THE GUILT OF LEAVING FAMILY BEHIND To Move Overseas.

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There's no easy way to say it. Leaving family behind to move overseas is hard. It's heartbreaking.
But that's not to say you shouldn't do it. Or that it's impossible to cope.
In this week's show, we talk to Linda. Linda is my children's Grandmother. And my mum.
Linda moved from the UK eleven years ago to live in the same country as her two daughters.
But she left behind a son, four grandchildren, a sister, a brother and her aunt.
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@rogerb4436 2 жыл бұрын

That was a terrific video, it was straight up, to the point, honest and real. Very good content and put in a realistic in your face look at relocation. Great job.

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

This means a lot to us Roger, thank you very much for your generous comment, so glad that you liked it! ☺️

@annadex4569 7 ай бұрын

I'm going through this right now. I'm leaving Spain to move to the US, away from my parents who im extremely close with to live with my finance and i am also currently 29 weeks pregnant. I cry so much so listening to this has been nice. Thank you

@eileenhildreth8355 2 жыл бұрын

Such a difference to when my parents and I came to nz in 61. No phone calls as they were super expensive, had to be pre booked and made from the main post office in Invercargill. My parents never saw or spoke to family again, until mum went in the 80s, decades after her parents had passed. Mum wrote airmail letters monthly, and photos once a year. I really didn't have a relationship with any extended family. However they came to make a new and better life which they did. Today's level of communication, and the speed of travel is a totally different experience.

@greekxstitcher5379 2 жыл бұрын

And we all hear today how far people feel! You are so write things are soo much easier today! Hero’s is what that generation were and still are

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this Eileen, it is hard to imagine what it must have been like to get on a ship knowing that you would probably never see those members of your family again. Thank you as always for watching and for sharing 🥰

@richardreweti8671 9 ай бұрын

It's only a plane ride away we have family in the UK 🇬🇧 who travel to and from for weddings and funerals.

@rollyrolly7729 2 жыл бұрын

Like mother like daughter you two.

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

We are often told that we are alike - I hope so...she's my hero 🥰Thank you for watching! ☺️

@DomingoDeSantaClara 2 жыл бұрын

This reminded me of the air-mail letters we used to get from family in England,it was so expensive and you almost needed a microscope to read them,every bit of the paper was full with the tiniest writing to get the best value for money.

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! And the paper was so flimsy and blue, it was almost like blotting paper! Ahhh...how excited you got when you saw one of those envelopes pop through the door! 😁

@dial999forme 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for all your lovely comments! Xxxx Linda...Lizzie’s mum!!!

@user-rb5wc5sf6b Ай бұрын

So amazing woman, so uplifting the spirit!! I am new to new Zealand and have these thoughts all the time, whether I did it right or not, leaving my precious family, crying so much too... But this video really makes it better! Such a wise a positive woman!! All hugs going to your mum, Liz! I wish all the best for her 🥰😞

@ItsaDrama Ай бұрын

You are so welcome. My mum is indeed why I am brave enough to show up every week on KZfaq and produce content with my husband. She is a huge source of inspiration. Thank you for this lovely comment and we wish you every love and happiness in your new life in New Zealand 🇳🇿❤️ Liz and Linda xxx

@hedwig041 Жыл бұрын

I've watched this maybe 3 times. It's such a comfort that you can be away from family and it'll be ok. I'm Australian and live in the UK. I live with my British boyfriend and he's just the best. It means being away from my family though. I love my boyfriend, I love the UK, but it's hard. Probably not helped by the fact that as I'm writing this I'm about to go back to the UK after a month home! Just needed to put my thoughts somewhere.

