The really messed up thing is when your looks are bad and you ask why your dating life suck, everyone will say it's your personality. Family, friends, therapists will just say it's your confidence or energy. No one will just be honest with you.

Being ugly is a double edged sword you will be lonely but you know who your real friends are

Being a male is hard af. Being an unattractive male, is like living life on ‘insane difficulty’.

High school treatment definitely reveals the truth

You know you're ugly when you're told "you have a good personality"

Attraction isn’t just about dating… Your career will suffer because you are less attractive. The “people don’t want to associate themselves with ugly people” applies to your boss as well. And if your boss has a negative attitude towards you because of your ugliness, you will not get that raise.

Bro I looked so ugly in school that girls didn’t even wanna sit beside me

The biggest discrimination in the world goes against ugly people. You can be black, white, Asian, Latino, if you are ugly they will discriminate against you in any country. For all the victim-hood people are trying to find to protest against, you will never see anybody complaining about ugly people being treated like crap. Even worst, in general, people assume is OK to mock, ridicule and discriminate against ugly men and women, even ugly kids get the raw end of the deal.

thats why i hate when people say looks dont matter

I was a late bloomer. Everything this guy says is true.

Why are some people so unempathetic? Do they not realize the amount of emotional damage they could do someone or are they just sociopathic? Really makes me realize that at the end of the day we are nothing more than biological creatures looking out for our own skin

I was a shut in. I would just go to work, grocery store and back home. Whenever I ate out it was to-go, I never ate dining in as I was alone. Then one day while on Netflix I watched a health related show named " fat sick and nearly dead", it changed my personal outlook. I lived across the street from a nice gym. One day I stepped inside just to take a look around and have been going back every since. I'm addicted to it now and it feels great. 😅 Nothing else seems to matter anymore. 😊❤💯

Being physically disabled made me experience the horn effect of my life during childhood

I’m 49 years old , never married, no children , never had a girlfriend nor the prospect of one … I’ve always been unattractive inside and out.

Being ugly is a hidden blessing in many ways. You can quietly disappear into the background and enjoy the peace and quiet. Also you don't age as much as attractive people.

It can be worse when you have a well meaning friend who tries to set you up with someone and invite you out and you can tell they are trying to get a female friend to take an interest in you yet the woman is standoffish and it just makes you fall even farther into humiliation because the friend had such hope it would work and even thats pressure on top of the normal pressure on a date

110% facts. You have no idea how much different people treat you when you experience a glow up. The attention, respect, dialogue, and overall social interaction jumped for me when I lost 90lbs from 260. People that say only the personality matters only ever say that to save face. Even the Beast from Beauty and the Beast was drawn charismatically.

When i was a kid i struggled with this shit heavily, until i understood people around my age are just shallow so it wasnt me. Now im older and look better i just notice the slightests things like people smiling gets in my head. Its crazy that how you get treated in your younger years has a huge effect on how you grow.

From elementary to HS i was an ugly duckling . But one day i decided to do something about it . Got in shape removed my facial hair which gave me a youth full look Cut my long hair fix my thick eyebrows and everything change so much that i was constantly getting caught up in drama with women. So i just decided to stop dating but i met a woman one day fell in love and got married

The worst part is that no one is honest with you. I think I was overall quite blessed genetically, being 6'2 tall, having a high IQ, good sense of humour and robust immune system. However, no matter how much I compensate for my ugliness with making others laugh and being a good man, I am friend zoned, ridiculed behind my back, rarely given the benefit of the doubt, and even repellent to children ffs. It is very hard not to be cynical and bitter about such a fate. It feels like a curse.

I am a sub 5. I was so cripplingly lonely. I married another sub 5. I've lost 60 pounds and want to get fit because I don't want our son to suffer the hell I did. I want his life to better.

I’ve been attractive all my life but I have completely felt the pains of total rejection before because I grew up super sheltered and homeschooled etc and had no clue how to talk to girls. So I also became friends with all the less popular guys who were often less attractive. Always felt more at home with them

What I have experinced in my late child/early teen years (10-11yr) is that my friends were different with me when we were in a group. For example if me and my friend were doing something together and then another boy showed up on the scene, my friend would just act different and make jokes out of me etc., so it really just signalled that they were trying to prove to that other kid that they are not 'really' my friend at all, as if being seen with me was a shame. But they were always nice to me when we were alone. And this happened to all of my friends, no exceptions. That's when I decided that I don't need them because of this. I could say I had lots of friends in my child years, but I lost them all when I became a teen, and I didn't really have friends ever since. I am 31 now.

