How to Build Self-Worth (Even If You've Struggled With it Your Whole Life)

How to Build Self-Worth (Even If You've Struggled With it Your Whole Life) - Terri Cole

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Do you undervalue your accomplishments?
Do you brush off compliments about your work?
Do you use self-effacing humor to put yourself down before anyone else can?
If you answered “yes,” let me ask you this:
How do you feel about your own worthiness?
From your emails and comments, I know many of you struggle with self-worth. If this is you, you are not alone, and I invite you to read on as this episode is all about worthiness.
I cover why many of us feel unworthy, my own experience with worthiness, and how you can begin to feel more worthy in your life, because you deserve it.
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Time Stamps
0:00 - Intro
2:13 - What is self-worth?
3:34 - Why do we feel unworthy?
6:27 - Signs of low self-worth
11:23 - Self-worth contingent on others
15:57 - Steps to increase your self-worth
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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see www.terricole.com/
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@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

Can you relate to having low self-worth? Share your experiences below, and remember to download the guide for questions and tips that will help you increase your self-awareness around self-worth and boost it: www.terricole.com/how-to-build-self-worth-guide

@MikeTyson0700 6 ай бұрын

Hello 👋 how are you doing today? I hope & pray 2024 brings happiness, peace and love all over the world 🌎 I’m originally from Canada grow up in Fort Worth Texas, currently living in Key West Florida. Where are you from if i may ask?

@nourbus Ай бұрын

Wonderful episode. Thanks ❤

@birdie6916 6 ай бұрын

For so long I struggled with self-worth because my parents seemed to favor my older sister---she has the house, the kid, the dog, the career, the high salary. She is always the focus of their conversations, of their lives, really. I had cancer and it changed (and took away) all of those things in my life, so I began to feel completely unworthy. Still rebuilding my life and working on it every day. Luckily therapy has taught me that I am worthy of joy and happiness despite not having the life/stuff/body/status I used to have. As I said in a previous video, I am finally allowing myself to feel happiness and joy about getting married and building a life with another person who has mirrored back to me that I am worthy just the way I am.🥰

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

You are SO worthy, Birdie ❤️❤️

@birdie6916 6 ай бұрын

@@terri_cole Thank you so much for saying that, Terri. 💕

@Frkpii2 2 ай бұрын

"Even though the adults in your life who raised you had/have limitations and their own stuff, that doesn't make you unlovable or unworthy." This is of great value to me!

@terri_cole 2 ай бұрын

So glad it resonated 💕

@KomalSingh-cm8gc 5 күн бұрын

*Treat yourself like you would treat ur child* . Amazing,terri

@terri_cole 5 күн бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@GD-cr5um 6 ай бұрын

My father died an alcoholic and he was embarrassing so the entire surrounding knew us and that affected my confidence in India. I have moved to Australia and it still haunts me like everyone knows my background and to some degree people can see my low self worth. At 40 im still learning to take compliments when people compliment me when im at a party. Thanks Terry. Im a work in progress ❤

@xaarasultana 6 ай бұрын

My father is still alive but he's an alcoholic and I resonate with what you said. My mother is a covert narc so that didn't help either. I've never been to India but I am assuming that the shaming culture is somewhat similar to that of Pakistan. In my case, my mother only gave me attention when she was competing with me or shaming me. My father only gave me attention when he was verbally or physically abusing me. I'm in USA now and have become a therapist myself. It took me about 15 years of working on myself to accept compliments and not see them as a manipulative tactic or a backhanded compliment. I am glad you're in another country now and watching this content. I send you love and wish you the best.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing ❤️

@_cr8ive_ 6 ай бұрын

When the student is ready . . . the teacher will appear. 🙏🏻❤️🙌🏻

@MartaSalvadr 6 ай бұрын

Now at 46 I've been working on self work, but I still live close to my parents and each time there is a gathering, the relationship with my mother is challenging. Never enough, never good, never a positive comment... it still gets to me.. Thank you Terri for all your wonderful work❤

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

You are so not alone in that, Marta ❤ Thank you for sharing.

