I can relate because I'm autistic and I have trouble socializing with others as well.

This interview really helped me as autistic black woman too

Thanks for making this video.

💙💙

Yessss! I would love to be Jasmine and Kasmir’s friend!

They are all great. But i am listening to it and thinking without realizing she is doing the same thing to others that she gets affected by. But she is being blunt about it and others are being snide and underhanded. There is something great about polite honesty. Choice of wordings. Oh and remembering everyone has different likes and opinions.

i was laughing when she was roasting him and herself idk why 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@@Areyousayingidontknowmyname Great observation. The difference is definitely intent. Jasmine will say that stuff with no intention to cause harm or hurt, but is 100% blunt and honest about it. Other might subtly insinuate that stuff, but the intention is to cause harm or make fun of someone at their expense. However, because the second style is more common and "understood" by neurotypicals, when an autistic person is just being honest because someone asked a question, their bluntness can be seen as being extra rude or hurtful, because most people will assume it was meant to be hurtful, but most people say hurtful things with more subtlety and ambiguity.

@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 Thats society for you tho, since it molded around nts mostly and narressists. NTs like/accept white lies and bullying, but cant stand genuine caring honesty.

She’s definitely beautiful and so humble. That’s why I think the world has autistic beautiful people to show us that their are people that are still honest in this crazy mixed up world. Oh by the way I have a handsome great-nephew that is a very high functioning autistic beautiful soul. Very smart at 14 years old.

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Fr shes such a mood😂❤️

also its sending me her equating movement she describes or immediately comes to mind when thinking of her husband.

Hilarious 😂!

She shouldn't worry too much, I don't understand twerking either.

When he said other people are missing out on her (when she masks in public) it brought tears to my eyes 😭 so sweet

idk did you see the way he looks at her? Like a shark with blood in the water.... lol!

Explain that please ​@@prettypunk123

Yes, and he loves her and their kids, and he is good Dad and Husband, this gives a lot of hope to all

My son stop stimming and covering ears in 10 days, he still overcoming symptoms but he's 60 percent improved in speech and social skills with help of Dr Oyalo herbal supplements

This is very refreshing. I have a daughter that’s about to be 8 and is autistic. I often worry about her being bullied and her future.

​@Agrubbs100 Nothing to be worried about. She will find her place. Only thing you need to worry about as a mom is loving them and soothe them.❤ Every child goes through it at times. I was bullied for most of my life, it was hard but i got through it with the help of my mama❤

I’m confused on what autism is because she seems normal and your comment doesn’t sound like something an autistic person would type

@Eugene-tq2kr You might be used to understanding autism in a way where they are not very functional. This is someone who is a more functioning autism. I'm personally used to highly intelligent autism. Autism is not always as obvious as we would like to believe. It can be. In this case, her autism has more to do with social cues and social interaction. Interviews are easy cause there is a set question, and you will have an answer. But at a party, she might be too stimulated to think clearly about how to approach or speak to anyone. We might feel nervous naturally but someone like her might feel totally stuck. "Deer in the headlights" behavior.

​@@Eugene-tq2kr autism is a spectrum, symptoms are different for everyone and not everyone with autism behaves the same way or has a similar experience

Her husband takes it well. He's a real good guy with her

you love her because she "goes in" on her husband? What has her husband done to you? Or do you have a problem with men in general?

@@IkesPimpHand I dont think that's what they meant

@@lornaanderson1459 what did she mean then?

@@IkesPimpHand it’s called a joke

You'll get there, Brother!

As a young teen girl it inspires me too!!(Im a undiagnosed autistic person) ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@@ilikemuffins7170 I’m just wondering what makes you think you’re autistic if you’re not diagnosed?

dont be a breeder

You will my friend. You will. It gives me hope too for my sons who have ADHD and learning disabilities. Good luck.

She reminds me of a good friend

I wish a vast majority of people understood this

Yes we could learn a lot from herer

I found the little bit she shared interesting.

I would love that. Her personality is so awesome

The baby girl is so freaking cute, she got her daddy personality and the boy got moma's.

