Sadly, they don't make them like this anymore. I agree with your statement and I'm in his shoes...I've already excepted my fate. But I was also someone who married once, wife left after 6 yrs.

It sounds like a him problem like Tatum told him and many said if you don't like woman generalizing men,men can't generalize woman either.There is still good woman out there but you need to search for her.

​@@stub4488As a woman, they don't make good men anymore either. They're not traditional, not providers, not protectors, and not even slightly modest. It's hard for both genders to find a partner these days..

@@tisbutascratch2045 😂 Sounds like you’re just trying to turn the tables on men. You’re full of it. Lol

I do like officer Tatum’s take on marriage. However, if both people in the marriage don’t believe in God, then I don’t see the point of marrying. Marriage is a promise before God.

Define "high value woman", please.

@@jest3r5a God fearing biblical Christian woman

Signing some stupid piece of paper to make your relationship "official" is stupid. If two people really care for each other it doesn't matter if you get married or not. Look at divorce rates nowadays, its living proof that "marriage" doesn't just magically solidify your relationship. I just dont see anything wrong with deciding to not have the government involved in your relationship.

@@Cope59 mariage has many benefits espacially for women

​@@TheJulieeaaplease explain the benefits you think I'm missing. I've been with my partner 11 years, we have 4 kids, shared investment accounts, both names on the deed to our home, shared rental properties, POA of each other, own our business together, and everything financially is shared. We have the connection and respect for each other, both of us are completely committed emotionally and physically. Our families recognize us as husband and wife. We wear rings signifying our commitment. I've broken down the taxes and it actually benefits us to file separately (even if we were married legally). Now please correct me if I'm wrong, but, marriage would only benefit me more than our current situation if we divorced. But even then it would only entitle me to his income because everything else is already joint owned so where's the extra benefits 🤔 Also note, I was raised in a household that "stayed together for the kids" which has greatly effected my view on marriage. He proposed and I explained my stance and he said he was interested in the commitment so as long as I committed myself to him he was happy. We had a "post it" marriage kinda like they did on Grey's anatomy. We don't need the government or a document to define our commitment. It's between us and at the end of the day we either stay committed or we don't a document isn't going to change that.

These people who believe they can find good women who want to shack up are living in the fantasy world. But then most of them (judging from the programmed-for-failure "red piillers" posting here) live in a fantasy world where women are the big bad monster. They've grossly over-corrected for modern problems with women much in the way modern feminists have grossly over-corrected for centuries of being delegated inferior legal rights.

Often depends on income. Make +250k and see how cooperative women become.

@@VancouverInvestor Yeah like CR7 and his girlfriend. They live like husband and wife but they're not married. So divorce is not even a question. If she decides to leave, she leaves.

@@VancouverInvestor They just get better hiding their past.

Low body count or virgin women are more deserving of marriage though.

So true!

If an institution meant for most people isn't working for most people that institution really isn't fit for purpose.

Maybe this is too old fashioned, but arrange marriages or at least more involvement of parents/respected loved ones in finding a partner sounds like it could prevent soooo many marriage problems (assuming they have at least a bit more wisdom on marriage) 😂

@@aisherwasher6959 arranged marriages sound great! Mature parents that can identify a ton of youthful mistakes and have no lust towards the partner so they can think clearly and assess how you two will get along! I think historically arranged marriages had like 98% success rate with people being very happy with their marriage because they grew together in their marriage

Not even that. It’s about not taking marriage seriously. It’s about not treating it as the sacred covenant that it truly is. You pick the “wrong person” that’s on you. You should have had those conversations (the DEEP REAL ones) before ever crossing that marriage line

Who says it's not ok for women to want marriage.... what's not ok is for men to sign these unfavorable contracts that ONLY BENEFIT the female.... What benefit do i get from getting married??? I want real things not bs... this is the worst investment a man can make these days... this is just a fact...

The distinction is between legal marriage and spiritual marriage. The concept of marriage is absolutely desirable but the man made laws imposed upon that marriage by the government is the problem.