@allthingsauz 6 ай бұрын

Remember boundaries! You should set some, you don't deserve to be around people who put you down💗

@orangyorangefromspace 6 ай бұрын

People like you help tremendously because one does not always has the courage to go to therapy and actually talk things over. Self-worth can be difficult to heal but it's not impossible. Thank you so much for the content

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing that ❤️ I'm so glad this was helpful!

@LolaAileenVanslette 2 ай бұрын

I had a mother that was dangerous to me. Everyone else was safe, partly because I became their protector, but mostly because they were easier to manipulate that I was. So my life was in danger daily. I never felt safe until she passed in 2023. Sixty years of fear, and inability to say no to narcissistic/sociopath/psychopathic people. Relationships and siblings.

@terri_cole 2 ай бұрын

I am witnessing you with so much compassion, Lola ❤️❤️

@VeraZholondz-Koonz 6 ай бұрын

Your work is the most precious gift 🎁 one could receive.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@feleciachaplin4215 6 ай бұрын

I just found you. I love the way you explain concepts. You speak deeply, in a place I can understand and grow. You make me smile. I down talk myself due size. I can do this. I am doing the rubber band for the next 24 hours. Gift my own attention ❤. Thank you soooo much❤❤.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am so glad you found my channel and that this resonated with you ❤️ I am cheering you on!

@MusicAddictAda 6 ай бұрын

Dear Terri, thank you so much for all of your content that you so generously put out there ! I just wanted to tell you how great it feels to just listen to you when I'm feeling sad or angry or just reapeatedly reminded of the way things are. Listening to you with all yout compassion and wilingness to help just brings me back to a state of peace and being in the present as a whole person. Thank you so much ❤ Wishing you lots of love happiness always !

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for taking the time to let me know ❤️ I appreciate you!

@GeorgideMarne 6 ай бұрын

Same here ! 😊 I listen to Terri when I need to hear a compassionate, warm voice (of reason..) ❤

@user-yh5ni1py2p 6 ай бұрын

Thank you :)! I am very grateful to have found you and your book "Boundary Boss"!

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am grateful you found your way here, too ❤️

@CoachColetteMaat 5 ай бұрын

Wow, can't believe I only just stumbled across this channel. Awesome!!! thank you so much - this is perfect timing. 🙏

@terri_cole 5 ай бұрын

I'm so glad it resonated with you ❤️ and welcome!

@michelleschmidt5436 6 ай бұрын

Thank you. Your insights are very helpful and are helping me move in the right direction.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am so glad to hear that, Michelle ❤️

@naresh2592 5 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for helping me with this video. It's a long and winding road, however I will take the first step.❤.

@MrsHealer 6 ай бұрын

Thank you Terri, your advice is so helpful, I often listen to you and learn from your experience and wisdom. Have a great 2024!

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

You too! ❤️❤️

@obiblooze5902 6 ай бұрын

What do you do when you're 61, your mother is 90 and I just can't cope with seeing her anymore. i have 2 brothers, have fallen out with sister in law. My Dad passed away 8 years ago, he was a controlling bully. Mum is a good person, if I don't see her I will feel terribly guilty but when I do see her, I always leave feeling completely drained. I really feel that kids should go their own way when they're young and not be expected to see parents all the time. I never had kids, never wanted them. Always said that I would never bring a child in to this cruel world.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

Hey there- is it possible to lessen your contact with your mother? Maybe stick to phone calls more than going over there? Or are there boundaries you can set to make your interactions with her less draining? I think you have a right to do what is best for you, but since you said your mom is a good person, it might be worthwhile to look for a middle ground where you can see her AND not be drained. ❤️

@jan854 6 ай бұрын

Sending 🫂 ❤. Do you regret not having children? I'm 35 and struggling with this decision. I feel the same. This world continues to get worse and worse every day and it's hard to even cope as an adult sometimes.

@carmenl163 6 ай бұрын

I am 57 and went no-contact with my mom, who was 80 last year. I'm not saying you should do that; I just want to tell you that it's possible to make changes no matter your age or your mom's. For me, it became clear that I needed some space, and when I told my mom about this (in the most caring way while having a lot of mental issues), she reacted so angry and unsupportive that it became clear to me how controlling she was in my life. And I hope she'll live to be a hundred, but that would mean I would be 77 by the time she died. So, I decided I had to choose my own path. The fact that you will feel guilty for doing something for yourself is not okay. Your mom may be good, but it sounds like she is leaning a bit too much on you. Maybe your siblings can take over for a while? That's not unreasonable.