❤️ they're so in love :)

Loved her references and “… what is that thing and why is it twerking”😂😂😂😂

Noticed that right away...right off the bat! I like her glasses and the way she does her eye makeup....I think it showcases her personality!

She’s very pretty 😊

I don't recall hearing how they met or what they thought of each other upon first meeting. Maybe I have to listen to the video again, however, I wish they talked about that.

Yeah he's a cool dude. He seems like he has a lot of patience. I think this family puts a smile on God's face for sure.

Yea he’s amazing. Seriously. Blessed with patience and understanding. They are absolutely perfect together. I love it.

We aren't talking as much about him because he wasn't the central feature of the video. Nor was her sister or her kids. But they can all be awesome nonetheless! It's just that there was way more footage from Jasmine and talking about how everything related to her.

@@mahna_mahna I get that he wasn't the central figure. Just trying to show him some love. Doesn't mean Jasmine and her sister aren't amazing in their own way.

Agree

These are the things I think of and I would never tell my friend to consider. She mentioned it once and I didn't know what to say because she sounded frustrated. But she has achieved much on her own.

Same, the second my mom said "I need to finally admit I'm ADHD and so are you" I had a whole realization of my life and past experiences. I looked at everything different from that point on but in a good way.

I have so much admiration for you, people like you allow my son to be who he is! Thank you goddess

He's just submissive.

He didn't come off as submissive to me at all.

Yeah but what does that even mean lmfao

@@keridesireeGerBaldi That means she's great.

@@user-jx9lz3tl3q yeah couldve just said that maybe instead.

@@keridesireeGerBaldi it's a meme my guy

@@thingl7859 o, nice

I can't always tell when people are being sarcastic and I have no sense of humour but people say I'm funny. I suppose I have some use afterall

I was thinking the same too! Idk what my exact conditions are, I am awsre enough to say something isn't working though, and I could definitely watch someone relaying their history readings for hours. It could be a good outlet and introduce more online friendships at least... There's bullying in being an online presence too, I'm afraid... But that's another can of worms lol

Yessssss!!!! 😍✨ I would be a dedicated listener

That would probably be a great outlet for her.

The silence after she said that was so loud

whether or not this is the same woman from your past, this story was awesome to read, and your icon made my day! lol

Awesome I hope jasmine sees this ❤

OMG you named my 3 things I hyperfocus on. Any sci-if that deals with existence or deeply philosophical concepts

And how about when he was gaslighting her experiences and calling her too sensitive? SHE was the graceful one and stayed with someone who wouldn't understand her. She gave HIM a chance. Who was being understanding then?

@@kdelka81 simply saying someone is too sensitive isn't gaslighting, coz some of us are. it's gaslighting when there's intention to manipulate which I don't believe he has, he seems caring and loving towards her even when she _as many autistic people_ tend to sometimes blow things out of proportion.

@@kdelka81 I wonder if they weren't a mixed couple, you'd still have the same hostility. 🤔

@@Nnusa90 There's the problem. Your definition of gaslighting is wrong. She was telling her truth, he was saying, no, you're wrong to be sensitive about this. She wasn't wrong but someone was trying to make her believe she was. I'm not judging him. I'm being empathetic to her situation and think, what a great woman for giving him a chance to learn a s understand and grow together.

@@sleepyote If you aren't black, you have some real deep seeded issues to examine why you would assume negatively in association with a black woman, and worse put it out there in public. Black trauma isn't a weapon for your youtube warrior comment arsenal.

Yes! Very articulate! I want to read a dictionary now 😂

Those with autism tend to have to be, it's a skill they are forced to learn to circumvent the constant misunderstandings the condition puts them in socially.

@@adaharrisonn true

I’d loved to hear her history stories and I am sure I am not alone. Perhaps she can start a youtube channel. It will be a space to share her stories and what she knows.

@@gretchenmorris9241 I agree😊

FR !!!

Black people need to stop 🙄

Jesus christ shut up

Absolutely 💯

Unfortunately, this is very true.

