Thanks ❤

Very honest thank you 🙏

This specific topic, like any, seems to be very subjective. I admit to always having been toxic-selfless, or a people-pleasing chameleon. After awakening, I'm finding that there's nothing to reclaim, though. I've regularly been in situations where people are unloading their pent up frustration indirectly at me and I'm finding it to become something like a pleasant challenge. In those moments, I feel directly, but without the identification, I'm finding it possible to just bring up more love. And that results in a very exciting yet deeply peaceful practice. As long as it doesn't hinder my needs or physically threatens me, there really is nothing to protect and I am naturally inclined to hold space and let the person vent until they see that they are hitting empty space. Every situation will be different, however. So I will be aware that even an inclination to set a boundary is perfectly OK and probably great to learn if I haven't yet. I just find it fascinating that every moment is just what it is. It seems we all have certain themes popping up more or less. Having developed a "know-it-all" reactivity pattern in my past, I'm mainly working with full on acceptance and true hearing of someone when they speak. Their truth is a truth. My truth is a truth. And we all want to be heard. That kind of practice has led me to seeing how deeply hurt people can be on an experiential level that completely disarms any attempt at projection. Boundaries are wonderful when we really feel the need for them. Thanks for the reminder. It's definitely good to "humanize" the awakening process rather than feed false or true ideas that can lead to bypassing. Experience always comes first. ❤

Really good stuff Simon. Man I love your authenticy here. This has been a huge part of the work for me too and I relate to the quivering of the heart. ‘Are you sure it’s okay?’ lol. Clearly stating needs by turning deep into a meditate/prayer state while accommodating all of emotions really helps me access deeper threads of truth. I personally love the question ‘what does LOVE need here’. That way, I’m looking at the entirety of the situation. Maybe I need to be a bit sacrificial with my energy for a healthy dynamic and one of service, but it also accommodates ME too. Finding that middle way has been a real bitch and heroes journey that’s for sure. Definitely fumbling around but it feels centered, empowering and respectful.

Zero boundaries over here 👈 professional conflict avoider and person pleaser

Good stuff. Boundary work for me has been just as difficult or maybe even more so than the emotion work. The first time I knowingly and willingly set a firm boundary I didn’t sleep for two days. Thankfully it gets easier. ❤

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Indeed 🎉