Always loved Margaery. She had a way of getting what she wanted without threatening or killing anyone. Just manipulation, subtlety and seduction at its finest.

Margery was a really brilliant character. She had so much more to offer. They shouldn't have killed her so early. The Tyrells in general are probably the best family.

That's why Cersei didn't like her, for she was the only one that could influence her children better than herself. Cersei has a sensitive nerve to anything that can take her power away.

“i do believe that Margaery is a kind-hearted character” or is it because she manipulated you into thinking so? hMmmMm?

Also the only reason Cersei didn’t fall for Margery’s tricks was because she used to try the same thing on Rob Baratheon.

The standing by someone's side tip is actually genius. It's so much more comfortable to stand and talk to someone next to you in a party than it is to talk to someone in front of you. So much less awkward and socially demanding.

Also, according to the costume designer, the way Margaery dresses and does her hair are also part of her trick to gain people's trust. She often wears sleeveless, revealing dresses and pulls her hair away from her shoulders to signify confidence and openness. Unlike Cersei who lets her hair hangs in front of her chest and wears long-sleeved dresses all the time.

So, basically, Margery read the book "how to make friends and influence people" 1. Be polite 2. Build rapport by talking about what the person you talking to like. 3. Be empathetic and demonstrate. 4. Reframe how the person can win if they do what you're saying.

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I love Margaery. She's one of the only characters that doesn't make enemies, but allies and (as far as I've seen) hasn't been killed yet. She's beautiful and extremely charismatic.

Doesn't hurt that she's so outrageously gorgeous.

This seems like a good channel for sociopaths

Step. Step. Step. Step. "We could arrange to have you carried." SAVAGE 😂😂.

My latest personality is always according to the latest video from you.

She was a likable and genuine version of Cersei with even more skill at that craft than Cersei herself. That pissed her off a lot.

Reminds me of the quote, I think by Albert Camus: "Don't walk in front of me and lead, don't walk behind me and follow, walk by my side and be my friend" 👍👌

"If you give them your love, they will return it a thousandfold."

She had the ultimate ability to connect with people regardless of background. She was also very aware of the power structures that REALLY ruled Westeros. One of your best videos to date Charlie!

To be fair. In any other setting, Margery would have won definitively. It's just that Cerci out-dumbed everyone and then went the crazy route out of desperation and panic.

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*3 STEPS TO INFLUENCE ANYONE* *1. Build Rapport* - Physically put yourself on their side - Make physical contact (a lot but not too much) - Get them to talk about the things that they care about *Men* often like to be asked about how things work, *problem solving* *Women* on the other hand often enjoy to share their *emotional experience* - Indicate that you care about their opinion *2. Learn how they view the world* - Be an active listener - The best way to get someone to open up is to show vulnerability - Get to know what makes them tick - Empathise with their feelings *Pacing and Leading* - State their world view - Mirror back how they must have felt or feel - Share that you've experienced a similar situation or feeling that they just found themselves in - Sometimes is just as simple as saying the words ''I understand'' - Truly try to step into their shoes so you can lead them with much less resistance - You can also give them a reputation that they'd like to live up to *(praise the person for what they are doing)* *3. Lead*

Margaery and the Tyrells in general are such amazing characters, so sad about what happened last night :(

She is the true meaning of a trained "Empath"!

I love how half of the comments is just mentioning her beauty

Margaery was also a crowning achievement in Game of Thrones as a series; while she is in the books, she is merely represented as a minor character, but it's in the television saga that her character truly comes to life and is fully fleshed out. P.S. This was a very articulate and insightful analysis.

Mergaery is my favourite female character in GoT for a reason. She played the game well, just a pity they did not let her pick up on Cersei her absense fast enough to leave the damn place.

I love this video! So often, the power of feminine energy is overlooked but it's truly one of the biggest tactics a woman can use. Margarey lived in her femininity and her empathy and that's where she found her power. And she was the only character to consistently do that. She was definitely gone too soon, loved her and Olenna. I'm sure every woman can agree with the bit about us wanting to just vent about our problems sometimes without looking for a man to fix it for us, haha!

as someone who works in a call center, the pacing and leading at the end of the video is so beautiful when done properly. our training is to always have control of the call, but when a customer has made it a point to take the control to empathize with us- we do go that extra mile. i promise you that.

