Never let anyone take away your dignity. People will try. But hold on to your dignity. Hold on and trust your dignity. Your dignity will guide you.

I have done the " gentle path. " I was raised to reason and have reasonable communication. What I have experienced is that you cannot reason with an unreasonable person. I love peace, and avoid a fight at all costs.

I shall take my power back! Narcissists live in fear, they aren't free, they are fake. So of course they'll envy, and hurt people who don't have to live in fear, who are free, who are real. They don't want anyone to be able to have what they don't dare to have.

Their whole life and thought process is rationalizing every thought and action for their benefit...

Gently and quietly upholding your position & boundaries is your best weapon to preserve your autonomy. They will scold or punish you (withdraw money, time, validation) but your core position must be maintained. They are too broken and busy picking up the pieces of themselves to help you live your best life. They naturally have a destructive output. You can but try to live your life inspite of them, rather than with them.

For a long time, I questioned whether these people were extremely dumb or extremely sneaky and just plain mean. The reality is, you can give “dumb” people direction and they then try to do better. Narcissist don’t believe they need direction on any matter. I don’t mean the word “dumb” in a derogatory way, I just mean people that weren’t taught right from wrong.

I think these 2 alternatives work better for recovery, not when you are actually dealing with narcs. They dont let you breath, think or meditate . No contact is the only way.

My ex believed he had a handle on me from the inside out for sure. He told me he knew me better than I know myself. My entire relationship with him was a power struggle with him trying to control and manage every thought in my head and everything I said and did. But here's the thing, I started to realize he wasn't okay with me having a different thought, view, or opinion from him on any topic or issue. So I just started agreeing with him about everything and you would think he would be happy with that. Nope! He then asked me if I really agreed with him or was I just saying I agreed and seemed very put off that I was agreeing with him all the time. There's no way to make them happy. Even if you bend over backwards to make them happy it's still not enough. They're never happy.

I was assertive in a loving way......I was compassionate and conscientious yet this Narc was still nasty and derisive..... afraid to let me be free and out of her control...... politeness stands no chance!!!!

Thank you, Dr. Carter. To me, your message is to take responsibility for your own peace and dignity, and allow others to accept responsibility for themselves as well. It’s never worth it to engage in a negative way. I like your compassionate approach in this and every topic, and your encouragement toward self-mastery in the presence of people who are being difficult. Thanks again!

I was married to this man for 7 years. Relationship lasted for 17. Just barely came across this personality trait and being blown away by how accurate it describes him. So incredibly grateful for divorce. Out 5 years now. Took me a whole year just to be able to relax. He stripped me of all dignity, confidence and self respect. I didn't know if I would ever recover.

To get along with the narcissists in my life, i must go along with their reality. This has become intolerable to me. When I try to discuss or confront, or defend nicely, they deny or say I "misunderstood" them, or go into a rageful attack on me, etc, etc. My calm openness simply gives them ammunition against me. I then become the unforgiving, unChristian, judgemental, evil, unhelpful, etc person. Yes, I can "nicely" go no contact. The Bible says " from such, turn away". II Tim. 3:1-5.

There is nothing any better than waking up and finding you on here and listening to every single word you are saying. And for once I am not having simple PTSD, crazy flashbacks with family that were this way, as I am seeing that is all my classic textbook life I lived for decades. Thank you!

Brilliant, enlightening, succinct video Dr. Carter! I love the way you emphasize decency, goodness and dignity. It can be very hard to be good and kind to the narcissist after years of covert abuse, slander and manipulation coming to light, but yes you are right. For our own values and conscience we should try our best to be decent with the narcissist. They are unwell, disordered, traumatised people and they would do the same to anyone else who posed a threat to their false image. The endgame is non-engagement. Do whatever you think is right and best for yourself and your family and live your best life. Emotionally detach from the narcissist, go low contact and humbly go about your existence. Work towards being kind and loving. They will go crazy for attention and control. And if the narcissist goes into a violent discard mode, record their behaviour, involve family and friends you do trust and make sure with gentleness and rationality show the others that the narcissistic person is not behaving in a good and healthy way and that you feel the need to distance and/or protect yourself.

