The reason your ex is reaching out to you. IT'S NOT WHAT YOU THINK!

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@hcadethc 2 жыл бұрын

Or they need to continue to use and abuse you.

@skylerblue77 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah. That.

@thehealedhomemaker12 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely!!!

@steveespi5700 Жыл бұрын

😄🤣😂😆

@alvinlambjr7344 Жыл бұрын

CHUUUCH

@dianaatkinsonpeters6227 Жыл бұрын

Yep!!

@kellymulligan2157 Жыл бұрын

Never give them a second chance to prove why they didn't deserve you the first time.

@RobBrightBeast Жыл бұрын

Ya as tristan tate says unless it was 2-3weeks and there was no guy involved if there was, ya never go back

@Mona-ln8rr Жыл бұрын

I agree

@jayman9168 Жыл бұрын

@Mafoom Beh true words straight from the simps mouth.

@Madden-Frangrance-Champ Жыл бұрын

My ex called me back because she missed me giving her the Big D, so I gave it too her. If your ex want it give it too them

@12Messenger 9 ай бұрын

I just dont want to be with her anymore but she keeps trying to have conversation and she hasn't realized that ive been replying with 1 word replies. Sometimes I dont respond for days and she continues to call. She was very immature and asked me "what if i cheated on you? What would you do?" After that I was never able to trust her again

@brendaleverick3655 Жыл бұрын

My exes can stay gone. They all took me for granted. I don't miss them.

@RodolfoPimenta1998 Жыл бұрын

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!

@tracysharp1361 Жыл бұрын

Especially if you keep going in and out of relationships with these fools cut them off once and for all!

@brianmmitchell2144 2 жыл бұрын

I already knew..., but it's always good to have the reminder. She just called after a year!

@Zias121 Жыл бұрын

bro come on, if she loved you dearly don't you ever waste her

@staceynichols7763 Жыл бұрын

She's a ex for a reason

@leehalloway8787 Жыл бұрын

A year? Damn. She probably found that the grass wasn't greener.

@SalehTranslates 8 ай бұрын

She tried to find someone better/with a higher status but she couldn’t. She wanted to continue to use you sexually and emotionally instead of staying single

@wingy200 8 ай бұрын

@@SalehTranslates Or she realized she screwed up and wants to commit. You never know.

@thenamesjakehenderson Жыл бұрын

If they do come back; leave them on delivered, go to the gym, and get your money. F..k 'em

@laurenazubeekay6396 Жыл бұрын

LMFAO

@juantacos3953 Жыл бұрын

Finna do it tbh cuz guess Who hit me up🤣

@Madden-Frangrance-Champ Жыл бұрын

My ex wanted the D so I have it too her.

@markuchiha7737 10 ай бұрын

Yeah. Show yo abs and how masculine you've become. Those are gonna be worth it.

@Brattynsassy 7 ай бұрын

💯

@scorpioempress63 Жыл бұрын

It’s because the relationship that they thought was a better option blew up in their face and now they foolishly think they are welcome to come back to you because you once loved them. Access DENIED here. I tell them to go back and make it work out with that better option. ✌🏾

@karenthompson3024 Жыл бұрын

I believe that, they still think you're stupid!!!!!! FACTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@johnreed9050 Жыл бұрын

They come back because they are out of options not because they want you

@wingy200 8 ай бұрын

Devil's advocate here. What if you're the best option, not the only one? Be someone's best option.

@Hilary945 Жыл бұрын

Don't let people circle the block.

@hellohi3778 Жыл бұрын

Everyone breaks up for different reasons. If they were terrible to you, let em go. If you were great to eachother and broke it off for whatever reason, consider it a second chance to make things better.

@no.0067 Жыл бұрын

10000% nice to see someone with common sense here

@tonitv9991 10 ай бұрын

we don’t want herpes

@sharonnumfor9329 9 ай бұрын

Wrong advice. What if they realize and have change. Many do change.

