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I am enraged by lack of communication and support around grief. I am enraged and people's cluelessness and lack of empathy and acknowledgement of my pain. Grief, while personal to me, was heavily affected by my lack of support during my mother's illness and after. I was her sole caregiver and no one acknowledged me- instead I was judged at how poorly I was taking care of her- she was mentally ill and refused to do treatment despite the availability of it. I spent the 5 years she was alive with her diagnosis being her caregiver during my 20's. I lost my twenties and now, I deeply fear I will not even have my 30's due to the rage I can't have control over. I was shushed during the funeral and I was told I should think my mother "went on vacation and isn't coming back" by an insensitive family member. It brought to light all the family dynamics that I never want to be a part of- the denial, the glossing over of problems rather than confronting, the lack of communication and honesty, the support that was never there. I am enraged and unable to contain my anger to the extent that I can't go to work anymore without my thoughts being distorted about coworkers or situations. I need a break. I need to put myself first.

I lost my husband suddenly 2 months ago. He was 58, and I just turned 60. We were living a very good life. I've been doing pretty good since he died (basically). Seeing a therapist, practicing self love, etc. But this morning when I woke up I was chock full of anger. Like wanted to punch a wall angry. Was very confused and sad and spent the whole day snarky. Now I'm glad to know that anger is a part of it, so I'll sit with it, I'll talk to my therapist on Wednesday. But I wanted to thank you because I thought I was losing my mind. Grief is so individual and universal at the same time. Thank you for your explanation of anger.

I get so angry at my husband of 28 years for leaving me! (He was 53). He was sick with diabetes but died suddenly of a massive heart attack. In a 10 minute span, my life changed forever. Some days I blame him for leaving and not being here to take care of me or "being" with me!! When I'm alone I yell at him. I still love him but now the life I once knew is gone. I hate this new life and I tell him all the time.

Angry can be a huge mask. A wise person once told me anger is usually fear or pain and to try and determine which emotion was actually causing the anger. It has helped me several times. But in my recent grief it can be so difficult to handle. Sometimes I'm angry at everyone and everything for no actual reason, so I suppose it must be the pain of my loss and trying to cope.

I am so angry. Mostly at myself for failing to protect my son and failing to rescue him when he needed me most and for putting him in harm's way. He died at 27 years. I am angry with all the other enablers and cruel people that hurt my son and didn't care about him:- family court, social workers, justice system...I've fuelled my anger...it's safer to stay away from people. I feel grief, fear and anger in my stomach...also with the anger is mistrust of humans and disgust

I’m 20. I lost my dad who was never there on 12.15.2023 and then now I lost my baby at 8 weeks pregnant on 1.26.24. I feel so much rage. I didn’t even get the opportunity to go through the 5 stages of grieving over my dad. I immediately had to mourn the loss of my son. I feel really angry at the world rn 💔

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My anger has been intense. My husband of 41yrs succumbed to injures sustained in a MVA. Our adult children, struggling with everything that comes with young parenthood and their own relationships, are devastated. His death set off a chain reaction that almost overwhelmed us. I’m not angry with him, I’m not angry with his dying. I’m angry because of other people’s insensitive, incomprehension and insouciance, and the willful harm that has been done. I miss him so much and haven’t had the time or space to grieve because just surviving has been all-consuming. I can almost see the light at the end of this long tunnel. He died 7 months ago on Saturday.

I lost my loved one of 17 years on 4.23.24 from a heart attack. I thought I was getting better but now I'm dealing with so much anger. Not at him but at not being able to take care of things on my own. It's overwhelming. I'm in therapy but that doesn't take care of everything. I miss him so much. I know it will take more time but the anger part is so exhausting.

Lost my dad to an overdose in jail thanksgiving day 11/25/21.. first I was heartbroken (still am ), then numb, now I'm angry for months on end and I'm so empty.. I don't know how long this stage lasts but to anyone who hasn't yet lost a parent please prepare urself.. the pain is like no other...and I've lost my child so that's saying a lot. Crippling pain

It feels like I'm angry all the time. The moment I realise my husband is really gone, I'm angry at him for leaving, I'm angry at God for taking him so soon, at the drs as I don't feel they've done what they could to save him. I'm angry for waking up in the morning, alone for yet another day. Thank you Joe for your videos. It does help, sometimes it just take time to sink in.

I have been angry with my father for dying suddenly and having nothing in place leaving me and my siblings to figure out all the arrangements and how to pay for everything that goes with that. I'm angry with him for not having at least one emergency contact on file in the office at his apartment complex. I'm angry my brother found out that my dad was dead when the coroner called him to ask where to send the body. All this makes me angry because the storm of my grief for my father has been delayed and extended as a result. Don't even get me started on my mother's death because it's much newer and my limit around people is still very brief.

I lost my partner of nine years March 6th and I am angry at my self. I wished I could have said more done more. It was unexpected and I found her unresponsive. I have changed my relationships have changed. The people I needed the most like my mother and Father I realized they could not help or do not understand my grief even though they themselves have experienced tremendous loss. I am so glad that I found you because as I am learning to live with this pain I feel disconnected, angry, sad, and utterly lost. I have friends but I realized they too are broken. Now I realize that I need to heal and that I need healthy people around me to do so. I have a 16 year old daughter and she is like a breath of fresh air during this time. I am so glad that I have her because if not I would be able to keep pushing. Great channel keep helping those especially those whom may be suffering alone 🙏

I lost my son in July. I love listening to your videos. You've been a great help to me.

I feel as I am living in a nightmare. A horrible nightmare that i can’t get any. Reprieve from

Yes. This describes me.

