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The mistake that keeps women getting played

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The Shumake Way

The Shumake Way

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@jazzyone1986
@jazzyone1986 2 жыл бұрын
Showing your hand early on is a rookie move honestly women talk too much too soon. The man should be doing all the talking at first why? Because he should be on the hot seat to earn your love and attention.
@Highlyfavoured_
@Highlyfavoured_ 2 жыл бұрын
When they ask what I’m looking for, my reply is always ‘I’ll know when I find it’. I do not give them the blueprint.
@ginam2817
@ginam2817 2 жыл бұрын
This right here!!
@tracey5215
@tracey5215 2 жыл бұрын
I like that!!
@asiyahad-deenislam5289
@asiyahad-deenislam5289 2 жыл бұрын
I learned this years ago. I would never show my hand. I’m about letting time show the truth. What I’m looking for, let’s play it by ear. I never share my past with a guy either, good listener will hold it and manipulate it to their favor. I’m cool. I’m playing the game of wait. Long wait is truly the best.
@goodwill374
@goodwill374 2 жыл бұрын
My mistake was my level of boundaries. Once I got ahold of that concept, I was well more protected. People couldn’t just come in my life cause chaos and leave anymore. I was tired of feeling like people could and do anything and everything to me and there were no consequences. I was tired of feeling like a victim. I learned boundaries….. haven’t been played since.
@aliciawoods8925
@aliciawoods8925 2 жыл бұрын
Always let a man be himself. Observe him. This man got mad at me because I never told him how much I liked him. But I could see clearly that he wasn’t that interested in me. He only started to show interest when he seen that I was doing well for myself. He dated two women all while knowing me. He tried to play me but he ended getting played in the end. I moved on from him when he started “liking me” and wanting to be with me.
@vanessabell7154
@vanessabell7154 2 жыл бұрын
This same happened to me soon when I move away from a disgusting area. This guy all of a sudden want to live bomb me and saying he miss me. I'm not falling for it. I'm tired of this 💩 Blessing 🙏🏾
@misslady5029
@misslady5029 2 жыл бұрын
My brother (may he rest in peace) used to always say never give people ammunition to use against you!
@Bribribri724
@Bribribri724 2 жыл бұрын
This is part of why I got rid of all of my socials but 1. They will study your posts and stories just to approach you with a mixture of all your interests so they can love bomb you. Whenever I decide to date again it will need to be with someone I met in person.
@janiceparkerson4727
@janiceparkerson4727 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly 💯.
@slickdawg5976
@slickdawg5976 2 жыл бұрын
Simple fyi, the vast majority of men understand that fundamentally all women share similar desires within a relationship. These desires although not exact in terms of proportion, are all routinely similar. If a man is seeking a casual sexual relationship and has mastered the "art of manipulation" his true intentions are extremely difficult to identify. (until sex is obtained) Unfortunately men who desire long term relationships/marriage utilize the same tactics/dialect as those who exclusively desire sex. The difference is however men desiring long term relationships/marriage will approach the situation from a position of genuine interest and courtship, forgoing any manipulation. Only time will reveal which man is sitting across from you on a date.
@Bribribri724
@Bribribri724 2 жыл бұрын
@@slickdawg5976 You make a very good point. Either way it’s smart to try to be a good judgment of character in these situations. I also acknowledge that men and women can’t always dodge a person that’s not meant for them. Sometimes people are meant to teach you lessons so you don’t choose the wrong person again. It’s the risk we take when dating or even making friends, so I try not to think too hard on it. It’s just my job to make sure that I’m not one of those manipulative dishonest people that I don’t want to come across.
@slickdawg5976
@slickdawg5976 2 жыл бұрын
@@Bribribri724 agreed
@goodwill374
@goodwill374 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah it’s been about a year for me no social medias. The “let me get your Snapchat” vs “Can I call you sometime?” Literally made me delete social media. I tell people you want to get to know me you have to do it the honest way I don’t have social Media for you to study. All I have is KZfaq.
@eccentricreign3157
@eccentricreign3157 2 жыл бұрын
In the beginning, a man will send his representative before you see the real him.
