I am married to my second husband for 27 years, and we have a blended family. I watched these videos consistently and they helped our marriage on so many levels. Thank you.

I was married by my father in-law. He made us go to your marriage work shop. Been happily married will be 20yrs this Nov. God bless💯🙏

I've been married for 5 months and your sermons are helping me become a good wife. I got married at 40 and because I've been single for so long, I entered marriage with the mentality of me, myself and I even though we were now one. I always wanted him to say sorry. I always acted like I was right and he was wrong. And 3 months in the marriage I started asking God if I made a mistake. I started thinking I'd heard wrong from God. But since I started listening to you, I realised : 1. I too make mistakes. Hence, I learned to say sorry too. 2. I had so much pride. 3. I too play a part when we disagree on something I'm not yet there but I'm slowly transforming. I've realized marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.

Been married 25yrs, we are doomed according to these 10. I know it’s by MY convictions and relationship with God that has kept us together.

This made me decide to try a little longer before making any final decision on my marriage . To know what God says truly made a difference in my thinking. Thank You 🙏❤

I'm married to a narcissist. I feel like my life is being drained from me. I don't know what to do at this point. I feel like I've tried everything.

Feeling very discouraged after watching this profound video. I have only been married for 3 months. I don't know what I am going to do. I love my husband so much but I don't know how we are going to make it. Help us Lord!!! Thank you Pastor Evans. I am extremely blessed from your videos. They help me so much and I don't feel so alone.

Pray for my wife and I. She has filled for divorce. I feel like it's mostly my fault. I am dealing with emotional issues and depression. She feels we've done all we could. We are separated. Please just pray for healing in our lives and that God may one day restore our Marriage

Marriage is a great thing; commitment is a heart issue, not a "ring" issue.

Man l can't stop watching Pastor Jimmy. You are filled with Godly wisdom. May the good Lord continue to bless you and your family. We cover you with the blood of Jesus Christ who is able to do Exceedingly Abundantly above all that we ask think or Imagine

I came from a broken home. I lived with my spouse for 3 years before we were married. We will celebrate 37 years of marriage this month. Cannot just throw out generalities for everyone

we educate READING, WRITING, ARITHMETIC but the most important lesson on life is RELATIONSHIPS! and Knowing God & Our purpose

pray for me and my wife we are seperated and she is aiming twards a devorce.she is surrounded by people who don't give good advice and are not supporting her in the right ways,pray that God can reach out to her

Thank you, so much Jimmy! I really appreciate your advice and words! I really needed to hear this today!

Marriage is a life long commitment, you don't wake up in the morning and decide to marry someone. There are things that made you chose her maybe because you're both in love with each other. But when things didn't go well in your marriage, let your happy and sad memories together make you remind that you're love is worth fighting for.

Pastor Jimmy; what if a couple get married with no love in the first place, how they will find something that never existed? Many things can force people to get married and we all know that.. For me I thank God every day that I left a bad marriage which took me away from God.. Abuse and unfaithfulness were what my ex has in his life plus the lies and selfishness.. I never regret but instead every time I remember I praise God that I divorced him.

Thank you Pastor Jimmy God bless you always!!!!!!

What words? My ex husband never spoke to me..other than about the weather or the kids..l guess I was just there to do the cooking and cleaning..Nanny...l was so lonely

I have half of these risk factors, mostly due to family upbringing. Working hard to change that. Thank you :)

Great advice! And I like the way he gives a speech so much!

looking forward to the simulcast tonight at my church and looking to learn a lot so please bring it..

As a Muslim. My values amd beliefs are almost 100% matching here

God bless your soul! I actually took notes on this video thank you so much!

Great message!!

Wonderful, Wonderful. These teachings means a whole lot to me.

Never seen your channel be4 but I have the utmost respect for you and Iam fan .God bless you and your ministry. Thanks a million

Thanks pr Jimmy. I have learned Alot from you teaching

I have learn so much from you my brother and sister....that there is hope for my marriage...

Thank you for this !

