Everyone who has been discarded by a narcissist send them a thank you card. They have saved your life.

Just remember... the narcissist's new person is just the next ex. Don't give it any more thought.

I literally can cry. He made me feel like I was trash..

Being married and discarded like I never existed and cheated on and physically abused...literally feels like, I am a piece of trash on the sidewalk, that everyone has walked past 100x. THE MOST PAINFUL FEELING IN MY 29 YEARS ON THIS EARTH!

I can't believe there are so many of us who have been abused by these evil people. We need to band together and comfort one another. Thank you for this video.

Your rejection, is God's protection! Thank You! ♡♡♡

If they jump in a quick relationship if u ask me they been cheating with the person they got in a relationship with 🤷🏿‍♂️

Was recently discarded by my wife for a guy she met through a dating app. It was the most painful feeling I've ever experienced. I'm so proud to have walked out on her. Took control of my own situation. She wanted me to stay home while she dates. How incredibly disrespectful. I'm on the road to recovery, made new friends, working out, and doing limited contact with her(we have children. I made a vow to take care of myself and children first, no one else. Despite her abusive remarks that are very painful, telling me she's happy with him and that I'm irresponsible. I've created a boundary that she couldn't possibly break. It's not easy on my end. I cry everytime. At the end of the day, I gained enough strength to finally leave the abusive person I really loved very much.

"That new person is just another character in their show." Spot on!

The narcissist is always looking for new person to give them a ego Boost.

"A narcissist is an opportunist." Best, most simple description that says so much in not so many words! Thank you.

That’s great. It’s a compliment if a narcissist leaves you. Never thought of it like that. Also if you have to leave the narcissist. You are giving yourself some value. It is painful either way.

They will praise the person to everyone only to abuse them in private. So sad

Being discarded is actually a good thing, in hindsight!

A Narc doesn't even have a healthy relationship with their self therefore it's impossible for them to have a healthy relationship with others. It starts with self. Thanks for helping to raise awareness 🙏

Was discarded by a covert narc. Was so hooked by that shell of a human’s charade that I nearly hit rock bottom. But I soon realized my life did not fall apart, it actually fell in to place. I can’t believe how much energy I have, how much clearer thinking I am and most importantly every day I look in the mirror I see a more beautiful, and healthier man than the previous day. Their endless selfishness actually did save my life. What a crazy paradox 🙌🏼

It isn't painful anymore. I am free. I am at peace. My narcissistic wife doesn't deserve me. I do not consider it a loss, as I gave her too many chances, chances that she squandered. She made her choice and chose her path. To abuse. To lie. To manipulate. I am happy. I will be happier. She will never, ever, find happiness. It is her curse, a curse of her disorder caused by her toxic upbringing. It is not my responsibility to fix an unfixable person. I cannot feel guilt, as it is not my guilt to bear. I did my best, tried my best. I tried too much frankly. I am now far stronger emotionally. Yes, I have PTSD. Yes, I was injured psychologically, emotionally, and physically by this person. However I know the cause. I know the solution. I am on a path to healing. Yes, it took time to reach this point. A lot of time. A lot of self reflection. A lot of education, time, and honesty with myself. My wife is fake. A false person who lives in a make believe world of her own. A toxic world. A world I am now free from.

After 8 years of a loving relationship with a narcissist, I left. I left loving him, like I never loved another man. He went to a trip, I took him to the airport, we kissed, we made plans for me to pick him up days latter and I drove alone to my house. In my way home, something inside of me, bigger than me, said, this is it, I'm done. I never answered his phone calls, never gave him an explanation. The pain was horrible. I gosh him forever. Why so drastic? Because I was addicted to him and I knew if I talked to him, he would win me again. So I quit him, like I quit my addiction to cigarets, because I knew, they both will destroyed me at the end. I throw them to the garbage. Never looked back.

When the narcissist moves on to their new supply, thinking they've won the first place trophy, it's only to their own demise when they realize that their first place supply - turns out to be a "participation " medal.

Holy shit "no matter how weak you are they could never break you down." Mind blown

It’s really a death. Yes. We actually had a funeral for the person I thought my ex was. This allowed me to mourn the loss of that fantasy person I loved, while maintaining the truth that I do NOT want anything to do with the actual human. It was very healing.

We live in a narcissistic society. Social media allows narcissistic people to get endless supply. All they have to do is post a new selfie and watch the supply pour in.

When you said being discarded is like your partner has died that is so true! When I was discarded by my ex gf I was a wreck and a family member told me, “It’s not the end of the world, it’s not like someone has died” but to me it really did feel like that. Especially as I had the whole love bombing/soulmate/future faking show.