Dr. Carter, this is by far your best video and if it were possible I think this video should be made mandatory for all high school students. We only need look around at the state of the world---the damage done to good hearted people who are impacted by the narcissism of a few. Every point you so perfectly explained is as good as it gets to understanding the dynamics of truly unbalanced humans.. they have no idea the damage they do. nor do they even care.

My dad is a narcissitic bully. I have been left with no choice but to walk away completely. The game environment is not sustainable. I have learned the only way to stop the narcissist is to starve it. If it doesn't have anything to use it will look for other sources. The false guilt I had all my life up until now is gone. The hate and anger that was wasting me is gone. I'm still "fly paper" for nacissists but I can spot them coming now and save the trouble they bring. Life is good now.

Your terrific videos are Christmas gifts. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your guidance and wisdom.

Wow, I wish at 19, 20, 21 years of age I would have had this advice! Feeling under relentless direct attack, I "fought back" in the wrong way for sure. Maybe things would have been different if I had taken a different path to dealing with the Narc ILs. I just didn't know better! I didn't realize I was engaging and fighting with a possibly traumatized 3 year old, mentally speaking. We do the best we can with what we know at the time, but the longer I "fought" with the ILs, I now realize I was permitting damage to be done to myself. I know better now, and will do better now! Thank you, Dr. C!

You are right on the money. Real power is the ability to stand in one's own truth and maintain our humanity despite other people's objections and protestations. Thank you, Dr. Carter for reaffirming that.

Thank you 🙏🏻, for your rational and reasonable guidance. Really helpful and informative. Many of us have never been taught how to be in the world, we’ve spent our lives navigating the world of narcissism, and probably picked up a lot of dysfunctional coping mechanisms. Can’t thank you enough and I hope you continue to mentor us in your loving way 💕

The narc’s sense of grandiosity is so big that almost everything insults them therefore they are always trying to get even. I know how this is and never understood what I did wrong. Any assertive behavior or statement will injure them. These videos are so helpful! I watch some several times.🌸

Thank you, thank you, Yes, this has been my experience, it is not possible to get out what we want to say and there is no reasoning with the narcissist.

Love this guy!🖤

"Not many people have the kind of insight into life that I have..." "Well you didn't filter that through me now, did you?" So accurate. What gets me is when the narcissistic person uses gentleness in their power grab...it looks so innocent, and yet is so destructive. I think what really makes the difference is whether the person you're trying to influence truly has the freedom to make their own decision, and you can let that go. I think it's a good point about protecting the other person's dignity and their autonomy as a free agent. We control our own behaviors and manage our own thoughts and feelings, not someone else's.

This is dead on Dr Carter. I’m dealing with a situation right now that this pertains to. The narcissist is bullying me and I’m quietly standing my ground. In the end, they will believe they’ve won but in reality, they have lost. I don’t care what they feel about it. I will know in my heart that I’ve won. It truly is baffling to try to understand their behavior towards innocent people. It’s pure evil. I have such empathy and sympathy for other people. The narcissist just tries to come up with ways to use unfortunate people and then tell others how they’ve helped them. It is sickening to say the very least. Please keep doing what you’re doing. You and our Father in Heaven have helped bring me up out of a pit and given me strength to help myself survive and thrive. I know that God put you in my path. Thank you for all you do and may God bless you abundantly!

Oh Dr. Carter... If you only knew how much you've helped me...