Thank you for this vid. Most good looking guys never acknowledge the advantage their looks give them, and tend to give themselves too much credit for their personalities, confidence etc. Your perspective as someone who was unattractive, but no longer fits that description, is quite unique.

Congrats on not giving up, rather putting in work and levelling up.

I like how people completely forget that unattractive women exist too. It’s weird how unattractive men boo hoo but then they don’t want anything to do with unattractive women.

Why is Danny DeVito on the thumbnail/video? He's peak human physicality!

Those comments from high school really stick with you. I've never forgotten those moments even as an adult.

We can't change our genetics but we can always improve our situation. Glad you decided to not give up and cleaned yourself up!

Why put 3 old men in the thumbnail. As if older guys don't naturally lose their looks

I know there's a lot of black pill people here, but the moral of this story isn't that being attractive = better life. Once you become conventionally attractive those same stuck up women become like moths to a flame, and the result is that you're surrounded by the most toxic people all of the time. My friend has this issue, instead of bullies he's literally being harrassed by these hypergamous women, who demand his attention even though they have boyfriends. You know who else wants to be around attractive guys "mentally ill" guys and women. And when you say "No", or you want to spend time with your actual friends, then suddenly they yell and blame you for their problems, and threaten self harm, or even suicide if you don't give them enough attention. Yes, being lonely sucks, but the truth is there has never been a better time in life to be lonely. When people leave you the f--- alone, you can do whatever you want. But when you're attractive, it's like you don't even own your own body anymore, and this sustained harrassment has a negative impact on your mental health.

Real beauty is on the inside, money can’t buy happiness and size doesn’t matter. The three biggest lies in modern society

I work in sales and 100% sex sells.

I’m not ugly but I have autism so cannot hold conversation with women or strangers. But listening to many of your videos I feel so bad for you and all other men in this situation

I'm Black, intelligent, tall, flatchested, and female. A boob job and a BBL would have allowed me to finish my sentences.

Take a shot every time this guy says "overweight and balding " R.I.P 😅

You can override bad looks through exuberance. I have an ugly friend who believes hes sexy and is so exuberant women believe in it. Ive seen better looking, jealous men not "get it". The girls that say they like personality are basically like "Ya. We tried to tell you". Being unattractive and analyzing what makes you unattractive, is unattractive. FUCK IT! KEEP IT PUSHIN

I've been rejected my whole life for my looks from family, women and people. I've given up going outside the door. No hope. Life is for the better looking.

So I was super shy in high school and scrawny. Never got a gf, never once got laid. I actually just started focusing on my health more at 23 and I went back to my ten year highschool reunion last year. I was the best looking man there by a large margin. All of the former jocks were either bloated alcoholics or just plain morbidly obese. Pretty much all of their wives/gfs were the same girl that they broke up with and got back together with four times in high school. I had three women that night tell me they couldn’t believe I was single and how much I changed. After a few drinks I ended up sleeping with one of them that night. My point is that all of the people that bullied me in high school just ended up settling with the girls that got tossed around town like hackysacks. Going to the same bar every night, talking to the same people about the same things and never moving forward. Get out and work on your health. It’s pretty much the only thing that matters.

I work in STEM. It still helps to be attractive, people pay attention to your presentations and ideas more and trust you more with their own.

Unattractive here. There is an advantage to it: you learn how things really are. You are not bound by 'gratitude' and other shit towards mankind. It means you can evict elderlies out of their home when they owe you money. It means you don't need to give up your seat for the weak. "Well you're weak now, but 30 years ago you were hot and you were not there for me, why should I be there for you now". It's liberating.

I’ve always been really thin, and why household I grew in really destroyed any confidence I had with women. Women were interested in me until I opened my mouth and they realized how non-confident I was. I married the first woman who gave me the time of day at age 24 which was a mistake. Confidence builds slow. Keep working at it and don’t sell yourself short.

Some of the comments I'm reading are true. Im an ugly guy and I know it. People I have pursued to start a relationship with say you are a nice guy , but what they are really saying is you are unattractive. At least I don't get unwanted attention. I prefer being ugly now because I'm not interested any more in connecting with someone. I'm not lonely now. I do what I want . And I like that. The pressure is off.

How many times will you say "when I was overweight and balding" 3000? 😂

You look like a totally different person since your looks transformation. Good for you bro. Btw its easier to be funny if you are goofy looking. Good looking comedians are not that funny.