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You're not entitled to marriage just like men aren't entitled to sex. If you manage to get the guy you like to marry you, good for you. If you don't, it's your problem.

​@@positivepaul8956but it sounds like the legal issues are over divorce not marriage itself, so if the couple is actually committing to stay together, why not commit legally too? And if you don't know with relative certainty (through more than just your partner's word) that you'll stay together, why commit in any way at all? Genuine questions! This stuff is wild!

And you don't know why? Or do you automatically think it's a man's fault?

Smart father.

Marriage is supposed to be a spiritual binding of both you and your wife. If there is no God involved your chances go drastically down. If the dynamic isn’t you are the leader,your wife follows and you both follow God than in those moments that inevitably happen to all marriages where doubt creeps through than there will be no God that will stop her decision.

So, my Mom is twice divorced.2nd one only recently. 1st one she cheated, 2nd one she left because she felt like she did everything around the house (seriously?). This has only made me smarter. I do still want to get married, but I have been very picky with the men I date. It hasn't closed me off to marriage, because I believe if you get married (yes its not always in your hands) divorce is not even an option. If I get married at 35, then so be it, but choosing the right person to marry is a big deal. I think the problem today is people don't take marriage seriously anymore.

Steven Crowder learned this lesson the hard way, after mocking the red pill types. Now he's quiet. Can't wait for tatums turn in the family courts. Gonna 'told you so' his ass so hard.

​@@JonellieI got to be honest, your mum leaving because of doing everything around the house, it makes her sound lazy. What was her husband doing?

@@iidentifyasanapacheattackh3626 Even biblically. Adultery and death (physical abuse can be seen that way).

And most definitely. No fault divorce is bs. Women will really have to consider who they marry.

Prenup

Prenups are often overturned. Same with postnups. Do it's definitely not a safe way to protect your assets.

So if there no adultery, no physical violence but then psychological will possibly be stated as a caveat Alimony was instigated because women didn’t necessarily have a earning job, they have more opportunities today in the west than ever in history so we remove that. Child support should stay but if paternity fraud is committed then compensation or time served in jail should be instituted Alienation of affection laws would be another deterrent for r both sexes Prenuptial agreements for both sexes on to cover inherited assets and what you want to put in it in lieu of adultery and physical violence Any other ideas

Tatum serves the Lord Jesus Christ.

He serves another jesus. Jesus is either the Savior of the world, or He isn't.

What happened to Steve Harvey

@@billya3628 He serves the Jesus Christ of the Bible

@@ryanrogers8211 The failure "Jesus" who only saves a very small percentage of people. He will here "I never knew you", just like everyone in "christianity" who believe in a dead "god" ! Tim. 4:10

Dang you cute 😅

Good for you! Respectfully, the women of today are not like you. They are going into relationships thinking about what they can extract rather than what they can bring to the table.

I met my wife (24) and her son when I was 20. And spent most of my 20's supporting them finishing school, and starting my career. Meanwhile dating and getting to know eachother deeply in all situations and doing so intentionally with marriage as the possible end goal. Personally I have waited until marriage as well. We married 3 years ago when I was 27 she was 31. I think especially as a Christian living according to biblical principles, marriage is worth soooo much more. The state stuff wasn't even important to us. It was the commitment and promise to eachother and God from that specific moment. 3 years in and our 3rd child on the way.

​@redman8767able if you watch stuff like this, then yes, it will seem as though all women are like that. If you are looking for the bright, beautiful, flamboyant, catch everyone's attention girls then yes, they will almost all be like that. Stop looking at the eye catchers. Look for the quiet, studius girls. The easily overlooked girls. 304s advertise themselves as loudly as they can. Nice girls shy away from all that. They are tucked in to a good book on Friday night instead of gyrating half naked in a club.

@@shanevan1 that’s amazing! Don’t hear about it as much these days. So happy for you as well. :)

@@redman8767able thank you. &couldn’t have said it better. Very said for them.

Marriage is not tainted

@purplelove3666 Explain to me how marriage today is what it was 50 years ago. The concept of marriage is dead. It's not taken seriously anymore. Vows are just words. Not to mention, marriage is a major liability for men. The sexual revolution in the sixties and feminism has killed the idea of the traditional marriage, especially for men.

