THE HARDEST THING ABOUT HAVING TWO KIDS? | LET'S CHAT ABOUT BEING A MOM OF 2 👧🏼👶🏼💕

THE HARDEST THING ABOUT HAVING TWO KIDS? | LET'S CHAT ABOUT BEING A MOM OF 2 👧🏼👶🏼💕 | KAYLA BUELL

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Answering a question I get asked ALL THE TIME!! What's the hardest thing about having two kids? What's the biggest difference between having one kid and having two? Here are some of my thoughts on that! Love your faces! xoxox, Kayla
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@jenniferkrigbaum2677 2 жыл бұрын

With two kids (3 years old and 8 months), I never realized how much I would miss spontaneous showers and naps 😂😭 my husband and I literally have to schedule them lol

@thayerwilliams905 2 жыл бұрын

"Life is always going to be hard. It's just a question of where do you want that hard to come from?" YES. I've had that exact thought/attitude since I was in college. I was amazed how many people around me seemed to think if they just avoided whatever hard thing they currently had, that life would be easier all over. In my 30s and I still get surprised how many people still think this way. Thanks for the validation!

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

🤍🤍🤍🤍

@sinawidmann9813 2 жыл бұрын

I hear you so much Kayla... my first son was born when Jackson was born and I now have a six month old girl. So they are not even two years apart. It has been the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life! When my firstborn was brand new I went through almost the exact same stuff at the same time that you did with Jackson. You were like a friend to me that I could share stuff with and identify with...and you still are. Thanks for showing how much you adore your kids and at the same time being honest and not leaving anything in the dark about the hard stuff. Hugs and kisses from a German follower! 😘

@dianamedley3456 2 жыл бұрын

I’m almost in 3rd trimester of 2nd pregnancy… and now I’m more anxious 😆 No, I appreciate the honesty… but also slightly terrified.

@ashleycortes6378 2 жыл бұрын

I’m a mom of 2 under 3 and girl it’s the hardest but at the same time the best feeling in the world knowing we are the ones who are raising them. It’s beautiful. 💘

@sophiesullivan3628 2 жыл бұрын

Wow Kayla, I got 2.45 mins in and that already made me feel so much better. I have been struggling recently with finding parenting life to two kids hard! Really needed this video 💕

@loriarmstrong4451 2 жыл бұрын

What gets me through tough times with my 1-year-old is: Staying plugged into KZfaq mommies (like you) binge-listening to audiobooks from the Libby or Hoopla app and of course prayer. For mental health, I binge watch a lady on KZfaq called Therapy in a Nutshell and I practice all of those skills regularly. I would love to be a friend to you and part of your tribe/support group. Books that I recommend are: Parenting with Scripture by Kara G. Durbin, The Duties of Parents by J.C. Ryle, Parenting in Christ by Christina Dronen, The 5 Love Languages for Children by Gary Chapman, and I am currently listening to Sacred Parenting by Gary Thomas.

@Cyan559 2 жыл бұрын

Started my 2 kids journey with 2 under two 😳 and I was terrified!! Now ones 3 months, my other just turned 2. The most difficult for me is when he has a sleep regression, sometimes the crying fits happen when the baby is also crying. Then add breastfeeding and pumping in to that mix. The screaming is overstimulating! I think them needing me at the same time, less sleep than I got before, bathing time and lacking time for more one on one activities are tough. I long them both so much, but yes it can be fun 🙃

@ronjab4586 2 жыл бұрын

That's also the absolute hardest for me - them needing me at the same time. Our kids are very similar in age difference. It got easier for us when the baby started robbing and rolling around. Now they can often distract each other and the baby can get what she wants mostly by herself. Wish you luck

@Cleotattra 2 жыл бұрын

I freaking love the raw honesty in this. I needed to see this video!

@iheartmakeup23 2 жыл бұрын

Love that you shared this video and hearing all your thoughts and experiences. I relate to so many things you mentioned. My daughter is 5 and my son is 2. I personally think it was much easier for us (my husband and I) bc my daughter was 3.5 when my son was born. She was very independent at that point which was very helpful and prevented some stress. I personally found the hardest thing (and still do) is making enough time to spend solo with each child. It is difficult to do anything 1 on 1 or with my husband/I and one child.

@WSC1428 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊 for sharing! I’m a SAHM currently trying for baby number 2 and your raw honesty has helped so much!

