I’m so glad you shared this! Thank you

Amen 🙏 my sister

HEAR HEAR!

Where are all these men at though? I'm 27 make 180k there are like

@@ajays9936 REMEMBER, there are about 700 million of African descent in the world, and about 3.9 BILLION in total... look outside the relative FEW who are trying to demean women to their level. Learn to notice those who notice you, and respond kindly... and don't discriminate based on race.

No man is threatened by a successful woman. It’s just unfortunately women become more masculine when they become successful.

Say it from the mountain top .

@@santo9032 I don't agree with masculine, just obnoxious. If you're not on their level financially or socially like having a PhD or your own successful business, which most people can never obtain or achieve, you're an instant bum

@saNto I think that men who thinks that way are trying not to expose their femininity when they think that a woman is too masculine. That is the only reason why any man should feel that way.

@@lavellelee5734 u called your own demise

These imps are.

My story as well . Except I am single n living well below my means. I drive a old Honda as well but own a large home. Travel anywhere I want and just lead a peaceful existence. I am disinterested in marriage or dating within my community due to this.

White men are better partners Nd better husbands

@@jasminewalker3522 I haven't been really dating with Covid wfh and social distancing ,but I am open to everybody but bm! I think everyone makes a better partner than majority of bm.

That’s it in a nutshell. I tried teaching my daughters this b4 they got out in the world. They didn’t want to listen but now finding out the hard way which of these young men out here are not worth their time.

@@rajatsharma119 black men whether they are broke or have money have dusty mentality’s and mindsets. I’ve never dated a broke black man but they are still not masculine enough and come with baby mommas.

If you are making money as a woman you can lie or downplay your job. Just say you are a waitress or cashier..even if you own the company. 🤣

@@teascobie6557 Ain't nobody doing that for a naker

@@teascobie6557 Da’Phuck?

You are absolutely correct. Can't win for losing. My advice to my daughter is to try to find a husband while in college when both of them are broke and build together. The truth is that not only men may have issues with a woman who is more financially successful than them but financially successful women sometimes resent having to be the breadwinners even if they deny it. It doesn't bother them initially because they are in love but once the monotony of everyday living and raising kids sets in women start to realize that being the boss babe is not all it is cracked up to be and then desire to get off the hamster wheel. Of course if she is the major contributor to the money pot she can't stop working and the resentment builds sometimes unknown to the woman and this can wreck havoc on a relationship. This is what my experience was and I don't want that for my daughter.

@@teascobie6557 We shouldn't have to "dummy down" our success or who we are for no one.

Only the black men feel threatened. Look at most of these videos by the fragile ego men folk-typically blk.

Exactly!

Exactly !

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Black Men has Options; SAME OUTCOME. I don't even listen to these jerks.

Yes. Kevin Samuels was wrong. The most successful men in most genres are thrilled to partner with a smart, successful woman. He realizes she will be TEACHING HIS CHILDREN one day. If a high value man ends up with a young, financially desperate woman - he will be looked at as a man with a fragile ego. The wives of those successful men will NOT accept this ‘arm candy’ wife. Kevin was so wrong with this advice. THAT WAS KEVIN’s own insecurity showing.

Here in southamerica NO, here doctors and lawyers marry models and beauty pageants🤦🏻‍♀️

I second this my first wife who I married because she had my first son was not career oriented or high achieving at all. This was a bast contrast from the successful Nigerian background I came from. Now I date women who are educated and successful such as attorneys, RE Agents, marketing execs, recruiters , biz owners etc. I am an intellectual and accomplished myself I need to be around women operating on the same bandwidth

But, these same men treat women who little to no money like crap.

Toxic men are OBSESSED with controlling women

They want control because they want someone to do whatever they say. They wants fools who will put up with their bullshit.

I'm a millennial woman and I just find it odd that so many men find it "intimidating" when a woman has a life of her own and knows she has free will. The same women who's lives revolve around her man are the same ones being called clingy and smothering by these men lol. Wouldn't you want to be with someone who is fulfilled before they meet you and love from an overflow? Simultaneously, These same men shame women who are "bums" and claim "femininity isn't enough" to bring to this metaphorical table they always like to bring up on these red pill channels when they don't have any goals. It's so confusing! A relationship is a collaborative partnership I hope (I'm single but this makes the most sense to me)...both parties bringing their best to create something enriching and stable to build on. No woman or man should be that reliant on another person for their wellbeing. It's your partner, not your child. Some of these men just need to get a dog instead of a significant other if you need that much control over someone or a situation. Just seems like a weird power play and gives off "I want to be the smartest person in the room" complex. I knew several women who was in this situation. They were with "high value men" when they didn't really have anything going on, then the second that man would get mad at them for doing something they didn't like they were all kinds of bum b***hes and would talk down to them for being "less accomplished". Makes no sense.