Amazing messages , tnx 💕💕💕💖💕💕💕💕👑

Marriage after adultery is one of the most difficult to repair. I’m on the verge of divorce. He has never taken FULL accountability for his infidelity he blame shifts which is a narcissistic behavior. Whenever we talk about what took place he put me in the mix and shift the blame over to me. I’m tired of the mental abuse that constantly takes place in this marriage. I should’ve left along time ago when I found out what he did. But I decided to stay and it’s been three years of pure hell on earth with no peace. Jesus says above all seek peace and to run from fornication. I think it’s time that I go.

Profound! Every couple should learn these truths before marriage.

God bless u brother. It was a wonderful message..yes gods word is stable

don´t know how many times I watched his videos- still love doing so god bless!

very powerful

*Lack of marriage preparation* *Coming from a broken home or having been divorced* *Cohabiting before the marriage* *Weak spiritual fundation* *Poor relationship support. Corinthians 15* *The power of death and life starts in your mouth. Proverb 18* *Chronic criticism and anger* Can complain but don’t criticize * *Blame transfer* /defensiveness* - Peter 1-3 If you don’t allow the right to complain it means that you think it is all the spouse’s problem. *Non-committed shoppers attitude* *Non scripture secularized view of marriage*

thanks your are a great counselor 😇🤗🕊🕊🕊

Thank you for sharing your message Pastor!!!🔩

Summary: "10 Warning Signs of Divorce": (The more of these warning signs that are present in your marriage, the more at-risk you are.) If he says he loves you but wants to live together instead of getting married, tell him, "Let me tell you something. I'm too valuable. I'm not willing to give myself to ANY man who's not willing to pay the price. And the price is...'You put a ring right there!' (on your 'I'm married' ring finger)." [70% of cohabitation-before-marriage marriages end in divorce.] 1. Lack of pre-marriage preparation (/counseling). Get training. Marriage requires understanding. (Otherwise, you have unrealistic expectations about marriage. Understand the inherent differences in your spouse. Can't change the inherent nature of your spouse.) 2. Coming from a broken home (or having been divorced). [Otherwise, a person will feel more anxiety towards conflict in marriage and react due to fear. Average couples talk, argue, fight. Every time you divorce, your chances of divorce go up.] 3. Cohabiting before marriage. [40%-50% chance of divorce normally; 70% chance of divorce if the couple cohabits before marriage. More abuse. More infidelity. Much greater failure of the relationship. Women live together before marriage, because they want to take the relationship to the next step: marriage. Men cohabit because they get all the benefits of marriage without the commitment.] 4. Weak spiritual foundation. Only God can meet our deepest needs. Our deepest needs are acceptance, identity, security and purpose. All of us have the same "deepest needs". Your spouse can't meet those needs. Only God can. [Otherwise, we transfer the expectation to those closest around us--especially to our spouse.] 5. Poor relational support. We need good examples of those who believe in marriage and who encourage us to work things out. If we have friends who are divorcing or who are committing adultery or who are having marital issues, those aren't the people we should take counsel from when our own marriage is in trouble. The people with whom you associate will corrupt your habits if they have poor morals. Take counsel from those who are having success in their marriages, who have a low opinion of divorce, who encourage you to stay together; and who don't have their own bone to pick with their own spouse (or parent). Don't hate them, but keep them at a distance. Adultery and divorce run in groups (of friends; of family). Make friendships with people who have good value systems. oneself 7. Chronic anger and unresolved conflict: contempt. Be angry (okay), but do not sin (= do not hurt the other). God gets angry. Don't go to bed on anger: get more and more humble the more tired you get at night...to "just be able to sleep". ;-D Have an honest relationship; talk about your feelings. 8. Blame transfer: defensiveness. Not allowing your spouse to complain (believing it's all the other person's fault). Don't transfer the blame. (Adam and Eve did this; original sin.) Rarely is one person all the problem. "What are YOU going to do about YOUR 15%?" Maybe they'll catch on (when you confess your wrongs). God was "all in the right" and STILL came down and redeemed us of our wrongs. Be like Christ. 9. A non-committed, shoppers mentality towards your spouse and marriage: not yet decided to "stop shopping". The shoppers mentality is, "You'd better stay in shape. You'd better watch your attitude. You'd better do the right thing. Otherwise, if a better model comes around, I'm trading you in!" A covenant commitment to marriage says, "You're my final choice. And it will be death that separates us. Not murder (LOL). Death. You're my final choice. It doesn't matter what you/we go through: age, sickness, problems, difficulties. I ended my selection process when I chose you." Man: "I have made a decision that YOU (wife) ARE the MOST beautiful woman in the world. Period! And that will be true when you're 100 years old. You're the choice that I've made." [If there's abuse, abandonment, adultery, then yes...these MUST be addressed, and are three reasons when divorce is justified! But don't USE adultery AS an excuse. Otherwise, the responsibility still lies in the unfaithful spouse's "court".] 10. A non-scriptural, secularized view of marriage and divorce. God made man male and female. Man shall leave his father and mother. (LOL: my little interjection: IF the parents are together still. If the parents are NOT together, then the mother (if abandoned by her husband) is a "widow"; and...James 1:"27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world." The twain (husband and wife) shall be one flesh; no longer two. Mark 10:9 "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." Moses permitted divorce due to the hardness of the Israelites' hearts; but from the beginning, it was not so. Marriage is sacred. Marriage is not a piece of paper. It is an act of the Spirit of God. What God has joined, you leave alone. There's no such thing as a clean divorce: you take part of that person with you. Research shows that even 10 (+?) years after a divorce, most ex-spouses are still angry/still have feelings of love. Why? --because they became "one" through God.