@kezs3848 Жыл бұрын

Your awesome! Just had my 1st, thanks for giving us the heads up, thanks for being vulnerable

@ash529x 2 жыл бұрын

Kayla this video is super helpful! I currently have an 18 month old daughter, and am debating whether or not to have baby #2. As much as I want her to have a sibling I don’t know if that outweighs all my other concerns. I feel like people glamorize having kids close in age, but I don’t know if I’m cut of for that. Your honesty is refreshing and it’s nice to see a more realistic perspective.

@chabisan8374 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video and your honesty, currently have a 2 year old daughter and am pregnant with our second and have been stressing about the future day to day with two in the house (our 2 year old is getting more active and curious and loves to explore, and imagining a newborn in the mix, remembering sleepless nights and regression, what toys are appropriate XD the stress is real lmao) but you hit a lot of great points, and I really appreciate your candidness.

@sarabickel9996 2 жыл бұрын

The "fights" over toys my sons had (two years apart!) got resolved somewhat by using a timer. It got set for 5 minutes, then the toy was exchanged with the other children. Something my mom used on us 4 kids (and I used too) was a prize given for the child who could ... Not Talk.... for the longest. It worked well if not used very often. It stopped the noise and gave mom a break at least temporarily... Also, if the children all try hard, everyone gets a prize. Also, I LOVE your waitress comparison!!! Its perfect!I've been a waitress 😉 Prayers are an outstanding tool for parenting! And everything. 🙏 ❤️🙏

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Lmaoooo a prize for the child who doesn’t talk for the longest 😂😂😂 ima go find some awesome prizes and keep them in the basement bc we’re gunna play this game often lol too funny!!

@courball21 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for making this video! My boys are 3 and 1.. exactly 2 years apart also. Im struggling with these same exact issues. Happy to hear it’s normal and I’m not doing anything wrong 😊 motherhood so hard.

@jackieelsmore7221 2 жыл бұрын

I feel this 100% my babies are 22months apart. I’m so happy to hear I’m not the only one experiencing all this 🤣

@HaloGirl67 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for talking about this- so so helpful! I'm expecting my 2nd baby in September :)

@mariskasteyn7595 2 жыл бұрын

Love your vlogs. My son is 2 and half and my daughter is almost 10 months. They 22 months apart and it's difficult but know it will become easier and enjoy this time while they small. They grow up so fast.

@Ashley-om6zo 2 жыл бұрын

I started following you when you were pregnant with Jackson and I was pregnant with my second child. Those videos you made staying up all night with Jackson helped me so much back then 😭 my second baby was very similar, super fussy and never slept. I agree with everything you said about having 2 kids. I also have a 4 and 2 year old so I can relate a lot. With one kid I could pretty much do everything I did before but 2 kids you go to full mom mode. I now understand why people say it’s so different to just have one kid vs multiple 😅 it is such a struggle but so worth it

@vipermw 2 жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree with you more. We are seriously leading the same life lol. I have two girls, 4yrs old and 19mo and they fight constantly. I cherish those few moments that they play together and are smiling and laughing. I can only hope that as they get older and understand things more that they will become closer and show their love for each other. 😍

@kayteefarren2475 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 2 year old girl and baby boy (almost exactly 2 years apart December babies - just like you!) and I am so struggling with the lack of free time and always being overstimulated. Seeing how far you’ve come brings me hope!

@dpatterson9741 2 жыл бұрын

Lol😆 Kayla, I am over here cracking up, that metaphor was on point. I use to be a server and I have two kids the same ages as yours and yes that's exactly what it feels like with them but I wouldn't change it for nothing in the world. Keep up the good work mom 👍

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 I’m so glad you liked it! But absolutely! Wouldn’t change it for a thing! Life would be so boring without them 🤍

@debraroth2388 2 жыл бұрын

You are doing a awesome job with your kids . They are so lucky to have a great mom .

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for that 😘🤍

@debraroth2388 2 жыл бұрын

@@KaylaBuell your welcome 😊💞

@NaturallyDanielle 2 жыл бұрын

I’m currently 5 months pregnant with my 2nd child & i’ve been struggling with thinking how will I love my new baby as much as my 1st lol so this video makes me feel so much better… mine will be 2 years apart as well & your channel has helped me so much!! Now I know what I’m in for 🤦🏾‍♀️ lol.

