"It's not cocky to be confident and it's not humble to hate yourself" sooo inspirational, thank you Spencer.

Spencer definitely cares about her supporters, she makes us feel so confident and so happy everytime we watch her videos. Keep going spence!!! we love u so much!!

Shifting from “not being alone but being lonely” to “being alone but not being lonely” is an actual GLOW UP ✨💅🏻

spencer thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your experience🤍it really tugged at my heart - i’m so proud of you for coming so far!

I’m currently balling my eyes out. I’ve never felt so much love through a video. I’ve struggled my whole life with bullying from others and from my self. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I wish I could meet you 🥲❤️I love you thank u so much

im in grade 8 and being bullied right now. it's really nice to know that there's someone out there that understands what im going through and that has grown from it. thanks Spencer :)

I'm currently going through a situation where two girls are bullying me and "recruiting" other people to join in by spreading false rumors about me, gossiping about me, and just saying really means about me like she's ugly, immature, childish, unpopular, irrelevant, etc. It's incredibly hurtful as I also deal with my own insecurities that make their words hurt twice as much. And to top it off, they're always finding ways to tarnish my reputation and it's hard to explain my side of the story because they believe everything those girls say about me. But, this video really makes me feel more comforted and hopeful that things will turn around for the better. Moral of the story: bullying is horrible. Don't do it to anyone.

I’m 31 and it still hurts 😢. Senior year of high school I was bullied by the friend group I was in. It was my best friend’s friends. I wish I would have had the strength to ditch them all and go alone, but I had no wise counsel about the situation so I didn’t know any better. Today I know that bullies are very insecure people and hate the light that you have. Jesus and many good people in the Bible were hated and ostracized, and that comforts me.

Who else is literally soo inspired by Spencer and her content !!! 💗

You were bullied and scapegoated my friend. This should never happen to anyone. I understand how you feel, because I've also been there. You are wonderful. There are too many toxic narcissists out there these days. If you are an EMPATH, narcissists are always going to try to come into your space. Stay smart. Being alone is painful. But never forget, it's better to be rid of toxic friends than in their midst. These jerks will reap what they sow. Hugs. ❤

Can we be besties?! I’m serious. You are amazing and we have so much in common! ❤️

I hate when people do nothing when it comes to harrasment. It makes me understand thats not a one person problem it is more of a society issue.

Some girls are just so insecure that they take it out on others and it’s horrible. Spencer is so sweet and I can’t believe that this happened to her. She’s so strong to share it! 💕💕💕

Remember, if you have hater, bullies, etc. You are doing something right in your life. People will always hate you/on you and there is nothing you can do about it. Just know that if everyone loves you it's fake love because not every person is going to love you, having haters is the best thing that could happen to you bc that let's u know that other people notice the good in ur life but they just want to make you feel bad right along with them. Misery loves company.

Im 14 turning 15... My whole life I've been bullied like you say, since grade 4. Being a pre teen and all is like going into a new world. I was bullied for a big forehead and furthermore, I'm really dark skin. My so called 'friends' bullied me secretly. I thought I finally found a place where I belong but shock on me! I always had a bad gut feeling about them but I ignored.... Because of them I bullied other people who were just minding their own business. Until this day I regret what I did but I didn't mean it intentionally. But I thank God that I learnt from my mistakes. In grade 6 I moved into a Catholic school. Even though it's strictly religious, the students in that school..... They always comment on my body because even though I have a thin body, my stomach is gigantic. Normally I feel most confident with a crop top so.... yeah.... They call me a whore and a slut because I show my hands, chest, etc. Today I couldn't take the hate anymore. I thought no one cared about me. I don't have a friend so far. I'm used to it but sometimes I feel devastated that theres no one I can share my happiness and sadness. It was just today that I felt like to commit suicide. That's when I got this video and trult it was a sign from God. I'm not really open to my parents because when I tell them about my problems, it crushes their soul a little so I dont want them to carry all my issues. I just wanted to put it out there. Never do I comment on a video but I had to on this one. So anyone who's going through this, you're not alone. Thank You Spencer. May God bless you. I'll try to talk to my parents 😉