@carmenl163 6 ай бұрын

@@jan854 I never had children. I never regretted it because I always knew I couldn't handle the responsibility. I am overly responsible due to my childhood trauma, and being a mom would have killed me. Perhaps this world is getting worse every day, but the most important thing is to be sure you can guide your children and be a good mom. That's the issue. And if you are not confident about that, I would encourage you to be a wonderful auntie or neighborhood'mom' but not an actual mom. Maybe you will regret it, but in this case, it's better to have some regret yourself than your children have regret because you were not a very capable mom.

@obiblooze5902 6 ай бұрын

@@terri_cole thank you, I think sticking to phone calls for a while is a very good idea ❤

@daniellegreen4145 Ай бұрын

Amen. This is profound

@terri_cole Ай бұрын

💕

@debbieharvey6307 5 ай бұрын

I'm so grateful for the gift you have and thank you for sharing, it makes a difference to so many of us.

@terri_cole 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for saying so, Debbie 💕 I am grateful you're in my crew!

@percubit10 2 ай бұрын

Yes I do. I put myself down all the time.

@goddessoffantasy 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for talking about such an important topic. I find that the way you speak is very soothing. ❤

@terri_cole 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching 💕

@leannezzers 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video! It was very soothing to watch. A wonderful and gentle reminder that we are worthy as we are :)

@terri_cole 4 ай бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it 💕

@chentrellwilliams-ov4du 6 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for the information you share. It has helped me so much.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am so glad it has been helpful to you ❤️

@marilynoverton8142 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much, Terri! We love you!

@terri_cole Ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@dumabel3351 6 ай бұрын

I am always struggle with self-worth issue，thank you so much for talking about this issue，it really help me a lot，best wishes！

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am so glad it was helpful for you ❤️

@FlatStella1 6 ай бұрын

Thank you Terry!

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

You're so welcome!

@guadeloupe61 6 ай бұрын

Hi Terri, thank you very much for this video. I am going to validate myself more than ever. Sabine.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am so happy to hear that, Sabine ❤️

@Lilyvodnyeva23 13 күн бұрын

I’ve been struggling with self worth lately and other things like I’m not worthy to be loved by anyone and that I don’t deserve things. Thanks for what you do

@terri_cole 13 күн бұрын

You are so worthy and deserving 💕

@Music01Fan Ай бұрын

This was such an uplifting video. Thank you so much for sharing. Given me soo much to think about and process in my own personal therapy. THANK YOU!

@terri_cole Ай бұрын

I'm so glad to hear that 💕

@lawrencelaureano6671 2 ай бұрын

Terri, my thank you for you comes from a place deeper than I know. I needed this reminder. I suffer from intense self-loathing at times rooting from an idea that I’m not good enough. I also came from a very orthodox religion that put too much pressure and emphasis on achieving things to be “worthy” of the “blessings.” I am grateful to have seen your video and to be reminded that I am inherently good enough in this very moment and I agree it is an “inside work” it is an internal thing. I’m excited to read your books and know more of your profound work. New subscriber here! Thank you once again ❤

@terri_cole 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for taking the time to leave this comment, Lawrence ❤️❤️ I so appreciate you and I'm glad this resonated! Welcome to my KZfaq crew!

@symphony357 6 ай бұрын

I do that. I undervalue my achievements. I'm working on that at this time.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I see you ❤️

@divinelymoowah6104 6 ай бұрын

beautifully stated 💗I think I’ll use the term “soft landing” more often when I am imaging what kind of sisterhood and support system I’m calling in

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

❤️

@user-jp6dz7gm6i 4 ай бұрын

I keep coming back. Im fairly new to your awesome posts/videos. It seems you are speaking to me directly. I have my own business and charge under penny's for my services to people that make 3 times the money I do... I just have to feel better about myself before I can change my prices! I am such a co dependent. I just appreciate to tune into someones videos and it feels like they are speaking to me. I feel that everytime you speak! I have so many life experiences that have (according to what I've learned) destroyed my self esteem, confidence... Im 54 yo and I HAVE to figure it out soon. So, thank you!