@Yakumoki Жыл бұрын

Please tell me how things are going? Is your fear that you won't love baby #2 gone? Congratulations:)

@AnimeTiger178 2 жыл бұрын

Thinking of baby number two. Love to hear everything you have to say. ❤

@meravech 2 жыл бұрын

Soo interesting!! Thank u for this video 😘😘

@samantharoulston 2 жыл бұрын

I have an almost 4 year old and almost 2 year old, and you are spot on! I even found the transition to 2 harder than 1. We have all the same challenges you described. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one lol

@19lalitaa 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 2 year old toddler and I’m always thinking of my mom because she had 6 of us. I’m just in awe of her. It was me and my brother for a very very long time and we are two years apart and I remember always fighting with him but there was also a lot of love you know. So I was 14 and my brother was 12 when my mom told us she was pregnant and it was so weird but then she had the next 4 back to back all two years apart! I don’t know how she did it but she did. And she always tells me if I can do it with all your brothers you can do it with just one. I bow to all the women with multiple children so close in age. You are amazing for that.

@mayralovesyu 2 жыл бұрын

This conversation had to be done thank you

@cristinavetsch3468 2 жыл бұрын

You're not alone!! Thank u for sharing. Like u said, life is hard in whatever season. It just changes the way it presents. God give us grace. I have an autistic son, so that makes it even more stressful. Yes, the noise!! Yes, pray!

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Lots and lots of prayers for sureeee! But He uses even the hardest stuff for his glory! 🤍

@kaitlinross4348 2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha I LOVEEE the Ihop server analogy. I’m pregnant with baby #2, they’ll be 22 months apart when born. This video was super insightful and I’m not sure if you already have a video on how to get stuff done with 2 kids (haven’t checked yet), but I’d love to hear tips. Because right now during her nap is when I get the dishes and everything else done that I can’t do with her awake. Having another baby makes me nervous because when will I find time to do anything!?!

@Lala420t0kes 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 17 month old and I am 13 weeks pregnant. I am due 6 days before my daughters second birthday. Thank you for this video. 🥺😭😭😭😭 I have watched others videos on this just from the search bar, but it’s different when it’s coming from a KZfaqr you watch regularly!!!

@simplymebykas 2 жыл бұрын

Oh the noise😵‍💫 My girls are 4.5 and 2 and yes, they just somehow always manage to annoy each other and just end up screaming at each other🤦🏻‍♀️They are the complete opposites in terms of personality and interests and likes/dislikes... it's definitely hard but like you said, wouldn't change it for the world ❤️ Thanks for sharing. Really enjoyed that very open mum chat

@laurenfalzone3739 2 жыл бұрын

Everything you said was so spot on! I have a 4 year old girl and 1 year old boy. It's soo much harder with two kids for all the reasons you said lol Nice to know we aren't alone though in our thoughts!

@jmeblare7473 2 жыл бұрын

Same. I have a 4 year old and 1 year old boy.

@thaladiescorner9989 2 жыл бұрын

I totally feel you now that my youngest is 1, my 3yr old is now very independent for some stuff that my 1yr old is not ready for. And the mini fights starting now, but the newborn phase was surprisingly easy, she slept a lot and was quite a chill baby compared to my 3yr old. I only struggled with a lot of mom guilt for not spending as much time with my oldest. But yes won’t change it for the world 🥰😍

@SarahJeanDeger13 2 жыл бұрын

I clicked on this so fast. I have a 17 month old daughter and I go in to have my son on May 31st. My daughter will be 18 1/2 months old when my son is born and I've never been more terrified in my life. This video did help me more mentally prepare myself and know more of what to expect. I really just can't over think it because thats what I'm really bad about doing. I know I will figure it out but I know there will be really hard days where I feel like I just can't do it. Even in the hard moments with my daughter at her age, I try to tell myself that this stage is only temporary and oddly enough, someday I will miss it. Thank you for the this advice Kayla! 💕

@mylovelydream8828 2 жыл бұрын

My daughter was 18 months when her baby sister was born and I remember feeling the same way! But I can tell you, it really does all work out. It's crazy bcuz my 2nd born jus turned 10 months and I thought to myself wow, I really have this whole routine with 2 babies down, like it all jus becomes natural after awhile. There are crazy days, not gonna lie, but overall I feel like as my 2nd is crawling now and almost walking, they entertain eachother and it's so beautiful to see them together. Now if i can jus get my first born potty trained that would be awesome lol! Just give it time and go with the flow. God's timing is perfect and they are close in age for a reason 💜🙏 you were born for this 💗 Prayers for a healthy, safe delivery.

@SarahJeanDeger13 2 жыл бұрын

@@mylovelydream8828 awww thank you so much! You honestly made me feel so much better. Any advice from other moms with my same situation is so appreciated 💕

@mylovelydream8828 2 жыл бұрын

@@SarahJeanDeger13 awwe I'm so glad! 💗 even for me, it's always good to relate and talk to other mommy's out there! Take good care these last couple months 💗

@sammy6549 2 жыл бұрын

I have two boys, 2.5 and 4.5, and currently 24 weeks pregnant with our third and it is hard! My boys do have their moments when they play nicely together and take turns, but those moments don't always last long and then there's screaming, pushing etc. I have noticed that my kids are much better behaved with each other when we go out, so we try to go out with them whenever possible, even just the local park for an hour or two.

