Child: *blood types B* Asian parents: *disappointed*

Child:listens to cardi B Parent : LISTEN TO CARDI A!

The Asian Grading Scale: A-Average B-Bad C-Can't Eat Dinner D-Don't Go Home F-Find a New Family

My parents reaction with my marks: 40 below: wtf is wrong with u? 50-60 : dis is not i want 70-80 : pass below 90! 90-99 : why don't u get 100 instead?!! 100 : hmmm.. Don't be too proud of yourself, maybe the test was too easy

Parenting 101: *Don't live through your kids*

"unless she got 800 then i would hug her" damn i feel so sorry for these kids

You cannot live your failed dream though your kids. The kids has their own dream to fulfill.

“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.” - Carl Jung

These parents think they are making their kids succesfull but in reality they are making them depressed and unsocialized

Asian grading system A: acceptable B: Beating C: can’t have dinner D:Don’t come home F: Find new family

The girl that got accepted in yale didnt cry because she got accepted but cried because her mom finally hugged her

Apparently not long after this documentary was filmed, Sophie was arrested for possession of marijuana. Can't say i blame her. Maybe if her Dad was more supportive of her 760 score she wouldn't have relapsed. Karma.

“You can’t argue with a stubborn Chinese man” Words of wisdom.

Kid: I got a perfect SAT score! Parents: Not good, but not awful.

The parents will regret this later once the resentment boils over from their children. Once their kids move out, they will learn that their biggest regret was not bonding with their children.

The look on Sophie's face when her dad wasn't that happy with her getting 760 on both subjects just sucked the life out of her.

when sophie was overflowing with joy and called her dad only to be disappointed yet again, i felt that

Poor girl has no me-time. If I was her, I would’ve had a mental breakdown

There are three types of birds 1. Those that learn to fly early 2. Those that learn to fly late And 3. Those that don’t bother flying and lay an egg to make their children fly. I believe most asian parents are 3.

“you can party when you get older” “you can party after school” “you can party when you get into harvard” “you can party when you get a job” “you can party after work” “you can party when you retire” “haha too bad you’re dead now”

She gets rejected not because of her grades but because in her application she lacks character, due to her parents making her study all the time that means she doesn’t to sports, after school activities and she doesn’t have other commitments so universities don’t see what’s so special abt her

*Gets 100% on SAT* Asian parent: Do better.

If the cameras weren’t there.... the parents would’ve taken out the old sandal...

Chinese Parents : " Get good grades " Children : " What's the highest you guys have ever gotten " Chinese Parents : "You want beating!?"

What breaks me the most is when I hear their voices. Their tones express all their feelings. You can just hear their exhaustion and emptiness.

They didn’t accept her because she didn’t join any clubs or activities. Like colleges want more from a student than number

10:50 those parents are just acting calm in front of the cameraman. They just waiting for the camera man to leave.

"I hope you will yell at yourself." "FOR WHAT?" is the single most relatable thing ive ever seen

Child: *gets 760 out of 800* Parent: *"noT So Bad, NoT sO gOoD"* Honestly I'd like to see them do better

“I’m not special enough” when she said that, it broke my heart

grew up in HK, I hate the way HKers, mainland Chinese, or some other Asian parents raise their children. In my childhood, 80% of parents around me talked to their children in a very traditional way which includes scolding, yelling, blaming, abusing, everything was just too negative. But now I think things got better and may be half of parents are like that. On the flip side, majority of parents in China still talk to their kids without respect, as if children have no feelings like robot. I personally think that children need love, care, encouragement, company , and respect way more than just lecturing or threatening. I am treating my children like my friends, I joke with them, I talk to them with respect, I play and share my experiences with them. I praise and encourage them a lot too. I get serious sometimes only when they cross the boundary. They do feel motivated to learn things when they get recognized and complemented by me. When I was a child, I never got complemented by my parents, they would just said I was stupid and useless, and compared me with other better kids. What's the damn point of hurting your own kids' feelings I mean. Furthermore, adults talk to adults in very negative way too, I understand that human get jealous sometimes , but there's no point to cut someone's head to make yourself feel taller. Moreover, most of the teachers I met also verbally abused their students, they basically gave up on those students that didn't do well at school. Western values and cultures are just too different. In comparison, western parents would say " love you" to their kids almost everyday. But a big portion of Asian parents would not even say that to their children in the whole life. Don't get me wrong that Asian/Chinese Culture is all bad, they study hard, work hard, they are family oriented etc etc...But when it comes to parenting and teaching at school , it's just too cruel. Children with a fragile heart deserve more love, encouragement, patience, recognition and positive complements.

