Woah

Thank you for rescuing me in the loop of false possibility!!!

But hy are these possibilities determined false? They could also be possibly true right?

not all expectations are false. I am not a quitter. You just have to learn or recognize when it's time to let go...You can't give up without trying...and as long as I tried, I can walk away a better person knowing that at least I took the risk. We can't win all the time.

Luna L true

That would have to depend on what you are considering "the moment" to be, and of course by what measure you are discerning expectations.

I am a master of creating false possibilities in my head

I feel you not easy... But with constant looking at the risks and not expectations it makes things easier....

Drake Drones so true

So true! Lately I have looked at it as a way of giving freedom to others as well as myself. However, we are designed for connection! What's the balance?

I'm the same😉

Drake Drones how u deal with it ?? can you help me out

Wow, the same happened to me! Death of my dog made me a completely different person,so humble and forgiving! Suddenly, I could understand everybody and where they are coming from, their perspective...This also opens doors for the love to come in (from the inside of us, not from the external world, which most people are _expecting_ to happen and usually are disappointed!) because as long as we are bitter and don't get what we 'expect' we are not able to feel the _true_ love, empowering kind..There should be a TED talk about that - how much we can learn from animals! Everybody should not just have a dog but spend a certain time alone with them, to get as close as possible to them. There is so much wisdom in animals and unfortunately most people spend their whole lives not discovering it... _Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened_ "

But your dog offers support and a safe haven and that alone is an expectation sometimes are expectations can be as simple as that but I’m sorry for you loss I’ve also been in the same situation

Wow, it’s so true that we don’t expect anything from our dogs, we just want them to always be happy and healthy. But we expect so much from people, we expect our relationships to be a certain way, our loved ones to act/say certain things, the list goes on and on.... I haven’t yet lost my dog...she’s 5 years old, but I can already feel the pain thinking about losing her. I’m still working on letting go of expectation of people... thanks for your reminder.

@@ChelseaShang but isn't expecting them to be healthy and happy an expectation?? Hmmm?

Beautiful! I actually learned this after having my first child! I've changed so much after I had a child. I I realized that I can't control everything and that I'm still going to love whether she does what I want her to do or not. Lol. I learned that she is her own little person and she is entitled to have her own feelings and I can't be mad at her or punish her for feeling different than the way I think she should feel. And now I use this with all of my relationships. 😊

High intentions, low expectations. Inshallah

High intention low expectation

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Andrew is catlike

this woman is my english teacher lmao

Ikr, I think I'm gonna watch this again lmao

Not true. Just don't get attached, don't fall in love, don't fall into emotions if it doesn't make more sense then the emotional part.

That’s not the way you’ll be able to drop expectations, that’s just soul crushing. Drop expectations so you can appreciate all the things you have but never deserved. I’m

Bon Chica Sun I been exactly where you are. Things will get better tho you may not see your way out now. You are in control of your destiny. Sending you love and positive vibes 💕

rahul singh Actually 👍

rahul singh needs more views indeed

Lmaooooo

Awsome stuff

Ok cool but is it ok to feel that I’m putting all the work in the relationship and they are putting little to none into. Does it make it ok to stay with them ? Is it ok to feel as though they won’t want this as much as I do ? If I’m feeling the sense of happyness in a relationships due to how little time and effort they put in it. Is it ok to stay with that person??? I’m confused help

I hear what you are saying Amelia. I have recently dropped expectations I had of certain family members and a friend. I had to do this to reduce the pain and disappointment I had been feeling. From now on I will be developing the new habit of not setting myself up with expectations. I ''expect'' this to be a positive change in my thinking. How are you doing Amelia ? Do you have any tips to give me ?

@@patriciafisher3108 hello Patricia, I wish I had the wisdom to advise. I am learning as I go. It's different with different situations. Some events are more painful than others. To me, it's about how invested I am with people that are in my life. It's hardest with those that you expect or want more from. Good luck with your journey. Some things are just accepting situations, and I am not always quick to let go. It's a process.

Amela Wojnicz, Thank you for responding to my comment Amelia. I wish you well on your journey. ( :

I am starting to think that if one has low expectations then it is self protection as you will not be disappointed or feel let down. It is hard to belong in a world and interact with others who do not treat you very well. It is nice though when some unexpected kindness comes through, as that takes your breath away.

Frau Ing it is not unreasonable! It’s a deliberate relationship where it is a minimum requirement! Loyalty and honesty are the foundations of a marriage!