@wingy200 8 ай бұрын

@@sharonnumfor9329 It's definitely not impossible for an ex to change. Doesn't hurt to talk and see how it goes.

@wilted_rose510 6 ай бұрын

I agree @@sharonnumfor9329

@SeekingGod77 Жыл бұрын

My ex called me 2 days ago and said I want you back can I come home… I said what you say….. he said I can’t be with these women when I lay with them all I see is you. I said ok keep laying there until your eyes become uncrossed….. 😂

@halcyondays8945 Жыл бұрын

Perfect response! He was trying to trigger your jealousy but you popped that ego balloon. Love it!

@liyacool4602 Жыл бұрын

Lmaaao that’s the answer

@chato71384 Жыл бұрын

Lmfao

@nishanish6150 Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@leia3873 Жыл бұрын

😂wish i can be like this

@is1890 Жыл бұрын

Word of advice. Write down every messed up thing they did and exactly how you feel in the moment. When they reach out. Read what you wrote and protect yourself from more misery

@SalehTranslates 8 ай бұрын

Best comment Don’t let your emotions/lust control your decisions

@pitchbuckets2860 Жыл бұрын

This is subjective .. not every Ex was a cheater , traumatic or toxic. Some people break up because of indifferences on timelines and goals, living situations and emotional being. Your theory applies to toxic exes though.

@andrewiiliams8845 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks 👍🏿 I ain't goin back I forgive but no come back 💯

@seriously999 Жыл бұрын

She ended our 3 yr relationship and told me to focus on myself..I walked away..but now she keeps calling my phone and telling me about her financial problems 😅..

@anitahernandez8045 Жыл бұрын

They come back to you because no one else will put up with their fuckery , no one else will have them.

@yougotthissis7504 Жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this so bad. Was debating if I should call back after seeing a missed call from him 9 months post breakup.

@peacefaith560 Жыл бұрын

never go back to what broke you

@katinakourlas1102 Жыл бұрын

It's basically them saying you are stupid enough to think they can be different this time around.

@lisadavis3773 Жыл бұрын

They coming back because they throught the grass was greener on the other side, Every relationship they was in after us destroyed them. One thang about me you only have 1 time to do me and it's over with for them it's lights out. Never let nobody watch you starve and than wanna come back and fix your plate. A snake shed it's skin but it's always gonna be a snake. Everybody out here be careful of these Narcissist, They also see you healing and elevating higher so they trying to come back and finish their job to destroy everything you work hard for. Everyone be safe and have a bless day 🙏💞💯

@ExpertAssass1n Жыл бұрын

How do you know is theyre being genuinely sincere or manipulating again tho?

@lisadavis3773 Жыл бұрын

@@ExpertAssass1n How do I know that they never change! Because they still out doing the same thang, jumping and in our of relationships Because they can't find you and that person. If you took time to heal and work on yourself, That's when they try to come back and stalk you. Especially when they see you move on with someone else, That's when they start to love bomb you. And now they are mad because they can't control you, What I did was stay silent and to myself and healed. And put God first in my life, In I went no contact that's the silent killer for a real narcissist. Don't let nobody watch you starve than try to come back and fix your plate. Have a bless day🙏💞

@wingy200 8 ай бұрын

@@ExpertAssass1n Talk to them. It's really that easy.

@luisitoputirecors1499 Жыл бұрын

No everybody is bad people change some for good some for bad and if she was a a good ex then l will reserve her happy...

@tdenise3653 Жыл бұрын

That's so true my ex "tried" it a couple of weeks ago. But it didn't work😁

@untitiled1092 2 жыл бұрын

i usually don’t like these type of videos, but this one is pretty good! Good job!