@margaretwince2748
@margaretwince2748 2 жыл бұрын
So true.
@Sofondra
@Sofondra 2 жыл бұрын
I call this giving a road map to your heart...the wrong man will be the right one long enough to win...
@jnp444
@jnp444 2 жыл бұрын
I read a story where this man was house sitting for a family. He had a thing for the daughter. You know what he did...he read her diary while the family was gone and knew the ins and outs of that women. He won her over and they're married now. Although he straight up invaded her privacy, the tactics are the same. He found out what he could and became her prince charming. Only difference was she wasn't the one to give away what she wanted in a man. Be careful ladies, seems quite a few will do anything to LOOK like the one for you. Don't help them with this manipulative tactic. Bait and switch happens all to often claiming too much precious time from us
@filmadcamp1512
@filmadcamp1512 2 жыл бұрын
Is the man a good husband though?
@jnp444
@jnp444 2 жыл бұрын
@@filmadcamp1512 I don't know. If you have to do all that to get someone in the first place, I can't see a marriage being that positive. Probably why what he posted was a confession he said he would never admit to.
@filmadcamp1512
@filmadcamp1512 2 жыл бұрын
@@jnp444 I dont see "reading someones diary" as a lot (all of that). It's an invasion of privacy for sure but if he used it to be a good partner and IS a good partner then it can be overlooked if he's consistent.
@jnp444
@jnp444 2 жыл бұрын
@@filmadcamp1512 We can agree to disagree. We don't know whether he is or isn't a good husband. If this is something he'll take to his grave, he cleary understands that reading her diary to get her "is all that" because he broke her trust right from the start. Also, if he was a good husband, I'd think he'd want to tell her because he's continued to be that way. Guess we won't know but to get her, he was shady af. I hope you find someone like that since you see it as okay. Have a good one
@filmadcamp1512
@filmadcamp1512 2 жыл бұрын
@@jnp444 Yes we can agree to disagree. I was not seeking agreement. Simply engaging in a discussion based on a point you brought up.
@vivianwade3185
@vivianwade3185 2 жыл бұрын
All these views and hardly no thumbs up!!!! People, hit the thumbs up button!!!! Do your fingers hurt? Show your appreciation, hit the thumbs up button, it's free!!!!! He's a good man!!!!
@TheShumakeWay
@TheShumakeWay 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏽
@vivianwade3185
@vivianwade3185 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheShumakeWay just stated the truth!!! May Jesus Christ pour blessings all over your life!!!!!
@TheShumakeWay
@TheShumakeWay 2 жыл бұрын
@@vivianwade3185 Amen
@IndigoWarriorAngel
@IndigoWarriorAngel 2 жыл бұрын
I think it depends on what you say. Tell him that you believe in waiting for sex till marriage. The wrong one will run for the hills🤣 Sad but true. I encourage everyone to be this way God's way is the best way🙏🏾
@goodwill374
@goodwill374 2 жыл бұрын
Narcs might see it as a challenge
@ayanadavis9449
@ayanadavis9449 6 ай бұрын
This the one. 😂 They be out of there quick!
@UniquelyVickie
@UniquelyVickie 2 жыл бұрын
I say simply a man that is his authentic self. Period!
@kayslay888
@kayslay888 2 жыл бұрын
this is the way
@theblackbookexperience8325
@theblackbookexperience8325 2 жыл бұрын
This is the same line I've used many times. They're confused and tells me all I need to know
@goodwill374
@goodwill374 2 жыл бұрын
I like that
@tonisanders3289
@tonisanders3289 2 жыл бұрын
Some women just talk too much.
@TheMobileNest
@TheMobileNest 2 жыл бұрын
When a man asks me what I’m looking for, I tell him I know it when I see/experience it. I need to see what he wants and doesn’t want to be, do and have. I stopped talking too much 🤣🤣🙌🏽
@TheeSimoneB
@TheeSimoneB 2 жыл бұрын
Keep it vague.