@@rajatsharma119 I hear what you're saying, around men often, and have older brothers but I'm just speaking as a young woman who's heard a lot from gen z and millennial men who consume this kind of content and try to have it both ways. Also wanted to add having a life of your own is not limited to career aspirations only. There are some guys who feel threatened simply because you have hobbies that you enjoy or simply being cultured (well traveled or educated). I'm saying many are looking for "traditional women" with modern perks when it's convinient to the man at the woman's expense. Have the kind of woman you want to have, but don't complain about her not doing xyz or being a bum if you want a woman who's not on your level financially and you want to run the household. Take what comes with that is the main point. Not sure the of the kind of successful women you see in your life who are established but all the women I know who are very successful aren't type A, go to therapy, etc and have supportive partners who are also ambitious. I see what you're trying to say but in general I think society as a whole (especially younger generations) have unrealistic expectations when it comes to relationships due to social media etc

Yes!!!!!

That's it!

*This! All of this!* 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

C’mon and preach! It’s a whole business model. 🤮

Smh, that's sad AF.

Hello

Its dumb!

Yeap be away ladies.

Facts 🎯

Not true . You see u have to have forecast mindset. The ww are catching these men who don't have nothing but they are otw TO success and they get there in due time. Black women ? On my experience hell no unless u are extremely handsome they ain't tolerating that . Then when the man becomes successful ..... and remembers all the bw who played him didn't give him a chance and he marries outside the community "OHHH WHY DO ALL THE SUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN DATE WW "

@@poopoohead7487 BW accept struggle love the most because most stay with BM who struggle more than any other group. Please stop lying.

@poopoo head we don't care. I'm successful and blk, so is my husband. Who ppl date,is not my business. Unless it's my kids.😜

It's no secret. It perfectly clear.

Exactly....And far as I"m concerned that's the majority of them so I would just rather work on generating wealth and helping the World than worrying about being with a man. You can't win for losing with them.

🤣🤣🤣🤣uve killed me

Instead of men being envious. But a loving respectful relationship partnership with the right person!

Oh yes

Stfu 🤣 we live in a feminized society wheee it’s hard for men to get an education. Bruh might as well not get married if women are gonna start treating us like money machines

I have said this so many times to the “ men don’t care about a woman’s money, education etc”. Don’t complain about alimony or child support when there is a huge Delta between your income and hers 🤷🏻‍♂️

The issue is not whether a woman should work to support herself or not. Its about whether she becomes more attractive as a result of her earnings or not. The findings are that she does not. Why is that, when the opposite is true when its the man successful? Its because material things are only important to women when it comes to chosing a partner. A man was born to provide and to protect, so what does he have to do when the woman has taken over that role? That is the reason why a woman can have as much money as she wants, but that would not increase her attractiveness compared to when its a man. Men need to prove their worth, and they do that through being successful, while women have their value already. So in a sense this whole movement of trying to get women to be higher earners than men is destroying the human society by imasculating men. Women can work if they want to - or not work and still be protected. Men MUST work or else they sleep under the bridge.

Exactly it's ridiculous to ask wimen to wait for marriage before starting their lives

I don't think it's as cut and dry as that. There are men out here who are builders, providers, protectors, givers and so on who are old fashioned in their thoughts and ways. To some of them, women who have their own come with personality traits that will reject what he feels obligated to do because 'that's what men are supposed to do'. Successful women who don't know how to appreciate men & let a man be a man, who challenge men at every other turn aren't who some MEN MEN want. There's no or very little femininity for them to hold onto ... it actually goes both ways and both parties contribute to this problem.

Sounds like projection. It's as if you're demanding respect for your accomplishments,if someone doesn't care about your succes,they're insecure...

@@blueflame3531 There's not caring and stating exactly that, in a polite way. Then there's insecurity and such is expressed byway of belittling a person because of their accomplishments. We all should be adults here. We know an insecure person from a completely oblivious & noninterested person. Don't try to throw shade by insinuating that women can't tell the difference between the two.

