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I love the Silent Treatment from a Narc... it's like a vacation from the drama.

Distort all narcissistic by helping ourselves, hit the gym , train harder, work harder, excel in our career, earn money!!

The moment I told my ex calmly "Stop... just stop, I know exactly what you're doing, I know everything. It's not going to work anymore" That was the final day he saw me. His eyes went black as they do and he unloaded the most abuse in that one instance simply because he knew he had no control anymore he pulled out all my old traumas, everything I never thought he'd do or say (the only thing I ever trusted him about was cheating) he told me he was going to bang another women that night and that I'm the ugliest B he's ever seen, not deserving of love etc. Just LOST his ish. Then finally for the first time physically harmed me. NEVER in 5 years did he touch me but lo and behold.... when you tell them you have them figured out... all bets are off to them. Scary

Narcissists move VERY fast in relationships. It's not uncommon to hear, “I love you", and/or be bombarded with love songs/texts/memes a few weeks after meeting them. By rushing into sex/intimacy, they fast-forward the relationship. They get their targets to fall for them before he/she can realize something is amiss. I believe this is also the reason they tend to be VERY good lovers. Sex is usually the “hook” in toxic relationships. Narcissists lack genuine personalities. So, they mirror their targets. If you find you have “so much in common" with a new person, your likes are their likes, and your dislikes are coincidentally their dislikes as well, raise your antennas! They may be mirroring you. This is the “soulmates" hook… You'll also notice that they'll spend more time telling you who they are, verses showing you. As time goes on, you'll notice the words they used to describe themselves do not fit their personality - at all. But, they will fit YOURS!!! Passive-aggressive behavior and irrational/unexplained anger, are also major red flags. Pay attention to how a person treats you the first time you say, “No”, and/or when things don't go their way… If they give you the silent treatment, grow cold, and/or pull away, do not overlook it! Most importantly, if someone pulls away, or goes silent, after you set a boundary - DO NOT pursue them! This is how they groom you to be the chaser in the relationship. It's emotional abuse/manipulation! Pay close attention to people who portray themselves as victims. NOTHING is EVER their fault! EVERYONE, including the family pet, has done them wrong… ALL of their ex's are “crazy” and mistreated them… They’re great, but no one appreciates said greatness… Simply put, it's bullshit! No one should have a laundry list of bad experiences. If they do, RUN, because they're the common denominator! Narcissists tend to have a history of failed/short-term relationships. Believe it or not, it's hard for Narcissists to find people to deal with them long term due to their instability and poor behavior… Superficial relationships/friendships. I've noticed they don't have anyone they're genuinely close to. This is due to their inability to bond and form true attachments to people. Their relationships are shallow and based on surface-level bs. They'll refer to someone as their bestfriend, but you’ll notice they barely speak. Or, that the person is never really around. Or, only shows up when it's time to party, etc. They may also speak down on/poorly of said “bestfriend” behind their back. Narcissists tend to be condescending, two-faced and downright mean! Based on my experience, they cannot talk about deep subjects (i.e. fears/emotions). Or, how a situation truly made them feel. Or, what their childhood was like in detail… They don't want to go there. I suspect, it's because they can't. They don't know themselves well enough. They can't connect. They also live in a world of dishonesty. They're very dishonest with themselves about who they truly are. A poor relationship with their Mother/primary caregiver. Underlying issues between Narcissists and their Mother's (abuse, neglect, don’t get along, etc.), seems to be common. People that I've known who've displayed strong Narcissistic tendencies, ALL had bad relationships with their Mothers! I think it's worth mentioning, their