It’s so tempting to lash out at these narcs but ultimately I can’t find it within myself to do it. It’s not natural for me. So I take a deep breathe and be the kind person that I am. I am accountable for myself and I have to live with my choices. I choose to be good to people. If the narc wants to play games, punish, withhold etc that’s on them. If they take my kindness for weakness, which they do, they will be in for a rude awakening when I say “no!” Because I can be kind and sustain strong boundaries. But I absolutely will not engage in negative power games. It’s not authentic to who I am. Great video! Oh, and about the “tit for tat”’...what I’ve noticed is that it’s never based in reality. They are seeking revenge and repayment and punishment on twisted or imaginary things. They will do this or won’t do that based on what they think others have done. It’s a weird perspective on justice and fairness. It makes no sense. 🤷🏻‍♀️

You have helped me so much! After 4 years of being a verbal punching bag, I got away! Thank you for providing me with the understanding...

Dr. Carter your timing is impeccable. I am ever so grateful for this video as a validation to what is manifesting in my life. Every video brings me healing and empowerment to push through this darkness . I have has many narcissists in my life from childhood to adulthood. The same pattern if allowing the same narcissist with a different face in my life or in authority. I really do thank God for you.

Narcissists are powerful spiritual teachers. Not easy for sure!!

Thank you for such a lucid and accurate take on this sad but true personality type.

Thank you Dr Les superb advice NEVER argue with a narc justify and explain once and ONCE only and be comfortable to say NO and accept they are nonsensical insane creatures.

"Love and humility." Beautiful. "Gentleness is strength". A mantra to internalize. Thank you.

I'm a magnet for Narcissistic ppl...manipulative, horrible beasts, some of them brag about their exploits and laugh while singling out a victim. I feel sad for them now that I know what it's all about...they do not know any different. I'm getting better at setting boundaries though

It's amazing how you get into the mind of the narcissist and you know exactly how to help us. God bless you!

Dr. Carter, thank you for doing these videos. I'm a mental health professional and have worked with narcissists for over a decade, and I'm still learning a lot from your videos. I appreciate how plain-spoken and succinct you are. You provide a lot of high-quality information. You also seem to be grounded in some really good values. I'm not just a professional, but I also have a history of involvement with narcissists, so I can see many of the themes you talk about in my own story. Anyhow, I just wanted to express my appreciation for the work you are doing. I've watched a lot of KZfaq material on narcissism, and yours is the best I've seen. Thanks for putting it out there.

Dr C, I was so happy to see you quoting the Bible in a reply to a comment. I believe every word of the Bible and the fact you quoted it gives me even more faith in you!

Jesus is the perfect example of love and humility...Amen

Thank you so much, Dr. Carter.

1st: swiftly recognize these sickos, 2nd: RUN if you can or find a way to get away from them as fast as possible.....3rd: humility, kindness, logic, rational thinking, never works with a psychopath narcissist, been there done that, 100% DISENGAGE and never look back.....FREEDOM

YES! Finally, someone understands how I have been treated by many in my childhood. Naturally, I recognized the dynamic in the adults I attracted. Now, my hair is grey and things are quite different. Your videos could really help young people if these social dynamics could be taught in schools at all levels.

Thank you for this. I am finally coming to terms with my family and their abuse. My parents are truly dangerous and finally called out their abuse of power their answer was ...well everybody likes power and control. Unbelievable

So grateful for your wise, insightful counsel. Thank you,! 🙏

They are afraid if we figure them out , we’ll leave them. Friends will wonder why this wonderful person would leave, something might be found out about narcissist . That’s too much for them

I've experienced this! Their need for power over others when they should be gaining power over themselves and their lives.

Hi from UK Yes my narc friend seemed afraid to allow me to be free to be myself...she has turned a whole church against me.

Your awesome

It took me several tries over several years to properly break away from my NPD mother. My biggest problem was I felt far too much politeness and caring and concern and humility and, yes, love toward her. I finally had to stop being so downtrodden and grow a spine. I realized if she was "just" a friend, I'd never speak to her again. Finally, I got some written proof (a copy of one of her smear campaign letters to a relative) and broke it off for good. And it has been for good. 4 1/2 years later and I feel a thousand times better in every way. Whatever else happens, I will never go back, and this is the right decision. I gave up my inheritance, my main family member, and a lifetime of habits and just everything...and I gained myself.