@nayeligonzalez6925 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you much needed. It’s barely my second week in this new job of mom 2. Oh boy it’s tough. Specially during feedings it’s when my 2yr old decides to ask for a million things one after another .

@darciestepp4199 2 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness I love your IHOP comparison! I JUST finished telling my husband I feel like I'm a waitress having to keep the 15 month old occupied while I try to organize the house. Thinking about baby #2 so it's a rush to get all the things I want done. Love your videos!!!

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Lmao welcome go ihop can I take your order? 🥞 thanks so much for being here and watching! 😘

@nicolesnow6860 2 жыл бұрын

I truly needed to see this video because it shows me I’m not alone. I have 2 under 2 and when we brought our second baby home we were scheduled to move to a new base a week later where my husband posts out in the field a week at a time every three weeks. 8 months later, I am still trying to figure out how to handle the responsibility of 2 kids all by myself.

@estefir2930 2 жыл бұрын

Watching this video from the hospital while recovering from having baby #2 🙈🙈 bad choice lol. My girl is 3 and I just had my boy 😬 Bracing myself

@abbylheureux1317 2 жыл бұрын

Right now I am potty training my 2 and a half year old and have a 4 month old and it is testing me daily! Gonna lose my freaking mind😂 can’t wait to just be done with potty training

@nimoarab7137 2 жыл бұрын

You know how people be like have more it’s all the same, that’s big lie 😂. I truly love this video!

@joyruiz9663 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 2 year old and a one year old and splitting your time is so hard. Balancing it all is so hard but so worth it. Don’t know how my mom had four of us back to back !

@Tartiyana 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly the same thing I’m going through with my 2 kids. Lol 😂 Thanks for making this video!

@jodydyson8648 2 жыл бұрын

I like this one the question of one or 2 kids is always on my mind

@emilylarsen1891 2 жыл бұрын

You are definitely not the only one. My kids are 2yrs apart just like yours but the logistics is very difficult.

@beckykeast9744 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Kayla! I’m getting ready for my 2nd in October and they will be 2 year 2 months apart. I imagine we’ll have similar struggles!

@raleighnoel 2 жыл бұрын

I don't understand why all these feelings are mutual for families and why we choose to have more than one. As a mother of one, contemplating to, it's really difficult to make the choice when nobody has anything positive to say. And yet having at least two is the norm. 🥴💫

@christinamastry701 2 жыл бұрын

My second is still only 9 months and my oldest 25mo so we don’t have actual fighting yet. There is a little of it but mostly just from the oldest, but the struggle of doing activities with kids that are at such different stages in life is real. And the guilt that you’re doing fun stuff for one and not the other. One is always left out. I feel you on the noise too. Mine always meltdown at the same time. It’s real fun haha 🤪 But so far the hardest thing for me besides just juggling them in general is once my second started solids. Feeding my toddler is enough of a struggle and now I’ve got to make a separate baby safe meal. By the time I’ve got the second meal done the first child is ready to be cleaned up. It’s just a non stop cycle of continuous needs which why I’m always so amazed that you’re able to get so much done professionally and with no help. Truly impressive!

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Girl I totally feel that one! It’s like okay make two different meals for them…clean up…then maybeeeee sometime after you get to feed yourself lol 😅 hang in there though! It sounds like you’re doing a great job too! 🤍

@cmmend06 2 жыл бұрын

😂 lol love the restaurant analogy

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

🥞 🤍🙃

@lindsaylemke5967 2 жыл бұрын

I definitely think it was harder going from 1 to 2 than it was 0 to 1. And every single issue you mentioned, I have and currently deal with, especially with then wanting to go do two different things in different rooms or if they do want the same thing, there are arguments lol I also am dealing with the EXACT same with schooling because I am homeschooling my 4 year old, and my 18 mo. Old wants to do everything she does, which is not always age appropriate or she's trying to get my attention by standing on her sister's workbook pages while she's writing, trying to rip up her papers, etc....I love teaching her and will continue to homeschool, but geeze Louise is it stressful to teach a 4 year old with a curious, attention seeking 18 mo old 😆. Glad I'm not alone, everyone else makes it look so easy!!

@iheartmakeup23 2 жыл бұрын

I also find it really tough to navigate fights/arguments between my kids. I feel like I often want to ask my oldest to “give in” to her younger brother just bc she’s older which isn’t fair. I don’t want to referee all their disagreements/fights either. It’s so tough to navigate how to handle it and it’s a daily occurrence!