Mother's also displayed strong Narcissistic traits… I'm fully aware and understand that there are healthy adults who have toxic Mother's. However, if you're spotting several red flags in an individual, including this one, pay closer attention! They're selfish! Some are selfish from the very beginning. Some start out generous and slowly begin withholding. Some act helpless and needy. They manipulate people into doing things for them, but never give back. It's not only financial and material selfishness. They're selfish emotionally, affectionately, conversationally. sexually and with their attention. They withhold validation and support. EVERYTHING has to be about them, their needs, their wants and everything happens on their terms. Anger, rage, silent treatments and disappearing acts are common - when they don't get their way. Pathological lying. Narcissists are professional liars. It's their second nature. If you call them out, they'll have no issue staring deeply into your eyes as they tell another lie! You'll hardly ever get the truth. Even with unchallengeable proof of the truth, they'll hold on to the lie. It's actually quite fascinating to see them in action - once you know what you’re dealing with. They also have the uncanny ability to provoke doubt in their victims (even when you KNOW the truth), because their lies are so convincing! Beware of people who do not seek conflict resolution. Many Narcissists enjoy drama/chaos! Remember, these are high-conflict personalities. Many of them NEED to argue and fight! Peace to a narcissist, is what chaos is to non-disordered people - unsettling. This is why they repeat behaviors that trigger a negative response. They need tension, anger and high/out of control emotions. They're known for calling people crazy, drama queens, insecure, etc., but never admit what they did to provoke those responses. And, when you attempt to discuss/resolve something, THEY said/did, they’ll gaslight, stonewall and/or flip it back on to you. They're extremely disrespectful, rude and lack self-awareness. They have an issue with being called out on their behavior and project/deflect to avoid accountability. “Normal” people want to get along, for the most part. So, they seek fair compromises when conflict arises. Narcissists want to “win” and conflict IS their niche. This is how many Narcissists get their way - they wear people down via conflict. Immaturity. It’s one thing to be playful and lighthearted (in appropriate settings), as an adult. It’s something completely different to be immature. Narcissists suffer from arrested development. They do not know how to respond to situations/people/stress/life appropriately. They have a child-like mindset. They truly believe everything is about them and have no concept of the needs of others. By nature, children are takers. They have no concept of reciprocation. They believe their Parents (and everyone else), exists to meet their needs. When their needs aren’t met, or they don’t get what they want, they become mean and throw tantrums. Narcissists cannot think outside of themselves and their wants/needs - like children. They’re completely unaware that people are individuals with their own agency, needs, wants, opinions... They truly believe people exist to serve them. They believe their job is to receive. They’re children trapped in adult bodies, who cannot consider anything/anyone other than themselves! Above everything I've stated, trust your intuition! Narcissists give off an uneasy vibe. They try very hard to appear cool, calm and collected - on the surface. But, you can feel their energy. It's very off-putting. They also tend to have more noticeable negative qualities, than most people. But, you have to stop justifying and making excuses, in order to see things clearly. Accept people for who they are and not who you want them to be. Observe, listen and trust yourself. No one should be allowed to grant themselves a position in your life. Vet people and YOU decide if they'll be a liability, or an asset, to you. Lastly, take cues from your body. If you ever feel your mood changing, feel anxious or feel your stomach knot up, in the company of someone, don't dismiss it! It could be a sign that you're in bad company!!! Additionally, If you need to find out about a cheating narcissist; send a request to: MetaspyHub@gmail. com