Right 😭😭

She would be offended by calling her funny because she said she's always the butt of the joke. She doesn't want to be funny in that way, she wants to be normal and taken more seriously. If you watched the whole video, you'd understand. So please delete your comment. She hasn't said or done anything funny throughout the video. Nothing was funny. She was serious the whole time.

​@@Face_Reality I feel that Nomi was referring to like, charisma.

Derp

Yes autistic people are the funniest people. My sister has autism and she makes me cry I laugh so hard sometimes.

I SO agree!

I would love to be your friend

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@@opaquely woah aren't you a ray of sunshine.

How does it feel seeing how you act in someone else?

@@opaquely racist

Nbsss she got that south jersey voice and sounds southern 😂

I think its a Baltimore accent

Sounds like Philly to me

Yeah def Philly

@@oliveranderson7264 do you know where maryland is? lmao

I’m 65 and I think my 36-year-old is on the autistic spectrum. I never thought about that before till a couple years ago. he lives with me because I’m disabled and my husband died and he’s almost deaf from the army. He does work and has veterans disability but I wish I would’ve known about 36 years ago. Things would’ve been different though they’re not bad. I understand.

honestly, I would watch her history channel! from romulus to romulus!

@@JKnight1316Romulus to Romulus is a solid KZfaq Channel name too tbh.

I agree she should have her own channel. Like a day to day coping channel. I could see how so many people could learn and benefit from it.

Gosh!! I would so subscribe!

So well spoken Not to mention.. I could listen to her SISTER for days. Such a **commanding** presence 💕 love these ladies (thus, I’m certain… I LOVE their mama too 💕)

It's the opposite for me (I'm not autistic btw but im just telling cuz why not Iol) I over share and explain WAYYY too much because I have difficulty knowing when to stop sharing if im really excited about a topic, or worrying that the person I'm talking to thinks im making stuff up. I also over explain because of just pure excitement and being comfortable around a person im speaking to. It's never bothered anyone I hope, except my mom a bit. She asks why I explain things in such detail even when she says she knew what I was talking about. Sometimes I just can't explain why I do that.

@@pigenn Maybe you just love to talk very much :D

@@VvarezZ well, sometimes. I usually keep to myself unless I'm around people I'm comfortable with. Which is rare lol

Some of us overexplain, usually as a result of being misunderstood through our entire lives

It's not all autistics people that don't elaborate and it's also dependent of context and excitation a lot! But autistic are generally very honest people, and sometimes too blunt, but it's not for beeing mean at all. They don't like hurting others, they're just don't quite understand or see social cues and are easily overwhelming by the environment and emotions. And like she said, everyone is so different, they're only some tendency. The spectrum is very large and autism is independent from the personality ! The 5 sens are affected, but very differently for each autistic. That made the perception and behavior sooooo different. And one can be very different depending to the time : Sometimes they doesn't speak, or too little, other times speak very well, or too much. And some speak so well, they seems too arrogant to others because of that. They can mask or not, be shy, extraverti, isolated in their own world or excited to show something to everyone... and often, others person only know one part if they don't live together. A lot grew up with problems of bullying, so a lot of anxiety is build up, they learn how to mask a lot by fear of rejection and isolated themselves cause it's too exhausting to mask and to fear beeing rejected all the time.

Ikr! I’d honestly love talking to her and her sister!

Yeah,I honestly don’t see her really being like she hates anyone,she may seem that way but the more as it was said,You pick up how she is & for who don’t see her as the greatest doesn’t understand that,even anyone else even others different can be Straightforward 😄

Same

Considering taking a history course at a local college Iam sure some people in the class will be on the spectrum and be as into if not more into history than yourself.

I couldn’t get this exact thought out of my head

That's what I was thinking!

@Nova Vega right? I think she'd make it very entertaining with her explanations and thoughts. Because she's so lively.

*Bump*. Pass this along special books!!

Same!! She would be a great teacher. Online would be great for her bc she wouldn’t have a crazy loud classroom in person

I dont care for history usually, hut there's a few streams that I really enjoy. I think Jasmin would be amazing at it!