Bro, facts. I cant manifest playing in the NBA no matter how hard I try. Officer Tatum is alright but he smoking the devil’s lechuga with this take.

Not to mention relationships are only at stake when the woman feels there’s something wrong. The man always has to suck it tf up or else you get laughed at.

Yea...Tatum is arguing ideological in a world that divorces nost of the time. He's not divorced so he's got rose tinted glasses on. What is this "skin in the game" nonsense? For a guy YES...he's hot a lot of skin in the game. Which is why it's easy for women to leave and skin u alive. They lose nnothing. I like Officer Tatum but he's off base here. Marriage is very risky and he hardly acknowledges it.

If a man wants a traditional woman he needs to get married because traditional women want that commitment.

​@@ryanrogers8211 Which is fine, and I agree, but it should only be a religious marriage; a legal, state-sponsored one is not marriage - that is business. People advocating for marriage rarely delinate the two. It is why you are then summarily dismissed.

brian's position is based on data. men get destroyed in divorce. no fault divorce allows woman to pick a random day and go

He's a joke.

FACTS!

If you want a traditional woman you need to give her the marriage commitment.

@@ryanrogers8211Too bad the staggering majority of women aren’t traditional so they don’t qualify for marriage

@@ryanrogers8211 Wrong. Like he said. If she can't be faithful without a ring then why waste time marrying her? This is common sense.

@@josephsmiley1 traditional values dictate a lifelong marriage commitment. It has nothing to do with one’s inability to be faithful

How can that work?

@@arijones9564 shaping your marriage values and morals between you and your wife and what path you both want to walk but I think government needs to stay out of marriage 100%

@@arijones9564 Church in marriage is whatever but government is a hell no

@@RealTalkandRawTruth86 I can understand having a religious ceremony that is recognized by the community members (like polygamous Mormons do, for instance). However, what happens if/when there is a need to identify a benefactor for legal reasons? We live in a society governed by laws and responsibilities.

Right, the men should be the only ones with any power.

@stacyshoemaker9177 to be honest, I'm talking simple gratitude for the roles we all play in life. A power DYNAMIC suggests a share system, I didn't say anything about men having more power. Economically perverting marriage through law and tax has done nothing but allow the 'elites' to destroy what used to bond us

The problem is people are marrying women who are absolute gold diggers. If you find the perfect person in your eyes, you’ve gotten to know them and you think you could make the relationship work, why not get married? What you’re doing when you say you don’t want to get married is that you are telling her you don’t trust her. In order for you to truly love you woman you need to invest in them, and trust them 100%. You need skin in the game. I also like what Brandon said during the show, “If she leaves she gets 50%. If she stays she gets 100%”.

@@atf5813 lol she leaves with way more than she came in with, marriage is just a sh*tty contract for men

Amen!

They fail to realize that feminism has kicked God out of marriage, and brought in the state instead. Even the Bible talks about how you cant serve two masters , because in the case of getting married. The state is involved in your business. Just like they kicked out prayer from school. It's society that has changed the marriage structure. Women may not even realize it, but they are incentivized to get divorced.

But for women it's celebrated with parties and cash and prizes for leaving. And condemned when I guy leaves. Marriage means nothing to women...if it did you would see a push back against feminism.

@@stub4488 stop being so black pilled. Get into a good church. Find a woman with values at said church. Wife her up. Have tons of kids. This is the way my friend. - 13 years in/five kids deep

⁠@@stub4488that’s a very generalized statement. Not all women clearly as some women on this panel do agree with marriage. And not solely for financial benefits. And there is a pushback as of late against the toxic feminism mindset, there’s a small revolution occurring. It starts with women standing up and reminding others of what is morally correct not just politically correct which imo politics is corrupt so why does political correctness even matter atp. The celebration of divorces is extremely sad, which both sides take part in. People are idealizing/romanticizing the celebration of a wedding vs the work it takes to build and maintain a lifelong relationship. That is why these divorce parties come about bc it’s idealizing the celebration of something rather than rolling up your sleeves and working on something together with your partner.