I just read this the other day. Loving a narcissist is like trying to hug a CACTUS! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Once you get away from a narcissist, it’s like waking up from the anesthesia after a major surgery…… you feel like you are in a daze! Lightheaded and nauseous. But once it’s out of your system you will feel much much better! 🙏🏽

They treat you so poorly because you ARE a good person!

The next toxic person is just around the corner, so stay alert.

Years ago, when I confided that the silent treatment was like being "amputated," and hurt me to the core, he was more than happy to do it as often as possible. My focus has now shifted from the marriage to healing myself and I see the silent treatment as the gift that keeps on giving... Perception is everything!! 🙌🏻😊💕💪🏻

"The calmer you are the more chaotic they feel." Valid. When I confronted my ex narc about her cheating, she didn't apologize. She didn't deny it or admit to it. She criticized me for how calm I was behaving and used it as proof that I didn't care about her.

Sticking up for myself was the worst crime to him

It is important to know that theses narcissists are NOT just found in romantic relationships but also in what you thought were strong, long friendships.

This is so encouraging, "They might get worse, but you WILL get better"

The work you're doing is solid gold! Narcissists behave like a demon.

True, there's lots of videos saying "this is how you get revenge on the narcissist", "how to make the narcissist cry/despair etc." or even worse "how to make the narcissist want you back". No - focus that energy on working on you and your healing. There's no better "revenge" on a narcissist than living your best life WITHOUT THEM IN IT!

I live with my narcissist. I woke up this year because of Dr Ramani. My narcissist knows, I can tell. I'm on to all the new tricks that she is coming up with now that she knows. When you watch these tricks without emotion, you will be left in awe. Not at the cruelty. No. I am left in awe of her genius and brilliance. Its truly remarkable. If she could have only used her power for good...

The only way to take control from a narcissist is to get yourself from their domain first. You wont be able to figure out anything until and unless you are out of the hellish world. I will tell you one of my favourite stories. Once a King was too disturbed by everything that was happening around him. He felt as if no one was loyal to him and he was always afraid of his kingdom being attacked by perpetrators. He lost his sleep and his life had become hell. So he thought of taking a brief sojourn in the countryside. He passed through lush green fields and picturesque landscapes. The silent breeze that brushed through his hair filled his heart with joy. That is when he saw a farmer who was putting fence around his farmland. But his farmland had weeds all over and they hardly had any crops. This intrigued the King. He asked the farmer as to why was he putting a fence around the farm when the farm itself was covered with weeds. To this the farmer said that the farm was his own so he could get rid of the weeds whenever he liked. But he cant stop the stray dogs from running over his fields and destroying them. That is why he was putting the fence. To stop the stray dogs from venturing into the field. Once he was very assured about the security of his fields he can work on clearing the weeds and planting crops. On hearing this the King somewhat got the answer which he had been searching for. The human mind is also like the field. You cant control assholes from fiddling with your mind or saying bullshit. But you can definitely put a fence ( figuratively) so that these assholes cant influence you. And until and unless you dont put a fence you can never work on yourself. Once you have distanced yourself from toxic people then you can work on the healing process. Same is the case with narcs. Narcs are these stray dogs who suck your energy emotionally. They play mind games for fun because their mind wants melodrama. They hurt the very people who love them. So total isolation from these narcs is absolutely essential for the well being of your Mind. Once you are out of their mind games you can take decisions rationally. Narcs try to drain you emotionally. So everytime you respond to their low vibrations you tend to come to their level. But when you react confidently without panicking and without responding to their negative vibrations that is when you Win. When someone realises that you arent being influenced or being manipulated by their actions they will get tired of it. And after cutting them off completely from your lives you should work on your healing process. Work on clearing your mental clutter and keep yourself preoccupied. Read books and most importantly try to find your Purpose in life. When you find your Purpose you will be able to bear any pain in this World. Most importantly help others in need. When you find someone else who is stuck with a narc help them to get out of that. I feel this is the way to take control from a narcissist. P.S: I hardly find people around me who know about emotional abuse. But I think everyone should read and know about it. In today’s mean world you will find a lot of people who try to influence you or demoralise you using the sweetest of words. Its about identifying these covert manipulators and distancing yourself from them. I have immense respect for people who have survived narcissistic partners. They happen to be the most strongheaded and emotionally stable people you can come across. I learn a lot of things from them. Truly the broken will always be the most beautiful. What ever you do, don’t attempt to tail your spouse in the hopes of catching him or her cheating. Get a professional to do it for you Metaspyhub@gmail. com Ethical remote App - particularly if you need this evidence to file for divorce and damages.

"Do I really believe that I'm a bad person because this person chooses to treat me like I'm dead? Over things that don't even make sense?" That got me good. Thank you for sharing all of this💗

They leave you if they can't use you anymore. They have no shame....they simply disappear.

My story is long and most can relate no doubt. Narcissists are truly evil. Heartless would be an understatement. I don't think a person fully heals, but you do learn to go on. If anything, you know the signs to look for and never allow another narc in your life again. For me it was a so called friend. Good luck to all on their journey to healing.