3 yrs later she contacted me. Now with someone else, and he was the “perfect man” --but still wanted to connect. Narcissists don’t change.

Two years after ending a narcissistic marriage with a child and being mostly healed from it. This is so true. I’ve saw my ex husband with his new wife at our child’s birthday and had a blast from the past and realized that he hadn’t changed at all. I realized that his very pregnant new wife looked the way I used to feel. It’s incredible. While I was shunned from his family at the party, I felt as though I was the happiest one there (next to a four year old with cake) and everyone knew it. The best part of all, I didn’t care at all.

I’ve always felt the discard was the biggest favor he ever did me👍

I got breast Cancer and he discarded me. Fighting for my life alone. I am grateful for my kids and friends that cared.

Sounds about right. He got with someone a few days literally after our "breakup" and my gut was telling me something was off.

I dated a narcissist on and off for 3 years. Lack of empathy they discard everyone . It was brutal They need a constant supply that's why they bounce from person to person.

My heart goes out to his new partner .its sad to think she has no idea what’s coming . They end yoor joy in life .

Just got discarded after 9 years of up and downs in my narcissist relationship. I feel like I gave my all but in the end it still wasn’t enough. Thank you for these videos. ❤️

I’m not going to lie.. I know my pain is no different than anyone else who has been in this type of abusive relationship but this video has been the only thing that has helped me get through my darkest thoughts. The level of understanding she has helped me see is the closure I needed to really end the cycle I was in. I hope anyone reading this stays strong and I send you love.

I can't let go of the fact I was so stupid to fall in love with such a heartless, soulless human being. I can't let go that he is this way... fml

They know exactly what they are doing, it's planned out the day they saw you, the new supply isn't new supply they were there all along

God please give me the strength to walk away & heal. This is so true and makes me so sick.

To anyone reading this, a narcissist does not need to stay in your life. Protect your self-confidence, self-worth and mental health. Thank you so much for this important video.

Reading these comments it is incredible how many hurt individuals are floating in a boundless sea of pain, misery, and suffering. I hope people find peace in their lives in 2019.

8:14 “When a discard happens it is actually such a compliment to yourself…”

Because I’m an empath and I’m always forgiving, I continuously watch these videos , so I do not forget the evil the CN Ex GF bestowed upon me. Thank you Stephanie for all that you do!!!

EXACTLY! We get to a place where we are no longer with them. It’s brutal to cut the cord because it’s almost like an addiction. Once I was done I was DONE.

“You loved yourself enough to say ‘no matter how much i love you, i love me first and im not putting up with this anymore’ and no matter how many times you went back and forth you at some point stood your ground and said ‘i deserve better and im gona get better’” this really hit home for me.

Being discarded has been life changing. It has been the most difficult experience of my life. 18 years, a dream wedding, a dream house and two beautiful children only to be thrown away was heart breaking. HOWEVER, this experience has also been the catalyst for the life changing realizations that I really needed to connect with my true self. For those going through a similar experience with a selfish narcissistic please please keep watching these videos and maybe read a few books. But always learn and keep moving forward. Learn to find yourself once again and to love yourself once again. Heal your wounds from within.

I saved a lot of money and stress being discarded.. If you can get over the separation anxiety quickly you are definitely going to appreciate having your peace and sanity back.. I pray y’all are fortunate to get out before having kids or getting married like I did.. From the nightmare I experienced I can only imagine how much worse it could of gotten for me.. I dodged a huge bullet and I am more than thankful and blessed to have.. Let them go and allow them to find someone else to do it to.. Karma will find them but I will not be there to see it..

I just came out of a very abusive narcissistic relationship. When you said that they will move on and stay in a longer relationship to show the outside world it's not their fault something clicked: he always wanted to hide me/the relation from everyone, even mutual friends and he said it's because he has had many relationships and wanted to see where it goes before making it public. This never made sense to me but now I see that it's because he didn't want anyone to know for when he'd discard me, just as he did with his many previous relationships. Luckily, I started setting those boundaries really fast and let him go.

I haven't been able to move forward. I take 1 step forward and then take 2 back. It's the most painful experience of my life

My ex discarded me and went straight to his ex..The discard was a blessing.

They cant bare to be alone ever. Cause their lack of selfhood is unbearable. Your discarded cause another ( with low self worth) is ready. Poor in soul. Rejection is God's protection. Your blessed to be free.

I was never weak he was I walked away after almost 4 years i got tired of the back and forth childish acting confused being

Keep an eye on someone that doesn't clap when you win a battle for them.