Thank you!

God bless you immensely. I've been greatly blessed by your ministry.

You have to have a healthy sense of self esteem on your own first as well.

If a man does not treat his wife right, does not communicate, ignores, and does not value her- I don't want to hear him talk about Christianity. When a husband rejects his wife, he is rejecting God. I am praying! ❤️🙏🏻

Thank you so much. This is what I needed!

I appreciated the teaching! If God provide the need i would love to get the book.

Thanks

I really needed this

worth watching

In my case, even her parents didn't encourage her to seek help and solve things, they said to her "we will support you no matter what", sad. While we were separated and things were bad, her mother instead of not adding to the fire, she kept making problems and made things worst. May God forgive them for what they did to our family. 16 years and 3 kids.

I really love Jimmy Evans and Karen Evans they expired me too didn't have more Godly marriage in our marriage but my sister-in-law got divorced and I wish I could help them to get through it especially with my nieces are involved and my father wasn't there for me and now their father is was there for them I don't wath my pass to be there furniture pray for them

Powerful information. God is holy.

You definitely provided the right information 🙏🏽

he only married me because his mother says so.. he's a Mama's boy and it's like he and his Mama are the husband and wife....

I don’t understand adultery is excused but emotional and physical abused is not . Why???

How about failure of the husband to exert spiritual leadership and to fulfill the physical needs of his wife.

Rejection and abandonment are awful emotional strongholds in ministry. Seeking help and sound consulting in silence.

Not everyone is meant for marriage; some people have the gift of singleness.

I love jimmy evans.

11:41 What do you do with a person who hates praise, encouragement or compliments?

Number 5 is so true

My 29 year marriage is ending because my husband says he no longer loves me or his three boys . Our heart is broken he also says he no longer believes in god . Now I find out another woman is involved . He has now left and we don’t know where he is . I believe everything u said in the video but at this point there is no where else to go . Hopeless and heartbroken .

💯no point in staying in a marriage which is suffocating and killing. Relationship means happiness

Thank you so much.. divorce is necessary when the spouse is cheating and torture physically and mentally the other..Bible say that its be better to be alone than a fightinģ spouse.. house should be built with love and trust between two persons . When it is been violating then divorce is a peaceful way for living.