Margaery Tyrell won't ever die in the books. George has already implied it saying, "Most of the characters that the showrunners have killed off will never die in the books." I think that when Daenerys arrives in Westeros, Maegaery and the Tyrells will find some way to support the Targaryen rule. The Tyrells were on the Targaryen side during the rebellion. It's possible they may even abandon the Lannisters, who knows.

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I LOVED Margaery, no one ever talks about her! She’s so gorgeous & smart, a total QUEEN & so inspirational (I have to say it, GOALS) I was so upset when she died & of course that didn’t seem to matter to anyone else I talked to smh. She should be a much more popular character from the show than she is.

9:48 is a interesting scene, she actually tells geofry what her strategy is. Return love to get love. I also do believe she did manipulate but also had a kind hearted side. I never really see her abuse innocent people.

Would Ser Davos from GoT make a good video? He tends to pop up when people are failing in negotiations and turns them around rather well

I was also dissapointed Margery is gone. Of all the manipulation that goes on in the series, her style is the one we would most likely encounter on a daily basis. Though I disagree her intentions had any true acts of kindness. Everything she did was nothing more than wanting to invent herself into a persona people would trust while she used that trust for her own gain.

Would have been nice if Daenerys had met at least once Maergery. She would have learnt a thing or 2 about empathy and how to be good at the game without, you know, torching an entire city.

I've actually been doing some of these techniques for years subconsciously and I can attest to how effective they are. It was great to have these skills explained though, helps me be more aware of them and myself. I've definitely noticed you can get much further with customer service agents if you try to make friends or at the very least see them as a human being. Screaming and intimidation gets you nowhere.

she was my FAVORITE character because of her smart manipulation, im sad that her role was short

Her voice is so soothing

Honestly I loved Margaret’s character, she was so manipulative, yet had a super kind heart. I was also very sad when she died

This channel made me realize how well written and detailed game of thrones is. Until the last two seasons of course

3:56 No wonder she is so upset. There is a nail dead centre in her forehead.

I just remember watching seasons 3-6 of GOT in awe at Margaery. For once I felt like a character was handling things the way I would. No brutish outward displays of strength. No threats. Just lots of schmoozing and flattery to keep everyone (except that bitch Cersei) on your good side.

Margaery is definitely one of the best characters on the show.

I love how Joffrey was scared when Tywin climbed the steps

Margaery is hands-down my favorite Game of Thrones character, and it's so great to see someone break down what exactly makes her such a great player in the game. All your videos are great, but this has to be my favorite so far. Nice work!

Margaery was intelligent, she knew how to get close to those who needed it, but as a social climber her family was, she chose one of the most dangerous families to get involved in, remembering that she even deceived the High Sparrow, which, despite being a fool, who was dealing, but she lacked the element of surprise, the strength that Cersei has at one point, instead of playing the game, turned the table and dropped all the pieces that thought they could with her. Margaery with her cunning, which she had in abundance. A talented manipulator who knew how to stick to judicial politics. The strength of this character lay in his ability to win the minds and loyalties. Margaery possessed the tact and courtesy that Cersei lacked. Margaery worked within the social standards of "adequate" femininity in Westeros, but deftly turned them in her favor, to orchestrate political maneuvers behind the scenes. Although Margaery has developed many different facades, depending on who she is trying to manipulate, she has genuinely shown a good heart, compassion and empathy. She also showed genuine concern and tried to form a friendship with Sansa, even offering her help to leave Porto Real after the wedding with Joffrey - although this may have been partly because she had the longer-term goal of good relations with the North , feeling that the unstable Lannisters would not be in power forever. She shared a very strong bond with her grandmother Olenna, sharing her acuteness for manipulation and political maneuvering. Although she had developed many facades to influence the opinions of others in her favor, she was extremely loyal to her family and home, and would make great efforts to keep them safe. Queen of Thorns, what character ... what character ... deserved a video too. She was also known for her wit and sarcasm. As a result, Lady Olenna was popularly known as Queen of Thorns, in reference to Tyrell's secrecy - a rose - and his sharp and barbed comments. She seems to have a very dark sense of humor and likes to mock those around her, including her own family. Despite this, Olenna clearly loves her family, especially her grandchildren.