I was dying lmaoooo

She should be teaching or tutoring this stuff!

i had to rewind this part it was hilarious

@@FeyIndigoWolf a history youtube channel for sure❣️

@@bridgetquinones totally!

alot of times the people with so called disabilities are more interesting to converse with and easier to get along with than the so called normal people .

How High?

same! i like her voice a lot too, her long vowels are lovely

It's not uncommon for autistics to learn to be so hyper-vigilant. I have a few autistic friends who are empaths and super perceptive of minute social cues and changes, including my sister. Me on the other hand, I'm pretty oblivious but it makes me look more social because I don't get so anxious about some of those details and presume everyone is a friend in the first instance. It's funny how them being able to read social cues more sometimes makes them less socially successful than the ones who can't read them. Just goes to show how complex communicating with NT people is.

I’m like this. It was a painful learning process but once I got it down people start telling me “You are so easy to talk to.” It made me feel amazing! I learned people simply want someone to hear them and because I have no preconceived notions of what is normal, they feel like they can tell me anything. I still have moments where I say something unusual or inappropriate in public situations and realize it by other peoples reactions. This used to cause me so much discomfort but now it’s okay, another learning experience. I also ask people now “Would you like to stop talking to me? I have a difficult time gauging when someone doesn’t want to talk to me. It’s absolutely fine if you would like to go do something else now.” It makes people laugh, sometimes nervously, but it’s the best way for me to be sensitive to other people’s needs.

@@qwandaryAnd when those highly sensitive and highly empathetic individuals who learned those skills as a survival method are emotionally abused then the potential for developing personality disorders is immense. BPD + autism is not a good time

@@SobrietyandSolace Oh absolutely, a lot of the ones with stronger social skills have BPD too, and it's absolutely a result of being perceptive enough to pick up on how they were being bullied, and then being abused further for being aware. If they don't have BPD they often have severe anxiety... :(

I honestly feel like a very confident and open individual could easily be friends with an autistic person. I don't mind being told a truth that I didn't wanna hear 😅 it's OK that you don't like my clothes or that I talk too much.

yes this part

Yes yes

And black women are horribly misdiagnosed and overlooked in the medical industry as well

@hyperflyer you should look up the statistics for it, and women in general (but especially black women) even something like endometriosis took a black nurse like 4 years to be diagnosed with because of the lack of research for women in general

@hyperflyer because Black women are assumed to be aggressive, defensive and angry and a threat. Black women's skin is weaponized and criminalized at a very young age. Black women are also adultified by society as children. Institutional and systemic racism profiles Black women and is the cause for these biases. It causes unfair biases and assumptions to be made about Black women.

I have obsessive-compulsive disorder; we'd make a great triumvirate.

I thought the same thing!

Me too, she's amazing!😍

I don’t see why anyone wouldn’t wanna be her friend either .. lol I have an autistic friend, and it’s levels to it. But he’s like the male version of her. And literally one of thee most loyalist people I’ve ever known.

I thought the same. I’d love to be her friend and talk books and learn about history.

Same!

🤣🤣👌🏾

😂😂😂

Lool i laughed at that too

If history was taught that way people would pay attention!

I was thinking she'd be a popular history professor.

Very interesting

What are the signs?

Wow very interesting indeed!

Absolutely!!! I was diagnosed after watching my son and the lining up of box juices at the age of two...lol

How does this affect your relationship with your child? Does it bring you two closer together by both of you having the experience of being neurodivergent or does this make communication even harder?

❤️❤️❤️

I am wishing for all good things to come your way 😊❤️

yesss. this is why representation is important!!💕

Every good person is afraid of failing as a parent whether autistic or not, so welcome to the club.

@@PetroleumJellyJuggernaut There isn't a lot of black autistic representation in the media or on social platforms. I think that's why she said that.

Fr when they have those little moments together where she giggles 🥲 they’re so cute !!

​@@steph.uhkneeshe found someone who understands her like everyone needs to 💯

Thing is it can be dangerous, but I actually have autism and Social anxiety. I always sat alone at school lol But I always smiled 😁

They look like two normal functioning adults

@@minnathemartian5513 Same with smiling all the time. Still that way. Don't stop smiling... it's contagious! 💕

I agree 100%. I don't believe she's Autistic tho.