Thank you for the no nonsense, no bull truth! I went through this with a guy after losing my dad. He said he loved me, but would never fully commit and would not put himself under biblical leadership. We were intimate, But I am ever so thankful that I did not have sex with him. Praise Jesus for the strength to refuse!! Thank you for saying, this is a nut shell...if he will not put a ring on your finger and is not willing to walk you down that aisle...you are valuable...if he is not going to do it right and do it God's way, he is not worth the pain and the tears. Let him reject because there will be someone better...no, I am no rushing into another relationship, but when I heal from this one, I'll be ready for the next one...the RIGHT ONE

Amen

Pray for my husband and me. This is his second marriage and he behaved the same way with his first wife-cold, distant, controlling, rigid and had years of separation. He was a Christian deacon, now he rejects God and lives by his own rules. He is very difficult to be around because he's argumentative, negative, and feels he's right and everyone's wrong.

Hello me and my husband have been together married 7 and a half years we have been going there a lot and need some guidance is there DVDs I can buy or books my husband loves to ready any advice / guidance will be much appreciated god bless

Blessings, love and prayers from Pakistan

God bless you pastor more grace oo

What is considered abuse? Is lying abuse? I'm talking about lies that are big lies that affect the family finances, or being deceptive and going behind your spouse's back and making decisions with their parent and excluding their spouse? I mean when is enough enough?

Marriage and divorce put a ring so I get everything u have lol

Hi pastor Jimmy. Since I got married my husabnd has spoken mean to me and has been harsh n very defensive and he speaks to me with contempt n hostility. He critisizes me for everything I do. He can't seem to be nice or kind and I jist feel I can't take it anymore from him. What is the matter with him. He goes church he hears the word of God and prays yet he still speaks to me how he does n treats me bad when he pleases. What is the matter with him. He calls me pathetic when I feel insecure as to how he is with me. He makes me feel insecure in how he keeps me away from his fsmiky he don't include me and wanders why I feel I can't trust him. He seems all for himself. Nothing I do is enough for him. I can't deal with how he is to me.

1 Corinthians 15-17 my wife says that this is god telling her that divorce is ok I have prayed for her and we have 3 kids I don't want to get a divorce but she does just pray for me because it hurts to know someone that u want to love and be with does not feel the same way

My husband won’t forgive me because last year my father died, I got depressed and my husband says he felt ignored ( he didn’t tell me at the time ) and neglected. I slept a lot, between work and grieving I was just trying to survive. I’m doing much better now with the loss of my father but now my husband is threatening to leave me. He has took his ring off. I’ve begged and pleaded but he just says he needs time. Then proceeds to just ignore me. He’s also upset because most of last year we slept in separate beds because I can’t sleep with him snoring. That’s the other things he’s upset about. So he ignores me , doesn’t text or call me anymore. Plays on his video game instead of trying to fix our marriage with me. I told him when this whole issues was finally brought to my attention last month that we could start sleeping in same bed right away, because I had no idea he was thinking of leaving me for it. He tells me I don’t have the right to decide when we sleep in same bed cause when he wanted to I said no cause I need my sleep. That was before I found out how much resentment he had boiling for me. Bless over him and I. Help him soften his heart and forgive me and learn to speak up if something is bothering him. Help me by giving me the patience to wait and see if he ever comes back around. This has been so painful, losing my dad then my husband so upset with me he barely talks to me. Give me the strength to keep my head up high. I know you’re listening God. I know your there but your trying to teach him and I a lesson. Thank you , for all the blessings you’ve given my family , the ones we’ve seen and the ones behind the scenes. Amen

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all 10 of these issues are present in my marriage. I made a decision a few years ago to be committed to Christ changing me and I have allowed the Holy Spirit to work on me. However I am not sure when enough is enough and I am seeking the Lord in that respect, as he is volatile toward me. I am guilty of number 6 and I have to be careful not to be drawn into the behaviour he uses to bait and switch, so that his bad behaviour is my fault, not his. He is angry, harsh and has given me grounds for Divorce on all 3 offenses. I have to trust God at this point with whether he wants me to move out...

Ex husband called me bad names that I didn't know what they meant.I had to ask someone.