@ItsaDrama Жыл бұрын

You are always welcome to put your thoughts here my friend. It's not easy but it'll be ok. Stay strong ❤️

@richardcaldwell9160 5 күн бұрын

Hey Liz, your Mum is just so lovely (like mine) hehe

@greekxstitcher5379 2 жыл бұрын

You mum is stunning Liz! You look a like ! Bless ya !! Sooo lucky to be able to go back so often ! X Bell well and keep smiling ! Btw I love your curtain colours

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much ☺️ Mum was very nervous about being filmed so I know that she will be feeling super loved right now, thank you as always xx

@renatamortazavi2450 5 ай бұрын

Omgosh, she is such a beautiful lady. ❤ such a beautiful soul ❤God bless her.❤

@ItsaDrama 5 ай бұрын

Thank you, Renata. She certainly is ❤️

@meg7088 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your Mum🌷 this is my favourite interview, absolutely loved it👌🏽Mums are very special 💖 Hi Linda 🙋🏽‍♀️

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

So glad that you enjoyed it Meg, and thank you for being so kind enough to tell us 🥰 My mum will be so happy to know that it's your favourite! xx🥰

@paulcalkin7960 2 жыл бұрын

Both of you have given me a kiwi living overseas have made me so happy

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Paul, it makes us so glad to hear that 😊

@terrymccarthy3429 2 жыл бұрын

Another great one Liz, hilarious but serious. Love your mum.

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Terry, we really appreciate it, I'll be passing these lovely messages on to mum! 🥰

@terrymccarthy3429 2 жыл бұрын

@@ItsaDrama You're welcome.

@annaboivin9209 2 жыл бұрын

I had my first daughter in Wellington. The rest of my family were in Auckland. Seems close but due to work and so on it may as well have been further away. I love how easy it is to keep in touch now. People lament the days before electronics and all that but the free calls around the world are fantastic.

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

This is so true Anna, and I love what you say about electronics (and I'm the worse with my kids?! 😳) if it wasn't for technology the world wouldn't have opened up to us like it has done! Thanks so much ☺️

@Pilipinainchile 10 ай бұрын

Great videos,i ask myself why i leaved my country for my kids just give them a future that i can't give if I stay with them in Philippines..

@Marshie8 Жыл бұрын

This was exactly what I needed to hear from someone who’s lived it in full. Not much else has helped me as much. Thank you for the perspective❤

@ItsaDrama Жыл бұрын

We are so glad to hear it Jacqueline, stay strong and thank you for your kind words. ❤️

@amilton1015 2 жыл бұрын

Linda = beauty...in Brazil.

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

🥰I will tell her this! thank you 😊

@carladossantos1142 6 ай бұрын

Seriously, this video just gave me some peace. About to move across the ocean, 42, feeling this heaviness and extreme guilt to leave...thank you so much

@ItsaDrama 6 ай бұрын

You are very, very welcome Carla. That means a lot to us. Good luck with your move and may your new adventure be happy and filled with love. Liz and Linda 😊

@victoriaa2281 2 жыл бұрын

I've been lucky enough to visit New Zealand twice during the pandemic because I've needed new visas, which I can only get in Wellington anyway. From next year I should be okay to stay there to renew until I get something more permanent, but I must say I've really appreciated the time with my family, and even the empty planes and managed isolation have been quite nice!

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this Victoria, it's so interesting to hear how other people are managing these times! Thank you 😊

@Martarini Жыл бұрын

Okay help me with this, I am 21. I want to move abroad to live with my boyfriend and his family in Brazil, we want to get married there and finally end the distance. My parents are very strict and traditional people, I have 3 other siblings so they won’t be alone. When they heard I bought a ticket to Brazil one way abs my whole plan of teaching English there and marrying my bf after a few weeks, they flipped. I get it is a big move but they’re bringing my aunts and uncles to tell me I can’t go. My parents are telling me I can’t go, my brothers are telling me I can’t go. Everyone is telling me I can’t go and my friends are the only ones who give me support. If I don’t go I know I will stay here an empty, hollow, shell of a person. Depressed, regretful, resentful. Towards my parents and myself that I couldn’t push myself through the pressure. My family was the kind to never support sleepovers and now their daughter was gonna move abroad. I get it it’s scary I have tried explaining to them but they say I have no choice no matter what I say!! They tell me everyday to give them my passport and cancel my ticket. Somebody help ke what to do??

@lllc1762 Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry I read this a few months late to give you my point of view. Did you go to Brazil? What was your decision?

@jasonpayneuk 2 жыл бұрын

Brilliant video! Bit of an emotional one, you do miss family so much - luckily (and unluckily) I don’t have any close family down there anymore - the nicest thing is to make the most of the calls and trips back and enjoy making memories

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Jason, yes, you are right...as much as I go on about technology running my teenagers lives I wouldn't be without it! 😁

@jasonpayneuk 2 жыл бұрын

@@ItsaDrama absolutely, that technology makes all the difference!