@joshuataft5541 2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly

@limaontoby3300 Жыл бұрын

Exactly and how do you know if they came to see if you’re where they left you . When they contact you , and you don’t give them that ego or pride you respond causally , watch them not contact you again they run away because they got the message 😊

@myagrilifestyle Жыл бұрын

This isn’t for everyone, some exes need that break and realize how valuable their ex partner was and grow with you in bliss, your opinion is just one perspective and if anyone is watching this video, don’t use his words to judge your situation totally , people situations are different

@Jarr25395 Жыл бұрын

Love it

@Duck72432 Жыл бұрын

Yeah I’d never go back unless i realised I made a mistake

@tracigreen4786 Жыл бұрын

Nah,he’s pretty spot-on. They will just need you until the next best thing comes along. They should stay in the past-as THEY were the one that left in the first place. That’s just TOO BIG of a heart break to EVER have to experience a second time.

@TALIACORNELIUS Жыл бұрын

Yes thank you ❤

@pinkyogurt6359 11 ай бұрын

@tracigreen4786 My ex left because I didn't put in any effort into the relationship. Which is true btw. If she ever comes back it's not because she has more use for me. It's to give me the second chance to redeem myself.

@patriciaacosta6049 Жыл бұрын

I understood that for some ex's but at some same time some people really do change and grow up so it depends on that person

@anitahernandez8045 Жыл бұрын

They don't change, they find more creative ways to cheat on you, because it was easy the first time.

@wingy200 8 ай бұрын

My ex from high school and I just made plans to go on a date. We've 100% changed since then. That was 19 years ago.

@TK-ec5bv 5 ай бұрын

Anitahernandez, don't speak for all people. Have you met them all and asked each one? You have not, so don't make generalizations with having factual evidence.

@rickcanencia5762 Жыл бұрын

I disagree...strongly. Time passes & people realize what they had, how amazing you TRULY were. Unfortunately (for them) many will already have moved on after "DEALING & HEALING from the rejection & hurt. But that's just my perspective. I know that opinions vary.

@sandraotero5951 Жыл бұрын

I agree 👍 💯

@vaughn7130 Жыл бұрын

This is true Rick

@louiseerbslisbjerg7854 Жыл бұрын

Why would you wait for soneone who hurt you, abused you and just did'nt give a damn about your experience of the relationship? Be good or loose. No-one should waste their time wsiting for soneone who was'nt worth it.

@sweetmintkiss Жыл бұрын

Yes, a lot of times people actually do error analysis and they mature. Not everyone is bad, sometimes life throws very hard situations in between people, sometimes they have to leave you just to protect you and sort their lives out. It all depends on the situation. Everyone on the internet is a relationship expert when they really not! And still need to work on themselves, everyone these days is into toxic self-love and operating from damaged ego

@wanphenriggs6766 Жыл бұрын

🎉🎉🎉😊

@skylerblue77 2 жыл бұрын

This is true. The wife left and tried to come back thinking she had a husband on layaway. My divorce from her had been finalized for several years by the time she called me.

@andreamontgomery8019 Жыл бұрын

This goes for fake friends too👏🏽🙌🏽

@vlee7217 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes you just want to make amends. At least for me.

@PinkLove7749 Жыл бұрын

This just pisses me off lol 2 years later and he has the audacity to THINK I’m still where he left me to THINK he even has a tiny bit of hold on me lmao

@tonitv9991 10 ай бұрын

so true, people have an internal blueprint of values and how they treat you is how they see you. This rarely changes and they will drop you instantly because they never thought you had value.

@michelleblackwell3798 Жыл бұрын

That message was for me. Thank you brother! 🙏🏽

@sheallwhimsical3738 Жыл бұрын

Thanks✨ So true!!!! Just hoping that you're broken & unhealed willing to be a revolving door to their abuse. Especially during the Holidays.

@JustThatGuy714 Жыл бұрын

It’s because it didn’t work out with the guy she left you for.

@joydavis7748 Жыл бұрын

How can you be an ex when you was never in a relationship with them.

@CuratedVibes Жыл бұрын

Access is revoked permanently after a breakup. They can't call me, blocked on all social media and I live abroad and move to other countries once my visa expires so it's easy to leave them.

@roxanamalkawi7264 Жыл бұрын

Verrry true!! He feels good and then run out AGAIN!!