I’m 16, Spain. My mom doesn’t really care about grades, she just wants me to pass so I can study whatever I want later on. She also lets me go out whenever I want until whenever. I’m really grateful for that. It normally doesn’t happen, but I guess freedom is a very important value in my family as well as having as many options as I can.

If Sophie was allowed to take extra curriculars such as dancing and she excelled in it. It would have most likely boosted her chance of getting into an ivy league

Did these Asian parents ever think that their kids aren’t getting accepted because they aren’t well rounded? Their kids are all academic, don’t participate in anything. The kids don’t have time. If you only have the grades, you aren’t getting into an ivy.

These parents should know that these “good” schools are actually just tougher and gives you a degree with a better title

this is a perfect example of conditional love. their affection towards her is based on her academic success.

780 in math??? Holy shit, give her some credit. Do these parents realize how high these test scores are?

Hahaha wow if the cameras weren't around they'd be beating their asses

I’m grateful that my Asian parents don’t pressure me when studying.

It's so sad that parents and school influence students to believe their self-worth depends on getting into a top-tier university.

Bro it’s like the only F she ever received was her gender on her report card.

“Unless you gets 800 I would hug her.” Ok I can say that this parent failed as being a parent.

Girl: "Dad!, I got 760!" Dad: "aw I wish you did better" I am Indian so we are very similar to other Asians culturally when it comes to material successes. This was me in the 9th grade when I showed my mom my report card full of straight B's and B+'s. My parents had moved to a school district with more rich white people so i would get a better education. So my basically spit on report card and started yelling about what disappointment I am and how they had to sell the house to move here. I would get around 80-87 on my exams and would get As on report cards the next semester and that still was not good enough! and from they were comparing me to they were right. The sons and daughters of their indian friends had straight As and not even A-'s. They were honor roll kids who were excelling in school, my parents held me to that standard when I knew i could never compare self them to those kids and never wanted to. It was all about pleasing my folks and not thinking for myself. I was close with my English teacher and told him about the pressures I had home, he even would send notes in report cards stating how much of good job i was doing and told my parents to appreciate the progress I'm making. Eventually he even got my guidance counselor to set up a meeting with my parents, they brought in research showing that pressurizing adolescents to excel and constantly telling them that they are no good is detrimental to their mental health. Anyways they did not care to listen to information on how to raise their kids by white people. They also made the point on how I am an first generation immigrant that does not have the luxury of being like other white kids, and that I have no family or relatives in America to take care of after they are gone. So unlike spoiled white kids I was going to have to provide for myself. I had my own issues and i'm not entirely blaming my parents as I do take responsibility for my life but this pressure to be brilliant pushed me downward spiral of mental health issues. Fast forward with legal issues and few stays at rehab, I ended having to drop out of high school. I understand that all parents want is for their kids to live better than they did, but this pressure to go above and beyond has great possibility of Back firing and could make the kid revolt against what their parents want. I've grown being ashamed of indian culture because of all this and honestly am not proud of my heritage. A great problem with our generation is that we crave material things so much, well that how we are raised to be!! dont just call us entitled millennials! your reap what you sow! which is our fucked generation of adults. Anyways I'm in college now and chose a liberal arts school full of music majors, there's a lot of hippies and stoners at my college that are living life one step at time and thats they way it should be

When she says that if Harvard (or some other Ivy League) doesn't accept her, then they don't know what kind of person they'll accept. How about someone who does sports, interacts with the community, and is helpful rather than just studious.

This is making me so angry. No child should every be pressured like this😠

Being honest, if my parents were like this I would run away.

the problem is that after they are forced to live up to insane expectations, they don't live a happy life as adults. Yes, they are academically successful, but that is only a small piece of what makes a happy life. These people probably lack other skills, such as social interaction, relationships, self esteem and so much more.

