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@Jennifer-di4nl9 ай бұрын
I just ghosted a breadcrumber. He didn't take more than a few mins to ever text me back but if I didn't text him it would take him 2-3 weeks to reach out. I just got sick of it. Don't let it go on too long ladies. And do NOT be afraid to ask what his intentions are cause Jack is right and they will tell you so listen!
@melcarter64228 ай бұрын
I tend to dismiss bread crumblers early on now. I love the “how low maintenance you are” statement. I’m VERY playful in general, so this idea speaks to me.
@cor39449 ай бұрын
First solution doesn’t work. Playing chess or games in the second solution also doesn’t work bc it only takes more time to end that toxic relationship. Most psychopaths love it. Third solution is the best: directly asking. Be assertive! And it is doesn’t matter if this is a very “unfeminine” way but showing clearly limits. The outcome then is mostly then a very quick ending. But better a quick ending and missing “tthe toxic train” than to suffering a long torture of uncertainty. Thank you for the third solution! ❤
@thejackbutler9 ай бұрын
Glad 3 was working for you. Curious why the psychopath reference, given it’s such a super small % of the population?
@GG172508 ай бұрын
Dang!!! Judgment vs discernment!! Wow needed this advice 3 weeks ago! Oh well at least I have it now.
@thejackbutler5 ай бұрын
It's a powerful distinction!
@GG172508 ай бұрын
I love these come backs...funny
@regiz53588 ай бұрын
Love your teachings!!!! ❤
@thejackbutler8 ай бұрын
Tnx for being receptive to them! 🙏
@zenawarrior74429 ай бұрын
Postage chess is true (phone too); Fact is we have time for things that are important, whether a boyfriend or other friends. I've flat out nicely told people lack of/long breaks in communication w/o heads up doesn't work for me as hurtful...not one person owns it/takes responsibility/cares/makes a better effort. That tells me their character & motive, I move on. I have to say most men love to play games, which I find immature & tiring. Great ideas Jack thanks 😊😅
@elskar19 ай бұрын
My sense was that that style of playfulness may come across as sarcasm or passive aggressiveness..
@thejackbutler9 ай бұрын
I imagine the more important thing may be what it actually is Vs how it comes across? Also if you are unused to doing this, it may feel more ‘aggressive’ to you than it objectively is
@user-bj2lu9qt3o9 ай бұрын
That sunglasses move at the start haha👌😎😄 I like the playful teasing suggestions 11:54
@thejackbutler9 ай бұрын
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@christinegeltner97299 ай бұрын
Great segment, Jack. Ive tried mirroring the time I get back a text. It works. I end up feeling guilty. But that's me. Then I constantly remind myself "two can play at that game." When you are an invested type of person, though, it does make you feel that you are having to resort to their irresponsible level. Thanks, Jack.
@thejackbutler4 ай бұрын
I hear you. I think I know the experience you are referring to. It may serve not to assume it’s irresponsible - it could be authentic or true to their level of interest?
@carolb38699 ай бұрын
Love the witty quips a lot! … the highlight of my week👏 It works for me!!! 👍
@thejackbutler5 ай бұрын
Thanks for the feedback!
@ingridheise76659 ай бұрын
Love this video Jack❤, super helpful fun suggestions for the crickets in communication dynamics. Totally resonates, made me laugh and feel playful just watching this 😅
@thejackbutler3 ай бұрын
Happy this was resonating. Hope you're well!
@ewachudoba43538 ай бұрын
Man, you are a genius 😂
@thejackbutler5 ай бұрын
Not sure if that's literally true - but I appreciate the reflection!
@dominiquestevens79429 ай бұрын
great chat. thank you!
@elskar19 ай бұрын
I can’t see the link you were going to add😀🙏
@thejackbutler9 ай бұрын
Should now see it pinned? Tnx!
@lyndamcmullen55069 ай бұрын
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@PolarBear-mj9wt9 ай бұрын
First solution isnt bizarre its playing a toxic game
@thejackbutler9 ай бұрын
Why is matching investment a toxic game?
@dvillebenny14459 ай бұрын
Why are you even waisting your valuable time. All these time games will only wear down your spirit and that energy could be spent on bigger ideals.