@JH-tv8zg 2 жыл бұрын

I have 2 under 2 and I agree SO much with every single thing you said. It’s beyond hard!!! I don’t know how people have more kids than 2 hahah 😅

@jbean9657 2 жыл бұрын

Single mom here of 18 month old twins. Like a real single mom- donor conceived pregnancy. There is no other parent. I also don't have any family in this state other than a sister who is an hour away and has two young kids of her own. So... yeah. We're fine. It's chaos, but we are happy. It's hard for me to even know what to say to people who are telling me they can't deal with one baby and two parents.

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

🤍🤍🤍🤍

@serenawei 2 жыл бұрын

Lol love the waitress analogy

@brittanyescott6550 2 жыл бұрын

I am 21 weeks with baby boy number two, my boys will be 3 years apart. Loved this video and your insight, trying to prepare myself for the mental strain that will be added even though I know I will love this new boy so so so much! Also triggered as a former server, so stressful 😂

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha forever waiting on demanding customers lol and spoiler alert - they don’t tip 😂💀

@juliamok3930 2 жыл бұрын

I think one of the best things I’ve done with my girls (2 years 9 months apart) is not assist with a new activity until the first is picked up. I don’t bring down a new toy until the first is put away. Another thing I’ve just begun with my older daughter is to say, “would you treat your friends this way?… [no]… then let’s treat sister like we’d treat our friends.” I do a lot of “let’s say it this way” or “we say this” with the girls. If they say “give me the toy!” I’d respond, “say, can I have that please when you’re finished?” This redirection is my whole life. It does seem to work though.

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome!!! Thanks for sharing that!

@gabriellar6271 2 жыл бұрын

Having them be 2 years apart do you think that’s a good age gap or what do you think is ideal? I have a 2 year old girl and considering the idea of getting pregnant next year once she’s 3. Having another one while she’s closer to 4 sounds like an ideal age gap for me since she will be a little more independent and not as needy.

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve said before that I think a 3 year age gap would have been easier on my end. 2 years is pretty rough 😅

@Sam-yo7nh 2 жыл бұрын

Totally can relate. Mine are 3 and 11 months! And the little guys second nap is later now then my first child. So I don’t have freee time in the afternoon anymore. It’s so hard. Maybe once he drops to one nap the older can have quiet time. Activity time is def hard. And now I feel like I have so much brain fog I’m trying to figure out how to teach my older one things and do those activities but also do that for the little one. Plus the little one is always putting things in his mouth. Ugh It’s hard. But we do the best we can.

@marissathomas9327 2 жыл бұрын

I have 4 children (8,4,3,7 month old ) all girls and I remember going from 1 to 2 and chilleee I was nervous now I don’t even remember having just 2 kids, I went from 2 to 4 quick 😩😂 but I remember the transition was emotionally hard . Not physically but emotionally . Now going from 2 to 3 was easy and normal at that point and I had a more structured routine . And now I have 4 and I’m drowning emotionally at times but at the same time I’m even more organized . It’s weird lol my fiancé (been together almost 9 years ) works over the road so it’s hard at times because I’m on my own and I’m working full time again (so happy) , but it is very hard for sure . Especially keeping up with the house. I’m stressed y’all 😂 Oo and yes the kids argue all day long . Especially having all girls lol chillleee 😩😩

@cindyrodriguez5769 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 3.5 year old and a 10 month old. I laugh while watching your video bc that’s exactly what I am going through

@nonaaah1 2 жыл бұрын

i really love my two little angels. but its too hard, and what I have done for them it's still not enough as i think and i should do more. sometimes i satle with my self just to tell her that i do what i can and of offer my best ever

@aawink08 2 жыл бұрын

Momma to 2 year old twin girls and while I don’t have to deal with them being in different stages, I can totally relate to everything else! Especially the fighting, the emotions and the noise! Oh the noise! We are at the stage where they constantly just torture the other one and we are learning to deal with our emotions which is resulting in biting and hair pulling when we are angry 🤦🏻‍♀️

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Lmao they really do like to torture each other. Fun times 😅😂

@annemacdougall2910 2 жыл бұрын

As much as I want baby #2 I lose my sh#t with just my 2.5 year old son…my husband and I do it all . This video was great! Thank you for keeping it real

@laurenkemp5202 2 жыл бұрын

You’re not the only one.. I need like a clone of myself or 2 more arms at least. One is always mad and my fav is when both are mad😂 but we get through it every day! The older they get the more it seems to even out and be a little easier