My ex narcissistic wife used to call me a narcissist, at the time I didn't even know what it meant 😂😂 so when we split up I came across a video that changed my life forever, it was very hard to accept that I was laying in bed with my own enemy and I didn't even know it, as I learned more about narcissist everything started making sense it was if they were speaking about my ex in detail, I went through some time of depression because I realized everything was a lie everything was fake, but it made me a better man and it changed my life for the better! Thank you for helping others out if it wasn't for videos like these I would've never known what narcissist is

When they know you figured them out, they attack you. Just leave. It’s not worth your energy and don’t get entangled in their BS!

If you notice, it only works on the type of person that they seek out. Someone who has a healthy respect for themselves, boundaries, and not coming from a place of lack, would never put up with their behavior and manipulation. We get so caught up in what “they” did and in a way victimizing ourselves. But what about what “we” allowed. That’s what needs to be investigated. They prey on a particular type of person. I went through this and Instead of being the one that this happened, I looked at it as the one that allowed it. It’s not comfortable but to avoid falling for and allowing that type of behavior I had to look real hard at myself.

If they cut you off in any capacity its only a matter of time when their behavior will turn you off ~ permanently. Ignore them and prioritize yourself 💙

40 years of marriage I finally found out what narcs do to hurt you I’m a strong person because I have a narcissistic mother And I’m her scapegoat child I have had a very sad and lonely relationship With life I hope everyone in this kind of life dosnt wait to literally die before you get help And get support to stop supplying a very evil narcissist hurting you Good luck And I’m glad for all this free help Thanks

When narcissists know you know, they watch a bunch of KZfaq channels and call themselves victims. "Inner healing" is a tell.

Watching your videos has been so healing. I grew up with a mother who always wanted me to be discontent & insecure, everyday she would call me nasty, cruel, miserable, unlikable, unpleasant & I became everything I thought she didn't want me to be because I wrongly assumed this made me victorious of my true self. I isolated myself & became extremely cynical, insecure, volatile, emotional, angry and discontent because I thought this was my identity only to realize I actually became exactly what she wanted & I was a projection of what SHE thought I was. The real me is kind, generous, secure, loving (with a healthy amount of negative emotions & boundaries) My mother thinks these traits are weak & she rejected all of it in herself & me. Everything she hates about herself, all of her insecurity is not my responsibility. I am not my mother. If she hates herself or a part of her personality, I don't have to hate those traits in myself. I am allowed to take back these parts of my identity she tried to make me feel ashamed of.

I lived with a covert narcissistic for 32 years. I lived this and I am trying to heal. Unfortunatelly I have anxiety, traumas , trust issues and everytime I feel better, he tries to tease me from distance. I can not cut him completly because we have a daughter. However he lost the control over me. I transformed myself and I will never come back to him . Orher 2 narcissistic tried to get near me, but I recognized the patterns and do not allow them enter my life.

19 years of that cycle has caused permanent damage. I do feel strong and confident (always subtle doubts). I do know that i am successful and i have great friends and family. But that cycle that she created has ensured that i will most likely never ever have a relationship again. i have told many people that the peace that i have now is better than anything, and i can see that they dont understand. its just so comforting. I am grateful for it.

I just found out, beginning a little over two weeks ago, that my Wife of six-and-a-half years is a Christian Covert Narcissist. I am going to have to begin de-toxing ASAP, as soon as we're out of here, my Mother (whom I have responsibility of due to her stroke last November) and I. Since I am also a Combat Vet that has been dealing with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Severe Depressive Disorder, that puts me at an even higher risk of having something physiologically bad happen to me. I think it's time to send a message to the VA to have someone I can counsel with. Thank you for this video... I've been studying for a little over two weeks and I've come to get the PhD concerning NPD, but until this video I did not understand the utter damage that is taking place inside me and it needs to stop before bad things begin to happen. I'm tough, but I'm really beginning to feel it.

