Authenticity = Valuing the truth and not shying away from it.

Authenticity = committed to reality (internally, externally, relationally)

“Self confidence is not runnin round the place like James Bond”. What fun therapy would be with this brilliant and funny therapist!

Thank you, Darren ☮️. My challenge is recovering from over 60 years of psychological and emotional abuse from a narcissistic mother and sociopathic sister. I am not exaggerating. The truth is horrific. Thank you for your authenticity, for your compassion, and for sharing your talents. You are a gift. ☮️

I find myself feeling exactly what you described. And now I can understand why my narcissistic mil HATES ME but doesn’t have any reason to

I can definitely stay involved too long in an effort to find a solution ... That's everything to me ...

I believe authentic people are also calm. They listen without over reacting to everything.

Darren and his channel is authentic.

THIS is my curse and my gift all rolled in to one ❤🙂👍

It is easy for someone who is authentic to recognize it in others. They usually talk about personal experiences in healthy ways and don’t talk about others in demeaning ways. They love facts and know how to use facts appropriately in every circumstance. They don’t need others to gain their value. They don’t use others to punish or feed from. Unauthentic people are sickening to be around. Thank you for your work.

You are really a fantastic therapist. ❤❤❤

After leaving a 30 year narcissistic relationship earlier in the year, I really appreciate this discussion as I think being your true self and growing and healing towards that is something I am looking forward to, feeling hopeful for the future and determined to thrive. Thanks Darren 💪

Thank you!!! I agree and have seen all this! It is Jesus Christ Who keeps me focused on what matters and He works in me to make me like Him. When I fail He helps me when I confess my failure. I am thankful for Him, He loves when people cannot.

Thank you Darren for such a down to earth and easy to understand discussion on authenticity and narcissism. I try to live as best I can by this description of authenticity but I've not been able to put it into words. I have struggled through many narcissistic familial relationships and I can definitely relate to your description of how it goes with an authentic person and a narcissist. This is probably my favourite video of yours. I also found your Managing Boundaries with Narcissists videos so helpful. Any future video ideas you have about boundaries would be wonderful! Thanks again, I am watching from Canada 😊

I'd love to see a livestream on how people get emotionally stuck in the past and how they can then become unstuck. But then I also love the sound of the 5 minute primer on updating your memory!

I'm trying to be more authentic, although my family has branded me mad, bad, sad, detached from reality. At work, I sometimes find that I just hang back a little around a person who has a dominant personality and even that hesitancy alerts them to the fact that I'm still assessing, and that little, that can make a dominant person freeze *me* out. I think I initially come across like a people pleaser who then confusingly pleases herself. I need to emanate a more assertive energy. But it needs to happen gradually so it's authentic. Good chat. Waffle away on this subject. It's good to be reminded of who we're striving to be.

Really amazing video. Allot of good things we all need to contemplate on.

Vulnerabilities don't have to be weaknesses. ❤ Right. I like to be open to other people, and support them if they have a struggle, but I don't intend to be used or considered "sweet " for being that way. As one person labeled me. I didn't consider being called "sweet" a compliment.

Hey My name is Kirsty; I am authentic. Authenticity, is actually no effort; I just say what I want, whatever I’m feeling. The reason I say it’s easier, is because it’s less effort to be honest, about what’s going on, internally. This is within the confines, of what is appropriate to share. Yes, it’s a lifelong journey, of discovering who I am. It’s also, a lifelong journey, of discovering what I want, and who I want to be. It’s the knowledge that, anyone, I want to be, I can be; the reason being, where the passion is, there, too, is the ability. Humility is absolutely, where the confidence, of an authentic person comes from. Also, the confidence of being good at something, because, I have that passion. Really enjoyed the video. Thank you

I used to get triggered when being accused of being intolerant, mean, extreme, a liar etc. The narc of course uses words as weapons It was next level of self-acceptance when I can say yes- I CAN be intolerant/ mean/ extreme/ lie…but I’m also tolerant/ kind/ balanced and honest… It like I’ve finally accepted all of myself- the shadow and the light. It’s a pretty powerful state of mind. I know I am capable of going into both ends of the spectrum of emotions and experience, and I will always aim for the higher ground The words and accusations don’t hurt anymore, It becomes then about WHY they are saying those things, without getting pulled into the illusionary battle

Thank you for this. I find it very interesting, I appreciate it. ☮️💜💙💚💛🧡♥️💕

Honest, decent and genuine. That's without watching the video.

An excellent video, very interesting to hear how the characteristics of an authentic person and narcissist differ. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

Just Yesterday for example I said " I am busy with authentic buyers." When selling . Found this, learned , helped! "When the two collide," is so helpful in terms of thinking how to settle a lawsuit, etc, or even understanding stupidity we all struggle with when dealing with others egos / our own etc , I am thankful. I am learning . This could serve as a guide in getting back to peace., Merry Christmas to you and all your many good sound followers! ✌👌 ❤ 💕 😉 👍 Thank you!

