The end was powerful...sometimes the healing means letting go!

I'm in a broken relationship and I want it to heal, however we both don't communicate well and easily get angry with each other which leads to disrespect and neglect. I'm so grateful for your advice and video. I am therefore willing to try and do my part for our relationship to work.

BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS TAKE UP TOO MUCH EMOTIONAL REAL ESTATE

Iyanla Vanzant...I LOVE YOU! When I hear people say that you are arrogant...they simply do not understand your journey and just how much you have been through to obtain the WISDOM and knowledge that you have about love and relationships. I respect you wholeheartedly and thank you for sharing your overflow with us! xoxoxoxo

Everyone wanted to be told to leave the relationship 😂 That's why she said most people won't be willing to do the work. Even I would like to throw in the towel. But i think it's good to exhaust every option, because, as Iyanla always says in her show, we have patterns that need to be disrupted. If we don't identify, disrupt, and uproot the patterns that may be destroying our loveship...it will meet us again in the next loveship relationship. We have to do the work, if not for our current relationships, for our future relationships and for ourselves.

I love how her focus is on the spirit of the relationship and the responsibility falls on both individuals to maintain it and does not include material items.

Sometimes the healing means that you let go ❤

i must say, you are the MOTHER in case you're not aware that I've always needed to turn to for guidance. I love you, and thank you.

after listening to your entire message I had so many questions on how to address a person that refuses to acknowledge their bad behavior and always called you too emotional. tThe end of your message was the answer that I needed plain and simple. Charity must begin at home. ln other words it starts with me doing my part and I will know when it's time to let go. Thank you for such great insight.

I heard 2 mins in and decided to end my broken relationship right now

I’m 26 and have 5 little ones with my middle school sweetheart. He is my first and only everything. I think that is so precious and I do love him. We did have the kids quite young and that came with a lot of financial issues as well as immaturity. Now , both of us being 26 I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated with the relationship. In a way I want nothing else but to grow old with him, but on the other hand, I feel it in my gut that we aren’t going to make it. It saddens me to say the least, not only for my family and kids, but because how much time and love went into the relationship in the first place. I am at the point where I am praying 🙏🏽 every night for God to guide me in the right path, to show me the right way. I do try to be my best me, but I do fail at times and I know it. It’s difficult. 😪

A lot of people don't want to do any kind of work😩. Even if it means they'll get a better outcome out of something.

2018 my best year ever. . I only do things I like.I Am happy Divorced and free. Thank you Iyanla

Yep sometimes the jig is just up, time to let go & stay separated.

I love u momma iyanla you speak Truth

For those in Narcissist relationships just RUN away secretly 💯

Right now you're the momma I never had & I need your wisdom...Thank you so much...Ive been looking for this all of my life

i love how all your videos make me feel empowered to take action, to self analyse and reflect.. please keep posting more videos like this, you're definitely becoming one of my favorite channels here on youtube. thank you for sharing your wisdom

This is so great and relevant. I❤ all Of The R Spot Videos but this one hit the sport today @2024 6 years later

Auntie Iyanla!!! This is sooooooo good and on time. Nothing in my spirit fought this lesson. It resonates sooooo high with me. And confirms so much!! Thank you so much!! 😘😘😘

I like the way this Lady speaks, needed this now to begin my journey. Just separated, realizing that I may have not been the man she needed. So I ask for forgiveness! Don't know if the relationship will make it or not but now know I must do my part to heal and forgive both myself and her. We have known each other for 30 years and married for 28 years, two daughters who are now grown. I have prayed and ask God to be a comfort to her as He works on me. My feeling and emotional state is all over the scale, disappointment, anger, confusion, sadness, depression, love and yes still some hope. Don't know what to do or say anymore. I just know I need to work on me. Keep me in your prayers and Thank you for these words of LOVE! 💔

Wow...some of the best relationship advice I have ever heard in my life! Iyanla, you are awesome!