This literally just hit my heart right where I needed it to, my narcissistic ex of 7 years just moved onto his new supply and is doing EVERYTHING YOU DESCRIBED.. flaunting her all over “she’s the one “ blah blah .. and my ego was hurt, but you are RIGHT, it never was love, or respect. It was all an act. And I am in this healing state where I’m really trying to be kind, and patient with myself, and KNOW I deserve so much more. Thank you again.

Narcissist lacks both two greatest virtues: 'Empathy' and 'Compassion'. Therefore, anyone can never have serious relationships. A person who has empathy will gradually progress into a compassionate consideration.👫❤️

when you said " you loved yourself enough to say 'no matter how much I love you I love me first and I'm not putting up with this anymore" That hit home. The day I finally called her out on her emotionally abusive tactics and told her something has to change because this can't continue that was the day I got discarded.

I know it will get better, but at the moment, it is painful.

That part where you mentioned "Discard feels almost like a Death", I resonated with that a lot. I remember when it actually happened to me a year ago, I couldn't describe what I was feeling to a friend. But the word "death" felt so accurate and apt, so I just said "it feels like death". It was so painful. Something just snatched away from me.

I’ve left an emotional abuse relationship after 31 years. The narcissist spouse is with “the other one” and pretends he’s not. I was discarded, rejected and abandoned by him. Your KZfaq channel has helped more than words can say. So grateful I found topics that I’m experiencing and have lived through. I will continue to learn so I can move on into healthier relationships and to NEVER repeat the same mistake of thinking I found my soulmate. Thanks Stephanie 🙏

I was cruelly discarded by my ex narc for his ex wife ( they were married and divorced twice) whose name is Stephanie. It is difficult to see your name however I continue to watch you because your information is more important than your name. This alone shows how far I have come in my healing process .

Don’t open their social media. Don’t even see your blocked list. They will flaunt their new supply. Self control is the key. Don’t ever look back until you fully emotionally detached. Understand more about NPD abuse and healing co-dependency. November was the 4th time I got hoovered back. I’ve learned so much from the previous discards. Burn the bridge. No contact forever!!!

Cut them off. Mute them on Twitter, block them if you don't want them going through YOUR profile, unfollow their friends. Remove them from Snapchat. Unfriend them from Instagram, and block them and their friends. Let your mutuals know that you're not interested in this person's life and couldn't care less to hear about what and how they're doing. If they can't respect that, cut them off too. It's easier to move on and heal when you're not constantly seeing this person or hearing from them :)

The fact that I'm getting this brand new information now when I am in the middle of leaving a toxic person is so overwhelming for me. I didn't even know there is a name for this type of behavior even though i knew thus had to be some form of mental illness. Oh my God. I cannot express to you how much this new information kind of just makes sense and it's putting everything into perspective and you are helping me heal. God bless your channel.

I was the new person at one point for her. When we met she was 2 months out of a "toxic and abusive" relationship. We lasted 8 years, engaged for less than 1, she discarded me. She'll keep the cycle going though, what Stephanie is saying is 100% true!

Just remember, the new person is very apt to be jealous of YOU. They hear all about how bad you were, but also how good you were. Just as you learned everything about those who came before you the next one will learn about you.( "Oh she used to get me a cake at work for my birthday", She liked the ear rings I got for her, why don't you?") Give them time, they will hear how wonderful you were just as how awful you were.

Especially when they didnt take any time to heal in between they just immediately move on.

Empathy. Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another.

Caught him cheating on me and he then left me for her. (The same day I found out)And we just had a baby. He said he didn’t want to work it out because building the trust back would be too hard.

I shutdown my narcissist before I even knew he was one. He almost broke me, had me confused and saying I need mental evaluation lol Whatever he thought of me, that's what he was. Thank God I'm a strong person. I'm not going to block him, I'm leaving him there for him to see how happy I am

Rejection then become a BLESSING....🙏

One of the hardest things is lack of closure. The discard from you or them was the closure. Don’t wait around

I can enjoy knowing he can’t feel. I can enjoy knowing he’s empty inside. I enjoy knowing he’s incapable of having a real relationship. Dear god, she can have him.

🌼🌿God Gave Me The Strength To Walk Away 🙏

This is so true!! My heart was shattered. Almost 2 years later and I’m just starting to heal!

I like the fact that when you give advice, men can relate to it too. I feel like men don’t get enough mental health attention because we are under the expectation that we are supposed to just be strong and stomach everything.