Us : Margery Tyrel is one of the most charismatic personality in GoT Olena Tyrel : Hold my wine 😂😂😂😂

As someone who worked in customer service over the phone for a year, I can tell you that example of you calling in and getting that extra help by just showing common decency and basic consideration makes all the difference in the world. I have bent over backwards to help customers who were understanding and patient with me despite their frustration at whatever they were calling in about, whereas by that same token i have been deliberately obtuse and difficult with customers who talked down at me The secret to getting people to do what you want is to just be nice to them

The same actress who played Anne Boleyn in the Tudors.

2:02 This is why people have such intimate conversations in cars.

Margaery played the game of thrones very well, and in fact used all of these techniques to great effectiveness. In the end, however, she was done in by a character that was more ruthless and plotting (Cersei). One of the main themes of the show is that people like Cersei are quite successful and people like Margaery are often vulnterable to a mistake or a moment of weakness.

Margaery was the epitome of Queen!! She knew how to play the assholes around her to survive. She did it with such wit and grace. 💪🏼 So sad when she died. 💔

step 1: be margaery step 2: whatever, everyone will adore you.

Margery's best quality was, as stated, her ability to empathize with anyone. Her biggest flaw, failure of imagination. Not seeing the Red Sparrow for the insane ideology that he was, not seeing Cerci's true evil until it was too late, and not realizing that her family member would be butchered the way he was.

When I watched and saw her character I knew that she was something beyond. I just couldn't figure her out. But she is something called a soft power. Stronger than any kind of force.

To be fair the same characteristics (particularly being able to empathise) meant she caught that Cersei was going to get rid of them better than anyone else in the room. "She knows there are consequences for not attending but she chose not to attend anyway, which means she doesn't intend to face those consequences".

Can I suggest to make video about Sansa? Everyone underestimates her. During seasons she was believed to be stupid girl with stupid dreams, she isn't a player. Of course, she has been learning so slowly, but it will be interesting to reveal her personal story

You should do hodor charisma breakdown

Wow, I do a lot of these things very naturally, out of genuine care....and I always thought (and was told) that I was weak and sensitive for it. Thank you for helping me realize that there is power in kindness :)

Margaery is a great influencer, not everyone can copy her works. And only Batman is immune to her skills

She's one of my favourite characters on GoT. The way she played the game is very smart and real.

Great video! Although, I never considered Margaery Tyrell to be underrated. Everyone I've watched the show with and I have always gushed about how well she played the game, especially as a woman in that world. She loses her cool a couple times (SPOILERS: when Loras is taken prisoner and then with the High Sparrow at the trial in the Sept) and you can see her quickly rein it in because she knows that losing her temper won't get her what she wants. Kind, but a master manipulator. Brilliant character.

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I've always thought Margery was one of the most powerful characters in the series. She could have changed Westeros' fate for the better. The polar opposite of Cersi -- manipulation of people toward the collective good.

But I wonder who decided all these body languages, the actress or the director

Not going to lie, I see a lot of myself in the way Margaery acts...never have I thought that the way I act was to influence people. It's surprising how far empathy can get you though. True empathy, not just feigned empathy with a hidden agenda, although I guess the latter can help you get what you want ultimately.

The sad thing about Margaery's death is that she died due to her love for her family. So this still shows, that you really need to abandon every bit of your humanity to completely manipulate someone.

This is the best explanation of empathy I’ve ever heard. Most people think it’s sympathy but you got it spot on. 💜

I've never visited this channel before, but I just had to click it as soon as I saw my love Margaery

Before I even start watching this video, can I just say.... I love how you can use Game of Thrones to break all these sorts of things down. This show and it's characters just does such a great job at these things.

Charlie, I am eternally grateful for your channel. I paid a life coach for a year, and while we made a huge amount of progression, these real life lessons as told through one of my favorite shows has really helped me grow as a man. Thank you.

I never saw this Movie... but the 'lessons' you point out are wonderful! I do not try to "control" others... but I DO try to Encourage them, and that sometimes means being able to 'lead' them in a particular direction.

Wow! I was researching about Margaeey for couple of days and by the way I never watched the GOT. I just got interest on her. And you uploaded a video on her. Thanks!

Make a video about VARYS!