@terri_cole 4 ай бұрын

You are so welcome, and I am glad you found your way here ❤️ If you haven't yet, I recommend this video about building self-confidence that may help: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/obKDYLGVzLrbpWQ.html

@AmandaMae121 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this content & for giving us some exercises to try as we go through our self-worth healing journey! I’m feeling more hopeful and I’m excited to try these exercises out starting today!! Again, thank you so much 💖✨

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am so glad to hear that, Amanda ❤️ You're welcome!

@alessaxn 6 ай бұрын

This is much needed! I gave up on raising my self-worth. It is something deeply rooted in my subconcsious mind. 😢😢

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am witnessing you with compassion ❤

@karendrake8531 2 ай бұрын

I’m new to your channel. Excellent content. Thanks, Terri!🥰❤️

@terri_cole 2 ай бұрын

Welcome, Karen! Glad to have you here 💕

@amyl3729 Ай бұрын

Wow, can i just say that you are BEAUTIFUL. Anyway, i'll watch this video now. Just wanted to say that i love your energy before even watching the video.

@terri_cole Ай бұрын

❤️

@lisatesch2447 Ай бұрын

This was so helpful. I’ve been on this journey many years of self worth building and boundaries, and I really appreciate your insight and wisdom. All of your videos have been just what I’ve needed. Thank you!

@terri_cole Ай бұрын

I'm so glad to hear that, Lisa ❤️❤️

@addicted2myxbox 6 ай бұрын

It’s so funny that you started this episode talking about your diminishing your accomplishments when I did that today. I got massage therapist of the year today and couldn’t accept it the way I should have.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

It's not too late to own it! ❤️ Congratulations!

@Tahoejt 2 ай бұрын

I found you from your Les Carter interview, which I loved, and I’m so happy! I have been following Dr C since 2018 and he has given me the skills to distance myself from a 43 year marriage to a narcissist. I’ve been searching for help thriving, beyond surviving. Your comment about women in their 60s and 70s, who’ve “built their lives on boxes constructed by someone else” made me cry. You have set me on the path to thrive, and I’ve shared your channel with many friends my age who are also struggling but seem to “have it all”. Thank you for seeing us.

@terri_cole 2 ай бұрын

I am witnessing you with so much compassion and so glad this video made you feel seen 💕 Thank you for coming on over to my channel after seeing that interview, too!

@jalisky Ай бұрын

Both of my parents ruined myself worth they were both narcissists. But fortunately my grandparents were really great people And I had the opportunity to work with some of the best people there are. These people helped me a great deal. I am much better than I could have been because of these people

@terri_cole Ай бұрын

So glad to hear that you had good people in your life to hold you up. Thank you for sharing ❤️

@dimanceart4510 Ай бұрын

Thank✨🙏❤🙏✨you!!

@misssafia4013 4 ай бұрын

Thankyou ❤

@terri_cole 4 ай бұрын

You're welcome ❤️

@kimberlymccracken747 6 ай бұрын

These are great questions to ponder Terri. It feels like a struggle at times to find my own worth without having had relationships that reflected that. I really appreciate this topic and I did have more inherent worth and took more worthwhile risks in many ways than from whence I came. Happy New Year Terri and Godspeed 🎉❤🥂 I so appreciate your work. Setting healthy boundaries was definitely a good starting point and you really helped me in that area, among others. Grateful 🥰❤🌈

@angelab4759 6 ай бұрын

It is hard when you don't have an example of healthy love. I see you. Just know your internal self knows and listen to her. You will never regret that.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, Kimberly ❤️ I hope 2024 holds good things for you!

@lindagross1288 6 ай бұрын

Terri, I struggled to finally watch and listen to this youtube video. I struggled with low self for many years. It is still a problem but getting better. I used my codepedency to try to get approval, love, acceptance and care, that I could not give to myself. THIS NEVER WORKED and I felt even worse about my self worth after my relationship ended. My Mom was bossy, critical, not very nurturing, cold, hurtful with a lot of her words. I never heard I am good enough, I am pretty, I can do it, etc. Many years of therapy, CODA meetings and now your classes, podcasts, books, etc, have changed my life and self worth. I do have self worth. I love me and am worthy. Thank you for all your amazing advice, caring and generous uplifting words!