Your videos on this topic have been incredibly eye opening. The fact that I was blind to what was happening to me for so long is shocking. I was with someone that was exactly what you described. The beginning of the relationship was amazing. Slowly but deliberately that mask came off it was just slow enough that I was never fully aware of what was happening. When you speak about the inability to have emotions that was exactly the way she was. The emotional abuse was the worst part, and the fact that she could never admit that she did or said something wrong. My eyes were flown wide open shortly after she left when she told me she was treating me terribly so that I would either leave her or give her a good reason to leave me. That level of manipulation floored me. The day I finally called out what she was and what she did was the day I really started to heal.

Going through it right now and I have to say it’s the most saddest thing I’ve ever felt.

I'm shattered and crushed. Somehow I will survive this.

Ready for this? I left AND was discarded. I left in hopes it would make him realize things, and try harder to change. HE still used me and when he started to get new supply when i moved out he started to treat me worse. But I did something that would make him for sure quit talking to me... tell everyone I knew what he did to me that asked. I even felt guilt for it.... he warned me that would be the end. I thought i was ready for the end... the sudden disappearance was harder then i thought

I just left an abusive relationship. I cried to my Dr because I was grieving the man I thought he was. Everything you've been talking about pin points how he's been acting.

Last night was a sleepless nightmare, imagining him with his new supply, living happily ever after. All the while convincing myself that I must have been the problem. This video was a God-send, a reminder that I am concocting an unrealistic fantasy about how things are with him in his new life without me. Thank you, Stephanie. I feel so much more at peace after listening to what you had to say. ❤

I dont know how to move on from the trauma. Its like half of me is dead. He destroyed my life. 💔😭

You really made my day confirming that narcissists can’t change. I dated a narcissistic sociopath- he even admitted the sociopath part. You are right these people are pure evil the one I dated was. No matter how it looks on the outside it’s inner turmoil on the inside and it won’t last

I literally listen to this every single time I start to miss my ex. You always always always lift my spirits and bring me to my senses. Do you do one on one counseling ?

"Kick me when I down" is his favorite. Well, hurting me in ANYWAY, and EVERY WAY, He has told me "He gets off on making me suffer."

I'm so glad that I found you on here! I was recently discarded from my narcissistic husband of almost 2 years. He is currently seeing someone. It happened as soon as he kicked me out. The past few months have been like a nightmare dealing with all the temper tantrums. Being discarded did hurt but it is a blessing in disguise. I am still struggling but I have supportive family and friends, and even his family that are helping me get through it. When I first started watching your videos I was so shocked to hear you. It was like you were living with me and knew my husband. It's sad and nice to know I'm not alone. Your words are very encouraging. 💜

Stephanie, I know this video is old. But I wanted to make a comment. My ex discarded my 4 years ago, because he said "we argued too much". After watching your videos, I now realize he was a narcissist and i was his narcissistic supply. Although we had some good times, the mask came off slowly, but quickly. He always blamed me for everything, and until this very day, refuses to take any accountability or responsibility for any of his actions or part in the relationship. Although I go though the normal stages of grief and mourning the relationship I thought I had, and the person I thought he was, I realize that I was a people-pleaser and co-dependent to him. In addition, your videos have taught me that he will never be able to be empathetic and sit in a space for me, to be able to see the things that he could have worked on, that would've made our relationship better. Ever since he left, I've been trying to get back with him, knowing in the back of my mind, that despite how good the beginning of our relationship was, that the person I first met in our relationship is gone and this is the real him, as the mask came off long ago, again, slowly but quickly. Like you''ve mentioned many times, I had left the door open for 4 years, because I loved him, really hoped that he would change to be the person who I met at the beginning of our relationship, but that will never happen because of his narcissitc personality disorder, and his inability to be an empath, and sit in a space for me, or for himself, to deal with his own feelings. As I stated I left the door open for 4 years, in hopes of us getting back together, and with that, he would call every now and again. He call randomly, we talk for a few weeks or months, (we'd argue or not argue), he'd disappear, and then the same thing would happen months later, and I was truly on a hampter wheel merry go round. Because I loved him and had hope that we would get back togerher, I stayed celibate and did not have relations with anyone one else for the 4 year period, because I only wanted to be intimate with him, and be with him. He said several times that there was no one else. However, my intuition and the Holy Ghost reported unto me, that there was in fact someone else, and that my ex started talking to him while he and I were together. He didn't start talking to the person after he discarded me like yesterdays trash, he was talking to this person, during the same time he was talking to me, which means he was cheating and having an emotional, and probably physical affair with the person. To add, without getting graphic, he would text me sometimes and tell me the XXX rated stuff he wanted to do with me. And I think about that now. He was trying to have sex with me, while he left me to talk to someone else. And he had the audacity to say in converaation during one of the hamster wheel merry go round moments of us talking where, as I mentioned, he would contact me every few months or so, he stated in a particular conversation, (also this is he conversation where I thought it would lead to us getting back together, now, I am glad it didn't), "Maybe we need to wear condoms", after I started multiple times to him that I was not looking to be with anyone else, or be intimate with anyone else, except him. Now looking back on the conversation, I see that he was really deflecting, he he was the one using condoms, and having sex with someone else, but wanted to make it seem like I was the one out here really just being a hoe. And, that's the gaslightings and manipulation tactics he would use all of the time. As today is Saturday, December 31, 2022, I am not waiting until midnight to close and lock this door and chapter of my life, I am starting right now. Again, although I grieve and mourn the relationship I thought I had, and the person I thought he was, because at one point, I really wanted to marry him, I realize that he is definately a narcissist (and he had the audacity to call me a sociopath one day when we were arguing), that is unhealthy and doesn't know how to be an empath, and sit in a space for me, and take a look in the mirror at the things that he needs to fix, and the things that he needs to start taking acccountability and responsibility for. Your videos have brought clarity, new beginnings, hope and comfort during a dark time of trasformation and healing! Please continue the great work of your practice! I hope to be able to have a session with you one day! Thank you and Gods Blessings to you and your family in 2023! -D

