea is better though because then he wouldn’t have had time to plan a ride hahah. I do understand what she meant and what she was thinking when she thought if she was the first person he saw or the moment he saw her his mind would instantly change - but usually when a mans “done”, he’s done I would say. I really believe he was with her for so long and hadn’t experienced much time as a single guy, and just wanted to sleep around or do whatever he wants and when he wants. We all know dating is a pain in the ass and the rarely is greener on the other Side. I guarantee he will live out his life with a lot of regret

Not to stereotype but someknes gotta say it: marines are violent as fuck. Something about the culture attracts and generate violent men. So happy you are free now. Good luck with your healing ❤️

I’m sorry that happened to you but I’m happy you’re doing better without him! Thank you 💖

This is so common with military men. My brother's childhood friend joined the air force at 19, met a beautiful and sweet girl and they dated for a few years and got engaged. I was super happy for them, especially because I really liked her. He got her a very expensive ring and seemed absolutely in love and then he ended up having to to another state for several months to train for a new position and during that time he met a girl he was training with and decided to leave his fiancee for her. I was very shocked because I met the girl soon after and she was really unattractive and had a very unfriendly personality. I have only ever seen her and him one other time since so it's been over a decade since and they are still together but the last time my brother heard from him a few years ago, he said she was having affairs to get promotions.

Aw I’m sorry girl!!

With time you will feel better 🤗🤗🤗

Does it really? So a child in Yemen now is starving for what reason? Or did this rule only apply to us privileged non- starving people in the West?

yes you can marriage is a big commitment. if he didnt want to get married he shouldn't have. she said we should break up or get married which was weird. hopefully their parents talked to them before they got married

Thank you, I’m sorry you also had to go through something like this! My support system is amazing💖

Thanks girl!! That means a lot!

I’m the same way. That stuff bothers me like crazy

It’s triggering for a lot women because it further reinforces the sad fact that a lot of women feel like all they do is cook, clean, and raise children while the man pays the bills and lives a regular, fun life. Like he has a life outside of the family and the women typically does not, especially in military.

I understand your feelings for sure. It’s 100% cheating.

@@bethoney96 where are these married men with lives? I haven’t met any. Just work so the wife parties it away

@@willnill7946 okay that’s your experience. I don’t know your friends. What I do know is I see allll my friends with kids taking care of them all the while the dad can leave whenever he wants to go do whatever. Mom can’t leave and get drunk because they have the baby. Mom has to put the baby to bed so she can’t hangout with friends when we’re over. I think you’re playing the “not all men” card without saying it and there’s no need for that.

Aw thank you so much!!☺️

I disagree with the whole blaming the age thing. Yes it didn’t work out in this situation but doesn’t mean that’s just the age issue. I got married at 19 and have been married for 12 and have three kids together. Marriage is freaking hard work but worth it if both people are willing to work at it.

Girl I feel you. You’re not alone. I understand how that feels

That pretty much sums up my experience as well. Its been over a year and found someone so much better when I thought id never be able to. As my friends told me during that time. The trash just took itself out.

💖💖thank you!!

Thank you 💖

I really am! Thank you 💖

That's facts, it's really unfortunate.

Thank you❣️

Thank you💖

Thanks, Brandi 😊

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Thank you, Bailey! 💖

Hello my lady!!!

Thank youuuu🤩