@meshoelove8233 Жыл бұрын

He is correct, when that happened to me I politely said pray for a wife. I am happy and married to a sailor. GOD IS good.

@aricakritz5587 2 жыл бұрын

Definitely agree!

@williamj.dovejr.8613 9 ай бұрын

When they see you flourishing, the strides you have made and they can't take credit for it.

@scarletred7352 Жыл бұрын

Exactly ignore the trash

@jamelmarshall4769 Жыл бұрын

A common “tactic” used by Narcissists

@louiseerbslisbjerg7854 Жыл бұрын

Never recycle your trash. They hace nothing to offer.

@hannahrobbins9365 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the much-needed advice!!

@hattiecolley54 Жыл бұрын

Only a Narcissist would Attempt something so Insane. Thank u!

@s.avelar.7979 Жыл бұрын

Strongly agree 👍...it actually happened to me this summer...10years later..I said, "sorry I don't eat leftovers 😜. " eating leftovers can make you sick. 😉. BLESSINGS.

@kedro2152 Жыл бұрын

Yea she did, gave her an absolute NO, once a cheat always a cheat.

@cordeliahill4600 Жыл бұрын

Real talk and nobody's delusional over here but them

@muktarfaisal935 Жыл бұрын

Ma man thanks for that advice…she left me and went on another relationship immediately after she broke up…fast forward to now (8months later) she texted me and called many times and wants to go back together and she regrets everything she did…i will meet her for the first time in 8 months. (I think i still have feelings but im not sure its like i can lover her again but if she decides to break me again i will not be able to take away those feelings away like that). I will probably tell her we are never getting back together again and move on since i dont trust her anymore like i used to…

@muktarfaisal935 Жыл бұрын

Sheesh that was long

@ginagotti8950 Жыл бұрын

CORRECT BRO ITS NOT A COMPLIMENT ITS ALL TRUTH 2 WHAT UR SAYIN . NOBODY WANTS THEM ANY LONGER SO THEY FEEL THEY BROKE UR HEART ❤️ AN U WILL B ON BENDIN KNEES WITH OPEN ARMS AN TKE THEM.BACK . THEY NEED 2 STAND ON THER OWN LET THEM GO CRY 2 MUMMUM 2 NURSE THER WOUNDS LET HER FIX IT R THEM . GR8 READ BRONTHX . ❤️ 2 U GOD BLESS U .

@TheNissandd Жыл бұрын

This is what i needed to hear

@Toon_Town_Babe Жыл бұрын

Well no. I reached out to my ex because I realized after a long while of being alone in solitude that things were better with him. I have grown and he has too, and maybe when we dated it wasn't the best time but that now it can be. However if he had rejected me or not it was fine, I asked him because I missed him it had nothing to do with power or abuse or whatever people are saying in the comments. Atleats from my side. Not everyone is evil.

@goddesslov3338 Жыл бұрын

💯 I love that ❤️

@funnyblooperreels7135 Жыл бұрын

Amen. He's right.

@georgieswlrd1213 Жыл бұрын

From my experience my first love came back 6 years after dumping me only to try the same shit again but it didn’t work this time I caught her quickly she only wanted me because the other dude dumped her sorry ass

@rosannamiranda4620 Жыл бұрын

They ready block and I move on 😊

@deynwill123 Жыл бұрын

This is the best prep of the game .. thanks for the heads uo

@Richard-hx6mi 5 ай бұрын

I assumed the latter the first time, but what you just explained proved to be true. She just reached out again, but this time it ain't happening.

@jenadavis6661 Жыл бұрын

I remember multiple years ago my ex literally went off on me I mean like cursing me out straight pissed bc I wouldn't have intercourse with him. He said I should have just gave him what he wanted bc we have kids together and he should always be able to come back. I've never been so flabbergasted in life. He learned that he doesn't get to hit it whenever the hell he wanted then go home to his girlfriend. He has to watch me move on without even a glance in his direction.