Same ☹ Im the same way but I feel like I'm autistic as well because I catch onto things slowly and not as quick as my peers

Woman with autism are way more likely to get sexually aussulted. Maybe this is one of the reasons

Can confirm, very much so lol.

Yeah and she is a WOC so it’s rare for women and people of color to express their neurodivergent obstacles, stories and other attentions.

yeah I'm autistic and I am naturally quite "flirty" when I'm comfortable with people cause I like to tease and make a lot of jokes and compliment them etc, can be hard when people assume I'm into them and they take it personally because I seemed to be having a good time and suddenly change my mind (in their view), but if I'm actually flirting I'm more likely to be quiet and shy lol

lol I was literally raped after writing this because I didnt read the situation correctly...well

I burst out laughing so hard at that! Especially when she said that Mark Anthony was the obvious choice! I'm also autistic and seeing that level of genuine passion for history in a context like this being represented just tickled me. I can relate a lot. Nobody wants to hear random info dumps of historical events followed by passionate hot takes on the outcomes. Thank god for podcasts and equally obsessed friends.

I never new there were so many passionate history nerds (a term I use with love, including for myself)! My son's special interests are computer programming and birds. I love talking about both with him, and would love talking history with people who are passionate about it. I'm neurotypical (I mean, whatever that really is - it's just a word that mostly means my brain is tuned for social cues and my level of energy is considered "appropriate") but love going in depth on a lot of subjects. But I'll never has as deep a knowledge of someone who is spending the kind of time Jasmine talks about every single day on it. I'd love to hear those info dumps and passionate hot takes!

@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 Im not autistic, I found it funny as well. She is extremely interesting, and her way of describing things is very articulate

I felt that statement. I understood why that was frustrating.

Oh she knows. Humor by autistic people tends to be of the deadpan sort.

I was thinking the same thing . I don’t have many close friends and none who live near me. She seems like an easy person to get along with and someone you actually want to be around .

exactlyy!! i would love a friend and honest and as beautiful inside&out as her

Same here!! She has such a wonderful personality and I would loove to listen to her story more!!

She’s so empowering and beautiful I love her

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It is nice to find. I am lucky. (I also have Autism and my boyfriend has ADHD).

there's somebody for everybody

You will 🙂

You will! Trust that. ❤️❤️

It’s a reality though I’ve felt this way my whole life and people are shocked when I say I only have 5 friends and that’s as a adult as a kid I had 1 then 2 by middle school

Lol

@@Smoreno86 currently as an adult I have zero friends, my boyfriends are always my only true friends sadly

Yes, go away. Far away possibly.

Right BFF

My sentiments exactly. I honestly just became so emotional watching this and tearing up because I realized how much of this is similar to my behavior and it just feels so comforting to know that you're not alone. 🥲

I'm dealing with all of this as a black woman. Glad to know I'm not alone

I have a autistics son and he seems a lot.

As a black woman who suspects I have autism, what you say rings so true to me. I'm also glad Jasmine shared her story.

Supporting all of you and the fight towards equal health care 💚

Same :(

I agree :)

Try to find her n become cyber friends!

Yes find her! Message her about history 💚

Girl, me too!!

they saved you from death bud, let's be honest here mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on this planet I wish people could all realize. they can solve a lot of problems, more than mental treatments.

yes, that's right, I researched and found out that shrooms are helpful in many ways but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source I can reach out to

Yeah, but I'm pretty sure of Sporeville he's an intelligent mycologist.

they've helped me a lot as well I'm a war vet diagnosed with PTSD. A lot of issues spun out of control when I came home. This is something i looked up and tried after trying the roller coaster of antidepressants. Day and night difference

How do I reach out to him? Is he on Instagram

I feel that way I was diagnosed at 30.

Omg right!!

She looks well put together

I swear us autistic people have the best sense of style tbh

@@nixienooo A lot of them don't care about style at all, but the ones who do usually do a very good job. I think because they tend to be very detail oriented and organized, so they can pick up on patterns or styles that go well together, and they also tend to have unique tastes, which makes them interesting and original.