I've enjoyed these videos tremendously. Thanks for putting them out where we can have some idea of what's going on and how to deal with it.

I replay your videos every time “my” narc gets under my skin. You really save my sanity. But this video really tops my list. And it truly works. Not continually, but there are fewer power plays on his part and I have even witnessed sporadic humility (!) and not just as an attempt to “Hoover” as they say. Narcs definitely respect a back bone, but maintaining one without confrontation and patience really is the key. Plus if life gets too crazy one has been developing strength to change the situation should the need arise. Of course it took me 40 plus years of adulthood to learn this and not get destroyed! But, learning is a life long process. Thank you again Dr. Carter!

Fear and power are partners. It's not a good combination. This opened my eyes. I used to hear " my way or the highway". When he argued it was " his house" . I started to realize it's not about " us" anymore.

Dr Carter, can you please consider doing a video on the Exit Plan. Preparing and how to, in terms of getting the narcissist out of your home.

Another excellent video Dr.Carter.

This was simply beautiful .. The exact same thoughts I have had so often over the years .. Thank you for putting it so eloquently into a single video, very nicely done 💕

Dr. C, you hit the nail on the head with this one! My ex literally told me that he couldn’t handle/deal with/tolerate me living my life differently than him. He used religion as the excuse for why I was wrong and he was right. He absolutely had to be in control in every way. I still find myself tiptoeing around and not saying or doing things that he didn’t approve of, and we’re not even together anymore. I really wish I knew how to respond in this humble way when we were together. In all honesty, I didn’t. I either avoided an argument or got very angry and defensive when there was one. Thanks for another insightful video.☺️

Thanks so APPRECIATE to move into decency and goodness and amen.love covers a multitude, cant affords the undecency and the bitterness.

Thanks so much, Dr. Carter!

Coming from being raised by a narcissist, the first serious relationship I had was with a narcissistic physician. When all was said and done, he kicked me and his baby son to the curb, and took off with his receptionist. I've spent too many years of my life avoiding doctors. I honestly would have rather died from a disease than have to deal with a doctor. But, Dr. Carter you are alright in my book. Thanks for all your great videos.

Thankyou Les, I've been freelancing with a Narcissist and chose to be professional while working with them and not react to their controlling abusive behaviour in a negative way. I remained calm and clear about what information I needed from them to do my job. It actually made there appalling behaviour worse when they realised I couldn't be bullied or controlled. It was exhausting being decent and respectful while maintaining a positive attitude. When I finished my stint there I did question whether I should have challenged their behaviour but watching your video has made me realise I did the right thing. That individuals behaviour won't change, they're actually in a sad place and missing out on so much. I saw a frightened anxious person behind the bravado of power.

Very accurate ( based on my personal experience with these people). Thanks so much for these videos

Super information here, this was a timely message for me today. It is amazing how certain "things" can appear to you when needed, although never asked for.

They are afraid to let you be you!! He is absolutely SPOT on !!

Thank you so much. I can look back and now recognize all the narcissists in my life, starting with my mother.

I have been with a Narcissist for 18 years. Thanks to ur videos I am learning what he is. He spend so much money, lied, abuse and cheating. I left the house, but he keeps pulling me in. I am so broken, hurt that I don’t seem to be that strong person I was. Listening to ur videos is helping me. And try to get my faith back. I have no more strength to deal with this man. I need peace and calmness. He rob me of all my dignity. So thank you. I need to work on myself. He just doesn’t accept I need to move on to heal. You are helping me to get a handle on this toxic mess I am in. And how to get away from his failed promises of he loves me and will be honest, and not cheat on me again, and again. RIGHT !!!

I agree, it is very much motivated by deep fear. Are they aware that their dysfunction is motivated by fear ??

Incredible message inspiring me to forgive take the power back.

I have found your advice to be very sensible and your words have given me the strength to continue this difficult path with a narcissist that I have loved for over 30 years. I will choose decency and goodness over power. I have to live according to my values.

