Self-realization is a process that many people try to rush, especially when we are young. It's one of those things that takes a lifetime and even then we never Master it. First we learn to let go of society's expectations of us, then we become free. Then we realized that freedom also means being part of the society, so we have to once again change our mind. After a while we have changed our thoughts so much that we start to wonder if anything is real. Hanging onto that truth is what matters most, whatever it may be for us

When you are self realised you know there are no mistakes only lessons

I hope your doing ok. I know u have been going thru alot, i completely understand, seeing a video from you made my soul happy and thankful for guidance like you in the world. Big love K

Admit it, we’re all just people here feeling awkward and not knowing what to do next. The fact that you’re even here means you’re ahead of a lot of other people, so don’t fret about your life too much. Everything will be okay. :)

This vid has come at such a perfect time it's almost scary. The universe, I guess.

Often, we go through life and we compare ourselves to the other people... 🧐 When we see people that we think are more achieving than us, are more intelligent than us, wealthier than us, have better relationships than us, more physically attractive than us, and compare ourselves to them - we minimize ourselves and think they have something we don’t we automatically inject some of their values into our lives and confuse those with our own highest values... When we do that, we have a tendency to set a goal that is not ours ❌ And when we set a goal that is not ours, we decrease the probability of achievement... Then when we don’t achieve it, we start to beat ourselves up, and start doubting ourselves, and questioning ourselves and we start having this feeling that I can’t do what I set out to do. You don’t feel that you can walk the talk. So make sure you set goals that are really yours 💯 Because when you live according to your highest values you become inspired and awaken genius 🏆 When you live according to your lower values you require continuous outside motivation and you suppress your genius... Your present purpose or mission for life will reflect your present highest values 💎

I hope you are ok, because i have heard that you have family problems. I just want to say that i appreciate your work.

It's taken decades for me to finally realize that I actually learned many of these unhealthy coping skills early on in life. I've definitely found it easier to move away from problems and troubling situations, as well as people, rather than face them. But at least now I know that it's always the apprehension of what could happen that hinders our progress more than the actual event itself.

Self-realization is something so many struggle with and that I fell as time goes on, fewer and fewer will achieve.

Discovering who you are today is the first step to being who you will be tomorrow

Hope you are well Einzelgänger, we love your content. Thank you for helping me achieve inner peace and happiness at the darkest time of my life. Love you man

I can relate to this video, growing up in a dysfunctional family I understand how messy family relationships can be. I'm grateful that I've recovered from my childhood and left the past behind.

Would agreed most of us feel empty, and looking for that thing that makes us feel good, but all we have to do is look within.

I used to beat myself up a lot in my early 20's because of having such high expectation of what I could be but everyday my realistic self was so so far from the idealistic self. Everyday was a failure, I became depressed and one day everything just collapsed. Eventually I had to take time off and started seeing a therapist to repair myself. Since then I've been on a journey of self discovery. I realised how little I knew about my self. It was a dark place that I tried to hide from for most of my life, but that is where the real treasure is, beyond our own darkness. Be kind to yourself everybody. Be your own best friend.

This video took me on so many emotional journeys I had to pause like 7 times.

It took me a great deal of pain to finally accept the dualities of reality. I thought I needed to follow expectations, conform to fit in, and achieve academically to compensate for the fact I never did anything else in life. Then I realized now at 19, it’ll never be enough for many. Being a good kid and student never stopped my family members from lashing out or using me as a scapegoat. I followed what they thought was best for me because I spent my life trying to have the love of those who’ve hurt me or weren’t here for me anymore. No matter the sticks and stones tossed at me, I never stopped following the path they’ve cultivated for up until now. Now I’ve made the choice to let it all go. Let go of the fact I never grew up high-class with a family who loves me unconditionally, let go of the fact that I’ll never fit in or be liked by many, let go of reputation, religion, validation, childhood truama, loneliness, comfort, the people who’ve hurt me, anguish, anger, hate, sadness, grief- all too place my feet firm and stand tall if I want to function and pursue the life that’s rightfully mine.

No addiction no medications is the way to go. Feel your feelings, process them and move forward. Great video.

I am in my late 20's. I'm the "people pleaser " type and find it hard to voice out or socialize due to my negative experiences during childhood. It is really hard to face my fears even though I'm an academic scholar. I need every help and advice I can get. Thanks

Holy cow. The affection/approval part hit me square in the face. It explains a lot of my less healthy behaviors over my life so much. I am so glad I watched this video for my journey to know and understand myself better and move away from actions and thoughts that don't serve me.

Damn the research you've put into this is amazing. I can attest to all the traits mentioned here. Always the anxious kid in school never knew it'd come back to bite me in the ass. My dad never gave me the schooling I needed of him, always absent. Emotional ruts are hard to break out of.