She is everything.

@@nixienooo Huh?

Actually, I think he is lucky to have Jasmine too ;)

No we can't.

@@smurfcat2002 *Oh Yes We Can!*

well he's great, but you probably shouldn't be so surprise that he's great. Jasmine is great the same way, you see?

I know the way he looks at her 🥺

That’s pretty cool. Have you written any work on it or engage publicly?

Any tips for making an OCD and Autistic relationship work?

We are all uniquely made! I’m sure you are awesome as well!

@@scarletm6958 we make constant fun of each other. I leave light switches half up and my husband looks directly at me while speaking in wildly modulating pitch of voice, so I'm confused and he's stressed out.

@@iamaku09 nope

I know... I really really liked her!!!

@@brookshw12 saaaaame. She’s a SPARK. We need more spark on this planet. ⚡️

Agreed! I really like her too 💜

Unfortunately, someone is giving people these labels just to make fame and money.

love her speaking voice.

Honesty is cool. But be diplomatic.

Facts !!!!

Absolutely. When people are perceptive of how jokes can hurt others who are super literal or take it to heart, it only helps everyone involved to realize and adjust accordingly. Kindness costs $0 and and when adhd and autistic and otherwise neurodivergent people are actively taken into account, we can all truly get along. It's just a matter of people's compassion being opened to people that need it the most.

Real talk

Honesty, but kindness and warmth is also important.

SO TRUE I DO NOT KNOW MY PROBLEM GOING SCHOOL IN THE 1970S PEOPLE OR SCHOOL DID NOT CARE

The school system (in CA at least) has actually made it much harder to diagnose black children with autism. I work in an SDC class and in order to receive a diagnosis, they have to be officially referred to an outside psychologist for testing versus our school site psychologist like other children. Supposedly it was to counter the over diagnosis of black children in the past. I don’t understand it and it still seems like a form of segregated care because all other children can more easily begin the diagnosing process. I need to research it more. It makes no sense to me every time someone tries to explain it

A lot of us our undiagnosed. I think I could be as well. My son is autistic. And my cousin is too.

Under diagnosed in many… even Indians. It’s just unfortunate

very true i didn't get diagnosed until i was 18

I’m a typical person and I deal with the same thing. I think ppl don’t like unique. I never thought of myself that way, but I’ve realized… that I do fit in and that I’m different… and it is what it is 🤗

I would love to see how she deals with having a family and raising children having this anchor on her life. I suspect that I am autistic also. She and I seem to share the same path, I'm always being told something is wrong with me or I'm crazy, people Normally run away from me, and I to wear headsets all the time, can't keep a job, when you get a job I'm always ostracized, it's a lonely world but I have gotten use to it, I have nor been diagnosed because I don't know how to

Yesss

Omg yes!!

Sis,I agree with you, she's an amazing lady.

How do you know when you are autistic if you know that you are it’s because its high functioning… since you have that awareness

Of course she's just autistic misconception is that people with autism are delayed in someway (only a small portion of people with autism have a learning disability) or unaware of themselves. I work in healthcare I'm autistic I went to college I have a certification. I like to say autistic people are some of the best actors in the world because we work around others to live our lives on the daily.

@@DeadpanVT I Agree With You Fully But I Don’t Use The Word Autistic . Autistic Is Not Who You Are . You Just Happen To Have Autism .

@@beautifulmind1834 I just don't care much about pc usage of the word personally but that's different for everyone. I grew up before they even removed the term Asperger's syndrome from diagnosis.

Do you have any ways you wish people treated you and the way you are? For example what would you want in a non-autistic friend/relationship? It is not your obligation to explain this but I wanted to ask to see how I can better support the neurodivergent community and/or if I become friends with a neurodivergent person🙏🏾

My cousin has autism I almost forgot because I don’t think about it really.He’s 11 years old.

I also have it and I can relate! 🥰🥰

Same

I’m white but I have a very similar experience being autistic. Even when people don’t know I’m autistic, it’s very obvious that the things they don’t like about me are traits that my autism causes. People are so incredibly judgmental for no reason and it’s such an alienating feeling.