I married a Narssis Personal disorder unfortunately he divorce but I'm still praying for restoration. Pastor please help me ?

This has help me a lot, my marriage is at the lock bottom an my husband threatened with divorce. i waiting for the paperwork. Pray for me

Hi there please pray for my marriage my spouse keeps throwing my mistakes at me and this breaks me down My spouse allows my parents inlaw to scream at me and then does not defend me at all is this my fault that im struggling to open up to my spouse in the bedroom. I never get a chance to speak how do we carry on if it constantly hurts...how should I be a good spouse parent and person towards every1

I feel this message come on time. I have alot of problems with my husband. He doesnt accept christ in his life and i feel unable to go on. Its difficult. I feel am fighting for our marriage but he just doesnt care. I pray for God to help him but honestly i feel hopeless. I know we will get divorced.

Had to ask my husband to leave. He wants yo feel happy he says he’s unhappy. All I want to do is convince him why he should stay. He’s not saved I am I have to let him go. No more fighting. Pray that God gives me financial favor. I’d like to buy a house for my son.

I am not cormplain when someone don't love you what's can I do?time to go I don't like pain hurt crying god help me leave the mass god I know you I am your Well but help me god leave the mass Amen

For years whenever I told him I wanted to do something, business, school he would get pretty mad. He gives me a time frame of what time I should be home, for instance if I want to go shopping, he'll give me 30 minutes. If I'm late I get into trouble..., he hates all my friends and gets uncomfortable when family comes over.. I want to be open all the time but I have become very numb to everything... Any advice

Hello i’am separate due to choices I’ve made however we been married for 25 yrs she had moved out 2 months ago I don’t know what to do do I move on I’ve tried to talk to her but she tells me there’s nothing to work on I feel the clock is running out.

Yes don't live with him, but also never pressure or bug him or get friends or family to work on him and to talk him into marriage or to tell him that if he marries you, he will eventually love you like he loved his first love, don't do that either. A simple saying is also...those convinced against their will, are of the same opinion still.

GOD'S WORD IS FREE OF CHARGE

Finally got married after 7 years but my husband is been being very bitter to me and my 2 kids my daughter is 22 and has two kids and my son is 16 but their not his but be bullies us like he gets really jealous to see us happy and he wants all the attention on him only or he complains and fights with us calls us terrible things I don't know if it'll get better I just don't know what to do with him he's never happy and always being mean to me over everything I tried doing so many things for him just so he can love me or see what I do for him but he treats me like I'm just supposed to do everything in don't expect anything in return it's my job I just want to feel like I'm important and for him to respect me as his wife and he says theirs nothing wrong with checking other girls out and tells me I don't let him get away with anything that's of the darkness he's really breaking my heart 💔😭

And their names are Colleen my sister-in-law and was my brother in law James

I need a supernatural miracle. My wife is filing for a divorce this Friday 4\15\2016. Please pray God do a miracle in my marriage.

My brother was in a relationship for 14 years. She wanted to get married so they did and 1 year later they separated and she got a divorce and now she's engaged to someone else. My brother just can't move on he doesn't know what happened he thought everything was going good but she didn't.

The scary thing to me is when I pray overy marriage the signs say walk away. But pastor say you can't get divorced.

Whatever you want you get!

i dont want no other feelings or peron in spirit with my marriage. i dont like the sound of that love from the previous person being in my now relatioms9

Please pray for me and my wife, because of one thing i go to church for prayer, I want her to be a part of my life. I want everyone to pray for me and my wife to be happy in Jesus name We have a kid, 6 years now because of this she is so disturbed, I can't concentrate in my work, my business is going in loss I want all your prayers to go well in Jesus name

My husband doesn't sit with me and read scriptures from the bible he doesn't do these things thst he should be doing. He shoukd be speaking about God to me he speaks worldly to me

POV My parents are fighting about the lights being on too long and I’m looking up stuff about divorce to make my mom feel bad for me when she looks through my phone at night 😬

My marriage will succeed in the name of Jesus.

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Most church led premarital counseling is worthless. Mine sure was.