Anyone who is genuinely lonely doesn't go to Europe with their friends. Genuinely lonely people go to bed and hope tomorrow will be better.

Her cure to loneliness is... Talk to your friends like wtf the reason why I'm lonely is I have no friends lmao

I didn't know being this tone deaf was physically possible

"Feeling lonely? Just go to Paris with your friends!" This woman is clueless about the topic she's presenting on and is infuriatingly oblivious to how her privilege has scrambled her brain cells.

Came here depressed. Left suicidal.

This lady doesn’t know what she is talking bout, loneliness is when you can’t connect to anyone but feel the strong desire to have some emotional support, loneliness is when you don’t have friends or family, loneliness is when even if you have friends, you feel left out and betrayed staying with them. Loneliness is missing human interaction to the point where you feel something is wrong with you, loneliness is when your self worth is measured by how important are you to others, Loneliness is the suffocating feeling of drowning in your emotions, hoping for someone to save you but knowing that no one will!

The way to cure lonliness... is to not be lonely *audience claps*

It's like when you tell someone about your country where millions of people suffer from hunger and they respond "Oh yes, I know what you're talking about. I also experienced hunger, I forgot to bring my lunch to work the other day and I was starving"

She was lonely for 10 minutes and thinks she knows it all...i came here depressed, now im depressed and pissed off...

She clearly has no idea what loneliness feels like

Hot Take: This is actually a Ted Talk about how to troll the lonely.

I finally understand what people mean when they talk about privilage. Like, she may have her issues in life, but it ain't loneliness.

"Lonely? Easy, get Friends." This is like saying "don't be sad, be happy" to a depressed person.

I mean she has a partner, bunch of friends, travelling here and there, eating in Paris and taking about loneliness. is this some kind of joke going here??

She really said “how to overcome loneliness?? Talk to your significant other at night”

this isn't a ted talk this is her talking about her amazing life like the amount of privilege coming from this video is tremendous

She reminds me of all of the disappointing therapists I have encounter throughout my life.

Wow. It's like those frugality guides that assume you have a lot of money to begin with. _"Let me tell you how to not feel lonely (assuming you already have friends to cherish and relationships to cultivate)"._

This has the energy of "how can you be homeless, just buy a house"

I have no friends, so I asked my neighbour if I can perform a ritual with them on their couch and they said no. wtf do I do now, BAYA?

Loneliness IS when you start lying to your colleagues that you've seen some friends during the weekend while you just spent two days alone. loneliness is NOT going to the south of France with a bunch of friends Update 2020: loneliness IS when you go through weeks without using your voice or receiving any text message during lockdown.

Cure for loneliness according to her: - Have friends - Have friends you spend Monday nights with - have friends you drink rosé with - Have friends you go to Paris with - Have friends you can have long French dinners with - Have friends Cure for loneliness thanks

It’s easy to talk about a cure for loneliness when you have friends

Basically this video: “Trying to overcome loneliness? Easy. Be more like me because I’m awesome and have lots of friends”

Feeling lonely? Have a pajama party with your closest friends. Gee, thanks. Calling my close friends, why didn't I think of that before. Most truly lonely people (and I'm one) don't have the close connections, friends, or loved ones, with whom to do rituals. That's the whole point, we don't have anyone we connect with, that's why we're lonely.

KZfaq recommended this, they know I am lonely, but I am having a great time reading the comment section and knowing there are many people who struggle just like me. Didn't even bother watching, just went straight to the comments lol

I'm feeling more depressed now because I don't even have a friend to talk anything about and all she is talking about having friends and boyfriend " how can you consider yourself as lonely"

Me: I need some help Also me : types in loneliness Result :a girl, who talks about how she wanted to be famous and was in a reality tv show, drinking wine on Mondays and have the money to go to Paris. Thx girl,you helped a lot.

This talk is about how to maintain and strengthen your connections. Good in itself but does nothing to help those with limited or no connections.

This Ted talk reminds me when barney said "whenever I feel sick I stop being sick and be awesome again"

“If you’re lonely hang out with your friends, family or community” That’s fantastic advice, can someone explain to her the lone part in lonely? 😂

Anyone here after watching Sixteenleo?😆

Does a TedTalk about lonliness Talks about pre sleep time with her boyfriend and trips to France with her girlfriends

"Bruh, just make friends" Yikes, never typing lonely on YT again.

Why does she sound so excited while describing an attack where a dude drives a truck through a crowd of people? 😑

10:49 Miss just said "Oh yeah 84 people died from a car and we could've all gotten lonely and separated but everyone went back to go eat and we went back to the apartment and got drunk" I'm sobbing-

So basically when you're lonely the cure is people, no shit. Um what if we don't have any friends? How are we going to face the storm then?

This should actually be renamed as "Ways to strengthen your relations" not "how to overcome loneliness"!

Tell me you’re middle class white girl without telling me you’re middle class white girl.

If you have a best friend, a spouse and your parents are still alive, you are the most fortunate person on the face of this planet.