SO MUCH TRUTH! Our daughter dealt with one for almost 2 years. Wish we'd listened to those that warned us in the beginning. If you're a young lady in a relationship with someone like this - RUN! They won't change. You're only headed down a destructive road. So thankful to get our daughter back. She was being destroyed before our eyes and we were the fools dealing with a fool

Hello from France Tell me Doctor, how is it possible that you know sooooooooooo well my youngest brother & father??? LOL Good job as always ; D

If there is any constancy with a person who " ticks all the boxes" it is the cognitive dissonance created when you give in to the possibility an absurdity has validity. Everything is the opposite of your entire life experience. Right down to the most obvious gaslighting. Hope beyond hope that it will pass. Now we know it doesn't. And that repetative pattern that never ends confirms everything you need to know. A year and a half zero contact and I'm still telling myself this. The give all to have someone's affection, from an immpossible source, redirects you to consider how you were not taking care of self. Lesson learned.

Humility, Goodness and Dignity... thanks Dr. Carter. Reminds me of reading the wisdom of Proverbs. Not playing the foolish or wicked person, but the opposite and seeking enlightenment from the Higher Source.

One of the most important things Dr. Carter reminds us is that we are our own selves. We choose who we are and how we treat others. I never had a label for narcissists, but I learned the type early on in my childhood. Something just told me these were unhappy people, almost like they were missing a "piece" of being human and that nothing I did would ever "change" them. It has been my experience that the best technique for dealing with these folks is to keep them at arm's length. True friends and loved ones desire the best for you and offer you acceptance and support, and above all respect for you and your opinions and thoughts. Dr. Carter is teaching us what signs to look for....and that's so important! To those who don't think so, I will remind them, if a bridge is out over a river, wouldn't you be glad there were signs ahead of it to warn you? "Forewarned is forearmed" in a sense. Beware those in your life who never, ever offer you a single good opinion of you, your actions and your opinions. Thanks, Dr. Carter. Wishing you and yours a very happy and blessed Christmas and good health, prosperity and peace in the coming New Year. P.S. One last observation...Dr. Carter, why is it that I've never once seen a narcissist ever express gratitude or genuine thanks to anyone?

Dr. Carter, I can’t thank you enough for your insight. My last relationship from which I am still trying to extricate myself was with a covert narcissist. At first, I thought he was just an introvert but a series of events and then repeated pattern of passive aggressive behavior, outright manipulation and triangulation led me back to see my therapist who recommended this series. You have literally sparred months of anguish. Granted I am not completely free from him as he owes me money and holds against my will property of mine. But since the relationship ended I am more my old self. During it I was physically and mentally exhausted from it. I spent two and half months helping him build his hair salon in San Francisco working 80 hour weeks for which I didn’t get more than a verbal thank you. Instead when he broke my hand he refused to take me to the ER citing a lack time. He habitually broke every promise, every commitment he made. On my birthday, I asked what the plan was and he sent a text (cause only communicates by text) saying he was busy and going to celebrate someone else’s birthday coincidentally on the same day as mine. When I brought it to his attention, he was apologetic promised to make it up to me and never did. I was buying him meals and groceries as well providing him with favors when he said he had run out of money but then he went out and bought himself a $70 shirt at Body. I had invited him to opera. He agreed to go. I bought tickets. The day before he started to make noises about not wanting to go. He didn’t. I ate a $75 ticket and he has my evening jacket and pants which he hasn’t returned. You are right about Mike being fear based. It was always about him. His fears overwhelmed him. I was a tool to be used and used me he did. And once I became aware he was a narcissist, my reaction was first to do nothing until a problem arose. Then I called him out on it. And he then subjected me to yet another silent treatment. I am done with him but I am going to get my property back.

seeking to manipulate ppl thru power games is really low life. we choose the high road and dont engage with that mindset just as the dr said in the video. we refuse to be driven by hate anger etc bc if we do the narc wd still be able to control our thinking. sure - it costs sg to exercise self-restraint and self-control but the price for the narc power player is infinitely higher. as stated in this excellent video. ppl dont want to be close to a narc or want them as friends in their circle. the narc is ultimately a lonely tragic figure. poor choices! sow the wind reap the whirlwind. just reading the comment section after every video tells us how many ppl want to get away from the narc and advise others to RUN. i find this very enlightening.