I'm crying while watching this. Every single word you described about a broken relationship is EXACTLY TO THE LETTER what is up with my current SO. I've thought about ending the relationship, but I still love him. I'm just worried he doesn't anymore. But this video helped give me the resolve I need to try and reach out to him one last time.

thank you for this! I've been listening and reading a lot of your works about healing and moving on for a few years now and finding myself applying what I understand to my particular situation. this is where I'm still at in my life currently, working on the healing of relationships with family, extended family,etc. hearing this this morning helped me because I felt myself starting to doubt me and my position in trying to assess and mend what is still a complex relationship for the better but I'm now seeing I'm the only one doing any work.

Thank you! This showed up in my timeline at the exact moment that I needed it again thank you God bless you

This was a great video and I appreciate your candor and how you provide these lessons with love.

I appreciate this talk very much. It resonates with me. Thank you 💕💕

Thank you soooo very much for this video I needed to hear this...

Your amazing, thank you, much love!

Thank You Momma!❤ Listening to you has helped me to begin the healing process resulting from a broken relationship. Your wisdom is everything!

Thank you for this

This was realllly good. So much wisdom to gain. Thank you Iyanla❤

Wow, This was soooo on time... Thank you so much Ms. Iyanla VanZant...I will do my work...Happy New Year! And may God bless you on your tour 🤗

1) Do Iyanla's personal inventory 2) confess and ask for forgiveness 3) PRAY for healing. Hope this helps. I am ready to DO THE WORK to heal my broken relationship.

Wow! That was so moving. Thank you for that!

I'm so glad I found your r spot I love it all

Your last step and how you described examples, was absolutely beautiful ❤

Thank you Ayanla for always dropping gems! You don't hold back on anything and I love it.❤️

Very much needed information for my self healing, appreciate it

Your a genius at what you do. You basically encapsulate everything that's happening in my relationship and what's needed to fix it. Who needs to pay for therapy when theres the R Spot

That was awesome! I subscribed a while ago but I’m just now starting to do the work for personal growth. This was right on time especially the end!!!

SO TRUE! Each day is new opportunity to heal, forgive, learn, and love more.

Iyanla, thank you so much for this video. I have been having relationship challenges that I have had no idea how to deal with. The prayer at the end gave me a really good place to start. I like what you said about not being lazy. I want to muster up the strength and the wherewithall to try "one more gin." You showed me how to do that. Thank you.

This brought me to tears.

Iyanla, you are America's mother! Your love and wisdom is SO powerful, it has the power to cure us from all hurt! I truly take pride in listening to your advice and I hope to grow to be just like you! THANK YOU!

God bless you Iyanla, what a great episode. And the reminder to pray was needed

Thanks you for sharing your wisdom. Thank you for preparing this beautiful ministry. I'm in a dying relationship. I am in danger if becoming bitter if I don't put it in God's hands. God bless your ministry. ❤

This is so practical I just love it !

She hit on everything

It simply impossible not to love her!! Love you, IYANLA!! 😍😍🤗🤗🤗

Lady, You are a God sent!

Thank you!!! All I can say is thank you.

I love this advice. I will implement these techniques into my relationship starting today!! Thank you Ms. Vanzant

This is my first video I've watched. I'm grateful for you and your wisdom. I'm broken and I have broken relationships. With family and those I thought were my friends. I'm sad. I need help with letting people go and not ALWAYS blaming me for them walking away. I always think I've done something to make someone leave. Where do I begin and how to I begin to deal with me and this issue? Thank you

Thank God for you Iyanla...

Thank you 🙏🏽 Wow.. powerful 👌🏾

OMG! I needed this.

THIS IS VERY HELPFUL

I found you only yesterday and already I just adore you. Listening to you is like listening to a relative or friend who just always has the perfect words of wisdom. I'm here on KZfaq navigating my way through many help videos about relationships and you've quickly moved to the top of my list. I'm ending a 15 year live-in relationship that is dead and it's so difficult to do. We have no children or shared assets but it still feels like getting a divorce and I'm broken inside but I know that it's time to move on. His addictions, lack of time shared, and lack of intimacy (not sex but real moments of love shared) are killing me inside. We only get this ONE life to live and I have to go live mine now. I still have to tell him I'm leaving and I just don't know how to do it. I'm not angry, resentful or any of this. I just need to move on but the thought of hurting him is killing me inside. He can't handle discussing feelings EVER. We don't even argue because we can't discuss. If I try, he stonewalls me. I'm so very thankful for the years we shared and I do own my part in things as well. I also did pray so hard for guidance that not MY will but the will of God be done and it seems that the more I do this, the more clear it becomes that it's time for me to go. I have no idea of how this will play out but I'll be soaking up all of the wisdom from you (and my therapist) that I can. Thank you!