I tend to people please, guess that boiled down to being dishonest. It's hard to just tell someone no.

Thank you so much Darren for sharing this knowledge and your time with us. This is helping me take my healing to the next level, from making sense of my toxic family toward living as my authentic self. Looking forward to tomorrow's video.

This makes sense. Thank you. 😊

Thanks Darren - you’re doing a great job ! I enjoy listening to your podcasts , your well considered responses.

An honest person is usually quiet.

ITS CLEAR TO ME YOU R AN AUTHENTIC PERSONE

Interesting thanks for sharing

THIS IS VERY GROUNDING EXCELLENT JUST CLOSED NARCISISTIC EXPERIENCE OMG. TRUST MY GUT GOT OUTTTT

What really put my drive into overdrive trying to be authentic was being really hurt by someone, don’t get me wrong I’ve been hurt many times but this latest one really woke me up! I really thought I knew people but I soon realised I did not! This made me look more inward and to ask who I’m I why was I fooled again, so from that day I went deeper and deeper, looking at what and who is me! So hence how do I achieve this becoming more authentic.

Part of authenticity is being good with being imperfect. (Many years ago, I read about the growth vs. fixed mindset - book by Carol Dweck, but I don't think I really got it until very recently.) Acceptance, too, as you mentioned. I struggled with understanding any of this for many years - maybe because I was trying to see things both from my narcissistic mother's perspective as well as my own?? Thanks for noticing my name during the live stream, Darren! 😁 Great information, as usual.

Needed this vid today, thank you for sharing

OMG U DESCRIBED ME I SEE MYSELF AS AUTHENTIC BUT I WAS NOT SURE THANK YOU

I call it my darkness and also grateful i get to learn about it be more aware

I appreciate this video, thank you :)

Skull fell out and the cat's not well 😂

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Did a body sensation reflection at 2am and it was try interesting... i am An INFJ-A and i was struggle with showing anger... from i was a child i focus on becoming, when hit my mid 30s it switch to understanding myself...

Very good video. I have one possible idea for something I'd love to know more about. It's about if you think there's anything to the idea that the self aware BPD person develops a sort of 6th sense for sniffing out NPD people? I haven't seen much about this topic but because borderlines and narcissists attract each other, the borderline who heals from those toxic relationships , goes into treatment and improves their symptoms can become triggered by a narcissist and be a very strong ally for those who are being abused because they are one of the few personality types who can match their energy. They also understand willfulness, being controlling , manipulative and toxic because it's the things they dont like about themselves.

Ps i just tidied the kitchen, did the recycling and the washing listening to this video so i appreciate a longer video😅.

I am very tired of the accusations of not being authentic

I look forward to rhe video about the devouring mother/father. I think my mother "devoured" my sense of my self, but it was subtly done, she met any of my expressions of self with cold shoulders, contempt shaming and exclusion so not sure if that counts as devouring

Its not easy. Just like crash landing . Somany Bruises and abrasions. Even struggle for daily needs.

I think a human can become more authentic because lols i think i have choosen with help from many that and it was hard because the bargain is groups and toxic ppl or alone and pretty decent and lonelyness.

I am nice till i am not. Lols learning about bounderies has been a litteral life saver. And using key words, practice and building my self back from a puddle. And also magic mushrooms sometimes. 30 posts just thoughts as i listen

We all can be cruel and like it

Please do some more live Q & As Darren

Cus i have lived with one forever. I am 29 now and doing me.

between my bad hearing, your low voice and weak microphone... CC would help a lot.

New day, new person new situation. I pacients and restraint. When i mention i am using restraint it lets ppl know i am tryna be nice rn plz help me

Darren, which one is the one you did about Johari windows please? Thanks for your videos which have helped me and then several friends so very much over the last couple of years !

I THINK PEOPLE MISTAKE AUTHENTICITY WITH SAYING EVERYTHING U THINK. I DON T SOMETIMES WHAT WE THINK IS NOT THAT IMPORTANT

Whats your thoughts on dr ramani's "truth teller" idea

Dr carter on youtube being not surprised. Fuck my life

16:47 my dad said that to me its not real ok well it came out of my mouth and i put effort into making the sounds so for me its real. And i didnt understand at time. there is book smart then life expirence kinda simple and oof

Why would i do that anymore. I have sacrificed and i am not there anymore 11:16

What parts of us that are unacceptable? That's a bit harsh😮

Heres my thing bro nobody wants to talk about narcissistic police officers. Problem is wild and entitlement. Disalusioning and we can do better

I’d rather be Bugs Bunny than WileE. Coyote

All Psycho Paths and Impostors are AuThentic Your best Dis Ciples

BIDEN VS TRUMP

KEPT GETTING NOT COMFORTABLE IN MY GUT TRIED TO WORK IT THROUGH BUT MANIPULATIONS CHANGED LIKE DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES FINALLY DECIDED NO MATTER WHAT ENDLESS INSANITY IS NOT FOR ME BLOCKED NARCISIST. FREEEE AT LAST