Seeing this video made me realize what amazing parents I have. I have always being good with grades and all, but there are times where I have too much pressure and get C’s or B’s and my mom always hugs me and tells me how proud of me she is because she sees that I am working hard and that even without an A or a perfect SAT score, she believes on me and that I will have a very good future. I could not ask for better parents ngl. ❤️

3:23 Dad: I hope you will yell at yourself. Daughter: For what?! I burst out laughings.

WTF 770 is fucking damn near perfect

imagine spending ur entire childhood studying. goes to college, the med school. then u finally become a doctor in mid 30s. works stressful job till ure 60-70. what a waste of life. u lived ur entire life making money that u never had the time to enjoy it when u were young and youthful.

I have Indian parents, which for most of my childhood wouldn’t accept anything other than As. But when I got into 8th and and freshman year, they started to realize that if I focused on acing hard AP classes, that’s all I would be able to do and nothing else. My parents are super supportive of me now. Of course they won’t be extremely happy if I got a C, and they still prioritize my studies and grades, but they understand me and let me explore what I want to.

Asian kid: *Listens to 50 cent* Asian parent: *Y u no listen to 100 cent*

"You can't argue with a stubborn Chinese man."

I’m Asian and I understood this was the early 2000s but dude, this is crazy af. My parents were immigrants and so am I. They never got a chance to study high school due to financial difficulties yet they’ve built a quite comfortable life completely from scratch. Education is important but seriously, as long as ur kid can get a job and be able to feed themselves when they reach adulthood, why stress them so much?? It’s sad to watch this video, it’s even sadder that we still have the same pressure in our school system nowadays.

7:37 I feel her pain. It's like 100 punches in the stomach when you realize that whatever you do, it's never enough for your parents.

He thinks UCLA is lower class?! That’s my dream college!!

It broke my heart how she was excited to call her dad, and when she did he wasn’t even happy for her. 7:34

glad my Asian parents aren’t like this lol

As a Japanese who was born and raised in Kyoto in the most traditional way, these american asian kids have it SO easy. My parents were 10 times stricter and harsher on me. I didn't have more than 3 hours of sleep a day from age 12 to age 18. I studied 18 hours a day then had to go to martial arts lessons. If i had complained even once my parents would have kicked me out of the house at 15 years old and told me to manage by myself and i would have never seen them again. And i am a man i had it easy, because girls had to study twice harder because their mothers wanted them to succeed while their father told them that all they needed to do was marry a rich man and have kids (and become slaves of their mother in law). Plus girls on top of studying constantly had to also take care of everything in the house, cleaning, cooking washing up, laundry, and on top of that piano and violin lessons, and in even stricter Japanese families had to learn the tea ceremony, incense ceremony, flowers arranging, calligraphy, etc, ... For me, the lives of these american asian kids feels like a spa. And i should not even complain, at least i am Japanese, if i were Korean, it would be even harder, because there the pressure is twice harder than Japan and the parents also starve the girls to death and send them to plastic surgeon to make sure they look like models, and boy are expected to look like GI Joes (which eventually completely destroys their self-esteem). Asian parents are insanely toxic and the most toxic thing of all is that love that parents have for their kids is not unconditional, you have to deserve it and earn it twith straight A's and impeccable behaviour and when you fail they will scold you and make you feel like you have shamed the entire family since the first ancestor and for generations to come and will tell you that they curse the day you were born, that you are worthless and useless and cost them only worries and money. In the west if a western kid bring home 9 A's and on B the parents will be thrilled and overjoyed and will maybe even get a present for the kid, when i did this, my parents scold me for 3 hours for not getting 10 A's and sent me to my room to study for a full month and brought food to my room, and i was only allowed to leave it to use the toilets, bathe or go to school. And the door was constantly open so that my mother could check on me all the time. When i am asked why the suicide rate of people between age 10 and 18 is so high in Japan, i always answer that my only surprise is that it is not higher.

these parents think that they would be embarrassed if their children don’t get in good universities but little do they know that it’s more embarrassing for ppl to know how much you tortured your children for something that you “couldn’t achieve”.