20:17 THEY WAIT YOU OUT ~ SCARY. This channel is awesome. It tells it like it is. Folks, the only answer is to LEAVE!!!. NO CONTACT!!!. When you DO THIS, they ( the narcissist) will cry there eyes out. They actually resort back to being those little kids that they were long ago when they truly know they lost control over you.

I wanna say just 1 thing,,,,light fights dark,,,love fights hate and...AUTHENTICITY FIGHTS FAKE!!! BE YOU❤

Narcissism is someone who changes who they are to get what they want its always 50\50 in a relationship. Never try to change anyone that's "abuse" making them feel they are not good enough you project they are broken which hurts

They were taught these behaviors in their formative years. Their repetitive cycles are unbreakable. They can indeed be kind - yet they are addicted to the provocation- proving we care. Constant testing- never passing the test. Never. Tragic. So many constructive qualities- but mired in the power imbalance.

Simply learn to ignore All of their drama.

"Afraid of the monologue that would never end" THIS. This is EXACTLY what I was always feeling.

12:10 So true, They seem to have an innate ability to sense when you have truly dropped your guard. In George Simons Book Character Disturbance ~he says the main reason predators are so successful in manipulating others is not so much in there effective use of tactics, but rather in the RELUCTANCE of normal balanced people to make hash judgments about others and trust their gut instincts about the REAL person they are dealing with.

When they know they discard which is a blessing. They remove themselves and we couldnt ask for a better outcome from an abusive person. They disqualified themselves and we should be thankful.

Yes - being ignored, & treated as if I didn't exist. He did not say the words, "I love you" for over a decade. He discarded me as soon as I discovered his deep, very dark secret of a 50-year porn addiction, and the degradation, invalidation & bullying that goes hand-in-hand with it.

They force you to discard them since they can not detach. Just the presence of you is too painful.

Married to a covert narcissist for fourteen years and found myself in a bemused and bewildered state trying to figure out my wife’s behaviour. Now I’m not a great believer in fate but I look at my YT feed one day and there is a video about NPD. Curious I open the video and watch with my jaw dropping on the floor as I learn about all the traits that I have been seeing exhibited by my wife over a long period of time. I watch a few more and suddenly the scales have dropped from my eyes. About an hour later my wife arrives home and coldly announces that she wants to end the marriage and separate. It was a shock to me and it is not pleasant as I go through the experience of being discarded, but I’m better prepared as a result of watching the videos. They continue to be a lifeline to me. Fate or something intervened.

I was with a covert narcissist for 8 years and I'm drowning because I didn't even know. 8 years waisted

Run, it definitely gets worse before it gets better. It’s all by their design. No matter what they say don’t let it get to you and know you’re right. Their foolishness will only be more obvious.

I grew to love the silent treatment once I knew what the jig was. it would go on for days, weeks. Bliss because having conversation with him descended to infantile hell.

Know the feeling so well. The hamster wheel. Spent 10 years confused. Was ridiculous I didn’t realize it was mostly her.

You are so right…only someone who has lived through narcissistic abuse can understand what we went through…anyone else is just adding to our abuse by blaming us, and gaslighting us.

Watching this video. It made me see my whole 27 years of married is a FARCE😢

My friend's ex is a narcissist. He treats her like a welcome mat. Any female that allows her ex to treat her like that is an empty soul!

When I started feeling good and quietly empowered I almost got concerned because I was so happy I worried I was manic or something. But, no. Its just that was wasnt constantly bleeding anymore.

"Healthy relationships can be fixed with teamwork. Abusive relationships must be fixed by the abuser." I get so tired of hearing, "You guys just need to work it out." Michele... you are describing my 40-year marriage. I went gray Rock 5 years ago. We still share the same house, but she has no power over me. Your videos have helped me immensely. I've gone on long enough here, but I will say to anyone reading this... Take care of yourself. Learn and grow. Broken hearts heal, but scars remain. You will get better when you take your power back with quiet dignity. Love to all who are dealing with abuse. ❤❤❤

Through education on narcissism I came to understand that the behaviors of narcissists are shockingly the same. As a result, I was able to change how their behavior affected me, which caused changes in my response. My healing empowered me to go no-contact and live a life free of narcissism.