Idk guys… I think this dude used to be overweight and balding

I was super fat in college and girls didn’t want to date me. It was hella sad. When I lost massive weight, dressed well, made 6 figures, bought 3 cars and a nice home, it was easy getting dates and banging chicks. Life is good now….one can always work on improving his looks and status if the will is there. Cheers gentlemen!

A lot of what you're describing and what you've experienced is "looks privilege". Interestingly enough, people say it doesn't exist....but it's VERY real. Like you said, even down to your own family smh lol This is why I advise "looksmaxxing" even if you lack other intangibles because some of the worst men are never alone, because their looks don't allow it lol

You’ve nailed it on the head!! I was a late bloomer.. had a major glow up .. and now aging into my 40s and lost the halo effect.. that dim checked out look in people’s eyes when I talk to people can be soul crushing..

Looks, btw, are objective and not so much subjective.

I was attractive throughout my 20s and 30s and I remember just always being able to attract positive attention from people. I could just walk up to random females and act silly and a fun time would ensue. Now if I try that, they'll call me a creep. Women will let an attractive guy they just met take them into an unfamiliar and isolated location but they'll call an unattractive guy a creep for saying hi to them.

How many times can he say ‘overweight and balding’ in one video?!? Pointless video

The stock video footage used in this is ridiculously hilarious and hypnotizing

I do want to say to everyone struggling. Im a taller guy, was chubby as a kid im just thick now with a bit of a belly as an adult. Ive had women who have no business wanting me make passes at me. And ive had women who have no business rejecting me reject me...its subjective be cool , and honestly make friends with women they might have a good friend for you you never know. Dont give up tho

Being fat/overweight can be associated with lack of control. Poor skin conditions can be associated with poor hygiene. Weak hair/balding can be associated with bad genes, same goes with height.

The same rejection I feel for being a foreigner. Nobody listen to what I say and sometimes they ignore what I say and correct me. It’s really horrible.

As a 6,4" balding guy i wouldn't say balding is the worst thing ever, gym helps, style helps, cologne helps.

He’s speaking facts in this video. I have been bald since I was in my early 30’s. Lol. That’s never been a problem for me in the past though because I was in shape. At some point I let myself go and got fat from partying too much and having a crap diet. I noticed getting dates was a lot harder. Got back into shape AGAIN and my dating life is smooth sailing. It’s a sad reality but looks definitely matter.

I'm commenting for the algorithm. You're speaking the truth that the normies don't want to hear.

Even if you have many features that aren't seen as desirable, it doesn't mean there is NO hope. If you're balding, its better to just cut it all off. Then you can at least have that bald/buff aesthetic going on after you hit the gym. Especially training your neck helps a lot, it makes your jaw more pronounced and makes you seem bigger overall. You can still have a good career and make good money which helps a lot. You can have a healthier lifestyle to have more energy and have a more positive attitude. But there are some things that are closer to being out of your control. Like facial deformities, severe acne, messed up teeth. Especially if you come from a poor family that can't afford things like braces when you are young to fix your teeth. For these things it is better to just ignore them. There is no point in worrying about what you can't change. Best of luck in your life :)

It’s human nature. I’m annoyed by people who say “I don’t care about looks!”. Yes you do, even if it’s subconsciously. Stop lying to yourself.

Im short, 4'10 and people will tell me that i just suck at dating wnd go on to tell me how their friend is short too .insert a height taller than 5'5. And they found someone. If they can find someone than i can too and height isnt a factor. Women will say im perfect but refuse to date me bc of my height...they literally say it. Yet ppl will swear up and down its not my height 😂...im like dude u arent me...it also doesn't help that i look very young, im 30 but can fit in with middle schoolers(not exaggerating). My face isnt ugly i am good looking but i only appeal to lil girls...ive had school age girls try to talk to me. It just sucks to always hear im perfect but something i cant change is the only thing stopping me from finding love. So ive stopped trying tbh...havent gotten a hair cut in a couple of months...dont even clean up my facial hair...pretty much wear the same thing all the time...i barely smile anymore(and that is one of the things im known for). It even stops me from making friends. The girlfriends and friends i do get usually just fk me over and use me. I have it all but love...and the loneliness is crippling

I have never, ever heard more honesty on a sensitive topice as expressed by you in this video. As an unattractive woman I can very much relate to what you said. It is, by the way, the same for women....