@Tarotcooks
@Tarotcooks 2 жыл бұрын
The mistake that keeps getting women played -A man. 🤣
@q.t.gamingfamily
@q.t.gamingfamily 2 жыл бұрын
I agree completely. Men who are interested in me are who they are. If they meet or don't meet my standards, giving them my list won't do anything to make him.
@mstenderonie
@mstenderonie 2 жыл бұрын
Get rid of the list. If he’s a God fearing man then he will have all of the qualities of a good man and a good husband. Check his fruit!☝🏼
@AmieSinger
@AmieSinger 2 жыл бұрын
Poker Face!! Never reveal your hand!!
@belindabradley2325
@belindabradley2325 2 жыл бұрын
I think we all needs to focus more on our heavenly father and he will give us what we need
@batteleyyachtlife9957
@batteleyyachtlife9957 2 жыл бұрын
Amen.
@francescamiller4340
@francescamiller4340 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, It's like DMX said in that song I've Played U & U Played me what u really want from me!
@janiceparkerson4727
@janiceparkerson4727 2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂.
@sunshineabc9437
@sunshineabc9437 2 жыл бұрын
Thought provoking Content for sure…..👍🏼
@thehaweseffect
@thehaweseffect 2 жыл бұрын
Love is a battlefield and you need to understand exactly what is going on in order to have some success Yes there is a problem with over sharing information I'm so happy you are saying this as a man hopefully it will sink in
@onlylikemindedbw
@onlylikemindedbw 2 жыл бұрын
I made this mistake ...
@BriannaLifeCoach
@BriannaLifeCoach 2 жыл бұрын
I thought this was common sense lmaooo
@my.0224
@my.0224 2 жыл бұрын
Brief but potent!
@minervasworld1002
@minervasworld1002 2 жыл бұрын
That is absolutely true.
@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy
@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed. That’s a true thing that you pointed out. And basically, my take on it is that it’s just a woman telling a man how to play her, although it doesn’t seem that way to women. Don’t tell a man what you like, but instead observe how he is. And ladies, don’t listen to a man telling you what he like either. Just peacefully walk away and forget about that one bcuz he’s a narcissist whose only good for playing games and being played. That is, if he has something to be played for. Such as a lot of money, or he is very dumb and easy to set up for something foul. That sly vixens will run their game on.
@zero1188
@zero1188 2 жыл бұрын
a ma telling you what he likes make him a narcissist ?
@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy
@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy 2 жыл бұрын
@@zero1188 Yep. I seen guys like that up close. And a narcissist is exactly what they are. Telling a woman what he like, as if she’s there to serve him. Narcissist! Only a naive woman who don’t know the ropes yet would listen to man’s wants and actually try to fulfill them. And she’s going to get the punishment she’s due for doing it.
@zero1188
@zero1188 2 жыл бұрын
@@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy seem more like you just afraid and moving in fear thats why i ask
@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy
@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy 2 жыл бұрын
@@zero1188 You can call if fear if you want, but I call it choice. A person can choose to suffer with a narcissist or not.
@filmadcamp1512
@filmadcamp1512 2 жыл бұрын
@@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy That doesn't make him (or anyone) a narcissist. It just makes them straightforward. If he tells you what he likes then you can just decide if you can offer it to him or move on. Likewise with yourself telling him what you like. Both people sharing their likes and dislikes is called effective communication. Now if he tells you what he likes but doesn't want to hear what you like, then that is a different story.
@batteleyyachtlife9957
@batteleyyachtlife9957 2 жыл бұрын
I don't have a list. I dont want a man. I am happy. I don't want his money. I don't want his child. I don't want his piece. I don't want his house. I don't want no man. I want peace. No need for a list. Simple.
@arleneaugustahair8393
@arleneaugustahair8393 2 жыл бұрын
I was definitely going to say emotions and talking too much.
@callisabrown6334
@callisabrown6334 2 жыл бұрын
Wow, those demons (not all men) just keep getting worse and worse. 💀
@BreYAH7
@BreYAH7 2 жыл бұрын
Scary to date online, I think it’s DESPERATE!!! 🙏🏽ATL
@onlylikemindedbw
@onlylikemindedbw 2 жыл бұрын
Hmmm .. may I have your opinion on why?