I missed your calming voice and wisdom that u were sharing. Nice to have you back and sorry for your losses.

My nuerosis is relentless procrastination. I simply cannot work on improving my circumstances i.e, learning a skill and applying a proper job. Day in and day out, I squander my time with watching pointless videos or practically any activity that doesn't involve what I need to do that day. It's been the cause for a lot of distress and pain all the way through school and adult life. I genuinely believe in the concept of self-actualization. Just the way this video points out, it will be your greatest struggle and has been mine for my whole life. I'm still working my way out.

I love how taoism can be well defined simply with the two words "middle road". They say to live a life of true moderation and enjoying what you have, but that you shouldn't worry about what you might not in the future

I have been doing Internal Family Systems therapy with my therapist and on my own. That was my path to finding Self. 😊

Good to have you back my friend. My condolences to you and your family. I hope everything is becoming smoother, as well as you and your loved ones finding peace in the loss that you all experienced. Good on you for recognizing your need for a break. I can't wait to see what else you put out, as your content is helping me build myself into the man I want to become. Thank you Einzelganger 💪

When the realization occurs that my desires cannot be achieved due to personal limitation. That is when it necessary to accept the bell curve. And just be grateful for the comfort I do have. In this world of competition I am reminded of a quote from Nietzsche "Everywhere I go I am followed by a dog named Ego." Finding proper perspective is an ongoing process.

Perfect timing. New to this channel. Subscribed. The loml is the second one. My girl best friend is the first. I’m also the first, though not to her level. Both of them had childhood traumas whereas mine were later in my preteen and later years (loml is 19, I’m 20, and my bsf is 21). This self destructive behavior has taken a massive toll on all of us. Rn it is 3:30 am and I am awake with class tomorrow morning at 10. Why? Because I am neurotic. I have OCD. Anxiety. Depression. My therapist booted me for missing 3 appointments total. Even then, she was $100 a visit, and I could only see her every blue moon due to the wait time. This video helped me a ton. I’ll def be rewatching this a few times so the lessons really get ingrained into me. To watch this only once would be doing me a great disservice. Thank you so much for this. I’ve been slowly turning to alcohol, but I think this just saved me from going too far. Because now I know the goal: self-realization.

I listen to this vid every couple of weeks as part of my meditation, self-therapy. I gain more each time. Thank you, love your channel 🙏🏻

Hope the best for you, your videos have been helping me through a very difficult time in the last years of my life.

What a wonderful day! Your content makes me feel more comfortable with myself. Thank you kind sir

I love this channel! Spending some time here is always great. Please, never abandon us, this work is so necessary! P.S.: Last week I bought your book. I'm finishing the reading and... I'm loving it! Feeling like you're already a close friend, even for a brazilian fan. Thanks for all your videos!

I just wanted to thank you for creating this channel. It brings me great peace every time I listen.

Once you start not caring about what others think of you, life becomes a lot better ❤️

To be, or not to be, that is the question: Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, Or to take arms against a sea of troubles And by opposing end them. To die-to sleep, no more; And by a sleep to say we end the heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks that flesh is heir to: 'tis a consummation devoutly to be wish'd. To die, to sleep; To sleep, perchance to dream-ay, there's the rub: For in that sleep of death what dreams may come?

This channel is amazing. Thank you, Einzelgänger 💚

Hey you. Yes, you! You made it. You're here, and we are all so proud of you. Keep going- we love you

My goodness, this is the best KZfaq video I ever watched .

You came back when I need it the most. Hope everything is going well. Thank you! ❤️

The youtube algorithm is on my side with this one. I'm so glad I found your channel!

Thank you for posting and welcome back. May you be well x

As always, amazing video. I started my journey to self actualization 3 years ago and I feel like I have only just begun. I've made great progress but the work is never done. Though its a good to have reaffirmation. This is a difficult topic to discuss or make videos on because it's difficult to point out shortcomings without inadvertently offending the ones you're trying to help. You, sir, did it extremely elegantly.

As a teen I'm noticing a huge wave of other teens growing and I'm glad us teenagers are we truly might change the world.

I have to tell you how helpful and uplifting your videos are to me. It has taken so long carrying the burdens to finally allow myself to just drop the whole load. I feel so aware of my world that most every day is full of new things. Thanks to you for providing this channel!!!