Confidence and energy are vitally important and unfortunately, more difficult to build up as a ‘physically’ unattractive person. The more you develop your personality, the less your looks will matter - especially in the long term. Looks are a temporary benefit and usually don’t last.

attractiveness of men doesn;t come with look or even money you can be sporty, handsome and rich, but if you have charisma of little worm, darting eyes and your body language says that you're insecure - it ruins it all.

I am not overweight. I am healthy and eat healthy food. Still i am short, balding and ugly at 16. I guess i did horrible things in my past lives to live a life like this.

The black pill always wins fellas. Once you fully understand it, you will be a master of keeping your distance from folks and also your ability to read body language and I’ll be elevated to heights you’ll never realized

As a short man, i never saw being short as something that makes you unnatractive. It may not help but i think im a mega cutie and my personal experience with girls and being short seems to show that there can still be a lot going on. Of course my life doesn't mean there aren't people who struggle with height as something that doesn't help but being 4'11 and still getting decent matches and talking to girls in person and getting compliments and flirting. I never had an issue talking with girls. Idk

Devito has been happily married forever. How unattractive can he be? Weinstein allegedly had to force women to be with him despite his wealth and influence. It wasnt his looks but his personality that was a problem. I don’t even know the 3d guy but we are told black is beautiful. Just not enough to keep a youtuber from calling him ugly.

I mean this in the most humble way possible. I am considered a handsome guy, I’m half Puerto Rican and half Jamaican, very fit and OCD helps with maintaining a clean appearance. With all that said, I hate the attention I get. Women are constantly flirting and trying to be seen by me. I can be standing in a checkout line and women linger around or ask rhetorical questions, a bunch of flicking hair, bending over etc! Sounds like every man’s dream but I’m being honest, it gets annoying and you want a turn off button. Women are shallow and not loyal. It’s crazy because some men envy me and I tend to envy them. (Regular guys)

In high school the class did an exercise. We would talk to another student and say what we like/envy about them. The kid I talked to wished he was as tall as I am because women like tall men. I said it hadn’t helped me but he was the warm friendly guy. In the years after I did have women that were attracted to me until they got to know me. They may want to talk to the tall decent looking guy but lack of charisma won’t let the relationship go anywhere. There is more to attraction than just looks.

...this was a brilliant video mate. it's terrible how true all these things are... ...

You can get bullied for being handsome by jealous guys.

It's a vicious cycle. If you're fat/unattractive you'll develop insecurities. You won't be able to make friends because you're insecure. You'll resort to eating/avoiding people people because they'll make fun of your insecurities. And you'll grow fatter. Something similar happened to me in high-school. I'd say my main flaws were being fat and shy. I got bullied because of it, but noone cared. This made me isolate myself from others. Because of it, I now struggle to socialize in public. If I had friends, I would have been more sociable, perhaps even lost weight and gotten a girlfriend. But noone wants to be a friend with a fat shy guy. Also, I can confirm people will treat you like you're less intelligent based on your looks. Whenever I solved a problem in class, people would act surprised or pretend the answer was obvious. They would also be shocked when they found out I can speak multiple languages and I love swimming. It's weird, but they expect you to be less capable because you're ugly. I've now graduated from college and lost my hair at the same time. I'm too scared to try any procedures. This hit me hard. But now I care less what people think of me. I want to grow muscles and practice martial arts. I want to become rich and meet a beautiful and loving woman. I want to show the middle finger to all the douchbags and their girlfriends who treated me like trash. Or at least die trying. Because DAMN IT I REFUSE to live my whole life as a loser.

Thanks for making this video dude! ✌️

It's one thing when your hitting on a women but if women are just being rude like you are hitting on them but your not is just them being narcissistic

Good that you could looksmaxx bro

I dont believe i was ever attractive honestly. I dont know if im ugly or not, but personally i just dont care about it. Frankly, for all the crap in my life, i know I'm not living out a fake life, surrounded with the internet, plastic surgery and a million bot accounts, all telling me "yasss queen slayyyyyy". Lots of people were blessed with good genetics, and a good supportive honest family. Cant say the same, but i xan only be grateful im not living worse than other people do. Rule of life, no matter what top shXt you think you are, theres always going to be someone who has it better or worse than you. If im ugly, thats fine, i think we're all ugly in our own ways, and true, nobody's inclined to love me or be attracted to me, you cant force love. But having said that, i cant stand the patronising attitudes some people have, talking down to you like you need their pity.

Good video, sparks discussion.

These comments are kinda goin through a vicious cycle. Some of yall clicked this video to reaffirm that you are ugly or something like that. Hop off it fellas this is depressing. I know people hate the confidence meme, but its true.