This seems like a great way to just make a friend. Like, it's not pretending if you do wanna know things about them and actually empathize with them, it's just a more confident/controlled (you controlling YOURSELF, not them) conversation, so they still see who you are and you're not lying about anything

On Pacing and Leading - definitely a trick I use regularly, especially with customer service agents and other retail staff. Even on the side of the retail staff I used it on customers. I first learned about it under a different name while doing my undergraduate, can't recall at the moment, but its a good trick to use if you find someone getting increasingly frustrated with you. Never underestimate how much your attitude affects those you're interacting with.

When you look at all the small details and realize what they mean, you just appreciate the big picture so much more.

Was so mad when she died... she legit... was my favorite character.... so mad still.

I never noticed the problem solving versus emotional experience thing. It makes total sense I just needed to hear it in words to notice

Your personal story with that agent reminded me of a time I chatted with an agent through a chat room, when I was looking for a certain product but she doubled checked the inventory and they were out of stock. I still thanked and praised her for taking the time to try to help. She then told me she was nervous on telling me because other's were aggressive and would insult them with the news. I then told her that agent's can't solve our problems. We then ended the conversation by wishing each other a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year.

Cercei did that because she saw her younger self in Margeary, and she knew that she was a real treat to her.

Okay I paused at 12:08, it's absolutely crazy how you got your furniture delivered in 5 days after speaking so empathetically to the customer service representative. If it were my dad, he would have shown anger and frustration. HOW could things work like that with you? Goodness!! Wow. And by the way, I learned the same exact things through a doctor that I knew. God bless him! He taught me patient interaction and body language. I'm a pre-med by the way.

I love this channel as it genuienly explains why I enjoy interacting with people even when it is uncomfortable or difficult!

A lot of these methods are things I'm learning at university to become an effective Alcohol and drug councelor, it's amazing to see this kind of information on KZfaq, good work!

Please make one about Hitler's speaches and how he made the people follow him.

My boyfriend and I are the opposites on "gender-based interest gathering". I prefer to explain how things work and I am generally blunt. He is prone to be emotional and wants to be asked about his feelings. I am not contradicting the way it typically works, though I think it's society's fault that it works that way, only giving an example of one of those "this isn't always the case" things he mentioned.

You have a great analysis, I had to agree with everything you explained without question because you sounded so respectful!

YOU and the way you explain this complex human act is simply the best my friend! Thank YOU 🙏

She is drop dead gorgeous.

Margarey Tyrell was one of my favorite GoT characters. RIP Margarey Tyrell

I think your generalizations are, well, generally correct in terms of what engages a man or woman in conversations. As you said, there's always exceptions. For me personally, I have noticed over time that I behave more like a man in conversations with other women. They confide in me about their personal problems and I react by offering up possible solutions, but I can sense while it is happening that I'm not giving them what they want and they tend to pull away. I realize later on, that what they really wanted from me is not a plan of action, but more listening, sympathy and reassurance. The dynamic is different with men. It works much better with them in most cases.

You forgot to mention how she smiles n makes the other person more comfortable in opening up to her. That's the most easy way to break the ice.

The things you said about Pacing and Leading are quite interesting, it's something I've toyed with before but never really constructed such a good definition of it. There's a particular kind of dead-end argument that can be solved using it - an argument that only exists due to different word usage. And this technique is pretty much the only way to break the deadlock. Forget your own lexicon and use the other person's. Deconstructing their ideas using... their ideas.

Wow, this was a really neat video! I wasn't consciously aware of it, but apparently I've been using these tactics for many years. I never thought of it as "manipulation", but more as simply getting along with people. It's great for work and other professional environments where you need to work closely with different kinds of people, and want your environment to be a positive and productive one. It's also excellent for diffusing tense situations (as long as you don't let your own hot-headedness take the reigns). These tactics have been especially useful as a high school teacher who often has to navigate the treacherous waters of moody, rebellious teendom!

This is one the most important topic (influence, persuasion) u have done for this day of age, pretty important skill when u see populism everywhere...

I found this video incredibly helpful as well as entertaining since we get to learn from a game of thrones character. I took notes, literally. I can already tell that by taking cues from her that my conversation's with other's have become better. Thank you for putting together this video, I appreciate you :).

Never seen this kind of content b4. Thx. People may be benefited by watching this

You should do Harvey Specter

Cool video dude. Your videos always have something actionable that I can try in real life. I really liked the example that you used with the lady at the moving company. And the side by side talking.

Margeary knew how to use her beauty and intelligence. That's what I loved most about her.