Reminds me of this quote from Shakespeare : "To be or not to be. That is the question"

Good to see you back! I've missed you happy hermit. Hope you're ok. All my best wishes to you! 🌤

Great video, really liked the quotes. I think the below one is really important, and hopefully inspiring. Once you've gone through a good deal of discovering unpleasant truths about oneself, a mental state of confidence, fearlessness and calm awaits. You trust yourself that you can reinvent yourself. Nothing can destroy you. Except death, but after that you don't care... "If a person has sufficient courage to discover an unpleasant truth about himself, one may safely trust his courage to be strong enough to carry him through."

As i am currently "krangled", your video is helping me put another step toward getting better and realizing that i'm not so much an oddity, but part of a lot of people that have more or less the same problems that i have. Thank you 😁👍

@Einzelganger You have no idea how much you have changed my life. Many dark times have your videos helped me to put things into perspective. Please keep it up for all of those who need help right now, and for those who will need help in the future. I hope that you are well, thank you.

This video is perhaps one of your best ones and it’s should be the prerequisite to the rest of the videos! “Know thyself” Is truly the beginning to self actualization!

We're currently living in the age in which many will achieve Self-Realization... time's running out. Awesome video, and well-timed.

I did not expect the content of this video to resonate so much with what has been in my past. There has been a great deal of neuroticism that is now breaking off me over and over since I started to meditate less than a month ago. I relate so much to all these neurotic trends.. People pleaser has been a big part, and the fear of being disliked or rejected. I've gotten to heal a lot of this, but I reckon there is still more to go.

Just one thing.... really, really well done!!! Congrats

Whatever you share there is always something so calming about your voice. So glad you are ready to share again. Hope you are centered again🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

So far, I’ve listened to this sermon three times. Invaluable to all, beautifully explained. Thank you.

This video is exactly what I needed right now.

9:30 It's not Karl Jung who came up with the concept of Big Five personality traits but Costa and McCrae by making number of empirical studies in that regard.

The foundation of a societies lies in strong individuals. You can't help others as good as when you experience fulfilment yourself.

Your voice has a lot of kindness in it, delivering wise messages.

Great content as always. Welcome back lone wolf.

When you realize Spiderman is just another dude who gets his hands sticky after using the Web

I needed this many years ago. Thank you. This is superb and useful beyond any video I’ve seen. It is also strangely poignant helping me see clearly something I didnt realize was happening. Again, thank you

Your videos are a great relief for me in these painful depressing days 😔

I am a perfectionist who moves both towards and away from people as well... People pleaser and keeping distance... Let's be honest. And courageous. Thank you and welcome back Einzelgänger!

You saving lives with these videos brother! Keep it going, you have made a loyal fan! 👍🏻

jezzz this was so real to me and spoke deep to me...unreal. i move away from people and never realised why... Suddenly it made sense ...Self -preservation ,independence truly believing I just wanted to find myself and cultivate my knowledge through solitude.(denial) i have been neurotic while thought was just a mild social anxiety... i am an INFP according to the Briggs and as such an introverted... in numerology I'm an 11 personality and 11 inner self... an Aquarius sun and ascendant in scorpio ... I've being trying all methods FREUD, C J Young read about Buddhism, Hinduism raised as a Christian.... Than Spiritism 'law of attraction divination ,philosophy .. all for self knowledge trying to overcome my inhibitions and childhood... and i still cannot free myself from my demons ..... don't know what else to do really ... but this video has somehow touched something that was missing ... Thank you ever soo much.

This was simply beautifully put ! Gets to the core of one's heart

Eudaimonia: Gratefullness of all meaningful experience in our life and do the play to settle our life mission with honour.

Wow! I've had stages in my life where I went through all the different types you mentioned.. Only when I decided to work on myself did my life begin to change. Thanks for this~

Excellent articulation of words❤ I am grateful to have come across your channel 🙏✨

I learn more about myself and the people I know/love every time I watch this channel. Thank you.

Enlightening! Thank you for the suggestions, as well. I can’t believe how much this has helped reinforce my self-work. This is your best video so far. Thank you!

Instead of success, think ground level : are physical, mental, social and financial conditions are OK to LIVE? If Yes, do everything honestly, including job, to gain stature and step by step success. Make quality choices and take care of self, not pampering self. Don't do injustice and don't accept injustice. This adds more to stature. Eventually, find your skills and linking and peruse it. Tackle negativity by detachment and ask above first question. Retaliate in proper ways. Conditions are OK to Live when you are in a condition to fight and have self-esteem, which comes from honesty. Self realisation is just that you are true man or true woman.

Beautifully researched, crafted and narrated! This is just what I wanted right now. Appreciate the hard work and the dedication which is clearly evident in the video. Thank you so much! Warmth!

Welcome back, hope you're doing well. Needed this today. Thank you.

