I don’t know why I am crying. I guess maybe it is because I am afraid to not be accepted if I show my true self to everyone, but at the same time I want joy, love, and authenticity.

"We just stay so busy that the truth of our lives can't catch up. That's the plan." Wow, that's the money quote right there. Nailed it, Brené.

Who's grateful that they've heard of Brene Brown? And that she's doing what she does, of course.

Symptoms of shame: - When joy becomes foreboding or suspicious, - Disappointment as a lifestyle, - not wanting to get excited about things for fear of them not happening, - Perfectionism, - Faith - vulnerability=extremism, - Numbing But why are we intolerant of vulnerability? - scarcity mindset - nothing is safe/perfect/extraordinary enough, we‘re meaning less if all that‘s missing, sometimes the ordinary is a blessing (e.g. your family being normally healthy) How do we embrace vulnerability - practice gratitude - honor what‘s ordinary about our lives - play, play, play - nature - love, love, love

vulnerability refers to the willingness to be open and honest about one's feelings and experiences, even if it involves some risk or potential for discomfort. Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen, even when you can't control the outcome. Being vulnerable can involve showing one's weaknesses, fears, and insecurities, as well as expressing emotions and asking for help or support when needed. Vulnerability is not weakness, but rather the most accurate measure of courage. It's the foundation of trust, connection, and innovation. Great discussion on the dangerous impact of losing our tolerance for vulnerability in our culture. The fear of vulnerability causes people to avoid joy, experience disappointment as a lifestyle, disconnect, strive for perfection, and engage in extremism. The scarcity drives our intolerance for vulnerability because we live in a culture that tells us there is never enough and that an ordinary life is meaningless. Vulnerability is not a weakness but rather a strength that allows people to experience joy, love, belonging, creativity, and faith. "We are losing our tolerance for vulnerability." "Vulnerability is absolutely at the core of fear, and anxiety, and shame, and very difficult emotions that we all experience. But vulnerability is also the birthplace of joy, of love, of belonging, of creativity, of faith." "One of the symptoms that we're losing our capacity for vulnerability is that joy actually becomes foreboding." "Perfectionism has nothing to do with striving for excellence and healthy-- it's nothing to do with healthy striving. People who I interview who are absolutely accomplished, and people who strive for excellence are the biggest negotiators and compromisers that I've ever interviewed." "Faith minus vulnerability equals extremism." "We live in a culture that tells us that there is never enough." "In this world, somehow, an ordinary life has become synonymous with a meaningless life." "What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful." Nailed it!

"We cannot selectively numb the dark experiences."

13:08: "...you cannot selectively numb emotion...let me tell you, if vulnerability is a sharp edge, there may be nothing sharper than joy." = mindblown 💥

Even though she's speaking as a researcher, I find her talks touching.

Ms. Brown has more wisdom than I can DREAM to have. I love to listen to her on repeat.

“We all want to believe that we are not going to get hurt and that bad things are not gonna happen and they are. There is a guarantee that no one talks about and that is If we don’t allow ourselves to experience joy and love we will definitely miss out on filling our reservoirs with what we need when those hard things happen.”

The dangerous thing is as a society, we are losing our tolerance and capacity to vulnerability.

Isn’t being vulnerable just us being authentic? We learn as children that we are authentic and loved or authentic and rejected. That’s why so many of us grow up believing we cannot be authentic and or vulnerable.

Wow! I work as an addiction counselor with active duty military! This is so helpful to present to them! To them, they are taught they being vulnerable is a weakness. I can present this to them as an educational! Thank you Brene' for your dedication to research!

This was so helpful for me. I keep feeling that feeling that I'm missing something and what is missing is the being in the moment by being vulnerable. My stomach is flip flopping just thinking of what that means. That is a good thing. I'm going to hug my sons really hard tonight.

Vulnerability doesn't change who you are It shows your capability for compassion being relatable. Makes you even stronger . One of the best videos ever

Finally someone who sees that striving for the extraordinary is not the only fulfillment one can have in life. Thank you.

I have discovered the high cost of being invulnerable for the majority of my life. I’m currently cleaning up the wreckage that it left in its wake. Brené Brown has played a part in that process! ❤️ I love this human being !

This is so true! for the longest time I couldn't watch a man making a fool of himself in a movie. I would just avoid that scene. But it's after listening to Brene, I learned my own tendancy to appear cool always and not let myself experiment and become a fool. It's still a challenge but atleast now I know where to work on!

that last bit is so powerful just in itself. when i lost my dad, i didn’t want sympathy or sadness or pity or whatever, i wanted people to tell THEIR parents how much they loved them, it’s perspective and it’s crazy🥹

This human was brought to my attention years ago… and has inspired me so very much. I’m so grateful she does what she does.