The people that did bully you probably feel so foolish now, not just because your famous, but because of how confident you are and how you own yourself. You've grown so much from then but are still owning yourself for who YOU are, ILY🥰

Spencer, u turned that negativity into your power and positivity that's what makes you special 🌻✨🥰

i love the energy spencer radiates 💛💛 im 14, and she honestly stands as such a role model to me as I'm sure she is to so many others. her videos really inspire me, and honestly, spencer and so many other strong people like her have changed me so much! since I was quite young, I've always felt quite insecure about certain things, and im so happy with myself rn. like ngl, I doo get quite insecure at times and struggle with weight related thoughts, bUUTTT its getting so so good, and im able to realise these patterns and teach myself that media is differently presented to how real life actually is like. i love spencer barbosa, and you 💗 just like, thank you for being awesome

Your happiness is NEVER obnoxious. Anyone saying otherwise are sad and insecure people who are very jealous of your shining beautiful smile, amazing contagious energy and liveliness. (Even I am a little jealous of you Spen.) You are everything I want to be. I want to be able to feel as confident of being myself as you are. I wish you always stay as happy as now, in this video. We love you.

Spencer is honestly such an amazing person.She is so kind and resilient and better than any Well Being teacher I've ever had !!!Seriously,I don't understand how anyone could ever have bullied her,she's so the type of person I'd want to be friends with X x

Girl, I totally get you. I was bullied too before high school, and then by the end of high school betrayed by those I thought were gonna be lifelong friends. If we had gone to the same school, we would have been great friends 🥲.

Literally watching this is gym class trying to hold in my tears from what the girls just said to me 😭

part of me can hardly beleive a girl this beautiful and amazing went through all that😭. in some way its comforting to know that you can still be great even if you don't have any friends at school.

Spencer!! START A PODCAST WOMAN!! You are so amazing and I'm so glad that I found your channel because you've helped me soooooooo much, and I know you'll probably will never see this comment but I want you to know I totally understand ALL of what you've just said, I've just started High School which I love like academically and I'm lucky because I go to a small school, But socially it's kinda hard, I'm a very quite person and I've had a lot of anxiety and stuff, still do, but because I've been through some shit and other kids haven't I feel very.....different?? But I thank GOD every single day that I've been through what was possibly the worst few years of my life, because I learnt so much from it I would NOT be the person I am right now and I think that you've had the same situation, you've learnt so much from being bullied.....AND LOOK AT YOU YOUR GORGEOUS FUNNY AND SUCH A INSPIRING PERSON AND YOU ARE HAPPY AND LOVING YOURSELF WHICH I LOVE YOU FOR AND IS WHY WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS IS SUCH AN IMPORTANT DAILY THING FOR ME!! You make me so happy love your good energy, I'm sorry that this comment is so long, Oh and also I've ALWAYSSSSSSS wanted a big sister and you are such a positive female role model for me!!!!!!!! Don't ever feel bad about your self your awesome and a lot of people here think so I love you for being you!! Xx Oh also there is this one girl I go to school with and have known her for my whole life but she is extremely toxic to me and tears me down constantly and is super jealous for me being good at a lot of things but everytime I try and stand up for myself........It gets worst she is a spoiled kid and doesn't like the word, no, So I find myself always in awkward situations which is hard for me with being so quite and anxiety because I can't just say, no, and she always gets her way, but maybe it's me because as I've just said I've know her all my life so she's probably just used to me being so easy to boss around, so sorry I know it's my problem and not yours but do you have any advice???????? I'm always kind to everyone but at some point I think I need to draw a line, and also I'm so used to it I just have to kinda deal with it, Ahhhhhhhh I know this is like the longest comment ever but as I said I've ALWAYSSSSSSS wanted a sister so I've got a life time of questions hehe xx Also so sorry about the I hate Spencer club, I would NOT sign it : ( Xx but look at you now!! Love you xxoo

9:17 literally shocked me so much! How could a principal say such a thing? If a girl did that to a boy she would be called psychotic and the principal would DEFINITELY do something about that

It’s crazy that you got bullied this much because you’re actually so beautiful and down to earth. I feel like we totally wouldve been friends if we went to school together. Also I never fit in either, I had my fair share of sitting alone at lunch. It really can be devastating not having the positive highschool experience you’re always promised growing up, and never finding a friend group that you grow up with or eventually have at your wedding.