Solution to loneliness: Have friends. Got it. Thanks for the revelation.

something tells me she is still starving for attention and thought going on a ted talk would be a good idea even though she has no idea what she is talking about. smh

this woman is like "GUYS I GOT IT, THE KEY TO CURING LONELINESS, WE TALK TO OUR FRIENDS AND GO TO EUROPE": That's the reason we're lonely in the first place honey, we can't do that.

It's kinda unimaginable to think there are people like her so oblivious to even comprehend what loneliness really is.

This video is like a fish teaching me how to climb a tree

This is the cure for loneliness for extroverts who think being lonely is being at home for an hour by themselves.

I’m going to analyze this Ted Talk because it’s the middle of the night and I’m bored. This would be much better if it was labeled as “How to strengthen relationships” or something like that. Not how to cure loneliness. Nothing about this woman or her story screams lonely to me. I’m getting more, “14 year old girl who listened to 1 Billie Eilish song and now things that being sad for 10 minutes is depression” vibes. Wanting attention and wanting to not be lonely are two extremely different things. This talk isn’t about loneliness. She said loneliness, like 4 times in the entire talk, most of them being in the first couple minutes. She also says to not do something new to cure loneliness, but to the whole ritual thing, immediately after her story about going to France. It’s common for people with depression to go to places like France to try and cure their depression, only to realize that the only difference is that they’re still depressed, but in France. Most lonely people either don’t have friends or don’t feel intimately connected with their friends/family. Her advice, while good in concept, isn’t going to be super helpful to most people who found this video by searching something along the lines of “how to not be lonely” into a search bar. I’ve lost many really close friends over the recent years for reasons completely outside of my control. (They didn’t die or anything, just to be clear, life just lead us in different directions.) And now I’ve subconsciously associated having friends with losing friends since I’ve pretty much lost all of them a few years after I met them. Now I’m afraid of making connections, of having friends, because I’m afraid of losing them like so many others. Her solution for loneliness being “just get friends and be close to them” is not helpful in the slightest, it may work for some people, just not me and those like me. It’s kind of like that joke “Depressed? Just be happy.” or “Have asthma? Just breathe!”. I realize she has to be general and this one ‘solution’ isn’t going to be a cure-all for the nearly 5 million people who watched this, but as far as the comment section is concerned, this was extremely unhelpful to pretty much everyone, and frankly, I can see why. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk. Also she keeps bumping the mic and it’s driving me insane.

Got to say, this video helped me a lot. It led me to the comment section where I can resonate with my fellow loners!!

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I'm sorry, but this was not very insightful to me. "Feeling lonely?" Well just hop on a plain and have dinner in Paris with 10 of your closest friends. This is something for someone who is more disillusioned than lonely. And even then... Ted Talks are usually pretty good. This one was more of a performance than an instructional speech.

"The weird times when your not busy feeling fantastic, A vacation story!" should've been the title of this video

this is probably one of the top 10 worst ted talks

So she basically speaks about how to STAY in connection and nothing about how to make a new connection when you've no friends elatives\partner. Lonely people are called lonely because they don't have those people in their lives... Yes maybe it's useful, but for some time in future when\if i'm going to have anyone, lol.

This chick hasn't spent 5 minutes alone in her entire life. Sometimes TED is a massive waste of time.

"Some people are severely lonely, all they can do is accept the single life as an example of being free and happy."

you are the reason why it makes me feel lonelier People like you just don't understand what lonely means

"Let's grab the most seemingly extroverted person to talk about loneliness and depression, and how it feels."

Everyone in the comment section should become friends

The comments are some of the best I’ve ever read! I saw Sixteenlo’s hilarious review of this awful Ted Talk. I couldn’t stop laughing during his video and her spastic pep talk that she did zero prep for.

I bet she rehearsed this in front of her mirror and thought to herself: "Wow Baya....you should be an actress. Your performance is gonna be ON FIRE."

Actually, reading all these bitter comments helped me much more then the talk itself. At least I know that there are people out there sharing this hard experience with me.

I think this woman was a cheerleader at school.

This lady's solution to homelessness: move into a house. Brilliant!

Baya Voce, I hope you are reading these comments because you have a lot to learn about loneliness and should not be conducting a discussion on something you obviously know nothing about.

"Someone you know closely"... Yeah, that's it. I'm not close to anyone, this is why I'm lonely

"How to cure loneliness: Go hangout with your nice bunch of readily available like minded friends, then go straight around to your caring and understanding partners house and....". This is kind of like saying 'How to cure poverty: First take all your savings and house equity, then....".

"how to cure boredom when you are already popular and have friends and someone loves you...."

*It's unbelievable how intensely vapid and disconnected her points are, yet how insistently and gratingly she carried the condescending kindergarten teacher tone* Tons of people died so we just puLLEd on THoSE YogA pANTS aND PUlleD oUt THe RoSE. *Wow, so brave*

The problem is i dont have many people who see, hear and value me, and therefore, i dont have a connection with many people

I have no one to make that "anchor of connection" thing... My relationship with my parents is screw up and The girl I like rejected me, It's hard to get a habit like that when no one wants to be with you, this is why I feel lonely.