Yess same (but just by my boyfriend)

I'd class being faithful as more of a commitment than an expectation. Given that as part of the vows for most ceremonies you promise to be faithful and take care of each other till death does us apart. It's a fair point though.

Because that’s where freedom and unconditional love lies. We are all meant to be loving to love, not loving to receive, not loving to control, just loving. It’s a practice for sure, but I have found it to be worth it. Expectation comes from our ego. When we align with our spirit, it simply wants us to be present in our moments and love for the sake of loving, because love is what we are.

@@JK-ek5jv but are not relationships are two way thing, that there is an exchange of love. What though if people do not show love through their actions? I told someone recently how their treatment of me upset me and my expectation was for them to apologise but I got nothing. If that person loved me they would have been concerned about me being upset and apologise. I am starting to think I should not expect even the basics of love from people. I will then not be surprised. As each day goes by, my views about human beings are the low of the lows. I do feel we need to get back to the basics of what love actually is.

@@nicholabrown11 In my experience, we’re carrying a lot through time with us. This isn’t our first life. Our issues are usually set up in the past because of limiting thoughts and beliefs we locked in. None of us are victims as we are powerful creators. Most are creating unconsciously. We can communicate our feelings to others and if they choose to not treat us as we want to be treated, then we have free will choice to move on. We need to be mindful of what thoughts and beliefs we repeatedly carry forward through repetition, because those are the exact things that will be delivered to us in our physical reality. I use triggers as windows into what I need to heal internally using Aboriginal Dreamtime Healing using Holographic Kinetics. It allows us to change the past in the present so we can create a new future. I went from attracting emotionally unavailable guys to attracting an amazing open hearted, conscious man who is also healing his internal world. EVERYTHING is an inside job. It’s never about the other people. 💕

@@JK-ek5jv thanks for the reply. I am so pleased you have found a special man in your life and healing techniques. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

@@nicholabrown11 Thank you and you’re welcome. 💕

Haha lol

Keep trying small.talk.always help. Communicating is a key to love N trust.

There's also the possibility that someone listening to you is a human need that barriers in your husband's life/psyche/self-esteem/relationship with you prevent him from giving to you. It's possible you've felt ignored or rejected in the past, and you've recreated a relationship in which your partner makes you feel that way and reinforces a painful but comfortable dynamic whose roots took hold earlier in your life. Maybe this video is right and we shouldn't feel we SHOULD to be listened to, but I believe it is very possible to foster a relationship in which both parties are listened to and feel understood, heard, and accepted. I believe equality is important, and I don't think the problem here is inherently with the person who has the expectation of being listened to--that you're just not Zen enough. Sometimes the problem is with the person you have the expectations of, and perhaps someone else can fulfill you better, whether because they listen to you or because they can have the kind of relationship with you that your husband is incapable of having under these particular circumstances.

Complacency in a relationship COULD just be accepted if you can find happiness with what you have, but maybe something more fulfilling is out there. That's all I'm saying.

I recommend Esther Perel's relationship podcast (Where Should We Begin?) Poor communication rooted in fears and disappointments are very common in relationships, and she offers a lot of insight into that particular subject among others.

People, even people that mean to love and care for you as part of their life will let you down. Period. They may not mean to and do not want to but they will because at that time they let you down they are being weak. Whether through cowardice-too afraid of whatever it is at the time to get involved in the risk of bearing your burden with you, poverty (they are too poor financially to help you), they are undisciplined and used to taking care of self first and thereby weak in that sense, or they are just too selfish and cannot feel what you feel and cannot see beyond their own pleasures and comforts, ambition etc. Hence, they will let you down. So to set you, (you that is) free the best way is to forgive them and lovingly choose not to rely on them in the future. They are not strong enough. So, you must do the thing yourself or go without that which they could help you with. Lower your expectations of them yet raise them for yourself. It sets you free from being disappointed and that pain. You are not surprised when they do not come thru. Not painfully disappointed anymore, just aware. They just can't be there for you. Maybe they never will but give them the benefit of the doubt that they will someday grow up stronger and be better but right now they are not. They are not there yet. Maybe they will never be. Encourage with tangible hopeful instructions when they might finally solicit your advice or opinion (they can finally start growing too) but mainly work on yourself to be stronger. You need to improve you. You cannot change them. This has helped me many times in dealing with humanity. Remembering they are weak just as I am at times and that it is best not to depend too much on their strength, to be self sacrificing or helpful. You be the person that does the thing they won't do. Just remember not to have pride come into your heart in the process. Remember where you were and what you were about before you began getting strong. It will keep your heart humble while you grown along the way.

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