i’m in my last year of high school and last year was the worst year of my entire life i hated myself and my friends didn’t feel like friends at all so i really feel you on this one.i have a lot of social anxiety and i’m still hanging out with the same friends but i’m trying my best to just go one day at a time and seeing you make this video really lifted me up and i now rlly understand that other girls just like me do go through these things but they still turn out amazing so thanks again for this

im sick right now, I have to quarantine from my family, and I feel like staying in bed forever. but, when Spencer posted, it made my day soooo much better. thank you so much spencer!! love you!

Definitely start a podcast. Your voice is so soothing to listen to and you have great information.

This is the most helpful bullying video to watch. All these other vids talk about some step by step way to talk back to bullies or be nice to them. She actually goes into the details no one wants to admit. I love her sm 😭

This literally made me cry, thank you so much Spencer for opening up with us and we are here for u bestie!

Ya know, I have dealt with bullying and I am still in school. I've been doing virtual ever since covid started and I have felt so alone and grown way more insecure. But watching your videos has helped me so much spencer. You inspire me and so many more people. Thank you

Stawp because this queen has literally turned my life upside down! She literally is so real and such an inspiration. You can tell she truly cares about not only her beautiful self but everyone! Love you forever spencer I owe it all to you!

Omg, I love you so much Spencer. I have become so inspired since I have been watching your content. I am so proud that you have come this far. Never ever ever stop smiling. Love you. ❤️🥰

I'm SO glad you're at the confidence level you're at now. You've come out so incredibly strong on the other side of that bullying and are using that experience to help others who may be going through the same thing. I absolutely love watching your videos, you're a light in this world, you're a true inspiration ❤

I was so insecure about my body before I found you. You’re the coolest internet big sister ever!!!!! I love you and your confidence! Never stop for anyone!! 💜💜💜

Spencer i am not even kidding you are my favourite influencer. Literally when i wake up in the morning and open insta i want your post or reel to be there on my feed to motivate me . I have been so inspired by you that i am in a journey of loving myself no matter what because i did not before . I literally love you and happy for you for coming this far

You’re amazing. I’m in high school right now and everything you described was so spot on. It makes me feel comforted that it is all temporary, and I really needed this video. I love you Spencer ❤️❤️

THANK YOU BESTIE FOR THIS BEAUTIFUL VIDEO! I WILL SUPPORT YOUR PODCAST SO MUCH I REALLY WANT YOU TO START A PODCAST BECAUSE YOU ARE AWESOME & SUCH AN INSPIRING PERSON UR VIDS ARE AWESOME 👏. KEEP GOING SPENCER, YOU ARE DOING GREAT AND ARE MAKING MILLIONS OF INSECURE PEOPLE FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES. LOVE YOU SPENCER 😘🥰❤️

Your so beautiful and give the best advice, your always in a good mood and always brighten up my day. I appreciate you and you are literally the greatest person alive. I was always the confident girl at school that everyone always picked on and everyone was jealous of. Your such a ray of sunshine and you didn’t deserve any of that Love you Spencer❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

I just want to say that this incredibly helped me tonight, as a mother of a 4th grader , who's currently struggling with bullying, your content helps her feel like her "buckets filled" and shows her she isn't alone in this experience. She and I both really appreciate the help. It takes a team and we appreciate your kindness

Spencer, THANKYOU for talking about this - this is something I wish I could've heard when I was younger, but it was also so good to hear now. You are so brave to talk about this and yes yes yes to the podcast!!

I’m going through similar things right now. High school is absolutely brutal(the girls in particular). You have no idea how much joy your content brings me, thank you

As someone who has been badly bullied since a young age, I can't explain to u how much Spencer's videos help me. They boost up my confidence and yea she is the ultimate big sister ,friend kinda figure who I love. Keep going spencer We love u! And we r always gonna stay by your side

Dear Spencer, Truly thank you for this video, I love how you're so emotional. I went through these things, not anymore tho, but you are such a good person, please stay like this and never change because I stan you gurlll. Thank you, and I love your videos, they are soooo helpful.