My anger has no "source" and that's what frustrates me. It's like undirected rage. I get just filled with rage but i don't wave to take it out on anyone. I'm not mean to anyone. It's just there and can't be quelled. I work a high stress, demanding job. I know anger. It's always got a direction it goes. This goes nowhere. I'm not even mad at my late husband. I'm just mad.

My pain is still fresh I lost my dad exactly one week after my birthday and now he has been gone less than two months so I have a lot of anger and regrets and lost on this earth without the man who made me who I am

I lost my Dad 4 months ago. I have always had issues with anger but I have been able to learn to control it over the years. I can't lately and I feel very aggressive, often without knowing why.

hink my death anger started when I answered the call my cousin died of Leukemia. In 2014 lost my Dad on operating table covered by a white sheet He told me he wouldn't make it.....I should have tried to stop him. Had to pay for funeral he had no insurance. Welcome 2015....I lose my right arm past elbow in an Industrial accident. In a span of 4 months buried my brothers wife, my oldest brother and just yesterday his mom ( step-siblings) Same Dad...I'm tired but I think I-m angry because I never said anything to talk our dad out of it.

What would you tell someone that is angry because they feel they can’t grieve? I’m a mother that cannot let myself grieve my ex husband’s death because our 15 year old son needs me, if I miss work, we lose our home, food, clothes etc I don’t have time to grieve and I’m angry everyone else that loved him gets to

My father murdered my mom and he then committed suicide .So I live with that anger everyday .Missing her and him getting away with her murder

I'm always upset and crying hurting as I feel upset that my husband left me and I know it's not his fault but that's just how I feel at this stage

Thank you for helping to normalize the anger in this process. Before I listened to this I had a very confusing outburst of anger and it made me feel so incredibly out of control and afraid. I guess because I was taught as a small child that my anger was not acceptable to express. I think that is a common thing, but I was not expecting the enormity of how it manifested. Anyway, deep love to all who are suffering in their heart and soul with the anguish of loss.❤

Thank you for all your talks about grief. I’m grieving so much right now, not only physical losses but also my health that I’m trying to get back and feels impossible, and I just lost my beloved loyal close friend as I’m my cat. It’s so intense and your talks help me when I feel hopeless x

I lost my husband from a motorcycle accident about a week and a few days ago now. I’m angry and upset but I know he wants me to be happy no matter what so I’m trying to understand everything I’m 20 almost 21 and I’m a younger one but the first love of my life I’ve lost and it’s the first lost I’ve had to deal with

Thank you so much these help Me so much

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Thank you for sharing your personal experience.

Yes i did find myself angry at a few people after my husband died and i was in a state of shock for a few months. I woul despise what i consider to be inconsiderate or inappropriate words. I did try to just be polite, classy, but in my mind i was purging them from my life. I have decided that i dont have enough time for them. Having your spouse die creates a lot of paperwork, readjusting, and creating the new you.

I am angry all the time since I lost my husband

Hi I diffuse my anger through watching Bob Ross he has such a calming effect

I am FUMING!!! Nevermind angry. Inside. Not outwardly. My 14 year old son died. I AM FUMING!!! SPITTING SNAKES!!!

Today is the 2nd year anniversary of the death of our middle son, he was 42yo. His death came at the end of a massive battle with drugs and alcohol. I find myself angry with the few people we have left in our family who should know this anniversary and yet don’t!! The year before he died I lost my brother and my husband lost his sister. This year we lost my husband’s mother! I’m angry for what we’ve been through and are still struggling with and that our 2 surviving sons and my only brother don’t seem to realise!

I literally feel angry and evil after losing my mother 2 weeks ago to bowel cancer, I don’t think I’ve processed the diagnoses and then all the way through to her passing in total 7 months -away a couple of days before Christmas - seriously am getting so peed off with everything especially where I live which is a pit of snakes and full of people who abuse their bodies but my young 65 year old mother was ripped away from me !!!!

What happens during my intense grieving, i get an outside influence telling me things my husband was doing our saying over 11 years ago about me, hurtful things.. Then I'm angry and hurt at him, but i can't bring him back to ask. I'm left very hurt. 💔😢💔

I was so angry after my mother died and i took it out on my sdult daughter, who didnt deserve it. Four years later, my husband passed away, no anger this time, just sadness. I'm still trying to make peace with my daughter 😢

1year later lost my son and am so angry

Where did the word anger originate? Etymology. From Middle English anger (“grief, pain, trouble, affliction, vexation, sorrow, wrath”), from Old Norse angr, ǫngr (“affliction, sorrow”) (compare Old Norse ang, ǫng (“troubled”), from Proto-Germanic *angazaz (“grief, sorrow”), from Proto-Indo-European *h₂enǵʰ- (“narrow, tied together”).

I am furious at God for allowing the death of my 29 year old daughter.

I have had some of these problems since my wife passed away in April last year. Everyone keeps saying to Journal. I have never done that and having trouble writing things down and I don't know how to type......

What about when I am grieving over losing 2 brothers in 5 months, and other family members are taking their anger out on me? I see no videos regarding this part of grief anger. I need to cope with the anger of others as I try to process my own grief. Things have been said to me that cannot be taken back as a result of uncontrolled anger (resulting from the grief of others)...

Don’t confuse anger with rage. They are very different. Rage is destructive while anger leads to change.

I was just on the receiving end of someone's anger as misdirected grief. It felt awful. And made me feel very sad and hurt, especially because I had been trying to be compassionate, accommodating, and forgiving to her. But I had to draw a line in the sand because she was so rude and cruel. Am trying to decipher how much "grace" I can accommodate.