"In the ordinary moments of our lives is really when we can find the most joy." Wow! I needed to hear that! I'm so weary of all the "live your best life!" b.s.!

I spent 10 years working in ICU's and numbed my feelings to people's pain so I could do what it took to care for them or at least that's what I thought. It took another 8 years to start really feeling people. I remember the day when i could feel someone else's physical pain as I cared for them, it overwhelmed me it was so intense, and i still struggling with the emotional numbness that is part of medicine today. As she said numbness shuts down the joy in life as well and I miss joy.

"... To let yourself soften into loving someone, into caring about something passionately-- that's vulnerable"

THIS WAS AMAZING. Dear god this woman hit the nail on the head for everything.

Great talk. i have been struggling with vulnerability for as long as i can remember, believing it to be weakness. I appreciate this talk.

Excellent talk, this should be watched by everybody. In addition to what Brené showed, here is how I see vulnerability: Vulnerability is something we all need, because it opens the way in which our true emotions and feelings flow and as humans we cannon't keep them in ourselves. When you are vulnerable you are not thinking about what you are for the outside world but about what you are in you, and thus you break that barrier to release everything that comes right from the heart.

Always come back to Dr Brown's research. Love her❤❤❤

Brene Brown is SO easy to love! Best Teds ever, thank you!

Tears at the end. Wish I could like it a million times.

Dr. Brown your a true healer in to many ways to count. Thank you.

This is my favorite of her TED Talks.

There aren't enough...... videos/podcasts/etc of Brene Brown, presenting her work.

Love listening to Brenee ALWAYS. I have read all your books and never get bored of watching you - always get me to think so very hard!

I´m thankful for her heartwarming, thought provoking insights.

Loved her every word

I love her and am reading Rising Strong now. Thank you for sharing your passion with others.

One of the greatest Ted talks ever I have come across. Thank you!

I seen all that I found by this Amazing Speaker..............She just touches your soul!! BRAVO!!

Thank you, I am grateful for this wonderful talk.

Brené Brown is hands down one of my absolute favorite people on this planet. She is boldly going in to the most important topics... The most important fields for real life.

This was awesome. I did this my whole life and yes, the impact of it is great! I hope a lot of young people see this and apply it to their lives, so they will not have to endure what I, and many others have done throughout ours! Great speaker! Great topic! Awesome!

thank you Brene. i am thankful for You and your beautiful vulnerable research and words. blessings

Going through life even afraid, but expecting good things based on faith and gratitude is fullfilling. We live in critical times hard to deal with for sure. Brene' articulates so well getting on... having a tight grasp on what's at stake, controlling herself and sharing her insights. Little gems sparkle around her. I am always delighted to hear her. Thank you.

Thank you so much Berne Brown for doing this talk. This is one of the truest, most closest to the heart talk I have heard in a long time. We numb vulnerability and most of the time it is project akin to being weak and unable to cope with life. Vulnerability is beautiful cause it exposes us to us and our feelings, connections, and everything that makes us what we are as people. Thank you, for talking about this.

This is wonderful. She is so brave. Go Brene!!

I absolutely love you! Thank you for being vulnerable enough to put yourself out there ! Your knowledge and research is much appreciated ! Thank you for sharing !

Love this lady and her words

I have only just discovered Brene, but I think she is a wonderful speaker in her simplicity.

this hit home for me in so many ways. i've been taking in a lot of self-help media while trying to sort out the trauma i've been through, but this talk really forced me to break the cognitive dissonance i've been feeling. i really believed in my heart since i was young that vulnerability was meaningful, and i let myself forget that in the face of other people's cruelty and callousness. no more forgetting for me!!! thank you so much for sharing this with us!!

Absolutely love this, have never thought of this

life-changing, brimming with truth & softness 💗😍❤

Awesome Ted talk by my new favorite person/Doctor to follow! Really informative and helpful information about what causes people to act the way they do. Inspirational to say the least!

Thank you - Brilliantly illustrated , it allowed me to consider and begin to accept many things, truly understand why we act up , numb or project onto others poorly. Especially when joy is scarce, another veil of understanding lifted . Wonderfully illustrated .

After listening to two of Brene Brown's talks, she really strikes a chord, I live in the pacific north west, and i am lucky enough to have been exposed to a culture that has taught me to the to hear the music in the struggle of life, the west coast natives are always giving thanks, always honoring the ancestors, through participation and observation I have learned the power of vulnerability, i think they honor and respect it., it is nature.

She is an awesome communicator. The symptoms had to ring some bells with viewers.

The Best Talk i have ever watched.