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Lmao one or both of them will always be mad. It’s just facts 😂 but two more arms would be absolutely fabulous 👍🏼👍🏼

@dolphynlvr4 2 жыл бұрын

I have an almost 21 month old son and pregnant with baby #2 due in August. On one hand I’m less nervous this time around because I’ve already done it once, I know more now. I am worried about juggling 2 with my own health (I struggle with migraines). I have also wondered how could I love another baby as much as I love my son, but I heard a line from a show called Call the Midwife that stuck with me. It addressed the issue some moms face with going from 1-2 kids and not knowing how their heart could expand. And the line from the show was “Love is not halved, it’s doubled.” ❤️

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Yep love is absolutely DOUBLED!! Your heart expands in size. No doubt about that!

@kelliet232 2 жыл бұрын

Lol omg I love how relatable this video is! I have a 4 yr old son and a 1.5 yr old son and I feel like a robot 🤣 it is non stop and the crying n whining.

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been so tempted to just walk around the house with my bose noise cancelling headphones bc I just can’t deal with the whining lol

@kelliet232 2 жыл бұрын

@@KaylaBuell 🤣🤣🤣 I love watching ur videos they are so REAL!!!!!

@alondrayjoseserrano300 2 жыл бұрын

I have my 15 month old Daughter. I want another baby but I want organize my life first as I am 20 years and in college, it been a debate whether to have another baby because some days are very hard but like you said my daughter has brought so much joy in my life she’s my reason to continue in life.

@safiyas.2546 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old, both girls and it’s hard for sure, esp if you’re a working mom! I think Riley will start school soon? I dunno how it will be at 2 and 4! But my older one goes to daycare because I have no help, hubby doesn’t wfh and no grandparents around… And I had the same feeling about loving another child ! Crazy how we all go through the same thing!

@anaisroque4470 2 жыл бұрын

Same girl… everything same…. Lol I have a 3 and a half year old and a 2 year old, and everything you just said my kids do 😜

@DaynaandCam 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 2 and 3year old (15months apart boys) and the bickering drives me bonkers, when they play nicely together it's lovely and they don't rely on just me to entertain them. But it's hard definitely ❤

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Today I got like a full 30 mins of them playing nicely without screaming and it was pure bliss. Tomorrow that will likely not be the case lol but thankful for those little moments lol

@DaynaandCam 2 жыл бұрын

30mins is pretty good, lucky to get 5mins 😆 I'm thankful my youngest still naps for 2hours a day just for some peace

@abbievallance9385 2 жыл бұрын

Just know I go through the same stuff girl! My boys are 4 and 2!! My daughter will be one in May. It’s a shit show over here and my boys absolutely will fight over EVERYTHING.🙃🙃

@adairhenman2771 2 жыл бұрын

My boys are also 4 and 2 and we just brought our newborn daughter home from the hospital, I must be out of my mind!

@Mynamenikki 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Kayla! Try the book “peaceful parents happy siblings.” it deals with sibling fighting and is good for younger kiddos

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the suggestion!!

@Annagracie24 2 жыл бұрын

Becoming a mum of 2 this August!! Aurghhhhh 😅😂😭💖😅😂💕💖😮

@mylovelydream8828 2 жыл бұрын

I have a two year old and a 10 month old. When my 10 month old wants to play with a toy my 2 year old has and my 2 year old doesn't want to share, I tell her ok baby then what can your little sister play with? Can you give her a toy to play with? Or I tell her, can she play with this, can you give her this? And it works at most times. It kind of teaches the older one to share her other toys and to also think about the feelings of the little one. And of course as my 10 month old grows I will work on teaching her boundaries and to take turns, not just grab at toys her sister is playing with. Just some random thoughts. You probably have tried this, I kno all babies are different. Your doing an amazing job 💗 love your videos!

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome suggestions! Thank you so much!

@mylovelydream8828 2 жыл бұрын

@@KaylaBuell awwe I'm glad! Your videos always help me so much! 💗

@Flores-pu9jt 2 жыл бұрын

I had my daughter February and my son Is 21”2 months . Nap time is the hardest thing right now for me . I’m alone with no help . Any advice ?

@alinarodriguez5629 2 жыл бұрын

The worst for me is dealing with my 2 kids (19 months apart) in a reduced space and the daddy sleeping during the day because he works nightshifts and too cold outside to play. So imagine your loud kids with a daddy trying to sleep. Exhausting!