Yeah hes a simp

He’s auditioning for a daily wire show. It’s required that all employees be absolute khucks.

Try to improve your situation. Start a side hustle and try to grow it, try moving to a cheaper area, take some classes to improve your marketability in your work field etc. It's possible.

Don't marry the wrong woman choose wisely 🙏

Brian wouldn't have started this podcast if he wasn't a low-key MGTOW

@@neetpride5919 I think he's a just a career KZfaqr who just follows where the money/views go while giving his socially inept opinions on dating.

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Moral*

California is not a community property state bro, having just become a tax preparer domestic partnerships are possible but they have tonbw filed for them the be recognized. Unless jackson hewitt just bs'd me haha

@@CRS-fe2zj I stand corrected. I thought that Cali was still on community property. 🤔it has been 15 years since I lived in Sacramento.

@louis-anthonymcdaniel946 u know what after reading on a couple of lawbfirm sites it looks like it is, but I think the understanding is off. You can't just lose property or assets without being married or being in a domestic partnership. Confusing lol sry man

Im starting to wonder if he's actually weak or just dumb 🧐

THIS! people want to marry someone with the heart of Christ, mind of Christ & benefits of Christ without commitment to the commandments and laws of Christ.

You guys are thinking falsely that the 304 women in the west of this generation are going to be a good marriage partner and not walk out on you at the slightest sign of stress or trouble. I’ve been married 32 years but my advice to my son is never to get married in North America. I’ll be his biggest enemy if I didn’t look at reality of the court system in North America and the quality of women in this generation and still advocate marriage to him. My “intelligent” daughter is the exact opposite of what her mom is as a masculine, fighting woman and my wife is the one enabling her. Women are their own worst enemy is actually a saying in English which has no equivalent saying for men.

Do you think most geeky nerds have had the same success as you

@@laidbacksage2574Probably not bc they’re trying to go for the IG models and then get their feelings hurt when she turns him down. If they’d go for women who enjoy most of the same things they like, they’d prob have more success.

@@ctmckin I've never ever ever seen a geeky nerd try to get anything above a 6

@@laidbacksage2574 I have

@@laidbacksage2574If you actually GO OUTSIDE more often and make tons of friends. Youll find geeky, corny women that are 10's and that are FOR you.

Exactly, he was talking nonsense. How old is he even?

the boi would be most likely to cheat tho since they always want to go sowing their seed with their tiny master key and what not 💁‍♀️

​@@ImmortalBecomingThis doesn't refute the OP's comment. Women on average can financially destroy men in courts on a whim.

@@ImmortalBecoming not really; up to date surveys indicate that women cheat just as much, or more so - due to the advent of social media and ease of opportunity.

@@TheLaughingLi0n if you disrespect me by cheating on me....Then yes. I will run you dry.

You have control over the business you don’t have control over your marriage if your wife can divorce you at anytime for any reason. That would be like your business is going well and profitable, you’ve made your payments and the bank seizes it anyway because they felt like it.

​@@Dragone38CMefuckingxactly

​@@Dragone38CMthey all fail in thinking marriage still looks and operates the same as the 1920's

no it doesn't.

EXACTLY

​@@John-gm8tyit does, even when you are gone the kids will remain and attach your name to the mother's.

to best set up your kids for success get married to their mother before they exist.

False. Marriage is forever and children are a beautiful byproduct of said lifetime commitment.

Sounds like the Michael Knowles divorce standard. I like it.

get rid of no fault divorce. it should only be fault divorce

Yep! It so simple. I don’t understand why we make it so complicated!