Brene is one of my all-time favorite speakers. Her previous talks on shame and on vulnerability are incredible. I have used them in my team meetings and share that to be the best leader possible we need to lead from a point of vulnerability.

Very true.. I just hope people like her or anyone in a financially secure situation can understand and empathize with the ones that aren't so lucky.

2020 during covid, I feel so lucky to have come across this.

Thank you for the very interesting talk. I can relate to that when we repress shame etc we also repress joy. I read somewhere that our safety lies in our vulnerability. Much appreciated.

"honor ordinary.." thank you so much Mrs Brown

Brene is great and so funny! I love listening to her.

Brené - you are my hero. Wow. THANK YOU.

Goddess! Thank you Brene! You are amazing!! You changed my life for the BETTER!

What a wonderful surprise to stumble acoss Dr Brown, so much sense in her talks. and she actually gets to the heart of my/our deep untalked of cause and effect of most of silent needs to speak out ,and risk to live fully

What a blessing 🙏 ✨ I happened to stumble upon this on Christmas eve 2020 🎄 that's how she started this. A sign for sure. Thank you. Have been in therapy with a wonderful therapist for 14 years and I have come soo far because I'm committed to self love and working through my difficulties.

excellent talk - she is spot on about all that perfection and invulnerability. it's a very thought provoking talk - I've watched it a few times already. Our lives are entirely vulnerable - we spend a lot of time trying to be secure and safe - which is to be expected but our emotions and hearts cannot be caged. that is the price of securing them.

Thank you thank you thank you Brene for the clarity and compassion in shedding light on our numbing culture which is robbing us of love & joy when we so much to be grateful for. God bless you & your work💜

I will be always grateful

Love your work! It touches the nerves

I am grateful for your wisdom, knowledge and this video.

Highly recommended. Thank you, Brene', for sharing your research.

This woman is so me. I love it

What a moving and meaningful talk. This really spoke to me. I hope for the acceptance and willingness to embrace my vulnerability and suffering so I can know true joy.

Yes, everyone should learn about shame, discuss it, and thus overcome it. Her talks and her book "I thought it was just me (but it isn't)" are slowly helping me realize that I need to embrace vulnerability, and helping me accept the fact that one day this will happen (yeah, it's gonna take a while to really get it, and apply it). It's very educating and helps me change for the better. Thanks for sharing!

Gratitude, honoring the ordinary in our lives, embracing our imperfections, struggles,. ...ways to NOT numb our vulnerabilities...I love her insights on vulnerability...

Thank you Brene...A sane voice amongst the madness....the work you are doing is brilliant :)

I love Brenè Brown! Such a brilliant mind! This speech is incredible!

Love Brene Brown's work on Vulnerability! Makes you understand how to be a better person to others - and yourself!

Thank you. This was awesome!

BEAUTIFULLY DONE!!!!! thank you !

Beautifully stated. It takes a strong person to allow oneself to be vulnerable. However once one allows this to occur one can move forward in total authenticity and freedom from self and others. Thank you Dr. Brown.

So grateful for stumbling upon this talk❤

I'm greatful that I found out about your research, can watch these videos and find that many of those things I have already realized in my life. Now I'm even more reassured to keep up with them :)

I've heard of Brene Brown for years, but more from pop culture than any personal experience. WHY did I wait so long to watch her videos? I watched the Netflix special last night. In her special, she referred to her KZfaq video that got so much attention from the original Houston TedTalks - so I just watched that because I was crazing more Brene. I am really connecting with the importance of celebrating my ordinary life. Seems I've been chasing extraordinary moments for a lifetime. It's quite amazing to be alive in 2020 with everything going on. I will most likely watch/listen to this again to remind me of this important message.

Her research is amazingly beautiful & I get it 💗 Thank you

Excellent. Deeply moved and touched.

She is such a bringer of sanity!

I can't get enough of Brene' . Have her books all underlined like my Bible. Listen to her over and over here and with Oprah hoping to let it sink into my insecure brain! Keep them coming Dr.

love this woman

Dr. Brown, you may have saved my life. Thank you. And thank you from my family.

Thank you for this.

So awsome being real raw transparency when some else gets it this is great LOVE HER

So grateful to come across this. Going to practice this daily 😘

I am not disconnected from my internal sense of self but thanks anyway! I appreciate your good intentions!

A Very Inspiring Woman. I love Brene Brown.

Thanks Brene!!!

Omg this is for me ! What a precious gift of education and information for myself. 📦

13:55 Great 'practice gratitude' section. Also 'filling the resevoir,' at 15:25.

I am grateful to have found you and your books! ~ Thank you~ 😍💋❤