Great video! I particularly liked the quote of Jung at the end of the video. So many people I know (and I myself am guilty of this to a great extant) limit themselves due to fear (stemming from their nature). An example: as an introvert I find it particularly difficult to interact with individuals of the opposite sex in a way that leads to a date or anything more serious. An admission to and acceptance of this shortcoming is the key to getting out of a victim mindset and rationally addressing the issue (I haven't got to that part yet).

I have been the 1st and 3rd neurotic all my life. This as an amazing video! Thank you!

There is another level of self realization, the realization of what you REALLY are. Only attainable by complete dissolution of ego and incredible humility. Then it will all be clear, and you will awaken from the dream.

Yes it is me. Few years back i was a kind of person who just wanted to learn more nd more nd is best in every subject but now i m moving towards people nd all time i just find myself helpless. Lot of anxiety. I used to be anxious in the past for learning but now the anxiety has become so much more as it leads to nothing nd i feel so bad at the end. I feel alone more than i used to be. I start looking for approval nd i do hv social anxiety that made it worse. Literally i am a kind of person who cant handle rejection. I want to be on top of anything. I was doing better before as i felt something is done that is productive but now i am very different. In the past i always promised i wont waste my time nd learning and to be best was at top for me to have but now see i m helpless. I seek unnecessary approval which i know will never get. In past i can make myself away from my parents just to do my work but now they dont accept my behaviour. Never do this to yourself. Never thing you will be perfect. Life will hit you hard if you try to be something like a superhuman😂 i laugh at my situation sometimes despite having lot of anxiety nd not liking to talk , i cling myself to that behaviour nd hope for someone to accept me. Its degrading me to my worst. But thanks, i am trying my best as the past events created lot of trauma❤

Thank you so much for this. Some of the circumstances in your life that led you to such self reflection and a quest to try and understand yourself, I think would be very illuminating to many of us

After i join BTS journey about map of the soul, there's so many things i learned about my self. And this video is one of them. Help understand what we don't understand

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I found Gold by discovering this channel

What a masterpiece of a video! Thanks for your detailed research. This is extremely practical

Enlightenment or self-realisation is realising that you were enlightened since your birth.We are all enlightened but due to no silence inside our mind we don't get to realize our true self. Thinking all the time is the problem. When you go in thoughtless state that's the very moment you realise that;- You are neither the body,nor the mind. You are solitary witness of this universe.You are neither the doer nor the thinker.You are just a watcher. What your mind does or thinks is not your concern. Just be watcher of your thoughts. Good or bad thoughts don't try to unthink it. Watch what your mind thinks. You will find utter silence inside your mind. Where pain, suffering, loneliness, fear and so on doesn't exist. When you learn the art of watchfulness. You will realise that the pain you been feeling is not even yours.You will find that you were duped by your mind .

thank you for articulating this. I really needed to hear this...

It's hard being a teenager and knowing yourself so early. It's like you can read people's minds and you stand out too much to the point where your friends get frustrated with their fake personality and become insecure around you. Luckily I found new friends with open minds...

You're back! I hope you're alright. Be well my friend.

Missed these heavy juicy informative videos! Enjoyed it Thank you very much

If I saw this video two years ago at my worst, I would be in deny. Now that I am in a much better place I understand this so much.

Good to have you back einzelganger . Lot's of love.

Bijzonder om bevestigd te zien wat ik na intensieve reflectie zelf op merk. Dank je voor je heldere video weer, hopelijk gaat het je goed, het verlies van naasten blijft zwaar ongeacht de ratio die we hier zo waarderen. Sterkte :)

I know we are all work in progress and nobody is complete until last breath. There is no finish line, we are constantly growing physically and mentally, and we need to control both the physical and mental aspects.

I love your work and I hope you're doing fine, you've given to me something of incredible valuable: philosophy when i needed it the most, thank you man, i wish you the best!!

Try this, it helped me 1.Overcome the Need to be licked. 2. Its impossible for self realisation without self acceptance. 3. Overcome the idea of your ideal self.

I discovered your channel around 6 months ago and was quickly risen to my favorite channel. I love all the different ways of thinking you bring to my knowledge I always end each video with lots of notes I have taken along the way.

So happy you back. Hope all is well x

I smoke cannabis and go to nature and listen to your videos. Damn it's working!

Welcome back my friend.

Another exceptional one! Been doing a lot of this research and recovery but from disjointed directions. THIS really pulled it together. And you introduced me to Horney. THANKS!

I guess every single one of us,has a problem or dealing with something, i came being ppl pleaser to being a looner.I came to the realization that when u trying to please everyone, ppl take u for a sucker n take advantage of u,even ur own family or friends,when i started saying no, i started loosing ppl,then i came the realization also the kind of of peace that come with being a looner,then i fell in luv with it.