"I hope you will yell at yourself." wtf...that dad dosnt know how teens work.

The dad that said that he was happy with the 770 honestly seems like a great, loving guy. Surprised nobody else noticed.

They probably arent getting accepted because they’re only focusing on their grades

Kid “mom I got stung by a bee” mom why you not stung by A”

As a person who born and live in asia, a lot of asian parents just care about their pride and external validation

What happened to Sophie is exactly the cause of why so many Asians have complained about being rejected by the Ivy league in recent days. They think it's a racial discrimination issue when at its core, it's just extreme tiger parenting that drove their chances to the ground. These schools don't just care about your grades and tests scores - most of them don't even require tests scores these days. They want well rounded students, meaningful extracurriculars, and demonstrations of leadership. Sophie could have easily gotten into several or all of these schools if she'd had been left enough space to be a normal teenager and explore different passions. Her parents fucked up her future, not to mention her mental health. I know some people will hesitate to qualify that as abuse, but I won't.

I think if she had gotten 800 they would have been like why not 900?

As a Chinese,i can't stop cursing while watching this video,they are your offspring,not slaves,holy fuck!

as an asian son, i must say im so glad my parents aren't like this... i live in an upper middle class family, and obviously the expectations to be the top of the class will always be there, but my parents say their top priority for me is to do what i love. knowing that they will support me no matter what i do is what gives me motivation to study harder. i cant imagine how i would be if my asian parents were like the ones from the video

I also worked for an Asian (Chinese woman) and her son was so sick of her pressure he told me he wished his mom was dead: that shocked me. She was awful though

If my parents did this to me I'd be depressed. I feel bad for these kids, all they want is some free time.

"Dad is gonna be so happy about this." 7:41 her reaction though... it makes me want to cry too..

I'm getting depressed watching this. My immigrant parents never fit the stereotypes of a typical immigrant parent. They didn't pressure me, they made me love learning and as long as I got an education they'd be happy wherever I went. They actually encouraged me to go to a good community college so that I wasn't stressed lol. They made sure that I had fun in my teenage years. I ended up going to Princeton and no I didn't have perfect scores or so many APs, I had my ups and downs, didn't do 1000 ecas. I was just passionate about one thing and I focused on that.

The problem here is focusing too much on grades makes other aspects of your applications weaker. But these are expectations colleges themselves place on asian applicants. URMs have it easy when it comes to colleges.

Yale, Harvard, or Princeton “Everything else is lower class” So Columbia is lower class? Hmm,

If sophies parents let her do extracurriculars she might have been accepted because colleges especially ivy league ones look at that, the schools dont just want robots, im not saying scores arent important but extracurriculars help

It's true that all Children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children

I think it is important to let their kids pick what career they want to follow with guidance of course. But still leaving the path entirely to them. That’s what my mom did for me. When I was younger I wanted to be an art teacher and my mom said ok. Then I wanted to be an author and she said ok I’ll support you. Then I said I wanted to be a cop. Through all of that she supported me, and I always really appreciated her for that.

i got a 790, my parent's reaction? why not 800? we're Asian....not Bsian or Csian for a reason.

*there is a difference between being truly smart vs. being forced to study for a particular exam to get the particular grade. the person who makes the video game always makes more money than the best player playing the game.*

I think this was also one of the things that really fucked me up as well. My parents expected me to do SO WELL that my grades actually started to slip. I hated it, I damn near went into a spiral of depression and lack of motivation and loathing myself. It wasn't until I moved away from my family that I learned that not everything is all based on grades. Right now, I'm going to my dream college, I've got a whole lot of connections and I'm excited to see where the future leads me.

Asian parents grading system A = acceptable B = beating C = can’t have dinner D = don’t come home F = find a new family

Wow, I’m Asian and I’m so glad my parents are not like that!! Yes, they do care about my grades and want me to do well in school, but all they care about is that they want me to be happy in life. They don’t care what job I have, what school I go to, etc. They want what’s best for me and also my siblings. I feel bad for them and I really hope they can find happiness in life and that what their parents can realize what they’ve done and become better people.