Everything you said was absolutely true I knew from the moment that my ex narcissist got in a new relationship it was all just to hurt me it was the way he went about it that let me know that and what he did after and what he continued to do no healthy person would do something like that yes people move on but a person that truly cares for you won't do that in a way where its hurtful or try to flaunt it purposely all the time the discard alone causes intense sorrow they get off on your emotions and reactions a new relationship is just a distraction for them and they always try to outdo the chaos from the last chaos!! Mine has been gone for 2 months and it's so peaceful I hope he stays away thank God I finally see the light it's normal to miss certain things about a person but then you have to snap back and say no I know who the who they really are take care everyone and protect your peace!!💜💜💜💜

Never forget when I first start dating the narc he kept asking me “what do you have to offer me ? “ lol I should have ran for my life 🤦🏻‍♀️

THEY REPEAT THEIR CRAP TO THE NEXT VICTIM AND THE NEXT......NO Loyalty to ANYONE. What a very good thing to be away from all of it!! Their soulmate??... is with themselves... and the Mirror. Lol

This is such an amazing video - the timing is perfect, and your comments are SO HELPFUL to me! Thank you, Stephanie! I could go on and on here, but suffice to say, your videos have literally helped me beyond words......

Thank you for your videos, they are really helpful in understanding what some are after and how we can all be manipulated. You have helped me to become healthier and stronger in my relationships with people. Keep them coming!!

Being discarded hurts like crazy. I like that you shared a perspective that I had been feeling. That I was discarded because I'm NOT weak, but stood in my true self and couldn't be "broken". Thank you, Stephanie. Your channel has become a part of my gaining the wisdom I need to continue growing, loving, and filling myself with the love I deserve!

I wish I could save the new supply because the new supply isn’t my enemy.

14:54 pain addiction from checking the narc's social accounts. 🍄

I am so so happy that I came across your page. Thank you for helping me get through this moment in time

I truly know that he had a new supply because of the way he talk to me and the demands that were way off the charts he was love bombing his new supply prepping her while he was gaslighting hovering and discarding me! Listening to these videos help me daily 🙏🏾

I don't get, why I would care who he is with after he left. Ladies just keep moving on and don't look back at him anymore.

Such a good point about narcs not being able to empathize even at movies. My ex narc is a celebrity comedian who gets teased by his friends bc he cried at a children’s movie but even he articulated that it wasn’t because of th movie, it was because he was watching it with his son when he had watched it as a kid with his abusive mother so it made him reflect on what a GREAT dad and person he is. All about him

Thanks again Stephanie. I’ve been watching your videos for months now and you have helped me so much. I’ve never known pain like this. I’m so grateful for people like you and these super helpful videos. Thanks again. God bless all of us going through this pain ❤️

You 100% described my exhusband. The more I learn about this, the more clarity and closure I have. Thanks for sharing!

I’m glad I married a narcissist, she showed me how much I should love her ❤️ JUST FROM A DISTANCE!!

Thank YOU Stephanie for being there to process my 2019 breakup so I could understand what I was dealing with and what happened. You were just coming on the scene then. You've been dropping mad wisdom that I still need to hear every now and then.

Thank you so much for this video. My break up was over a year ago, but I was with my ex for 6.5yrs so I’m still healing. You’re so right about the pain that comes with being discarded. It is so painful and most definitely killed what lil ego I already had.