I have experienced every aspect of NPD abuse. I actually feel like I'm going to recover. I recognize all of it. I have several in my life. Lots of triangulation and flying monkeys. It's despicable. They know how I feel. And I have been pushed to the point that I choose to go no contact. Not even in my future lives. In my opinion, there is no place for Narcissists on this Planet.😢

It used to bother me, whenever they left, now I am so happy when he ignore me. My sorrows turn to joy😂😂😂😂

I started learning about narcissistic abuse about two years ago after 33 years of marriage. Living constantly with a thousand razor blade cuts, which get deeper and deeper and I went more and more numb. At least I know other people have lived like this and through this. Thank you for your videos.

I could have jogged around the world and my ex wife wouldn’t have been happy and said I needed to try harder. I had to retire from trying to make her happy. I now have peace x

I was assulted at work and my narcissist ex told me to get over it and stop playing the victim. He never once asked what actually happened. That’s when I really saw him for what he was.

I was aging in a matter of three years so much. I look easy ten years older and I don't like to look at pictures of me anymore, because my face looks so tormented and wrinkled. You can literally see the pain I went through in my face and eyes. Even when I am happy and laughing. I wish I could hide that and have a normal relaxed look like I had before

It’s crazy to think that my ex narcissist fiancée made me act like her! She love bomb me, de value me, held sex, the emotional roller coaster crap, she was blaming it on her hormones bs, I adjusted, accepted her excuses in the end it made me different, it made difficult to deal with while I was with her then blaming me for being moody, sensitive blah blah blah, my goodness, thank god I started studying philosophy and that’s where I really started noticing changes not that I didn’t noticed before but I really started seeing what it is. So I started matching her energy, I guess I became a narc temporarily, she gave me silent treatment for a month then broke up. Man I felt so relieved, I moved out, healing and reflecting. Btw, she’s still in contact with me telling me she’s depressed blah blah blah. I wish the next dude the best! FELLAS, DONT IGNORE RED FLAGS.

Some will never stop hunting us.

Over the last few years every argument i have had has resulted in slightly less reciprocating of love and affection. It's like, after every conflict, she withholds a bit more. Now i have no hand holding, kissing or expressions of love. Nothing worse than reaching out for someone's hand and they don't take it. Or turn their face away when you go in for a kiss or never want sex and NEVER say "I love you" back.. like EVER. It's heartbreaking

I’m almost in tears listening to this. You are literally explaining my situation. I’m almost without words. You will never know how much you have helped me. It’s as if I can see things clearly now.

Ex projected on me all the time. It’s one of their favorite tools.

Just got out of an 8 month gauntlet of deceit and twisted games...I wish her no pain but she's been a problem and needs to work on her life.

Michele, I completely blocked my Machiavellian Sociopath ex-business partner around two years ago. He still try's the Hoover; even through mutual business associates. As much as I like the third parties, I do not want "any pipeline" for information. I know that if I attempt to explain, the third parties cannot understand. He knows and has finally gone quiet. As they say "Let sleeping dogs lie."

I am almost speechless listening to this … I canNOT stress enough the importance of your statement about shifting your focus from what YOU think you did that was wrong , to realizing how wrong their behavior is . For me , that shift has been instrumental in healing from a very long term Narcissistic relationship that was incredibly toxic. Your phrasing has been so validating for me and I hope the same for others.

My mother does The Silent Treatment with me all the time ~ I visit and in no time she's glued to her tablet or the television. No attempt to have a meaningful conversation. She will actually not respond if its about me, so I tested her one day and started asking about her TV show ~ and BOOM! She lit right up and started talking like crazy. A part of me understands that they are damaged victims from there toxic past / But a part of me wants to tell them off. But like Michele says, Now I can just look at it for what it is, I don't let the ignoring lower my self worth anymore.