I don't get mad because you married out of you race I am just disappointed that u did. As a single black man if I can't have a black women I will just stay single, I ONLY WANT THE BECAUSE AND IF I DONT GET HER I DONT WANT SECONDS.

Naaaah. These guys are making the vetting process for BW who only date BM or who don't exclude BM from their dating pool VERY EASY. They are the way they are because to them, BW should 'Work with a brotha' or 'Lower her standards' or date them based on their 'non-existent' potential, knowing damn well, they would not do the same. We ALL have option, man or women. They're just counting on BW nor exercising theirs and eventually giving into dating BM who aren't on their level.

@@ChannelFiend I agree with you they feel like we should be ok with struggle & accept less but let him be with a different race all of a sudden he’s riding bikes and setting up picnic dates but if we want to go out & not Netflix and chill now we are high maintenance & trying to use him 😐

@@MaishPosh We now know why Black Love is synonymous with Struggle Love. It's only a struggle if BW accept as the norm.

Because we are taught at an early age that women want a man with money. It doesn't matter if the woman of interest is a successful career-minded woman or a broke woman off the streets they all want the same thing. It also doesn't matter what type of personality you have or the contents of your character, if you're not bringing in a certain income you're going to find yourself single for a lot longer than you anticipated because monetary possession is one of the things that attract her to a man and it ranks high on a lot of women's list.

@@ChannelFiend Exactly! A BM isn't going to wait let alone pay for a BW to lighten her skin, lose weight, get breast implants, BBLs, etc. He's going to go after a woman who *ALREADY* has all that. He's not going to "wait on potential" so why should we?

I agree from personal experiences!

Agreed.

You mean Grown Boys. They always have a problem when a woman has herself together because she's a mirror to his failure that he can only fix by growing up and being accountable for himself and his family. In life, you have reasons or results. Many have reasons because they don't want accountability but want respect as a King. It's not going to happen. Women respect leadership, and moral values from a man. Thanks To The Kings Who Are Stepping Up and Speaking The Truth And Protecting Women From These Damage Grown Boys.

That’s because they just want excuses to b clowns period. I keep hearing about them talking about going their own way. And those types of men should be doing just that. Make room for the real men to be present so they can make things happen with real women.

Because they see us BW as their competition rather than other men.

Exactly

EXACTLY🤣🤣

WORD ☝🏽

I think that what it be too! That's why they bash women so much. They should just say, look I'm into other dudes.

Bingo 🎯

Rather the woman is successful or broke they both have one thing in common, they will not date or marry a broke man.

Exactly

Ok what if he make $90000 then what?

This kinda goes againt what hes saying. Why do you care how much the man makes if hes secure in himself? Gonna limit yourself just looking for men who make the same or more just like men who only look for jobless women

I don’t date but in general I generally don’t ask people what they do and don’t love answering the question and will be vague because as I know as soon as I say what I do people make a lot of assumptions.

Some of them are women who want to rest in their femininity.😂😂😂😂😂😂

@Mecca either that or they want to be the woman in the relationship and be taken care of.

That's good stuff about you and and your girls. The motive from these type of men are they secretly hate women, but tell your girls to hold on its plenty of valuable secure men out here they just have to be patient.

Your daughter and her friends should date out ,open their options and marry up. Being in a hypogamous relationship is beyond traumatic spiritually,financially, physically ,mentally and so on. We ,BW,have been groomed to marry down whereas unestablished BM had the green light to seek successful with low self esteem women. I’ve seen from my own eyes nurses marrying taxi drivers , teachers with job hoppers and so on. Keep supporting your daughter to aim for a blessed hypergamous mariage and NOTHING ELSE.

Your daughters need to date out. You being successful is a threat to a boy, not a real man. You’d be a bonus to a good man who had great intentions for you. Don’t let anyone diminish your value. They know they are below you in every way and seek to control you. If you have to be single, that’s better than being in a bull shit relationship

Maybe they should date/marry outside of their race 🤷🏽‍♀️

They will have to open their options, like the other ladies said. Your daughter and her friends are entering into a class that most black people are not a part of, especially Americans. They need to be around men that are used to women who have similar aspirations (whites and Asians). These men are operating with a low class, ghetto mentality which doesn’t value academic success.

Well said

These are NOT friends get away from them if you want an hypergamous relationship

Male friends are often jealous of their successful female friends. Stop telling them about ur life they will sabotage u

My wife is a nurse and when she was single she would tell people that she was a CNA. I understand where you’re coming from.