You could be bald and attractive. Ive seen many hot women with bald dudes.

We shouldnt judge by looks but people should do their best to take care of themselevs and be the best version of you

Just having a couple friends is enough to keep life amusing. Even if it’s gamer friends that will never see us

the balding isn’t nearly as much of a problem as the other factors you listed, no one cares if you’re already tall and handsome and skinny

Idk as a kid i was pretty scrawny and tall usually got mixed reactions to how i looked I had a lot of facial features that seemed pretty weird when youre young like a protruding brow and a big head for my skinny body Basically grew into my body and face and now those facial features seem to be more attractive as you age So for younger people maybe just hold out until youre older focus on yourself instead of what others think cause you're really only gonna get yourself into those negatives thought processes if you just keep focusing on that shit

I wasn’t very attractive either but some girls actually seemed a to like me idk why.

This just makes you want to become super attractive to rule everything. It's true, the times I felt most attractive, I was funnier, more charming, more successful. In my 40s I have learned it is so important to maintain your looks it's crazy. I have a receding hairline and seriously considering getting a hair transplant just to see what the difference in attitude would be.

Whoa - don’t bring him around - that hurt

Lost and prison break are awesome shows to binge watch

And they’ll say men are shallow.

I can relate. Folks say that it's what on the inside that matters, but that hasn't been my experience. I was an unattractive woman, I guess. I had TERRIBLE acne, missing, rotten, and misaligned teeth and other weird skin issues. Guys would either ignore me or didn't want to be seen talking with me. Then, I went to college, had ALOT of dental work and saw a dermatologist. But, sometimes, I still feel the same way as I did back then.

I was attractive from 20 to 30 years old and I’m 6’1 and still couldn’t get a date no women wanted to be with me I was put in the friends zone I think it was because of my personality I was friendly and kind maybe if I was a asshole and jerk they would have accepted me. But it’s not in my nature to be a asshole and jerk just to get a woman so I gave up after 10 years of failure. And I was in 2 states and 5 cities in 10 years. And no women in all those places showed any interest. what do you do if being tall , handsome and friendly is not enough for these women?

I dont know if im attractive or not , but women i approach they first act like they're interested , then when i ask them out they say yes and when we go to dates thats when I get the rejections , and the women i get approached by are usually unattractive or women i cant take seriously at all. I'm either really dumb or the women i've went out with probably didnt know what they wanted and at this point i've given up trying.

Im almost 31 and never had a relationship basically never had any friends either. When i worked at a deli women would walk up to where i was working just to ignore me when i tried to serve them that always baffled me though because it would always be a full staff there so why not just get one of the other workers attention if a customer walks up to me i had to greet them or ask if they needed help i hated working with customers because women would do that all the time like wtf im only talking to you because you literally walked up to me. Eventually i moved to the kitchen in the back of the house to avoid all that. I dont even im ugly im just a frail ass dude 115 pounds my metabolism is insane smh

Going through pretty much all my teenage years being “unattractive” it has the power to put you in a very standoff ish shell. It’s like you’re taught that no one will like you unless you’re that archetype that people prefer to see. Being called ugly up until turning 25 is pretty annoying and it made me less confident in myself. It’s definitely a complex

Great video, and well done on your looksmaxxing journey and ascending. Speaking as very ugly looking man myself, this video certainly strikes a chord with me, I’m 55, never married, never had a girlfriend, I did try to approach vvomen but got instantly rejected (due to my ugly looks and ethnicity). I did try to looksmax but vvomen still found me repulsive. As for bedroom fun, I just pay mature age ladies of the night.

You can work on your looks. And honestly alot of mens personalities in this forum do suck. Overly negative and critical of others. "This sucks. This person sucks. This place sucks. This movie sucks" you know you all say that. I know. I've been friends with guys like that. Hence the word 'been'

im an attractive male - well a solid 7/10 - never had a problem through my early 20s gettjng girls. However now im 34 with no career, fading looks and not many options. I would trade in looks for a good career and the confidence and dignity that brings any day. When you get older, looks become way less important.

I meen I'm not gunna lie I know some guys that would typically be seen as ugly but get alot of girls, if you carry yourself with confidence and can be approachable and make a girl laugh you can get around bad looks. What you can't get around though is when your looks start to effect your confidence with dating and girls in general.. obviously this isn't as true with online dating as that is mainly judged on looks and with not meeting them and winning them over that way

Norwud 3, hairtransplant in a 5 days.. im exited😮😅