Marriage only works if you and your partner are religious. It is a covenant with each other and before God. If not, it's just a meaningless legal contract you can break at any moment.

if your wife is no longer happy then you dropped the ball, you as the man have to keep your wife happy and let her know she is valued, and shes not happy because shes probably feeling lonely, if your away from home and gone thats not good for a woman normally, she wants her husband holding her at night and protecting her when she is sleeping, i wouldnt wanna deal with that either, but trust and believe she finna take yo ass to court so get ready😂😂, she finna take you to the cleaners! alimony and child support 😍😍😍

​@@josiahbutler2254dude u win the biggest dmbfk award of the weekend with this comment. The house and kids and the willingness to leave to work and provide for his family wasn't worth it?. Truth is you can't force someone to be happy, they have to find their own reasons to be happy. Majority of divorces are initiated by women to the tune of 80%

@@CRS-fe2zjyou’re absolutely brain dead. Yes, women leave because despite “providing” they’re being treated like shit. Notice how OP doesn’t take a single ounce of responsibility and has zero self awareness. He will be miserable for life due to being insufferable yet will point the finger at everyone who leaves him, as if he is the victim. It’s a disease and instead of getting over it your kind will die off. Women will choose the men who will actually be partners. Not entitled babies.

@@CRS-fe2zjMen will suffer and make everyone around them suffer before they admit they fucked up and should leave. They’ll cheat and stay. How is that better?

It’s not about “a piece of paper”. It’s about making a lifetime oath in front of god, your family/community and the lifetime commitment to yourself and your spouse. Meet the right church going woman, wife her up and have tons of kids. This is the way my friend.

@@John3_16_ I’m not talking about marriage as an oath between the couple and God. I’m talking about the legal contract of marriage involving the state. That’s what I’m against

@@user-ui4cu6fy4i yes, the state should definitely not be involved with marriage.

Simply calling it a risk is an understatement.

Uhh, as a realist, you shouldn't tell men to take that risk because you're not going to cover their loses if things go south.

@@notthefather3919 That's why it's important to marry the right person, and the important issues need to be hashed out early on in the "dating" stage.

What you just described is called Biblical and or Historical marriage. And has existed for 6,000 years of recorded human history. And divorce was nearly non existent before Government involvement. And the health insurance and power of attorney and tax benefits and will b.s is all legally accomplishable without a government marriage contract.

Health benefits are great... its people that are bad with money, that want sh*t handed to them "free" if not damn near... you can spend all this money on pure bs but can't pay $500 for insurance.... we literally have the biggest market for it and it has EVERYTHING. From cheap to most expensive. From a lot covered to barely anything... People just think Healthcare is a right and that they shouldn't have to pay for their own life and things that come up... "Life's hard,get a helmet" Use it embrace it... The fact you say the benefits are so low but then say if I get on my husband's plan I get good benefits... the only "good benefit" you are getting that is different is- who's paying that bill.... Stop wanting to be a leech and pay for your own... if you truly can't afford it, there's medicaid which covers a fk ton... I got it before to cover a surgery that would cost well over 100k(all things included in the price, visits and so on). I wouldn't have to pay a DIME. The tax payers fund it. Ps: I didn't get the surgery btw. Also emergency rooms are essentially free and the must legally treat you. But you don't legally have to pay the bill. It doesn't go on your credit score either..

​@@SherrickDuncan don't know how far back you're looking, but divorce was enough of a thing before 1400 BC that divorce laws were mentioned in the Old Testament Book of Dueteronomy. And religious oversight in the past is widely believed to be equivalent to government oversight today

@aisherwasher6959 you are literally responding to a message in which My first words were BIBLICAL MARRIAGE HAS EXISTED FOR 6,000 YEARS and then y9u actually attempted to imply that you were teaching Me something new when you referenced from a few thousand year old book of the Bible. Gaslight much? No Biblical marra9ge and divorce laws are not equal to Pagan marriage and divorce laws. Because Biblical marriage does not require a permission slip from the state. Or the signing of any contracting allowing an emotions and feelings lead woman to have power over y9ur money/your property/your children or even over if and when she gets divorced. Only a Man may file for divorce in the Bible. And only if the wife has commited some uncleanness i.e sexual immorality / adultery. There was absolutely no no fault divorce being filed by women in the Bible. There was zero divorce settlement or alimony or child support awarded to the person filing the divorce let alone to a woman. So no monitary incentivisation of divorce existed. Amd there eas no defacto custody awarded to any woman. Children were defacto the property of the Man. So before these reasons the 9 out of 10 divorces filed by women that exist in government marriage did not occur. And divorce was almost non existent. And only happened when a wife committed adultery. Nothing you said refuted anything that I said or even provided Me with any new information that I did not already state in what you are replying to.