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Linda ❤️

@bjames692 Ай бұрын

It was a good video but men need these conversations too

@nehuagarwal 6 ай бұрын

Hi I’m neha aggarwal. I have been facing issues regarding my boundaries. Just bought your workbook and started reading it. It already feels I could relate to every word you have written. Thank you so much for all the sharing. Having people like you bestowing knowledge upon us gives us an inspiration to be better each and every day.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am so glad to hear my workbook is helping already, Neha ❤️❤️ Thank you for letting me know!

@nancyleicht5782 2 ай бұрын

Dealing with my ex-narcercist partner at work and every Monday morning just chipping me down and smiling with every notch with getting other at work on board with his agenda. I'm going to use the rubber band effect to stand up for myself. I hold back saying things in response because I'm shocked how awful his comments can be. No more feeling powerless. I even after a horrible conversation bought up his hurtful comments, me tears about it and then flight. I can't fight... He is too good with words. MY BAND IS MY NEW SUPER POWER ❤❤❤Wish me luck 🤞

@terri_cole 2 ай бұрын

I am witnessing you with compassion, Nancy ❤️ That sounds like a difficult and challenging situation.

@mitzicrowder2186 5 ай бұрын

That lady gave you a bak handed compliment

@calamander4279 5 ай бұрын

My parents were never neglectful or immature and yet my self-worth is almost nonexistent. I'm struggling to understand why this is the case since most of the adults in my childhood were always supportive.

@terri_cole 5 ай бұрын

I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️

@mitzicrowder2186 5 ай бұрын

Love you miss terri

@terri_cole 5 ай бұрын

❤️

@ARluvr1 4 ай бұрын

I can totally understand your friend that thought they were being told they are attractive as a joke. That’s exactly how I am. I feel so disgusting inside that I think not a sole on the planet would look at me with anything other than disgust.

@terri_cole 4 ай бұрын

I am witnessing you with compassion 💕

@beethemessiah9973 22 күн бұрын

My parents are toxic and don’t understand that life is about making mistakes. Seeking their approval is exhausting. My father wasn’t around and tries to punish me for making a mistake. My mother has flat out called me stupid after something traumatic happened to me in high school. She has also said “I don’t care that you have these problems.” I have no support system aside from me. I have to rely on me. I hate men. Relying on people is out for me. I’m done relying on family. I’d rather be homeless before I rely on them again. I’m in school getting 2 degrees. I’m not done. I’m gonna need a break and to find some money for a PhD. Maybe go to law school once I’m done. I’m doing all of this to stay away from my toxic family and protect my inner child/teenager. Nothing is wrong with me. It’s my toxic parents who were a$$holes and immature who most certainly didn’t deserve me and my brother. As you can imagine, all this is what made me choose an abusive partner, but he died 9 years ago. I’ve learned a whole lot and I’m staying away from people.

@terri_cole 21 күн бұрын

I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️

@beverlyhogan3682 Ай бұрын

If some photographer got me to smile at the time of my being a baby or little girl, surely I can do that too 😉

@sallyharvey6557 6 ай бұрын

Hi, new to your channel, wanting to change my behaviours and looking forward to change.

@alessaxn 6 ай бұрын

Welcome Sally! ❤

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

Glad to have you here, Sally ❤

@chriszador1 6 ай бұрын

Looks like self love ( whoever this “self” is?) is all about practicing some acts even though I don’t feel any love for this self. I can talk kindly and take care of myself, I have no feelings for it🥺 I don’t even feel my identity

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️ Part of the process is getting to know yourself, too. Many people in my crew have been self-abandoning for years because they were raised and praised to do that- to be in service of others, and put themselves last. It can feel strange to put yourself first and not even know how to do that when you've been doing the opposite for most of your life! I recommend paying attention to what you like or dislike, what feels good and what doesn't, what fills up your cup and what drains you. ❤️

@chrissemenko628 6 ай бұрын

People "throw me away" easily. Good ol Christi ALWAYS forgave. I feel worthless. A throw away.