@denisepoisson2907 Жыл бұрын

They are calling because they are lonely and need an ego hit. Men need to have their egos stroked and they know who to call to get a quick fix of ego boost. All the girl needs to do is say how happy she is to see him and most girls will say something lovely and complementary to him. After that, he will hang up and feel better about himself.

@bighomiejerz1123 Жыл бұрын

What about females cause my ex keeps calling after she left me I don't answer but I also don't understand it

@SalehTranslates 8 ай бұрын

Stop your sexism, bigot!

@TK-ec5bv 5 ай бұрын

Denisepoisson obviously doesn't have much relationship experience, to leave such a simple minded comment. Not all men need their egos stroked.

@erikagomez9267 Жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this😢

@markuchiha7737 10 ай бұрын

Thank you. I want to become the best option to other ladies not to the who left me hanging. I want to feel valued.

@CarmellaBricker-ne7th 7 ай бұрын

Amen on that❤❤❤❤💯💯👍 You are not lying about that

@rustynuts4426 Жыл бұрын

It's called the sling back effect, women do it all the time. They feel like that can leave a book mark in your life to return to like nothing happened

@OneYellowFlower Жыл бұрын

Dam. That hurts. Lol.

@jnformisano6771 5 ай бұрын

I needed to hear it and I Thank You! ❤❤❤❤❤😂😂😂

@christopherzobel357 11 ай бұрын

This i wana here right now, thanks mate!!

@angeejenkins3091 Жыл бұрын

Thank you sir! I appreciate you telling the truth.

@masudzhasan5879 Жыл бұрын

Toxic. When a relation ends it ends for two people so it's not that plain and simple

@desispirituality7643 2 жыл бұрын

Agree man!!

@styyle310 Жыл бұрын

This a word for me

@Kyoserman7 8 ай бұрын

I find it really strange for my Ex texting me after I was recovering from our recent breakup just for her to not say anything back for weeks when I messaged her but I guess I shall let it be and not worry about it since she'll be missing something really unique in me that she may don't see now

@David7pm Жыл бұрын

Thanks man!

@adiravi3933 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes it may ends up in a marriage.It depends ,If he becomes strong enough to handle her emotions and forgive her it really ends up as a true love.If he is still weak he blames her and walks away from a threat which results in a failed relationship.Every long lasting love has a fight,seperation ,reunion ,understanding and trust in later stages.

@claudettejackson8261 Жыл бұрын

Excellent advice..so very true

@wyleecoyotee4252 Жыл бұрын

Did that with my ex-bf. He reached out to me was crushed when I wasn't interested. That was a great day.

@malteopeter8292 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this reminder

@glamourwithjabreon3164 Жыл бұрын

Learn that lesson, so happy I did. 🌸

@bettymarshall615 Жыл бұрын

YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!! MY EX MARRY ANOTHER WOMAN AFTER A FEW YEARS HE WANTED TO COME BACK TO ME BUT I REFUSE BECAUSE HOW HE LEFT ME.SNEAKY WELL PLAN.

@TheBest-dm9nn Жыл бұрын

That too and your ex or ex’s know they f up 🎯🎯🎯🎯

@QIKWIA Жыл бұрын

Not me..🤷🏿‍♀️ They can stay gone!

@arinavandam9028 Жыл бұрын

So True I had it last week!!!

@marcelvignon7536 Жыл бұрын

Man oh man... You got that right Bro...

@shannonarmstrong6364 Жыл бұрын

Right, I NEVER go back 🥰🙌🏿🙌🏿

@sharonnycum5414 Жыл бұрын

Omg this is so true. The same thing happened to me and I ask him do you honestly think I waited for you. I'm married and very happy. 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

@simplyflorals8737 11 ай бұрын

preach.

@toolabeans5338 Жыл бұрын

Thank u I needed to hear that

@shockiller465 Жыл бұрын

Too much hurt here. Growth takes time. Some times it takes loosing what you took for granted to realize just how good they made you as your partner. Never ring the bell. Try again if your lonely. “No one path will ever be perfect.”