@musicman7935 This is obviously personal to you lmao and it's very clear that you have little to no understanding of the health insurance market in North America. Perhaps stop taking the word of the government and actually take a look at the plans being offered, their plan descriptions, and their premiums - it doesn't take a genius to see that what's being offered is in fact not even remotely worth the price let alone affordable. And if you can dish out $500 a month, plus out of pocket expenses, deductibles, etc. to pay for private insurance directly through an insurance company, then kudos to you. That, however, is not the majority of American citizens, specifically those that actually intend to, or need to, use that coverage. Otherwise, it simply depends on what benefits your employer is offering. This again doesn't take a genius to conclude. It's not necessarily about the price but rather the coverage itself. Did I ever mention premiums? No. You decided to project your own life issues into my light-hearted comment. Perhaps you should seek out someone to help you with that through your awesome health benefits 🤷‍♀️

He talks about not taking giant risks like marriage yet started a podcast like this. Yes it became very successful but was still a massive risk. At any moment his show could collapse from under him (just like a marriage divorce could) and he will be left with nothing. So I don’t see how he is afraid of marriage, but one wrong thing and his whole show falls apart.

Agreed. Fear can paralyze you. Put a hold to everything...He'll never find anyone like that. And like Tatum and the other ladies said...since he's always in the midst of negativity (like talking to the porn stars) thats plays alot mentally. To me Its always in the back of his mind like he may end up with one of them if he does get married. He compares himself to other guys. I think if he takes a break from the podcast to reevaluate himself he'll be alright, but would he be willing to....🤔

no i don't think he would. I think he enjoys sticking it to these women too much to give it up yet. There's some part of him that it feeds or he wouldn't still be doing it. He seems to like a "gotcha" or "um, actually" moment and coming out on top to feed his narrative of the world. We all like to be proven right, right?@@sircw-js6ny

are you a believer?

@jlolson53 1 second ago But you represent the toxic, self-defeating part of the manosphere. Intelligent and rational manospherians understand that women are not the enemy. They are our allies in love if you'll excuse the sentimentality. :)

Who hurt you?

@@John3_16_ no one, absolutely no one.

@@MexicanApachemiwok777 why do you want nothing to do with women then?

@@John3_16_ they annoy me. They don't have anything to bring to the table except promiscuity.

Good gravy. Your dad failed you if that’s what you’ve taken away from him. Who have you dated? Where have you met these women?

That's like saying "There are more sick people in hospitals than anywhere else. Let's get rid of hospitals". 🙄

It's true that statistically 100% of divorced people were married at some point. You can't get divorced if you don't get married. (And, no, I'm not an incel; I'm a volcel. There IS a difference.)

@@NphiniT clearly a joke holy my bad I forgot about the level of intelligence that hangs out in this comment section 😂

What r u talking about? Marriage is a public institution. There’s legal implications, benefits, etc to being married lol. The state has to be involved self-evidently

@dwayneo18 then marriage rates will continue to decline. You need to provide incentives if you want people to do something and not 1 sided incentives that only benefit 1 of the 2 if the marriage results in a divorce. As a man there's nothing for me to gain but half of my stuff to lose

Problem is he's not here to be genuine he's here to passive aggressively push back on RP ideologies. It's literally how his name blew up. All he does is make hit pieces with anti RP talking points. Just listen to how he obnoxiously uses the words "mature men". You can see right through the bullshit.

⁠@@josephsmiley1your lying, he’s not even part of this red pill, blue pill community. He made his name as a conservative political commentator. What he doesn’t like about the red pill ideology is that it focuses too much on the superficial and justifies it by saying that it doesn’t want men to be lazy and high value men that are idolized are often ones with no lasting marriage just a lot of money and options when in reality high value men are ones who can protect, provide, and only want ONE woman.