@lotte90 2 жыл бұрын

Mom of 2 under 2 here too, baby girl is 3 months old and my oldest daughter is 21 months… still figuring it out 🙈 It’s really hard right now, especially with little help. ❤️

@mylovelydream8828 2 жыл бұрын

I have 2 close in age like you. My first born just turned 2 and my 2nd born jus turned 10 months. It was harder when my 2nd baby was around 3 months old but now that she is 10 months old it is much better. It gets easier as they grow. I'm sure there's more challenges as they grow but they are more independent and they will play with eachother more. I know it's hard,, especially with not much help..I'm in the same situation. Hang in there 💜🙏 you got this!!

@melissaferguson7630 2 жыл бұрын

My kiddos are almost 6 and almost 2, my oldest was 3.5 when her brother was born and I swear it made it so much easier. I felt the transition to 2 was WAY easier for me than my transition to 1. But I feel the age difference helped me, and with my 1st I was a working mom and was in grad school, with 2 I was a stay at home mom. And we were in a pandemic so for baby’s first like 3 ish months we couldn’t go anywhere and no one really came to visit 🤣and it was great honestly

@melissaferguson7630 2 жыл бұрын

Yes I will agree the time was definitely a change. I was so used to just dealing with 1 kiddo, my daughter stopped napping right after her brother was born so finding time to do anything was tough. Also I feel like my house is NEVER clean 😑 no matter how much I do during the day, at the end of the day there’s always more that needs done. My daughter is also active in activities or therapies so we have lots of errands to run, entertaining a baby in the car for hours is so not fun- so sadly we’ve had way more screen time than I ever wanted to but it works

@melissaferguson7630 2 жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes only one is happy at a time, you are pulled in all the directions and oh goodness why can’t both just stay in the same area (room, inside, outside, etc.)

@jenniferhodgkinson2429 2 жыл бұрын

I'm overdue with my second child so this video couldn't come at a better time 😅😅

@Mtnguyen867 2 жыл бұрын

Probably the reason why I made my mind before I even had kids: I cannot home-school my kids and they will be in school. I will keep my career. I just don't have the patience and the sanity that you all SAHM have. Super high respect for you all, I just can't do it. The 15 months straight being home with toddler while working full time, because of the pandemic, killed me (in term of sanity). You moms are doing great (to the best that you can)👏

@emileeandjeremyc5253 2 жыл бұрын

i have a 1 (will be 2 in june) and 3 year old and for me it’s the toddler fights!! i swear i have to be a referee everyday lol it is so hard i have lost myself after becoming a mom and trying to find myself again but like you mentioned we don’t have much time 😅

@susalkasarahi 2 жыл бұрын

I’m still on baby #1 but the baby fever is strong to give my son a sibling. My issue is even tho he’s an easy going baby and toddler, I’m exhausted and don’t know how I’ll survive splitting my attention with two kids. It was “easy” when I just got to focus on one feeding schedule and diaper schedule and I can’t imagine keeping track of two separate agendas. But I sure want to 🥴

@booksarebetter29 2 жыл бұрын

Motherhood is a thankless job. Two kids is very hard. I am trying to accept that there's going to be messes, crumbs everywhere, etc. I love them so much but also wish I was better prepared for motherhood.

@janeenrivera3471 2 жыл бұрын

A hard part of having 2 kids so close in age for me was not comparing them. Things my first born did so quickly or easily that my second didn’t, I had to teach myself that both kids are different. They learn different they eat different, they have different personalities, they hit milestones at different times. I’m still learning to go with the flow and try to enjoy them while they are little even through the difficulties!

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

It’s a thankless job some days sure! But other days they’re cuddly and hit you with a random “I love you” and it’s so darn worth it. Messes and crumbs are totally my jam lol Joe not so much but I just accept that it’s part of the package. But you’ve got this! None of us know what we’re doing lol I feel like my entire life is improv comedy. I just go with it 😂

@Oliviahurley1995 2 жыл бұрын

I get you my love I'm in that kinda of stage now in my life

@karoosten232 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, perfect timing! My daughter is a week old, and I’d be lying if I didn’t say I consistently cry during bedtime routine while on solo duty.

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

You got this mama! Congrats on your baby girl’ she’s lucky to have you!