@CyberSecurityFashionDesigner
@CyberSecurityFashionDesigner 2 жыл бұрын
I used to think the same way but it’s hard meeting anyone in my area my age
@CyberSecurityFashionDesigner
@CyberSecurityFashionDesigner 2 жыл бұрын
@Ms. Sally but isn’t that lowering your chances of meeting someone ?
@IndigoWarriorAngel
@IndigoWarriorAngel 2 жыл бұрын
@Ms. Sally pray to God about what you want, God hears and answers the prayers of his children.
@LOVELY-131
@LOVELY-131 2 жыл бұрын
I have social media but never put my personal business out there. Im a news reporter in my mind and thats all I report majority of the time 😂 When I do get married my social media will still b just that💞
@illyannadeshields9835
@illyannadeshields9835 2 жыл бұрын
It would be common sense .😂😂
@lplyons8685
@lplyons8685 2 жыл бұрын
Facts
@agreene4818
@agreene4818 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the excellent advice!
@dawnrobinson8433
@dawnrobinson8433 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this great advice
@coryjackson6944
@coryjackson6944 2 жыл бұрын
Good morning ☀️ You dropped some gems 💎 today in a succinct manner , stripped down and unfiltered. Thank you for not hiding the information in fluff! May God continue to Bless you + your family ❤️
@AJD7233
@AJD7233 2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏾
@Eadrene
@Eadrene 2 жыл бұрын
Ladies, if a man asks you what you're looking for, all you need to say is ''I'll know it when I see it!!''
@sharonbushong9559
@sharonbushong9559 2 жыл бұрын
I agree
@KK-bq3ns
@KK-bq3ns 2 жыл бұрын
💯💯
@jameia
@jameia 2 жыл бұрын
Gems.✅✅
@charmainethomas5776
@charmainethomas5776 2 жыл бұрын
WHEW 😮‍💨👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@gorgeouslady5612
@gorgeouslady5612 2 жыл бұрын
I want a woman that Cooks! Exercises! is Cooperative! Agreeable! and has Qualities that are fit for King!. Woman leaves!.
@Forget-me-not144
@Forget-me-not144 2 жыл бұрын
So a woman can't talk about her standards and expectations with a love interest???
@sparklesp9304
@sparklesp9304 2 жыл бұрын
No.
@Forget-me-not144
@Forget-me-not144 2 жыл бұрын
@@sparklesp9304 With this subconscious gagging order, this is the very reason why so many women compromise on standards because of fear of being made to feel uppity, and then get disrespected because those men perceive she has no self esteem. So it's best to just tell a man what you want or expect when he asks you, or keep your mouth shut and study his performance to realise if he's the right one or one in a million. You need to date a million just to realise the one true love it's ridiculous and time consuming. The sure sign is the ghosting they're on, so you must be swift to block them sorts for good. No mind games that's going to drain your energy. Call for wisdom with modern men (beasts) who feel self entitled for proving nothing.
@correctingirresponsiblefin3096
@correctingirresponsiblefin3096 2 жыл бұрын
Or he could realize his shortcomings and strive to improve himself sincerely. I had to watch videos to learn how to take care of a younger woman. When you really want something you have to break a couple dozen eggs to make an omelette. I don’t want the pussy I want the woman. I broke a lot of eggs but I found the woman in doing so. Good hunting
@rhenettabelcher7957
@rhenettabelcher7957 2 жыл бұрын
Why you always talking about Women, how about focusing on Men? unsubscribing.
@shawnlove4502
@shawnlove4502 2 жыл бұрын
Because women are his fanbase
@Price8903
@Price8903 2 жыл бұрын
🍪 There’s women who appreciate his content.
@jazzy9282
@jazzy9282 2 жыл бұрын
He’s trying to help women , why do you have to announce you’re unsubscribing? Just do it and move on.
@chichi1558
@chichi1558 2 жыл бұрын
BYE Rhenetta! Hope u find betta!😂😂😂😂😂
@chanelking715
@chanelking715 2 жыл бұрын
His page is really for his daughter to leave behide if anything ever happened
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