Just like Stephen Crowder, Tatum's day will come where his wife gets bored of him, and she does the same thing to him that Stephen crowder's wife did. and all of a sudden reality is gonna hit him and I am just going to laugh. Kate, I'm also defended that 1 officer that went in to save his wife At that 1 Texas shooting. Meanwhile, the cops were all preventing parents from defending their own children as they stood outside doing nothing.

they should update the alimony law if that the person who earn more only pays 1/4 of the duration of the marriage dont matter whois at fault and child support should be paid if they show receipts and he can contest that the gucci bag is not for the kids expenses

Or atleast force the 'winner' of cash and prizes (the woman) that she has to account for every single expense to the penny. And if a single penny is spent on anything the money isnt intended for, she loses it permanently.@@acegear

He made a horrible argument for marriage

So do you regret not legitimizing her sooner?

This dude is living by the "won't happen to me" fallacy. He's operating on feelings and if there's one truth in the world it's that facts don't care about your feelings. The second he said body counts don't matter, but he didn't want to know his wife's out of fear was when he exposed himself as being disingenuous.

Yeah, NO. Tatum is an idealistic tool who always has a very basic 4ss, low IQ perspective on things. 🥱

I like the ideal for a perfect world, but thats not reality

Ah, I see you've chosen the Steven Crowder path. Well lets see how his marriage is doing ... oh wait..

@@raielle actually I don’t like crowder…🤣 I think the guy has some serious life changes to make. Nice try though! I do however like officer Tatum!

Funny cause my mom's cousin actually had to pay alimony to her husband after divorcing, because she made more than him. She divorced after 30 years, because he became very controlling of her, wouldn't let her see her family, yelled at her constantly, etc. Marriage can absolutely hurt women. Especially with sickness, look at the stats and data of wives & girlfriends getting diseased or chronically ill and you'll see a way higher prevalence of men abandoning a sick spouse than the other way around. Marriage is absolutely a risk, for women & men, but it's a risk only some are willing to take.

Same here

I would say marriage or not you will always have a struggle around year 7.

@@saveyagregory25 so true

I'd be curious how many Christain pastors would perform that ceremony knowing the couple doesn't plan on filing a marriage certificate

@@aisherwasher6959I could be wrong because I’m not a lawyer, but I think it’s illegal at least when filing taxes or doing W2/I9’s to say you are married without the marriage license. You could be married religiously but not in the eyes of the state. To them you can be still viewed as single and commit tax fraud. Though anyone with law experience please correct me if I am wrong. I was just going by a gut feeling.

@@aisherwasher6959 just have to change the old failed paradigm to the better one. Funny how church and state get involved with each other when they shouldn’t be 😉.

@@lordkroak6670 No one should want to be married in the eyes of the state/government as the laws to handled divorce are ancient and not up to date to current times. Never have an entity that can’t keep current manage legal matters that need to be dealt with present times.

If you needed marriage to make you work though problems that said a lot about you and that’s sad

if you don't plan on having kids, everything you said is well and good. if you _do_ plan on having children, then you're already involving the state, so not wanting to get married at that point is asinine. furthermore, having children outside of marriage is degenerate behavior.

@@praxis4375I was about to say this lol. If you’re having kids and not married you look bad. Men and women and also for tax purposes don’t you benefit more from being married and having kids? Idk if I don’t have a ring on my finger I’m not doing wife stuff for a man. Made that mistake too many times. If a man already has the cow why would he buy the milk. If I’m doing wife stuff without a ring I’m basically just his mom

@@praxis4375divorce traumatizes children and puts parents in a worse position. A marriage is bound to end and it will either end in death or divorce, it most likely ends in divorce around 7-8 years. Marriage as a moral obligation is ridiculous. Most people should not get married. Virtue signaling is not convincing

​@praxis4375 You failed to link the legal marriage to children and then hard-turned into a non-sequitur coupled with shaming; well done, you failed on 3 fronts. Tell me then: the stats reflect that the state takes the legality issue of children and applies it fairly to both partners, correct? Also, he mentioned marriage minus the state, so in what way did that translate, in your incapable mind, _outside_ of marriage? Finally, do you plan on addressing how adding the state makes a marriage 'different'? Just the utmost fatherless behavior.