She probably didn't get accepted because she didn't do any extra activities like participate in sports or clubs because things like that boost ur chases of getting into college But all her parents wanted her to do is study study study thank god my parents aren't like that Jesus

I'm lucky to say that my parents always support me even when I fail. This pandemic was really challenging to me especially i don't know how to use gadgets that much. When the time comes where it was giving of grades, I was shocked to see a 75 grade in one of my subject. I cried because I was so scared since it was my first time to have that low in my card. I cried so much and trying to figure out how to tell it to my parents. Then my father entered and saw me crying. He saw my card and I told him I'm sorry for that grade. He just hug me and told me he was proud of me. He said he didn't care about the grade because he always see that I was working hard for my studies. And that is enough for him. My mom also told me that every one fails in one point in their life but she told me that they will always be there for me. I'm so lucky to have them.

B's make honey, A's make money

Dad: We need to talk about your report card 😡 Girl: But I got straight A’s!!! Dad: no you didn’t! Look, it says “Gender: F” Girl: but that’s because I’m female! Dad: you can’t use being a girl as an excuse! 😂 that was from a tv show

parents : next time, 500 atleast also parents : 770 is not good also the parents : 800 minimum

What's worse, they're not doing that that for their own kids, they're doing it for their own ideal life and make them their own retirement plan

Every child deserves a parent, but not every person deserves a child.

my asian parents: “at least you get into college we love you”

I dislike how her mom keeps comparing her to her brother

When the mom said "why" (why doesn't the kid want to think about her score after she just finished the exam), I screamed out loud "ARE YOU KIDDING ME?" I feel these kids. Sophie's dad reminds me of my mom.

“Everything else is lower class” My goodness! Sophie’s dad is…something else smh

It broke my heart when that girl didn't get into any of the colleges her parents were pushing her to go to, and she said "I'm not special enough" I understand that these parents are wanting the best for their children. But this obviously isn't good for their mental health. These parents I think forget that these kids have emotions, and they feel and think things, based of their parents approval, because she knows her parents are probably dissappointed in her that she didn't get into these schools. She thinks shes not special enough. Her parents need to drop the pridefulness, go in there and hug their child. If what they say is true, that girl went off and got caught smoking weed when she got into another college, I really don't blame her.

*she always tells her friends and relatives I'm never satisfies with her* "I'm proud of you" YEA ONLY AFTER SHE GOT ACCEPTED INTO A HIGH UNIVERSITY

They reminded me of myself when I studied in my home country for seven years. Everything even ur future is based on how well u did academically. I was at school from 6 am to 5 pm and then when I get home I eat, do my hw, and sleep. That was my whole routine five days a week for seven years. On the weekends I catch up on some sleep and cry a little bit.

I, as an Asian daughter, am going to tell you something I wholeheartedly believe. I have gotten A's in all my classes and only one B in my entire 4 years at high school. I had 3 teachers and a cousin proofread my college essays. But here's the thing: I was never allowed to do any after-school activities because my parents didn't want me to walk home (I live 20 minutes away from school) and they wouldn't let me get a ride from other students' parents (because I'd be "bothering" their parents). Thank goodness, there were during school clubs I was a part of but I was never able to get any volunteer hours done. So when I applied to college and went after top schools like Stanford, Northwestern, and Columbia, I was rejected from them all. Luckily my essays and during-school clubs were good enough to get me into UC Irvine and UC San Diego, but I have a great suspicion that had I been able to do after-school activities, I could have gotten into an Ivy League.

I felt so bad when the girl saw her results after her second time taking the SAT's and was legit jumping for joy at how proud of herself she was and couldn't wait to tell her dad. but nope. still not good enough😒 bruh...you have her constantly studying all day everyday besides when she's showering or sleeping. she even has mad books out while she eats dinner and to top it all off her social life is just completely non-existent. she obviously tried her hardest and that should be enough. dude needs to stop trying to live his dreams through his daughter and cut the poor girl some slack. if I were him I would be proud enough that she really gave it her all and would let her have a few friends sleep over after SAT's to celebrate. he's just an asshole.