You are so beautiful and strong, and yet they manipulated you. Makes me think that probably the rest of us are way more beautiful and intelligent than we think. Thats probably why they come for us lmaooo

I’ve been away from my narc wife for 4 weeks and the love fog has lifted and she blamed me for everything it was me that was the problem in her life she reflected everything back to me when it was her that was the one doing it !!!! Im never going back thank you for this video

I always turn it around on them by telling them that their actions will result in them having negative karma and they will pay for it in the next life ~ You should see the look I get when they actually start to worry that they may be messing with Spiritual Stuff.

Michelle, can you please talk about when the narcissist gets older and unattractive

Wow!😮 The Narcissist always moves the “goal post”. Mine did. Every time my wife would do the “Silent Treatment”, I tried to get her to have a conversation; causing me to chase and to get anxious. One day I stopped, went and did something else that made me happy and less anxious. I took opportunities when she went silent on me to do things that brought me peace. Guess what, she then would come and pick at me when I would become calm. This sucked. I could never create a sensible balance that worked for us. She always found a way to get me to be upset; she also weaponized things and turned situations upside down. Sucked!!!😳

That’s Exactly how theses 👺s act 💯⚔️💯yes it’s better to treat them like you don’t care about them anymore ⚖️🤷🏽‍♀️try to stay away from them

the good thing that came from this though, was that working on me and healing me helped me to grow and no longer feel stuck and stagnant in life

I realized at one point that he knew I knew and his game was up. Of course he pulled away, twisted it around, user, con artist, and then wanted to leave of course.

Awareness is everything. Only Thing We Have to Fear Is Fear Itself - Franklin D. Roosevelt. Watch out till the end, they will not change.

Thanks for this informative video!👍🏾 I have found that in my life, when a narcissist knows you are onto them, they will find a way to "discard" you VERY QUICKLY. It might be a sudden sabotage, relocation, break-up or job change etc. So one has to be prepared that the narcissist will be leaving their life soon 😉

Excellent Michelle. I got to the point where I looked forward to the silent treatment, it meant I had peace and quiet for a while. Thank You

They wear away your self reliance, trust, and confidence in your own senses.

OMG, my potentially covert NARC parent who beat us spewing she would give us something to cry about and was always a perfect angel if anyone came to the door. And was the most loving angel to us kids between the violence and silent treatments. She convinced me recently I was the problem. I appreciate hearing others have been driven to counseling only to find out it wasn’t them either. What a gift. A new start for those of us deserving the freedom and a new start.

When I called my vulnerable narcissist ex-wifey out on all her behavior, manipulation, and for being a narcissist she said "Yeah? So what!?" ...not as satisfactory as I'd imagined. Also, I don't get why the "silent treatment" from the narcissist is a bad thing, it never bothered me tbh... I actually enjoyed it😂

I hate the fact that i got duped by my covert narcissistic mother for so many years...she used me for her needs...i hate it...

30 years and still but now I have 3 American Bullies that keep me company and I actually enjoy their company. I talk to them like they are listening and wanting to communicate.

I was told my whole family are narcissists, then I was told I was a narcissist, just before my birthday and all the plans we'd made for three weeks could not happen when she realised I was a narcissist too. When I realised about the idealisation phase followed by the devaluation phase and the projection by the narcissist of their own traits on others to misdirect you, then the experience made more sense. Otherwise it can be bewildering to go from the man/woman of their dreams to a worthless burden.

My “best friend” of 10 years did the final setup-to-discard. It was her planned “Fake out”. After its over, you can start to see things that they did to you covertly the whole relationship. The blinders are off, its pretty nasty stuff. She was jealous of my house, my daughter, my grandchildren, my cat, my dog, etc. etc. etc. she took my three year old granddaughter’s cat and dumped it in the desert somewhere.