I love you teacher, mentor, and queen.

Thanks Iyanla, yes very helpful!

You words are amazing thank you

I look forward to your videos! You made Tuesday's so rewarding.

Wow...this resonated in my soul so deeply.. this message was God sent for me.

So true thank you so much.my friend and I spoke on this recently.

Miss Vazant thank you for this.This would have help my marriage 6 years ago but its helping my present right now.

Perfect.

Terrific. Terrific post.

My issue is discerning a broken relationship from a dysfunctional relationship. I’m willing to do the work for a healthy relationship not for continued dysfunction. Lord help me!!

So grateful for you ♥️

I was willing but my partner/child’s father isn’t but this video is fulfilling

Yessssssss this was everything

Thank you, I'm going to keep listening and do the work.Im not in a relationship but it's good advice next .Tuesday is for me and my family . See you next week.

You look amazing! Just beautiful inside and out!!

Ms.Iyanla is my SHERO!!!👐❤🦋❤🦋❤🦋❤💜

Love her

Thank you sis

Thank you for this.... It resonates perfectly. I am so grateful for your lessons. You are that favourite AUNT who is so wise and insightful. You hold my hand when I need it and whack me upside the head when I am being dumb. ((HUGS))

Yes indeed

Thank you Iyanla, I really feel appreciative of your openness and honesty during your informational Inspirational guidance to begin a better Shannin I come to listen and learn how to fix myself in a healthier way I love your womanliness I love how you turn things inside out to teach me to self correct which I LOVE the most you are a tremendous HELP to what I've learned from my family up bringing only through mom and dads actions taught me without WORDS except for when I did wrong there was words and only then or if I asked questions only then were their words or when there was arguments between mom and dad or fist fights were there words spoken I learned mostly by what I seen not by words spoken directly to me the family was action based very little communication there's a total of seven four girls and three boys I am the baby however I've been leaned on by all my siblings none of them ever sat me down to have a conversation based on life standards values stability security love relationships the right way or wrong way learned by watching everyone's good and bad behaviors by my mothers first she spoke only to address her anger and sometimes her happiness by singing she could sing like a bird my dad left when I was 7 yrs old I learned what love was silently expressed by mommy my father wasn't there at all and my brothers told me to note date their friends that's it coming across your KZfaq channel was no accident I AM GRATEFUL for any and all learnings teachings I feel privileged to know who you are ☺ I always come away from a episode with more knowledge into a better Shannin and your help in fixing Shannin's life 🤗 ♥

Speak Miss Iyanla!!! Happy New Year and many blessings to you and your family ❤🎉🤗

AMAZING 🙌🏾

All praises Iya, I am grateful for your worda of wisdom

Happy New Year..Thank you for all your wisdom and all you do to help your sisters and the world.. God Bless you.. LOVE..

Thank you Ms. Iyanla

I love your wisdom

Thank you

Say whaaaaaaaaaaaattt!!! THE BEST INSPIRING VIDEO EVER when it comes to wanting and loving to save the relationship we’re in🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Try meeting a narcissist 😢

Our marriage is in breakdown but it is not broken. I have faith that we can reconstruct our marriage. It will be a journey but I wouldn't want to go on this journey with anyone else but him. I recently confessed to him that I know I lack effective communication skills. I have to be open, because I have the tendency to shut down which is immature!

Food for the soul y'all!

Wow this is very enlightening. I wish me and my woman watched this video long time ago. Broken relationships are hard from both ends.

God bless thank you

Happy New Year Iyanla Vanzant!!!

Thank you very much for this lecture, as if you are talking to me directly thank you

Been cheated on many times and forgave. Tried to keep my family together. Now, I’m so broken and needs courage to let go and heal. May God help me to be whole again.

Loved listening to you mam. I am so grateful to god that i came across this video of yours. Such a Soul healer you are. Your words have changed my thinking. Cant thank you enough. Thank u so much .

Your amazing and love love love your videos

This is really great advice....sheesh

aaaaaah i love this