​@@DeeRio9546 1: He mentioned married. The question was about the legal contract; you all don't appear to understand that 'marriage' isn't the contract, it's the union. I believe it is because you are not religious and don't understand the purpose of marriage, so your marriage is doomed to fail, should you ever be in one. 2: No. The tax "benefits" are a wash. You spend more as a couple, so comparatively to single people, married people lose more money. Also, taxation is theft, especially since it isn't representing the people's will. 3: if you need a legal contract (again, he said the ring can be given without it), and you just 'turn off' wifely "behaviors," then you are not a wife. My behavior doesn't change because a woman in the past decided to slight me and take advantage of my protective and provisional nature. What it DID do, however, is make me more selective and pointed with my needs, desires, and responsibilities. You are not a wife -- and that's fine. But this isn't your arena to speak in.

I couldn't agree more.

Well said

This is the problem you women only see all the mushy feelings of fleeting love and act based on that. Men see beyond that. In recent history marriage and divorce laws have been devastating for men. The reality is that marriage is a liability for modern men. Everything is "ours" and "us" till it isn't. Till one day she wakes up and decides that after 13 years she wants to "explore herself" and she's going to take your kids in the middle of the night without a word and leave or god forbid work gets tough and you have to cut costs back.

@@josephsmiley1women are born natural nurturers ("mushy") especially because we literally carry the young in our body for 10 months straight. You can't even begin to imagine what that does to your psyche until you've personally been through it. Our species will not survive without these mushy nurterers. And question, how many men do you personally know that this has happened to? Because I know 100's and 100's AND 100'S of married couples and I don't know a single husband this has happened to. Now there are a few women who have been burned badly by their husbands. I'm not saying it doesn't happen but I certainly don't think it happens on the scale that you are explaining it as. And I don't believe that it warrants the intense fear for single men out there. Men, do not give in to this kind of fear. Be brave.

You don’t need to be married to do that tho lol

I don't think it could be summed up better than that! If you want a traditional partner, you should be a traditional partner yourself and want a traditional relationship.

I agree with what you're saying, but the fact that you state that "...if he wants to leave he's gotta pay alimony," is a problem. I understand what you're saying - you're sacrificing portions of your career (the most important thing in a modern person's life...) and all, but you're going into the relationship knowing that you've got an out via divorce. Brandon said it very well, "...divorce is not in the equation." That is the only mindset (and it's required by both partners) that will work for a functional and happy marriage.

It’s the same argument he makes for not paying: You want a traditional man, but you are not traditional. Except here he wants a traditional woman but he is not traditional.

He’s not wrong, you just had a bad experience.

​@@foreveryoung_2019CDC divorce statistics of 80% of married women leaving says it's NOT anecdotal experiences. Men are punished for being divorced. Women are rewarded. Deal with it with wisdom. Not emotions, rainbows, and butterflies

​@@foreveryoung_2019if my wife of 13 years leaves.... I'm fucked... If I leave... I'm STILL fucked.

Brian is a black pilled coomer on relationships. Fear is not the same as “facts”.

If he is speaking fact,then don't get with a woman, leave them alone

@@purplelove3666 precisely. Don’t be part of the problem.

I am with you on this. I have been married 17 years to an awesome woman. Best decision ever. Definitely could have predicted a lot of my friends' divorces.

That's kinda gay bro

Wow. You simps avoid topics with lame insults just like your goddesses do.

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🤦‍♂️ indefinitely? If marriage makes it definite then what's up with divorce rates today?

My point was that Brian wants in essence a marriage without a marriage: a long-term or lifelong relationship with a good woman who is okay with no marriage. Such women may exist - but it would be an extremely reduced population vs good women who want marriage (formal commitment). Thus the high level of improbability that Brian will find this fantasy girl. But then, as well-considered as Brian may be on the male-female relationship, he is NOT a good example for men or women seeking long-term, stable relationships such as Tatum recommends and enjoys (as do I). @@injoilife32