Thank you Michele! I've realized too that one of the reasons why I still let her stay in my life is that I'm actually afraid of the revenge or the insults I might be getting. She has threatened me before saying she's capable of completely ruining my life is she wanted to, and that scares the heck out of me. I know she's only nice when she wants something from me and when I dance to her tune. I sick and tired of being scared!

When my dad died from throat cancer and I didn’t want her at his funeral, My “No” brought up a tsunami 🌊 of dread. My Chinese dragon 🐉 tiger mother is going to devour me 😢. Over the years, she’s mellowed because I’m really skilled now at setting my boundaries. “No “ is a full and perfect answer.

We're currently healing through Shadow Work

My mother. Has ruined my life since I was a child. The abuse is/was so rampant that I am debilitated to the point of homelessness. I am struggling immensely and I'm doing my best but I am so struggling. I feel worthless but I know it's a lie.. it hurts. It hurts so much. Even on her death bed she is taunting me and finds any way possible to hurt me. Thank God I found Jesus and have Him to lean on ❤

I just watched a movie named Quenn Bee with Joan Crawford. Her character in that film was evil to the core. She had everyone walking on eggshells around her. It is not that they will always do something physical to you. It is just the mind games they choose to play.

This is how late stage narcissism manifested for me. There came a point where I recognized the cycle of spinning and building up arguments to the point where I snapped. I started asking to stop arguments so I could gain space for things to calm down. That's when things grew manic for her. It ended in one of two things. The first was "If you leave this argument now you're ending this relationship" while the second was "allowing" me to leave only to return every few minutes to make verbal stabs at my character and accusing me of how bad of a person I was for "giving her the silent treatment". It's been 5 years and I'm still broken from this person.

You’re right on,my ex eight years ago was talking bad about my adult daughter, and I said I know more about your kids than you know. She went ballistic and pulled a knife on me and put the blade next to my gut. The Holy Spirit told me to say nothing and just walk away,I had already packed up. I was gonna be moving out in a month,and then when I had moved out and came to get something that I left, she said her little Joey, her immature adult son got her a gun.😮 God protected me until I got out.

You’re such a beautiful person inside out. No wonder they hated you 😆 it’s very impressive that you kept your heart after all of this

My life right now is complete hell. As I continue to work more and more on myself after discovering that I have CPTSD I'm finding myself in the middle of a very intense silent treatment and I am an emotional wreck. I found a letter on the computer that is saying that she wants me out because she can't handle me any more. She's employing the flying monkeys and getting the smear campaign going full force... it's just so messed up. This video really helps me gain a perspective on where I need to focus my personal work to not provide the supply that is being prodded for.

When they know you know...Just run for your dear life, kicking and screaming! 😱

I tried for over twenty-three years. Totally in the dark. After it ended I was accused of being the narcissist. I had never even heard of it so I looked into it and wouldn't you know it? I found the truth of everything. No, I am not the narcissist, she is. My reactions to the abuse caused me the worst problems. My oldest daughter just stopped speaking to me a few years AFTER everything and I know darn well that someone else was talking in her ear. My youngest daughter has stopped calling me dad, daddy, or even father. After everything I wouldn't be surprised if she shamed them or convinced them that they hate me and that I don't DESERVE (one of her favorite words) to be called dad, daddy, or father. This all really isn't just the result of marrying a narcissist, I've learned that my own dad was a narcissist. False affections, emotional neglect and abuse from him then only to become a victim of someone else. Yeah, she knew that she depleted me. With how it ended with her natural cold self as if she had accomplished something, she did, but I wasn't fully aware of what the hell she did, I'm still struggling but I will never let her know that.

My narcissist suddenly changed, or at least said he wanted to change, not for me, but for his new supply. He started using terminology and phrases he never used before, but it didn’t last long because he’ll never actually see himself as accountable/responsible.

Good video, almost got suck back by my parents, on them doing something good towards me, to pretend they've "changed"...

This video is so accurate it makes my stomach hurt to watch it because this is the greatest, most recent, and final lesson I’ve learned in my journey to protect and remove myself from toxic abusive relationships. I’m free now ❤.

My wife will do what ever she can to set me up