Hey Spencer! Thank you so much for posting about this and bringing awareness to it. It means so much to me and every single one of your fans that you would take time to make an inspirational video like this. Even though I don’t know you I feel like I’m friends with you and I love you! This video has helped me a lot. I’ve been struggling with mean girls for three years now. I’m in 7th grade and like you said you felt, I’m depressed and I feel like no one cares what I’m going through and no one cares about me. But I know that I have people in my life that love me. And I great reminder that you said was you can stand up for yourself but don’t be a bully. I have so much anger in my heart towards these girls and I know I shouldn’t feel this way about anyone, I know I need to love them but I’m truly truly struggling with it. This girl acted like she was my friend for about a year, then she turned on me. And long story short she’s turned everyone (almost) against me and spread so many rumors about me. And I have a KZfaq channel as well and I told a few people about it and they’re making fun of me for it. So with that part I understand. But your channel has helped me through all of this. I’m trying to learn to be confident and trying to learn to love myself, but it’s not easy. Sorry if this is too long but thank you for making this and always being an amazing kind beautiful person!! Stay strong and ily!

OMG SPENCER I LITERALLY LOVE YOU. I AM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR HOW FAR YOU HAVE COME. YOU LITERALLY MADE ME CRY I LOVE YOUUU. YOU WERE SUPER HELPFULLLLL. KEEP UP YOUR AMAZING CONTENT, EVERYONE REALLY APPRECIATES IT🤍

I love your personality! You aren't annoying, you are happy and joyful! You rock! :D

This was really really helpful. Thanks Queen. Keep being you. I would love to see a "you are enough" podcast talking all about why we should love ourselves. That would be amazing. Have the best day ever Spencer

Amazing Spencer! I loved hearing your stories of being bullied from Grade 4-now and how you've been able to bounce back from hate and bullying with so much grace. I've also felt like a misfit and somewhat of an outcast my whole life, I've experienced so much rejection that deeply affected my confidence and to this day is something I am still working through. It is amazing how quickly you were able to turn your mindset around, you never let the hate effect how your felt about yourself long term and you never let it stop you from continuing to put yourself out there, incredible.

Thank you Spencer!!I was literally so pissed that some girl at school made a comment about my beautiful MOM today.You made me remember that she has some family issues so I tried not to return any hurtful words because bullies really are projecting. I'm not satisfied by the fact that she has any problems or anything I'm just saying hurt people hurt people and its important to show love whether or not you or them are broken.Great advice,you've got a subscriber forever in me♡

To be honest, this video really helped me. I really needed someone to talk to me like this. You have been a big part of my life. This might sound kind of clingy, but u help me treat others better and treat myself better. I found you on tiktok one time and started following up, and then I noticed the big good impact you have on my confidence. By the way, thank you, and ur doing great too.

Your literally my inspiration to do better in life, even when I've sunken to the lowest points. I'm so glad that you share everything to us and we know that we shouldn't feel ashamed. Good for working on yourself and coming to this point in your life!

thank you for making this video. really, I cant's express how thankful I am to see a person openly talk about a topic like this. It was a really emotional video for me to watch since I struggled with similar situations when I was younger and honestly I believe people don't understand how their words and actions can literally break a person from the inside out. Sometimes you feel like you'll never be able to move on.

Spencer is so inspirational and I really needed this video right now, I’m currently really struggling not with my friendships but a few girls in my school hurting me and being so rude to me. I love you spencer you are my biggest role model and have helped me change the way i take things and think about myself 🥰x

YOU SHOULD DO A PODCAST SPENCER, YOUR VIDS ARE SOOO GOOD AND SO NICE AND COMFORTING AND ILY SO MUCH 💕

the beautiful power you hold after all these people trying to bring you down and now they see you as an extremely confident, powerful, and beautiful person inside and out who advocates for other people to find peace in themselves is unreal. that is such an amazing thing to have.

hii spencer! It's so refreshing to hear your story, you have such a kind heart and you're so positive. I have some issues of my own and one of my friends tries to help but ends up making it worse or I just feel more insecure. I honestly don't think she means it in a bad way, she just does it wrong that's all. I really wanna focus on myself and my work, so these tips really helped me and I wanna grow confident because I know my worth, and you're definitely helping me achieve it. You've helped me sm, thank you!