@karoosten232 2 жыл бұрын

Happy to report, no longer crying! 3 months in, some days are harder than others. The biggest shift has been the reality that everyone needs something…even I need something! It’s hard to juggle the kids, home/cleaning, cooking, and general errands and shopping so any pockets of peace, I just take! I’m sure it will get much harder once she is mobile

@NicoleLottLife 2 жыл бұрын

I’m also a mom of two, and my kids are 10 years apart, so I don’t deal with the being split in two directions type of stuff. He’s old enough to be independent (he’s 12 lol), so there is no fighting or jealousy👍🏼. That being said, It’s more that I was overwhelmed with my second child because she was so different from my first born😵‍💫 My son was an easy baby, an easy toddler….my daughter was not and is not lol. So for me it’s more I’m shell shocked because she is so much more difficult and I was clueless that that could happen to me lol. In my head, other toddlers were just overly difficult, but MY kids weren’t going to be like that right🤣😂🤣 Jokes on me lol

@Lynaka1 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I’m in the exact same situation except they are 5 years apart. First baby, easy peasy, always happy, didn’t ever go through terrible twos, rarely gave me a hard time. Baby number 2, it’s been a daily struggle. Love them to death but never thought parenting would be this hard.

@Lynaka1 2 жыл бұрын

My doctor 👩🏻‍⚕️ told me God gives you an easy first baby so you can have a second one. Lol

@NicoleLottLife 2 жыл бұрын

@@Lynaka1 Right?!? I’ve heard this so many times…first one will be easy, second one never is😂 It almost feels like it’s on purpose right?! We are kind of forced to face these challenges we didn’t think we would have to that just rock us to our core and then we have to overcome them. Life is funny like that lol🤷🏽‍♀️

@Lynaka1 2 жыл бұрын

Thankfully my first is still really easy otherwise I would go bonkers.

@NicoleLottLife 2 жыл бұрын

@@Lynaka1 Same! He’s a chill kid, so I’m basically just dealing with 1 crazy kid. Silver linings lol.

@jennakrehbiel3562 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 6 month old and a 22 month old 😅 Two little boys! My younger boy had a major surgery and I was in the children's hospital with him the whole time because he is nursing so I was away from my 1yo the while time 🥺

@jadewalters6597 2 жыл бұрын

Your not alone. Kayla i have 18month old girl her names Kayla-Grace. and a 3year old. But they argue an fight at times can b nice sometimes tho but it is hard. And i have 10yr and a 9year old too. Fighting is happening here too. With the little 2 and sometimes arguing with older 2 at times. Dont know how i do it really but somehow i get thru everyday with 4kids lol.

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

You’re amazing! And your little ones are lucky to have you! Anddddd I love that name! Riley’s middle name is grace so it’s a very nice combo! 🙃

@mariiaoliinyk4340 2 жыл бұрын

Omg, IHOP waitress, now I know a definition of my everyday job 😅

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

IHOP waitresses for life 🙌🏼🥞

@katheriinne22 2 жыл бұрын

I am about to have my second baby next week and have a 23 month old that still sleeps with us in bed. Its been really hard to transition him to his toddler bed, i know we should have done this way back in time and i wouldnt be having such a hard time now. Im So exited but so terrified at the same time because i have no idea how everything will work out for us!!

@gwendolynjulien4851 2 жыл бұрын

Coffee First sent me.

@spujji 2 жыл бұрын

Omg Kayla!!!! I'm only 15 minutes into the video, but I had to stop and comment. I can totally relate to EVERYTHING that you have said so far!!!!! I have two boys, one will be 3 in July and the other is 14 months. When I found out I was pregnant with baby #2, I was so surprised and actually felt guilty. I wasn't trying for another baby and it was a happy accident. I was so worried about how I would love another baby the same way as I did my first. And then I felt guilty about having another baby while my first was still so much a baby. My oldest was only 19 months old when the baby was born. I felt so guilty about how can I do this and how can I split my attention. So I can totally relate. And now omg the noise and fighting over the same toys (even if I have 2 of the same toy) baby bro only wants the one big bro is playing with. And you are totally right on in that they both feed off each other. All we can do is try to do our best but it's rough and totally hard sometimes. It's definitely hard and we can have hard days and complain but it doesn't mean we love our littles any less. Thank you for this video. I needed to see this today.

@kateclark7710 Жыл бұрын

❤how old is your kids now because they are so cute ❤

@andreapaola18 2 жыл бұрын

Mom of two here, one girl of 4 years and a boy of 2 years, they are ALWAYS fighting for stuff 🙃🙃🙃🙃 omg the screaming and crying is 24/7

@KaylaBuell 2 жыл бұрын

Lmao screaming and crying is the soundtrack of my life as well friend 🙉🙉

@85Onne 2 жыл бұрын

I have a 8 year old and almost 2 year old and they still want the same toys all the time, the 8 year old doesn't even play with those toys, he just wants what she has 🤯 I just don't get it 😀 but I love their age gap, my son still plays with his little sister, helps her, so thats super helpful. I feel I couldn't do the 2 year age gap, that sounds scary 😶