@marilynndavid622 2 жыл бұрын

How lovely to meet your Mum.😊 Great video too. Xxx

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Marilynn 🥰

@susanhammond2724 2 жыл бұрын

Great video topic. Nice to meet your Mum. . I have always thought how difficult it must be to immigrate so far away from your original home, leaving family behind. Very brave! My Grandmother was born in London and moved here with my Grandad (a Kiwi soldier) around 1920 when my mum was two. Although Nana did travel back once in 1961, my mum never got the chance to go back. My Dad's Grandfather and his brother came here from Roche Cornwall and further back in the family tree were from St Mewan. I have always wanted to visit England, but especially Cornwall.

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this comment, Susan! Oh, you must visit Cornwall if you can. Brian and I both grew up in Cornwall (Newquay) and it is a very special place. If you ever make plans to go, please message me and I'll give you a few inside places 🥰

@susanhammond2724 2 жыл бұрын

@@ItsaDrama Thank you, will do. So nice of you to offer. Can't see it happening any time soon but maybe one day. Depending on finances and covid free travel 😁

@rayrayrayrayray79 2 жыл бұрын

This is such a fantastic video!! Im sorry that your mum couldn't get back to the UK to see your brother because of bloody cover. I hope everything is ok.

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, yes everything is fine now. It has been so hard on many people living overseas and hopefully this little video has helped people to know that they are not alone 🥰Thank you again! x

@jeremyhaywood8890 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for a great video, I’m about to do the same and am feeling guilty so this helps enormously

@ItsaDrama Жыл бұрын

We are glad that it helps Jeremy, thank you and good luck with your move 😊

@JamieBeavers 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome video. When I first seen your mum I thought it could’ve been your sister!

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Ahh...she'll love that compliment! Thank you Jamie! ☺️

@JamieBeavers 2 жыл бұрын

@@ItsaDrama you’re very welcome.

@bridget8655 Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@ItsaDrama Жыл бұрын

You're welcome Bridget 😊

@enough1494 10 ай бұрын

About algorithms. I needed to see and hear this video. My empty nest is ready to be sold. Packing, selling all, going to Asia

@ItsaDrama 10 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful 😊 Good luck with your next adventure ❤️

@Keichen 10 ай бұрын

I needed this beautiful conversation. I feel like I'm apart of the family now🤣 Also, LOVE LOVE LOVE yawls idiolect!

@ItsaDrama 10 ай бұрын

So glad that you enjoyed it! And you are welcome to be part of our family! 😊

@terresagrace3767 6 ай бұрын

I so relate

@ItsaDrama 6 ай бұрын

Thank you Terresa, we hope it helped 😊

@robert3987 2 жыл бұрын

It's great you've made it to NZ. How easy was it to get work visas?

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Mum's husband was offered a job at AUT so they came on a work to resident visa 😊Thanks for watching Peter!

@juliewilliams3579 2 жыл бұрын

That's what we use to say about England same but different lol

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

That phrase is so useful hey?! 😆

@Regz45channel 2 жыл бұрын

great vlog's new friend realistic topics with mon ang daughter

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🤗

@lovaboi44 2 жыл бұрын

NZ is the best country in the world

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Well we think so but then again we are a bit biased! Thanks for watching 🥰🇳🇿

@richardsingh5827 2 жыл бұрын

I feel guilty about leaving people behind, and they continue the guilt trip

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

Oh dear...I hope it gets easier Richard 😊

@paullcameron5006 2 жыл бұрын

Myself and my sisters all moved away from NZ. Myself to Canada and my sisters to the UK. We deprived our parents of seeing their grandchildren on a regular basis. That's what I feel the most guilty about.

@ItsaDrama 2 жыл бұрын

IYes...I hear you, Paull. Guilt is part of the package when you emigrate, isn't it? And in times like this when travel is impossible, it is extra hard...Sending you best wishes 😊

@patriciasanderson2171 2 жыл бұрын

Same. Moved from uk to Australia and the guilt is trememdous. I'm heartbroken every time i hug my mum goodbye and she didn't get to see my daughter grow up. Sometimes wish i hadn't done it.