I’m ten years older than you but you’re an inspiration in my life. You have taught me so much and always look forward for your long videos. Keep being you!! Blessings!!

I love you Spencer, you are such a inspiration to everyone. Never stop doing you queen ❤️❤️❤️❤️

honestly, I love your content so much it makes me want to keep my head up and keep going to school everyday. you have been like the big online sister i've never had, i'm so glad that you are posting things about body positivity, getting bullied, self love etc

I love your energy and your videos! I’m glad I’m not the only one that feels cheated out of this big promised “high school experience” because I never found the big “perfect” friend group. It really sucks just being completely ostracized from everyone, and with that it’s so difficult not to think something is wrong with yourself to be excluded like that. I just hope that not having friends and being isolated is just a phase, and growing up along with everyone else maturing will lessen a lot of the loneliness. I am so happy you are doing well!! You’re my inspiration that gives me something to look forward to once high school is over🤍

ik i’m watching this in the future, i felt the same way Spencer felt through middle and high school. I’m in 7th grade and i’ve been bullied for my weight and my sexuality and i felt so bad abt myself. but i’ve learned to be confident. Spencer, if your reading this, you made me feel a lot more confident and i’ve learned to love myself, so thank you💕💕

SPENCERRRR!!! you are so beautiful! You have helped me overcome my body image issues and insecurities. I’m in 10th grade and it is really hard but you are helping me through it. Also can we pls have a skincare/makeup routine?? you always look flawless 💕💕💕

Thank you so so much for making these. These videos have helped me through so so much, I used to be so insecure and you helped me and now I love myself. Im so sorry you went through this but you stayed strong and I look up to you

watching this video just made me feel so much better about myself. I was feeling so down and insecure the last couple of weeks and this video made me realise I shouldn't care what other people think of me and to just be myself. thank you so much spencer, you continue to inspire me

Discrimination is just an illusion and everyone is beautiful.

Spencer I truly love you,you are like a big sister to me,you are my inspiration. I'm so sorry for what you had been through,but I want you to know that's you are an amazing person and you deserve everything❤️🥰

I love how you can go through crap and still care about others and be so kind

Spencer thank you for making this video I've never felt so happy before like this, you're so brave and you've come so far into such a confident and happy person, I aspire to become confident and happy like you. I've struggled with depression for 2 years and a bit, and I'm being bullied horribly at school, I also find myself wanting to not be alive and just feeling so alone and really not fitting in with everyone or even my friends this video has helped me so much, you will be in my mind when I walk into school again and face another day of bullying

Thank you so much Spencer. You don’t know how much this helped me! Love you! 💕

Aww I feel so bad this makes me cry 😭 I’m glad that your way more happier

What a mature perspective. Proud of you girl - keep shining. From someone that was bullied growing up; 10+ years later… I’ve discovered that our bullies are people that are actually hurting.. hurt people…Hurt People

I love how she promotes her bold girl vibe to conquer all negatives through, you got it girl, whenever I am down I always watch her videos and it lifts me back up , thank youuuu

(i hope you see this) i have been watching you for a while, my friends have delt with bullying too and i always stood up for them , i shared your channel with them and we were all inspired, after watching this we decided to start an “i love spencer barbosa club” . ❤️ on a less deep note: gurl i love ur energy, and if ur ever struggling just remember, u look 🔥🔥 24/7 , i adore your vibe, your kinda like the big sis i never had

i am so happy that someone like u is on social media because your bullying story is just like mine, i was bullied at grade 5 by a groupe of girls that i though they were my "besties" we were on school trip to and i heard them talking shit about me bcz i was fat, but that day our techear spent a whole hour talking about bullying and how to be confident, and i never fit in too, i changed school last year and i don't have close frinds like i know alot of peaple and no budy hates me but at the lunch break i stay alone in the library every one thinks that i love reading but i actually read just when i feel lonely . anywayys i love your vids keep going you are making me love myself ❤

OMG i love you so much 😩. I feel so confident after i watch her videos and she reminds me of that older sister i never had. Thank you for just being you! Please never stop posting

i rlly needed this advice ilysm❤ spencer ur lifesaver for me, literally.