@candaceheidenrich6278 6 ай бұрын

But you’re not….others can exclude, dismiss, or toss, but carry yourself in a precious vessel….hold yourself there…and it’s okay to call others out when they say or do things that make you feel invisible or invalidated. Your voice matters. You matter.

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am holding space for you and sending love ❤️

@iamthediapora Ай бұрын

The Sylvester Stallone story is insane.

@terri_cole Ай бұрын

Indeed!

@nyuuuchan 2 ай бұрын

parents who expect performance but give no praise, do so much damage. it's a handicap impossible to fix as adults.

@terri_cole Ай бұрын

This does do a lot of damage, and it is extremely painful, but I wouldn't say it's "impossible" to fix (although it is difficult!) ❤️

@peacheyearth 6 ай бұрын

❤

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

❤

@MS-ns4ki 6 ай бұрын

It’s hard when everyone compares themselves to me and my life is just a disaster 😕

@terri_cole 6 ай бұрын

I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️

@donna218 5 ай бұрын

My name is Donna. I'm 38 with co dependents and adult and child pdst. I'm from Missouis

@terri_cole 5 ай бұрын

Hi Donna, welcome to my channel ❤️

@ella-12-345 3 ай бұрын

im sorry but i have to ask this for my peace of mind. would you say the same thing to a murderer or a rapist? are they still worthy despite their actions and minds? thank you for this video btw

@terri_cole 3 ай бұрын

Hi Ella- I am specifically speaking to the viewers of this channel (like you!), and the folks in my crew tend to be loving, kind, beautiful, thoughtful, and intelligent. ❤️

@ella-12-345 3 ай бұрын

@@terri_cole thanks for the reply.

@enriquelangarica974 4 күн бұрын

You are beautiful

@JetTinkerer 2 ай бұрын

Would you happen to know of a good resource of this for men? I appreciate the video but im having trouble connecting. As far as I can tell, men aren't ok as they are and are treated as such. With no way to get a quick fix by posting a selfie I find it extremely difficult to be ok with being run of the mill average.

@terri_cole 2 ай бұрын

I'm not sure if they cover this specifically, but my pals Dr. John Delony and Connor Beaton might be good resources to check out. Connor is more of a men's coach. Tom Bilyeu might be good, too- he's he host of a popular podcast called Impact Theory. I also suggest exploring what you mean by "I find it extremely difficult to be ok with being run of the mill average." Who says you're average? Why do you believe you're average? What would it look like if you were okay with it? What would it look like if you were "more" than average? What would it take for you to get there? Maybe journaling about it will help. As a therapist, my clients were predominantly women so that's who I tend to speak to and attract, but I do believe men are worthy of this, too. Just want to clarify, I would not suggest anyone post a selfie as a way to build self-worth. We don't want to look outside for this- it has to come from within us. If I could distill it down to one thing, it's mostly about choosing yourself. You have to believe that what you want, how you feel, and what you think matters more to you than what anyone else wants, thinks, or feels. (That doesn't mean we don't compromise, but when we do, it comes from a place of love rather than fear or people-pleasing.) Make choices that align with your preferences. Advocate for yourself. Do things for yourself and follow through on your commitments. All of these things build self-trust which also builds self-worth. ❤️

@JetTinkerer 2 ай бұрын

@terri_cole thank you for the info and input.

@shekharjog8618 9 күн бұрын

Shekhar 😄

@Herreyes 8 күн бұрын

Lindsay Lohan

@socalfriend6985 5 ай бұрын

I know what happened. Growing up my body was a little larger than others. I'm taller and stronger as a female and my family was bothered by this. They felt I was lazy and dumb for not being slim, when my body is naturally strong. My family never told me I was beautiful or pretty because I was overweight. My family put me on jenny Craig as a teenager because I was overweight. I struggled my whole life, being told I was lazy, and dumb. Obviously I didn't ever exercise although I did! I was super active. Finally I figured out that grains were the problem and now I don't recognize my own body or face. I have changed so much, and I just don't know who I am. I was always the overweight one who didn't count for anything. How sad. I need to get help. Thank you for helping me! ❤️🌴🙏💎🍳🪮

@terri_cole 5 ай бұрын

I am witnessing you with so much compassion and sending love 💕 I hope you get the help you are seeking. You're worthy of it!