Dr. Carter, your videos have been a Godsend for me. With them I have been able to pull myself back out of the emotional morass of a very counterfeit and emotionally tortuous relationship. Thank you and God Bless you!

Excellent video!

Always learn here. Much appreciated. This one reminds me of the words of a feminist philosopher: that we live practicing "power WITH" rather than "power OVER." That kind of community inspires me. I once was called too humble...I like the addition of assertion and your modeling. That I can embrace. I have a belief that our ability to care may be one of our greatest gifts.

Humility, dignity for ONESELF is a strong defense against those who want to ‘play games’ with our life and pull us down. That said, one must also be VERY FIRM about their own convictions, and VERY FIRM regarding the limitations set to veto the power and control of the narcissistic person that has wormed their way into our life. Speaking from experience, I’m convinced NO CONTACT is the best, if not only, way to remain stable. My words that ended that situation, “DO NOT CONTACT ME AGAIN or I will report you for harassment!” I can only assume they found a new victim.

I so greatly appreciate these videos you make. It has been such a journey, learning how to not only move forward but to do so with grace and dignity, knowing that I have help available. You have helped me realize fully that the behavior was not my imagination, that there is healing available, and that I can learn how to communicate in a way that doesn't leave me open to further damage. Please continue with these videos. You help more people than you could possibly know.

Most accurate description I’ve ever heard.

Spot on!!!! My stomach is in a constant knot and I'm tired of walking on eggshells. They have no idea of what dignity is. They have no idea of how to treat others with respect. This is person in position of trust - and power.

I feel sad hopeless at times. Tried. thanks Jennifer 🌹 🌺

Thus hits the spot. I like the way you explain concepts in a way that is completely down to earth and sophisticated.

You have changed my life!! I have lived this way fit 20+ yrs. Have changed completely from who I used to be and thought there was something wrong with me. Until i started watching your videos. Thank You so much.

You are doing so much good for so many of us. Thank you!

Omg your right. Many times with my mother its like it gives her more power when i get angry

Exactly !! They want to shrink you. It reassures them.

you make great videos....you explain it great.....please dont stop making videos ever....your helping lost people find their way....thank you for what you do!!!!!!

Thank you for this great video! Lots of valuable advice!

I remember a older friend of mine, our youth group leader, gave me an advise, for marriage, some 20 years ago... He said: boy, once in a while you will have to slap on the table with a fist to make a point or something... I just thought, man you must be kidding me. In a love relationship? Some times I feel like calling him and asking him what to do when after hitting the table, she beats the table into pieces and feeds me with it...

My husband is the King of our household and I am the loyal voiceless invisible subject. I want me and my power back. Watching this is a good beginning. I am tired of being a "stepford" wife. Thank you Dr. C for opening my eyes and giving me hope to survive my nightmare.

Dr.Carter, Your words are like a healing ointment to my tormented soul. Thank you!

In many ways you are describing my daughter with regards to her need to control, her rages over attempts to shame me: don't you know it's rude to point when I motioned with my hand to please pass the salt on the table. She kept going and going at me, grinding my nose into it until it became quite uncomfortable. When I placed the bananas on the conveyor without a bag, when she deemed I chewed too loudly. It was as if she was searching for any reason to shame me and punish me. On another note, you also described my OCPD business partner. The disease of PERFECTION. Rigidity, rules, criticism, anger, spiritual stinginess, absolute control, micromanagement, boundary violations. The need to point out others flaws, to teach, lecture, PUNISH SABOTAGE . He treats my husband and I like we are his lowly employees where in fact we are equal partners in a joint business venture. Maintaining boundaries and keeping balance over his obsessive need to control is a full time job. He listens in on our phone conversations, tells us how to prepare our food chastises us as if we were children for forgetting to turn off the lights. There is a definite correlation between OCPD and NARCISSISM. He's always trying to teach someone a lesson. LOL. The only thing lacking from this OCPD are the RAGES. OCPD are passive aggressive and will wilfully withhold from you something you really need or want, unless it's them who provides it.