Queen she deserves all the love and happiness she has helped me so muchh 🥺🦋❤

u give the best vibe and help me sm with my confidence! keep going we love you 💕

You are so brave for coming out of that horrible time of your life and coming out stronger. It literally takes a lot of courage to do that and talk about it and also help others love themselves. I am literally so proud of you. Like just ...aaahhhhhhh love you❤🦋

Hey, Spencer I just want to say thank you for being yourself and teaching others on how to feel confident. I’m the same age as you and I’ve struggled with a lot of the same issues. Thanks for being the bigger person with the people that bullied you. It shows how strong of a person you are.

I was being bullied pretty bad too for over 6 years by Girls and Guys as well! I feel the pain and they did a pretty big mess in my head and messed up my confidence.. You make me feel like my body isn't the problem even if i'm nearly 23yo I still have a "lot" of problem accepting me! So proud of the person you become and always smiling!

Not the “I hate ______ club” 💀💀💀 how childish can you get😂

thank you so much for this!! i’m dealing with mean girls rn and you literally made me feel SOOOOO much better!! ❤️❤️❤️

I love how you continued to do what you love ( making videos ) even when the bullies tried to tear you down for it, because look at you now! You have built a strong character and your delightful personality is something that all can aspire to. Such a great role model!

Hi, I just wanna say I’m proud of you for getting over this time. I know how hard that is. ❤️❤️❤️

if it makes you confortable now, know that you will never ever feel alone again ❤️ we got u thank you so much for inspiring us.

I always walk around like I'm so happy but internally I feel horrible, some people make fun of me and I try to brush it off but you make me feel so much better thank you Spencer

Hey spencer! I‘m so impressed. Your way of expressing your later emotions and feelings is amazing but also sad, I‘m literally crying. Can people really be so bad? I mean it‘s unbelievable. Thank you for sharing your story and being so confident about yourself, your body and your past. You are amazing! 🤍🤍🤍

I found you channel about 3 weeks ago and I'm so glad I did. Thank you for this amazing video as it really helped me realize that I'm not alone. I love every video you make and love looking at your posts and stories to see what kind of motivating or inspiring things you have to say 💜

You boost my confidence so much I love you so much!!❤️❤️

Im sorry for everything you've been through spencer... And honestly i was having a bad day but u and this vid made my day MUCCHHH MUCCHHHH better ily spencer💖

i know this was posted awhile ago, but i just want to say thank you so much spencer. i always feel like i'm the only teenager who doesn't go out on weekends and is more often than not alone due to all of the post i see of everyone in their big group of friends going on vacation together and overall celebrating life with each other. i've been friends with a group of girls since 5th grade and have watched the friend group expand into what is now. i've noticed some of the girls i've been close with since 2015 slowly drift away from me without really understanding why. i've seen my "friends" plan fun activities to do together without including me right in front of me. i've seen my siblings have the social life i've longed for and have never felt so alienated. however, this video has made feel me so seen and reading all the comments have made me feel less alone. thank you again for posting this video :)

I had this friendgroup too. I was always the third wheel but never noticed it. Thankfully I realised it one day and found new friends i was actually happy with. It’s really important to talk about these times so no one feels alone when they realise it

I used to be a bully but unfortunately a few years later circumstances changed and I was the one who was bullied. So I was on each side and tbh I am thankful for that experience. I’m really sorry for the mean things I did and hurtful words I said but without it I wouldn’t be who I’m now. And I just want to say that I’m looking forward to all your videos, instagram posts, stories… You make me a better person.

this beautiful, kind and loving girl is my new reason to keep going

Hey Spencer! Thank you so much for opening up to us and sharing your experiences. This video will really help many girls (and guys) who are struggling with this. Everything you say is so motivational and inspirational and I can really relate with that one girl who didn't want anyone to be friends with me, but I just had to tell myself that this wasn't true. Look at you now: you're influencing so many people around the world and you are an amazing person!

I feel that human nature in general makes some have the need to feel that they are better than others. It is a constant battle to overcome this tendency. Some are successful in this, others never do. This has gone on as long as humans have been on the planet.

I've never related to someone more. Like this is basically what I'm going through rn in hs. It's so hard