This is like a healthy person telling an afflicted person how it feels to be afflicted, having never felt it...or really not even knowing what the affliction is...

This legit should have been called "How to Have Fun With Your Friends!!" Unreal.

This talk made me so angry I want to smash my laptop against the wall. Oh so the cure for loneliness is spend one night a week my four close friends I don't have? Honesty in intimate relationships? What utter BS. If I had any of those things I probably wouldn't be where I am now. I bet she has no idea what it's like to finish her work week and know that she probably won't speak to another person face to face until she is back in work the next week. Or to dread the holiday season. Or those times when you have to take your mandated vacation days and you have nowhere to go and nothing to do so you site and stare at 4 walls and try and find some comfort or meaning online and you come across this nonsense. Nope, she's in Paris with the Sisterhood of the Travelling Leggings. What's next from this woman? A simple cure for thirst. Just drink a glass of water or other beverage of your choice! Great, can I do a TED Talk now too ? The bar for subject matter expertise appears to be pretty damn low.

I couldn't even finish listening to this. She *has* close friends, a significant other, and family. What about those of us who are truly lonely, and don't want to be? No close friends, no partner, no close family members? I'd love to hear someone talk about the "cure for loneliness", when you've done everything you can think of to meet new people, when your heart is open wide and you don't have any fear of intimacy, yet true intimate relationships seem to evade you most of your life?

Suddenly I’m no longer feeling lonely....after reading the comments 🤣🤣🤣😭

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” ― Mark Twain

Cure to loneliness = Have friends?

The cure of loneliness is much more complex than this, for people who have broken families and bad environments that does not accept diversity this is not the cure. Who cares if you can live for long but you have to live with social expectations like Japan has.

Lonely? Go out with your friends 😋❗ Hits the same as: Sad? Smile more ✌️🥰🤗

When the research paper is due at midnight so you just go off about your own personal trip to france instead of any actual resolution.

This talk in a nutshell: "Look, I have friends, family and we cuddle a lot. You don't. See ya!"

This lady certainly does not know what loneliness means. A lot of people go through phases in their lives without a single friend whom they can talk to, not to mention boyfriends and families that are understanding.

Strange, after the first few words I jumped to the comment section, something was wrong. Thanks so much for all the deep and sad and true comments, which prevented to watch this. I think this is not only a waste of time for someone lonely but so much worse.

Came here super depressed 3am at night. Thanks for all the tips that won't help anyone

Reminds me of when I told my mom I was depressed and she says “go exercise.” Or “just remember there’s people that have it worse off.” Like Oh thanks, you just cured my depression.

The real problem is that EVERYBODY wants to seen and heard and listened to but NOBODY wants to see, hear or listen. That is exactly why two people can have so much in common and interact frequently but NEVER feel truly an authentic connected to each other.

This is so sad. So many people will click on this talk with hope & probably end up more lonely than they were already. This woman has no clue about what she’s taking about. Zero. She’s in a relationship for starters, has close friends so lounge about on a sofa & has money to fly to France, stay in restaurants etc. & has someone to share an apartment with. Most lonely people don’t. Her desperate need for attention & fame is harmful.

Her, basically : Feeling lonely? Hang out with friends! It's like telling someone with asthma to just "breathe"

in short: "if you're lonely, don't be lonely"

The problem is i don't have a partner.... I don't have friends to talk with ... I don't have money to travel So That Didn't help

Thanks for making me feel 100x more lonely

Ah yea the good ol "putting on some Leggings and drinking rosé" after a national tragedy occurs

loneliness is when you hit 300km to see your family, once you are there after months, they barely say hello to you; because they are busy with their lives. i don't like people who lecture about things they haven't gone through

I’m more depressed after watching this than I was before. Monday nights on the couch by myself I guess. Sounds like this lady doesn’t know what lonely really is, when most people are their own anchor and we are sinking.

You aren’t qualified to talk about loneliness unless you’ve really lived a life of solitude. You know nothing about depression unless you’ve experienced depression. You can’t creditably preach about anxiety unless you’ve been crippled by it. The speaker obviously has no idea what it’s like to truly be lonely. She uses examples of hanging out and globe trotting with her buddies, having a supportive spouse and family as a form of loneliness. This is an insult. She has no credibility.

THE CURE FOR LONLINESS: Proceeds to show us all photos of her and her friends having fun. Cheers mate, great help 🙄

Her version of loneliness is how a rich housewife gets lonely or feels lonely and have people to talk to.

The cure for loneliness, Baya Voce: "Don't be... I'm awesome, thank you"

Soon as I heard she has a partner I said .....she doesn't know what loneliness is ...her answer is visit friends and family .....or loved ones which is non existent .....I don't even have anyone or anything to love ....this talk was just about keeping what you already got .....

You can tell she has practiced this performance MANY times over