A Few Notes. . . I really like hearing things like this. As it gives me a sense of community, with what I see and how I do things. . . I try for myself to hold my dignity without exploding into the N's grip of fighting back n forth. . . For me it isn't a show of how great I am. But rather how good I feel about myself with my own set of morals and codes. . . . . Also really liked the assertiveness part. As I have it in me very much. But sometimes I wait and sit back, especially while learning. . . When I do begin to show some self assertiveness, that is not even connected to the N. . . They have been known to take it as a challenge and go directly after me... . . . Believe me, with the training I am learning. . . I am standing up for myself more. And self protection now falls under my guidance. And not the N's at all. . . . . Also choices to continue ruminating over the N vs. focusing on building My Life. . . For years I was taught to sit and go to my head about all "They" Do. Everybody. But taking that energy to give back to myself in a positive way is worth the work in progress... Also. . . I have been writing alot on this channel. But not really listening... I think it's good for me to listen. As guidance and leadership type people were cut out of my life from parents. And a mistrust of having a good voice to listen to is foriegn to me... . . . Just hearing the voice of good reason, with head phones and Not watchhing the video, but listening is another good start to take in Connection. As I believe leading yourself is truly the way to go. But, Finding Good Voices That Can Help Too means a lot. . . . . . Thank You....... I like this video. Puts it in great perspective. And the thoughts I am having in recently in general, WHOA. !!! But they are all good one's....... Thanks. . . . .

Such great advice. So glad I stumbled onto your videos! Thank you!

Recovery from narcissistic abuse is very much an exercise in self-improvement . Videos like this really help build you back up but into a better you. I love the way your videos have such a seamless flow from receiving validation and empathy to instructions on how to make yourself better in the face of your difficulties. Thanks as always!

Wise, wise words. I must stop reacting to the narcissist in my life, my mother. I not only feel out of control but dislike myself when I rise to her relentless abuse, the lies and put me downs. I must hang on to my values and be what I want to be, good and decent. I must remember that no one can threaten or change what I am just because they say so. Thank you so much. Your videos are a life saver in this lonely existence. So few people understand.

Dr. C....he was every one of the words of what you spoke! I learned not to argue just let him do all the talking & yelling as I stood in silence. Finally he walked away yelling cussing words. I'm enjoying my peace & realize I'm fine with my own company!! I never hated him I finally realized I can't help him !!

I love what you just said about not having hate or hatred for the narcissist because I've been there and that's not good feeling when you hate someone knowing they're not going to change and they can't help it what was the point in being angry was in the first place you're turning into them. There are so many people out here that are showing the hate for narcissistic person that did them wrong I actually feel sorry for my friend I choose to be the better person. And I do understand I cannot be around him a lot. This has changed me so much and I do ask why did I become this like him. My mother was the first narcissistic person I dealt with and I believe that's why I end up with the guy I end up with.

Thank you ! I have narcisstic mother and father and at the age of 60 I have gone no contact with my mother, she is 84, my father has dementia and I was his golden child and he is in care, I do visit and have found peace with him. Your videos are so true and honest. I have found a new me and a sense of Freedom, I intend to live the rest of my life to the best I can. My realisation moment was when my husband was diagnosed with Cancer earlier this year and I found no comfort from my mother, it was my Ah Ha moment!! Everything you say is spot on and I have found comfort in your videos. Again Thank You x I am sure you helped many with your advise and I feel very lucky to have found your chanel. Long may you continue to help those in need. To everyone reading this you can do it, if I can anyone can and find your inner peace xx