I'm a nurse and I tell men I'm a medical assistant/ CNA. Bum dudes always try to use nurses.

I married my x when I was 18 & went into it like a whole slave. Thanks to my upbringing. But let me tell u when I figured out what a bum this man was mentally I was up. And I knew the kind of woman I was & what I had to offer & that’s what I attracted. I would never lie because I was afraid of what some man may think of me. Ever!

I’m a nurse & I always said so; I also let ALL dudes know that I was not about to b used by anybody; broke/living w/mom/no good job type dudes need not even try it

Don't lose faith 🙏 💯

In that era, i think it’s important to note the affect of the crack epidemic and how it took many men out of their positions in society. They didn’t just abandon women as many unhealed women from that time period perpetuate. It’s important to educate ourselves. Drug use is an illness and that one was specifically placed in our communities with the sole intent to do exactly what it did….. and It’s still working today

@@cocopuff2852 Understood. But drug use is a choice. We all have 24hrs in each day. They didn't abandon us. They just made poor choices. Doesn't make us bitter. It made men bitter. Hence the title.

@@stephaniemurria5534 you sound bitter and uneducated right now ma’am. But I understand bc we as women were taught to think away of men before birth. Can you connect the dots? Bc I tell you what, you’ll have to after this. I don’t deal in denial💗

Wonderful wisdom and reminder, thanks for sharing

I agree 👍

Yes!!!🤗👍🏾

You can’t win with these type of males period. Everything they say is a contradiction.

lol right like wtf is wrong with folks smh

@ ebony nerd. I KNOW THAT'S RIGHT! Don't let these fools starve us to death!!!

Exactly and the one's who can provide and don't want or appreciate a successful woman are either insecure or controlling, maybe both.

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That’s bs tho. As a white man, while I personally find “success” (in quotes bc I don’t really base it off of capital success) attractive, this insecurity and desire to be “dominant” is just as rampant among every other demographic of men. From what I’ve seen, it comes from being told (from a very young age) that the man should be the sole “breadwinner,” and other mentalities that generally equate women to children so far as both are considered objects of paternal control. You can’t control someone who doesn’t need you, so within this framework you wouldn’t want a “successful” partner. This is generally an American ideal, and since we’re aware that America was founded and developed on principles that uphold white hegemony and supremacy, it’s just silly to say that white men don’t also do this (because we basically started it, at least in the U.S). I could write endless anecdotes about all the white “alphas” I’ve dealt with in my life, but I obviously I can’t prove it to you that they exist via anecdotes. If you want proof that this behavior is not exclusive to black men, you don’t have to look very hard. unless you were being sarcastic, in which case im about to look real dumb

You are so great for sharing different perspectives to those who are ignorant to them

​@@zuzu-fe5roAffirmative on your point: I have seen men of all kinds in the manosphere who have this attitude. To them, I am studying physics because I am "seeking a husband to support me for life like a simp." These men literally would turn away from me because of my career aspirations. I admit that my career may be a bit more masculine in terms of the demographics, but I really am going for this career because I don't see a future where I could be supported by any man. Not a single man has ever seriously wanted to date me, so I have zero experience with dating and I'm secretly terrified of dating a possible narcissist or psychopath (chances are very high, because I was raised in a narcissistic family and still have trauma). I don't think I will ever have anyone who would support me, so I chose to take responsibility for myself and work on my goals and turn them into a solid career. Nothing against men, I guess I just don't have what it takes to be considered traditionally, conventionally attractive, because men have never been serious in wanting a relationship with me and I was too careful about dating to ever give them a chance. These same men who tried to date me (they wanted casual only, I didn't accept) also turned out to all be players.

Totally agree

most men who have their shit together dont care about a woman's money , the issue with high earning women is their attitude ...from my experience they always want to compete with chu

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Black women have ALWAYS worked. Even when we were stay at home moms we still took on baby sitting, cleaning jobs, sewing, making pies etc. to make ends meet. They will come up with anything to make excuses for their LACK of xyz…

I'm going to retire out that way in 2 years. My daughter is out there with her man ( who is white) and 2 baby grands. I hope there are not too many dusties.

Yep! I know the podcast he's talking about. I'm not going say what this whyte guy had to say about it. Successful women are a plus in any community.🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨

I even tried to date older men in the later 30s and he borrowed money from me 🙄 I’m done ✅